Herland Sister Resources : v.5: no.11(1987)
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VOLUME 5, NUMBER 11
NOVEMBER, ~ 1987
Oay March
A Success
WASHINGTON, DC - Lesbians
and gay men numbering in the
hundreds of thousands converged on the nation's capital on
October 9th for a long weekend of activities planned by
various gay organizations to
emphasize ho~osexuals' demands
for civil rights.
For the lesbians who gathered in Washington from all
across the United States the
week's festivities were kicked
off with a concert featuring
Cris Williamson, Tret Fure, and
Casselberry-DuPree. On Friday
evening the Lisner Auditorium
on the George Washington University campus was packed to
the roof with wimmin 11 having a
great time, feeling the music,
and clapping and dancing to
Casselberry and DuPree 11 according to one concert-goer.
11
The Wedding 11 - an activity which symbolized the commitment that gay couples have
to the relationships they
share - was held Saturday at
2 pm on Constitution Avenue between the IRS Building and the
Natura 1 Hi story Museum. "The
couples filled the street" for
the 30~minute ceremony in which
over 2,000 couples took part.
A female Metaphysical minister
conducted the ceremony, and
many lesbians, including Robin
Tyler and her lover. participa-
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ted. Wedding Gertificates were
available and comedianne Linda
Lavner performed for the newlyweds at the reception which
followed.
Saturday evening found
many of the March attendants at
DAR Constitution Hall just down
the street from the White House
where the "Let Freedom Ring"
Band was playing to a "sold out"
crowd. This band. brought together for the March On Washinggon, was a composite of many
gay and lesbian bands from all
across the country. A local womyn was there. Said Helen Holgate, "This band was great!
There was so much energy in the
Hall. There were flag twirlers
performing with the band, and
the Denver Women's Chorus sang
accompanied by the band . It was
all just so wonderful! 11
Sunday, of course, was the
day the majority of lesbians and
gay men had come to Washington
for. A personal account of the
March On Washington for Lesbian
and Gay Rights follows this article.
Monday was a day spent by
thousands of gays in class.
For this was the day they would
be trained in civil disobedience
procedures to make themselves
ready for Tuesday's protest at
the Supreme Court. Protesters
were trained to be in one of
two groups: those expecting to
be arrested - for going into a
forbidden area on the steps of
the Supreme Court building; and
those who would be their supporte5 - who would remain in a
legal area of the steps.
Tuesday found several
thousand lesbians and gay
men on the East Lawn of the
nation's capitol building,
across 1st Street from the
Supreme Court Building. The
first of 11 seven or eight
waves 11 of protesters ,consisting of 200 or mo~d qays
crossed the street to the
steps of the · Court building
at 8 am Tuesday morning.
The day-long protest was
designed to run continuously by having a designated
number of people cross to
the steps at designated
times. The end result was
a lengthy civil disobedience demonstration, and
an all-time recbrd number
of arrests - 572.
DC Police, unable to
handle the massive number
of arrestees, had to borrow
buses from Continental
Trailways to transfer those
arrested from the Supreme
Court site to 11 Cell Block
B11 processing and holding
facility, and again from
Cell Block B to the Superior
Court Building where the
protesters either paid a
$100 fine and were released
or continued their protest
by going through arraignment. filing of charges.
and court procedings.
continued on page 2
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With estimates of the number of demonstrators ranging from 200,000 (DC Police
Department estimates) to over 500,000
(Speaker Jesse Jackson's estimate), the
March on Washington for Lesbian and Gay
Rights was deemed a big success by its planners and promoters.
ANN0 UNC E S
FALL RETREAT
VIDEO REVIEW AND PICTURE SWAP
EYE WITNESS ACCOUNT
NOVEMBER 21
6 :00 pm
at
1126 CLASSEN BLVD in NORMAN
(Pot Luck Dinner)
The following article is a personal account
c:>'f the October 11th March On Washington for
Lesbian and Gay Rights. Written by Helen
Holgate, it recounts her impressions of that
historic day;
Up at 7 am after a few hours of sleepo
A quick shower and dressing in lavendar and
purple - a splash of color for the day ahead.
Fast-paced footsteps along now-familiar downtown D.C. streets headed to the elipse on an
overcast Sunday morning.
In the store buying last-minute necessities, like film and passing "brothers and
sisters" on the street - all part of the family. The air was brisk, the atmosphere alive
with the energy of love.
Past hotels, shops, fountains we walkedo
Waving and smiling ~even laughing - knowing
we were among friends. A giant community of
lesbians and gay men gathering in our nation's
capitol to share a message with the rest of
the world: For Love and For Life, We're Not
Going Back •••••
It was a wonderful, perhaps "never to be
experienced again" event for me - the second
March on Washington by lesbians and gay men a march of over 500,000 of us from our communities all over the world. We gathered on
the elipse behind the White House from 9 am
'til noon. A mixture and blend of such wonderfully diverse groups as the Radical Fairies,
People in Leather contingents from the 50
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NOVEMBER 22
4:30 PM
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. All submitted materials must be received by Valentine's Day, 1988.
Thank you for spreading the word.
Around the Country
Jean Mountaingrove and Sunlight
Co-editors
UPDATE ON LESBIAN MINISTER
In 1984, the quadrennial conference of
the United Methodist Church passed a reso~
lution banning "practicing homosexuals"
from the ministry. At the time, Rev. Rose
Marie Denman supported the rule. Two years
later she had accepted her own lesbianism,
renounced her former attitude of discrimination, and challenged the ban (see August's
issue of HSR Newsletter).
Last month a hearing of 4 female and 9
male church authorities found her guilty of
violating the ban, but gave her the lightest possible sentence and refused to defrock her as a minister. Denman, who had
not expected such leniency, rejoiced that
the church had risen to the challenge and
affirmed homosexuals as "persons of worth
and value in the eyes of God", but continued with her plans to switch to the Unitarian Universalist Church. The ruling by the
church will stand at least until the next
quadrennial conference in 1988.
from Up & Coming (September, 1987)
continued from page 2
A CALL FOR MATERIALS
FROM ACROSS THE MILES
Dear Sisters :
The Old Lesbian Celebration in Los
Angeles, California in April, 1987, increased our pride and joy in living these
years after sixty. \~e are keenly aware
of ageism in ourselves, in our lesbian
communities, and in our younger sisters.
We can come out of our closets to declare
ourselves the passionate, loving old lesbians we are. For this purpose we will
publish an anthology of works by women
over sixty about their loving of women who
are also over sixty.
Our tentative title for the anthology
is OLD LOVERS. Please help us to encourage
old lesbians to share the loving in their
lives with all of us.
Women over 60 may submit poems, short
prose pieces, letters, journal entries,
photographs and drawings to:
OLD LOVERS
c/o WomanSpirit
2000 King Mountain Trail
Sunny Valley, OR 97497
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states, representatives from several colleges and universities - Howard, Brown, Earlham.
People with AIDS, Gay Parents, Parents of
Gays, and more. Folks of all colors, ages,
and backgrounds, we marched up 17th Street
in froht of the White House, down 15th Street
and on past the Washington Monument to the
Mall in front of the Capitol. The streets
were lined with supporters - lesbians and gay
men who had not participated in the march,
but were there to cheer us on, people holding
signs - straights who support gays - and the
Black man with the sign: Corn-fed Iowa. Faggot. As we passed cheers went up as p~bpJe
said "Oklahoma", and occassionally ran up to
tell us the time they had lived there or
where they came from in Oklahoma.
The two-hour wait on the elipse before
our group from Oklahoma, along with the other
50 states, even began the march let us know
how many had gone before us. We waited pat iently as we visited each other, listened to
inspiring words from speakers organized by
the People of Color and watched sisters and
brothers run to greet each other - seeing old
friends reunited. It was a beauti ful outpouring of love.
Then, finally arr1v1ng on the Mall between the Washington Monument and the Capitol
to find thousands of us - we indeed were everywhere! Giant speakers 20 feet high were
needed to carry the sound of Whoopi Goldberg,
Jesse Jackson, Holly Near, Kate Clinton,
Karen Thompson, and others as they spoke resounding words of support. To see us holding
hands and swaying together as we sang along
with Holly: We are a gentle,angry people,
and we are singing, singing for our lives ••••
The spirit and energy and love of those minutes , hours and days will live for years in
my heart as I have the opportunity to share
a beautiful moment in time with 11 family",
friends, and children who come into my life ,
For I shall never forget the exhilharation of
stepping off a metro subway after the March,
and hearing thunderous cheers echo down the
platform, up the escalators, and back into
the streets, reaffirming with strong vibrant
energy - For Love and For Life, We're Not
Going Back.
A number of winmin who happened to be in
the right place at the right time caught an
~mpromptu midnight performance by Nancy Day
in a darkened concert pavilion. With scarce~
ly enough light to see, the human form melded
with the piano as soothing, mello sounds emanated from the lightless stage •••• An unforgettable experience.
It seemed the retreat had only just begun when it was time to pack up and depart
for home. Early afternoon on Sunday found
the group camp without inhabitants once again, and found this reporter already looking
forward to the next time 100 wonderful wimmin
will gather for -~ weekend in the woods.
Around the Corner
WEATHER PUTS NO DAMPERS
ON HSR RETREAT
Oklahom~s inclement Fall weather proved
to have no perceivable negative effects on
the fun had at Herland's recent retreat
In
spite of heavy overcasts and plenty of the
wet stuff, about 100 women from Oklahoma,
Texas, and Arkansas came together for a weekend at the new group camp at Robber•s Cave
State Park on October 23, 24, and 25.
Enveloped by the beauty of the Sans Bois
Mountains bedecked in their resplendent peak
A~t~mn colors, ~etreaters shared laughter,
hiking, entertainment, food, games and
friendship.
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A highpoint of the weekend was the hmhour performance by the multi-talented Nancy
D~y.
Arriving in Oklahoma by plane from her
Pittsburgh home, Ms. Day quickly acclimated
~o th~ c?iuntrified s~rr?undings by donning a
cowgirl hat, acquainting herself individ~ally with many in the community, and playin~ touch football - in real down home style
- in the late afternoon mist on a soggy softball field with several of her new-found
friends.
To Barb~ra C.' s great relief, Nancy
stubbed no fingers during the rather rough
and tumble game, and the concert performance
(made up entirely of original compositions
in~luding one improvisation) was immensely'
enJoyed by all. Opening for Nancy Day was
OKC's own very talented singer/songwriter
Donna DeSalvo, whose original works played
the gamut of emotions, bringing the audience
to tears with 11 0de to Robbi Roberson 11 and
laughter with 11 My Two Sisters 11 •
Other enjoyments of the weekend included
modified spelunking/rock climbing/hiking
shared by the adventurous; tables full of delicious delicacies made by and shared by everyone; 11 smores 11 and toasted marshmellows
shared around an open fire in a clearing among the tall evergreens; Lesbian soap operas
supp~ied by the concert sound producer,
K~rri:,
and shared.with .many delighted lesb1ans, .s~o~taneous insani~y at Sunday breakfast, initiated by the quiet and shy and instigated by the less reserved to a crescendo
of calls for tlD Y K E EROTICakes 11 - pancakes
made into various unprintable forms, and paraded about the camp by a troup of irrepressable funlovers. This vociferous bit of
merriment was shared with and enjoyed by everyone within earshot.
A BIG THANK YOU!
Herland wishes to thank each and every
one of you who helped maintain and clean up
the camp. The work involved in this task
would be unsurmountable without the helping
hands of wimmin who offer to share th'~ , burden. The Herland Collect ive says THA~K YOU!
A WORD OF ASSURANCE
A number of wimmin have asked for a
copy of the video taping that was done at
the retreat. Audiovisual personnel wish it
was fea~ible to make copies for everyone who
W?uld like .one? but Herland has an obligation to maintain the privacy of those we
serve. By distributing copies nf the retreat tape, even to wimmin who attended the
r~t~eat, Herland runs the risk of compromising the confidence of those who trust the
safety of the environments Herland creates
for them.
Therefore, it is unfortunate, but necessary that the videotape remain the exclusive property of Herland Sister Resources
Inc, with two exceptions: A copy of Nanc;
D~y's performance (performance only) will be
given to her for promotional purposes, and a
copy of Donna DeSalvo s performance will be
made for Donna. Other than these two copies
?f the conce~t section of the tape, no copies of the videotape will be made for distribution.
A video archives is planned for Herland
and.the new building will provide space for
equipment to show the tapes which will be
ma~ntained in the archives and tape library.
Friends of Herland will be privileged to use
t~e vi~eo equipment at the Herland Center to
view library and archives tapes.
continued on page 5
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NATIONAL.
CJACtANIZAnCN
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National Organization for Women
NOW's purpose is to take action to bring women into full participation
in the mainstream of American society now, exercising all privileges and responsibilities
thereof in truly equal partnership with men.
THE METROPOLITAN OKLAHOMA CITY CHAPTER OF NOW
IS PLANNING FOR THE FUTU RE
AND NEEDS YOUR INPUT! '
The members of OKC NOW have
The next meeting of OKC NOW will
begun setting goals in our most
be at 12:30 p.m. Saturday, Nov . 21
recent drive for the true equality
at
the YWCA at 415 NW 5th.
of women in Oklahoma .
This is a
collective process, and we appreciate any and all suggestions .
To take
part in this process , please call 528-0400 or attend our next meeting.
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Some of our goals include:
TO PREPARE so we can have a strong
impact on the 1988 elections
by promoting women candidates
and women's issues.
TO PROMOTE networking between
women and to help make women
more aware of available ser vices, especially in the
legal and political realm.
TO DEVELOP public service
announcements showing positive images of women.
TO HELP women create lifestyles
free of crime and abuse.
TO INCREASE the membership and
funding of the OKC NOW.
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Get ready for Metro OKC NOW's ~ .
Come-Ba ck Brunch on Valentine's 1),,iity
Feb. 14, 1988.
More details later .'
OKC NOW will share a table with
Herland's Bookstore during the
Benedictine Peace House festival on
Saturday, Nov. 14.
Come by 10 a.m.
to 5 p.m. for pamphlets, knick-knacks
and feminist Christmas gifts.
A Plea for Help - If you wo ci ld like
to hel p us with these or other projects with your time or money, or
if you need more information,
call Metro OKC NOW at 528-0400.
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MEMBERSHIP APPLICATION
I wish to join NOW and commit myself to take action to bring women into full participation
in the mainstream of American society now, exercising full rights and responsibilities in
partnership with men.
NATIONAL
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Meanwhile, a showing of the Fall Retreat
video is in the works for those who would
like to see it. Viewing will be at 1126
Classen Blvd. in NORMAN, on Nov. 21 at 6 pm.
A $1 donation is requested for Herland, and
you'll want to bring a dish for the pot luck.
Fall Peace Fest
&Dance Scheduled
OKLAHOMA CITY - The second annual
"Fall Peace Fest" is to be held Friday evening and all day Saturday, November 13 and 14,
at the Un~on Hall of Teamsters Local 886,
3528 W. Reno.
Sponsored by Oklahoma City's
Benedictine Peace House and the Central Oklahoma Action Unit of the Unitarian Universalist Service Committee, the event is described
as "a celebration of people working in Oklahoma to nurture life, serve human need, and
create peace."
Local musicians and comedy acts kick off
the event at pm Friday evening. Saturday
from 10 am to 5 pm, some 40 different service
organizations will staff information tables
about their work to a backdrop of singers,
dancers, jugglers, clowns and festive cele~
bration. A Children's Activities Corner,
food booths, and topical workshops in side
rooms complete the festival picture during
the day. Taking part are groups as diverse
as Herland Sister Resources, the Audubon Society, Physicians for Social Responsibility,
and the Nuc lear Weapons Freeze Campaign.
"Give Peace A Dance" will be the theme
as the hall is cleared, refreshments offered,
and local bands provide music for dancers of
all persuasions Saturday from 8 pm to midnight.
For information call the Benedictine
Peace House at 524-5577.
Deidre MCCalla
Coming to OKC
01 i vi a recording artist Dei·dre Mc Ca 11 a
will be performing live in concert at Carpenter Square Theatre on Thursday, November
19, 1987 at 8 pm.
If you've joyfully anticipated those exciting and dynamic concerts given by Cris
Williamson and Meg Christian, the founding
mothers of Women's Music, then you'll be de1ighted with the stimulating and soothing music of Deidre Mccalla.
Deidre brings a gentle blend of folkpop guitar to her audiences. You'll be smiling and laughing at her witty and sensitive
approach to such important issues as the cat
that was part of the package deal with your
new lover, or what happens when your lover
isn't a "morning person". You may nod in agreement with her quiet understanding of
things that affect us all - young, old, single or coupled, political or lovingly romantic. Deidre shares of herself with her beautiful smile and knowing way and extends
the energy of her heart to include you in a
personal journey of music full of emotions
and color and love.
Promoting her newest album, With A
Little luck, released on the Olivia Records
label, Oklahoma City and Rainbow Productions
proudly presents Deidre McCalla at Carpenter
Square Theatre, 840 Robert s. Kerr Avenue
(between Shartel and Classen), on Thursday,
November 19, 1987 at 8 pm.
Tickets are available on the night of "
the performance at Carpenter Square Thea·t:r.·e
Box Office which opens at 7: 15 pm. Genen~ 1 .
admission is $6.00. Volunteers interested in
helping with the concert and tho'se interested
in a work exchange are asked to call 36q-0923
as soon as possible.
~or additional information call 366-0923.
NEW GAY RESTAURANT
The following l etter was submitted by
a member of our community who wish~s to remain anonymous:
Dear Editor,
I've been waiting a while for a restaurant for us. Well, it's here, and via
the HSR Newsletter, I'd ;l ike to spread the
word. The Sidekicks at 4620 NW 39 in OKC
is a lesbian and gay restaurant. This is
really it! My partner and I went to dinner
recently, and were very pleased with the food
and the service. In a warm, attractive, and
friendly atmosphere we were greeted by the
owners and waiters, all concerned with our
satisfaction.
In the same building, yet separate, is
the club with 110 seating capacity. This offers the Oklahoma Porch dance floor with a
variety of seating from very dark and quiet
to the midst of music and lights.
We also attended the Grand Opening which
was packed. The turnout was much better than
expected, and surprised even owner Jean Douglas and Dining Room Manager Lee Burris.
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* Happy f ou r th ann i ve r sary t o EoAo and
JUST ASK IMA
Dear Ima,
I'm afraid this letter might be a bit
confusing. Actually, it would be easier to
understand on a flow chart . This is the
problem: I am in love with a woman who
I'll refer to as Number 2. She is in love
with Number 3. Number 3 has been carrying
on with Numbers 4 and 5 for quite some time,
besides seeing Number 2 (my love) when she
has the time. Number 5 already has a lover
whom she lives with (Number 6) . Number 6 is
having an affair with my - recently X lover (Number 7). My X has also been seeing another woman. That ' s right, Number 8.
Well, the kicker is that Number 8 has been
calling me almost every day asking me out.
I would like to go out with Number 8, but
there is a problem.
Besides completing this strange circle,
I wou l d be going out with one of my X-lover ' s
current flames , and I just don ' t think it
would be right . So, I want to, but I don ' t
want to. Ima, please help . What should I
do?????
Number 1
* Sweet Cheeks- I'm so very happy I finally
got the chance to really get to know youo
-Poopsie
* To R.S from L.R.- Had a wonderful time at
Heartbreak Hotel. Let's make reservations
for a whole weekend sometime.
Until next month,
Ima Dyque
RECORDS AND TAPES
AVAILABLE THROUGH HERLAND
CITY DOWN , by Casselberry-Dupree
This music release was number 1
of the top 20 in women's music
for 1986.
Casselberry and
Dupree synthesize African , Latin,
and reggae sounds with folk, soul
contemporary and country .
'I'
A STEP AWAY, by Teresa Trull
This release you will really
like , actually love.
Each
song has complexity and depth,
songs about letting go and.r growing, and a rhythm you can ' move to .
DON ' T DOUBT IT ,
by Deidra McCa l l a
Deidra has be~n performing for
women's audiences for years a n d
this , her debut solo recording ,
is still available at Herland . Her
unique sound is clearly brought
out in songs like "Wake Me Up
Gently," and 11 Did You Think I
Didn't Know."
A TASTE OF THE BLUES, by Heather
Bishop
This 1987 release is full of
energy, but still is the blues .
It has a pop sound and great
lyrics that will certainly
set you to thinking .
Good luck,
Ima
!MA'S PERSONALS
* Happy birthday to Rhonda (Nov. 15).
#7
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JASMINE , Hot and sw ee t j a z z v o C\'
a 1$ ,
originals and standard s , wi t h piano,
sax and clarinet .
This ' release by
Carol Schmidt and Michelle Isam is
is now discontinued.
Herland still
has a very limited number of albums.
Dear One,
Your situation is, indeed, a bit confusing, but a few things are very clear. It
seems to me that Numbers 3, 5, 6, and 7 like
to have their cake and eat it, too - so to
speak - especially with Numbers 3 and 7 who
apparently have no present commitment with
anyone . Sometimes i t is very di fficult to
decide what we rea l ly want and what is best
for us . Sometimes the answers are not the
same. This is frustrating .
In the long run, the cho i ce is your own .
If I were in your position, I would probabl y
go out with Number 8. What harm could it
possibly do? Remember that it doesn't have
to go any farther than you want it to . Try
not to spend too much time brooding about
Number 2. Maybe she will tire of Number 3' s
behavior and come back to you. In the meantime I say enjoy life. If you want to go out
with Number 8, do it.
.
If you still believe it would complicate
the situation even more, ask her to stop calling you. But, keep this in mind: Don't
just say 11 No 11 , say "No, THANK YOU".
still love you
M ~ R.
(Oct . 22) •• • • or is i t the 21st?
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DON'T HOLD BACK, by Holly Near
This new release also features
Bonnie Raitt and Kenny Loggins.
It is all love songs and sure
to please your listening ear.
366-09'23
continued from page 5
This is a must for those tired of holding hands 11 under the table 11 at other restaurants. The diningroom is open from 5-10 pm,
Tuesday through Sunday. Notice the menu even
lists all the old bars from years ago 1 til
today. Sure brings back memories! The restaurant seats up to 75 folks comfortably. Although they don't take reservations, they
suggest calling ahead for groups of six or
more. They also offer catering services.
This restaurant and bar serves only
members of the lesbian and gay community, so
give it a try. I believe you'll enjoy!
Name
jithhel~
IIBLEN HOLGATE
Certtfted Alcohollsm & OrUg Abuse
Counselor
Loral C. Reeves,
on request
3022 N.W. Expressway
Suite300
Oklahoma City, OK 73112
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VOLUME 5, NUMBER 11
NOVEMBER, ~ 1987
Oay March
A Success
WASHINGTON, DC - Lesbians
and gay men numbering in the
hundreds of thousands converged on the nation's capital on
October 9th for a long weekend of activities planned by
various gay organizations to
emphasize ho~osexuals' demands
for civil rights.
For the lesbians who gathered in Washington from all
across the United States the
week's festivities were kicked
off with a concert featuring
Cris Williamson, Tret Fure, and
Casselberry-DuPree. On Friday
evening the Lisner Auditorium
on the George Washington University campus was packed to
the roof with wimmin 11 having a
great time, feeling the music,
and clapping and dancing to
Casselberry and DuPree 11 according to one concert-goer.
11
The Wedding 11 - an activity which symbolized the commitment that gay couples have
to the relationships they
share - was held Saturday at
2 pm on Constitution Avenue between the IRS Building and the
Natura 1 Hi story Museum. "The
couples filled the street" for
the 30~minute ceremony in which
over 2,000 couples took part.
A female Metaphysical minister
conducted the ceremony, and
many lesbians, including Robin
Tyler and her lover. participa-
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ted. Wedding Gertificates were
available and comedianne Linda
Lavner performed for the newlyweds at the reception which
followed.
Saturday evening found
many of the March attendants at
DAR Constitution Hall just down
the street from the White House
where the "Let Freedom Ring"
Band was playing to a "sold out"
crowd. This band. brought together for the March On Washinggon, was a composite of many
gay and lesbian bands from all
across the country. A local womyn was there. Said Helen Holgate, "This band was great!
There was so much energy in the
Hall. There were flag twirlers
performing with the band, and
the Denver Women's Chorus sang
accompanied by the band . It was
all just so wonderful! 11
Sunday, of course, was the
day the majority of lesbians and
gay men had come to Washington
for. A personal account of the
March On Washington for Lesbian
and Gay Rights follows this article.
Monday was a day spent by
thousands of gays in class.
For this was the day they would
be trained in civil disobedience
procedures to make themselves
ready for Tuesday's protest at
the Supreme Court. Protesters
were trained to be in one of
two groups: those expecting to
be arrested - for going into a
forbidden area on the steps of
the Supreme Court building; and
those who would be their supporte5 - who would remain in a
legal area of the steps.
Tuesday found several
thousand lesbians and gay
men on the East Lawn of the
nation's capitol building,
across 1st Street from the
Supreme Court Building. The
first of 11 seven or eight
waves 11 of protesters ,consisting of 200 or mo~d qays
crossed the street to the
steps of the · Court building
at 8 am Tuesday morning.
The day-long protest was
designed to run continuously by having a designated
number of people cross to
the steps at designated
times. The end result was
a lengthy civil disobedience demonstration, and
an all-time recbrd number
of arrests - 572.
DC Police, unable to
handle the massive number
of arrestees, had to borrow
buses from Continental
Trailways to transfer those
arrested from the Supreme
Court site to 11 Cell Block
B11 processing and holding
facility, and again from
Cell Block B to the Superior
Court Building where the
protesters either paid a
$100 fine and were released
or continued their protest
by going through arraignment. filing of charges.
and court procedings.
continued on page 2
continued from page 1
With estimates of the number of demonstrators ranging from 200,000 (DC Police
Department estimates) to over 500,000
(Speaker Jesse Jackson's estimate), the
March on Washington for Lesbian and Gay
Rights was deemed a big success by its planners and promoters.
ANN0 UNC E S
FALL RETREAT
VIDEO REVIEW AND PICTURE SWAP
EYE WITNESS ACCOUNT
NOVEMBER 21
6 :00 pm
at
1126 CLASSEN BLVD in NORMAN
(Pot Luck Dinner)
The following article is a personal account
c:>'f the October 11th March On Washington for
Lesbian and Gay Rights. Written by Helen
Holgate, it recounts her impressions of that
historic day;
Up at 7 am after a few hours of sleepo
A quick shower and dressing in lavendar and
purple - a splash of color for the day ahead.
Fast-paced footsteps along now-familiar downtown D.C. streets headed to the elipse on an
overcast Sunday morning.
In the store buying last-minute necessities, like film and passing "brothers and
sisters" on the street - all part of the family. The air was brisk, the atmosphere alive
with the energy of love.
Past hotels, shops, fountains we walkedo
Waving and smiling ~even laughing - knowing
we were among friends. A giant community of
lesbians and gay men gathering in our nation's
capitol to share a message with the rest of
the world: For Love and For Life, We're Not
Going Back •••••
It was a wonderful, perhaps "never to be
experienced again" event for me - the second
March on Washington by lesbians and gay men a march of over 500,000 of us from our communities all over the world. We gathered on
the elipse behind the White House from 9 am
'til noon. A mixture and blend of such wonderfully diverse groups as the Radical Fairies,
People in Leather contingents from the 50
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UPDATE ON LESBIAN MINISTER
In 1984, the quadrennial conference of
the United Methodist Church passed a reso~
lution banning "practicing homosexuals"
from the ministry. At the time, Rev. Rose
Marie Denman supported the rule. Two years
later she had accepted her own lesbianism,
renounced her former attitude of discrimination, and challenged the ban (see August's
issue of HSR Newsletter).
Last month a hearing of 4 female and 9
male church authorities found her guilty of
violating the ban, but gave her the lightest possible sentence and refused to defrock her as a minister. Denman, who had
not expected such leniency, rejoiced that
the church had risen to the challenge and
affirmed homosexuals as "persons of worth
and value in the eyes of God", but continued with her plans to switch to the Unitarian Universalist Church. The ruling by the
church will stand at least until the next
quadrennial conference in 1988.
from Up & Coming (September, 1987)
continued from page 2
A CALL FOR MATERIALS
FROM ACROSS THE MILES
Dear Sisters :
The Old Lesbian Celebration in Los
Angeles, California in April, 1987, increased our pride and joy in living these
years after sixty. \~e are keenly aware
of ageism in ourselves, in our lesbian
communities, and in our younger sisters.
We can come out of our closets to declare
ourselves the passionate, loving old lesbians we are. For this purpose we will
publish an anthology of works by women
over sixty about their loving of women who
are also over sixty.
Our tentative title for the anthology
is OLD LOVERS. Please help us to encourage
old lesbians to share the loving in their
lives with all of us.
Women over 60 may submit poems, short
prose pieces, letters, journal entries,
photographs and drawings to:
OLD LOVERS
c/o WomanSpirit
2000 King Mountain Trail
Sunny Valley, OR 97497
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states, representatives from several colleges and universities - Howard, Brown, Earlham.
People with AIDS, Gay Parents, Parents of
Gays, and more. Folks of all colors, ages,
and backgrounds, we marched up 17th Street
in froht of the White House, down 15th Street
and on past the Washington Monument to the
Mall in front of the Capitol. The streets
were lined with supporters - lesbians and gay
men who had not participated in the march,
but were there to cheer us on, people holding
signs - straights who support gays - and the
Black man with the sign: Corn-fed Iowa. Faggot. As we passed cheers went up as p~bpJe
said "Oklahoma", and occassionally ran up to
tell us the time they had lived there or
where they came from in Oklahoma.
The two-hour wait on the elipse before
our group from Oklahoma, along with the other
50 states, even began the march let us know
how many had gone before us. We waited pat iently as we visited each other, listened to
inspiring words from speakers organized by
the People of Color and watched sisters and
brothers run to greet each other - seeing old
friends reunited. It was a beauti ful outpouring of love.
Then, finally arr1v1ng on the Mall between the Washington Monument and the Capitol
to find thousands of us - we indeed were everywhere! Giant speakers 20 feet high were
needed to carry the sound of Whoopi Goldberg,
Jesse Jackson, Holly Near, Kate Clinton,
Karen Thompson, and others as they spoke resounding words of support. To see us holding
hands and swaying together as we sang along
with Holly: We are a gentle,angry people,
and we are singing, singing for our lives ••••
The spirit and energy and love of those minutes , hours and days will live for years in
my heart as I have the opportunity to share
a beautiful moment in time with 11 family",
friends, and children who come into my life ,
For I shall never forget the exhilharation of
stepping off a metro subway after the March,
and hearing thunderous cheers echo down the
platform, up the escalators, and back into
the streets, reaffirming with strong vibrant
energy - For Love and For Life, We're Not
Going Back.
A number of winmin who happened to be in
the right place at the right time caught an
~mpromptu midnight performance by Nancy Day
in a darkened concert pavilion. With scarce~
ly enough light to see, the human form melded
with the piano as soothing, mello sounds emanated from the lightless stage •••• An unforgettable experience.
It seemed the retreat had only just begun when it was time to pack up and depart
for home. Early afternoon on Sunday found
the group camp without inhabitants once again, and found this reporter already looking
forward to the next time 100 wonderful wimmin
will gather for -~ weekend in the woods.
Around the Corner
WEATHER PUTS NO DAMPERS
ON HSR RETREAT
Oklahom~s inclement Fall weather proved
to have no perceivable negative effects on
the fun had at Herland's recent retreat
In
spite of heavy overcasts and plenty of the
wet stuff, about 100 women from Oklahoma,
Texas, and Arkansas came together for a weekend at the new group camp at Robber•s Cave
State Park on October 23, 24, and 25.
Enveloped by the beauty of the Sans Bois
Mountains bedecked in their resplendent peak
A~t~mn colors, ~etreaters shared laughter,
hiking, entertainment, food, games and
friendship.
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A highpoint of the weekend was the hmhour performance by the multi-talented Nancy
D~y.
Arriving in Oklahoma by plane from her
Pittsburgh home, Ms. Day quickly acclimated
~o th~ c?iuntrified s~rr?undings by donning a
cowgirl hat, acquainting herself individ~ally with many in the community, and playin~ touch football - in real down home style
- in the late afternoon mist on a soggy softball field with several of her new-found
friends.
To Barb~ra C.' s great relief, Nancy
stubbed no fingers during the rather rough
and tumble game, and the concert performance
(made up entirely of original compositions
in~luding one improvisation) was immensely'
enJoyed by all. Opening for Nancy Day was
OKC's own very talented singer/songwriter
Donna DeSalvo, whose original works played
the gamut of emotions, bringing the audience
to tears with 11 0de to Robbi Roberson 11 and
laughter with 11 My Two Sisters 11 •
Other enjoyments of the weekend included
modified spelunking/rock climbing/hiking
shared by the adventurous; tables full of delicious delicacies made by and shared by everyone; 11 smores 11 and toasted marshmellows
shared around an open fire in a clearing among the tall evergreens; Lesbian soap operas
supp~ied by the concert sound producer,
K~rri:,
and shared.with .many delighted lesb1ans, .s~o~taneous insani~y at Sunday breakfast, initiated by the quiet and shy and instigated by the less reserved to a crescendo
of calls for tlD Y K E EROTICakes 11 - pancakes
made into various unprintable forms, and paraded about the camp by a troup of irrepressable funlovers. This vociferous bit of
merriment was shared with and enjoyed by everyone within earshot.
A BIG THANK YOU!
Herland wishes to thank each and every
one of you who helped maintain and clean up
the camp. The work involved in this task
would be unsurmountable without the helping
hands of wimmin who offer to share th'~ , burden. The Herland Collect ive says THA~K YOU!
A WORD OF ASSURANCE
A number of wimmin have asked for a
copy of the video taping that was done at
the retreat. Audiovisual personnel wish it
was fea~ible to make copies for everyone who
W?uld like .one? but Herland has an obligation to maintain the privacy of those we
serve. By distributing copies nf the retreat tape, even to wimmin who attended the
r~t~eat, Herland runs the risk of compromising the confidence of those who trust the
safety of the environments Herland creates
for them.
Therefore, it is unfortunate, but necessary that the videotape remain the exclusive property of Herland Sister Resources
Inc, with two exceptions: A copy of Nanc;
D~y's performance (performance only) will be
given to her for promotional purposes, and a
copy of Donna DeSalvo s performance will be
made for Donna. Other than these two copies
?f the conce~t section of the tape, no copies of the videotape will be made for distribution.
A video archives is planned for Herland
and.the new building will provide space for
equipment to show the tapes which will be
ma~ntained in the archives and tape library.
Friends of Herland will be privileged to use
t~e vi~eo equipment at the Herland Center to
view library and archives tapes.
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National Organization for Women
NOW's purpose is to take action to bring women into full participation
in the mainstream of American society now, exercising all privileges and responsibilities
thereof in truly equal partnership with men.
THE METROPOLITAN OKLAHOMA CITY CHAPTER OF NOW
IS PLANNING FOR THE FUTU RE
AND NEEDS YOUR INPUT! '
The members of OKC NOW have
The next meeting of OKC NOW will
begun setting goals in our most
be at 12:30 p.m. Saturday, Nov . 21
recent drive for the true equality
at
the YWCA at 415 NW 5th.
of women in Oklahoma .
This is a
collective process, and we appreciate any and all suggestions .
To take
part in this process , please call 528-0400 or attend our next meeting.
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Some of our goals include:
TO PREPARE so we can have a strong
impact on the 1988 elections
by promoting women candidates
and women's issues.
TO PROMOTE networking between
women and to help make women
more aware of available ser vices, especially in the
legal and political realm.
TO DEVELOP public service
announcements showing positive images of women.
TO HELP women create lifestyles
free of crime and abuse.
TO INCREASE the membership and
funding of the OKC NOW.
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Come-Ba ck Brunch on Valentine's 1),,iity
Feb. 14, 1988.
More details later .'
OKC NOW will share a table with
Herland's Bookstore during the
Benedictine Peace House festival on
Saturday, Nov. 14.
Come by 10 a.m.
to 5 p.m. for pamphlets, knick-knacks
and feminist Christmas gifts.
A Plea for Help - If you wo ci ld like
to hel p us with these or other projects with your time or money, or
if you need more information,
call Metro OKC NOW at 528-0400.
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in the mainstream of American society now, exercising full rights and responsibilities in
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Meanwhile, a showing of the Fall Retreat
video is in the works for those who would
like to see it. Viewing will be at 1126
Classen Blvd. in NORMAN, on Nov. 21 at 6 pm.
A $1 donation is requested for Herland, and
you'll want to bring a dish for the pot luck.
Fall Peace Fest
&Dance Scheduled
OKLAHOMA CITY - The second annual
"Fall Peace Fest" is to be held Friday evening and all day Saturday, November 13 and 14,
at the Un~on Hall of Teamsters Local 886,
3528 W. Reno.
Sponsored by Oklahoma City's
Benedictine Peace House and the Central Oklahoma Action Unit of the Unitarian Universalist Service Committee, the event is described
as "a celebration of people working in Oklahoma to nurture life, serve human need, and
create peace."
Local musicians and comedy acts kick off
the event at pm Friday evening. Saturday
from 10 am to 5 pm, some 40 different service
organizations will staff information tables
about their work to a backdrop of singers,
dancers, jugglers, clowns and festive cele~
bration. A Children's Activities Corner,
food booths, and topical workshops in side
rooms complete the festival picture during
the day. Taking part are groups as diverse
as Herland Sister Resources, the Audubon Society, Physicians for Social Responsibility,
and the Nuc lear Weapons Freeze Campaign.
"Give Peace A Dance" will be the theme
as the hall is cleared, refreshments offered,
and local bands provide music for dancers of
all persuasions Saturday from 8 pm to midnight.
For information call the Benedictine
Peace House at 524-5577.
Deidre MCCalla
Coming to OKC
01 i vi a recording artist Dei·dre Mc Ca 11 a
will be performing live in concert at Carpenter Square Theatre on Thursday, November
19, 1987 at 8 pm.
If you've joyfully anticipated those exciting and dynamic concerts given by Cris
Williamson and Meg Christian, the founding
mothers of Women's Music, then you'll be de1ighted with the stimulating and soothing music of Deidre Mccalla.
Deidre brings a gentle blend of folkpop guitar to her audiences. You'll be smiling and laughing at her witty and sensitive
approach to such important issues as the cat
that was part of the package deal with your
new lover, or what happens when your lover
isn't a "morning person". You may nod in agreement with her quiet understanding of
things that affect us all - young, old, single or coupled, political or lovingly romantic. Deidre shares of herself with her beautiful smile and knowing way and extends
the energy of her heart to include you in a
personal journey of music full of emotions
and color and love.
Promoting her newest album, With A
Little luck, released on the Olivia Records
label, Oklahoma City and Rainbow Productions
proudly presents Deidre McCalla at Carpenter
Square Theatre, 840 Robert s. Kerr Avenue
(between Shartel and Classen), on Thursday,
November 19, 1987 at 8 pm.
Tickets are available on the night of "
the performance at Carpenter Square Thea·t:r.·e
Box Office which opens at 7: 15 pm. Genen~ 1 .
admission is $6.00. Volunteers interested in
helping with the concert and tho'se interested
in a work exchange are asked to call 36q-0923
as soon as possible.
~or additional information call 366-0923.
NEW GAY RESTAURANT
The following l etter was submitted by
a member of our community who wish~s to remain anonymous:
Dear Editor,
I've been waiting a while for a restaurant for us. Well, it's here, and via
the HSR Newsletter, I'd ;l ike to spread the
word. The Sidekicks at 4620 NW 39 in OKC
is a lesbian and gay restaurant. This is
really it! My partner and I went to dinner
recently, and were very pleased with the food
and the service. In a warm, attractive, and
friendly atmosphere we were greeted by the
owners and waiters, all concerned with our
satisfaction.
In the same building, yet separate, is
the club with 110 seating capacity. This offers the Oklahoma Porch dance floor with a
variety of seating from very dark and quiet
to the midst of music and lights.
We also attended the Grand Opening which
was packed. The turnout was much better than
expected, and surprised even owner Jean Douglas and Dining Room Manager Lee Burris.
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* Happy f ou r th ann i ve r sary t o EoAo and
JUST ASK IMA
Dear Ima,
I'm afraid this letter might be a bit
confusing. Actually, it would be easier to
understand on a flow chart . This is the
problem: I am in love with a woman who
I'll refer to as Number 2. She is in love
with Number 3. Number 3 has been carrying
on with Numbers 4 and 5 for quite some time,
besides seeing Number 2 (my love) when she
has the time. Number 5 already has a lover
whom she lives with (Number 6) . Number 6 is
having an affair with my - recently X lover (Number 7). My X has also been seeing another woman. That ' s right, Number 8.
Well, the kicker is that Number 8 has been
calling me almost every day asking me out.
I would like to go out with Number 8, but
there is a problem.
Besides completing this strange circle,
I wou l d be going out with one of my X-lover ' s
current flames , and I just don ' t think it
would be right . So, I want to, but I don ' t
want to. Ima, please help . What should I
do?????
Number 1
* Sweet Cheeks- I'm so very happy I finally
got the chance to really get to know youo
-Poopsie
* To R.S from L.R.- Had a wonderful time at
Heartbreak Hotel. Let's make reservations
for a whole weekend sometime.
Until next month,
Ima Dyque
RECORDS AND TAPES
AVAILABLE THROUGH HERLAND
CITY DOWN , by Casselberry-Dupree
This music release was number 1
of the top 20 in women's music
for 1986.
Casselberry and
Dupree synthesize African , Latin,
and reggae sounds with folk, soul
contemporary and country .
'I'
A STEP AWAY, by Teresa Trull
This release you will really
like , actually love.
Each
song has complexity and depth,
songs about letting go and.r growing, and a rhythm you can ' move to .
DON ' T DOUBT IT ,
by Deidra McCa l l a
Deidra has be~n performing for
women's audiences for years a n d
this , her debut solo recording ,
is still available at Herland . Her
unique sound is clearly brought
out in songs like "Wake Me Up
Gently," and 11 Did You Think I
Didn't Know."
A TASTE OF THE BLUES, by Heather
Bishop
This 1987 release is full of
energy, but still is the blues .
It has a pop sound and great
lyrics that will certainly
set you to thinking .
Good luck,
Ima
!MA'S PERSONALS
* Happy birthday to Rhonda (Nov. 15).
#7
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JASMINE , Hot and sw ee t j a z z v o C\'
a 1$ ,
originals and standard s , wi t h piano,
sax and clarinet .
This ' release by
Carol Schmidt and Michelle Isam is
is now discontinued.
Herland still
has a very limited number of albums.
Dear One,
Your situation is, indeed, a bit confusing, but a few things are very clear. It
seems to me that Numbers 3, 5, 6, and 7 like
to have their cake and eat it, too - so to
speak - especially with Numbers 3 and 7 who
apparently have no present commitment with
anyone . Sometimes i t is very di fficult to
decide what we rea l ly want and what is best
for us . Sometimes the answers are not the
same. This is frustrating .
In the long run, the cho i ce is your own .
If I were in your position, I would probabl y
go out with Number 8. What harm could it
possibly do? Remember that it doesn't have
to go any farther than you want it to . Try
not to spend too much time brooding about
Number 2. Maybe she will tire of Number 3' s
behavior and come back to you. In the meantime I say enjoy life. If you want to go out
with Number 8, do it.
.
If you still believe it would complicate
the situation even more, ask her to stop calling you. But, keep this in mind: Don't
just say 11 No 11 , say "No, THANK YOU".
still love you
M ~ R.
(Oct . 22) •• • • or is i t the 21st?
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DON'T HOLD BACK, by Holly Near
This new release also features
Bonnie Raitt and Kenny Loggins.
It is all love songs and sure
to please your listening ear.
366-09'23
continued from page 5
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