Lavender Visions : v.2:no.1(1990:Apr./May)
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VISIONS
April/May 1990
Our community -
both independence and common ground
[Editor,s Note: As a young black woman, I can't help but reflect
on the meaning of these significant times in which I am now living.
We, you and I, the world, are in the midst of constant change. All
around us are the demands for empowerment and representation.
We see this in our global community, dealing with personal
struggle and freedom, health care, hunger and education, and in
our local communities. Community, to me, involves the common
experience of its inhabitants. It is responsive, challenging, evolving. It is collective, yet respectful of individual concerns.
Recently, I have had conversations with close friends, whom
I call "sisters" in the community. Each is individually powerful in
her own concerns and expressions in life. Collectively, they share
a bond with the African American culture.
It is interesting to explore oneness and "differentness" among
my sisters. For in doing so, I was reminded that in community
there must be freedom to come and go, to give and to take, to
educate and to learn. There is a choice to be part of, to participate
or to observe. I anticipate future strides from all ofus. And so ...
these expressions of community come as a series of two parts: part
one in this issue, part two in the next issue.]
Interview I: My sister is 30 years old. She is a professional, but
feels she does not always receive the recognition from the system
in which she is employed.
LV: As an African American who is also a Lesbian, what is your
community?
Friend: My community is not the "women's community" because
I don't have many friends or associates in the community. I don't
have any association with the women's community unless I'm out
at the clubs, and I don't go to any Gay functions. I see myself as
outside of the community most of the time.
- shares my interests and concerns. If it does, then the information isn't reaching me.
LV: What do you feel the community needs to offer so that you
feel a part of or can identify with it?
Friend: I feel the community is not focusing on issues that interest
me as a black woman. For me community is not what you live in,
but what you're a part of. I would like to bring in different interest
groups-people who, for instance, would like to have a literature
group, get together and read African American literature and
literature of other cultures.
I would like to hear more about the opportunities being
offered to young Lesbians and Gay teens who need positive role
models and activities to help them through the transitions they
must go through.
I am interested in the political life of the community. I'm
interested in concerns of homelessness, employment, etc. Other
cities offer more diverse activities besides dance clubs, and the
information network seems to b~ better. In Indianapolis, there
aren't many places where women of diverse backgrounds can
come together.
LV: Given what you've shared about the lack of identity for you
in this community, what do you enjoy about the women's community?
Friend: There is a social outlet at the clubs. It offers a place to relax
socially; unfortunately, that's all I presently see. I want to be able
to see more or to know about other opportunities in the community.
continued on page 12
LV: Are there any aspects of the community that you can identify
with?
Friend: I can identify with some parts of the Lesbian community;
however, to me, being a part of a community means being a part
of the activities and organizations of the community. For instance,
as black woman, I participate in activities and functions that
support my African American community. As yet I don't see the
Lesbian or Gay community as offering much which supports me
~
LV Staff
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April/May 1990
LAVENDER VISIONS
Celebrate our Mother Earth
Twenty years ago, on April 11, 1970, Earth Day was established by Sen. Gaylord Nelson of Wisconsin, as an event to honor
the Earth. Today, as never before, our ailing planet requires our
loving care and commitment. How easy it is to become overwhelmed by the many injunctions to recycle, replace incandescent
lighting with fluorescent bulbs, save water, don't dump toxic
products down the drain, mend and repair rather than discard and
replace. (Are all environmentalists so intense?)
While we at L V are indeed committed to making these
important life-style changes in order to save our planet, we
decided that Earth Day would be, for us, a CELEBRATION of our
Mother Earth. We share our vision of this celebration with you:
Plan a dinner party with a period theme somewhere between
Clan ofthe Cave Bear and Patience and Sarah-a time when our
Mother was bountiful, simple and unpolluted.
Certainly, any dinner party begins with a trip (on bike or on
foot, of course) to the market. Remember to take along your string
bag or old paper and plastic bags for re-use. Select organically
grown vegetables, requesting that nothing be wrapped in plastic or
Styrofoam. (Just respond to those weird looks with "Happy Earth
Day!") Choose only glass-contained liquids and non-toxic, biodegradable cleansers. Milk or juice in paper cartons is preferable,
of course, to plastic.
Feeling ever-so-environmentally-correct, you return to your
asbestos-free, radon-free, toxic-free home. Selecting clothes and
linens that have been sunshine-dried, you prepare your celebratory
feast.
Appropriate guest attire might range from various stages of
sky-clad to simple cotton clothing. (Remember: we're back to
basics!) We suggest a menu consisting of foods eaten without
utensils - certainly all plastic, un-recycled paper and Styrofoam
is verboten. Friends may gather to bake bread; let your Lesbian
creativity flow into interesting and exciting shapes to form the
loaves. It would be environmentally appropriate to serve foods
low on the food chain (meatless), such as steamed artichokes,
veggies, rice and beans. (Tofu is not a pre-requisite!) A challenging dessert would be ice cream, (no spoons; fingers only) or for the
less adventuresome, bite-sized chunks of Jello. Of course this
sensuous meal must be savored by candlelight!
Use the dinner hour for consciousness-raising and support for
those who are environmentally disorganized and impaired. Group
discussion of the traumas of recycling ("O.K., so I can live with
dingy laundry, but garbage oozing out of paper bags onto the floor
is where I draw the line" or "Where in my tiny efficiency am I
going to put bins for recycling plastic and newspapers and glass
and aluminum cans?" and "You mean that ifl plant some trees, I'm
really helping the environment?")
If you're not into a dinner party, you might plan a picnic for
the birds and squirrels, get out into the woods, feed the ducks and
geese in Broad Ripple.
Wherever you are on April 22, we hope you will take time to
celebrate Earth Day ... and remember, showering with a friend
saves water!
LV survey- great returns
We would like to extend a special thank you to those who
returned our survey form. We are pleased to be communicating
with so many of you. The results of the survey will be published
in the next issue and LV is evaluating the results to make us even
more responsive to the entire community.
Subscription Renewal !
Look at the address label on your Lavender Visions
mailing envelope! The date on the far right of the first
line indicates the date of the last issue under your current
subscription. If your envelope has been stamped with a
renewal notice, pleasesend us your renewal along with
the subcription form from page 16 of this issue. We need
to receive your renewal by May 10, 1990 to ensurethat
you don't miss a single issue. Your continuing support
is greatly appreciated!
VISIONS
Statement of Purpose
Lavender Visions is
for me and for you,
for all Lesbians,
for us to connect within
our larger community
so that together we may increase
our respect and support
for each other and ourselves,
affirming, celebrating and
honoring the women we are.
Published bi-monthly. Mailing address: Lavender Visions, P.O.
Box 321, Zionsville, IN 46077. The opinions expressed in
Lavender Visions do not necessarily reflect the views of the
publishers and editors. All material in this publication is intended
for individuals, groups, organizations, and businesses which are
affirming of Lesbians and does not necessarily imply the sexual
orientation of any person except when specifically stated.
Publishers ............ Mary Gaul (M.G.), Nancy VanArsdall Jones
Managing Editor .............................................. Candace Shearls
Editor ...................................................................... D.J. Gridley
Staff ............... Joan Townsend, Deb Mullins, Carol Christopher
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April/May 1990
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Resources
Indianapolis (317)
AIDS Hotline: 257-HOPE, answered 7-11 PM, every evening.
AIDS: Living the Journey Together: a family therapy group for
persons with AIDS and a care partner, parent, sibling, lover,
friend. Sponsored by Courageous Living Counseling Services, located in Westview Hospital Professional Bldg., 9250043.
Catholic Lesbian Support Group; open to all Catholic and nonCatholic Lesbians who want to explore their Christian faith
within the context of their sexuality; 925-6866 (Martha) or
357-7964 (Carol).
Dignity meets at St. Thomas Aquinas Church, 46th & Illinois,
Sundays at 6 PM; P.O. Box 431, Indianapolis, IN 46202; 9246578 (Drew).
Feminist Writers; 5138 E. North St., Indianapolis, IN 46219;
357-7964 (Carol).
Friends for Lesbian and Gay Concerns (Quaker); 356-8646
(Diane or Perri).
Gay AA meets at Bethlehem Lutheran, Sundays at 7 PM; 6327864.
Gay/Lesbian Switchboard: 253-GAYS (7 - 11 PM).
Gay and Lesbian Codependents Anonymous meets at Winona
Hospital, 3232 N. Meridian St.; 925-1135 (Don), 636-4986
(Joe), 297-0386 (Pam).
Gay Parents Coalition oflndianapolis meets at Holy Eucharist
Church, 38th & Illinois, 2nd Sunday of each month at 7:30
PM; 253-2280 (John)
Indianapolis Youth Group for Lesbian and gay youth ages 23
and under meets bi-weekly. For more information call
Lesbian/Gay Switchboard at 253-GAYS and ask for the
organization's contact person.
Indianapolis NOW meets at Planned Parenthood, 3219 N. Meridian, 2nd Wednesday of each month at 6:30 PM; 925-4641.
Indianapolis Pitch-In: Our monthly pitch-in dinners provide
social and networking opportunities for all Lesbians. Generally, the pitch-in is scheduled for the second Friday of each
month, beginning at 7 PM. The location (and directions, if
necessary) usually is available at Dreams and Swords at least
a week before each pitch-in.
Integrity meets at All Saints Church, 16th and Central, Mondays
at 6:30 PM; 635-3744.
Justice, Inc.: Lesbian resource for issues regarding state laws,
community/police relations, civil rights, Lesbian/Gay conferences, other special events. 1534 E. 10th St., Indianapolis,
IN 46201, 634-9212.
Lesbian Discussion Group: 2nd and 4th Thursday of each
month, 7 - 8:30 PM, at 6356 N. Guilford; 577-2245 (Lori).
Lesbian Incest Survivors Therapy Group. Contact Linda
Gensheimer, (219) 426-5778 (Fort Wayne).
Older Women's Network for Women Over 40 meets at 7707
Lancer Lane, 3rd Tuesday of each month; 54 7-7702 (Sharon
or Carol) or Dreams & Swords.
Our Parents Aren't Straight (for children of Lesbians and
Gays), 3rd Tuesday of each month. No age limits. Parents
can/will meet in different room for discussions; 353-6636
(Debbie or Vicki), 881-0786 (Donna, Ruth, or Judy).
Overeaters Anonymous (for men and women) meets at Dreams
and Swords, 828 E. 64th Street, Fridays at 6:30 PM, 2539966.
P-FLAG (Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays) meets at
Butler University in Atherton Center, Room 312, 2nd Sunday
of each month at 2:00 PM; 251-9307 (Donna).
University Gay/Lesbian Alliance meets at 3754 N. Illinois St.
(Lambda Center). Call 274-2585.
Women's Open Network: 274-5041 or 274-2585 (Sue Moenius).
Womenspired: 274-5041 or 274-2585 (Sue Moenius).
Bloomington (812)
Bloomington Switchboard: 336-4299.
Gay/Lesbian Alliance: 332-184 7.
SPARKS: a social/educational forum for Lesbians. Contact
Marcia, 334-0414, or Carolyn, 339-4283.
Columbus (812)
Pitch-In: for information, call 376-0784.
Switchboard Concern: 293-8671 (24 hours).
Evansville (812)
Tri-State Alliance Meeting meets at Unitarian Universalist
Church, 856 So. Kentucky Ave., 4th Sunday of each month.
Fort Wayne (219)
Dignity/Fort Wayne, P.O. Box 12151, 46862.
Drop-In meets at Up the Stairs Community Center, 3426 Broadway, Fridays at 7:30 PM
Fort Wayne Women's Bureau: 303 E. Washington Blvd., 4247977. Peer Counseling: 9 AM - 2 PM, 426-0023. Rape
Awareness Program Hotline: 426-RAPE.
Liberty (812)
The Pearl: Feminist resource/journal. Contact: Natalie Isaac,
editor, 304 South Fairground, Liberty, IN 47353.
Mishawaka (219)
Open Arms: Monthly newsletter for Michiana Lesbians. Contact:
P.O. Box 845, Mishawaka, IN 46544. Yearly subscription:
$10.00; sample copy: $1.00. Make check payable to Roberta
Miller.
South Bend (219)
Help Line: 232-2522 (9 AM - 5 PM).
Hot Line: 232-3344 (24 Hours).
IUSBU Womyn's Center: 929 Greenlawn, 237-4494.
Monthly Lesbian Potluck and weekly Lesbian support group;
291-3720.
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April/May 1990
LAVENDER VISIONS
Who is that masked black woman?
by Deb Mullins
It is not unusual to be sitting in my den with a coke and
cigarette talking about the Emmy Awards, socio-political events,
and the latest developments in the Women's Community with
Donna Jones. Having been friends for many years I thought it
would be an easy task to interview and gather a few thoughts from
Donna's brain when the folks at L Vasked me to do an interview
with her. However, Ms. Jones, known as "DJ" to many, is not a
simple being and my efforts to translate her witty and straightforward personality became no less than a lesson in how to
describe one of your closest friends honestly.
In another life she may have been a captain in the United
States Navy. Picture it, a bright, bold, black woman with a lot of
vision and information that would lead our military in the advancement and protection of our country. (This could have been
possible if that can of prohibited chili and hot plate in the barracks
had not exploded throughout the quarters.) Of course it didn't
happen that way. Fate placed Donna Jones back in our town, and
made her a leader for our community instead.
Donna has made possible many pleasures for us through her
hard work and talents, although often times unnoticed. How many
concerts, dances, and events have you attended where music and
sound reinforcement was needed? Name about any function
~~~~~~~~~~~~~ presented by the women's
community, the Walker
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Theatre and other promotions. Who is that masked
EVERYWHERE
black woman with the
1,:;;~~~~~~~~~~~;,1 braided dreadlocks, pens
and patch cords running to
the front of the stage, making sure the microphones aren't plugged
into the guitars? None other than our woman, DJ Jones!
Donna is native to Indianapolis, raised by her working mother,
Kathryn, an IU graduate and research technician at Veteran's
Administration Hospital, as her only child. Flanner House had the
pleasure of monitoring the precocious development of Donna in
day care and after elementary school hours at JPS #23. In-theyear-of-our-war, 1972, Broad Ripple High School ushered Donna
through another rite-of-passage, prepared for the college circuit. I
believe it is all right to reveal her birthday since most "Women
with Awareness" have no outward qualms about their age. As
Lesbians we can revel in the fact we have successfully survived
years of getting to know ourselves and our sisters and have become
stronger throughout our existence. On July 27, 1954, we were
blessed with the future president of the board of Women in the
Arts.
If you visit her home, in Meridian Kessler neighborhood, be
prepared to step lightly. The speakers, records and tapes will only
overwhelm you the first few moments. The rest of the time will be
spent in awe over the collection of electronic devices, musical
instruments, patch cords and hard candy wrappers. In the corner
will be lying the memorable black derby with the stuffed surgical
glove sewn on top. This hat was an early introduction to what I had
to look forward to in our relationship. I just couldn't believe she
actually wore it in public!
Settling back with our cokes and Vivaldi on the stereo, we
began our formal but strange conversation. Strange, only because
I already knew the answers to the questions but didn't quite know
how to ask the questions. So we continued in our usual spirit of jive
and pretended as best we could to be adult-like and appropriate as
possible.
Deb: As a growing but non-aware Lesbian, who do you remember
being your heroine in childhood?
DJ: Well, I always thought Lena Horne was hot. That's who I
followed or looked after - definitely looked. I still look. Shit,
girlfriend looks good! I guess, when I was in high school, I thought
Gloria Steinem was a neat person. And Sonja Sanchez, a black
woman poet. I thought she was pretty together. Those girls I
admired for their heads, definitely for their heads. Lena Horne I
admired for her body.
Deb: What about your experiences with a heterosexual life? Was
that ever a part of your developing identity?
DJ: We don't want to talk about him. He was a pain in the butt!
Besides, I don't think all these girls could handle the fact that, "Oh,
no! Donna Jones had a boyfriend." He was stupid even if he had
had breasts. In high school I didn't have an awareness about much
of anything. I was mostly interested in having a good time. Most
of the kids in my neighborhood were boys. And until later in life,
I was never the most physically affectionate person on the planet,
until I got older.
Deb: Everyone enjoys sharing their coming out stories and it is
important to share with one another. When did this occur for you?
DJ: My coming out process ... I was sitting in the car with you.
You and I used to work together. But we were sitting in the car and
you came out to me. And the only reason that happened was
because you had observed me doing some reading. And I read
everything ... cereal boxes. I really can't put a clear cut time upon
it. We are all brought up to be heterosexual persons, and are all
taught that is the way to be. Lesbianism and homosexuality are
actually never talked about or discussed. Did your parents sit
down with you and say, "Dear, when you grow up, and you meet
that woman in your life ... "? Parents don't have conversations
with their daughters like that nor with their sons. It is always about
that person of the opposite sex. But when I did come out with my
mom, I went to talk to her about this woman I had a serious crush
on. I was being as euphemistic as I possibly could. My mother
finally said, "What is his attitude?" I told her, "Well Mom, firstly
he's a she." She just said, "Oh, I thought so." I had prepared
myself for major breast-beating, gnashing of teeth, pulling of hair,
continued on page 6
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Masked woman
continued from page 4
maybe chopping off a finger. She didn't do any of that. She just
said, "I thought so." But why in the fuck don't they tell us there
is that possibility in life so we aren't so freaked out? She simply
said, "That's okay, you're still my child and I will always love
you." And that was that. Perhaps they should have articles in
parenting magazines like "Your Child: They Could Grow Up To
Be Lesbian or Gay," along with the many spreads on raising your
child's IQ to 3000 or starting a savings for them before they are
born so they'll have $500 million in the bank for college tuition.
Why not "How to prepare your child for sex, love and heartbreak
even if your daughter's lover is another woman"? Life would be
a lot easier for many of us.
When I was growing up I never ever saw a husband in my
future. I saw the possibility of children but never a husband. I do
believe they have a function in life. Their job is to do the heavy
physical work. That's why god made them bigger and stronger, so
they could go out and cut the trees and drag them back. I'll pay
them, but that's the majority of men's function in my life.
Deb: In our lessons oflearning about ourselves and identifying our
needs, what strengths do you draw upon as a Lesbian?
DJ: What does it mean to be a Lesbian? I guess you have to think
about politics. For me that's what it is. A socio-political definition. Trying to build community, and community is broad and
diverse. Within that community I can have my needs met. A long
term vision would include work that I choose to do. Doing that,
I can offer price breaks on services that I perform for other women.
It's a spiritual thing as well. That I really can't define. I have a
genuine closeness with women in my life that are heterosexually
identified. That too is a part of that community - being able to
allow those people to be as they are unconditionally and still have
a genuine and heart-felt bond with those people. I have some men
in my life - that little black man Melvin, who I've known since
grade school and stay in close contact with. I believe that we care
about one another. It also means I am secure and strong enough
within myself to know and accept women who are radical separatist women, who are heterosexually identified, heterosexual men
and some Gay men. Just being able to embrace a broad spectrum
of humanity. That's a real inner type of thing.
Deb: In daily living we must nurture and affirm our identities and
personalities. How do you feed these affirmations?
DJ: Because I have this broad spectrum of humanity I get
something from all these people. I guess if I had to pick my ace
number one "she-ro," it would have to be my mom and her mother
before her. My mother passed on to me some very good advice.
She gave me some basic tools for living well and living right. One
of the things was, "Surround yourself with people that can help
you." The other thing she told me, and she started telling me these
things when I was a little bitty shit, was, "Be nice to everybody,
... there are some things they [people at
work] cannot say around me, "In my
presence,you w/11 not call people heebs,
wops, spies, or queers."
because all the people you meet on the way up are also the people
you meet on the way back down." Just being able to keep those two
things in mind a big part of the time makes me comfortable with
who I am and what I do.
Deb: In the work place, do you run into any confrontations or
concerns as a Lesbian?
DJ: I work at Channel 59, WXIN TV, Fox (they'll love that I put
that in here). I'm the senior film editor and what I do is watch a
lot of TV. I take out the sex, the naked people, the dirty words you
cannot say on television and put in breaks for the commercials and
sometimes I make them shorter. I also happen to be an independent sound reinforcement contractor. I have every reason to believe
homophobia exists because most of the men I work with are
straight. New people that are hired in our department, I generally
sit them down and tell them there are things they cannot say around
me, "In my presence you will not call people heebs, wops, spies,
or queers." There just are things I will not allow around me. I don't
encounter any problems related to work.
Deb: Because of nonacceptance and potential threats how do you
handle personal and professional attitudes about being in or out of
the proverbial closet?
DJ: I don't know. I don't have an opinion on that. I suppose I'm
like most people on the planet. If it comes up in conversation, I
deal with it; if it doesn't, I don't. You know? I mean, I discuss
issues with people at work. With this 24-year-old white boy, in
fact. We ran an episode of a show called "Hard Copy." It was a
week that was a ratings week. The topic of the week was "sex in
America" and reporters had secretly attended a meeting of the
North American Man/Boy Love Association. I have a real
problem with those people. They did a segment and had footage.
We talked after the fact about the implications of this particular
group of people concerning civil rights and human rights and the
political lobbying for them and how the NAMBLA as an organization of pediphiles impacted upon civil rights and human rights
legislation passage for Lesbians and Gay men. So, I mean, I talk
about issues and not about myself personally. I don't come up and
say, "Hello, I'm Donna Jones, your friendly neighborhood African American Lesbian." I don't do that. I talk about my life. No
more, no less. I have no concerns of visibility.
continued on page 11
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NWMF Spirituality Conference '90: Strength in community
by Pat Jordan
Goddesses, witches, chants, magic, Native American traditions, Afrikan dance and tradition - all these and more have
blended at the National Women's Music Festival (May 31 - June
3) as women explore their own spirituality. Each year more
women at the festival have come together to struggle with what
happens to spirituality when we leave the patriarchy out of it and
focus on ourselves.
We have learned that ancient spirituality was women centered, that in the long-ago past, everyone worshipped the goddess,
and that ancient bits of wisdom have been passed to us through the
Tarot cards and by word of mouth through a long line of witches.
We have learned that we can create our own spiritual traditions and rituals to meet the needs of each ofus today. We have
learned that we each have an essential spiritual side and that it is
in and through this spiritual (not necessarily religious) piece that
we experience connectedness to one another and the universe.
At the NWMF, women who are exploring their own spirituality share their experience and intuitive knowing in workshops
and presentations through which we each come in closer contact
with our own Higher Power. This year featured presenters are
Margot Adler, Shekhinah Mountainwater, Arisika Razak, and
Nan Brooks and Jane Winslow, and AmyLee - each of whom
brings her own piece of spiritual perspective to share.
Shekhinah Mountainwater says of herself, "I came here (the
earth) to do the Goddess's work." And she does this through
music, dance and ritual creation. She believes we need a female
cosmology, and so she has set about to create one through myths,
particularly the Persephone Myth, and an understanding of seasonal holidays.
She began calling herself a witch about six or seven years ago
because she felt it was the one word that described all the things
she was-writer, mythmaker, poet, songster, teacher, etc. Shekhinah emphasizes the political implications of the title "witch." She
speaks of the nine million burned, the total rejection of woman's
power, and the deep fear the patriarchy has of womanliness.
"Witch" personifies all this, reclaiming the ancient wisdom of the
Mother. She will be creating ritual in Bloomington with the
women in her workshop, ever seeking to define and reawaken the
spirituality in each of us.
Arisika Razak works as a midwife in a hospital. She also
describes herself as a healer, spiritual dancer and a student of
Afrikan, Native American and Celtic spiritual traditions. Her
work is a blend of all those traditions into a creation that is uniquely
her own. Through dance, movement, music, guided imagery and
art, she seeks to reawaken the sacred feminine within each of us.
At the Festival, Arisika will focus on healing wounds and
generating the power of female sexuality. Participants will find
their sacred ground of being and experience their own power. In
the Vulva dance, Arisika works to have each participant reclaim
and rekindle the sacred fire of femininity. And, in her workshop
on Shakti, Arisika reclaims the creative work sustaining life force
- the female power of creativity.
Nan Brooks and Jane Winslow will be performing Women
of the Gateway at this year's Spirituality Conference.
Arisika places the emphasis on each woman's own definition
of spirituality and provides a vehicle for its expression. Her
workshops are not about Arisika's spirituality, but rather about
each women's claiming/reclaiming of her own creative life force.
Nan Brooks and Jane Winslow will be featured in Bloomington with another performance of"Women of the Gateway." Their
production is ritual as well as theater and it encourages each
member of the audience to become a participant in the re-membering of women's history and spirituality. A blend of the ancient and
modern, "Women of the Gateway" evokes in women who allow
it a re-membering of our ties to one another, our herstory, and our
spirituality.
Margot Adler, a neopagan and wiccan priestess, is the author
of Drawing Down the Moon, a scholarly yet fascinating look at
ancient and modern goddess-centered religions. Religion is
defined very differently by neopagans. They point out that the root
of the word religion means to relink and connect and so religion
makes connections between human beings and the universe.
Neopagans therefore consider articles on ecofeminism, for instance, to be religious in nature.
While exceedingly diverse in their beliefs and practices, the
neopagans described in Adler's book have some commonalties.
They believe that everything in the universe is a part of Divinity
and that the goddess dwells within each of us. We may all
experience periods in which we are out of touch with our essential
connection to the universe but there is no such thing as sin. Finally,
there is the belief that the energy we send out into the world comes
back to us in another form, so energy is transformed- the essence
of magic.
Adler says in her preface to the 1986 revised edition of her
work that "the real message of Drawing Down the Moon is that the
spiritual world is like the natural world- only that there is no one
spiritual path; each of us must find and reclaim our own." The
NWMF Spirituality Conference challenges each of us to do just
that.
April/May 1990
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Bulletin Board
Women in the Arts Presents (fund-raising for NWMF): •
Art Exhibit and Sale featuring women artists of Indiana,
Saturday and Sunday, April 21-22, wine and cheese
reception; location to be announced.
Karen Beth in Concert, Friday, April 27, Bloomington.
For information call Carolyn VandeWiele (812) 3394283.
Karen Beth in Concert, Saturday, April 28, Indianapolis.
For information call Mary Byrne (317) 923-5574.
Deb Mullins in Concert, Saturday, May 5, Unitarian Universalist Church, 615 W. 43rd St., Indianapolis. For information call Mary Byrne (317) 923-5574.
[For more information about any of the above events, call
Mary Byrne (317) 923-5574.]
Hunter Davis at Mugwumps, Friday, April 13, 608 Massachusetts Ave., Indianapolis, (317) 635-7115.
Deb Mullins at Mugwumps, Friday, April 27, 9 PM, 608 Massachusetts Ave., Indianapolis, (317) 635-7115.
EARTH DAY, April 22.
More Light Churches Conference, April 27-28, Central Presbyterian Church, 318 W. Kentucky St., Louisville, KY. Theme
is "Integrating Sexuality and Spirituality: A Call to the
Churches." For more information, call Jim Oxyer (502) 8975719 (home) or (502) 569-5005 (work) or call Nick Wilkerson (502) 635-7003 (home) or (502) 568-7590 (work).
Football & Picnic: Sports-minded Lesbians interested in coming
together to organize a monthly crunch and munch. First
meeting is Sunday, May 13, 1 PM. For information, call Pam
(317) 784-4410.
"Into the Gay '90s with Pride", Pride Celebration on Monument
Circle in Indianapolis, Saturday, June 16, 5-9 PM. Part of
Indiana's 1990 Gay/Lesbian Pride Week, sponsored by Justice, Inc. For more information, call Ruth Peters (317) 2531460 (home) or (317) 635-4059 (work) or call Justice (317)
634-9212.
National Women's Music Festival (NWMF), Thursday - Sunday, May 31-June 3, Bloomington, IN. Here are some of the
featured performers, speakers, writers: May Sarton, Minnie
Brua Pratt, Karla Jay, Kay Leigh Hagan, Rachel Bagby,
Shekinah Mountainwater, Arisika, Nan Brooks & Jane
Winslow, Buffy Sainte-Marie,Adrianne Torf, Ferron, Holly
Near, Heather Bishop, Linda Tillery, and Deidre McCalla.
Don't miss it-save some vacation days for these dates! For
more information, contact the Indiana University Conference Registrar at (812) 331-7799.
Catholics for a Free Choice. A local chapter of Catholics for a
Free Choice is presently forming. CFFC supports reproductive freedom for women; activities include providing educational programs, meetings with Catholic legislators, and
networking with other pro-choice organizations. For more
information, contact Carol LeMasters, 1538 E. North St.,
Indianapolis IN 46219 or call (317) 357-7964.
Womyn's Tennis League. A spring-summer womyn's tennis
league is forming. Will include both beginners and more
experienced players. Some instruction for beginners could be
available. Please contact Dian Miller (317) 924-7906 (work)
or (317) 243-8939 (home) or Laurie Anderson (317) 9247906.
Please send information about upcoming events for
publication in Bulletin Board to:
Lavender Visions, PO Box 321, Zionsville, IN 46077.
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Masked woman
continued from page 6
Deb: Amidst all of your committees and projects, do you have
time to envision dreams for the future?
will be endowed with the capabilities for funding women artists.
That's a long-term vision. I suppose a short-term vision is to win
the lottery, even though I have yet to buy one ticket. Also, I would
like to see this year's attendance at the NWMF grow at least 50%.
This is our opportunity to develop and encourage women artists
both nationally and locally. Everyone leaves with something from
the festival and it sustains a feeling of enrichment and celebration
throughout the year, not just for that weekend. A special interest
has been developed to encompass an Alliance For All Women.
We wish to exchange and communicate the desires of all races,
physical abilities and economic stratospheres. I personally invite
all women to join us this year. We have an exciting line-up of
conferences and concerts. Need I say more?
DJ: I am president of the board of directors for Women in the Arts,
National Women's Music Festival. One dream I have is that
Women in the Arts can become a grant-giving organization that
With that, Donna and I knew we had given it our best shot. So
we lit another cigarette, turned up the stereo and stared at the silent
video on VH-1 of Paula Abdul gyrating to "Opposites Attract."
Deb: As a developing woman did you have role models that
helped you envision and teach you how to accomplish your
dreams?
DJ: There are no role models in my career. And I do not see myself
as a role model. But I didn't think of myself as being interesting
enough for an interview, so what do I know?
Our parents aren't straight
A new discussion group for children of Gays and Lesbians is
forming. The group, "Our Parents Aren't Straight," would like to
involve children of all ages, parents, and partners/co-parents.
The purpose of the group is to provide a time for children to
get together and share common problems, questions, concerns,
fears, and some answers. The group would also like to provide
opportunities for future social events (bowling, movies, picnics,
etc.). The intention is to include adult children of Gays/Lesbians,
as well as teens and pre-teens. Eventually, this group will work
into a Hotline Network for those times when our kids need to talk
to another person who is in the same position and find out how they
would ( did) react to a crisis. Or maybe they just need to talk to
another kid and blow off some steam! A sort of Big Brother/Big
Sister organization with support from kids who understand the
EXTRA pressures of living in a Gay/Lesbian family.
At the same time that the kids meet, there will be a Coffee
Group time for parents and partners/co-parents - an informal
discussion group with other adults who also face the extra problems and pressures of raising kids in a Gay/Lesbian family.
It is not mandatory that parents attend, nor is it mandatory that
kids must attend if the parents come. These meetings are intended
to be informal, friendly, warm, and supportive - a time for
sharing and caring.
If you are interested in joining (or know of anyone with kids
who might be interested), please call Vickie or Debbi at 353-6636
or Ruth, Donna, or Judy at 881-0786.
The mood was really In the groove recently at the
community dance sponsored by Women In the Arts on
February 24th. Great sounds were provided by the
lovely deejay for an evening offest Ive fun. If you missed
the dance, there are several more WIA events scheduled
In the next few months. See the Bulletin Board for
details. All proceeds go to support the 1990 National
Women's Music Festival.
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Community
continued from page 1
Interview II: My sister is an African American who is in the
profession of chemistry and research. She is 32 years old.
Friend: The question of community is an interesting question. I
was just talking about this to a Gay male friend of mine. It's one
thing to be a woman in a white world, another to be a black woman
in a white world, and still another to be a Lesbian black woman in
a white world. It's like having a triple whammy or standard to live
by.
To a certain extent I want to feel accepted in this community.
But at the same time, I want to keep a part of me that allows me to
identify strongly with my culture.
LV: What does community mean to you?
Friend: I guess community means something almost like a family
- that there is a feeling of closeness, and people look out for each
other when there are needs to be met.
LV: How does the Lesbian community meet your definition of
community for you?
Friend: I feel that since I'm not very active in the community, it
doesn't meet my definition. And from the people that I've met
who are involved in the community, they aren't very friendly.
There's not a lot of activities to participate in, not much that is
fulfilling. For instance, an inter-denomination group or prayer
study group, or a volunteer service group would be great. Outside
of the sexual-social experience, there's not much identity for me.
LV: Do you feel that the spiritual (Christian) experience is important in your community?
Friend: Yes, definitely. It is a personal value that serving God
through the life of the community, and learning more about
relationships with people strengthens us. I think one's spirituality
helps make relationships lasting ones.
One of the differences I see between the black community and
the Lesbian community is that in the black community, one of its
foundations is the church. In the Lesbian community, the foundation seems to be social. I don't mean to stereotype, but from my
observations, this is the impression I get.
LV: What keeps you from being more active in the community?
Friend: The lack of activities such as volunteer services, study
groups, issues addressing parenting, children, etc., that provide a
purpose for gathering besides drinking, drag shows, and bars.
LV: What are some ways the Lesbian community can reach
women of minority groups, especially black women?
Friend: Person to person contact, visual contact through flyers,
bulletin boards, etc., that offer people an opportunity to get
involved. Have someone ask black women for their input.
Interview III: My sister is a professional woman in social
services. She is 42 years old.
LV: As a woman who loves other women, describe your identity
with the Lesbian community.
Friend: I don't have an identity in the women's community and I
don't know exactly why. I'm fairly new to the community in terms
of being involved with a woman lover. As I foresee becoming a
part of the community in the future, I don't know if this will happen
in Indianapolis. I say this, due to the type of political interests I
have and due to my religious commitments here.
I see the need to be very careful, due to the fact that I am very
involved in a "traditional" religious community. There's no way
that the two can interface here in Indianapolis. This is because I
choose to attend the church I attend, not because the Lesbian
community won't allow it. It is possible that this would change if
I attended at a different place.
Another problem in my involvement in the community is lack
of information. I don't have information; I don't subscribe to any
publications that give me information on activities or religious
celebrations among Lesbian women.
LV: ls religion the only reason you don't identify with the
women's community?
Friend: I don't know how well, or if, the women's community
embraces integration of cultures and the political issues I'm
interested in. I haven't seen it at the Women's Music Festival.
There's more to binding us together than being women. My
concerns go beyond sexism or being a woman. I'm concerned
with economic issues, homelessness, parenting, etc. These issues
impact women of color in different ways than from majority
culture.
LV: What, then, does community mean to you?
Friend: Community means to me a place to belong, a place to be
comfortable, a place to be liberated. I think this is why I stick to
being involved in my religious community. If offers me these
things. Community means family, friends.
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Community
continued from page 12
While we have some common ground, I don't see women embracing other women, regardless of the issue or culture. There's
still a certain level of"ism" involved that is oppressive. Until this
oppression is addressed, it is going to be difficult for me to become
involved.
Outreach to women of color means personal contact. There
needs to be a genuine invitation of friendship that is recognizable
without peeling back too many layers. I also realize that black
women have to be willing to participate and involve themselves.
LV: What are some positive things you see about the women's
community?
Friend: From what I've seen there is networking among women
for businesses, non-traditional experience, the freedom of expression to embrace and be intimate with each other, etc. The fact that
there is a Women's Music Festival in Bloomington to connect with
is very positive. I can appreciate that there are women in the
community who recognize the need for more women of color to be
involved and are willing to put forth energy to help bring that
about.
I learned to love myself and not to believe in those images I
was taught in my youth. Those images were that all Lesbians are
unattractive, lonely, have no friends, are usually destructive and/
or poverty-stricken. I was fortunate that at Antioch, many of the
college leaders and professors were Lesbian/Gay and provided an
important environment and institutional backup. I was supported
by people who valued every kind of human expression.
Humans have to make a commitment, whether it is using their
power in institutions, schools, churches, or other spiritually-based
places. Whether in their personal life, or wherever, commitment
has to be there somewhere. People have to be that bridge where
knowledge and understanding are considered ideals to live up to
as opposed to ignorance and oppression. I hear a lot of excuses.
I talk to school teachers who ask how they can bring a positive
influence or image to their class. I say, ask a Lesbian to come and
talk to the class. Perhaps not about being a Lesbian, but about their
art or profession. Allow her to be a bridge, a positive influence.
There is no reason to be trapped in ignorance, prejudice, racialism,
sexism, heterosexism, etc.
So, that's my commitment. To be honest, out there, to be
whole.
[Part II of this Conversation will follow in the next issue of
Lavender Visions.]
Interview IV: My sister is an independent, award-winning
filmmaker and writer. She is 25 years old.
LV: What does being in the community mean to you?
Friend: Being out in the community is very, very important to me.
I realize not everyone can do that, but I am fortunate enough to be
in a position where I can. Personally, I don't think I could expect
to raise my child, sensitizing her and positioning her in society, if
I wasn't very out and very proud. I think we are at at point in our
lives and in the world where we are having to integrate harmony
into our lives and into our beings.
Being out personally is a way of relieving bigotry around me.
Being out is akin to toilet training a child. I'm presently going
through toilet training with my child, so this is a good analogy. It
can be kind of messy, but then things start to click. It works and
it's great! It becomes natural. People appreciate honesty. I'm
being very honest and people are very appreciative.
I also believe being out is providing a positive image. I was
very fortunate in Ohio where I went to school. I was in the
company of women artists who were very open and out of the
closet. What these people did for me was incredible! They saved
my life. Coming full force at the world, to be who you are, is
important.
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Diane Kennaugh felt burned out with her career as an LPN
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Diane hates to shop and offers a unique, easy, and fun-filled
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shops. A luncheon is included on the tour and the fee includes all
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their ability to provide for the petite to full-figure sizes.
Tours are conducted from 10 AM to 3 PM, Monday through
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For more information and bookings, call (317) 255-2459.
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You must've been a beautiful baby ...
These adorable faces belong to the members of our
exuberant Lavender Visions' staff just a "few"
years ago - Candace, Carol, Deb, Dorin, Joan,
M.G., and Nancy. Can you recognize us or can
you guess who we are? Don't despair, for in the
next issue, we'll show you up-to-date pictures.
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Happy Birthday, Lavender Visions! Reflections on the 1st year
[Editor's Note: Several of the staff members ofLavender Visions
offer their thoughts on the first year of publication.]
As a new staff member of Lavender Visions, I can appreciate
the vision and determination of the women who gave us that first
issue. The purpose of their efforts was to provide communication
within our community. Thank you for a job well done. I expect
to see the results magnified in the coming year, for both others and
the woman within myself.
Reflecting on this first year of Lavender Visions, one knowing is crystal clear: We have been, and are being, led. Taking on
a second full-time job was certainly not my intention and miraculously, each time I would despairingly think, "I simply can't do
anymore," there would be a wonderful gift- a love letter from a
reader, an anonymous contribution, 10 new subscriptions, a request for information from New York or Oklahoma City, or a
volunteer to write an article. And now as our baby moves into her
second year, I celebrate her growth- to nearly 400 subscriptions
representing 12 states and an energetic and creative staff of 8
committed not only to the philosophy of Lavender Visions, but to
the belief that we can and do have fun doing the paper! Blessed Be!
"Why am I involved in Lavender Visions?" I've asked
myself that question several times in the past year - especially
when the production deadline is fast approaching and I feel a bit
overwhelmed. Each time the answer is different: sometimes I
recognize it as my way of being politically minded; sometimes it's
to fulfill my desire to serve the community; sometimes it's to
foster my own personal growth; sometimes it's to meet new and
wonderful people; and, sometimes, I don't know why. In looking
back at the first year, at this particular moment, I feel that the basis
for "Dorin's Diary"is the most compelling reason - to remind
me, as well as others, of the positive aspects of our lives - that
victories of all magnitudes and types are happening all the time.
The success of Lavender Visions and the excitement I feel about
my involvement, forwhateverthe reason, are two of those triumphs.
A year ago, we talked a dream alive. For twelve months, we
have been discovering the joy, frustration, fear, loneliness, anger,
bewilderment, and ecstasy of publishing Lavender Visions. I
committed my energy to this effort because I wanted to give
something back to the community - the universe - that has
nurtured me for so many years. I thought it would be fun to plant
seeds of affirmation and consciousness raising, and to invite
Lesbians to participate in a sense of community wherever they
may live their daily lives.
In time, L V took on a life of her own and gave to me a deeper
and broader appreciation of community. I felt the rape of the
Alaskan oil spill in the core of my being, the triumph of justice as
the Berlin wall crumbled, and I wept with joy watching Nelson
Mandela speak the freedom of his heart outside of prison walls.
There really is no separation between the beings of this living
planet except those imposed by fear. L V, along with many other
Lesbian/Gay publications, affirm our existence, our experience,
and contribute to diminishing the fear that oppresses all people.
We set out to reach women in Central Indiana and now have
subscribers coast to coast in twelve states. It is immensely
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Seasonal Magick
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The year is a dancing woman
Who is born at the coming of spring
The year is a dancing woman
Of Her birth and death we sing ...
In spring She comes to power
When the red of Her moonbloods come
And She dances and spins towards summer
To the beat of Her passion's drum
'Tis then She becomes so fertile
With the Life that is to come
And She flows with the Love that feeds us
'Til the Harvest Time is done
Then dances and spins towards darkness
All dressed in autumn file
To descend to the time of shadow
And rest from the world's desire
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Winter's wisdom claims Her soul
And She births the spirit within us
Bringing light and hope to us all
Igniting a blaze in the darkness
To kindle the coming spring
Then dreams 'til Her resurrection
And Her story again begins ...
The year is a dancing woman
Who is born at the coming of spring
The year is a dancing woman
Of Her birth and death we sing ...
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April/May 1990
Our community -
both independence and common ground
[Editor,s Note: As a young black woman, I can't help but reflect
on the meaning of these significant times in which I am now living.
We, you and I, the world, are in the midst of constant change. All
around us are the demands for empowerment and representation.
We see this in our global community, dealing with personal
struggle and freedom, health care, hunger and education, and in
our local communities. Community, to me, involves the common
experience of its inhabitants. It is responsive, challenging, evolving. It is collective, yet respectful of individual concerns.
Recently, I have had conversations with close friends, whom
I call "sisters" in the community. Each is individually powerful in
her own concerns and expressions in life. Collectively, they share
a bond with the African American culture.
It is interesting to explore oneness and "differentness" among
my sisters. For in doing so, I was reminded that in community
there must be freedom to come and go, to give and to take, to
educate and to learn. There is a choice to be part of, to participate
or to observe. I anticipate future strides from all ofus. And so ...
these expressions of community come as a series of two parts: part
one in this issue, part two in the next issue.]
Interview I: My sister is 30 years old. She is a professional, but
feels she does not always receive the recognition from the system
in which she is employed.
LV: As an African American who is also a Lesbian, what is your
community?
Friend: My community is not the "women's community" because
I don't have many friends or associates in the community. I don't
have any association with the women's community unless I'm out
at the clubs, and I don't go to any Gay functions. I see myself as
outside of the community most of the time.
- shares my interests and concerns. If it does, then the information isn't reaching me.
LV: What do you feel the community needs to offer so that you
feel a part of or can identify with it?
Friend: I feel the community is not focusing on issues that interest
me as a black woman. For me community is not what you live in,
but what you're a part of. I would like to bring in different interest
groups-people who, for instance, would like to have a literature
group, get together and read African American literature and
literature of other cultures.
I would like to hear more about the opportunities being
offered to young Lesbians and Gay teens who need positive role
models and activities to help them through the transitions they
must go through.
I am interested in the political life of the community. I'm
interested in concerns of homelessness, employment, etc. Other
cities offer more diverse activities besides dance clubs, and the
information network seems to b~ better. In Indianapolis, there
aren't many places where women of diverse backgrounds can
come together.
LV: Given what you've shared about the lack of identity for you
in this community, what do you enjoy about the women's community?
Friend: There is a social outlet at the clubs. It offers a place to relax
socially; unfortunately, that's all I presently see. I want to be able
to see more or to know about other opportunities in the community.
continued on page 12
LV: Are there any aspects of the community that you can identify
with?
Friend: I can identify with some parts of the Lesbian community;
however, to me, being a part of a community means being a part
of the activities and organizations of the community. For instance,
as black woman, I participate in activities and functions that
support my African American community. As yet I don't see the
Lesbian or Gay community as offering much which supports me
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Celebrate our Mother Earth
Twenty years ago, on April 11, 1970, Earth Day was established by Sen. Gaylord Nelson of Wisconsin, as an event to honor
the Earth. Today, as never before, our ailing planet requires our
loving care and commitment. How easy it is to become overwhelmed by the many injunctions to recycle, replace incandescent
lighting with fluorescent bulbs, save water, don't dump toxic
products down the drain, mend and repair rather than discard and
replace. (Are all environmentalists so intense?)
While we at L V are indeed committed to making these
important life-style changes in order to save our planet, we
decided that Earth Day would be, for us, a CELEBRATION of our
Mother Earth. We share our vision of this celebration with you:
Plan a dinner party with a period theme somewhere between
Clan ofthe Cave Bear and Patience and Sarah-a time when our
Mother was bountiful, simple and unpolluted.
Certainly, any dinner party begins with a trip (on bike or on
foot, of course) to the market. Remember to take along your string
bag or old paper and plastic bags for re-use. Select organically
grown vegetables, requesting that nothing be wrapped in plastic or
Styrofoam. (Just respond to those weird looks with "Happy Earth
Day!") Choose only glass-contained liquids and non-toxic, biodegradable cleansers. Milk or juice in paper cartons is preferable,
of course, to plastic.
Feeling ever-so-environmentally-correct, you return to your
asbestos-free, radon-free, toxic-free home. Selecting clothes and
linens that have been sunshine-dried, you prepare your celebratory
feast.
Appropriate guest attire might range from various stages of
sky-clad to simple cotton clothing. (Remember: we're back to
basics!) We suggest a menu consisting of foods eaten without
utensils - certainly all plastic, un-recycled paper and Styrofoam
is verboten. Friends may gather to bake bread; let your Lesbian
creativity flow into interesting and exciting shapes to form the
loaves. It would be environmentally appropriate to serve foods
low on the food chain (meatless), such as steamed artichokes,
veggies, rice and beans. (Tofu is not a pre-requisite!) A challenging dessert would be ice cream, (no spoons; fingers only) or for the
less adventuresome, bite-sized chunks of Jello. Of course this
sensuous meal must be savored by candlelight!
Use the dinner hour for consciousness-raising and support for
those who are environmentally disorganized and impaired. Group
discussion of the traumas of recycling ("O.K., so I can live with
dingy laundry, but garbage oozing out of paper bags onto the floor
is where I draw the line" or "Where in my tiny efficiency am I
going to put bins for recycling plastic and newspapers and glass
and aluminum cans?" and "You mean that ifl plant some trees, I'm
really helping the environment?")
If you're not into a dinner party, you might plan a picnic for
the birds and squirrels, get out into the woods, feed the ducks and
geese in Broad Ripple.
Wherever you are on April 22, we hope you will take time to
celebrate Earth Day ... and remember, showering with a friend
saves water!
LV survey- great returns
We would like to extend a special thank you to those who
returned our survey form. We are pleased to be communicating
with so many of you. The results of the survey will be published
in the next issue and LV is evaluating the results to make us even
more responsive to the entire community.
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VISIONS
Statement of Purpose
Lavender Visions is
for me and for you,
for all Lesbians,
for us to connect within
our larger community
so that together we may increase
our respect and support
for each other and ourselves,
affirming, celebrating and
honoring the women we are.
Published bi-monthly. Mailing address: Lavender Visions, P.O.
Box 321, Zionsville, IN 46077. The opinions expressed in
Lavender Visions do not necessarily reflect the views of the
publishers and editors. All material in this publication is intended
for individuals, groups, organizations, and businesses which are
affirming of Lesbians and does not necessarily imply the sexual
orientation of any person except when specifically stated.
Publishers ............ Mary Gaul (M.G.), Nancy VanArsdall Jones
Managing Editor .............................................. Candace Shearls
Editor ...................................................................... D.J. Gridley
Staff ............... Joan Townsend, Deb Mullins, Carol Christopher
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Resources
Indianapolis (317)
AIDS Hotline: 257-HOPE, answered 7-11 PM, every evening.
AIDS: Living the Journey Together: a family therapy group for
persons with AIDS and a care partner, parent, sibling, lover,
friend. Sponsored by Courageous Living Counseling Services, located in Westview Hospital Professional Bldg., 9250043.
Catholic Lesbian Support Group; open to all Catholic and nonCatholic Lesbians who want to explore their Christian faith
within the context of their sexuality; 925-6866 (Martha) or
357-7964 (Carol).
Dignity meets at St. Thomas Aquinas Church, 46th & Illinois,
Sundays at 6 PM; P.O. Box 431, Indianapolis, IN 46202; 9246578 (Drew).
Feminist Writers; 5138 E. North St., Indianapolis, IN 46219;
357-7964 (Carol).
Friends for Lesbian and Gay Concerns (Quaker); 356-8646
(Diane or Perri).
Gay AA meets at Bethlehem Lutheran, Sundays at 7 PM; 6327864.
Gay/Lesbian Switchboard: 253-GAYS (7 - 11 PM).
Gay and Lesbian Codependents Anonymous meets at Winona
Hospital, 3232 N. Meridian St.; 925-1135 (Don), 636-4986
(Joe), 297-0386 (Pam).
Gay Parents Coalition oflndianapolis meets at Holy Eucharist
Church, 38th & Illinois, 2nd Sunday of each month at 7:30
PM; 253-2280 (John)
Indianapolis Youth Group for Lesbian and gay youth ages 23
and under meets bi-weekly. For more information call
Lesbian/Gay Switchboard at 253-GAYS and ask for the
organization's contact person.
Indianapolis NOW meets at Planned Parenthood, 3219 N. Meridian, 2nd Wednesday of each month at 6:30 PM; 925-4641.
Indianapolis Pitch-In: Our monthly pitch-in dinners provide
social and networking opportunities for all Lesbians. Generally, the pitch-in is scheduled for the second Friday of each
month, beginning at 7 PM. The location (and directions, if
necessary) usually is available at Dreams and Swords at least
a week before each pitch-in.
Integrity meets at All Saints Church, 16th and Central, Mondays
at 6:30 PM; 635-3744.
Justice, Inc.: Lesbian resource for issues regarding state laws,
community/police relations, civil rights, Lesbian/Gay conferences, other special events. 1534 E. 10th St., Indianapolis,
IN 46201, 634-9212.
Lesbian Discussion Group: 2nd and 4th Thursday of each
month, 7 - 8:30 PM, at 6356 N. Guilford; 577-2245 (Lori).
Lesbian Incest Survivors Therapy Group. Contact Linda
Gensheimer, (219) 426-5778 (Fort Wayne).
Older Women's Network for Women Over 40 meets at 7707
Lancer Lane, 3rd Tuesday of each month; 54 7-7702 (Sharon
or Carol) or Dreams & Swords.
Our Parents Aren't Straight (for children of Lesbians and
Gays), 3rd Tuesday of each month. No age limits. Parents
can/will meet in different room for discussions; 353-6636
(Debbie or Vicki), 881-0786 (Donna, Ruth, or Judy).
Overeaters Anonymous (for men and women) meets at Dreams
and Swords, 828 E. 64th Street, Fridays at 6:30 PM, 2539966.
P-FLAG (Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays) meets at
Butler University in Atherton Center, Room 312, 2nd Sunday
of each month at 2:00 PM; 251-9307 (Donna).
University Gay/Lesbian Alliance meets at 3754 N. Illinois St.
(Lambda Center). Call 274-2585.
Women's Open Network: 274-5041 or 274-2585 (Sue Moenius).
Womenspired: 274-5041 or 274-2585 (Sue Moenius).
Bloomington (812)
Bloomington Switchboard: 336-4299.
Gay/Lesbian Alliance: 332-184 7.
SPARKS: a social/educational forum for Lesbians. Contact
Marcia, 334-0414, or Carolyn, 339-4283.
Columbus (812)
Pitch-In: for information, call 376-0784.
Switchboard Concern: 293-8671 (24 hours).
Evansville (812)
Tri-State Alliance Meeting meets at Unitarian Universalist
Church, 856 So. Kentucky Ave., 4th Sunday of each month.
Fort Wayne (219)
Dignity/Fort Wayne, P.O. Box 12151, 46862.
Drop-In meets at Up the Stairs Community Center, 3426 Broadway, Fridays at 7:30 PM
Fort Wayne Women's Bureau: 303 E. Washington Blvd., 4247977. Peer Counseling: 9 AM - 2 PM, 426-0023. Rape
Awareness Program Hotline: 426-RAPE.
Liberty (812)
The Pearl: Feminist resource/journal. Contact: Natalie Isaac,
editor, 304 South Fairground, Liberty, IN 47353.
Mishawaka (219)
Open Arms: Monthly newsletter for Michiana Lesbians. Contact:
P.O. Box 845, Mishawaka, IN 46544. Yearly subscription:
$10.00; sample copy: $1.00. Make check payable to Roberta
Miller.
South Bend (219)
Help Line: 232-2522 (9 AM - 5 PM).
Hot Line: 232-3344 (24 Hours).
IUSBU Womyn's Center: 929 Greenlawn, 237-4494.
Monthly Lesbian Potluck and weekly Lesbian support group;
291-3720.
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Who is that masked black woman?
by Deb Mullins
It is not unusual to be sitting in my den with a coke and
cigarette talking about the Emmy Awards, socio-political events,
and the latest developments in the Women's Community with
Donna Jones. Having been friends for many years I thought it
would be an easy task to interview and gather a few thoughts from
Donna's brain when the folks at L Vasked me to do an interview
with her. However, Ms. Jones, known as "DJ" to many, is not a
simple being and my efforts to translate her witty and straightforward personality became no less than a lesson in how to
describe one of your closest friends honestly.
In another life she may have been a captain in the United
States Navy. Picture it, a bright, bold, black woman with a lot of
vision and information that would lead our military in the advancement and protection of our country. (This could have been
possible if that can of prohibited chili and hot plate in the barracks
had not exploded throughout the quarters.) Of course it didn't
happen that way. Fate placed Donna Jones back in our town, and
made her a leader for our community instead.
Donna has made possible many pleasures for us through her
hard work and talents, although often times unnoticed. How many
concerts, dances, and events have you attended where music and
sound reinforcement was needed? Name about any function
~~~~~~~~~~~~~ presented by the women's
community, the Walker
ffl WE ARE ffl
Theatre and other promotions. Who is that masked
EVERYWHERE
black woman with the
1,:;;~~~~~~~~~~~;,1 braided dreadlocks, pens
and patch cords running to
the front of the stage, making sure the microphones aren't plugged
into the guitars? None other than our woman, DJ Jones!
Donna is native to Indianapolis, raised by her working mother,
Kathryn, an IU graduate and research technician at Veteran's
Administration Hospital, as her only child. Flanner House had the
pleasure of monitoring the precocious development of Donna in
day care and after elementary school hours at JPS #23. In-theyear-of-our-war, 1972, Broad Ripple High School ushered Donna
through another rite-of-passage, prepared for the college circuit. I
believe it is all right to reveal her birthday since most "Women
with Awareness" have no outward qualms about their age. As
Lesbians we can revel in the fact we have successfully survived
years of getting to know ourselves and our sisters and have become
stronger throughout our existence. On July 27, 1954, we were
blessed with the future president of the board of Women in the
Arts.
If you visit her home, in Meridian Kessler neighborhood, be
prepared to step lightly. The speakers, records and tapes will only
overwhelm you the first few moments. The rest of the time will be
spent in awe over the collection of electronic devices, musical
instruments, patch cords and hard candy wrappers. In the corner
will be lying the memorable black derby with the stuffed surgical
glove sewn on top. This hat was an early introduction to what I had
to look forward to in our relationship. I just couldn't believe she
actually wore it in public!
Settling back with our cokes and Vivaldi on the stereo, we
began our formal but strange conversation. Strange, only because
I already knew the answers to the questions but didn't quite know
how to ask the questions. So we continued in our usual spirit of jive
and pretended as best we could to be adult-like and appropriate as
possible.
Deb: As a growing but non-aware Lesbian, who do you remember
being your heroine in childhood?
DJ: Well, I always thought Lena Horne was hot. That's who I
followed or looked after - definitely looked. I still look. Shit,
girlfriend looks good! I guess, when I was in high school, I thought
Gloria Steinem was a neat person. And Sonja Sanchez, a black
woman poet. I thought she was pretty together. Those girls I
admired for their heads, definitely for their heads. Lena Horne I
admired for her body.
Deb: What about your experiences with a heterosexual life? Was
that ever a part of your developing identity?
DJ: We don't want to talk about him. He was a pain in the butt!
Besides, I don't think all these girls could handle the fact that, "Oh,
no! Donna Jones had a boyfriend." He was stupid even if he had
had breasts. In high school I didn't have an awareness about much
of anything. I was mostly interested in having a good time. Most
of the kids in my neighborhood were boys. And until later in life,
I was never the most physically affectionate person on the planet,
until I got older.
Deb: Everyone enjoys sharing their coming out stories and it is
important to share with one another. When did this occur for you?
DJ: My coming out process ... I was sitting in the car with you.
You and I used to work together. But we were sitting in the car and
you came out to me. And the only reason that happened was
because you had observed me doing some reading. And I read
everything ... cereal boxes. I really can't put a clear cut time upon
it. We are all brought up to be heterosexual persons, and are all
taught that is the way to be. Lesbianism and homosexuality are
actually never talked about or discussed. Did your parents sit
down with you and say, "Dear, when you grow up, and you meet
that woman in your life ... "? Parents don't have conversations
with their daughters like that nor with their sons. It is always about
that person of the opposite sex. But when I did come out with my
mom, I went to talk to her about this woman I had a serious crush
on. I was being as euphemistic as I possibly could. My mother
finally said, "What is his attitude?" I told her, "Well Mom, firstly
he's a she." She just said, "Oh, I thought so." I had prepared
myself for major breast-beating, gnashing of teeth, pulling of hair,
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maybe chopping off a finger. She didn't do any of that. She just
said, "I thought so." But why in the fuck don't they tell us there
is that possibility in life so we aren't so freaked out? She simply
said, "That's okay, you're still my child and I will always love
you." And that was that. Perhaps they should have articles in
parenting magazines like "Your Child: They Could Grow Up To
Be Lesbian or Gay," along with the many spreads on raising your
child's IQ to 3000 or starting a savings for them before they are
born so they'll have $500 million in the bank for college tuition.
Why not "How to prepare your child for sex, love and heartbreak
even if your daughter's lover is another woman"? Life would be
a lot easier for many of us.
When I was growing up I never ever saw a husband in my
future. I saw the possibility of children but never a husband. I do
believe they have a function in life. Their job is to do the heavy
physical work. That's why god made them bigger and stronger, so
they could go out and cut the trees and drag them back. I'll pay
them, but that's the majority of men's function in my life.
Deb: In our lessons oflearning about ourselves and identifying our
needs, what strengths do you draw upon as a Lesbian?
DJ: What does it mean to be a Lesbian? I guess you have to think
about politics. For me that's what it is. A socio-political definition. Trying to build community, and community is broad and
diverse. Within that community I can have my needs met. A long
term vision would include work that I choose to do. Doing that,
I can offer price breaks on services that I perform for other women.
It's a spiritual thing as well. That I really can't define. I have a
genuine closeness with women in my life that are heterosexually
identified. That too is a part of that community - being able to
allow those people to be as they are unconditionally and still have
a genuine and heart-felt bond with those people. I have some men
in my life - that little black man Melvin, who I've known since
grade school and stay in close contact with. I believe that we care
about one another. It also means I am secure and strong enough
within myself to know and accept women who are radical separatist women, who are heterosexually identified, heterosexual men
and some Gay men. Just being able to embrace a broad spectrum
of humanity. That's a real inner type of thing.
Deb: In daily living we must nurture and affirm our identities and
personalities. How do you feed these affirmations?
DJ: Because I have this broad spectrum of humanity I get
something from all these people. I guess if I had to pick my ace
number one "she-ro," it would have to be my mom and her mother
before her. My mother passed on to me some very good advice.
She gave me some basic tools for living well and living right. One
of the things was, "Surround yourself with people that can help
you." The other thing she told me, and she started telling me these
things when I was a little bitty shit, was, "Be nice to everybody,
... there are some things they [people at
work] cannot say around me, "In my
presence,you w/11 not call people heebs,
wops, spies, or queers."
because all the people you meet on the way up are also the people
you meet on the way back down." Just being able to keep those two
things in mind a big part of the time makes me comfortable with
who I am and what I do.
Deb: In the work place, do you run into any confrontations or
concerns as a Lesbian?
DJ: I work at Channel 59, WXIN TV, Fox (they'll love that I put
that in here). I'm the senior film editor and what I do is watch a
lot of TV. I take out the sex, the naked people, the dirty words you
cannot say on television and put in breaks for the commercials and
sometimes I make them shorter. I also happen to be an independent sound reinforcement contractor. I have every reason to believe
homophobia exists because most of the men I work with are
straight. New people that are hired in our department, I generally
sit them down and tell them there are things they cannot say around
me, "In my presence you will not call people heebs, wops, spies,
or queers." There just are things I will not allow around me. I don't
encounter any problems related to work.
Deb: Because of nonacceptance and potential threats how do you
handle personal and professional attitudes about being in or out of
the proverbial closet?
DJ: I don't know. I don't have an opinion on that. I suppose I'm
like most people on the planet. If it comes up in conversation, I
deal with it; if it doesn't, I don't. You know? I mean, I discuss
issues with people at work. With this 24-year-old white boy, in
fact. We ran an episode of a show called "Hard Copy." It was a
week that was a ratings week. The topic of the week was "sex in
America" and reporters had secretly attended a meeting of the
North American Man/Boy Love Association. I have a real
problem with those people. They did a segment and had footage.
We talked after the fact about the implications of this particular
group of people concerning civil rights and human rights and the
political lobbying for them and how the NAMBLA as an organization of pediphiles impacted upon civil rights and human rights
legislation passage for Lesbians and Gay men. So, I mean, I talk
about issues and not about myself personally. I don't come up and
say, "Hello, I'm Donna Jones, your friendly neighborhood African American Lesbian." I don't do that. I talk about my life. No
more, no less. I have no concerns of visibility.
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NWMF Spirituality Conference '90: Strength in community
by Pat Jordan
Goddesses, witches, chants, magic, Native American traditions, Afrikan dance and tradition - all these and more have
blended at the National Women's Music Festival (May 31 - June
3) as women explore their own spirituality. Each year more
women at the festival have come together to struggle with what
happens to spirituality when we leave the patriarchy out of it and
focus on ourselves.
We have learned that ancient spirituality was women centered, that in the long-ago past, everyone worshipped the goddess,
and that ancient bits of wisdom have been passed to us through the
Tarot cards and by word of mouth through a long line of witches.
We have learned that we can create our own spiritual traditions and rituals to meet the needs of each ofus today. We have
learned that we each have an essential spiritual side and that it is
in and through this spiritual (not necessarily religious) piece that
we experience connectedness to one another and the universe.
At the NWMF, women who are exploring their own spirituality share their experience and intuitive knowing in workshops
and presentations through which we each come in closer contact
with our own Higher Power. This year featured presenters are
Margot Adler, Shekhinah Mountainwater, Arisika Razak, and
Nan Brooks and Jane Winslow, and AmyLee - each of whom
brings her own piece of spiritual perspective to share.
Shekhinah Mountainwater says of herself, "I came here (the
earth) to do the Goddess's work." And she does this through
music, dance and ritual creation. She believes we need a female
cosmology, and so she has set about to create one through myths,
particularly the Persephone Myth, and an understanding of seasonal holidays.
She began calling herself a witch about six or seven years ago
because she felt it was the one word that described all the things
she was-writer, mythmaker, poet, songster, teacher, etc. Shekhinah emphasizes the political implications of the title "witch." She
speaks of the nine million burned, the total rejection of woman's
power, and the deep fear the patriarchy has of womanliness.
"Witch" personifies all this, reclaiming the ancient wisdom of the
Mother. She will be creating ritual in Bloomington with the
women in her workshop, ever seeking to define and reawaken the
spirituality in each of us.
Arisika Razak works as a midwife in a hospital. She also
describes herself as a healer, spiritual dancer and a student of
Afrikan, Native American and Celtic spiritual traditions. Her
work is a blend of all those traditions into a creation that is uniquely
her own. Through dance, movement, music, guided imagery and
art, she seeks to reawaken the sacred feminine within each of us.
At the Festival, Arisika will focus on healing wounds and
generating the power of female sexuality. Participants will find
their sacred ground of being and experience their own power. In
the Vulva dance, Arisika works to have each participant reclaim
and rekindle the sacred fire of femininity. And, in her workshop
on Shakti, Arisika reclaims the creative work sustaining life force
- the female power of creativity.
Nan Brooks and Jane Winslow will be performing Women
of the Gateway at this year's Spirituality Conference.
Arisika places the emphasis on each woman's own definition
of spirituality and provides a vehicle for its expression. Her
workshops are not about Arisika's spirituality, but rather about
each women's claiming/reclaiming of her own creative life force.
Nan Brooks and Jane Winslow will be featured in Bloomington with another performance of"Women of the Gateway." Their
production is ritual as well as theater and it encourages each
member of the audience to become a participant in the re-membering of women's history and spirituality. A blend of the ancient and
modern, "Women of the Gateway" evokes in women who allow
it a re-membering of our ties to one another, our herstory, and our
spirituality.
Margot Adler, a neopagan and wiccan priestess, is the author
of Drawing Down the Moon, a scholarly yet fascinating look at
ancient and modern goddess-centered religions. Religion is
defined very differently by neopagans. They point out that the root
of the word religion means to relink and connect and so religion
makes connections between human beings and the universe.
Neopagans therefore consider articles on ecofeminism, for instance, to be religious in nature.
While exceedingly diverse in their beliefs and practices, the
neopagans described in Adler's book have some commonalties.
They believe that everything in the universe is a part of Divinity
and that the goddess dwells within each of us. We may all
experience periods in which we are out of touch with our essential
connection to the universe but there is no such thing as sin. Finally,
there is the belief that the energy we send out into the world comes
back to us in another form, so energy is transformed- the essence
of magic.
Adler says in her preface to the 1986 revised edition of her
work that "the real message of Drawing Down the Moon is that the
spiritual world is like the natural world- only that there is no one
spiritual path; each of us must find and reclaim our own." The
NWMF Spirituality Conference challenges each of us to do just
that.
April/May 1990
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Bulletin Board
Women in the Arts Presents (fund-raising for NWMF): •
Art Exhibit and Sale featuring women artists of Indiana,
Saturday and Sunday, April 21-22, wine and cheese
reception; location to be announced.
Karen Beth in Concert, Friday, April 27, Bloomington.
For information call Carolyn VandeWiele (812) 3394283.
Karen Beth in Concert, Saturday, April 28, Indianapolis.
For information call Mary Byrne (317) 923-5574.
Deb Mullins in Concert, Saturday, May 5, Unitarian Universalist Church, 615 W. 43rd St., Indianapolis. For information call Mary Byrne (317) 923-5574.
[For more information about any of the above events, call
Mary Byrne (317) 923-5574.]
Hunter Davis at Mugwumps, Friday, April 13, 608 Massachusetts Ave., Indianapolis, (317) 635-7115.
Deb Mullins at Mugwumps, Friday, April 27, 9 PM, 608 Massachusetts Ave., Indianapolis, (317) 635-7115.
EARTH DAY, April 22.
More Light Churches Conference, April 27-28, Central Presbyterian Church, 318 W. Kentucky St., Louisville, KY. Theme
is "Integrating Sexuality and Spirituality: A Call to the
Churches." For more information, call Jim Oxyer (502) 8975719 (home) or (502) 569-5005 (work) or call Nick Wilkerson (502) 635-7003 (home) or (502) 568-7590 (work).
Football & Picnic: Sports-minded Lesbians interested in coming
together to organize a monthly crunch and munch. First
meeting is Sunday, May 13, 1 PM. For information, call Pam
(317) 784-4410.
"Into the Gay '90s with Pride", Pride Celebration on Monument
Circle in Indianapolis, Saturday, June 16, 5-9 PM. Part of
Indiana's 1990 Gay/Lesbian Pride Week, sponsored by Justice, Inc. For more information, call Ruth Peters (317) 2531460 (home) or (317) 635-4059 (work) or call Justice (317)
634-9212.
National Women's Music Festival (NWMF), Thursday - Sunday, May 31-June 3, Bloomington, IN. Here are some of the
featured performers, speakers, writers: May Sarton, Minnie
Brua Pratt, Karla Jay, Kay Leigh Hagan, Rachel Bagby,
Shekinah Mountainwater, Arisika, Nan Brooks & Jane
Winslow, Buffy Sainte-Marie,Adrianne Torf, Ferron, Holly
Near, Heather Bishop, Linda Tillery, and Deidre McCalla.
Don't miss it-save some vacation days for these dates! For
more information, contact the Indiana University Conference Registrar at (812) 331-7799.
Catholics for a Free Choice. A local chapter of Catholics for a
Free Choice is presently forming. CFFC supports reproductive freedom for women; activities include providing educational programs, meetings with Catholic legislators, and
networking with other pro-choice organizations. For more
information, contact Carol LeMasters, 1538 E. North St.,
Indianapolis IN 46219 or call (317) 357-7964.
Womyn's Tennis League. A spring-summer womyn's tennis
league is forming. Will include both beginners and more
experienced players. Some instruction for beginners could be
available. Please contact Dian Miller (317) 924-7906 (work)
or (317) 243-8939 (home) or Laurie Anderson (317) 9247906.
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Masked woman
continued from page 6
Deb: Amidst all of your committees and projects, do you have
time to envision dreams for the future?
will be endowed with the capabilities for funding women artists.
That's a long-term vision. I suppose a short-term vision is to win
the lottery, even though I have yet to buy one ticket. Also, I would
like to see this year's attendance at the NWMF grow at least 50%.
This is our opportunity to develop and encourage women artists
both nationally and locally. Everyone leaves with something from
the festival and it sustains a feeling of enrichment and celebration
throughout the year, not just for that weekend. A special interest
has been developed to encompass an Alliance For All Women.
We wish to exchange and communicate the desires of all races,
physical abilities and economic stratospheres. I personally invite
all women to join us this year. We have an exciting line-up of
conferences and concerts. Need I say more?
DJ: I am president of the board of directors for Women in the Arts,
National Women's Music Festival. One dream I have is that
Women in the Arts can become a grant-giving organization that
With that, Donna and I knew we had given it our best shot. So
we lit another cigarette, turned up the stereo and stared at the silent
video on VH-1 of Paula Abdul gyrating to "Opposites Attract."
Deb: As a developing woman did you have role models that
helped you envision and teach you how to accomplish your
dreams?
DJ: There are no role models in my career. And I do not see myself
as a role model. But I didn't think of myself as being interesting
enough for an interview, so what do I know?
Our parents aren't straight
A new discussion group for children of Gays and Lesbians is
forming. The group, "Our Parents Aren't Straight," would like to
involve children of all ages, parents, and partners/co-parents.
The purpose of the group is to provide a time for children to
get together and share common problems, questions, concerns,
fears, and some answers. The group would also like to provide
opportunities for future social events (bowling, movies, picnics,
etc.). The intention is to include adult children of Gays/Lesbians,
as well as teens and pre-teens. Eventually, this group will work
into a Hotline Network for those times when our kids need to talk
to another person who is in the same position and find out how they
would ( did) react to a crisis. Or maybe they just need to talk to
another kid and blow off some steam! A sort of Big Brother/Big
Sister organization with support from kids who understand the
EXTRA pressures of living in a Gay/Lesbian family.
At the same time that the kids meet, there will be a Coffee
Group time for parents and partners/co-parents - an informal
discussion group with other adults who also face the extra problems and pressures of raising kids in a Gay/Lesbian family.
It is not mandatory that parents attend, nor is it mandatory that
kids must attend if the parents come. These meetings are intended
to be informal, friendly, warm, and supportive - a time for
sharing and caring.
If you are interested in joining (or know of anyone with kids
who might be interested), please call Vickie or Debbi at 353-6636
or Ruth, Donna, or Judy at 881-0786.
The mood was really In the groove recently at the
community dance sponsored by Women In the Arts on
February 24th. Great sounds were provided by the
lovely deejay for an evening offest Ive fun. If you missed
the dance, there are several more WIA events scheduled
In the next few months. See the Bulletin Board for
details. All proceeds go to support the 1990 National
Women's Music Festival.
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Community
continued from page 1
Interview II: My sister is an African American who is in the
profession of chemistry and research. She is 32 years old.
Friend: The question of community is an interesting question. I
was just talking about this to a Gay male friend of mine. It's one
thing to be a woman in a white world, another to be a black woman
in a white world, and still another to be a Lesbian black woman in
a white world. It's like having a triple whammy or standard to live
by.
To a certain extent I want to feel accepted in this community.
But at the same time, I want to keep a part of me that allows me to
identify strongly with my culture.
LV: What does community mean to you?
Friend: I guess community means something almost like a family
- that there is a feeling of closeness, and people look out for each
other when there are needs to be met.
LV: How does the Lesbian community meet your definition of
community for you?
Friend: I feel that since I'm not very active in the community, it
doesn't meet my definition. And from the people that I've met
who are involved in the community, they aren't very friendly.
There's not a lot of activities to participate in, not much that is
fulfilling. For instance, an inter-denomination group or prayer
study group, or a volunteer service group would be great. Outside
of the sexual-social experience, there's not much identity for me.
LV: Do you feel that the spiritual (Christian) experience is important in your community?
Friend: Yes, definitely. It is a personal value that serving God
through the life of the community, and learning more about
relationships with people strengthens us. I think one's spirituality
helps make relationships lasting ones.
One of the differences I see between the black community and
the Lesbian community is that in the black community, one of its
foundations is the church. In the Lesbian community, the foundation seems to be social. I don't mean to stereotype, but from my
observations, this is the impression I get.
LV: What keeps you from being more active in the community?
Friend: The lack of activities such as volunteer services, study
groups, issues addressing parenting, children, etc., that provide a
purpose for gathering besides drinking, drag shows, and bars.
LV: What are some ways the Lesbian community can reach
women of minority groups, especially black women?
Friend: Person to person contact, visual contact through flyers,
bulletin boards, etc., that offer people an opportunity to get
involved. Have someone ask black women for their input.
Interview III: My sister is a professional woman in social
services. She is 42 years old.
LV: As a woman who loves other women, describe your identity
with the Lesbian community.
Friend: I don't have an identity in the women's community and I
don't know exactly why. I'm fairly new to the community in terms
of being involved with a woman lover. As I foresee becoming a
part of the community in the future, I don't know if this will happen
in Indianapolis. I say this, due to the type of political interests I
have and due to my religious commitments here.
I see the need to be very careful, due to the fact that I am very
involved in a "traditional" religious community. There's no way
that the two can interface here in Indianapolis. This is because I
choose to attend the church I attend, not because the Lesbian
community won't allow it. It is possible that this would change if
I attended at a different place.
Another problem in my involvement in the community is lack
of information. I don't have information; I don't subscribe to any
publications that give me information on activities or religious
celebrations among Lesbian women.
LV: ls religion the only reason you don't identify with the
women's community?
Friend: I don't know how well, or if, the women's community
embraces integration of cultures and the political issues I'm
interested in. I haven't seen it at the Women's Music Festival.
There's more to binding us together than being women. My
concerns go beyond sexism or being a woman. I'm concerned
with economic issues, homelessness, parenting, etc. These issues
impact women of color in different ways than from majority
culture.
LV: What, then, does community mean to you?
Friend: Community means to me a place to belong, a place to be
comfortable, a place to be liberated. I think this is why I stick to
being involved in my religious community. If offers me these
things. Community means family, friends.
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Community
continued from page 12
While we have some common ground, I don't see women embracing other women, regardless of the issue or culture. There's
still a certain level of"ism" involved that is oppressive. Until this
oppression is addressed, it is going to be difficult for me to become
involved.
Outreach to women of color means personal contact. There
needs to be a genuine invitation of friendship that is recognizable
without peeling back too many layers. I also realize that black
women have to be willing to participate and involve themselves.
LV: What are some positive things you see about the women's
community?
Friend: From what I've seen there is networking among women
for businesses, non-traditional experience, the freedom of expression to embrace and be intimate with each other, etc. The fact that
there is a Women's Music Festival in Bloomington to connect with
is very positive. I can appreciate that there are women in the
community who recognize the need for more women of color to be
involved and are willing to put forth energy to help bring that
about.
I learned to love myself and not to believe in those images I
was taught in my youth. Those images were that all Lesbians are
unattractive, lonely, have no friends, are usually destructive and/
or poverty-stricken. I was fortunate that at Antioch, many of the
college leaders and professors were Lesbian/Gay and provided an
important environment and institutional backup. I was supported
by people who valued every kind of human expression.
Humans have to make a commitment, whether it is using their
power in institutions, schools, churches, or other spiritually-based
places. Whether in their personal life, or wherever, commitment
has to be there somewhere. People have to be that bridge where
knowledge and understanding are considered ideals to live up to
as opposed to ignorance and oppression. I hear a lot of excuses.
I talk to school teachers who ask how they can bring a positive
influence or image to their class. I say, ask a Lesbian to come and
talk to the class. Perhaps not about being a Lesbian, but about their
art or profession. Allow her to be a bridge, a positive influence.
There is no reason to be trapped in ignorance, prejudice, racialism,
sexism, heterosexism, etc.
So, that's my commitment. To be honest, out there, to be
whole.
[Part II of this Conversation will follow in the next issue of
Lavender Visions.]
Interview IV: My sister is an independent, award-winning
filmmaker and writer. She is 25 years old.
LV: What does being in the community mean to you?
Friend: Being out in the community is very, very important to me.
I realize not everyone can do that, but I am fortunate enough to be
in a position where I can. Personally, I don't think I could expect
to raise my child, sensitizing her and positioning her in society, if
I wasn't very out and very proud. I think we are at at point in our
lives and in the world where we are having to integrate harmony
into our lives and into our beings.
Being out personally is a way of relieving bigotry around me.
Being out is akin to toilet training a child. I'm presently going
through toilet training with my child, so this is a good analogy. It
can be kind of messy, but then things start to click. It works and
it's great! It becomes natural. People appreciate honesty. I'm
being very honest and people are very appreciative.
I also believe being out is providing a positive image. I was
very fortunate in Ohio where I went to school. I was in the
company of women artists who were very open and out of the
closet. What these people did for me was incredible! They saved
my life. Coming full force at the world, to be who you are, is
important.
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You must've been a beautiful baby ...
These adorable faces belong to the members of our
exuberant Lavender Visions' staff just a "few"
years ago - Candace, Carol, Deb, Dorin, Joan,
M.G., and Nancy. Can you recognize us or can
you guess who we are? Don't despair, for in the
next issue, we'll show you up-to-date pictures.
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Happy Birthday, Lavender Visions! Reflections on the 1st year
[Editor's Note: Several of the staff members ofLavender Visions
offer their thoughts on the first year of publication.]
As a new staff member of Lavender Visions, I can appreciate
the vision and determination of the women who gave us that first
issue. The purpose of their efforts was to provide communication
within our community. Thank you for a job well done. I expect
to see the results magnified in the coming year, for both others and
the woman within myself.
Reflecting on this first year of Lavender Visions, one knowing is crystal clear: We have been, and are being, led. Taking on
a second full-time job was certainly not my intention and miraculously, each time I would despairingly think, "I simply can't do
anymore," there would be a wonderful gift- a love letter from a
reader, an anonymous contribution, 10 new subscriptions, a request for information from New York or Oklahoma City, or a
volunteer to write an article. And now as our baby moves into her
second year, I celebrate her growth- to nearly 400 subscriptions
representing 12 states and an energetic and creative staff of 8
committed not only to the philosophy of Lavender Visions, but to
the belief that we can and do have fun doing the paper! Blessed Be!
"Why am I involved in Lavender Visions?" I've asked
myself that question several times in the past year - especially
when the production deadline is fast approaching and I feel a bit
overwhelmed. Each time the answer is different: sometimes I
recognize it as my way of being politically minded; sometimes it's
to fulfill my desire to serve the community; sometimes it's to
foster my own personal growth; sometimes it's to meet new and
wonderful people; and, sometimes, I don't know why. In looking
back at the first year, at this particular moment, I feel that the basis
for "Dorin's Diary"is the most compelling reason - to remind
me, as well as others, of the positive aspects of our lives - that
victories of all magnitudes and types are happening all the time.
The success of Lavender Visions and the excitement I feel about
my involvement, forwhateverthe reason, are two of those triumphs.
A year ago, we talked a dream alive. For twelve months, we
have been discovering the joy, frustration, fear, loneliness, anger,
bewilderment, and ecstasy of publishing Lavender Visions. I
committed my energy to this effort because I wanted to give
something back to the community - the universe - that has
nurtured me for so many years. I thought it would be fun to plant
seeds of affirmation and consciousness raising, and to invite
Lesbians to participate in a sense of community wherever they
may live their daily lives.
In time, L V took on a life of her own and gave to me a deeper
and broader appreciation of community. I felt the rape of the
Alaskan oil spill in the core of my being, the triumph of justice as
the Berlin wall crumbled, and I wept with joy watching Nelson
Mandela speak the freedom of his heart outside of prison walls.
There really is no separation between the beings of this living
planet except those imposed by fear. L V, along with many other
Lesbian/Gay publications, affirm our existence, our experience,
and contribute to diminishing the fear that oppresses all people.
We set out to reach women in Central Indiana and now have
subscribers coast to coast in twelve states. It is immensely
satisfying to be growing in this expanding sense of community.
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April/May 1990
LAVENDER VISIONS
Seasonal Magick
by Shekhinah Mountainwater
The year is a dancing woman
Who is born at the coming of spring
The year is a dancing woman
Of Her birth and death we sing ...
In spring She comes to power
When the red of Her moonbloods come
And She dances and spins towards summer
To the beat of Her passion's drum
'Tis then She becomes so fertile
With the Life that is to come
And She flows with the Love that feeds us
'Til the Harvest Time is done
Then dances and spins towards darkness
All dressed in autumn file
To descend to the time of shadow
And rest from the world's desire
Now Her hair is touched with sliver
Winter's wisdom claims Her soul
And She births the spirit within us
Bringing light and hope to us all
Igniting a blaze in the darkness
To kindle the coming spring
Then dreams 'til Her resurrection
And Her story again begins ...
The year is a dancing woman
Who is born at the coming of spring
The year is a dancing woman
Of Her birth and death we sing ...
Spring Equinox (Kore)
Beltane (Diana)
Summer Solstice (Aphrodite)
Lammas (Habondla)
Autumn Equinox (Persephone)
Hallowe'en (Hecate)
Winter Solstice (Lucina)
Candlemas (Aradia)
[Through Shekhinah Mountainwater: Revised Version, Santa Cruz, California, 9988,
Copyright 1988, Shekhinah Mountainwater]
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