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APRIL, 1991

HERLAND'S ANNUAL

SPRING RETREAT
MAY 17, 18, 19, 1991
ROBBER'S CAVE STATE PARK
The Berland 1991 Spring Retreat will be held at Robber's Cave State Park, May 17 through 19. This twelfth
semi-annual Berland retreat promises to be extra special.
Music (and dancing!) will be provided by "The Live Band." this band features .noted OKC musicians Elyse Angelo,
Cuchla Fuller, Peggy Johnson, and Mary Reynolds. You won't want to miss this rare performance.
Workshops will be available Saturday and Sunday morning. Anyone intereted in leading a workshop can contact
Berland to reserve a place on the schedule. Some workshops requested last year were racism and race relatons; spirituality;
meditation; internalized homophobia; African American lesbians and bisexuals; married or previously married women;
music empowerment; massage. Either serious or fun workshops are welcome.
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The Saturday evening potluck will present the culinary specialities of each of the women at the retreat. A Friday
evening meal and Saturday and Sunday breakfast will be provided.
Registration for the three-day retreat is $25 - $35, based on your ability to pay. A limited number of scholarships are
also available.

THANKS TO ALL OF YOU ...
. . . who responded generously to the request for donations in the January issue of the Voice Your contributions ~ake it
possible for Berland to continue to publish the Voice. In addition, your contributions tell us that you value the work of
Berland, and provide much needed encouragement. Thanks for your support!
If you have'nt yet made a contribution, please consider a donation of $6 or more to cover the costs of printing and
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MOTHER'S DAY 1991
PEACE CAMP
Mother's Day 1991 will be celebrated with a peace camp at
Pantex, the final assembly plant for all U.S. nuclear weapons. The
event will be hosted by Peace Farm and Red River Peace Network,
May 10 - 12. Activities will take place at the Peace Farm 17 miles
northeast of Amarillo on Highway 60. The theme, "Women Act!
in History," will commemorate women's historical contributions
to peace and justice that we now build upon. Participants
celebrate heroines in our own lives who inspire us to do more, and
will seek to contemplate characters in literature to spark our
imaginations, creativity and sense of innovation in addressing new
challenges of our time. There will be a workshop by Mary
McAnally, activist and writer from Tulsa, on her interpretations
of "writer as activist," "literary characters as models for activism"
and/or "the current world situation from her own perspective."
Also, organizers hope to publish an anthology of women's stories,
skits, songs and poetry presented at open mic Saturday night, to
help fund the event and make a contribution toward a local
scholarship for women re-entering education.
Women from Tulsa might want to meet up with OKC/Norman
women and trek out together in vans on Saturday, May 10. Call or
write Mary McAnally or Cindy Breeding with questions:
Mary McAnally
Cindy Breeding
76 N. Yorktown
1618 S. Harrison
Tulsa, OK 74110
Amarillo, TX 79102
(918) 583-3651
(806) 376-1309
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PEACE
an editorial by Margaret Cox
The war is over, and we are all relieved and thankful that the
killing has stopped. Many of us have been steadfastly opposted to
the war; while we confidently expect history to one day validate
our grief and our regret over our country's actions, our position
today is clearly an extremely unpopular and minority one. It has
sometimes been hard not to feel threatened and intimidated by
aggressive and hostile displays of patriotic fervor; and by the huge
disparity in numbers and in our reactions to the war. The
following words of Martin Luther King, Jr., writing from jail, give
support to those of us who may occasionally waver and grow
weary of seeming to always hear a very different drummer than
"everyone else:"
"Cowardice asks the question-is it safe? Expediency asks the question-is it
politid Vanity asks the question-is it popular? But conscience asks the questionis it right?
And there comes a time when one must take a position that is neither safe, nor
politic, nor popular-but one must take it because it's right."
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WOMEN VETERANS
A new veteran's group has been formed by women aware of a
lack of resources specifically designed for women veterans . The
new organization is called the Pallas Athena Network, named after
the Greek Goddess of Wisdom, Craft and War whose likeness
served as the branch insignia for the Women's Army Corps.
Through their publication, "Pallas Athena," they plan to provide
an open, supportive network environment through which women
veterans can discuss issues and thoughts with other women who
share the common experience of military service. They will
provide articles of interest to women veterans and resource
information, as well as fiction and creative works by women
veterans. They are currently seeking comments and suggestions
for their first issue to be published no later than April 15, 1991.
They encourage ALL women veterans to participate, regardless of
race, creed, religion or sexual orientation. According to their press
release, a special discreet supplement will be published for lesbian
veterans. For further information, contact: The Pallas Athena
Network, P.O. Box 1171, New Market, VA 22844
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EMPLOYMENT OPPORTUNITIES
The Human Rights Campaign Fund, the nation's largest gay and
lesbian political organization, is accepting applications for the
following positions:
• Administrative Assistant, Field Division; Deadline April 5
• Communications Assistant, Communications Dept., Deadline
April 31
• Presidential Project Manager, Political Dept., Deadline Oct. 15
• AIDS Policy Analyst, Legislative Dept., Deadline March 30
• Lesbian Program Director; Deadline April 31
• Mid-West Canvass Coordinator, Field Division; Deadline late
in the year; this position based in Chicago, IL.
• Administrative Assistant, Political Dept., Deadline March 25
• Civil Rights Researcher, Legislative Dept., Deadline March 30
• Summer Internships, Six Depts., Deadline April 15 (Stipend)
For job descriptions or information, please call Anne Thiesen at
(202) 628-4160 . Or, send cover letter and resume to NEW
POSITIONS, Human Rights Campaign Fund, 1012 14th Street
NW, Suite 607, Washington, DC 20005 . All positions (except
interns) include health, life and disability insurance.
HRCF encourages Women, People of Color and Differently
Abled Individuals to apply.
Please Note: We have included the job openings whose deadlines will
have passed before publication of this newsletter with the thought that
deadlines may be flexible; and there was no way to get the information
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INTERESTED IN MEETING AFRICAN AMERICAN WOMEN WITH A FEMINIST PERSPECTIVE? Plans are in the making
for an exclusive African American Women's support group. For additional information read the Voice for future date, time, and place
and/ or call Lisa at 752-8059 .....
THERAPY GROUP FOR LESBIANS ONLY Work on co-dependency, living sober, incest, compulsive eating and dieting, or
internalized homophobia. The group will begin in April on Wednesday evenings. It will be facilitated by Jo L. Soske, M.Ed./CAC. Call
Drug Recovery Inc. for appointment, 843-5319. Sliding scale fees are available ... .. .
A GATHERING OF JEWISH LESBIAN DAUGHTERS OF HOLOCAUST SURVIVORS. April 19 - 21, 1991, in New
Hampshire. If you are a Jewish Lesbian whose parent or parents survived the holocaust, join us for a weekend of workshops, networking
and support around the issues we share. For more information contact: JLDHS, Box 6194, Boston, MA 02114 ... . .
WRITERS' CONFERENCE. WOMONWRITES '91, the 13th annual Southeastern Lesbian Writers' Conference, will be held May 29
-June 2 in Central Georgia. Workshops, open readings, affinity groups, discussion and recreation .. . to inspire and stimulate creativity
among Lesbian writers in all stages of development. $60 (more or less), limited registration. For more information and/or registration send
S.A.S.E. to: Womonwrites '91, c/ o Miriam Carroll, 1503 Park Road SE, Atlanta, Georgia 30315 . . ...
The 5th annual GOLDEN THREADS Celebration will be held June 28 - 30, 1991 at the Provincetown Inn in Provincetown,
Massachusetts. GOLDEN THREADS is a worldwide social network of lesbians over 50 and women who are interested in older women.
For information contact: Christine Burton, GOLDEN THREADS, P.O. Box 3177, Burlington, VT 05401 .....
FEMINIST WOMEN'S WRITING WORKSHOPS, INC. will be held on the campus of Wells College, Aurora, NY July 14 -26, 1991.
Guest writers will be Jewelle Gomez and Grace Paley. For information contact P.O. Box 6583, Ithaca, NY 14851 .....
The 4th annual "CREATING CHANGE" Conference sponsored by the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force will be held November
9 - 12 in Alexandria, VA. The conference will feature two pre-conference institutes-People of Color Organizing Institute, and the
Diversity Training Institute. A Campus Organizing Institute will follow the conference. For information contact: Brian Albert, Creating
Change Coordinator, NGLTF, 1734 14th St. N.W., Washington, DC 20009, (202) 332-6483 .....
THE OKLAHOMA GAY & LESBIAN POLITICAL CAUCUS is looking for one or two people who would like to follow legislation
that is affecting lesbian and gay people. If anyone would like to help, please call ( 405) 524-2121. There is currently a bill in process which
would severely curtail the right of HIV infected people to hold jobs in the food service industry. Apparently, the bill's authors and sponsors
would rather support HIV infected people on public assistance programs instead of having them retain jobs and pay taxes .. . . .
BENEDICTINE PEACE HOUSE SPRING FORUM SPEAKER. Allan Nairn, nationally recognized investigative journalist, will
speak on "Death Squad Governments in Central America: Holding the U.S. Accountable" on Sat., April 6, at Conner Center of Our
Lady's Cathedral, ll05 NW 32nd, OKC. There will be a "Fiesta de Guatemala" at 6 p.m., followed by the lecture by Mr. Nairn at 7:30
p.m. Nairn writes for the New Yorker, the New York Times, the Washington Post, New Republic and other journals . . . . .
DON'T FORGET THE GARAGE SALE ON APRIL 13th at the Fairagrounds. Yes, the date IS April 13th, not March 30th. You still
have time to donate all your good stuff to a good cause. Call 521-9696 if you need somethng picked up. NO MORE CLOTHES!
Thanks . . ... .
HERLAND'S ANNUAL SPRING RETREAT is set for May 17, 18 and 19. Register before May 10th and get a price break ($25 -$35
sliding scale, which includes 3 meals). Otherwise registration is $35. A limited number of scholarships are available. Contact HSR early if
you want to be considered for a scholarship. The retreat is being held at Robbers Cave State Park. See front of newsletter for details.

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WOMEN'S THEATER AT
MICHIGAN FESTIVAL

Sam L. Nicolosi, D.V.M.

NICOLOSI ANIMAL HOSPITAL
4015 N.W. 23rd
Oklahoma City

by Appointment
Phone (405) 947-5545

APRIL IS "PREVENT
A LITTER" MONTH
Each year in Oklahoma City alone, over 50,000 homeless pets
are destroyed in animal shelters; and of course countless others
wander forlorn and abandoned until hunger, illness, or injury
overtake them.
To help combat this appalling situation, Volunteers for Animal
Welfare and numerous veterinary clinics in the OKC area are
sponsoring a reduced-cost spay and neuter campaign. These
veterinarians are offering a variety of reduced sterilization fees
beginning April 1, for a limited time. Call YAW at 842-7882 or
843-4755 for a list of the participating veterinary clinics.
It's a fact, too, that spaying and neutering helps your cat or dog
lead a happier, healthier life, and makes it a better pet.
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HAVE YOU ALWAYS
WANTED TO BE
A WRITER?
The editors of The Herland Voice encourage our readers to write
articles, poetry, or announcements for publication (maximum
length 500 words). We do reserve the right to edit all articles
submitted for length, spelling and grammar. Articles that are
found to be slanderous or which are clearly contrary to the
Mission Statement of Herland Sister Resources (as published in
the February 1991 Voice) will not be printed. Please let us know if
you wish to use your name, pseudonum or initials (or none of the
above).

PUBLISHED BY: Herland Sister Resources, Inc. 2312 NW 39th,
Oklahoma City, OK 73112

Barbara Harrell and Diana Martin are starting a new series at the
national Women's Music Festival and are interested in conversations with women or groups of women interested in participating in
this year's musical comedy production "Dos Lesbos ." Any woman
interested in technical theater is invited to contact them .
They are also looking for presenters for theatre-related workshops during the festival and groups of women who would like to
bring their own production to the festival The New Drama Series
will initiate a contest this year, calling for original work by women
playwrights. The winning script will be produced as the series
showcase production.
Dates for the 17th National Women's Music Festival are May 30
through June 2, 1991 . You may contact Harrell and Martin at 5109
N . College Avenue, Indianapolis, Indiana 46205 .
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Woman to Woman Counseling

1010 N.W. 45th
· Oklahoma City, Oklahoma 73118
(405) 524-1062

FALSE HOPE?
New York Consumer Affairs Commissioner Mark Green has
charged two companies with violating the New York City
Consumer Protection Law by misleading people with AIDS and
HIV infection in ads that promise a cure for the disease.
Advertisements for "Immune+ Plus'' claimed that the ''balanced
vitamin, mineral and protein product" could restore the immune
systems of persons who have AIDS or HIV infection. The ads also
stated that at the end of a 180 day study, none of the patients who
took the product' 'remained in the AIDS category,'' and that results
from its use are "nothing short of miraculous."
"In fact, this ad is nothing short of cruel and fraudulent," said
commissioner Green on filing the unprecedented legal action.
"There is no known substance or medication that can restore the
immune system or cure AIDS. The ads for "Immune+Plus" crassly
exploit people who are either sick with AIDS or at risk _of getting
the disease. And if people who are HIV positive decide to take
"Immune+Plus" rather than approved medical treatments, the
advertisements are potentially life-threatening."
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NEWSLETTER COMMITTEE:
Margaret Cox, Deborah Fox, Pat Reaves
CIRCULATION : 750
GENERAL INFO: (405) 521-9696 (leave message)
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"Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run
than outright exposure. The fearful are caught
as often as the bold."

•• • Helen Keller
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April 24-28

MEET ME IN

ATLANTA!

A Woman-to-Womon Gathering
finding strength through our diversity.
The National Lesbian Conference is committed to safer and accessible space
for all lesbians. Join us in celebrating the choice to relate across differences
and enjoy wimmin from all the various ways of lesbian lives.

Meet me in Atlanta!

April 24-28

NATIONAL LESBIAN CONFERENCE, P.O. BOX 1999
DECATUR, GA 30031
(404) 373-0000
TIY/Volce
The NLC is committed to fighting racism and all forms of oppression. ·The NLC is commiNed to
accessibility for all lesbians with disabilities. The NLC respects cultural and spiritua! diversity.
Fragrances and scents make some lesbians ill. Please refrain from using such products at NL C
sponsored events. All NLC sponsored events are chem-free and the NLC affirms lesbians in recovery.

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Office: 1649 McLendon NE, Atlanta, GA 30307
Mailing Address: P.O. Box 1999. Decatur, GA 3003 J
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DIVERSITY* SOLIDARITY* EMPOWERMENT
APRIL 24-26, 1991 - ATLANTA, GEORGIA

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THIS CONFERENCE IS FOR, BY AND ABOUT LESBIANS AND IS OPEN ONLY TO WOMEN

Dear Sisters,
The National Lesbian Conference -- the first grass roots event of its kind in history is fast approaching. April 24-28, 5,000 lesbians from across the U.S. are expected to be
in Atlanta, Georgia to attend plenaries, workshops, concerts, arts and crafts shows, and to
create a national lesbian agenda.
Thus far, four plenary panelists have been confirmed: Urvashi Vaid, Director of the
National Gay and Lesbian Task Force; Angela Bowen, Co-Chair of the National Coalition for
Black Lesbians and Gays; Barbara McDonald, co-author of Look Me in the Eye, a book about
old women and ageism; and Joyce Hunter, Director of Social Services at the Hetrick-Martin
Institute for the Preservation of Lesbian and Gay Youth.
There will be a dance in the Grand Ballroom of the Radisson Hotel on Friday night
featuring live music by Yer Girlfriend. Saturday night events include an extravaganza at
the Atlanta Civic Center highlighting comedy, song, and dance with Theresa Trull, Alix
Dobkin, Sue Fink, Lea Delaria, The Washington Sisters, Karen Williams, Gale Reter, and the
Two-Spirited Thunder People Native American Dance Troupe.
Workshops have been divided into the following tracks: Lesbian Sexuality; Lesbian
Studies (including international); Family Issues; Legal and Civil Rights Issues; Spirituality/Religion; Health; Education; Anti-Oppression (including anti-semitism, sexism, and
homophobia); and Potpourri (miscellaneous subjects). There are also tracks for Old
Lesbians, Native American Lesbians, Deaf Lesbians, Young Lesbians, and Lesbians with Disabilities.
No speakers, presenters, or performers will be paid. Conference organizers made this
decision as a very specific tactic to confront the classism in our society that measures
a person's ability to contribute by creating a value system based on dollars. The entire
philosophical foundation of organizing this Conference has been to make it possible to
come together as equals on all levels. This decision in no way devalues or disempowers
women but in fact brings women closer to our true power. When we value the life experience and accumulated wisdom of the poor woman who lives on the street as much as the
multi-degreed and well-known professional then we will have indeed germinated the seed of
revolution and positive social change.
Individuals who will be paid for their work at the Conference, such as childcare
coordinators and sign language interpreters, are those whose positions create access for
women who would not otherwise be able to attend.
The NLC's charter states that the goal of the Conference is to develop a national
lesbian agenda; and includes the potential for continuity -- that out of the dialogue
begun in planning this conference a model could be created that would evolve into an organizational entity to carry that agenda forward into the Nineties.
This focus is what distinguishes the Conference from a festival. This Conference
brings together the diverse issues and experiences of lesbians lives so that we can find
the common threads and define the things that empower us, the issues that unite us. At
the very least we will discover how far we have come in learning to listen to each other,
and at best we will form the nucleus of a national movement framed around specific issues
and having clear direction.
On-site registration for women who have not pre-registered will be available in
Atlanta. Registration fees are on a sliding scale from $0 - $250, depending on income
and ability to pay.
NLC policies include the following: The NLC is committed to fighting racism and all
forms of oppression. The NLC is committed to accessibility for all lesbians with disabilities . The NLC respects cultural and spiritual diversity. Fragrances and scents make
some lesbians ill; please be sensitive in your use of these products at NLC-sponsored
events. All NLC-sponsored events are chem-free and the NLC affirms lesbians in recovery.
For more information about the NLC call Stephanie Jo Kent at 317-923-6309 or Mary Lu
Lewis at 404-373-0000 V/TDD.
So, isn't it time to decide to . • . . . MEET ME IN A1LANTA

BECAUSE
Because women's work is never done and is
underpaid or unpaid or boring or repetitious
and we're the first to get the sack
and what we look like is more important than
what we do and if we get raped it's our fault
and if we get bashed we must have provoked it
and if we raise our voices we're nagging bitches
and if we enjoy sex we're nymphos
and if we don't we're frigid
and if we love women it's because
we can't get a "real" man
and if we ask our doctor too many questions
we're neurotic and/or pushy and
if we expect community care for our children
we're selfish and if we stand up for our rights
we're aggressive and "unfeminine"
and if we don't we're typical, weak females
and if we want to get married
we're out to trap a man
and if we don't we're unnatural
and because we can't get an adequate,
safe contraceptive but men can walk
on the moon and if we can't cope
or don't want a pregnancy
we're made to feel guilty about abortion and ...
for lots and lots of other reasons . . .
we are part of the women's liberation movement.

. .. The above manifesto was sent to Herland by the
director of a battered women's shelter; also, it
appeared last year in the Oklahoma Peace Strategy
with an attribution to the National Union of Students
Women's Campaign, London, England.

WHY WE DON'T
WANT MEN TO
VOTE

THE SILENCE OF THE LAMBS
A REVIEW by Rhonda Smith
"A very powerful movie." "Extremely well-made." "Thought provoking." "Excellent
acting." Yes, these comments, made by women, are all true. Which is what makes this movie
all the more frightening. Very early in the movie I thought, 'I should leave now. This is
definitely a misogynist film.' But I decided to stay, to watch it to its conclusion, and to watch
it with an eagle eye in order to write this editorial with as much information as possible. My
conclusion? "A very dangerous movie. One that romanticizes pathological brutality and
sexualizes not just violence against women but the death of women."
There are two pathological characters in the movie: one who eats his victims (and is in a
maximum security prison) and the other who skins his victims (and is on the loose, preying,
of course, on women).
As the story develops, a young woman is abducted by the skinner. There is a scene where
he has beaten her essentially unconscious and has her in his van. The camera shots are
rapidfire images of the man moving her body around, turning her over, removing her dress.
You never get a clear image, just glimpses and suggested images. At one point the woman's
dress has hiked up and there is a brief image of her thighs and buttocks. It could be a very
well-choreographed, intense love scene, but it's not. You are fully aware that she will be
murdered. The message portrayed is that the death of a woman is "sexy."
Meanwhile, there is the main storyline developing of the relationship between an FBI
agent (Jody Foster) and a diabolical "cannibal" (played by Anthony Hopkins). Foster has
been assigned to interview Hopkins in order to gain insight into the character of serial killers
and perhaps provide the FBI with information on how to track the skinner.
Although Hopkins did not prey solely on women when he was committing his crimes, he
constantly makes comments and reference to images of sexual mutilation of women. He
takes a twisted delight in making our heroine uncomfortable in this regard. And yet there is a
"friendship" that develops between the two of them, one that is sexually charged.
At the end of the movie, Hopkins has escaped. He is shown trailing behind the warden of
the prison where he had been incarcerated. The warden has been portrayed as a "real jerk,"
so that the audience is manipulated into rooting for Hopkins, who's every intention is to eat
the warden alive. Though this may sound almost humorous without the context of having
seen the film, it was not funny. And the message to the audience is that it's somehow OK to
do pathological things, to brutally murder and maim other human beings.
I do not recommend seeing this movie. And although I would like to say that I don't
believe in censorship, I am deeply disturbed that a movie like this can be made available not
only to adults, but to children, who are impressionable, and who absorb those oh-so-subtlyand-craftily-presented messages of accepted violence against women.
Yes. A very powerful, well-made movie. And I ask you; wh9 made it, and why is there a
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market for it?

The following little ditty, written by Alice Duer
Miller (novelist and poet who lived from 1874 to
1942), was published in the New York Times in
1915.

1. Because men's place is in the army.
2. Because no really manly man wants to settle
any question .otherwise than by fighting
about it.
3. Because if men should adopt peaceable
methods women will no longer look up to
them.
4. Because men will lose their charm if they
step out of their natural sphere and interest
themselves in other matters than feats of
arms, uniforms and drums.
5. Because men are too emotional to vote.
Their conduct at baseball games and
political conventions show this, while their
innate tendency to appeal to force renders
them unfit for government.
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LETTERS TO THE EDITOR
Editor,
I've just come from a wonderful poetry reading tonight but questions are
filling my head. Minne Bruce Pratt, a lesbian poet who won the Lamont
Poetry award last year for her latest book Crime Against Nature and
who has been active in the lesbian movement for years, spoke at OU
tonight. My first question is why was the room only half full? We only
have maybe 2 or 3 big lesbian events a year, if that many, here in
Oklahoma. I've spent time in cities where lesbian events happen 2 or 3
times a month. Why do we have such a hard time supporting so few in
Oklahoma? Are lesbians in Oklahoma just so content with mainstream
heterosexual culture that they don't have a need to hear openly gay
activists/artists/entertainers? I'm starved here in Oklahoma for lesbian
concerts and speakers because we so rarely have them. The speakers I've
helped bring to OU the past three years have been free to go hear. Is
Norman just too far away to drive? I really would like to know what it
takes to get lesbians and gay men in Oklahoma to get out and support our
artists and activists, because people here in Oklahoma who work so hard
to bring them might just decide to give up someday and then we'll have
even fewer. Can someone please tell me?
Jill Garner, Norman, OK

OKLAHOMA NOW ANNUAL MEETING
The annual meeting of Oklahoma State NOW will be held on
Saturday, May 11, 1991, in Senate Meeting Room 5 llA in the State
Capitol Building in Oklahoma City. The Council and any other
interested members will meet at 10:00 a.m. to conduct business,
including election of officers for the coming year. Nominations from
the floor, including self-nominations, will be accepted. All members
in good standing are welcome to participate and are eligible to vote
and to hold office.
The thirteen women members of the State Legislature have been
invited to join the meeting at 11:00 o'clock a.m. for a discussion of
the issues and a frank and informal exchange of views. Following this
session, we will adjourn to the newly refurbished VZD's restaurant
where we will treat our legislative guests to lunch. All feminists are
welcome to attend the meeting and meet at VZD's for lunch.
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PARENTAL NOTIFICATION ACT
PASSES OKLAHOMA HOUSE OF
REPRESENTATIVES
An amendment requmng parental notification of abortion
proposed by Rep. Bill Mitchell was successfully attached to a child
abuse bill in the House of Representatives .
The amendment prohibits a physician from performing an
abortion on an unmarried woman younger than 18 or any
"mentally incapacitated female" until her parents or guardian have
been given 48 hours notice in person, writing or by telephone.
Exceptions to parental notification are authorized in some
circumstances: when the life of the woman is endangered by
postponement of the abortion; if the young woman says she is a
victim of abuse; if she is married or lives apart from her parents; if
both parents are dead; or if a physician, psychologist, or district
court judge certifies the young woman is "of sufficient maturity
and soundness of mind to make an informed decision as to whether
an abortion is in her best interst."
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St. Sybil occasionally answers questions in this space.

Dear St. Sybil:
Will I ever have sex again in this life? {If you use my letter
please don't use my real name, I don't want people to know
how long it has been!)
Beseechingly,
Randi N . Reddy (not her real name )
Dear Randi,
Well now, through my channeler I understand that you are a
30ish woman, intelligent, witty, healthy, trim, attractive, passionate, political, moral, ethical, choosy, picky, fastidious, meticulous,
disciplined, assertive, straight-I've got to tell you, it's not looking
good. Luckily, however, you are also as horny as a human can be,
and that is definitely in your favor. So, go with the horny, honey;
tone down the fastidious, and remember: when it comes right down
to it, we are our own best friend .
Empathetically (how does 200 years sound to you??),
Sybil
Dear St. Sybil:
Why is it that everything I own breaks down j ust after I get
it paid off??? Is it just an accident that it always seems to
happen this way?
Sincerely,
Vera Feddup
Dear Vera:
Many people wonder about this, and most of them, like you,
suspect a conspiracy of some sort. Some think that it is the
manufacturers, practicing planned obsolescence, to keep you
coming back and buying more from them. Others think it is the
banks, keeping you coming back and borrowing more money from
them. Still others think it is .t he Republicans, keeping you poor and
having a good chuckle at the same time. All of these theories, of
course, are rank nonsense and extremely paranoid. Get a grip. The
fact is, you should stop whining and thank your lucky stars that
they last until they are paid for. Good grief. What do you think this
is, a perfect world? You don't expect that piece of junk to last
forever, do you? So when should it break, after it's paid for or 5
minutes after you get it home, like this damnable answering
machine I've been trying to get to work all day? G ive me a break!
Editor's note: transmissions from Sybil broke down at this point; we
hope to be back in touch with her another day when she is in better
humor.
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Searching for Spring . . . . . . . . . . Murphy, Patricia A. . .. .. . ... .
Fire in the Rain, Singer in the Storm . . . . . . . . Near, Holly . .... . .
You Can Be Free . . . . . . . . . Nicarthy, G. & Davidson, S. .. ... .. .
Dreams of Vengeance . . . . . . . . . . Oakgrove, Artemis . ... .... . .
Throne of Council . . . . . . . . . . . . Oakgrove, Artemis . ... ... . . . .
Hygieia: A Woman's Herbal . . . . . . . . . Parvati, Jeannine .. . .. . . .
Under the Eagle . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Pearce, Jenny .. .. . ... . .. .. .
Descent to the Goddess . . . . . . . . Perera, Sylvia Brinton . .. .. . .
Homophobia: A weapon of Sexism . . . . . . Pharr, Suzanne ..... .
Healing the Wounds . . . . . . . . . . . . . Plant, Judith . . . . . ... .. . .
Circle of Love . . . . . . . . . . . . . Porter-Chase, Mary . . ... . .. . .. .
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Messages from Anna . . . . . . . . . . . . . Rankin, Zoe ..... . .... . . .
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Homosexuality, Masculinity, and Feminity . . . Ross, Michael W ..
Theme for Diverse Instruments . . . . . . . . . . Rule, Jane . .... . .. .
A Hot-eyed Moderate . . . . . . . . . . . . . Rule, Jane . . . . .. . . . .. . .
Desert of the Heart . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Rule, Jane . .... . . .. .... .
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The Black and White of It . . . . . . . . Schokley, Ann Allen ....... .
Say Jesus and Come to Me . . . . . . . . Shockley, Ann Allen . . . ... .
A Gathering of Spirit . . . . . . . . . . . . Sidor, Ellen S.. . . . ....... .
Lox Lizards/Los Patres . . . . . . . Sien, Bnettianne Shoney ...... .
The Changelings . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Sinclair, Jo . . ..... ... . . .. .
Called Account . . . . . . . . . . . . Switzer, M. & Hale, K. . ......... .
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A World Without Men . . . . . . . . . . . . Taylor, Valerie . . . . .. . .. . .
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Wilderness Trek . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Tell, Dorothy ... .. .... . . .. .
Gay Relationships . . . . . . . . . . . Tessina, Tina, Ph.D . . . . ....... .
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ALSO AVAILABLE AT HERLAND: WOMEN'S MUSIC
"The Best of Chris Williamson" is a 17-song collection which speaks to the
hearts of those who believe in the " inteconnection between ourselves and the
environment. " Chris wants to " affect life as much as it affected me, to help
reawaken people 's innate desire to be compassionate with each other and to
care for the earth. " Selections include, Waterfall, Johanna, Sister, Sweet Woman,
Strange Paradise and Lullabye.
"The Best of Meg Christian" is a musical masterpiece of 17 songs that portrays
the poignant journey of an artist seeking and discovering joy and self-awareness
in her life. Through her music, Meg established herself as one of Olivia"s bestselling artists, captivating audiences with such songs as Face the Music, The
Rock Will Wear Away, Ode to a Gym Teacher, Turning It Over, Southern Home,
From the Heart, and The Road I Took to You. "
Cassettes of "The Best of Chris Williamson " and "The Best of Meg Christian"
are available at Herland, as well as many other wonderful cassettes of Womens'
Music. Come browse, hang out, enjoy.

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APRIL, 1991

HERLAND'S ANNUAL

SPRING RETREAT
MAY 17, 18, 19, 1991
ROBBER'S CAVE STATE PARK
The Berland 1991 Spring Retreat will be held at Robber's Cave State Park, May 17 through 19. This twelfth
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Music (and dancing!) will be provided by "The Live Band." this band features .noted OKC musicians Elyse Angelo,
Cuchla Fuller, Peggy Johnson, and Mary Reynolds. You won't want to miss this rare performance.
Workshops will be available Saturday and Sunday morning. Anyone intereted in leading a workshop can contact
Berland to reserve a place on the schedule. Some workshops requested last year were racism and race relatons; spirituality;
meditation; internalized homophobia; African American lesbians and bisexuals; married or previously married women;
music empowerment; massage. Either serious or fun workshops are welcome.
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Registration for the three-day retreat is $25 - $35, based on your ability to pay. A limited number of scholarships are
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MOTHER'S DAY 1991
PEACE CAMP
Mother's Day 1991 will be celebrated with a peace camp at
Pantex, the final assembly plant for all U.S. nuclear weapons. The
event will be hosted by Peace Farm and Red River Peace Network,
May 10 - 12. Activities will take place at the Peace Farm 17 miles
northeast of Amarillo on Highway 60. The theme, "Women Act!
in History," will commemorate women's historical contributions
to peace and justice that we now build upon. Participants
celebrate heroines in our own lives who inspire us to do more, and
will seek to contemplate characters in literature to spark our
imaginations, creativity and sense of innovation in addressing new
challenges of our time. There will be a workshop by Mary
McAnally, activist and writer from Tulsa, on her interpretations
of "writer as activist," "literary characters as models for activism"
and/or "the current world situation from her own perspective."
Also, organizers hope to publish an anthology of women's stories,
skits, songs and poetry presented at open mic Saturday night, to
help fund the event and make a contribution toward a local
scholarship for women re-entering education.
Women from Tulsa might want to meet up with OKC/Norman
women and trek out together in vans on Saturday, May 10. Call or
write Mary McAnally or Cindy Breeding with questions:
Mary McAnally
Cindy Breeding
76 N. Yorktown
1618 S. Harrison
Tulsa, OK 74110
Amarillo, TX 79102
(918) 583-3651
(806) 376-1309
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PEACE
an editorial by Margaret Cox
The war is over, and we are all relieved and thankful that the
killing has stopped. Many of us have been steadfastly opposted to
the war; while we confidently expect history to one day validate
our grief and our regret over our country's actions, our position
today is clearly an extremely unpopular and minority one. It has
sometimes been hard not to feel threatened and intimidated by
aggressive and hostile displays of patriotic fervor; and by the huge
disparity in numbers and in our reactions to the war. The
following words of Martin Luther King, Jr., writing from jail, give
support to those of us who may occasionally waver and grow
weary of seeming to always hear a very different drummer than
"everyone else:"
"Cowardice asks the question-is it safe? Expediency asks the question-is it
politid Vanity asks the question-is it popular? But conscience asks the questionis it right?
And there comes a time when one must take a position that is neither safe, nor
politic, nor popular-but one must take it because it's right."
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WOMEN VETERANS
A new veteran's group has been formed by women aware of a
lack of resources specifically designed for women veterans . The
new organization is called the Pallas Athena Network, named after
the Greek Goddess of Wisdom, Craft and War whose likeness
served as the branch insignia for the Women's Army Corps.
Through their publication, "Pallas Athena," they plan to provide
an open, supportive network environment through which women
veterans can discuss issues and thoughts with other women who
share the common experience of military service. They will
provide articles of interest to women veterans and resource
information, as well as fiction and creative works by women
veterans. They are currently seeking comments and suggestions
for their first issue to be published no later than April 15, 1991.
They encourage ALL women veterans to participate, regardless of
race, creed, religion or sexual orientation. According to their press
release, a special discreet supplement will be published for lesbian
veterans. For further information, contact: The Pallas Athena
Network, P.O. Box 1171, New Market, VA 22844
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EMPLOYMENT OPPORTUNITIES
The Human Rights Campaign Fund, the nation's largest gay and
lesbian political organization, is accepting applications for the
following positions:
• Administrative Assistant, Field Division; Deadline April 5
• Communications Assistant, Communications Dept., Deadline
April 31
• Presidential Project Manager, Political Dept., Deadline Oct. 15
• AIDS Policy Analyst, Legislative Dept., Deadline March 30
• Lesbian Program Director; Deadline April 31
• Mid-West Canvass Coordinator, Field Division; Deadline late
in the year; this position based in Chicago, IL.
• Administrative Assistant, Political Dept., Deadline March 25
• Civil Rights Researcher, Legislative Dept., Deadline March 30
• Summer Internships, Six Depts., Deadline April 15 (Stipend)
For job descriptions or information, please call Anne Thiesen at
(202) 628-4160 . Or, send cover letter and resume to NEW
POSITIONS, Human Rights Campaign Fund, 1012 14th Street
NW, Suite 607, Washington, DC 20005 . All positions (except
interns) include health, life and disability insurance.
HRCF encourages Women, People of Color and Differently
Abled Individuals to apply.
Please Note: We have included the job openings whose deadlines will
have passed before publication of this newsletter with the thought that
deadlines may be flexible; and there was no way to get the information
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for an exclusive African American Women's support group. For additional information read the Voice for future date, time, and place
and/ or call Lisa at 752-8059 .....
THERAPY GROUP FOR LESBIANS ONLY Work on co-dependency, living sober, incest, compulsive eating and dieting, or
internalized homophobia. The group will begin in April on Wednesday evenings. It will be facilitated by Jo L. Soske, M.Ed./CAC. Call
Drug Recovery Inc. for appointment, 843-5319. Sliding scale fees are available ... .. .
A GATHERING OF JEWISH LESBIAN DAUGHTERS OF HOLOCAUST SURVIVORS. April 19 - 21, 1991, in New
Hampshire. If you are a Jewish Lesbian whose parent or parents survived the holocaust, join us for a weekend of workshops, networking
and support around the issues we share. For more information contact: JLDHS, Box 6194, Boston, MA 02114 ... . .
WRITERS' CONFERENCE. WOMONWRITES '91, the 13th annual Southeastern Lesbian Writers' Conference, will be held May 29
-June 2 in Central Georgia. Workshops, open readings, affinity groups, discussion and recreation .. . to inspire and stimulate creativity
among Lesbian writers in all stages of development. $60 (more or less), limited registration. For more information and/or registration send
S.A.S.E. to: Womonwrites '91, c/ o Miriam Carroll, 1503 Park Road SE, Atlanta, Georgia 30315 . . ...
The 5th annual GOLDEN THREADS Celebration will be held June 28 - 30, 1991 at the Provincetown Inn in Provincetown,
Massachusetts. GOLDEN THREADS is a worldwide social network of lesbians over 50 and women who are interested in older women.
For information contact: Christine Burton, GOLDEN THREADS, P.O. Box 3177, Burlington, VT 05401 .....
FEMINIST WOMEN'S WRITING WORKSHOPS, INC. will be held on the campus of Wells College, Aurora, NY July 14 -26, 1991.
Guest writers will be Jewelle Gomez and Grace Paley. For information contact P.O. Box 6583, Ithaca, NY 14851 .....
The 4th annual "CREATING CHANGE" Conference sponsored by the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force will be held November
9 - 12 in Alexandria, VA. The conference will feature two pre-conference institutes-People of Color Organizing Institute, and the
Diversity Training Institute. A Campus Organizing Institute will follow the conference. For information contact: Brian Albert, Creating
Change Coordinator, NGLTF, 1734 14th St. N.W., Washington, DC 20009, (202) 332-6483 .....
THE OKLAHOMA GAY & LESBIAN POLITICAL CAUCUS is looking for one or two people who would like to follow legislation
that is affecting lesbian and gay people. If anyone would like to help, please call ( 405) 524-2121. There is currently a bill in process which
would severely curtail the right of HIV infected people to hold jobs in the food service industry. Apparently, the bill's authors and sponsors
would rather support HIV infected people on public assistance programs instead of having them retain jobs and pay taxes .. . . .
BENEDICTINE PEACE HOUSE SPRING FORUM SPEAKER. Allan Nairn, nationally recognized investigative journalist, will
speak on "Death Squad Governments in Central America: Holding the U.S. Accountable" on Sat., April 6, at Conner Center of Our
Lady's Cathedral, ll05 NW 32nd, OKC. There will be a "Fiesta de Guatemala" at 6 p.m., followed by the lecture by Mr. Nairn at 7:30
p.m. Nairn writes for the New Yorker, the New York Times, the Washington Post, New Republic and other journals . . . . .
DON'T FORGET THE GARAGE SALE ON APRIL 13th at the Fairagrounds. Yes, the date IS April 13th, not March 30th. You still
have time to donate all your good stuff to a good cause. Call 521-9696 if you need somethng picked up. NO MORE CLOTHES!
Thanks . . ... .
HERLAND'S ANNUAL SPRING RETREAT is set for May 17, 18 and 19. Register before May 10th and get a price break ($25 -$35
sliding scale, which includes 3 meals). Otherwise registration is $35. A limited number of scholarships are available. Contact HSR early if
you want to be considered for a scholarship. The retreat is being held at Robbers Cave State Park. See front of newsletter for details.

366-0923

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Counselor

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WOMEN'S THEATER AT
MICHIGAN FESTIVAL

Sam L. Nicolosi, D.V.M.

NICOLOSI ANIMAL HOSPITAL
4015 N.W. 23rd
Oklahoma City

by Appointment
Phone (405) 947-5545

APRIL IS "PREVENT
A LITTER" MONTH
Each year in Oklahoma City alone, over 50,000 homeless pets
are destroyed in animal shelters; and of course countless others
wander forlorn and abandoned until hunger, illness, or injury
overtake them.
To help combat this appalling situation, Volunteers for Animal
Welfare and numerous veterinary clinics in the OKC area are
sponsoring a reduced-cost spay and neuter campaign. These
veterinarians are offering a variety of reduced sterilization fees
beginning April 1, for a limited time. Call YAW at 842-7882 or
843-4755 for a list of the participating veterinary clinics.
It's a fact, too, that spaying and neutering helps your cat or dog
lead a happier, healthier life, and makes it a better pet.
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HAVE YOU ALWAYS
WANTED TO BE
A WRITER?
The editors of The Herland Voice encourage our readers to write
articles, poetry, or announcements for publication (maximum
length 500 words). We do reserve the right to edit all articles
submitted for length, spelling and grammar. Articles that are
found to be slanderous or which are clearly contrary to the
Mission Statement of Herland Sister Resources (as published in
the February 1991 Voice) will not be printed. Please let us know if
you wish to use your name, pseudonum or initials (or none of the
above).

PUBLISHED BY: Herland Sister Resources, Inc. 2312 NW 39th,
Oklahoma City, OK 73112

Barbara Harrell and Diana Martin are starting a new series at the
national Women's Music Festival and are interested in conversations with women or groups of women interested in participating in
this year's musical comedy production "Dos Lesbos ." Any woman
interested in technical theater is invited to contact them .
They are also looking for presenters for theatre-related workshops during the festival and groups of women who would like to
bring their own production to the festival The New Drama Series
will initiate a contest this year, calling for original work by women
playwrights. The winning script will be produced as the series
showcase production.
Dates for the 17th National Women's Music Festival are May 30
through June 2, 1991 . You may contact Harrell and Martin at 5109
N . College Avenue, Indianapolis, Indiana 46205 .
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Kay Killgore, M.Ed.
Woman to Woman Counseling

1010 N.W. 45th
· Oklahoma City, Oklahoma 73118
(405) 524-1062

FALSE HOPE?
New York Consumer Affairs Commissioner Mark Green has
charged two companies with violating the New York City
Consumer Protection Law by misleading people with AIDS and
HIV infection in ads that promise a cure for the disease.
Advertisements for "Immune+ Plus'' claimed that the ''balanced
vitamin, mineral and protein product" could restore the immune
systems of persons who have AIDS or HIV infection. The ads also
stated that at the end of a 180 day study, none of the patients who
took the product' 'remained in the AIDS category,'' and that results
from its use are "nothing short of miraculous."
"In fact, this ad is nothing short of cruel and fraudulent," said
commissioner Green on filing the unprecedented legal action.
"There is no known substance or medication that can restore the
immune system or cure AIDS. The ads for "Immune+Plus" crassly
exploit people who are either sick with AIDS or at risk _of getting
the disease. And if people who are HIV positive decide to take
"Immune+Plus" rather than approved medical treatments, the
advertisements are potentially life-threatening."
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NEWSLETTER COMMITTEE:
Margaret Cox, Deborah Fox, Pat Reaves
CIRCULATION : 750
GENERAL INFO: (405) 521-9696 (leave message)
SUBSCRIPTIONS to the Her/and Voice are free upon request.

"Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run
than outright exposure. The fearful are caught
as often as the bold."

•• • Helen Keller
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April 24-28

MEET ME IN

ATLANTA!

A Woman-to-Womon Gathering
finding strength through our diversity.
The National Lesbian Conference is committed to safer and accessible space
for all lesbians. Join us in celebrating the choice to relate across differences
and enjoy wimmin from all the various ways of lesbian lives.

Meet me in Atlanta!

April 24-28

NATIONAL LESBIAN CONFERENCE, P.O. BOX 1999
DECATUR, GA 30031
(404) 373-0000
TIY/Volce
The NLC is committed to fighting racism and all forms of oppression. ·The NLC is commiNed to
accessibility for all lesbians with disabilities. The NLC respects cultural and spiritua! diversity.
Fragrances and scents make some lesbians ill. Please refrain from using such products at NL C
sponsored events. All NLC sponsored events are chem-free and the NLC affirms lesbians in recovery.

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T::_ational ·
..l.:]bian Conference

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Office: 1649 McLendon NE, Atlanta, GA 30307
Mailing Address: P.O. Box 1999. Decatur, GA 3003 J
(404 ) 373--0000
TrYNoice

DIVERSITY* SOLIDARITY* EMPOWERMENT
APRIL 24-26, 1991 - ATLANTA, GEORGIA

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THIS CONFERENCE IS FOR, BY AND ABOUT LESBIANS AND IS OPEN ONLY TO WOMEN

Dear Sisters,
The National Lesbian Conference -- the first grass roots event of its kind in history is fast approaching. April 24-28, 5,000 lesbians from across the U.S. are expected to be
in Atlanta, Georgia to attend plenaries, workshops, concerts, arts and crafts shows, and to
create a national lesbian agenda.
Thus far, four plenary panelists have been confirmed: Urvashi Vaid, Director of the
National Gay and Lesbian Task Force; Angela Bowen, Co-Chair of the National Coalition for
Black Lesbians and Gays; Barbara McDonald, co-author of Look Me in the Eye, a book about
old women and ageism; and Joyce Hunter, Director of Social Services at the Hetrick-Martin
Institute for the Preservation of Lesbian and Gay Youth.
There will be a dance in the Grand Ballroom of the Radisson Hotel on Friday night
featuring live music by Yer Girlfriend. Saturday night events include an extravaganza at
the Atlanta Civic Center highlighting comedy, song, and dance with Theresa Trull, Alix
Dobkin, Sue Fink, Lea Delaria, The Washington Sisters, Karen Williams, Gale Reter, and the
Two-Spirited Thunder People Native American Dance Troupe.
Workshops have been divided into the following tracks: Lesbian Sexuality; Lesbian
Studies (including international); Family Issues; Legal and Civil Rights Issues; Spirituality/Religion; Health; Education; Anti-Oppression (including anti-semitism, sexism, and
homophobia); and Potpourri (miscellaneous subjects). There are also tracks for Old
Lesbians, Native American Lesbians, Deaf Lesbians, Young Lesbians, and Lesbians with Disabilities.
No speakers, presenters, or performers will be paid. Conference organizers made this
decision as a very specific tactic to confront the classism in our society that measures
a person's ability to contribute by creating a value system based on dollars. The entire
philosophical foundation of organizing this Conference has been to make it possible to
come together as equals on all levels. This decision in no way devalues or disempowers
women but in fact brings women closer to our true power. When we value the life experience and accumulated wisdom of the poor woman who lives on the street as much as the
multi-degreed and well-known professional then we will have indeed germinated the seed of
revolution and positive social change.
Individuals who will be paid for their work at the Conference, such as childcare
coordinators and sign language interpreters, are those whose positions create access for
women who would not otherwise be able to attend.
The NLC's charter states that the goal of the Conference is to develop a national
lesbian agenda; and includes the potential for continuity -- that out of the dialogue
begun in planning this conference a model could be created that would evolve into an organizational entity to carry that agenda forward into the Nineties.
This focus is what distinguishes the Conference from a festival. This Conference
brings together the diverse issues and experiences of lesbians lives so that we can find
the common threads and define the things that empower us, the issues that unite us. At
the very least we will discover how far we have come in learning to listen to each other,
and at best we will form the nucleus of a national movement framed around specific issues
and having clear direction.
On-site registration for women who have not pre-registered will be available in
Atlanta. Registration fees are on a sliding scale from $0 - $250, depending on income
and ability to pay.
NLC policies include the following: The NLC is committed to fighting racism and all
forms of oppression. The NLC is committed to accessibility for all lesbians with disabilities . The NLC respects cultural and spiritual diversity. Fragrances and scents make
some lesbians ill; please be sensitive in your use of these products at NLC-sponsored
events. All NLC-sponsored events are chem-free and the NLC affirms lesbians in recovery.
For more information about the NLC call Stephanie Jo Kent at 317-923-6309 or Mary Lu
Lewis at 404-373-0000 V/TDD.
So, isn't it time to decide to . • . . . MEET ME IN A1LANTA

BECAUSE
Because women's work is never done and is
underpaid or unpaid or boring or repetitious
and we're the first to get the sack
and what we look like is more important than
what we do and if we get raped it's our fault
and if we get bashed we must have provoked it
and if we raise our voices we're nagging bitches
and if we enjoy sex we're nymphos
and if we don't we're frigid
and if we love women it's because
we can't get a "real" man
and if we ask our doctor too many questions
we're neurotic and/or pushy and
if we expect community care for our children
we're selfish and if we stand up for our rights
we're aggressive and "unfeminine"
and if we don't we're typical, weak females
and if we want to get married
we're out to trap a man
and if we don't we're unnatural
and because we can't get an adequate,
safe contraceptive but men can walk
on the moon and if we can't cope
or don't want a pregnancy
we're made to feel guilty about abortion and ...
for lots and lots of other reasons . . .
we are part of the women's liberation movement.

. .. The above manifesto was sent to Herland by the
director of a battered women's shelter; also, it
appeared last year in the Oklahoma Peace Strategy
with an attribution to the National Union of Students
Women's Campaign, London, England.

WHY WE DON'T
WANT MEN TO
VOTE

THE SILENCE OF THE LAMBS
A REVIEW by Rhonda Smith
"A very powerful movie." "Extremely well-made." "Thought provoking." "Excellent
acting." Yes, these comments, made by women, are all true. Which is what makes this movie
all the more frightening. Very early in the movie I thought, 'I should leave now. This is
definitely a misogynist film.' But I decided to stay, to watch it to its conclusion, and to watch
it with an eagle eye in order to write this editorial with as much information as possible. My
conclusion? "A very dangerous movie. One that romanticizes pathological brutality and
sexualizes not just violence against women but the death of women."
There are two pathological characters in the movie: one who eats his victims (and is in a
maximum security prison) and the other who skins his victims (and is on the loose, preying,
of course, on women).
As the story develops, a young woman is abducted by the skinner. There is a scene where
he has beaten her essentially unconscious and has her in his van. The camera shots are
rapidfire images of the man moving her body around, turning her over, removing her dress.
You never get a clear image, just glimpses and suggested images. At one point the woman's
dress has hiked up and there is a brief image of her thighs and buttocks. It could be a very
well-choreographed, intense love scene, but it's not. You are fully aware that she will be
murdered. The message portrayed is that the death of a woman is "sexy."
Meanwhile, there is the main storyline developing of the relationship between an FBI
agent (Jody Foster) and a diabolical "cannibal" (played by Anthony Hopkins). Foster has
been assigned to interview Hopkins in order to gain insight into the character of serial killers
and perhaps provide the FBI with information on how to track the skinner.
Although Hopkins did not prey solely on women when he was committing his crimes, he
constantly makes comments and reference to images of sexual mutilation of women. He
takes a twisted delight in making our heroine uncomfortable in this regard. And yet there is a
"friendship" that develops between the two of them, one that is sexually charged.
At the end of the movie, Hopkins has escaped. He is shown trailing behind the warden of
the prison where he had been incarcerated. The warden has been portrayed as a "real jerk,"
so that the audience is manipulated into rooting for Hopkins, who's every intention is to eat
the warden alive. Though this may sound almost humorous without the context of having
seen the film, it was not funny. And the message to the audience is that it's somehow OK to
do pathological things, to brutally murder and maim other human beings.
I do not recommend seeing this movie. And although I would like to say that I don't
believe in censorship, I am deeply disturbed that a movie like this can be made available not
only to adults, but to children, who are impressionable, and who absorb those oh-so-subtlyand-craftily-presented messages of accepted violence against women.
Yes. A very powerful, well-made movie. And I ask you; wh9 made it, and why is there a
•
market for it?

The following little ditty, written by Alice Duer
Miller (novelist and poet who lived from 1874 to
1942), was published in the New York Times in
1915.

1. Because men's place is in the army.
2. Because no really manly man wants to settle
any question .otherwise than by fighting
about it.
3. Because if men should adopt peaceable
methods women will no longer look up to
them.
4. Because men will lose their charm if they
step out of their natural sphere and interest
themselves in other matters than feats of
arms, uniforms and drums.
5. Because men are too emotional to vote.
Their conduct at baseball games and
political conventions show this, while their
innate tendency to appeal to force renders
them unfit for government.
HERLAND VOICE, APRIL, 1991

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LETTERS TO THE EDITOR
Editor,
I've just come from a wonderful poetry reading tonight but questions are
filling my head. Minne Bruce Pratt, a lesbian poet who won the Lamont
Poetry award last year for her latest book Crime Against Nature and
who has been active in the lesbian movement for years, spoke at OU
tonight. My first question is why was the room only half full? We only
have maybe 2 or 3 big lesbian events a year, if that many, here in
Oklahoma. I've spent time in cities where lesbian events happen 2 or 3
times a month. Why do we have such a hard time supporting so few in
Oklahoma? Are lesbians in Oklahoma just so content with mainstream
heterosexual culture that they don't have a need to hear openly gay
activists/artists/entertainers? I'm starved here in Oklahoma for lesbian
concerts and speakers because we so rarely have them. The speakers I've
helped bring to OU the past three years have been free to go hear. Is
Norman just too far away to drive? I really would like to know what it
takes to get lesbians and gay men in Oklahoma to get out and support our
artists and activists, because people here in Oklahoma who work so hard
to bring them might just decide to give up someday and then we'll have
even fewer. Can someone please tell me?
Jill Garner, Norman, OK

OKLAHOMA NOW ANNUAL MEETING
The annual meeting of Oklahoma State NOW will be held on
Saturday, May 11, 1991, in Senate Meeting Room 5 llA in the State
Capitol Building in Oklahoma City. The Council and any other
interested members will meet at 10:00 a.m. to conduct business,
including election of officers for the coming year. Nominations from
the floor, including self-nominations, will be accepted. All members
in good standing are welcome to participate and are eligible to vote
and to hold office.
The thirteen women members of the State Legislature have been
invited to join the meeting at 11:00 o'clock a.m. for a discussion of
the issues and a frank and informal exchange of views. Following this
session, we will adjourn to the newly refurbished VZD's restaurant
where we will treat our legislative guests to lunch. All feminists are
welcome to attend the meeting and meet at VZD's for lunch.
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PARENTAL NOTIFICATION ACT
PASSES OKLAHOMA HOUSE OF
REPRESENTATIVES
An amendment requmng parental notification of abortion
proposed by Rep. Bill Mitchell was successfully attached to a child
abuse bill in the House of Representatives .
The amendment prohibits a physician from performing an
abortion on an unmarried woman younger than 18 or any
"mentally incapacitated female" until her parents or guardian have
been given 48 hours notice in person, writing or by telephone.
Exceptions to parental notification are authorized in some
circumstances: when the life of the woman is endangered by
postponement of the abortion; if the young woman says she is a
victim of abuse; if she is married or lives apart from her parents; if
both parents are dead; or if a physician, psychologist, or district
court judge certifies the young woman is "of sufficient maturity
and soundness of mind to make an informed decision as to whether
an abortion is in her best interst."
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848-5429

SHIRLEY M. HUNTER, M. Ed.
LICENSED PROFESSIONAL COUNSELOR

Emphasis on the problems of gay people.
PENN PARK OFFICE COMPLEX e SUITE 102
5009 N. PENNSYLVANIA e OKLAHOMA CITY, OK 73112

ST. SYBIL
St. Sybil occasionally answers questions in this space.

Dear St. Sybil:
Will I ever have sex again in this life? {If you use my letter
please don't use my real name, I don't want people to know
how long it has been!)
Beseechingly,
Randi N . Reddy (not her real name )
Dear Randi,
Well now, through my channeler I understand that you are a
30ish woman, intelligent, witty, healthy, trim, attractive, passionate, political, moral, ethical, choosy, picky, fastidious, meticulous,
disciplined, assertive, straight-I've got to tell you, it's not looking
good. Luckily, however, you are also as horny as a human can be,
and that is definitely in your favor. So, go with the horny, honey;
tone down the fastidious, and remember: when it comes right down
to it, we are our own best friend .
Empathetically (how does 200 years sound to you??),
Sybil
Dear St. Sybil:
Why is it that everything I own breaks down j ust after I get
it paid off??? Is it just an accident that it always seems to
happen this way?
Sincerely,
Vera Feddup
Dear Vera:
Many people wonder about this, and most of them, like you,
suspect a conspiracy of some sort. Some think that it is the
manufacturers, practicing planned obsolescence, to keep you
coming back and buying more from them. Others think it is the
banks, keeping you coming back and borrowing more money from
them. Still others think it is .t he Republicans, keeping you poor and
having a good chuckle at the same time. All of these theories, of
course, are rank nonsense and extremely paranoid. Get a grip. The
fact is, you should stop whining and thank your lucky stars that
they last until they are paid for. Good grief. What do you think this
is, a perfect world? You don't expect that piece of junk to last
forever, do you? So when should it break, after it's paid for or 5
minutes after you get it home, like this damnable answering
machine I've been trying to get to work all day? G ive me a break!
Editor's note: transmissions from Sybil broke down at this point; we
hope to be back in touch with her another day when she is in better
humor.
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NE\N BOOKS IN STOCK AT HERLAND .
This list was current as of 3 / 9 / 91. Obviously the list will change as books are sold and as we make new orders . We will reprint
a new list every few months.
Madame Aurora . . . . . . . . . . . . . Aldridge, Sarah . . . . . . . . . . . . $ 7.95
They Won't Take Me Alive . . . . . . . . . . Algria, Claribel. . . . . . . . . . 7.95
Night Lights ....... . ... Arthur, Bonnie Shrewsbury. . . . . . . . . . . 8.95
Mountain Mama . . . . . . . . . Axsom, Dora & Pelham, Erra . . . . . . . . 8.95
Finding Signs ... . . .. ...... . Baker, Sharlene . . .... .. ..... . 18.95
Invisible Lives . . . . . . . . . . . . Barret, Martha Barron . . . . . . . . . . . 9.95
The Courage to Heal . . . . ... . Bass, Ellen; Davis, Laura ... ..... 18.95
The Language of Letting Go . . . . . . . . . Beattie, Melody . . . . . . . . 8.95
To Heal Again . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Berkus, Rusty . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 14.95
Under the Big Stick . ..... . .. ... . Berman, Karl . ... . . . . . . . . . 10.00
Permanent Partners . . . . . . . . . . Berzon, Betty, Ph.D. . . . . . . . . . 9.95
The Family . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Bradshaw, John. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 9.95
Sunday's Child . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Bright, Joyce . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 8.95
Joyce Ann Brown: Justice Denied . . . . . Brown, Joyce Ann . . ... 11 .95
Adult Children of Alcoholics in Treatment
. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Brown, Cermak & Beletsis ..........•.... 7.95
The Threshing Floor . . . . . . . . . . . . Buford, Barbara . ..... . ... . 7.95
Ceremonies of the Heart . . . . . . . . . . . Butler, Becky ... . . . . .. . . 14.95
Sugar and Other Stories . . . . . . . . . . . Byatt, Antonia ... ... . .. . 16.95
Me: Five Years From Now . . . . . . . . . . Bykofsky, Sherr .. . . .. . . . 12.95
Tunnel Vision . . . . . . . . . . . . . Cantor, D. & Schor, J ..... . ... . . . 5.00
The Promise of a New Day . . . . . . Casey, K. & Vanceburg , M .... . 5.98
Flight of the Wild Goose . . . . . . Chandler, Janet Carncross . .. . . . 8.00
Turning the Tide . . . . . . . . . . . . . Chomsky, Noam . . . . . . ..... . 10.00
Lovers . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Corinne, Tee . .. .. . ... ..... . . . . 7.95
Intricate Passions . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Corinne, Tee . . . . . . . . . ... . 8.95
The Final Closet . . ... . ..... Corley, Rip, CSW. ACP . . . . ... . . . 8.95
Black Lesbian in White America . . . . . . . Cornwell, Anita .... . . . 7.50
An Anchorwoman's Story . . . . . . . . . . Craft, Christine . ..... . .. . 8.95
The Courage to Heal Workbook . . . . . . . . . Davis, Laura ...... . . 18.95
Gay Personality and Sexual Labeling . . . . De Cecco, John P . . . . 7.95
Cut -Outs and Cut-Ups . . . . . . . . . . . Dean, Elizabeth ...... ... . 8.95
Prisons That Could Not Hold . . . . . . . . Deming, Barbara . .. . . . . . 7.95
Remembering Who We Are . . . . . . . . . Deming, Barbara . .. .... . 6.50
Breast Cancer . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Dewar, Deborah . . . .. ...... . . . 8.95
The Bar Stories . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Donnely, Nisa . . ......... . . . 9.95
In the Blood . . . . . . . . . . . . Douglas, Lauren Wright ..... . . ... . . 8.95
Raging Mother Mountain . . . . . . . . . . Emmerson, Pat . .... .... . 8.95
To the Lightning . . . . . . . . . . . . . Ennis, Catherine .. . .. . . ..• . . 8.95
Now That You Know . . . . . . . . Fairchild, B. & Ha yward, N . .. . .. . 8.95
Are You A Target? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Fein, Judith . .. . .. . . . . .. . . 8.95
International Places of Interest to Women, 1991
. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Ferari, Marianne . .. ...... .. . . . .. .. . 9.00
The Good Girl Syndrome . . . . . . . . . Fez/er, W & Field, E . .... . . . 13.95
Reach for the Rainbow ... . ... Finney, Lynne D. JO, MSW . . ... . 11.95
The Journey Within . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Fishel, Ruth . . . .. .. . . . .. . 8.95
Murder at the Nightwood Bar . . . . . . . Forrest, Katherine . . ... . . 8.95
Sex Variant: Women in Literature . . . . . Foster, Jeannette H .... . 8.95
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The Price of Salt . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Morgan, Claire . . . . . . . . .. . . .
Searching for Spring . . . . . . . . . . Murphy, Patricia A. . .. .. . ... .
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You Can Be Free . . . . . . . . . Nicarthy, G. & Davidson, S. .. ... .. .
Dreams of Vengeance . . . . . . . . . . Oakgrove, Artemis . ... .... . .
Throne of Council . . . . . . . . . . . . Oakgrove, Artemis . ... ... . . . .
Hygieia: A Woman's Herbal . . . . . . . . . Parvati, Jeannine .. . .. . . .
Under the Eagle . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Pearce, Jenny .. .. . ... . .. .. .
Descent to the Goddess . . . . . . . . Perera, Sylvia Brinton . .. .. . .
Homophobia: A weapon of Sexism . . . . . . Pharr, Suzanne ..... .
Healing the Wounds . . . . . . . . . . . . . Plant, Judith . . . . . ... .. . .
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Theme for Diverse Instruments . . . . . . . . . . Rule, Jane . .... . .. .
A Hot-eyed Moderate . . . . . . . . . . . . . Rule, Jane . . . . .. . . . .. . .
Desert of the Heart . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Rule, Jane . .... . . .. .... .
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Going Behind the Wall . . . . . . . . . . Sargent, Elizabeth ....... . . .
Within Our Reach . . . . . . . . . . . . Schorr, Lisbeth B..... . . .. .. .
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Loving Her . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Shockley, Ann Allen ... . .. . .... . . .
The Black and White of It . . . . . . . . Schokley, Ann Allen ....... .
Say Jesus and Come to Me . . . . . . . . Shockley, Ann Allen . . . ... .
A Gathering of Spirit . . . . . . . . . . . . Sidor, Ellen S.. . . . ....... .
Lox Lizards/Los Patres . . . . . . . Sien, Bnettianne Shoney ...... .
The Changelings . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Sinclair, Jo . . ..... ... . . .. .
Called Account . . . . . . . . . . . . Switzer, M. & Hale, K. . ......... .
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A World Without Men . . . . . . . . . . . . Taylor, Valerie . . . . .. . .. . .
Journey to Fulfilment . . . . . . . . . . . . Taylor, Valerie ..... . ... . .
Wilderness Trek . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Tell, Dorothy ... .. .... . . .. .
Gay Relationships . . . . . . . . . . . Tessina, Tina, Ph.D . . . . ....... .
Confessing Conscience: Churched Women on Abortion
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The Dreaded Comparison . . . . . . . . . . . Walker, Alice . .... . . . . .
The Battered Women . . . . . . . . . . . Walker, Lenore E. .. . .. . .. . . .
Before Stonewall: The Making of a Gay & Lesbian Community
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Torchlight to Valhalla . . . . . . . . . . . . Wilhelm, Gale ... .. .. . .. . .
Who Wea rs the Tux? . . . . . . . . . . . . . Willis, Julia . . . . .. . .. .. . .
Recollecting Our Lives . ...... Women's Research Centre . .. .. .
Seventeen Syllables . . . . . . . . . . . Yamamoto, Hisaye . .. . . . ... .
Desert Run . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Yamada, Mitsuye . ........... .. .
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"The Best of Chris Williamson" is a 17-song collection which speaks to the
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reawaken people 's innate desire to be compassionate with each other and to
care for the earth. " Selections include, Waterfall, Johanna, Sister, Sweet Woman,
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Cassettes of "The Best of Chris Williamson " and "The Best of Meg Christian"
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