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bility activity (music festival, art festival,
road trip) per year; Have or participate in
at least one socially-conscious activity per
year; Develop, revise, or create at least 3
promotional vehicles

Herland Planning Retreat

T

he Herland Board and several other interested participants met on August 1,
2004 to develop organizational goals for the
next three years. As part of the process, we
identified our current challenges, reviewed our
mission statement, established goals, and determined the objectives and strategies to help
us meet those goals. We encourage you to
give us some feedback and let us know if you
think there is something we have overlooked in
setting these goals and priorities.

Board Development - Goal is to increase
board size, participation, diversity, and
effectiveness. Objectives: Maintain a
board of at least 8 members; Proactively
recruit diverse board members; Develop
a well-trained board; Develop an active
volunteer base and auxiliary board.
(Continued on page 2)

Challenges Identified:
Need more visibility (especially for
younger audience) and fresh, positive,
fun, socially-conscious image.
Need more leadership, commitment, and
diversity (especially younger women) on
board. Need more active volunteers.
Want to be open more hours/days, keep
up with technological developments,
keep the building in good shape and
stay financially sound.
Need better definition of our focus and
direction. Want to be socially-conscious,
safe, and effective (always want to be
more than just a social organization).

T

he Fall retreat will be at historic Robbers Cave
State Park. Come join the fun and relaxation in a
women-only environment. We'll have good food,
games, workshops and a Saturday evening Concert
featuring Nancy Scott! Robbers Cave is located East
of Lake Eufaula and just North of Wilburton on State
Highway 2 in southeast Oklahoma. From I-40 take the
Indian Nation Turnpike to McAlester, then US 270 East
30 miles to SH 2, then North on SH 2 for about 7
miles.
See registration form on page 4

Our Own Margaret Cox Wins
Irene Tyson Award!

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Goals and Objectives:
Visibility and Image - Goal is to increase
Herland's visibility and promote a fresh,
fun, socially-conscious, positive image.
Objectives: Have at least one high visiwww.herlandsisters.org

Herland Fall Retreat September 10-12, 2004

ong-time Herland Board member Margaret Cox
was the recipient this year of the Irene Tyson
Memorial Award, given annually by the Oklahoma
Gay and Lesbian Political Caucus at the Pride Festival. The award is given "for exemplary community
service and pride in who you are."

Congratulations Margaret!

herland sister resources, 2312 nw 39th, oklahoma city, ok 73112

email: herlandsisters@cox.net

(405) 521-9696

bookstore hours: saturdays 1-5 pm

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Operations - Goal is to serve our community effectively, efficiently and with
fiscal responsibility. Objectives: Keep
the bookstore open more hours per
week; Have an active IT committee to
keep up with and make the most of
technological changes; Raise sufficient
funds to cover our goals and objectives.
Focus - Goal is to provide resources to
strengthen, enrich, and support women
and to promote a world free of prejudice,
oppression, and exploitation. Objectives: Increase participation by more
types of women (e.g., straight); Provide
resources to support marginalized
women or women in need; Include consciousness raising at Herland events.

Kate Campbell Is Coming
By Jill Gamer

Kate Campbell will be performing at The Blue
Door September 11th. I've written about her before
and I'm going to do it again since I think she's so
amazing. Every time I get to see her, I think she's
even better than before, and that's why I want to encourage everyone once again to not miss her this
time.
Campbell has nine CDs to her name now. She has
an absolutely gorgeous voice, and her thoughtprovoking lyrics leave me speechless whenever I get
to hear her live.
Campbell's experiences, combined with her talent, are what make her music so compelling. Her father was a prominent Baptist preacher in the south
who was one of the first brave ones to push for integration. Growing up in a time of much social unrest,
and her master's degree in southern history, color
many of her songs with a rich tapestry of history and
human emotion. She has such a wonderful way with
words and celebrates the beauty of the south without
forgetting its social troubles and history.
Another thing that makes Campbell's live shows
stand out from her CDs is her incredible warmth, and
that awesome southern accent. She's a great storyteller, and clearly loves what she does, and makes
everyone in the room feel as if she's singing to them.

She also takes the time to sign CDs and talk to everyone after the show, and I truly think she's one of the
highlights of The Blue Door.
Please don't let an opportunity to hear Kate
Campbell in Oklahoma pass you by yet again. We are
so lucky to get to have her here, so if you want a
night of music that you won't soon forget, then head
out to The Blue Door on September 11th. I can't
think of a better person to spend that infamous day
with, for music that will heal and make your heart
soar.

Calling for Poetry, Cartoons, Short
Writings
Herland is seeking poetry, cartoons, and short
essays/stories for a special issue of the Voice in
late Fall 2004. Submissions may be sent via snail
mail or electronic mail (preferred but not required). Acceptable electronic formats include,
email plain text, MS WORD, and MS Publisher. If
you want a by line published with your entry,
specify this with your submission and indicate how
you want your name printed. We will not assume
you want your name printed and will not do it
without your written permission.
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Don't Forget to Support the Voice!
Your contribution is important! Just $12 a year will
help us pay for the $300+ it costs every month to
print and mail the newsletter.

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The Voice is published monthly by Herland Sister Resources, Inc.
2312 NW 39th, Oklahoma City, OK 73112. The Voice is offered as an
open forum for community discourse. Articles reflect the opinions of
the author and not necessarily those of Herland Sister Resources.
Unsolicited articles and letters to the editor are welcomed and must
be signed by the writer with full name and address. Upon request,
letters or articles may be printed under a pseudonym or anonymously.
Subscriptions to The Voice are free upon request although a donation
is requested to meet publication and distribution costs.

Cherokee Lesbians from Owasso Tie The
Knot ... NOT?

Herland Supper Club
The September Supper Club will be delayed a week
due to the Fall Retreat occurring on our regularly
scheduled Saturday. So Supper Club is moved to
Saturday the 18th-meet at 5: 30 at Herl and where
we will decide on a restaurant. After dinner, return
to Herland for Video Night.

On May 13th, 2004, Dawn L. McKinley and Kathy E.
Reynolds, together for four years and both enrolled
Cherokee citizens, began a series of step that should
result in marriage. First, they requested and were issued a marriage application from the tribal court. Second, they were married by Leslie Penrose, a Tulsa-area
minister. Lastly, on May 18th, they tried to take the
final step to legalize their marriage - to register their
marriage certificate with the tribal court.

Native American Women
OKC Two-Spirit Society is having meetings for lesbian and bi-sexual women of Native American descent. Please call the OKC Two-Spirit Hotline number at (405) 317-7283 for information.

As of this date, their marriage certificate, which legally establishes them as a married couple in the eyes
of the Cherokee Nation as well as Oklahoma, has not
been recorded, even though Cherokee Law stated, at
the time of their application, "every person age 18 or
older can be married, except those with a living husband or wife, those who are nearer of kin than first
cousins, and those who are insane or idiotic."
Their attempt to marry was blocked by a desperate
and confusing series of actions taken by the Cherokee
authorities:

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On May 14, Judicial Appeals Tribunal Chief Justice
Darrell Dowty issues a 30-day marriage application
moratorium;
A Cherokee l'Jation District Court judge extended a
moratorium on tribal marriage applications at a June
18th hearing;
District Court Judge John Cripps extended the marriage-application freeze until a hearing could be held
to determine the legal status of the Owasso couple's
marriage;
On June 11, Todd Hembree, the Tribal Council's attorney, filed an objection to the issuance of the lesbian couple's marriage application;
Scrambling to clarify any future marriage ambiguity,
th eTribal Council unanimously voted to amend the
tribe's marriage law banning same-sex marriages
along with bigamy and adultery-June 14thwithout even reading it;
On June 16, Hembree also filed a petition for declaratory judgment stating that the original Cherokee marriage law implies that marriage certificates
are for couples comprised of one man and one
woman;
The Owasso couple's attempt to be married in the
eyes of their people has become a legal battle
against the refusal of the tribe to register the marriage certificate.

Oklahoma voters will decide in November whether
to amend the state constitution to permanently deny
marriage equality to same-sex couples.

Womyn of Color
Womyn of Color group meets the 2nd Sunday of
each month- Please email womynofcolor@gay.com or call (405) 842-3464 or (405)
947-7691 for more information.

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Thmsday. Sept 9: Panel Discussion on Same Gender
Marriage. Presented by PFLAG Norman in the
sanctuary of St. Stephen's United Methodist
Church on the corner of McGee Drive and West
Brooks Street in Norman at 7:00 p.m.
Friday Sept.. 10-Sun. Sept. 12: Herland Fall Retreat at
Robbers Cave State Park-see page 4 for registration
Sunday, Sept12: Womyn of Color Meeting, call 8423464 for details
Monday. Sept 13: OGLPC Monthly Meeting at the
Center, 2135 NW 39th, 7 pm
Saturday, S~t. 18: Herland Supper Club and Video
Night (together) - 7 pm
Saturday, Sept.18: Miss Brown to You at the Jazz Lab,
100 E 5th Street, Edmond, 8 pm, $7 .00
Sunday, Sept 19: Herland Board Meeting, 4 pm, everyone welcome
Friday Sept. 24: Miss Brown to You at Galileos, 3009
Paseo, 9 pm $5.00
Saturday. Sept. 28: Herland Scrabble Night-6 pm

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Herland Fall Women's Retreat Registration Form
Robbers Cave State Park - September 10-12, 2004
Below are guidelines to help you select an appropriate registration amount. Deadline for pre-registration is September 4th.
Please remember that dogs are welcome but must remain on leashes and are not allowed in the dining hall .

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Registration fee enclosed (payable to Herland):
_$15_ $25_ $35_$45_$60
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Sliding Scale Registration Guidelines Based on Income
Single Person
Annual Income

Household
Annual Income

Pre-Registration
per person

under $6,500

under $13,300

$15

$6,500-$13,300

$13,300-$18,000

$25

$13,300-$19,500

$18,000-$26,000

$35

$19,500-$30,000

$26,000-$50,000

$45

over $30,000

over $50,000

$60

Concert only- $10

Name(s): - - - - - - - - - - Phone: _ _ __
Address:-----------------City: _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ State: _ _ _ Zip: _ _ __
email (optional) : - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - ( ) I need a scholarship to attend.
( ) I'm enclosing an additional $ _ _ to help provide scholarships.
( ) I'm bringing_ children (girls of all ages and boys under age 10 are welcome).
Please return registration form and check to: Herland Sister Resources, 2312 NW 39th Street, Oklahoma City, OK 73112
A retreat packet with all information will be sent to you.

and transgendered persons, their families and friends
through: support, to cope with an adverse society;
education, to enlighten an ill-informed public; and
advocacy, to end discrimination.

Celebrates 30th Anniversary
Barbara Ehrenreich
Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays
(PFLAG) is holding a 30th Anniversary banquet during
their October 22-24, 2004 National Conference in Salt
Lake City, Utah. The conference will also feature keynote speakers, informative workshops, and an awards
ceremony. More information can be found at
www .pflag.org.
PFLAG got its start in March 1973 when Jeanne
Manford began a support group for parents of lesbians
and gays. A year earlier Jeanne and Jules Manford were
outraged to see the police ignore an attack on their son,
Morton Manford, during a gay rights protest. As they
became more involved as gay right activists, Jeanne saw
the need for a support group. Since that first meeting of
about 20 people PFLAG has grown to a membership of
over 200,000.

Citizens League of Central Oklahoma and Oklahoma City
University present Barbara Ehrenreich at a free public lecture 7 pm Wednesday, September 29, 2004, Kirkpatrick
Auditorium, Oklahoma City University. Ehrenreich is the
author of the New York Times Bestseller (and one-time Herland Book Club choice) Nickel and Dimed: On Not Making It
in America. In 2000, veteran journalist and social commentarian (and hard-core feminist) Barbara Ehrenreich went
undercover, working in a series of low-paying jobs as a
waitress, maid, health care worker, and sales clerk. The
resulting book is an old-fashioned, in-your-face expose forcing anyone who reads it to acknowledge the often desperate plight of Americans working at minimum wage. This
event is free and open to the public.

Their current mission statement is: "PFLAG promotes the health and well-being of gay, lesbian, bisexual

www .ourbodiesourselves.org

This Month's website of the month is:

Why Women Should Vote!
Here is a short history lesson on the privilege of
voting .. .
The women were innocent and defenseless. And by
the end of the night, they were barely alive. Forty
prison guards wielding clubs and their warden's blessing went on a rampage against the 33 women
wrongly convicted of "obstructing sidewalk traffic."

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What is the state of HIV in the Oklahoma
City area?

They beat Lucy Burn, chained her hands to the cell
bars above her head and left her hanging for the
night, bleeding and gasping for air. They hurled Dora
Lewis into a dark cell, smashed her head against an
iron bed and knocked her out cold. Her cell mate, Alice Cosu, thought Lewis was dead and suffered a
heart attack. Additional affidavits describe the
guards grabbing, dragging, beating, choking, slamming, pinching, twisting and kicking the women .

The AIDS epidemic is far from being over. Although AIDS death rates have declined due to drug
therapy, new infection rates have not declined;
therefore, Oklahoma City area case loads continue to
increase. Females and young people are becoming
infected at an increasing rate than in the past and
communities of color continue to be disproportionately affected.

What have HIV/ AIDS service organizations
accomplished for persons living with HIV?

Thus unfolded the "Night of Terror" on Nov. 15,
1917, when the warden at the Occoquan Workhouse
in Virginia ordered his guards to teach a lesson to the
suffragists imprisoned there because they dared to
picket Woodrow Wilson's White House for the right to
vote.

These organizations have provided the following
vital services: primary hea lth care "' prescription
drug assistance "' case management"' nutritional
services "' employment services "' housing "' care
teams and buddies "' food assistance "' rental and
utility assistance "' mental health services "' medical
transportation "' HIV antibody counseling and testing
"'HIV/AIDS education and prevention .

For weeks, the women's only water came from an
open pail. Their food--all of it colorless slop--was infested with worms. When one of the leaders, Alice
Paul, embarked on a hunger strike, they tied her to a
chair, forced a tube down her throat and poured liquid into her until she vomited. She was tortured like
this for weeks until word was smuggled out to the
press .

How can you help support AIDS Walk Oklahoma City?
Make a financial contribution "' Organize a walk
team and collect donations "' volunteer "' become a
sponsor. Find out more by visiting our website at
www.aidswa lkokc.org

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So, refresh my memory. Some women won't vote
this year because--why, exactly? We have carpool
duties? We have to get to work? Our vote doesn't
matter? It's raining?

COMING SOON! OUT OK III
The Oklahoma International Film Festival opens
October 14-16, 2004 in Oklahoma City and closes October 20-23, 2004 in Tulsa.
OUT OK III VIP PASS is now on sale! Priority seating for ALL films; free access to the LEVEL Cocktail
Party and CABANA BOY Romp; free admission to the
Summer Film Series-2005; OUT OK Survival Kit.
COST: Oklahoma City: $50.00. Tulsa: $60.00.
Stay tuned for the OUT OK III program of films.
Visit us at www.out-ok.com

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Oklahoma City, OK 73112

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Individuals - Couples
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Doctor's Park
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Attorney at Law
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Ingraham & Associates, PLLC

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Call me with your legal questions :
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Estate Planning, Wills, Trusts, Probate, Adoption, Contracts
Route 2, Box 369-B
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Tel. (405) 964-2072
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bility activity (music festival, art festival,
road trip) per year; Have or participate in
at least one socially-conscious activity per
year; Develop, revise, or create at least 3
promotional vehicles

Herland Planning Retreat

T

he Herland Board and several other interested participants met on August 1,
2004 to develop organizational goals for the
next three years. As part of the process, we
identified our current challenges, reviewed our
mission statement, established goals, and determined the objectives and strategies to help
us meet those goals. We encourage you to
give us some feedback and let us know if you
think there is something we have overlooked in
setting these goals and priorities.

Board Development - Goal is to increase
board size, participation, diversity, and
effectiveness. Objectives: Maintain a
board of at least 8 members; Proactively
recruit diverse board members; Develop
a well-trained board; Develop an active
volunteer base and auxiliary board.
(Continued on page 2)

Challenges Identified:
Need more visibility (especially for
younger audience) and fresh, positive,
fun, socially-conscious image.
Need more leadership, commitment, and
diversity (especially younger women) on
board. Need more active volunteers.
Want to be open more hours/days, keep
up with technological developments,
keep the building in good shape and
stay financially sound.
Need better definition of our focus and
direction. Want to be socially-conscious,
safe, and effective (always want to be
more than just a social organization).

T

he Fall retreat will be at historic Robbers Cave
State Park. Come join the fun and relaxation in a
women-only environment. We'll have good food,
games, workshops and a Saturday evening Concert
featuring Nancy Scott! Robbers Cave is located East
of Lake Eufaula and just North of Wilburton on State
Highway 2 in southeast Oklahoma. From I-40 take the
Indian Nation Turnpike to McAlester, then US 270 East
30 miles to SH 2, then North on SH 2 for about 7
miles.
See registration form on page 4

Our Own Margaret Cox Wins
Irene Tyson Award!

L

Goals and Objectives:
Visibility and Image - Goal is to increase
Herland's visibility and promote a fresh,
fun, socially-conscious, positive image.
Objectives: Have at least one high visiwww.herlandsisters.org

Herland Fall Retreat September 10-12, 2004

ong-time Herland Board member Margaret Cox
was the recipient this year of the Irene Tyson
Memorial Award, given annually by the Oklahoma
Gay and Lesbian Political Caucus at the Pride Festival. The award is given "for exemplary community
service and pride in who you are."

Congratulations Margaret!

herland sister resources, 2312 nw 39th, oklahoma city, ok 73112

email: herlandsisters@cox.net

(405) 521-9696

bookstore hours: saturdays 1-5 pm

(Continued from page 1)

Operations - Goal is to serve our community effectively, efficiently and with
fiscal responsibility. Objectives: Keep
the bookstore open more hours per
week; Have an active IT committee to
keep up with and make the most of
technological changes; Raise sufficient
funds to cover our goals and objectives.
Focus - Goal is to provide resources to
strengthen, enrich, and support women
and to promote a world free of prejudice,
oppression, and exploitation. Objectives: Increase participation by more
types of women (e.g., straight); Provide
resources to support marginalized
women or women in need; Include consciousness raising at Herland events.

Kate Campbell Is Coming
By Jill Gamer

Kate Campbell will be performing at The Blue
Door September 11th. I've written about her before
and I'm going to do it again since I think she's so
amazing. Every time I get to see her, I think she's
even better than before, and that's why I want to encourage everyone once again to not miss her this
time.
Campbell has nine CDs to her name now. She has
an absolutely gorgeous voice, and her thoughtprovoking lyrics leave me speechless whenever I get
to hear her live.
Campbell's experiences, combined with her talent, are what make her music so compelling. Her father was a prominent Baptist preacher in the south
who was one of the first brave ones to push for integration. Growing up in a time of much social unrest,
and her master's degree in southern history, color
many of her songs with a rich tapestry of history and
human emotion. She has such a wonderful way with
words and celebrates the beauty of the south without
forgetting its social troubles and history.
Another thing that makes Campbell's live shows
stand out from her CDs is her incredible warmth, and
that awesome southern accent. She's a great storyteller, and clearly loves what she does, and makes
everyone in the room feel as if she's singing to them.

She also takes the time to sign CDs and talk to everyone after the show, and I truly think she's one of the
highlights of The Blue Door.
Please don't let an opportunity to hear Kate
Campbell in Oklahoma pass you by yet again. We are
so lucky to get to have her here, so if you want a
night of music that you won't soon forget, then head
out to The Blue Door on September 11th. I can't
think of a better person to spend that infamous day
with, for music that will heal and make your heart
soar.

Calling for Poetry, Cartoons, Short
Writings
Herland is seeking poetry, cartoons, and short
essays/stories for a special issue of the Voice in
late Fall 2004. Submissions may be sent via snail
mail or electronic mail (preferred but not required). Acceptable electronic formats include,
email plain text, MS WORD, and MS Publisher. If
you want a by line published with your entry,
specify this with your submission and indicate how
you want your name printed. We will not assume
you want your name printed and will not do it
without your written permission.
-------------------------~

Don't Forget to Support the Voice!
Your contribution is important! Just $12 a year will
help us pay for the $300+ it costs every month to
print and mail the newsletter.

O

Enclosed is a contribution for $ _ __

D Please add me to the mailing list for The Voice.
0

Please change my address (new address below).

Name - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - Street _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ __
City _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ State _ _ Zip _ _

The Voice is published monthly by Herland Sister Resources, Inc.
2312 NW 39th, Oklahoma City, OK 73112. The Voice is offered as an
open forum for community discourse. Articles reflect the opinions of
the author and not necessarily those of Herland Sister Resources.
Unsolicited articles and letters to the editor are welcomed and must
be signed by the writer with full name and address. Upon request,
letters or articles may be printed under a pseudonym or anonymously.
Subscriptions to The Voice are free upon request although a donation
is requested to meet publication and distribution costs.

Cherokee Lesbians from Owasso Tie The
Knot ... NOT?

Herland Supper Club
The September Supper Club will be delayed a week
due to the Fall Retreat occurring on our regularly
scheduled Saturday. So Supper Club is moved to
Saturday the 18th-meet at 5: 30 at Herl and where
we will decide on a restaurant. After dinner, return
to Herland for Video Night.

On May 13th, 2004, Dawn L. McKinley and Kathy E.
Reynolds, together for four years and both enrolled
Cherokee citizens, began a series of step that should
result in marriage. First, they requested and were issued a marriage application from the tribal court. Second, they were married by Leslie Penrose, a Tulsa-area
minister. Lastly, on May 18th, they tried to take the
final step to legalize their marriage - to register their
marriage certificate with the tribal court.

Native American Women
OKC Two-Spirit Society is having meetings for lesbian and bi-sexual women of Native American descent. Please call the OKC Two-Spirit Hotline number at (405) 317-7283 for information.

As of this date, their marriage certificate, which legally establishes them as a married couple in the eyes
of the Cherokee Nation as well as Oklahoma, has not
been recorded, even though Cherokee Law stated, at
the time of their application, "every person age 18 or
older can be married, except those with a living husband or wife, those who are nearer of kin than first
cousins, and those who are insane or idiotic."
Their attempt to marry was blocked by a desperate
and confusing series of actions taken by the Cherokee
authorities:

•
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Darrell Dowty issues a 30-day marriage application
moratorium;
A Cherokee l'Jation District Court judge extended a
moratorium on tribal marriage applications at a June
18th hearing;
District Court Judge John Cripps extended the marriage-application freeze until a hearing could be held
to determine the legal status of the Owasso couple's
marriage;
On June 11, Todd Hembree, the Tribal Council's attorney, filed an objection to the issuance of the lesbian couple's marriage application;
Scrambling to clarify any future marriage ambiguity,
th eTribal Council unanimously voted to amend the
tribe's marriage law banning same-sex marriages
along with bigamy and adultery-June 14thwithout even reading it;
On June 16, Hembree also filed a petition for declaratory judgment stating that the original Cherokee marriage law implies that marriage certificates
are for couples comprised of one man and one
woman;
The Owasso couple's attempt to be married in the
eyes of their people has become a legal battle
against the refusal of the tribe to register the marriage certificate.

Oklahoma voters will decide in November whether
to amend the state constitution to permanently deny
marriage equality to same-sex couples.

Womyn of Color
Womyn of Color group meets the 2nd Sunday of
each month- Please email womynofcolor@gay.com or call (405) 842-3464 or (405)
947-7691 for more information.

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Thmsday. Sept 9: Panel Discussion on Same Gender
Marriage. Presented by PFLAG Norman in the
sanctuary of St. Stephen's United Methodist
Church on the corner of McGee Drive and West
Brooks Street in Norman at 7:00 p.m.
Friday Sept.. 10-Sun. Sept. 12: Herland Fall Retreat at
Robbers Cave State Park-see page 4 for registration
Sunday, Sept12: Womyn of Color Meeting, call 8423464 for details
Monday. Sept 13: OGLPC Monthly Meeting at the
Center, 2135 NW 39th, 7 pm
Saturday, S~t. 18: Herland Supper Club and Video
Night (together) - 7 pm
Saturday, Sept.18: Miss Brown to You at the Jazz Lab,
100 E 5th Street, Edmond, 8 pm, $7 .00
Sunday, Sept 19: Herland Board Meeting, 4 pm, everyone welcome
Friday Sept. 24: Miss Brown to You at Galileos, 3009
Paseo, 9 pm $5.00
Saturday. Sept. 28: Herland Scrabble Night-6 pm

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Herland Fall Women's Retreat Registration Form
Robbers Cave State Park - September 10-12, 2004
Below are guidelines to help you select an appropriate registration amount. Deadline for pre-registration is September 4th.
Please remember that dogs are welcome but must remain on leashes and are not allowed in the dining hall .

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under $13,300

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$6,500-$13,300

$13,300-$18,000

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$13,300-$19,500

$18,000-$26,000

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Please return registration form and check to: Herland Sister Resources, 2312 NW 39th Street, Oklahoma City, OK 73112
A retreat packet with all information will be sent to you.

and transgendered persons, their families and friends
through: support, to cope with an adverse society;
education, to enlighten an ill-informed public; and
advocacy, to end discrimination.

Celebrates 30th Anniversary
Barbara Ehrenreich
Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays
(PFLAG) is holding a 30th Anniversary banquet during
their October 22-24, 2004 National Conference in Salt
Lake City, Utah. The conference will also feature keynote speakers, informative workshops, and an awards
ceremony. More information can be found at
www .pflag.org.
PFLAG got its start in March 1973 when Jeanne
Manford began a support group for parents of lesbians
and gays. A year earlier Jeanne and Jules Manford were
outraged to see the police ignore an attack on their son,
Morton Manford, during a gay rights protest. As they
became more involved as gay right activists, Jeanne saw
the need for a support group. Since that first meeting of
about 20 people PFLAG has grown to a membership of
over 200,000.

Citizens League of Central Oklahoma and Oklahoma City
University present Barbara Ehrenreich at a free public lecture 7 pm Wednesday, September 29, 2004, Kirkpatrick
Auditorium, Oklahoma City University. Ehrenreich is the
author of the New York Times Bestseller (and one-time Herland Book Club choice) Nickel and Dimed: On Not Making It
in America. In 2000, veteran journalist and social commentarian (and hard-core feminist) Barbara Ehrenreich went
undercover, working in a series of low-paying jobs as a
waitress, maid, health care worker, and sales clerk. The
resulting book is an old-fashioned, in-your-face expose forcing anyone who reads it to acknowledge the often desperate plight of Americans working at minimum wage. This
event is free and open to the public.

Their current mission statement is: "PFLAG promotes the health and well-being of gay, lesbian, bisexual

www .ourbodiesourselves.org

This Month's website of the month is:

Why Women Should Vote!
Here is a short history lesson on the privilege of
voting .. .
The women were innocent and defenseless. And by
the end of the night, they were barely alive. Forty
prison guards wielding clubs and their warden's blessing went on a rampage against the 33 women
wrongly convicted of "obstructing sidewalk traffic."

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What is the state of HIV in the Oklahoma
City area?

They beat Lucy Burn, chained her hands to the cell
bars above her head and left her hanging for the
night, bleeding and gasping for air. They hurled Dora
Lewis into a dark cell, smashed her head against an
iron bed and knocked her out cold. Her cell mate, Alice Cosu, thought Lewis was dead and suffered a
heart attack. Additional affidavits describe the
guards grabbing, dragging, beating, choking, slamming, pinching, twisting and kicking the women .

The AIDS epidemic is far from being over. Although AIDS death rates have declined due to drug
therapy, new infection rates have not declined;
therefore, Oklahoma City area case loads continue to
increase. Females and young people are becoming
infected at an increasing rate than in the past and
communities of color continue to be disproportionately affected.

What have HIV/ AIDS service organizations
accomplished for persons living with HIV?

Thus unfolded the "Night of Terror" on Nov. 15,
1917, when the warden at the Occoquan Workhouse
in Virginia ordered his guards to teach a lesson to the
suffragists imprisoned there because they dared to
picket Woodrow Wilson's White House for the right to
vote.

These organizations have provided the following
vital services: primary hea lth care "' prescription
drug assistance "' case management"' nutritional
services "' employment services "' housing "' care
teams and buddies "' food assistance "' rental and
utility assistance "' mental health services "' medical
transportation "' HIV antibody counseling and testing
"'HIV/AIDS education and prevention .

For weeks, the women's only water came from an
open pail. Their food--all of it colorless slop--was infested with worms. When one of the leaders, Alice
Paul, embarked on a hunger strike, they tied her to a
chair, forced a tube down her throat and poured liquid into her until she vomited. She was tortured like
this for weeks until word was smuggled out to the
press .

How can you help support AIDS Walk Oklahoma City?
Make a financial contribution "' Organize a walk
team and collect donations "' volunteer "' become a
sponsor. Find out more by visiting our website at
www.aidswa lkokc.org

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Local artists will be featured and 10 percent of their
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So, refresh my memory. Some women won't vote
this year because--why, exactly? We have carpool
duties? We have to get to work? Our vote doesn't
matter? It's raining?

COMING SOON! OUT OK III
The Oklahoma International Film Festival opens
October 14-16, 2004 in Oklahoma City and closes October 20-23, 2004 in Tulsa.
OUT OK III VIP PASS is now on sale! Priority seating for ALL films; free access to the LEVEL Cocktail
Party and CABANA BOY Romp; free admission to the
Summer Film Series-2005; OUT OK Survival Kit.
COST: Oklahoma City: $50.00. Tulsa: $60.00.
Stay tuned for the OUT OK III program of films.
Visit us at www.out-ok.com

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