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August, 1998

FALL
\

"'F

RETREAT
With 100 +degrees at 7 :00 PM, Fall

l~seems a long way off but it's not too early

to start planning for the Herland Fall Re~
~~ treat. It's set for October 9-11 at Osage
~~ ~Hills State Park near Pawhuska. Mark the
"'
Clates on your calendar now. Registration
1
forms will be available in the September Voice.
Osage Hills State Park was the location for the first
Herland Retreat. Several activities to celebrate retreat herstory are being planned. _.,..._.
Start gathering
your old retreat photos,
.
.
~
retreat t-shrrts, songs, poems, or stones
written at or about retreats, or other retreat
~
memorabilia, and bring them to share.
Other details are still being planned. If ~
you'd like to lead a workshop or discussion
group, please just leave a message at Herland or drop us a
note. All kinds of workshops/discussions are welcomed.D

ta

Celebrate11iunteers
Join us at Herland on August 15 at 4 P.M. to celebrate
the birthday of Linda Stone, Herland' s Volunteer Coordinator.
Linda has been an active participant in Herland from our
earliest days and certainly epitomizes the spirit ofvolunteerism
that keeps Herland going.
Come, have a piece ofbirthday cake, wish Linda a happy
birthday and maybe even sign up for a volunteer shift at
Herland!D

WoMEN's BoLoJouRNEYS
Maya Angelou will be the keynote speaker for Women's
Bold Journeys, From Weavings to Websites on October 17
at St. Luke's Methodist Church in Oklahoma City.
Women' s Bold Journeys is a women's fair with the
mission "to give visibility to women's perspectives and
actions in the work and sttuggle for justice, peace, and the
integrity of creation." Nearly 60 workshops and panel
discussions, with topics ranging from "Building Bridges
among Oklahoma's Cultures" and "Adjusting to Motherhood," to "Fundamentals of Investing" and "Creative Spirituality". Several workshops will be geared to teenagers.
The conference is a collaborative effort of nearly forty
community-based and faith-based organizations. It follows
a ten-year study on women's issues by a task force of the
Oklahoma Conference of Churches.
Early registration is strongly encouraged. The registration fee (which includes lunch) is only $35 until August 15.
Scholarships are available For registration and scholarship
information call 405-525-2928.D
1

WoMEN S EQUALITY DAY

Elizabeth Cady Staton (as played by Diane Trout Harwood)
was the most distinguished guest at Herland's celebration
of the 150 anniversary of the Seneca Falls Women's Rights
Convention.
Volume 16 Number 8

On August 26, 1920, the 19th Amendment granting women
therightto vote was certified as part ofthe U.S. Constitution.
It states, "The right of citizens of the United States to vote
shall not be denied or abridged by the United States or by any
State on account of sex." The U.S. Congress designated
August 26 as "Women's Equality Day" in 1971 to honor
women's continuing efforts toward equality. D

Herland Sister Resources

2312N.W.39. OKC. OK73112

IN

REVIEW

by Jill Gamer

Before I get on to music, I need to just rant and rave for
a minute. Once I finish that, then I'll tell you about some good
music to help get you in a good mood again.
The Alabama Supreme Court ruled recently that a lesbian mother is unfit to have custody of her child. Furthermore, she can't have visitation with her child when her
partner is present.
Okay, what's new about that you ask? Besides the
horrible fact that this is the highest court in Alabama that
committed this travesty, that's not even the scariest part.
They also said that the father did not have to prove the
children were being harmed in any way, which is usual in
change ofcustody cases, but only had to show that the change
of custody would be "in the best interest of the children."
Wow. Doesthatopenupthedoortoabuseorwhat? Anykind
ofaccusation oflesbianism, abuse, or whatever else someone
can think of, doesn't even have to be proven, and you too
could rip custody away from your ex-spouse.
The National Center for Lesbian Rights is discouraging
the couple from appealing to the US Supreme Court immediately, for fear a loss there would be devastating to gay parents
across the country, not just to those unfortunate enough to be
living in Alabama. It's hard to say what the right thing to do
is, especially ifyou 're the couple that lost your child. But I' 11
be watching for more news about this case.
Okay, now that I got that out my system momentarily,
have you heard the new Dixie Chicks CD, Wide Open
Spaces? I've been impressed with it, and it's become one of
my favorite morning drive to work CDs to listen to. This
Dallas-based trio is talented, beautiful, and their music is a lot
of fun. With Natalie Maines on lead vocals, Emily Erwin on
dobro, banjo and acoustic guitar, andMartie Seidel on fiddle
and mandolin, they have a very lively sound and some
beautiful harmonies that give me goose bumps. They incorporate a lot oftraditional country sounds into their music with
some bluegrass and pop and this first major label release by
this group is a good one.
Two of their songs, the spunky "I Can Love You Better
Than That" and the very catchy pop country song "There's
Your Trouble" are both being played a lot on country music
radio. There are a lot of good songs on this release. The titletrack was penned by Susan Gibson, an Amarillo musician I
heard one night at the Blue Door with her band the Groobies.
The harmony on the much-remade song "Loving Arms" is
beautiful, and the folk-rocker "Am I the Only One (Who's
Ever Felt This Way)" written by Maria McKee is one of the
best on the album. I especially like the gay-friendly lyrics of
John David Souther's "I'll Take Care ofYou" (with gorgeous
harmony I might add): "Let them talk about us, let them call

us funny things, People sometimes do, Ohl don't care as long,
As you know I love you, Oh and you know I do." There are
a few ballads, and the honky-tonk "Tonight the Heartache's
on Me", the feisty "Let 'Er Rip", and Bonnie Raitt's bluesy
"Give It Up or Let Me Go" help assure a lot of variety from
this group. "I love being able to play a straight-ahead country
tune and then rip into a bluegrass number, then a blues song,"
says Martie. "To me, that's what's fun about this group." My
thoughts exactly.
Okay, so where were you the night of the Carrie Newcomer show at City Arts? She put on a great show and
effortlessly filled the room with her deep, strong voice. She
played with her band most of the show and then blessed us
with a few songs by herself. Don't get me wrong. Her band
is great and I thoroughly enjoyed every song they did. But
until you've heard just Carrie Newcomer's voice accompanied only by her guitar, you haven't truly experienced her
awesome talent. She's got a new CD out called My True
Name, and you can find it just about anywhere, so check her
out. Help support her so she can keep sharing her wonderful
music.O
Attention Deaf Lesbians
There is a new survey on the WWW just for deaf lesbians. Part
of a research project at the psychology department of Gallaudet
University, the study is designed to find out more about the lives,
attitudes and feelings ofdeaf lesbians because deaf lesbians are
often overlooked. The survey is completely confidential and
anonymous. To participate goto: http://www.deaflesbian.ml.org.0

Breast Cancer Survivors Call for Entries
Ifyou are a black lesbian with breast cancer, Women in the Life
wants to hear from you. Entries are being solicited for Zora's
Journal, a 30-day journal of stories from black lesbians who
have experienced life with breast cancer. Black lesbians who
have a relative or loved one with breast cancer can also send in
entries based on their experience with that person and the
disease. Each entry should describe one day in the life ofdealing
directly or indirectly with breast cancer and should be no more
than 400 words. The deadline for entries is Sept 1, 1998. Please
call 202-483-9818, mail to 1611 Connecticut Ave., NW, Suite
2-B, Washington DC 20009 or email witl@usbol.com for more
information.D

The Voice is published by: Herland Sister Resources, Inc. 2312 N.W.
39th, Oklahoma City, OK 73112
The Voice is offered as an open forum for community discourse. Articles
reflect the opinions of the author and not necessarily those of Herland
Sister Resources. Unsolicited articles and letters to the editor are
welcomed and must be signed by the writer with full name and address.
Upon request, letters or articles may be printed under a pseudonym or
anonymously.
Subscriptions to The Voice are free upon request although a donation
is requested to meet publication and distribution costs.

Herland Sister Resources
August, 1998
Monday

Sunday

Tuesday

Wednesday

saturday

Friday

Thursday

1
Mo\RIA MfTCHEil (181S1889) AMERICA'S FIRST
WOMAN ASTRONOMER
FIRST WOMAN ELECTED
TO AMERICAN ACADEMY
OF ARTS AND SC/ENC

3

2

4

5

6

7

8
ESTHER HOBART MORRIS
(1814-?) SUFFRAGIST,
ANTI-SU.VERYACTMST.
PERSUADED WYOMING
TO ENACT LAWGRANTING WOMEN THE VOTE

10

9

11

12

13

14

LUCY STONE (181S-1893)
FOUNDED AMERICAN
WOMAN'S SUFFRAGE
ASSN., ORGANIZED
WOMEN'S RIGHTS
CONVENTION.

16

15
4:00 PM Celebrate Linda
Stone's Birthday
at Herland

17

18

19

20

21

22

24

25

26

27

28

29

4:30 PM HSR
Board Mtg.

23

ALTHEA GIBSON-1927FIRST Bl.ACK
Pl.AYER TO WIN A
MAJOR TENNIS
CHAMPIONSHIP

NORAH ELLEN
O'NEILL-1949AIRLINE PILOTFLYING TIGERS

31

30

WOMEN'S EQUALITY DAY - 19TH
AMENDMENT
RATIFIED, 1920

HERLAND IS OPEN EVERY SATURDAY AND SUNDAY FROM 1
p. M. TO 5 p. M. COME IN TO BUY A BOOK OR TO CHECK OUT
A BOOK (OR BOOKS) FROM THE LENDING LIBRARY OR JUST TO HANG
OUT FOR A WHILE!

For Sale:

Jeri M. Schaben

85 Honda Rebel 250; 4K actual miles, garaged/covered. Original everything, $2500.

Financial Counselor

405. 755.491-6
miz@theshop.net

405 -528-1018

2 shoe shin"e stands, supplies, & equipment.
Call Laura , 943-4070

?/ewe 2Je Our 9ue.rl

FAX 405-528-1035

Peggy C. Johnson

CHURCH OF THE OPEN

Attorney At Law
Associated with
Parr, Friend and Johnson

2200 Classen Blvd., Suite 650
Oklahoma City, OK 73106-5609

ARMs

Worship Sundays 1:30 p.m.
3901 N.W. 63rd
Rev . Kathy McCallie

Pastor

(405) 524 - 6300
Opcnarmsok@aol .com

:r·~iAA2i.t-Wr"'. lr.l\;
~f.···

-·Mt*
r
PLU~BING

•

·
Preferrt•d Propert1es

·· ' ;Ji Carla Sp1ainganl
Office: (405) 751-4848

Toll Free; (800) 299-5615

I

Fax: (405) 751-4330
3705 w. Memorial

OklahOma City, OK 73134

REBECCA R. COHN, Ph.D.
CLINICAL PSYCHOLOGY

844-1951
"FOR ALL YOUR PLUMBING NEEDS"

321-2148
Individual - Couples
Family Therapy, Retreats

P.O. Box 5119
Norman, Okla 73070

"'"strc _

Inc.

THE LAW OFFICE OF SANDY INGRAHAM
@TURTLE CREEK

foa:l€St tR£aSUR€S
• inunu A oils • candla • imports

c.mp.. C°"1iR'
123 ._,hac Slncl

Norman, OK 73069

• ~lak A slona • jit'<klr9
• unique & unus.aa1 gtfla
t _...., ag.t supplia

Na!lolaha Rti:c {40S) 447·.511 I

Harland Sister Resources
2312 N.W. 39
Oklahoma City, OK 73112
Address Service Requested

NANCY NESSER,

J.0.

ASSOCIATE

ROUTE 2. Box 369-B

TELEPHONE (40!) 964-2072

McLouo, OKLAHOMA 74851
FAX (405) 964·2058
email • nines5er@aol.com

NonProfit Org.
U.S. Postage

PAID
Oklahoma City, OK
Permit No. 861



August, 1998

FALL
\

"'F

RETREAT
With 100 +degrees at 7 :00 PM, Fall

l~seems a long way off but it's not too early

to start planning for the Herland Fall Re~
~~ treat. It's set for October 9-11 at Osage
~~ ~Hills State Park near Pawhuska. Mark the
"'
Clates on your calendar now. Registration
1
forms will be available in the September Voice.
Osage Hills State Park was the location for the first
Herland Retreat. Several activities to celebrate retreat herstory are being planned. _.,..._.
Start gathering
your old retreat photos,
.
.
~
retreat t-shrrts, songs, poems, or stones
written at or about retreats, or other retreat
~
memorabilia, and bring them to share.
Other details are still being planned. If ~
you'd like to lead a workshop or discussion
group, please just leave a message at Herland or drop us a
note. All kinds of workshops/discussions are welcomed.D

ta

Celebrate11iunteers
Join us at Herland on August 15 at 4 P.M. to celebrate
the birthday of Linda Stone, Herland' s Volunteer Coordinator.
Linda has been an active participant in Herland from our
earliest days and certainly epitomizes the spirit ofvolunteerism
that keeps Herland going.
Come, have a piece ofbirthday cake, wish Linda a happy
birthday and maybe even sign up for a volunteer shift at
Herland!D

WoMEN's BoLoJouRNEYS
Maya Angelou will be the keynote speaker for Women's
Bold Journeys, From Weavings to Websites on October 17
at St. Luke's Methodist Church in Oklahoma City.
Women' s Bold Journeys is a women's fair with the
mission "to give visibility to women's perspectives and
actions in the work and sttuggle for justice, peace, and the
integrity of creation." Nearly 60 workshops and panel
discussions, with topics ranging from "Building Bridges
among Oklahoma's Cultures" and "Adjusting to Motherhood," to "Fundamentals of Investing" and "Creative Spirituality". Several workshops will be geared to teenagers.
The conference is a collaborative effort of nearly forty
community-based and faith-based organizations. It follows
a ten-year study on women's issues by a task force of the
Oklahoma Conference of Churches.
Early registration is strongly encouraged. The registration fee (which includes lunch) is only $35 until August 15.
Scholarships are available For registration and scholarship
information call 405-525-2928.D
1

WoMEN S EQUALITY DAY

Elizabeth Cady Staton (as played by Diane Trout Harwood)
was the most distinguished guest at Herland's celebration
of the 150 anniversary of the Seneca Falls Women's Rights
Convention.
Volume 16 Number 8

On August 26, 1920, the 19th Amendment granting women
therightto vote was certified as part ofthe U.S. Constitution.
It states, "The right of citizens of the United States to vote
shall not be denied or abridged by the United States or by any
State on account of sex." The U.S. Congress designated
August 26 as "Women's Equality Day" in 1971 to honor
women's continuing efforts toward equality. D

Herland Sister Resources

2312N.W.39. OKC. OK73112

IN

REVIEW

by Jill Gamer

Before I get on to music, I need to just rant and rave for
a minute. Once I finish that, then I'll tell you about some good
music to help get you in a good mood again.
The Alabama Supreme Court ruled recently that a lesbian mother is unfit to have custody of her child. Furthermore, she can't have visitation with her child when her
partner is present.
Okay, what's new about that you ask? Besides the
horrible fact that this is the highest court in Alabama that
committed this travesty, that's not even the scariest part.
They also said that the father did not have to prove the
children were being harmed in any way, which is usual in
change ofcustody cases, but only had to show that the change
of custody would be "in the best interest of the children."
Wow. Doesthatopenupthedoortoabuseorwhat? Anykind
ofaccusation oflesbianism, abuse, or whatever else someone
can think of, doesn't even have to be proven, and you too
could rip custody away from your ex-spouse.
The National Center for Lesbian Rights is discouraging
the couple from appealing to the US Supreme Court immediately, for fear a loss there would be devastating to gay parents
across the country, not just to those unfortunate enough to be
living in Alabama. It's hard to say what the right thing to do
is, especially ifyou 're the couple that lost your child. But I' 11
be watching for more news about this case.
Okay, now that I got that out my system momentarily,
have you heard the new Dixie Chicks CD, Wide Open
Spaces? I've been impressed with it, and it's become one of
my favorite morning drive to work CDs to listen to. This
Dallas-based trio is talented, beautiful, and their music is a lot
of fun. With Natalie Maines on lead vocals, Emily Erwin on
dobro, banjo and acoustic guitar, andMartie Seidel on fiddle
and mandolin, they have a very lively sound and some
beautiful harmonies that give me goose bumps. They incorporate a lot oftraditional country sounds into their music with
some bluegrass and pop and this first major label release by
this group is a good one.
Two of their songs, the spunky "I Can Love You Better
Than That" and the very catchy pop country song "There's
Your Trouble" are both being played a lot on country music
radio. There are a lot of good songs on this release. The titletrack was penned by Susan Gibson, an Amarillo musician I
heard one night at the Blue Door with her band the Groobies.
The harmony on the much-remade song "Loving Arms" is
beautiful, and the folk-rocker "Am I the Only One (Who's
Ever Felt This Way)" written by Maria McKee is one of the
best on the album. I especially like the gay-friendly lyrics of
John David Souther's "I'll Take Care ofYou" (with gorgeous
harmony I might add): "Let them talk about us, let them call

us funny things, People sometimes do, Ohl don't care as long,
As you know I love you, Oh and you know I do." There are
a few ballads, and the honky-tonk "Tonight the Heartache's
on Me", the feisty "Let 'Er Rip", and Bonnie Raitt's bluesy
"Give It Up or Let Me Go" help assure a lot of variety from
this group. "I love being able to play a straight-ahead country
tune and then rip into a bluegrass number, then a blues song,"
says Martie. "To me, that's what's fun about this group." My
thoughts exactly.
Okay, so where were you the night of the Carrie Newcomer show at City Arts? She put on a great show and
effortlessly filled the room with her deep, strong voice. She
played with her band most of the show and then blessed us
with a few songs by herself. Don't get me wrong. Her band
is great and I thoroughly enjoyed every song they did. But
until you've heard just Carrie Newcomer's voice accompanied only by her guitar, you haven't truly experienced her
awesome talent. She's got a new CD out called My True
Name, and you can find it just about anywhere, so check her
out. Help support her so she can keep sharing her wonderful
music.O
Attention Deaf Lesbians
There is a new survey on the WWW just for deaf lesbians. Part
of a research project at the psychology department of Gallaudet
University, the study is designed to find out more about the lives,
attitudes and feelings ofdeaf lesbians because deaf lesbians are
often overlooked. The survey is completely confidential and
anonymous. To participate goto: http://www.deaflesbian.ml.org.0

Breast Cancer Survivors Call for Entries
Ifyou are a black lesbian with breast cancer, Women in the Life
wants to hear from you. Entries are being solicited for Zora's
Journal, a 30-day journal of stories from black lesbians who
have experienced life with breast cancer. Black lesbians who
have a relative or loved one with breast cancer can also send in
entries based on their experience with that person and the
disease. Each entry should describe one day in the life ofdealing
directly or indirectly with breast cancer and should be no more
than 400 words. The deadline for entries is Sept 1, 1998. Please
call 202-483-9818, mail to 1611 Connecticut Ave., NW, Suite
2-B, Washington DC 20009 or email witl@usbol.com for more
information.D

The Voice is published by: Herland Sister Resources, Inc. 2312 N.W.
39th, Oklahoma City, OK 73112
The Voice is offered as an open forum for community discourse. Articles
reflect the opinions of the author and not necessarily those of Herland
Sister Resources. Unsolicited articles and letters to the editor are
welcomed and must be signed by the writer with full name and address.
Upon request, letters or articles may be printed under a pseudonym or
anonymously.
Subscriptions to The Voice are free upon request although a donation
is requested to meet publication and distribution costs.

Herland Sister Resources
August, 1998
Monday

Sunday

Tuesday

Wednesday

saturday

Friday

Thursday

1
Mo\RIA MfTCHEil (181S1889) AMERICA'S FIRST
WOMAN ASTRONOMER
FIRST WOMAN ELECTED
TO AMERICAN ACADEMY
OF ARTS AND SC/ENC

3

2

4

5

6

7

8
ESTHER HOBART MORRIS
(1814-?) SUFFRAGIST,
ANTI-SU.VERYACTMST.
PERSUADED WYOMING
TO ENACT LAWGRANTING WOMEN THE VOTE

10

9

11

12

13

14

LUCY STONE (181S-1893)
FOUNDED AMERICAN
WOMAN'S SUFFRAGE
ASSN., ORGANIZED
WOMEN'S RIGHTS
CONVENTION.

16

15
4:00 PM Celebrate Linda
Stone's Birthday
at Herland

17

18

19

20

21

22

24

25

26

27

28

29

4:30 PM HSR
Board Mtg.

23

ALTHEA GIBSON-1927FIRST Bl.ACK
Pl.AYER TO WIN A
MAJOR TENNIS
CHAMPIONSHIP

NORAH ELLEN
O'NEILL-1949AIRLINE PILOTFLYING TIGERS

31

30

WOMEN'S EQUALITY DAY - 19TH
AMENDMENT
RATIFIED, 1920

HERLAND IS OPEN EVERY SATURDAY AND SUNDAY FROM 1
p. M. TO 5 p. M. COME IN TO BUY A BOOK OR TO CHECK OUT
A BOOK (OR BOOKS) FROM THE LENDING LIBRARY OR JUST TO HANG
OUT FOR A WHILE!

For Sale:

Jeri M. Schaben

85 Honda Rebel 250; 4K actual miles, garaged/covered. Original everything, $2500.

Financial Counselor

405. 755.491-6
miz@theshop.net

405 -528-1018

2 shoe shin"e stands, supplies, & equipment.
Call Laura , 943-4070

?/ewe 2Je Our 9ue.rl

FAX 405-528-1035

Peggy C. Johnson

CHURCH OF THE OPEN

Attorney At Law
Associated with
Parr, Friend and Johnson

2200 Classen Blvd., Suite 650
Oklahoma City, OK 73106-5609

ARMs

Worship Sundays 1:30 p.m.
3901 N.W. 63rd
Rev . Kathy McCallie

Pastor

(405) 524 - 6300
Opcnarmsok@aol .com

:r·~iAA2i.t-Wr"'. lr.l\;
~f.···

-·Mt*
r
PLU~BING

•

·
Preferrt•d Propert1es

·· ' ;Ji Carla Sp1ainganl
Office: (405) 751-4848

Toll Free; (800) 299-5615

I

Fax: (405) 751-4330
3705 w. Memorial

OklahOma City, OK 73134

REBECCA R. COHN, Ph.D.
CLINICAL PSYCHOLOGY

844-1951
"FOR ALL YOUR PLUMBING NEEDS"

321-2148
Individual - Couples
Family Therapy, Retreats

P.O. Box 5119
Norman, Okla 73070

"'"strc _

Inc.

THE LAW OFFICE OF SANDY INGRAHAM
@TURTLE CREEK

foa:l€St tR£aSUR€S
• inunu A oils • candla • imports

c.mp.. C°"1iR'
123 ._,hac Slncl

Norman, OK 73069

• ~lak A slona • jit'<klr9
• unique & unus.aa1 gtfla
t _...., ag.t supplia

Na!lolaha Rti:c {40S) 447·.511 I

Harland Sister Resources
2312 N.W. 39
Oklahoma City, OK 73112
Address Service Requested

NANCY NESSER,

J.0.

ASSOCIATE

ROUTE 2. Box 369-B

TELEPHONE (40!) 964-2072

McLouo, OKLAHOMA 74851
FAX (405) 964·2058
email • nines5er@aol.com

NonProfit Org.
U.S. Postage

PAID
Oklahoma City, OK
Permit No. 861