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september 2005

Herland Retreat Trivia
Last month we had ten trivia questions to test
your memory of the Herland Retreats. So
how did you do? Find out below.

1. Where was the first Herland Retreat
held? Answer. Osage Hills, Fall
1985. Entertainers were Mary Reynolds and Peggy Johnson.
2. Where was a lavender bra run up the
flagpole? Answer: Boiling Springs,
April 1988.
3. At which retreat was there a "4:30
virgin?" Answer: Robbers Cave, May
1990. Peggy was really trying to say
"version," as in a song version, but at
4:30 am, it came out as "virgin" and
has stayed that way ever since.
4. At which retreat were dyke eroticakes
served for breakfast? Answer: Fall
1987, Robbers Cave. Helen H. was
the chef of the morning who enticed
late risers to get out of their bunks for
some rather risque pancakes.
5. Who were the performers the last
time a retreat was held at Sequoyah
State Park? Answer: Fall 1988, comedian Karen Williams and singer!
songwriter Nancy Scott of Austin.
6. Where did Harland have its first 4day retreat? Lake Wister, Fall 1989.
7. ·Which retreat featured tie-dyeing and
a kazoo band? Answer: Arrowhead
State Park, September 1990.
8. Which retreat boasted the highest
attendance at 150 womyn? Answer:
October 1991, Red Rock Canyon.
9. Which retreat featured a dog show/
costume contest? Answer: October
1995, Affowhead State Park.
10. Which entertainer has performed at
the most Herland retreats? Answer:
Winning by a nose is Mary Reynolds,
with 8 performances; Peggy Johnson was right there with 7 official.

Julie Loyd in Concert at Herland on October 5
The scene opens like this. Open mic night. Seventeen. Alone. The only girl on the
list. The only girl in the room. Julie Loyd stands on stage wailing away on a cheap
guitar- wearing another hole in the finish, weaving a tune with a set of gutsy vocals
and stomping out a rhythm with a set of steel-toed combat boots. Two songs later,
Julie steps off stage and puts her guitar
back in its case. A fellow musician walks
up to her and says, simply, "give up everything before you give up this."
When Julie recalls her favorite audience reactions, this easily tops her list.
In the five years since that open mic,
Julie has expanded her horizons playing
all around the country and sharing stages
with such performers as Shawn Mullins,
Alana Davis, Michelle Malone, Edie
Carey, and Chris Barron (of the Spin
Doctors), to name a few. She steps inside
her songs, contorting, kicking, and undulati.ng to the beat of her own percussive
guitar playing. She has a knack for making folk dynamic: "I'm tired of folk being
seen as boring. Just because I'm playing
an acoustic guitar doesn't mean I'm going to be singing about the mountainsand ifl am, I'm singing loud."
"Julie Loyd is an incredibly gifted
songwriter from Charlottesville, Virginia, and her songwriting skills and performance are simply amazing."- Up & Coming Magazine. "Julie was a sight to behold in
boots, halter top and thirties-style red hair that matcher her guitar. Her tunes are
strong and memorable" -Performer Magazine. "She paints powerful and gutsy
(See Julie Loyd page 2)

Twenty Year Anniversary of Herland Retreats: ·
October 28th-30th, Eufaula State Park
Where Were You Twenty Years Ago? Well, Herland's 20 Year Reunion Retreat
will explain where a lot of us were. The plans are coming together for the biggest
Retreat yet. Just a few of the events planned are a pumpkin carving contest (bring
your own pumpkin), costume contest (for 2 legged and 4 legged), a silent auctionamong other things you can bid on a sailboat that has been donated-and the usual
raffle with loads of goodies. Saturday brunch will be served by our own gourmet
Chris and she is promising omelets, etc. There will be outdoor activities earning the
(See Retreat page 2)

www.herlandsisters.org
herland sister resources, 2312 nw 39th, Oklahoma city, ok 73112
(405) 521-9696
email: herlandsisters@cox.net
bookstore hours: saturdays 1-5 pm

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Julie Loyd in Concert at Herland
(continued from page 1)

literate canvases, full of strength, independence, anger, fierceness, connection,
wholeness and doubt." - Celtic & Folk Music CD Review.
Julie will be in town in the middle of the week, so the concert will be early on
Wednesday, October 5, 2005, from 7 -9 pm, at Herland, 2312 NW 39th, Oklahoma
City. Tickets are sliding scale ($7.50-$15.00 suggested donation) and available at
the door or in advance at Herland on Saturdays. Call 405-521-9696 for more information, and check Julie out at www.julieloyd.com.

Herland Anniversary Retreat at Eufaula State Park
(continued from page 1)

winners points toward a prize from the raffle table. And there will be indoor games
tournament activity, as well. There will be a special 20th anniversary retreat t-shirt
to mark the occasion and hopefully tie-dying; however, finding a tie-dye artist is
proving difficult.
Don't forget the potluck, as it is always the best meal of the year.. On top of all the
things we have planned, there are a golf course and hiking trails at Eufaula, fishing,
nature center, and plenty of wildlife to watch.
Bring costumes for you and/or your dog for the costume contest-Jeannie Flanigan will bring makeup and other additional costume items for your use.
Also, please send in any photos you might have of past retreats as we will scan
them into the computer and show them on the wall throughout the Retreat. (You
will get your photos back unharmed.) Let's see how many years of retreats we can
identify.
Come share the celebration. It will definitely be fun and interesting. For more
information, or to offer help with this Mother of all Retreats, contact Laura or leave
a message for the Retreat Committee. Laura can be reached at 286-0079 or a message left at Herland at 521-9696.

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Sunday, September 25
AIDS WALK is a fund-raiser to support the treatment and prevention of
HIVI AIDS in our community. The
2005 AIDS WALK will begin at the
Myriad Botanical Gardens located in
downtown Oklahoma City on Sunday,
September 25th. Registration and entertainment begin at 12:30 p.m.,
Opening ceremonies and Step-off at
2:00 p.m, Closing ceremonies at 3:00
p.m.
For more information, including
how you can be a walker or volunteer
in some other way, please visit
www.aidswalkokc.org.

Letter to Herland
I was born an "Okie", grew up in Texas,
and got my professional degree in veterinary medicine at Oklahoma State University. I practiced and ranched in Texas in
Alpine and Waco, then retired to Colorado.
Never have I had the privilege to live in a
town that has such a great supportive lesbian community such as Oklahoma City.
I went to one of your retreats years ago
and got teased about bringing home a
"barefoot Okie" for a partner. I wasn't so
lucky, but I have enjoyed receiving your
newsletter ever since then. Congratulations
on your 20th Anniversary, Dr. J

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: Herland 20th Year Retreat Registration Form
Eufaula State Park, October 28-30, 2005
Deadline for pre-registration is October 24th. Please remember that dogs are welcome but
must remain on leashes and are not allowed in the dining hall.

Registration fee enclosed (payable to Herland):

Sliding Scale Pre-Registration
Single Person
Annual Income

,: -

$15 - $25 - $35
$45 - $60
_Saturday only (includes concert & one night

-

stay) - $25
_Concert only- $10

under $6,500
$6,500-$13,300
$13,300-$19,500
$19,500-$30,000
over $30,000

Househoid
Registration
Annual Income per person

under $13,300
$15
$13,300-$18,000 $25
$18,000-$26,000 $35
$26,000-$50,000 $45
over $50,000
$60

Name(s): _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ __

Address:

------------------------State:
Zip:
-----------------Phone:
City:

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Em a iI (optional):

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( ) I need a scholarship to attend.
( ) I'm enclosing an additional $_to help provide scholarships.
( ) I'm bringing_ children (girls of all ages and boys under age 10 are welcome).
Please return registration form and check to: Herland Sister Resources, 2312 NW 39th
Street, Oklahoma City, OK 73112. A retreat packet with all information will be sent to you.

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Herland Activities

Herland Events Calendar

Heriand Hiking
The next Herland Hike is on Saturday, September 10th at 10 am. We
will return to Martin Nature Park, 5000 W. Memorial (between MacArthur and Meridian), for this hike. Everyone is also invited to meet at
Panera, corner ofW. Memorial and Meridian, for coffee or breakfast at
9:00 am if they so desire. We will also discuss plans to try different locations for future hikes on alternating months.

Berland Supper Club
Join us for the Herland Supper Club on Saturday, September 10th, at
5:30 pm at Boomerang Restaurant,412 S. Meridian, between I-40 and
Reno. Those wishing to carpool can meet at Herland Sister Resources at
5:00 pm. After supper, at 7:00 pm, we will go around the corner to Celebration Station, on I-40 just east of Meridian, for some games of miriiature golf.

Herland Video Night
Herland presents the movie, Better Than Chocolate, on Saturday, September 17th at 7 pm. Maggie, a clerk at a lesbian bookstore, meets footloose butch Kim and, after Kim's van is towed away, they move in together. Unfortunately for their romantic bliss, Maggie's mother, Lila, and
'. ¥ teenage brother move in that very evening thanks to Lila's impending di\ vorce. But what really complicates
matters is that Maggie can't bring herself to come out to her mother; even
when she tries, Lila steamrolls through
the conversation, like she knows
what's coming and doesn't want to
hear it. Interwoven with this is the
struggle of Judy, a male-to-female
transsexual who's in love with the
bookstore's owner, Frances, who's
freaking out because customs officers
are holding a list of books at the border that they claim are obscene. The
overlapping plots are deftly juggled,
the personal and political are compellingly interwoven, and, most satisfying of all, the characters have problems that aren't going to be easily resolved. A handful of candy-colored lip-synching musical numbers give
the movie some flash and the sex scenes give the movie some heat, but
it's the elements of sorrow and ambiguity that really make the joy in Better Than Chocolate something to savor.

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Thanks to Volunteers!
Many thanks go out to the folks that showed up on our last work day.
Jasmine and Cheryl B. cleared and cleaned out the garage, making so
much room we w ere able to put up our small ping pong table. Margy
(our forewoman for the kitchen remodel project), Cheryl S., and Chris
textured the walls and ceiling in the kitchen in preparation for painting.
The kitchen remodeling is almost finished! Betsy and Jasmine cleared
the front porch of tons of clutter. Laura, Linda, and Ginger helped outside and inside on various tasks. And thanks to Jefill.tlie F. for her excellent clean up and straightening up when she worked the bookstore last
month.

Saturday, September 3: State NOW Meeting, OKC
Downtown Library, 3 pm.
Sunday. September 4: IRIS at Sisters, 6:30 pm.
Tuesday. Sept 6: PFLAG, Church of the Open
Arms, 7 pm.
Saturday. Sept 10: Herland Hike, Martin Nature
Park, 5000 W. Memoiial, 10 am. Meet for coffee first
at Panera, W. Memorial and Meridian, 9 am.
Saturday. Sept 10: Herland Supper Club, eat at .
Boomerang, 412 S. Meridian, 5:30 pm, followed by
miniature golf at Celebration Station, 1-40 just east of
Meridian , 7 pm.
Monday, Sept 12: OGLPC Monthly Meeting at
Neighborhood Alliance, 1236 NW 36th, 7 pm.
Tuesday, Sept 13: Young Lesbians/Gays Support
Group at Church of the Open Arms, 7 pm. Call
Donna at 748-7301 for details.
Wednesday, Sept 14: Opening Reception for the
Holocaust Remembrance Exhibition, Untitled
Artspace, 1 NE 3rd, 7 pm. Continues through Oct.
23rd. See www.okholocaustexhibition.org for details.
Thursday, Sept 15: Mary Reynolds and Louise
Goldberg, Jazz Lab in Edmond, 8 pm, $7.
Friday, Sept 16: Mary Reynolds and San Man Band
Reunion, Chouse, 717 W Boyd, Norman, 7 pm, $12.
Saturday, Sept 17: HeriandVideo Night, Better
Than Chocolate, at Her!and, 7 pm.
Saturday, Sept 17: Mary Reynolds and Cary! P:
Weiss, Full Circle Bookstore, 7 pm.
Sunday, Sept18: Hertand Board Meeting at Herland, 4 pm, everyone welcome.
Tuesday, Sept 20: Mary Reynolds, Louise Goldberg, and Caryl P. Weiss, Galileos, 8 pm.
Tuesday, Sept 27: Young Lesbians/Gays Support
Group at Church of the Open Arms, 7 pm.
Wednesday. Oct. 5: Julie Lloyd in concert at Her·
land, 7 pm. $7.50-$15.00 sliding scale.

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r,,tPride family Picnic in McAlester Sept 24th

State NOW Meeting

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Oklahoma City Downtown Public
library, 300 Park Avenue

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Email ameevandemooLnow@amalLccm
for more information.

Young lesbians Group
Want to talk to womyn your own age? Join
this "talking circle" for young lesbians between
the ages of 18 and 30. Group is sponsored by
PFLAG and meets the 2nd & 4th Tuesdays,
Sept 13 & 27 this month, 7 pm, at Church of
the Open Arms, 3131 N Penn, OKC. Ca!!
Donna at 748-7301 for more information.

Motorcycle for Sale
1997 Honda NightHawk, black, great
condition, lmv mileage, lesbian
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cPride is hosting their first "Unite with Pride" family picnic, Saturday,
September 24th at Chadick Park; 61h & Delaware, McAlester, OK,
from noon to 5 pm. McPride extends an invitation to gays, lesbians,
bisexuals, transgenders and their allies (GLBTA) to join them for this historic
event. If you support GLBT A people, they are asking you to attend the picnic
festivities. Come to McAlester and let people in McAlester see what organizations and faith groups in other communities are doing to help GLBTA people.
McPride is a nonprofit organization based in McAlester, Oklahoma dedicated
to serving the needs of gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender people within a
fifty mile radius of the city. There is no other GLBTA resource in the area. They
have been established a little over a year and seek support from other groups. The
First McPride Family Picnic, entitled "Unite with Pride: McPride Uniting Families with Love and Integrity" will feature speakers, singers, games, booths of information and fun
for all people - gay
and straight alike.
Brii1g your Ow11
picnic lunch and
non-alcoholic
drinks and come
out for an afternoon
of fun and heart
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wanmng expenences. (Alcoholic
beverages are NOT
allowed in Chadick
Park.)
Living up to
their mission of
promoting understanding and respect for diversity
and a society free of
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crimination, McPride believes it is important to create an opportunity for GLBTA
people to be visible and to share their pride in who they are, express the love and
accepta.11ce of t.lieir fawilies, create an opportunity for others to meet and get to
know them, and to live openly vvith integrity.
You have an opportunity to be involved on many levels in this great event. You
can plan to attend, be a sponsoring organization/church, a supporter, an enter. tainer, or a volunteer. We need you to help make this pic11ic a success!
The 2005 "UNITE WITH PRIDE" MCPRIDE FAMILY PICNIC" will be a
wonderful opportunity to help unite all people in McAlester and to allow GLBT A
people the opportunity to be out with integrity. Make plans to attend the picnic.
See you in McAlester! Email Karen@McPride.org or call 918-452-3184 for
more information.

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Oklahoma Holocaust Remembrance Exhibition
Cimarron Alliance Foundation, in partnership with the US Holocaust Memorial Museum and other community, civic, and religious-based organizations, is pleased to bring to Oklahoma City two exhibitions and two
widely acclaimed documentary films. Most people are familiar with the
Nazi regime's persecution and murder of six million Jews, but there were
many other groups deemed "inferior", including homosexuals, who suffered a similar fate. There were also many rescuers who risked everything - their lives and the lives of their families - to save Jews from the
Holocaust. The exhibitions in Oklahoma City will examine some of
these lesser-known aspects of the Holocaust.
This exhibit is offered free to the public, Thursday, September 15 Sunday, October 23, at Untitled [ArtSpace], 1 NE 3rd Street, Oklahoma
City. Gallery hours will be Tuesdays, Wednesdays, Thursdays, and Saturdays from 1lam to 4pm; Fridays 1lam to 8pm; and Sundays lpm to
4pm.
The exhibition includes: "Nazi Persecution of Homosexuals 1933 1945'\ a traveling exhibition of the US Holocaust Memorial Museum;
"RESCUERS: Portraits of Moral Courage in the Holocaust," photographs
by Gay Block and text by Rabbi Malka Drucker.
In conjunction with the exhibit, the Oklahoma City Museum of Art will
be screening two Holocaust related documentary films, "Paragraph 175"
and "Resisting Paradise." See www.okcmoa.com for film details and
showtimes. Or see www.okholocauste~bition.org-for exhibit info.

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Masterpieces of Hope
Friday, October 21, 2005
Ballroom, Crowne Plaza Hotel, Tulsa
Reception with Silent & Live Auctions
Join us for an evening of creativity and compassion. Live auction of denim jacket
"Masterpieces" by local and national artists,
including Lou Hodgston, John Draper,
Charles Faudree and others. Silent auction
of art, gifts, vacations, and more. For ticket
information, call the Tulsa RAIN office at
918-834-4195 or visit
www.rainoklahoma.org.

18th Annual Austin
Gay &Lesbian
International Film Festival
(aGLIFF)
September 30 - October 8, 2005

Regal Arbor Cinema
9828 Great Hills Trail
The Austin Gay and Lesbian International
Film Festival (aGLIFF) is the oldest and largest gay &lesbian film festival in the Southwest. In eighteen years, the festival has
developed into Austin's largest gay cultural
event.
Presenting a wide range of features, documentaries and shorts, the festival is screening 150 films from 18 countries across the
globe. In addition, the festival is adding two
new events: a Festival Brunch on Saturday,
October 1 at 11 :OOAM at Manuel's Great
Hills and a Closing Night Celebration on
Saturday, October 8 at 11 :OOPM at Dariush
Persian Grill (formerly 1920's).

For more information about the festival,
you may visit www.agliff.org.

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volume 23, number 9

september 2005

Herland Retreat Trivia
Last month we had ten trivia questions to test
your memory of the Herland Retreats. So
how did you do? Find out below.

1. Where was the first Herland Retreat
held? Answer. Osage Hills, Fall
1985. Entertainers were Mary Reynolds and Peggy Johnson.
2. Where was a lavender bra run up the
flagpole? Answer: Boiling Springs,
April 1988.
3. At which retreat was there a "4:30
virgin?" Answer: Robbers Cave, May
1990. Peggy was really trying to say
"version," as in a song version, but at
4:30 am, it came out as "virgin" and
has stayed that way ever since.
4. At which retreat were dyke eroticakes
served for breakfast? Answer: Fall
1987, Robbers Cave. Helen H. was
the chef of the morning who enticed
late risers to get out of their bunks for
some rather risque pancakes.
5. Who were the performers the last
time a retreat was held at Sequoyah
State Park? Answer: Fall 1988, comedian Karen Williams and singer!
songwriter Nancy Scott of Austin.
6. Where did Harland have its first 4day retreat? Lake Wister, Fall 1989.
7. ·Which retreat featured tie-dyeing and
a kazoo band? Answer: Arrowhead
State Park, September 1990.
8. Which retreat boasted the highest
attendance at 150 womyn? Answer:
October 1991, Red Rock Canyon.
9. Which retreat featured a dog show/
costume contest? Answer: October
1995, Affowhead State Park.
10. Which entertainer has performed at
the most Herland retreats? Answer:
Winning by a nose is Mary Reynolds,
with 8 performances; Peggy Johnson was right there with 7 official.

Julie Loyd in Concert at Herland on October 5
The scene opens like this. Open mic night. Seventeen. Alone. The only girl on the
list. The only girl in the room. Julie Loyd stands on stage wailing away on a cheap
guitar- wearing another hole in the finish, weaving a tune with a set of gutsy vocals
and stomping out a rhythm with a set of steel-toed combat boots. Two songs later,
Julie steps off stage and puts her guitar
back in its case. A fellow musician walks
up to her and says, simply, "give up everything before you give up this."
When Julie recalls her favorite audience reactions, this easily tops her list.
In the five years since that open mic,
Julie has expanded her horizons playing
all around the country and sharing stages
with such performers as Shawn Mullins,
Alana Davis, Michelle Malone, Edie
Carey, and Chris Barron (of the Spin
Doctors), to name a few. She steps inside
her songs, contorting, kicking, and undulati.ng to the beat of her own percussive
guitar playing. She has a knack for making folk dynamic: "I'm tired of folk being
seen as boring. Just because I'm playing
an acoustic guitar doesn't mean I'm going to be singing about the mountainsand ifl am, I'm singing loud."
"Julie Loyd is an incredibly gifted
songwriter from Charlottesville, Virginia, and her songwriting skills and performance are simply amazing."- Up & Coming Magazine. "Julie was a sight to behold in
boots, halter top and thirties-style red hair that matcher her guitar. Her tunes are
strong and memorable" -Performer Magazine. "She paints powerful and gutsy
(See Julie Loyd page 2)

Twenty Year Anniversary of Herland Retreats: ·
October 28th-30th, Eufaula State Park
Where Were You Twenty Years Ago? Well, Herland's 20 Year Reunion Retreat
will explain where a lot of us were. The plans are coming together for the biggest
Retreat yet. Just a few of the events planned are a pumpkin carving contest (bring
your own pumpkin), costume contest (for 2 legged and 4 legged), a silent auctionamong other things you can bid on a sailboat that has been donated-and the usual
raffle with loads of goodies. Saturday brunch will be served by our own gourmet
Chris and she is promising omelets, etc. There will be outdoor activities earning the
(See Retreat page 2)

www.herlandsisters.org
herland sister resources, 2312 nw 39th, Oklahoma city, ok 73112
(405) 521-9696
email: herlandsisters@cox.net
bookstore hours: saturdays 1-5 pm

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Julie Loyd in Concert at Herland
(continued from page 1)

literate canvases, full of strength, independence, anger, fierceness, connection,
wholeness and doubt." - Celtic & Folk Music CD Review.
Julie will be in town in the middle of the week, so the concert will be early on
Wednesday, October 5, 2005, from 7 -9 pm, at Herland, 2312 NW 39th, Oklahoma
City. Tickets are sliding scale ($7.50-$15.00 suggested donation) and available at
the door or in advance at Herland on Saturdays. Call 405-521-9696 for more information, and check Julie out at www.julieloyd.com.

Herland Anniversary Retreat at Eufaula State Park
(continued from page 1)

winners points toward a prize from the raffle table. And there will be indoor games
tournament activity, as well. There will be a special 20th anniversary retreat t-shirt
to mark the occasion and hopefully tie-dying; however, finding a tie-dye artist is
proving difficult.
Don't forget the potluck, as it is always the best meal of the year.. On top of all the
things we have planned, there are a golf course and hiking trails at Eufaula, fishing,
nature center, and plenty of wildlife to watch.
Bring costumes for you and/or your dog for the costume contest-Jeannie Flanigan will bring makeup and other additional costume items for your use.
Also, please send in any photos you might have of past retreats as we will scan
them into the computer and show them on the wall throughout the Retreat. (You
will get your photos back unharmed.) Let's see how many years of retreats we can
identify.
Come share the celebration. It will definitely be fun and interesting. For more
information, or to offer help with this Mother of all Retreats, contact Laura or leave
a message for the Retreat Committee. Laura can be reached at 286-0079 or a message left at Herland at 521-9696.

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Sunday, September 25
AIDS WALK is a fund-raiser to support the treatment and prevention of
HIVI AIDS in our community. The
2005 AIDS WALK will begin at the
Myriad Botanical Gardens located in
downtown Oklahoma City on Sunday,
September 25th. Registration and entertainment begin at 12:30 p.m.,
Opening ceremonies and Step-off at
2:00 p.m, Closing ceremonies at 3:00
p.m.
For more information, including
how you can be a walker or volunteer
in some other way, please visit
www.aidswalkokc.org.

Letter to Herland
I was born an "Okie", grew up in Texas,
and got my professional degree in veterinary medicine at Oklahoma State University. I practiced and ranched in Texas in
Alpine and Waco, then retired to Colorado.
Never have I had the privilege to live in a
town that has such a great supportive lesbian community such as Oklahoma City.
I went to one of your retreats years ago
and got teased about bringing home a
"barefoot Okie" for a partner. I wasn't so
lucky, but I have enjoyed receiving your
newsletter ever since then. Congratulations
on your 20th Anniversary, Dr. J

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: Herland 20th Year Retreat Registration Form
Eufaula State Park, October 28-30, 2005
Deadline for pre-registration is October 24th. Please remember that dogs are welcome but
must remain on leashes and are not allowed in the dining hall.

Registration fee enclosed (payable to Herland):

Sliding Scale Pre-Registration
Single Person
Annual Income

,: -

$15 - $25 - $35
$45 - $60
_Saturday only (includes concert & one night

-

stay) - $25
_Concert only- $10

under $6,500
$6,500-$13,300
$13,300-$19,500
$19,500-$30,000
over $30,000

Househoid
Registration
Annual Income per person

under $13,300
$15
$13,300-$18,000 $25
$18,000-$26,000 $35
$26,000-$50,000 $45
over $50,000
$60

Name(s): _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ __

Address:

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Zip:
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City:

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( ) I need a scholarship to attend.
( ) I'm enclosing an additional $_to help provide scholarships.
( ) I'm bringing_ children (girls of all ages and boys under age 10 are welcome).
Please return registration form and check to: Herland Sister Resources, 2312 NW 39th
Street, Oklahoma City, OK 73112. A retreat packet with all information will be sent to you.

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Herland Activities

Herland Events Calendar

Heriand Hiking
The next Herland Hike is on Saturday, September 10th at 10 am. We
will return to Martin Nature Park, 5000 W. Memorial (between MacArthur and Meridian), for this hike. Everyone is also invited to meet at
Panera, corner ofW. Memorial and Meridian, for coffee or breakfast at
9:00 am if they so desire. We will also discuss plans to try different locations for future hikes on alternating months.

Berland Supper Club
Join us for the Herland Supper Club on Saturday, September 10th, at
5:30 pm at Boomerang Restaurant,412 S. Meridian, between I-40 and
Reno. Those wishing to carpool can meet at Herland Sister Resources at
5:00 pm. After supper, at 7:00 pm, we will go around the corner to Celebration Station, on I-40 just east of Meridian, for some games of miriiature golf.

Herland Video Night
Herland presents the movie, Better Than Chocolate, on Saturday, September 17th at 7 pm. Maggie, a clerk at a lesbian bookstore, meets footloose butch Kim and, after Kim's van is towed away, they move in together. Unfortunately for their romantic bliss, Maggie's mother, Lila, and
'. ¥ teenage brother move in that very evening thanks to Lila's impending di\ vorce. But what really complicates
matters is that Maggie can't bring herself to come out to her mother; even
when she tries, Lila steamrolls through
the conversation, like she knows
what's coming and doesn't want to
hear it. Interwoven with this is the
struggle of Judy, a male-to-female
transsexual who's in love with the
bookstore's owner, Frances, who's
freaking out because customs officers
are holding a list of books at the border that they claim are obscene. The
overlapping plots are deftly juggled,
the personal and political are compellingly interwoven, and, most satisfying of all, the characters have problems that aren't going to be easily resolved. A handful of candy-colored lip-synching musical numbers give
the movie some flash and the sex scenes give the movie some heat, but
it's the elements of sorrow and ambiguity that really make the joy in Better Than Chocolate something to savor.

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Thanks to Volunteers!
Many thanks go out to the folks that showed up on our last work day.
Jasmine and Cheryl B. cleared and cleaned out the garage, making so
much room we w ere able to put up our small ping pong table. Margy
(our forewoman for the kitchen remodel project), Cheryl S., and Chris
textured the walls and ceiling in the kitchen in preparation for painting.
The kitchen remodeling is almost finished! Betsy and Jasmine cleared
the front porch of tons of clutter. Laura, Linda, and Ginger helped outside and inside on various tasks. And thanks to Jefill.tlie F. for her excellent clean up and straightening up when she worked the bookstore last
month.

Saturday, September 3: State NOW Meeting, OKC
Downtown Library, 3 pm.
Sunday. September 4: IRIS at Sisters, 6:30 pm.
Tuesday. Sept 6: PFLAG, Church of the Open
Arms, 7 pm.
Saturday. Sept 10: Herland Hike, Martin Nature
Park, 5000 W. Memoiial, 10 am. Meet for coffee first
at Panera, W. Memorial and Meridian, 9 am.
Saturday. Sept 10: Herland Supper Club, eat at .
Boomerang, 412 S. Meridian, 5:30 pm, followed by
miniature golf at Celebration Station, 1-40 just east of
Meridian , 7 pm.
Monday, Sept 12: OGLPC Monthly Meeting at
Neighborhood Alliance, 1236 NW 36th, 7 pm.
Tuesday, Sept 13: Young Lesbians/Gays Support
Group at Church of the Open Arms, 7 pm. Call
Donna at 748-7301 for details.
Wednesday, Sept 14: Opening Reception for the
Holocaust Remembrance Exhibition, Untitled
Artspace, 1 NE 3rd, 7 pm. Continues through Oct.
23rd. See www.okholocaustexhibition.org for details.
Thursday, Sept 15: Mary Reynolds and Louise
Goldberg, Jazz Lab in Edmond, 8 pm, $7.
Friday, Sept 16: Mary Reynolds and San Man Band
Reunion, Chouse, 717 W Boyd, Norman, 7 pm, $12.
Saturday, Sept 17: HeriandVideo Night, Better
Than Chocolate, at Her!and, 7 pm.
Saturday, Sept 17: Mary Reynolds and Cary! P:
Weiss, Full Circle Bookstore, 7 pm.
Sunday, Sept18: Hertand Board Meeting at Herland, 4 pm, everyone welcome.
Tuesday, Sept 20: Mary Reynolds, Louise Goldberg, and Caryl P. Weiss, Galileos, 8 pm.
Tuesday, Sept 27: Young Lesbians/Gays Support
Group at Church of the Open Arms, 7 pm.
Wednesday. Oct. 5: Julie Lloyd in concert at Her·
land, 7 pm. $7.50-$15.00 sliding scale.

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september 2005

r,,tPride family Picnic in McAlester Sept 24th

State NOW Meeting

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Oklahoma City Downtown Public
library, 300 Park Avenue

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Email ameevandemooLnow@amalLccm
for more information.

Young lesbians Group
Want to talk to womyn your own age? Join
this "talking circle" for young lesbians between
the ages of 18 and 30. Group is sponsored by
PFLAG and meets the 2nd & 4th Tuesdays,
Sept 13 & 27 this month, 7 pm, at Church of
the Open Arms, 3131 N Penn, OKC. Ca!!
Donna at 748-7301 for more information.

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cPride is hosting their first "Unite with Pride" family picnic, Saturday,
September 24th at Chadick Park; 61h & Delaware, McAlester, OK,
from noon to 5 pm. McPride extends an invitation to gays, lesbians,
bisexuals, transgenders and their allies (GLBTA) to join them for this historic
event. If you support GLBT A people, they are asking you to attend the picnic
festivities. Come to McAlester and let people in McAlester see what organizations and faith groups in other communities are doing to help GLBTA people.
McPride is a nonprofit organization based in McAlester, Oklahoma dedicated
to serving the needs of gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender people within a
fifty mile radius of the city. There is no other GLBTA resource in the area. They
have been established a little over a year and seek support from other groups. The
First McPride Family Picnic, entitled "Unite with Pride: McPride Uniting Families with Love and Integrity" will feature speakers, singers, games, booths of information and fun
for all people - gay
and straight alike.
Brii1g your Ow11
picnic lunch and
non-alcoholic
drinks and come
out for an afternoon
of fun and heart
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wanmng expenences. (Alcoholic
beverages are NOT
allowed in Chadick
Park.)
Living up to
their mission of
promoting understanding and respect for diversity
and a society free of
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crimination, McPride believes it is important to create an opportunity for GLBTA
people to be visible and to share their pride in who they are, express the love and
accepta.11ce of t.lieir fawilies, create an opportunity for others to meet and get to
know them, and to live openly vvith integrity.
You have an opportunity to be involved on many levels in this great event. You
can plan to attend, be a sponsoring organization/church, a supporter, an enter. tainer, or a volunteer. We need you to help make this pic11ic a success!
The 2005 "UNITE WITH PRIDE" MCPRIDE FAMILY PICNIC" will be a
wonderful opportunity to help unite all people in McAlester and to allow GLBT A
people the opportunity to be out with integrity. Make plans to attend the picnic.
See you in McAlester! Email Karen@McPride.org or call 918-452-3184 for
more information.

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Oklahoma Holocaust Remembrance Exhibition
Cimarron Alliance Foundation, in partnership with the US Holocaust Memorial Museum and other community, civic, and religious-based organizations, is pleased to bring to Oklahoma City two exhibitions and two
widely acclaimed documentary films. Most people are familiar with the
Nazi regime's persecution and murder of six million Jews, but there were
many other groups deemed "inferior", including homosexuals, who suffered a similar fate. There were also many rescuers who risked everything - their lives and the lives of their families - to save Jews from the
Holocaust. The exhibitions in Oklahoma City will examine some of
these lesser-known aspects of the Holocaust.
This exhibit is offered free to the public, Thursday, September 15 Sunday, October 23, at Untitled [ArtSpace], 1 NE 3rd Street, Oklahoma
City. Gallery hours will be Tuesdays, Wednesdays, Thursdays, and Saturdays from 1lam to 4pm; Fridays 1lam to 8pm; and Sundays lpm to
4pm.
The exhibition includes: "Nazi Persecution of Homosexuals 1933 1945'\ a traveling exhibition of the US Holocaust Memorial Museum;
"RESCUERS: Portraits of Moral Courage in the Holocaust," photographs
by Gay Block and text by Rabbi Malka Drucker.
In conjunction with the exhibit, the Oklahoma City Museum of Art will
be screening two Holocaust related documentary films, "Paragraph 175"
and "Resisting Paradise." See www.okcmoa.com for film details and
showtimes. Or see www.okholocauste~bition.org-for exhibit info.

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Masterpieces of Hope
Friday, October 21, 2005
Ballroom, Crowne Plaza Hotel, Tulsa
Reception with Silent & Live Auctions
Join us for an evening of creativity and compassion. Live auction of denim jacket
"Masterpieces" by local and national artists,
including Lou Hodgston, John Draper,
Charles Faudree and others. Silent auction
of art, gifts, vacations, and more. For ticket
information, call the Tulsa RAIN office at
918-834-4195 or visit
www.rainoklahoma.org.

18th Annual Austin
Gay &Lesbian
International Film Festival
(aGLIFF)
September 30 - October 8, 2005

Regal Arbor Cinema
9828 Great Hills Trail
The Austin Gay and Lesbian International
Film Festival (aGLIFF) is the oldest and largest gay &lesbian film festival in the Southwest. In eighteen years, the festival has
developed into Austin's largest gay cultural
event.
Presenting a wide range of features, documentaries and shorts, the festival is screening 150 films from 18 countries across the
globe. In addition, the festival is adding two
new events: a Festival Brunch on Saturday,
October 1 at 11 :OOAM at Manuel's Great
Hills and a Closing Night Celebration on
Saturday, October 8 at 11 :OOPM at Dariush
Persian Grill (formerly 1920's).

For more information about the festival,
you may visit www.agliff.org.

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