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From Around the Region, the Country & the World

Senate Passes,

Clinton Signs DOMA
WASHINGTON — President Clinton

has made a historical misjudgment by
signing the discriminatory "Defense of
Marriage Act," (DOMA) the Human
Rights Campaign asserted.
"President Clinton has become the first

presidentin history to trample on states'
traditional jurisdiction over marriage,"

duced, it is a cynical strategy to scape
goat gay and lesbian Americans"
The Defense ofMarriage Act also seeks
to reinforce the right ofstates to ignore
same-sex marriages performed in any
other state. However, there is no juris
diction in this country where same-sex
marriages are legal.

The House passed the Defense of Mar
riage Act on July 12 by a lopsided
342-67. The Senate followed suit on

said Elizabeth Birch, HRC's executive

Sept. 10, by a vote of 85-14.

director."With the stroke of his pen,he

However, the same day the Senate

has condoned the exclusion of all les

passed this anti-marriage bill, it came
within one vote of passing the Employ

bian and gay Americans from the fed
eral benefits and responsibilities that
come with marriage,even though it will
be years before such an institution be
comes available to them."

The so-called Defense of Marriage Act
defines marriage in federal law as a
union between one man and one woman.

This will mean that when gay people
are someday allowed to marry in this
country, they will be unable to collect

each others' Social Security, veterans
or other federal benefits; they will be

prohibited from filing Joint f^eral in
come tax returns; and they will be ex
cluded from a host of other federal

benefits that heterosexual couples take
for granted.
"We regret that Clinton opted to sign
this needless and mean-spirited bill,"
Birch said. "We had hoped that the

president would have changed his mind
after hearing the anti-gay rhetoric

ment Non-Discrimination Act,a bill to

outlaw job discrimination based on
sexual orientation.

Sen.Robb,who voted against the legis
lation, said,"As one who represents a
traditionally conservative state

[Virginia]...many of my fnends and
supporters have urged me to sit this one
out because of the political fallout, but
I can't do that. I feel very strongly that
this legislation isfundamentally wrong.
Despite its name, the [act] does not
defend marriage against some immi
nent, crippling threat. Although we
have made huge strides in the struggle
against discrimination based on gen
der, race and religion, it is more diffi
cult to see beyond our differences re
garding sexual orientation. The fact that
our

hearts don't all speak in the same way is
not cause for justification to discrimi-

spouted by some extreme members of

nate."

Congress.

Melinda Paras,executive director, Na-

"It became clear during the debate on
this measure that it defends' against

nothing and is merely cheap
election-year politicking. As we have
maintained since the bill was intro

J^onal Gay and Lesbian Task Force

i (I^LTF) made the following state
ment following the passage of the legnation, "The passage of DOMA and
the defeat ofENDA may be roadblocks

September 1996 • Dimensioris • Pa^e 5

on ourjourney to equality, but they will

figure out what's next are all flocking to

not turn us back. Unfortunately, the

Creating Change."

majority of the Senate was not willing

The 9th Annual Creating Change Con
ference is the national gathering for the
gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender

to stand up for the principles for which

this country stands: tolerance,compas
sion and fairness. Gay and lesbian lov
ing relationships and families are here
to stay because they speak to our aspi

movement. It will be held this Novem

ber 6-10 at the Radisson Hotel Mark
Center in Alexandria, Va.,just outside

rations of justice and reflect the real

ofthe nation's capital. Last year's gath

circumstances of our lives. Passage of
DOMA will not change this. We will

ering in Detroit attracted some 2,000

attendees. Organizers expect many

not stand by silently. We will not be

more this year because of the promi

used as scapegoats. We will continue to
fight for ourselves, our loving partners,

nence ofkey political battles and issues

our families and our equality."

Record Number

Expected At
Conference Following
Roller Coaster Year

for Gay Rights
Washington,D.C.—In the wake ofthe
recent passage ofthe anti-marriage bill
and defeat of the non-discrimination

measure, registration to the 9th Creat

ing Change activist conference spon
sored by the National Gay and Lesbian
Task Force has surged. Sponsors say
this event,comingjust one day after the
national elections, will cap what can
only be described as a roller coaster
year of highs and lows for lesbians,
gays, bisexuals and transgenders.
"We predict a very strong turnout be
cause of the confluence of emotional

events this year," said Sue Hyde,
NGLTFconference coordinator."There

was the euphoriafollowing the Supreme

Court ruling on Colorado's Amend
ment 2,then collective depression after

the Defense of Marriage Act(DOMA)
and
the
Employment
Non-Discrimination bill(BNDA),then
the ups and downs of the presidential
elections. It seems activists anxious to

in 1996.

This year, the conference will feature

special workshops on DOMAyENDA,
including statewide organizing sessions
focusing on the grassroots implications
of the bills and follow-up strategy.
Grassroots activists have been ponder
ing the impact of DOMA on the local
level since the bill mandates that states
are not obligated to extend "full faith

and credit" recognition to marriages
performed in other states.
Creating Change will feature numerous

workshops designed to capture the cur
rent energy and channel the anxiety of
the movement. For example, there is
heavy emphasis on grassroots move

ment building and leadership training.
This includes a professionally facili
tated Leadership Training track con
ducted by nationally renowned con

sultant Karl Mathiasen and a leadership
training session for g/l/b/t organiza

tions conducted by noted campaign
consultant and trainer David Fleischer.
The Fleischer training is co-sponsored
by the Gay and Lesbian Victory Fund.

Those interested in attending the
Fleischer training are strongly advised

to

register

early

by

calling

718-230-9865.

Other sessions include a Strategy Meet
ing For Statewide Organizations for

activists who toil in state legislatures
and build cross-state networks;and The
Next Presidential Administration, fea-

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r

turing inside-the-Beltway pros who will
analyze the nextfour years in the White
House. A mini-track of workshops on
the Presidential and Congressional
Elections will also be presented. And

to figure out how to pay for their work,
activists can attend a special
Fundraising Training session sponsored

ence on Nov. 7. Frank is a witty, intel

ligent and blunt politician known as
much for his soundbite zingers as for his

staunchly liberal leanings. Noted au
thor, playwright, librettist, activist and
cultural warrior June Jordan will deliver
the First Annual Vito Russo Memorial

by Kim Klein, diva of grassroots

Lecture on Art and Politics. Closing the
conference will be Carmen Vazquez,

fundraising.
More than 100 workshops and cau

public policy director of the N.Y. Les
bian and Gay Community Services Cen

cuses will be clustered under several

ter and co-director ofPromote the Vote,

main

a national registration and mobilization
project.
Also featured will be acommunity dance
on Nov. 8, and preconference institutes

"themes",

including:

Anti-Violence, Campus, Elections,

Families, Fighting the Right,
Fundraising, Health, International,

Leadership, Legislative, Marriage,
Media, Organizational Development,
Organizing, People of Color, Political
Questions,Public Schools,Aging/Age
ism, Sex/Sexuality/Gender Identify,
Spirituality, Surviving and Thriving,
Transgender, Workplace, Youth and
more.

Creating Change keynote speakers al
ways cause waves. TTiis year should be
no exception. Openly gay Rep.Barney
Frank(D-MA)will kick offthe confer

on Nov.6 and 7. These include sessions

on People of Color Organizing; Race is
the Issue; Finding Common Ground;
Youth Organizing Institute, and Com
munity Center Institute.
For more information and to register for
Creating Change, contact NGLTF at
(202)332-6483, ext. 3329; email to
cc96@ngltf.org; or visit the NGLTF
web site at http://www.ngltf.org/cc96.

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What's Goiiir' Ojv
A Monthly Listing Of Special Events All Around The Area
SAN ANTONIO - The Gay and Les
bian Community Center and The
Happy Foundation, Gay & Lesbian
Archive, will celebrate October as

National Coming Out Month with a
series ofrarely seen documentary films,
and concluding with a "Halloween
Bash"on October 31,1996.Fri.,Oct.4.
will feature "Before Stonewall" Win

formances will be held at the Lovett

Inn(501 Lovett Blvd.).Tickets are $15
and all performances begin at 8pm.
Audience members are encouraged to
come early in order to view showcased
works of art by local lesbian artists.
Seating is limited and reservations are
strongly recommended. For reserva
tions, call (713)522-2204.

ner of 2 Emmy Awards and "March

On" an unconventional documentary
about the March on Washington. On
Fri.,Oct. 11,National Coming Out Day,
it's "The Question of Equality" Parts
1 & 2. On Sat., Oct. 12, join in San
Francisco's Gay Pride Parade from 2

AUSTIN - Would you like to be in the

spotlightor the power behind the scenes?
Queer Waves, a proactive radio pro
gram spotlighting the diversity and
power of Austin's Queer community
on KOOP 91.7 FM is looking for vol

to 4 PM. Produced and broadcast live

unteers. KOOP Radio is an all volun

by San Francisco's KOFY/TV20, this
two hour presentation is fun, shocking
and enlightening.Fri.,Oct. 18,it's"The
Question ofEquality"Parts 3&4(see

teer community radio station, (except

above). Fri.,Oct.25 features"Network

Q" Hosted by Judith Light. This is a

for one paid staff member). Queer
Waves has been on the air since Febru

ary 1995. They have an hourshow from
4-5pm every Saturday. No radio expe
rience is necessary. Radio training is

nationally syndicated television series

offered at KOOP Radio ifone wishes to

which has never aired in San Antonio.

learn how to run the equipment or you

And last, but not least, on Thurs., Oct.
31 —"Rocky Horror Picture Show"!
Prize for Best Costume for tricking and
treating and free refreshments. All pro-

can work behind the scenes. For more
information call 323-9778.

HOUSTON - The law firm of Moore

,grams are presented ffee-of-charge and
begin at 7:30 PM (except the 10/12

& Hunt is sponsoring an all-day semi

event)at 923 East Mistletoe,San Anto
nio, Texas. For additional information
call(210)732-4300.

day, October 19th. Professionals and
lay persons specializing in building

nar called Creating Families on Satur

Workshop) will present Dos Lesbos, a
two character comedy revue beginning
October 2nd and running each Wednes

families through the process of both
adoption and donorinsemination will
present detailed information and an
swer questions in sessions throughout
the day. An informational "how to"
sourcebook will be provided.Class size

day and Thursday from October 3rd
through November 7th. The production

For more information, call Natalie

HOUSTON - The Group (Theatre

is limited and reservations are required.

features Kim Sevier and Sue Ulu and
was nominated for awards in San Fran

WUiiams at(713)522-4282, ext. 10.

cisco, where it ran for two years. Per

DALLAS - The 1996 annual Gay &

September 1996 • Dimensions • Page 9

Lesbian Soccer World Cup will be

HOUSTON - Houston Gay and Les

held this October 30 to November 2 in

bian Parents are holding a camping
trip to New Braunfels the weekend of

Dallas. Hosted by the Oak Lawn Soc
cer Club and sponsored by the Inter
national Gay & Lesbian Football
Association (IGLFA), the tournament

will feature over twenty teams from
around the world. In the past twelve
years of the tournament,there has been

a high level of play and competition,

October 25-27. The November family
activity will be a Thanksgiving Potluck on Saturday, November 16. For
more info, call (713)284-4939.
FORT WORTH - Pleiades Produc

ested, please send e-mail to:

tions presents Jamie Anderson and
Romanovsky and Phillips on Satur
day, November 9th at 8:30pm at Or
chestra Hall (4401 Trail Lake Dr.).

astrojet@aol.com. Or you may write

Tickets are $18 in advance and $22 at

but the focus is on fun and camaraderie.

If you or someone you know are inter

to: Oak Lawn Soccer Club, 834 S.
Montclair Ave., Dallas, Texas 75208.

the door and are available at Connec

If you're unable to attend this year's

tions Bookstore, Agape MCC and
Cowgirls Oasis in Fort Worth and at

toiimament,but would like information

Crossroads Market in Dallas.

about the IGLFA, please e-mail to:
iglfa@aol.com.

more information call(817)924-3264.

For

Desert Hearts

ukfrmen's festiv^al
October 11, 12& 13

Columbus Day Weekend
At Desert Hearts Cowgirl Club
Located between Keppville & Bandepa, TX

call(210)796-7446
Join Hundreds of women on a rugged women's ranch, tucked
away in the woods in the beautiful Texas Hill Country and enjoy
mother nature, sisterhood and entertainment under the stars.

For ticket information and details leave your name,full address
and phone number for a discreetly mailed flyer. Make plans
now and bring all your girlfriends. Big discounts for early tickets.
Page 10 • Dimensions • September 1996

Dear Aoaes
Answers to your questions about love,
RELATIONSHIIPS & PERSONAL PROBLEMS

Dear Agnes,

teer your time at any number oflesbian/
gay charitable associations. This infor

Maybe you can help me since I don't
have anyone else. My problem is I've
just come out ofthe closet and admitted

sme locations as listed above.

to my family that I'm gay.
My problem is that I'm a novice. Even
though I've known for years that I am
gay,I've never gone anywhere or tried

I am a faithful reader of yours and have
been a "fan" for almost four years. My

mation should also be availabe at the

Dear Agnes,

to meet anyone for fear of someone

problem seems insignificant compared

finding out. Now I'm ready to meet
how to go about doing this. I don't want

to others in your column. I have been
tempted to write to you several times
but thought it was Just to silly.

to meet someone in a bar because inhi

I know this will sound totally ridicu

bitions are too loose.

lous, but my lover is a terrible cook.
Now,before you throw this letter in the
trash, let me tell you that I have been

someone and I don't know what to do or

I want a friend first and then a lover.

Alone & Lonely

living with this woman for thirteen and
a half years. Furthermore,she has been
cooking all those years. I've tried to

Houston, TX

Dear Alone,
Since you live in a large metropolitan
area, you shouldn't have any problem
meeting people and making friends.
There are groups for gay men and
women with almostany interest in Hous

ton. There are groups for lesbians in
business, gay lawyers or gay students,
groups for almost any sport — includ
ing bowling, cycling, soccer, softball,
etc., groups for gay parents, groups for
gays who like to campout,etc.,etc.,etc.
The best place to start is to go to the
nearest gay community center,women's

"take over"the kitchen numerous times

over the years, but for some reason,
"Joann" thinks she is the world's great

est cook. I assure you she is not!
She can't even boil water. I've spent
hundreds of dollars on food thrown out

the back door and ground down the

garbage disposal. What can I do?
I've had steak as black as the bottom of

a pot and as tough as boot leather,
chicken that looks golden brown on the
outside and raw in the middle, and

vegetables of various textures and de

bulletin boards or ask for information

grees of doneness.
One year she baked cookies for me to

about groups in the Houston area.

take to work — I threw hers out and

Another way to meet people and do
some good in the meantime is to volun

bought some at the store rather than
subject my co-workers to her cooking.

bookstore or gay church and look on the

September 1996 • Dimensions • Page 1

I really love her, but I can't spend
thirteen more years with her cooking. I
keep hoping that, with all this practice,
she'll improve, but she only seems to
get worse.

OUT OF THE KITCHEN

OKLAHOMA CITY,OK
Dear Out,
I assume from your letter that you have
never told her what you truly think
about her cooking. That's the most di
rect approach, but after thirteen years,
I'm not sure I would mention it.

You could give her cooking classes as a
gift (tell her you are giving it to her

because you know how much she loves
to cook and you thought she might
enjoy learning some "tricks" from a
gourmet chef). Or you might consider
investing in some Julia Childs' videos.
You might even develop a "great" in
terestin learning gourmetcooking your
self and ask her to loan you the kitchen
for a few months — she mightjust give
it up entirely.
One other solution might be a patio grill
— many times the kitchen cook shies

away from the grill. However, if she
decides she likes cooking on the grill,
your problems might only get worse.

^Amm

j?ANCH
Lesbiftn/Gay
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W1CCX

1
Hallowmas. The witches' New Year.

The time when the goddess Hecate
shows her power as the destroyer of
life. A time when Nature,so central to

Celtic word wiccan(meaning wise),and
wicca (coven of the wise). The word
witch literally means wise woman. The
wiccan religion is Earth centered and

the wiccan religion, retreats so as to

has no relation to the devil-worshipping

renew itself and gather strength for the

horror portrayed in popular culture. The

coming spring. A time when spirits

Devil is a Christian phenomena and the
wiccan religion predates Christianity by

walk the Earth. In honor of this time

leading up to the Wiccan New Year,
we'll take a look at the rituals, spells
and potions of the Wiccan.
The word "witch" is a derivative of the

thousands and thousands of years.

Although much in-depth study and prac

tice is helpful in the practice of witch
craft, whatfollows is a briefsummary of

September 1996 • Dimensions • Page 13

the tools, rituals, spells and potions of
the wiccan religion.0f cohrse, I wpn't

your astral colors. These colors are de- '

termined by the month in which you
were born and can be used to represent
yourselfand others when casting spells.
You can find your astral candles in the

guarantee that these spells and potions
will work, and I won't be held respon
sible should you choose to cut offa lock
of your lover's hair in the middle ofthe

list below.

night.

January: Red & gold
February: Yellow & blue

iTOLy "D^^ys
The four Great Sabbats in a witches

year are: Candlmas(February 2nd),the

celebration of waxing light and coming
end of winter; May Eve (April 30th),
the celebration of fertility and the re
birth ofspring; Lammas(August 2nd),

March: Blue & green
April: Pink & orange
May: Blue & gold
June: Red & blue

July: Red & green
August: Pink & orange

September: Pink & gold
October: Pink & gold

a time for celebration of the bountiful

November: Yellow & blue

crops and wishes for a good harvest;

December: Red & orange

and Hallowmas(October 31st),the most
sacred of the Greater Sabbats.

There are also four Lesser Sabbats: the
two two solstices at mid-winter and

mid-summer, and the spring and au
tumn equinoxes.

Oils are worn as perfume or used to
annoint candles during a spell. They
can be purchased at occult shops or
ordered by mail from the addresses
listed at the end of this article. Some of

them are easy to come by and I've listed

CAJSJ-Dues,

them below.

OILS XNt?
iNceNse

luck and health

Candles, oils and incense are all impor
tant tools in the practice of witchcraft.
All are used to help you tap into the
powers of your mind.
The color of the candles you burn in
your rituals is important — different

colors have different meanings. A few

Cinnamon Oil: Attracts love, good

Musk: Used in love spells and to excite
sexuality.
Patchouli,Rose and Violet: Sacred to
Pan, Diana and the Fairy Queen in that
order. Used to strengthen a spell or as

general use oils.
Incense is burned to help in spellcasting.
A few of the most powerful are listed

of these are listed below:

below.

Happiness: Pink, Orange, Blue
Friendship: Blue

Healing: Patchouli, Bayberry,Sandal-

Love: Pink and Red

Money:Frankincense,Myrrh,Nutmeg,

Prosperity: Red or Green
Work: Purple

Saffron, Sandalwood
Love:Almond,Sandalwood,Rosemary

wood

Candle colors can also coincide with

Page 14 • Dimensions • September 1996

speuus
There is only one rule in speilcasting:
"Harm none, and do as thou wilt." It is

Candle spells can be used to draw
money,love, health,power or whatever
you may come up with. The candles,oil
and incense represent the elements of

helpful to cast positive spells such as
those to bring money, love, health or
success on the waxing moon(when the
moon is getting bigger - going from

the Goddess.

new moon to full). Cast spells to break
hexes and get revenge on the waning

Of course, there is much more to the

moon(from after the full moon until the
new moon).
The only spells talked about here are

"candle spells". They are the easiest
and will bring the most results with a

minimum of planning.

earth, air, fire and water. The spell is

really nothing more than turning your
wishes over to the power of nature and

practice of witchcraft than the spells
and rituals given here. Like any other
"religion" it is a way of life. The tech
niques listed in this article are only,a
simplistic overview and should be

The first step is to set up your altar. You
will place a Goddess image in the cen

treated as such. There are many good
books detailing the practice of witch
craft and many of them are available at

ter ofa small table. The Goddess image

your local women's bookstore.

can be anything that represents the
Goddess to you(a picture,statue, maga

Sources for Oils and Incense:

zine cutout, etc.). Your candles will be

Magic Circle Herbs

set at either comer of your altar.Incense

Circle Sanctuaiy

can be set wherever there is room.

P.O. Box 219

Write down your wish on a piece of

Mt. Horeb, WI 53572

white parchment paper. Place it under

Enchantment

neath the candle and annoint the candle

341 E. 9th St.

with the appropriate oil. Take a sharp
instrument and write what you want on
the candle three times. Light the appro
priate incense and say:
Upon this candle I will write

What I receive ofthee tonight
Grant what I wish you to do,
/ dedicate this rite to you.
I trust that you will grant this boon,
0lovely Goddess ofthe Moon.
1 call earth to bond my spell.
Air speed its travel well.

New York, NY 10003

(212) 228-4394
Information for this article was taken
from:

'Zsuzsanna Budapest, The Holy Book
OfWomen'sMysteries,Wingbow Press,
Berkley, CA, 1989.

Doreen Valiente, Witchcraft For To
morrow, Phoenix Publishing, Custer,
WA, 1978
^

Fire give it spiritfrom above.
Water quench my spell with love.
So Mote it be!

- Sybil Leek'

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What A Wortd,
What A Worth
QUICKLIES
BY Nancy Ford
Do you ever watch that show Ellen,that

situation comedy on ABC starring that
cute Ellen Degeneris? Of course you
watch Ellen. You're a lesbian. You

have to. It's the law. Well, it's been

running the exact same situation she 'f
first experienced 3-5 months ago. That
reminds me: I need to call my mother.
It will be very interesting to see how
more homophobic viewers will react

announced that Ellen's character may

when they find outthat Americas Sweet

come out on her show. Swear to God.

heart is really Americas Big 01' Dyke.
How can they stop liking her? That's
Just it — they can't. That's why it's
such asmart move.They can stop watch
ing, but they can't stop liking someone
they already likejust because she's gay.
I Just found out that one of my closest
friends is Republican, but I can't stop
liking him because of something he

After all these seasons of our gal being
disappointed by hetero-bent romantic
relationships(Remember the pizza boy
who moved to Rome?) she's on the

verge of figuring out why.
I've said it before,I'll say it again. What
a world, what a world. I knew that this

day would come, but only hoped it
would be in my lifetime. After enduring
decades in front of the boob tube(and I
call it that with great affection, being a
breast woman, myself) I have longed
and fantasized for the prime time show

that portrayed Gay Life as what it really
is —just like Straight Life, but with a
lot more style, taste and fun.

This could be the smartest psychologi

obviously has no control over. I don't
understand it, it worries me for his

health, and I'll pray for him, but he'll
always be my friend.
I've long suspected that others in
TV_land may not have been quite as
attracted to the opposite sex as they
would like us to believe. Oh sure, we
have the occasional Jodie on Soap,Lea

cal move in TV history since Roseanne's
Double Becky-Switch. Consider the

brother Ben on that one episode of

concept — all of America(and much of

Mary Tyler Moore...but this is big time.

the rest of the world, including the
Bible Belt) already loves Ellen. The

EIlen'sthestar.Ellen'sthe focus.Ellen's

Delaria on John Larroquette, Phyllis'

the one who has borne the chastisement

ratings prove we love her. After all,
how many of us invite someone other
than out very best friend and/or lover

believed she should open the closet
door and bolt, leaving Jodie F. and

into our homes for regular, standing

Mary C.C. and the others behind. But

weekly visitations regardless if she's

what about —

of many (including me) who have long

Page 18 • Dimensions • September 1996

y

V

■'

*

-

Mary and Rhbda Th^y didn't live
together, but Rhoda lived right over
Mary. Hmmmm.
LaVerne and Shirley

These two

closet. You know those fojks we refer

to collectively as The Religious Right
are busy at their word processors -—
typing and praying,typing and praying

didn't fool us for a moment. Sure, they

— as we speak. Drop a card to ABC

slept in twin beds. So did Rob and

Television, attention: Ellen's a Les

Laura. And who were their closest male

bian, 77 W. 66th Street, New York,

companions? Lenny and Squiggy and
Carmen, all of whom, I believe, slept

New York 10023. And, while you're at
it, tell them you'd like them to stop
turning up the volume during commer
cials. It's very annoying
Congratulations and thanks for your
courage, Ellen. You're risking being
made history to make history.

three together in the same bed, a la The

Three Stooges.
The Three Stooges All three slept in
the same bed a la themselves and were
members of The Womenhater's Club.

Ah,subtlety.

WUma and Betty Stone Age Dykes.
Who knows what happened when Fred
and Barney paddled the car off to the
quarry?

Petticoat Junction Betty Jo, Bobbie
Jo and Billie Jo may have not been
sleeping together, but they had no prob

Nancy Ford is a Houston-based
comedian and writer. She hosts

Friends Fest '96, a three day
music, comedy, sports and
entertainment camping

lem bathing together in the water tower

extravaganza.

which was nothing but a metaphor for a

October 4-6 in

Dripping Springs, Texas.

locker room.

Felix and Oscar

Without question,

there's a lost episode in which The

For more information,
cail 512/894-0567.

(not-so) Odd Couple marches in New
York's annual Gay Pride Parade.
Ginger and Mary Ann These two
castaways weren't really lesbians —
just bored. Notice though that neither
ever seems overly eager to be rescued.
Aunt Bea and Clara Edwards

It

starts with and afternoon tonic and sit

ting on the piano bench together sing
ing "Chinatown, My Chinatown." We
all know where it leads.

Let ABC-TV know that you highly

approve of Ellen's coming out of the
September 1996 • Dimensions • Page 19

The Cofeee Ceiib
Lesbians In The Arts • Books, Music, Movies, Etc.
This Month, Tasha Summer Introduces:

The Girl
Next Door
by Mindy Kaplan

by

K.cxLLmoJier'

We'll start this month with The Girl

mer. Suddenly, Lina is having a hard

Next Door by Mindy Kaplan.
Una is aforeign exchange student work

time concentrating on her studies. She

ing as a live-in nanny for a wealthy
family in Washington State. Her time is
spent going to school and taking care of

at Alex's long, tan legs as she lounges

4-year-old Sean. All is going well until
Alexandra, the family's daughter re
turns home from college for the sum

would rather be looking out the window
by the pool.

Lina has taken to anonymous sexual
encounters at a local bar to keep her
sexuality in check.
As Lina learns more about Alex, she

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finds out that Alex spends alot of time
on the Internet, hanging out in the chat
rooms. On impulse, Lina creates a a
false identity and sets out to find Alex in

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In the midst of all this, Lina is having
increasingly frequent nightmares related
to her troubled family life. Her father is
a foreign diplomat, her mother is dead.
Although The Girl Next Door is a hard
book to explain,it is a great one to read.
The plots and subplots keep you turn
ing pages right through to the very
surprise ending.

postage. Complete catalogs are avail
able upon request.

Next we'll look at WUd Things by
Karin Kallmaker (author of In Every
Port,Touchwood and Painted Moon).

Professor Faith Fitzgerald is a scholar,
award-winning author and good Catho
lic girl — still living with her parents at
the ripe age of 34.
Sydney Van Allen is a recovering alco

holic, a rising star in the Chicago politi
cal machine — and the sister of Faith's

Books, music and more,

fiance, Eric. Sydney has decided to
forgo love for the sake ofher career,and

for the lesbian, gay and
feminist communities.

has done such a goodjob that her friends
and colleagues have dubbed her "The
Ice Queen."
Eric is anxious for his fiance to meet his

Inklhujs

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September 1996 • Dimensions • Page 21

Express

Yourftelings?
You say you're "fine" when you really
feel lousy, you say "nothing" when you
are angry and a lover asks you what's
wrong, and you avoid people you are

disagree with me.

mad at instead of confronting them.
Although these things may seem trivial,

ant, I put it off as long as possible.

hiding your feelings can become a very
destructive habit. Answer the questions

3. I have a problem asking for help

below to see if you need to learn how to
express your feelings.
Answer the questions below with a:Y
for Yes,S for Sometimes,N for No.

opinion when I know people will

2. If I have to do something unpleas

when I need it.

4. I have a hard time expressing what
I want when making love.
5. When I make a mistake on the job,

I wait for my boss to find it instead of
1. I find it hard to express my

pointing it out to her.

Page 22 • Dimensions • September 1996

6. When someone hurts my feelings,
I try to ignore it.

want — you may be surprised at how

good it feels to get some of your feel
ings out in the open.

7. If I'm late with the rent, I avoid
the landlord until I have it.

37-51 points

8. I have a hard time making deci

You have a good sense ofwhen to speak
up and when to keep your mouth shut.

sions when there are more than two

You know that expressing an unpopu

choices.

9. When someone asks me for

something, I have a hard time saying
"no," even when I want to.

10. I try not to complain about how I
feel unless I'm really sick.

lar opinion among friends is quiet dif
ferent from openly disagreeing with
your boss. You are expressive without
being "mushy." You know how to say
"no" without hurting feelings, and un
derstand that there are times when you

must do things you don't want to do.
You know when to be completely hon

est about your feelings and when to tell

11. I absolutely hate giving anyone

a "little white lie."

bad news.

22-36 points

SCORING
Give yourself points on each answer
as follows:

You are very good at expressing your
feelings, although you may be a little
too honest at times. Do you really have
to tell your best friend that her new

Yes - 6 points
Sometimes - 4 points
No - 2 points

haircut looks awful on her? There are

some feelings and opinions that are best

kept to yourself. The ability to express
yourself is a wonderful trait, but you

IfYou Scored:
52-66 points

can take it too far. A little compassion
and diplomacy can go a long way to
ward improving your relationships. .

You rarely ever speak your mind —

<S

good or bad. You have a just as hard a
time saying "I love you" as saying I
disagree with you." Even though you
may think that your actions speak louder
than any words, others may not see it
that way. When you don't speak up,

you let resentments build as well as
leaving loved ones in the dark about
how you feel about them. Learning to

express yourselfis easier than you think.
Start small — tell someone how impor

tant they are or ask for something you

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September 1996 • Dimensions • Page 23

Horoscope
ARIES
Don't spend money just to make an
impression during the first part ofOcto
ber. You'11 only hurt your wallet.Try to
keep your composure when a compan
ion gets huffy around the 15th. Rely on
your gut feelings instead of a friend's
advice when it comes to a money matter

week of October. Your social life is on

an upswing and a vacation could be in
the works after the 17th. Don't let your
concentration stray on the job or you

won't enjoy your time off. A break up '
of a close relationship could leave you
feeling disillusioned but you bounce
back quickly toward month's end.

around the 24th. Toward month's end

you should take your time in matters of
love and money.

TAURUS
You may be feeling isolated during the
first part of October. Getting together
with friends or family you haven't seen
for a while will help. You may be
feeling moody after the 16th,but try not
to take it out on others. Keep to yourself
as much as possible. An invitation you
receive toward month's end shouldn't

be ignored. You never know what won
derful people you might meet- this may
even be the beginning of a new ro
mance!

GE9flI»
Balancing personal and professional
commitments could put strain on aclose
relationship during the first part of Oc

tober. All your hard work starts to pay
off after the 16th with a raise or promo
tion. Major changes in a relationship

i.i:o
Money and prestige could be yours
during the first part of October but, if
you aren't careful, it could slip thru
your fingers. A personal relationship
could be strained to the point of break
ing around the 15th. Try to work things
out but don't hesitate to leave ifitreaches

that point. Concentrate on work from
the 26th thru the 29th so that you'll be
free to enjoy social activities on the
30th & 31st.

VIRGO
What you want and what you can ac

complish may be at odds during the first
part of October. Don't be in such a
hurry! Everything will happen if you'll

just give it time. Family problems need
your attention after the 16th. Do what

you can to help out, but don't be taken
advantage of. Finances have been on
your mind all month, but an increase in

income could help you out after the
26th.

could be in the cards towards month's
end. Sit down and talk about where the

relationship is headed and how to work

EIBRA

things out.

The restlessness that has plagued you
for awhile now will lift during the first

CAKTCER

part of October. Focus on a love rela
tionship, but don't get overly posses

You may feel confined by obligations
to family or friends during the first

sive with your lover. After the 15th,
avoid the temptation to spend money

Page 24 • Dimensions • September 1996

just to impress someone. You will lose
more than you will gain. Reckless be

month's end. Trust your intuition to
lead you in the right direction.

havior (your's or another's) could get
you in trouble toward month's end if
you don't watch your step.

SCORPIO
A relationship takes a serious turn dur

ing the first part ofOctober.Job respon
sibilities may prevent you from spend

ing as much time with a loved one as
you would like until the 17th. Don't
worry — she'll understand. Your intu
ition is working overtime toward
month's end.Luck is on your side if you

AQUARIU2§»
A friendly get-together is just what you
need to get you out of the dumps during
the first part of October. Try not to be
too trusting with someone you meet
around the 13th. Keep your guard up
and you'll save yourself time, money
and frustration. Toward month's end

you should be in a great position to take
some time for yourself - recent prob
lems are behind you now and you can
relax and enjoy the fall weather.

take a chance on an investment.

PISCES

s»AGrrrARiU!$

You should be able to resolve a conflict

Social plans could be postponed by a
family fight during the first part of
October. It may be left up to you to get
things back in control. You could get in
real trouble if you don't keep close tabs
on your spending habits after the 12th.
Romance takes center stage toward

between relatives or coworkers during
the first part of October. After the 16th

your heart wants to do what your head
says you shouldn't — listen to your
head. You will have to try hard to keep
a secret toward month's end. The temp
tation to confide in someone is almost

month's end and could turn into "true

overwhelming, but could cause BIG

love" by the 30th.

trouble!

CAPRICORN
It's the little details that can trip you up
during the first part ofOctober. Stay on

your toes and be
alert to changes
both on the job
and at home.

Avoid taking
risks

Vickie L. Butte

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after the 17th,

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right now. A
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The DmECTORT
A Listing of Service Organizations, Businesses & Clubs
ALBUQUERQUE,NM (area code 505)
organizations

AIDS Resource Center * P.O. Box 190712 75219
Asians & Friends * PO Box 914275209 *392-3339

Sister Source Cooperative & Lesbian Resource Lirte

Calhedal of Hope MCC•5910 Cedar Springs Rd.* 351-1901
Commirity Church & CoOege of Divine Metaphysics

144 hIaivardSE* 268-2116

4001 Live Oak #401 *826-7110, Ext. 401

AMARILLO,TX (area code 806)
organizations

Couples Metro Dallas*P0 Box 803156 75380*5046775
P.O. Box 190712 75219*528-4233* FAX 522-4604

Usbm<3ayAlliance>P0 Box 9361 79105•373-5725

Dallas Gay/Lesbian Historic Archives•P.O. Box 19071275219 * 821-1653

MCC d Amaiito•PO Box 1276•372-4557

Dallas Gay Youth Group * 300 Turtle Creek Plaza #118 *X7-7203
Dallas Names Project *PO Box 190869 752196869*(214)520-SEWS

Congregation Beth QBiiah •P.O.Box 191188 75219*497-1591

ARUNGTON,TX (areacodeSIT)
organizations
QayA.esbian Assodatjon of UTA

DaQas Gay and Lesbian Alliance

Dallas Outdoors * P.O. Box 35474 75235•276-5270
Dallas Tavern Guild * 3900 Lemmon Ave.#220•526-5292

Dignity/Dabs * PO Box 190133 75219* 2264101
Foindation for Hi^nan Understandng * 5284233
Gay/Lesbian Gardeners•PO Box 190552 75219•3396787

P.O. Box 19346-77, UTA St 76019•794-5140

GLAADDafas*P.O.Box190712 75219*526^LAD

Tfinly MCC•331 Aaron Ave.,Ste 125 •265-5454

Grace Fetowshpii Christ Jesus *2727 Oak Lawn *528-2811

AUSTIN,TX (area code 512)

Lesb^Gay Poitical Coaition •P.O. Box 224424 75222* 828-9682

LesfaarVGay Democrats of Texas * 521-5342 ext. 229

dutis

Lesbian Resource Center•1315 Skiles *821-3999
Lesbian Visjooaries * PO Box 19144375219* 5216342 X 844

UL(Lesb'an info Line * 521-5342 ext. 298

Nexus-305W.5lh -472-5288

SPROUTS(coming out group)•521-5342 ex!. 256

organizations

TWIGS(the wymn in gay society)* 521-5342 ext 269
The New Vision (newsjoumal)•521-5342 ext. 255

Affimalion (Mettxxisi)-7403 Stxal Ciwk - 451-2329
Austin latrKi'a LesbisvVQay Organization

MetropiexRepiblcans * P.O. Box 191033 75219 *9416114

POBox1350 78787 - 28(W107

Oak Lawn Commiriy Services 4300 MacArthur•5288108

Austin Lesbiani'Gay Pofitical Caucus•P.O. Box 822 78767•474-0750

Oak Lawn Symphonic Band * P.O. Box 190973 75219•906-1751

Center tar Battered Women* (LesttiarGfDip)385-5181 or928-9070

PFLAG/Dabs•He^nlne 5566640

Gay/Lesbian Student Association at UT Austr
Lesb»VGayRi^Lobby •POBox2579 78768 *474-5475

Imperial Sovereigi Royal Court * P.O. Box 190464 75245*521-8446
Seventh-Day Adrentist Kinship *416-1358
While Rock Community Church * 722 Tenlson Mem. Rd *320-0043

Lesbian Mothers• Karen *3396506

Womyn Together*3920 Cedar Springs *5284233

4586971 'Box 275 Texas Union 78712-7338

Live Wire Productions * PO B<a 141202 78714

Metropoiian Community(Church•1100 Spriigdale Rd.*929-3660
0^ Mnistry*5555 N. Lamar Blvd. «L101 *441-9191

P-Rag {Parerts'Frtends Lesbians'Gays)* 331-8445
Sappffirel * Lesttian Sodal Group•4500659

DENTON,TX(area code 817)
organizations

Me^ Address *625 E 531/2 St., Ste E103

COURAGE Lesbian Gay Student Org.

htaiig Address * 201W.Stassney,Ste.# 321 78745-3156
Waterloo Counseftfrg Center * 507 Powel 78703* 322-9654

P.O. Box 5067 76203 *382-3813
Harvest MCC * 5900 S.Stemmons 76205 * 1608497-HMCC

Te)QS Hunwi Ri^ Foundation * P.O. Box 49740 78765 *479-8473

P-Fiag (Parents/Friends Lesbians/Gays)*387-1491

AIDS Legal Assistance 1-8006286417

The Treehouse(Lesbian Mothers Support Group)

DRIPPING SPRINGS,TX(area code 512)

607 Nueces St. 78701 * 4776822

accommodations

ATHENS,TX (area code 903)
organizations
P-Flag Parents/Friends Lesbians/(3ays)•6756326

Recreation Plantation •Campgmund * HC01 box 40-A 78620•894-0567

EL PASO,TX(area code 915)
organizations

BANDERA,TX (aeacode210)

Lambda Services * PO Box 31321 79931-0321 •24 hour fine 562-GAyS

accommodations

P-Fbg (Parents'Friends Lesbians/Gays) * Spanish & EngTsh *5914664

MCC H Paso•916 Yandel * 542-1227

Desert Hearts Cowgiil Club * Women's Guest Ranch
HC 3,Box 650 78003* 798-7446

FT. WORTH(area code 817)
organizations

DALLAS,TX (area code 214)

Agjyw MCC•4615 SE Loop 820•535-50O2

businesses
Business Defveiy Systems -14902 Preslai Rd.75240 -733-1108

dubs
Sue ESen's - 3903 Cedar Springs•5594707

organizations

Afliimatm (Methotfcl)•478-7837

Imperial Court de Fort Worth/Arington * 870-1555 or 535-7188

LesbiarVCaay PoWcal CoaRkxi of Tarant County * 263-9006 or 8686326
P-Flag (Parenls'Friends Lesbians/Gays)* 498-5607/498-4855
RESPECT •828 Hardwood Rd.•Hurst, TX 76054

Tarr^ County L/G Alfence•3327 Wnlhrop.Sule 24376116* 7686544

AffirmatiDn•PO Box 225831 75222* 948-1546

Page 26 • Dimensions • September 1996

GROESBECK,TX (area code 817)

OKLAHOMA CITY. OK (area code 405)
organizations

accommodations
Rainbow Rancb Campgroind•Rl. 2, Box 165 76642•88M75-7596

Oasis the Community Center
2135 NW 39th 73112 •525-AIDS

HOUSTON,TX (area code 713)

Hertand Sister Resources. Inc.
2312 NW 39th 73112•521-9696

businesses
Wdings BookstKp•1846 Ridimond•521-3369

SAN ANGELO, TX (area code 915)
organizations

dute
Ra*h•9218 Buflato Spdwy.'6666464
Ms. Bs•9208 Buffalo Spdwy.•6663366

P-Flag (Parents/Friends LesbensGays)•944-4323

)Crc ■ 9212 Bufiab Spdwy.•6663356

Concho Valey Gayylesbian Affiance

organizations

P.O. Box 750 76902•653-2956

AOS Fbunflblion•3927 Essex Lane•62W796
AIDS HOTUNE •do Switchboajd•529<J211

SAN ANTONIO. TX (area code 210)

Gay/tesbian Students Un^rsity of Houston•4dCX)Catxxf)•529^11
Gayjl-esbm Switchboard-PO Box 66591 77266*529^11

clubs

Houston Gay & Lesbian Parents•980-7995
Houston Gay PoRcai Caucus•P.O. Box 66664 77266•52M000
Wegrity•P.O. Box 66008 7726&6008•432-0414

Bonham Exchange * 411 Bonham * 224-9219
Nexus San Antonio* 8021 Pinebrook* 341-2818

organizations
Deaf Rainbow * 804-1904 TTY

KingdomCcfTimifiityChufch«614 E 19th*862-7533

Dignity/San Antonio * 202 N. St. Mary's * 349-3632

Lambda ALANON *1214 Joanne•521-9772

LesbiarVGayStudents-Unv. Houston Clear Lake *2700 Bay Area 77056
LTN Houston•Lesbian Teacher Network

integrity/San Antonio
PC Box 150006 78212 * 684-4920

Gay & Lesbian Community Center•0 Box 15657 78212*822-3533

PO Box 1835•BeBaire. TX 77402•52^11

Lesbian Gay Switchboard •733-7300

MetrcpoBan Corrminity Chureh Of The ResurrBction

USA (Lesbian Information SA)* 828-LISA (5472)
P-Flag(Parents/Riends LesbrarsGays)*822-4135
River City living Church* 202 HollarxJ 78212 * 822-1121

19190ecatur*861-9149

MontroseConisetiigCenter* 701 Richmond 77006*5290037
Montrose Pool LeaguaBiliards *PJ 8630482

SALGA - San Antonio Lesbian/CSay Assembly

The Movie Ckjb*867-9454

P-Rag(Parents/Friends Lesbois/Gays)•867-9020

P.O. Box 12614 78212•697-3266

PWA CoaKon•Houston * 1475 W.Qr^#163•522-5428

SALSA - San Antonio Lambda Students Alliance
PC Box 12715 78212 * SALSA Line 736-4329

The Women's Groip * 529-5871

Student Pride Soiree-PC Box 12715 78212* 736-4329

Womynspace•P.O. Box 960601 770980601
Women's Softbal League *6431 Preshade*8680256

San Antonio AIDS Foundation
PC Box 120113 78212-9313

LUBB0CK,TX (area code806)
SHERMAN,TX (area code 903)
or;-anlzatlons

organizations
Lubbock Lesblan^Gay Affiance
t P.O. Box 64746 79464 * 766-7184

AIDS Resource Center of Texhoma *813-12^ or800-5256381
Alliance for Life'PC Box 1695 75091*892-9049

MCC Lii)bock * 4501 Urwersiy •792-5562
P-Flag (Parents/Frjends Lesbians/Gays)*7998529

HIV/AIDS Services•PC Box 1695 75091 *463-7258

South Pbhs AIDS Resource Center(SPARC)
4204-B 50th St. 79413•1-800627-7079•796-7068

NATIONAL ORGANIZATIONS

WACO,TX (area code 817)
organizations

Affirmation; Unied Methodsts for Lesbian/Gay Concerns

P-Fiag (Parents/Friends LesbjansGays)*750-7211

PC Box 1021 * Evasion. IL 60204

AIDS Action Coundl•729 El^th St. S.E. Suite 200

Washington. DC 20003 *(202) 547-3101

List Your Business

AIDS 800 *1-800-221-7044

Conference For Catholic Lesbians

In The Directory for Only

PC Box 436, Planetarium Station• New York. NY 10024
GLAAD/USA * 80 Varick St. #3E * NY. NY 10013

$30 for 3 Months OR,

Hale Crime Line•1800-347-HATE

Gay & Lesbian Parents Coalition intemationa!(GLPCI)

Advertise & Get A FREE

PC Box 50360. Washington. DC 20091 *(202)583-8029
Lesbian Mothers' National Defense Fund

Listing with Your AD!

PC Box 21567 * Seattle. WA 98111 •(206)325-2643
Lesbian Teachers Network(LTN)

Non-ProfIt, Community Service
Organizations Listed Free of

PC Box 638 * Solon. lA 52333

National Gay Alli^ce for Young Adults. Inc.
PC Box 190426 * Dallas. TX 75219 *(214)307-7203
f^tional Gay/Lesbian Clearinghouse
666 Broadway 4lh Floor• NY. NY 10012

Charge.(Just send us your
request on your ietterheod.)

National Gay/Lesbian Task Force

1517 U Street NW • Wastiington D.C. 20009•202-332-6483
Parents & Friends of Lesbians and Gays(P^Flag)* 1-800-4-FAMILY
The FiffKf for Human Dignity

Call 806-797-9647
for details.

666 Broadway 4th Floor * NY. NY 10012

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From Around the Region, the Country & the World

Senate Passes,

Clinton Signs DOMA
WASHINGTON — President Clinton

has made a historical misjudgment by
signing the discriminatory "Defense of
Marriage Act," (DOMA) the Human
Rights Campaign asserted.
"President Clinton has become the first

presidentin history to trample on states'
traditional jurisdiction over marriage,"

duced, it is a cynical strategy to scape
goat gay and lesbian Americans"
The Defense ofMarriage Act also seeks
to reinforce the right ofstates to ignore
same-sex marriages performed in any
other state. However, there is no juris
diction in this country where same-sex
marriages are legal.

The House passed the Defense of Mar
riage Act on July 12 by a lopsided
342-67. The Senate followed suit on

said Elizabeth Birch, HRC's executive

Sept. 10, by a vote of 85-14.

director."With the stroke of his pen,he

However, the same day the Senate

has condoned the exclusion of all les

passed this anti-marriage bill, it came
within one vote of passing the Employ

bian and gay Americans from the fed
eral benefits and responsibilities that
come with marriage,even though it will
be years before such an institution be
comes available to them."

The so-called Defense of Marriage Act
defines marriage in federal law as a
union between one man and one woman.

This will mean that when gay people
are someday allowed to marry in this
country, they will be unable to collect

each others' Social Security, veterans
or other federal benefits; they will be

prohibited from filing Joint f^eral in
come tax returns; and they will be ex
cluded from a host of other federal

benefits that heterosexual couples take
for granted.
"We regret that Clinton opted to sign
this needless and mean-spirited bill,"
Birch said. "We had hoped that the

president would have changed his mind
after hearing the anti-gay rhetoric

ment Non-Discrimination Act,a bill to

outlaw job discrimination based on
sexual orientation.

Sen.Robb,who voted against the legis
lation, said,"As one who represents a
traditionally conservative state

[Virginia]...many of my fnends and
supporters have urged me to sit this one
out because of the political fallout, but
I can't do that. I feel very strongly that
this legislation isfundamentally wrong.
Despite its name, the [act] does not
defend marriage against some immi
nent, crippling threat. Although we
have made huge strides in the struggle
against discrimination based on gen
der, race and religion, it is more diffi
cult to see beyond our differences re
garding sexual orientation. The fact that
our

hearts don't all speak in the same way is
not cause for justification to discrimi-

spouted by some extreme members of

nate."

Congress.

Melinda Paras,executive director, Na-

"It became clear during the debate on
this measure that it defends' against

nothing and is merely cheap
election-year politicking. As we have
maintained since the bill was intro

J^onal Gay and Lesbian Task Force

i (I^LTF) made the following state
ment following the passage of the legnation, "The passage of DOMA and
the defeat ofENDA may be roadblocks

September 1996 • Dimensioris • Pa^e 5

on ourjourney to equality, but they will

figure out what's next are all flocking to

not turn us back. Unfortunately, the

Creating Change."

majority of the Senate was not willing

The 9th Annual Creating Change Con
ference is the national gathering for the
gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender

to stand up for the principles for which

this country stands: tolerance,compas
sion and fairness. Gay and lesbian lov
ing relationships and families are here
to stay because they speak to our aspi

movement. It will be held this Novem

ber 6-10 at the Radisson Hotel Mark
Center in Alexandria, Va.,just outside

rations of justice and reflect the real

ofthe nation's capital. Last year's gath

circumstances of our lives. Passage of
DOMA will not change this. We will

ering in Detroit attracted some 2,000

attendees. Organizers expect many

not stand by silently. We will not be

more this year because of the promi

used as scapegoats. We will continue to
fight for ourselves, our loving partners,

nence ofkey political battles and issues

our families and our equality."

Record Number

Expected At
Conference Following
Roller Coaster Year

for Gay Rights
Washington,D.C.—In the wake ofthe
recent passage ofthe anti-marriage bill
and defeat of the non-discrimination

measure, registration to the 9th Creat

ing Change activist conference spon
sored by the National Gay and Lesbian
Task Force has surged. Sponsors say
this event,comingjust one day after the
national elections, will cap what can
only be described as a roller coaster
year of highs and lows for lesbians,
gays, bisexuals and transgenders.
"We predict a very strong turnout be
cause of the confluence of emotional

events this year," said Sue Hyde,
NGLTFconference coordinator."There

was the euphoriafollowing the Supreme

Court ruling on Colorado's Amend
ment 2,then collective depression after

the Defense of Marriage Act(DOMA)
and
the
Employment
Non-Discrimination bill(BNDA),then
the ups and downs of the presidential
elections. It seems activists anxious to

in 1996.

This year, the conference will feature

special workshops on DOMAyENDA,
including statewide organizing sessions
focusing on the grassroots implications
of the bills and follow-up strategy.
Grassroots activists have been ponder
ing the impact of DOMA on the local
level since the bill mandates that states
are not obligated to extend "full faith

and credit" recognition to marriages
performed in other states.
Creating Change will feature numerous

workshops designed to capture the cur
rent energy and channel the anxiety of
the movement. For example, there is
heavy emphasis on grassroots move

ment building and leadership training.
This includes a professionally facili
tated Leadership Training track con
ducted by nationally renowned con

sultant Karl Mathiasen and a leadership
training session for g/l/b/t organiza

tions conducted by noted campaign
consultant and trainer David Fleischer.
The Fleischer training is co-sponsored
by the Gay and Lesbian Victory Fund.

Those interested in attending the
Fleischer training are strongly advised

to

register

early

by

calling

718-230-9865.

Other sessions include a Strategy Meet
ing For Statewide Organizations for

activists who toil in state legislatures
and build cross-state networks;and The
Next Presidential Administration, fea-

Page 6 • Dimensions • September 1996

r

turing inside-the-Beltway pros who will
analyze the nextfour years in the White
House. A mini-track of workshops on
the Presidential and Congressional
Elections will also be presented. And

to figure out how to pay for their work,
activists can attend a special
Fundraising Training session sponsored

ence on Nov. 7. Frank is a witty, intel

ligent and blunt politician known as
much for his soundbite zingers as for his

staunchly liberal leanings. Noted au
thor, playwright, librettist, activist and
cultural warrior June Jordan will deliver
the First Annual Vito Russo Memorial

by Kim Klein, diva of grassroots

Lecture on Art and Politics. Closing the
conference will be Carmen Vazquez,

fundraising.
More than 100 workshops and cau

public policy director of the N.Y. Les
bian and Gay Community Services Cen

cuses will be clustered under several

ter and co-director ofPromote the Vote,

main

a national registration and mobilization
project.
Also featured will be acommunity dance
on Nov. 8, and preconference institutes

"themes",

including:

Anti-Violence, Campus, Elections,

Families, Fighting the Right,
Fundraising, Health, International,

Leadership, Legislative, Marriage,
Media, Organizational Development,
Organizing, People of Color, Political
Questions,Public Schools,Aging/Age
ism, Sex/Sexuality/Gender Identify,
Spirituality, Surviving and Thriving,
Transgender, Workplace, Youth and
more.

Creating Change keynote speakers al
ways cause waves. TTiis year should be
no exception. Openly gay Rep.Barney
Frank(D-MA)will kick offthe confer

on Nov.6 and 7. These include sessions

on People of Color Organizing; Race is
the Issue; Finding Common Ground;
Youth Organizing Institute, and Com
munity Center Institute.
For more information and to register for
Creating Change, contact NGLTF at
(202)332-6483, ext. 3329; email to
cc96@ngltf.org; or visit the NGLTF
web site at http://www.ngltf.org/cc96.

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What's Goiiir' Ojv
A Monthly Listing Of Special Events All Around The Area
SAN ANTONIO - The Gay and Les
bian Community Center and The
Happy Foundation, Gay & Lesbian
Archive, will celebrate October as

National Coming Out Month with a
series ofrarely seen documentary films,
and concluding with a "Halloween
Bash"on October 31,1996.Fri.,Oct.4.
will feature "Before Stonewall" Win

formances will be held at the Lovett

Inn(501 Lovett Blvd.).Tickets are $15
and all performances begin at 8pm.
Audience members are encouraged to
come early in order to view showcased
works of art by local lesbian artists.
Seating is limited and reservations are
strongly recommended. For reserva
tions, call (713)522-2204.

ner of 2 Emmy Awards and "March

On" an unconventional documentary
about the March on Washington. On
Fri.,Oct. 11,National Coming Out Day,
it's "The Question of Equality" Parts
1 & 2. On Sat., Oct. 12, join in San
Francisco's Gay Pride Parade from 2

AUSTIN - Would you like to be in the

spotlightor the power behind the scenes?
Queer Waves, a proactive radio pro
gram spotlighting the diversity and
power of Austin's Queer community
on KOOP 91.7 FM is looking for vol

to 4 PM. Produced and broadcast live

unteers. KOOP Radio is an all volun

by San Francisco's KOFY/TV20, this
two hour presentation is fun, shocking
and enlightening.Fri.,Oct. 18,it's"The
Question ofEquality"Parts 3&4(see

teer community radio station, (except

above). Fri.,Oct.25 features"Network

Q" Hosted by Judith Light. This is a

for one paid staff member). Queer
Waves has been on the air since Febru

ary 1995. They have an hourshow from
4-5pm every Saturday. No radio expe
rience is necessary. Radio training is

nationally syndicated television series

offered at KOOP Radio ifone wishes to

which has never aired in San Antonio.

learn how to run the equipment or you

And last, but not least, on Thurs., Oct.
31 —"Rocky Horror Picture Show"!
Prize for Best Costume for tricking and
treating and free refreshments. All pro-

can work behind the scenes. For more
information call 323-9778.

HOUSTON - The law firm of Moore

,grams are presented ffee-of-charge and
begin at 7:30 PM (except the 10/12

& Hunt is sponsoring an all-day semi

event)at 923 East Mistletoe,San Anto
nio, Texas. For additional information
call(210)732-4300.

day, October 19th. Professionals and
lay persons specializing in building

nar called Creating Families on Satur

Workshop) will present Dos Lesbos, a
two character comedy revue beginning
October 2nd and running each Wednes

families through the process of both
adoption and donorinsemination will
present detailed information and an
swer questions in sessions throughout
the day. An informational "how to"
sourcebook will be provided.Class size

day and Thursday from October 3rd
through November 7th. The production

For more information, call Natalie

HOUSTON - The Group (Theatre

is limited and reservations are required.

features Kim Sevier and Sue Ulu and
was nominated for awards in San Fran

WUiiams at(713)522-4282, ext. 10.

cisco, where it ran for two years. Per

DALLAS - The 1996 annual Gay &

September 1996 • Dimensions • Page 9

Lesbian Soccer World Cup will be

HOUSTON - Houston Gay and Les

held this October 30 to November 2 in

bian Parents are holding a camping
trip to New Braunfels the weekend of

Dallas. Hosted by the Oak Lawn Soc
cer Club and sponsored by the Inter
national Gay & Lesbian Football
Association (IGLFA), the tournament

will feature over twenty teams from
around the world. In the past twelve
years of the tournament,there has been

a high level of play and competition,

October 25-27. The November family
activity will be a Thanksgiving Potluck on Saturday, November 16. For
more info, call (713)284-4939.
FORT WORTH - Pleiades Produc

ested, please send e-mail to:

tions presents Jamie Anderson and
Romanovsky and Phillips on Satur
day, November 9th at 8:30pm at Or
chestra Hall (4401 Trail Lake Dr.).

astrojet@aol.com. Or you may write

Tickets are $18 in advance and $22 at

but the focus is on fun and camaraderie.

If you or someone you know are inter

to: Oak Lawn Soccer Club, 834 S.
Montclair Ave., Dallas, Texas 75208.

the door and are available at Connec

If you're unable to attend this year's

tions Bookstore, Agape MCC and
Cowgirls Oasis in Fort Worth and at

toiimament,but would like information

Crossroads Market in Dallas.

about the IGLFA, please e-mail to:
iglfa@aol.com.

more information call(817)924-3264.

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Dear Aoaes
Answers to your questions about love,
RELATIONSHIIPS & PERSONAL PROBLEMS

Dear Agnes,

teer your time at any number oflesbian/
gay charitable associations. This infor

Maybe you can help me since I don't
have anyone else. My problem is I've
just come out ofthe closet and admitted

sme locations as listed above.

to my family that I'm gay.
My problem is that I'm a novice. Even
though I've known for years that I am
gay,I've never gone anywhere or tried

I am a faithful reader of yours and have
been a "fan" for almost four years. My

mation should also be availabe at the

Dear Agnes,

to meet anyone for fear of someone

problem seems insignificant compared

finding out. Now I'm ready to meet
how to go about doing this. I don't want

to others in your column. I have been
tempted to write to you several times
but thought it was Just to silly.

to meet someone in a bar because inhi

I know this will sound totally ridicu

bitions are too loose.

lous, but my lover is a terrible cook.
Now,before you throw this letter in the
trash, let me tell you that I have been

someone and I don't know what to do or

I want a friend first and then a lover.

Alone & Lonely

living with this woman for thirteen and
a half years. Furthermore,she has been
cooking all those years. I've tried to

Houston, TX

Dear Alone,
Since you live in a large metropolitan
area, you shouldn't have any problem
meeting people and making friends.
There are groups for gay men and
women with almostany interest in Hous

ton. There are groups for lesbians in
business, gay lawyers or gay students,
groups for almost any sport — includ
ing bowling, cycling, soccer, softball,
etc., groups for gay parents, groups for
gays who like to campout,etc.,etc.,etc.
The best place to start is to go to the
nearest gay community center,women's

"take over"the kitchen numerous times

over the years, but for some reason,
"Joann" thinks she is the world's great

est cook. I assure you she is not!
She can't even boil water. I've spent
hundreds of dollars on food thrown out

the back door and ground down the

garbage disposal. What can I do?
I've had steak as black as the bottom of

a pot and as tough as boot leather,
chicken that looks golden brown on the
outside and raw in the middle, and

vegetables of various textures and de

bulletin boards or ask for information

grees of doneness.
One year she baked cookies for me to

about groups in the Houston area.

take to work — I threw hers out and

Another way to meet people and do
some good in the meantime is to volun

bought some at the store rather than
subject my co-workers to her cooking.

bookstore or gay church and look on the

September 1996 • Dimensions • Page 1

I really love her, but I can't spend
thirteen more years with her cooking. I
keep hoping that, with all this practice,
she'll improve, but she only seems to
get worse.

OUT OF THE KITCHEN

OKLAHOMA CITY,OK
Dear Out,
I assume from your letter that you have
never told her what you truly think
about her cooking. That's the most di
rect approach, but after thirteen years,
I'm not sure I would mention it.

You could give her cooking classes as a
gift (tell her you are giving it to her

because you know how much she loves
to cook and you thought she might
enjoy learning some "tricks" from a
gourmet chef). Or you might consider
investing in some Julia Childs' videos.
You might even develop a "great" in
terestin learning gourmetcooking your
self and ask her to loan you the kitchen
for a few months — she mightjust give
it up entirely.
One other solution might be a patio grill
— many times the kitchen cook shies

away from the grill. However, if she
decides she likes cooking on the grill,
your problems might only get worse.

^Amm

j?ANCH
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W1CCX

1
Hallowmas. The witches' New Year.

The time when the goddess Hecate
shows her power as the destroyer of
life. A time when Nature,so central to

Celtic word wiccan(meaning wise),and
wicca (coven of the wise). The word
witch literally means wise woman. The
wiccan religion is Earth centered and

the wiccan religion, retreats so as to

has no relation to the devil-worshipping

renew itself and gather strength for the

horror portrayed in popular culture. The

coming spring. A time when spirits

Devil is a Christian phenomena and the
wiccan religion predates Christianity by

walk the Earth. In honor of this time

leading up to the Wiccan New Year,
we'll take a look at the rituals, spells
and potions of the Wiccan.
The word "witch" is a derivative of the

thousands and thousands of years.

Although much in-depth study and prac

tice is helpful in the practice of witch
craft, whatfollows is a briefsummary of

September 1996 • Dimensions • Page 13

the tools, rituals, spells and potions of
the wiccan religion.0f cohrse, I wpn't

your astral colors. These colors are de- '

termined by the month in which you
were born and can be used to represent
yourselfand others when casting spells.
You can find your astral candles in the

guarantee that these spells and potions
will work, and I won't be held respon
sible should you choose to cut offa lock
of your lover's hair in the middle ofthe

list below.

night.

January: Red & gold
February: Yellow & blue

iTOLy "D^^ys
The four Great Sabbats in a witches

year are: Candlmas(February 2nd),the

celebration of waxing light and coming
end of winter; May Eve (April 30th),
the celebration of fertility and the re
birth ofspring; Lammas(August 2nd),

March: Blue & green
April: Pink & orange
May: Blue & gold
June: Red & blue

July: Red & green
August: Pink & orange

September: Pink & gold
October: Pink & gold

a time for celebration of the bountiful

November: Yellow & blue

crops and wishes for a good harvest;

December: Red & orange

and Hallowmas(October 31st),the most
sacred of the Greater Sabbats.

There are also four Lesser Sabbats: the
two two solstices at mid-winter and

mid-summer, and the spring and au
tumn equinoxes.

Oils are worn as perfume or used to
annoint candles during a spell. They
can be purchased at occult shops or
ordered by mail from the addresses
listed at the end of this article. Some of

them are easy to come by and I've listed

CAJSJ-Dues,

them below.

OILS XNt?
iNceNse

luck and health

Candles, oils and incense are all impor
tant tools in the practice of witchcraft.
All are used to help you tap into the
powers of your mind.
The color of the candles you burn in
your rituals is important — different

colors have different meanings. A few

Cinnamon Oil: Attracts love, good

Musk: Used in love spells and to excite
sexuality.
Patchouli,Rose and Violet: Sacred to
Pan, Diana and the Fairy Queen in that
order. Used to strengthen a spell or as

general use oils.
Incense is burned to help in spellcasting.
A few of the most powerful are listed

of these are listed below:

below.

Happiness: Pink, Orange, Blue
Friendship: Blue

Healing: Patchouli, Bayberry,Sandal-

Love: Pink and Red

Money:Frankincense,Myrrh,Nutmeg,

Prosperity: Red or Green
Work: Purple

Saffron, Sandalwood
Love:Almond,Sandalwood,Rosemary

wood

Candle colors can also coincide with

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speuus
There is only one rule in speilcasting:
"Harm none, and do as thou wilt." It is

Candle spells can be used to draw
money,love, health,power or whatever
you may come up with. The candles,oil
and incense represent the elements of

helpful to cast positive spells such as
those to bring money, love, health or
success on the waxing moon(when the
moon is getting bigger - going from

the Goddess.

new moon to full). Cast spells to break
hexes and get revenge on the waning

Of course, there is much more to the

moon(from after the full moon until the
new moon).
The only spells talked about here are

"candle spells". They are the easiest
and will bring the most results with a

minimum of planning.

earth, air, fire and water. The spell is

really nothing more than turning your
wishes over to the power of nature and

practice of witchcraft than the spells
and rituals given here. Like any other
"religion" it is a way of life. The tech
niques listed in this article are only,a
simplistic overview and should be

The first step is to set up your altar. You
will place a Goddess image in the cen

treated as such. There are many good
books detailing the practice of witch
craft and many of them are available at

ter ofa small table. The Goddess image

your local women's bookstore.

can be anything that represents the
Goddess to you(a picture,statue, maga

Sources for Oils and Incense:

zine cutout, etc.). Your candles will be

Magic Circle Herbs

set at either comer of your altar.Incense

Circle Sanctuaiy

can be set wherever there is room.

P.O. Box 219

Write down your wish on a piece of

Mt. Horeb, WI 53572

white parchment paper. Place it under

Enchantment

neath the candle and annoint the candle

341 E. 9th St.

with the appropriate oil. Take a sharp
instrument and write what you want on
the candle three times. Light the appro
priate incense and say:
Upon this candle I will write

What I receive ofthee tonight
Grant what I wish you to do,
/ dedicate this rite to you.
I trust that you will grant this boon,
0lovely Goddess ofthe Moon.
1 call earth to bond my spell.
Air speed its travel well.

New York, NY 10003

(212) 228-4394
Information for this article was taken
from:

'Zsuzsanna Budapest, The Holy Book
OfWomen'sMysteries,Wingbow Press,
Berkley, CA, 1989.

Doreen Valiente, Witchcraft For To
morrow, Phoenix Publishing, Custer,
WA, 1978
^

Fire give it spiritfrom above.
Water quench my spell with love.
So Mote it be!

- Sybil Leek'

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What A Wortd,
What A Worth
QUICKLIES
BY Nancy Ford
Do you ever watch that show Ellen,that

situation comedy on ABC starring that
cute Ellen Degeneris? Of course you
watch Ellen. You're a lesbian. You

have to. It's the law. Well, it's been

running the exact same situation she 'f
first experienced 3-5 months ago. That
reminds me: I need to call my mother.
It will be very interesting to see how
more homophobic viewers will react

announced that Ellen's character may

when they find outthat Americas Sweet

come out on her show. Swear to God.

heart is really Americas Big 01' Dyke.
How can they stop liking her? That's
Just it — they can't. That's why it's
such asmart move.They can stop watch
ing, but they can't stop liking someone
they already likejust because she's gay.
I Just found out that one of my closest
friends is Republican, but I can't stop
liking him because of something he

After all these seasons of our gal being
disappointed by hetero-bent romantic
relationships(Remember the pizza boy
who moved to Rome?) she's on the

verge of figuring out why.
I've said it before,I'll say it again. What
a world, what a world. I knew that this

day would come, but only hoped it
would be in my lifetime. After enduring
decades in front of the boob tube(and I
call it that with great affection, being a
breast woman, myself) I have longed
and fantasized for the prime time show

that portrayed Gay Life as what it really
is —just like Straight Life, but with a
lot more style, taste and fun.

This could be the smartest psychologi

obviously has no control over. I don't
understand it, it worries me for his

health, and I'll pray for him, but he'll
always be my friend.
I've long suspected that others in
TV_land may not have been quite as
attracted to the opposite sex as they
would like us to believe. Oh sure, we
have the occasional Jodie on Soap,Lea

cal move in TV history since Roseanne's
Double Becky-Switch. Consider the

brother Ben on that one episode of

concept — all of America(and much of

Mary Tyler Moore...but this is big time.

the rest of the world, including the
Bible Belt) already loves Ellen. The

EIlen'sthestar.Ellen'sthe focus.Ellen's

Delaria on John Larroquette, Phyllis'

the one who has borne the chastisement

ratings prove we love her. After all,
how many of us invite someone other
than out very best friend and/or lover

believed she should open the closet
door and bolt, leaving Jodie F. and

into our homes for regular, standing

Mary C.C. and the others behind. But

weekly visitations regardless if she's

what about —

of many (including me) who have long

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y

V

■'

*

-

Mary and Rhbda Th^y didn't live
together, but Rhoda lived right over
Mary. Hmmmm.
LaVerne and Shirley

These two

closet. You know those fojks we refer

to collectively as The Religious Right
are busy at their word processors -—
typing and praying,typing and praying

didn't fool us for a moment. Sure, they

— as we speak. Drop a card to ABC

slept in twin beds. So did Rob and

Television, attention: Ellen's a Les

Laura. And who were their closest male

bian, 77 W. 66th Street, New York,

companions? Lenny and Squiggy and
Carmen, all of whom, I believe, slept

New York 10023. And, while you're at
it, tell them you'd like them to stop
turning up the volume during commer
cials. It's very annoying
Congratulations and thanks for your
courage, Ellen. You're risking being
made history to make history.

three together in the same bed, a la The

Three Stooges.
The Three Stooges All three slept in
the same bed a la themselves and were
members of The Womenhater's Club.

Ah,subtlety.

WUma and Betty Stone Age Dykes.
Who knows what happened when Fred
and Barney paddled the car off to the
quarry?

Petticoat Junction Betty Jo, Bobbie
Jo and Billie Jo may have not been
sleeping together, but they had no prob

Nancy Ford is a Houston-based
comedian and writer. She hosts

Friends Fest '96, a three day
music, comedy, sports and
entertainment camping

lem bathing together in the water tower

extravaganza.

which was nothing but a metaphor for a

October 4-6 in

Dripping Springs, Texas.

locker room.

Felix and Oscar

Without question,

there's a lost episode in which The

For more information,
cail 512/894-0567.

(not-so) Odd Couple marches in New
York's annual Gay Pride Parade.
Ginger and Mary Ann These two
castaways weren't really lesbians —
just bored. Notice though that neither
ever seems overly eager to be rescued.
Aunt Bea and Clara Edwards

It

starts with and afternoon tonic and sit

ting on the piano bench together sing
ing "Chinatown, My Chinatown." We
all know where it leads.

Let ABC-TV know that you highly

approve of Ellen's coming out of the
September 1996 • Dimensions • Page 19

The Cofeee Ceiib
Lesbians In The Arts • Books, Music, Movies, Etc.
This Month, Tasha Summer Introduces:

The Girl
Next Door
by Mindy Kaplan

by

K.cxLLmoJier'

We'll start this month with The Girl

mer. Suddenly, Lina is having a hard

Next Door by Mindy Kaplan.
Una is aforeign exchange student work

time concentrating on her studies. She

ing as a live-in nanny for a wealthy
family in Washington State. Her time is
spent going to school and taking care of

at Alex's long, tan legs as she lounges

4-year-old Sean. All is going well until
Alexandra, the family's daughter re
turns home from college for the sum

would rather be looking out the window
by the pool.

Lina has taken to anonymous sexual
encounters at a local bar to keep her
sexuality in check.
As Lina learns more about Alex, she

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finds out that Alex spends alot of time
on the Internet, hanging out in the chat
rooms. On impulse, Lina creates a a
false identity and sets out to find Alex in

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In the midst of all this, Lina is having
increasingly frequent nightmares related
to her troubled family life. Her father is
a foreign diplomat, her mother is dead.
Although The Girl Next Door is a hard
book to explain,it is a great one to read.
The plots and subplots keep you turn
ing pages right through to the very
surprise ending.

postage. Complete catalogs are avail
able upon request.

Next we'll look at WUd Things by
Karin Kallmaker (author of In Every
Port,Touchwood and Painted Moon).

Professor Faith Fitzgerald is a scholar,
award-winning author and good Catho
lic girl — still living with her parents at
the ripe age of 34.
Sydney Van Allen is a recovering alco

holic, a rising star in the Chicago politi
cal machine — and the sister of Faith's

Books, music and more,

fiance, Eric. Sydney has decided to
forgo love for the sake ofher career,and

for the lesbian, gay and
feminist communities.

has done such a goodjob that her friends
and colleagues have dubbed her "The
Ice Queen."
Eric is anxious for his fiance to meet his

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September 1996 • Dimensions • Page 21

Express

Yourftelings?
You say you're "fine" when you really
feel lousy, you say "nothing" when you
are angry and a lover asks you what's
wrong, and you avoid people you are

disagree with me.

mad at instead of confronting them.
Although these things may seem trivial,

ant, I put it off as long as possible.

hiding your feelings can become a very
destructive habit. Answer the questions

3. I have a problem asking for help

below to see if you need to learn how to
express your feelings.
Answer the questions below with a:Y
for Yes,S for Sometimes,N for No.

opinion when I know people will

2. If I have to do something unpleas

when I need it.

4. I have a hard time expressing what
I want when making love.
5. When I make a mistake on the job,

I wait for my boss to find it instead of
1. I find it hard to express my

pointing it out to her.

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6. When someone hurts my feelings,
I try to ignore it.

want — you may be surprised at how

good it feels to get some of your feel
ings out in the open.

7. If I'm late with the rent, I avoid
the landlord until I have it.

37-51 points

8. I have a hard time making deci

You have a good sense ofwhen to speak
up and when to keep your mouth shut.

sions when there are more than two

You know that expressing an unpopu

choices.

9. When someone asks me for

something, I have a hard time saying
"no," even when I want to.

10. I try not to complain about how I
feel unless I'm really sick.

lar opinion among friends is quiet dif
ferent from openly disagreeing with
your boss. You are expressive without
being "mushy." You know how to say
"no" without hurting feelings, and un
derstand that there are times when you

must do things you don't want to do.
You know when to be completely hon

est about your feelings and when to tell

11. I absolutely hate giving anyone

a "little white lie."

bad news.

22-36 points

SCORING
Give yourself points on each answer
as follows:

You are very good at expressing your
feelings, although you may be a little
too honest at times. Do you really have
to tell your best friend that her new

Yes - 6 points
Sometimes - 4 points
No - 2 points

haircut looks awful on her? There are

some feelings and opinions that are best

kept to yourself. The ability to express
yourself is a wonderful trait, but you

IfYou Scored:
52-66 points

can take it too far. A little compassion
and diplomacy can go a long way to
ward improving your relationships. .

You rarely ever speak your mind —

<S

good or bad. You have a just as hard a
time saying "I love you" as saying I
disagree with you." Even though you
may think that your actions speak louder
than any words, others may not see it
that way. When you don't speak up,

you let resentments build as well as
leaving loved ones in the dark about
how you feel about them. Learning to

express yourselfis easier than you think.
Start small — tell someone how impor

tant they are or ask for something you

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Horoscope
ARIES
Don't spend money just to make an
impression during the first part ofOcto
ber. You'11 only hurt your wallet.Try to
keep your composure when a compan
ion gets huffy around the 15th. Rely on
your gut feelings instead of a friend's
advice when it comes to a money matter

week of October. Your social life is on

an upswing and a vacation could be in
the works after the 17th. Don't let your
concentration stray on the job or you

won't enjoy your time off. A break up '
of a close relationship could leave you
feeling disillusioned but you bounce
back quickly toward month's end.

around the 24th. Toward month's end

you should take your time in matters of
love and money.

TAURUS
You may be feeling isolated during the
first part of October. Getting together
with friends or family you haven't seen
for a while will help. You may be
feeling moody after the 16th,but try not
to take it out on others. Keep to yourself
as much as possible. An invitation you
receive toward month's end shouldn't

be ignored. You never know what won
derful people you might meet- this may
even be the beginning of a new ro
mance!

GE9flI»
Balancing personal and professional
commitments could put strain on aclose
relationship during the first part of Oc

tober. All your hard work starts to pay
off after the 16th with a raise or promo
tion. Major changes in a relationship

i.i:o
Money and prestige could be yours
during the first part of October but, if
you aren't careful, it could slip thru
your fingers. A personal relationship
could be strained to the point of break
ing around the 15th. Try to work things
out but don't hesitate to leave ifitreaches

that point. Concentrate on work from
the 26th thru the 29th so that you'll be
free to enjoy social activities on the
30th & 31st.

VIRGO
What you want and what you can ac

complish may be at odds during the first
part of October. Don't be in such a
hurry! Everything will happen if you'll

just give it time. Family problems need
your attention after the 16th. Do what

you can to help out, but don't be taken
advantage of. Finances have been on
your mind all month, but an increase in

income could help you out after the
26th.

could be in the cards towards month's
end. Sit down and talk about where the

relationship is headed and how to work

EIBRA

things out.

The restlessness that has plagued you
for awhile now will lift during the first

CAKTCER

part of October. Focus on a love rela
tionship, but don't get overly posses

You may feel confined by obligations
to family or friends during the first

sive with your lover. After the 15th,
avoid the temptation to spend money

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just to impress someone. You will lose
more than you will gain. Reckless be

month's end. Trust your intuition to
lead you in the right direction.

havior (your's or another's) could get
you in trouble toward month's end if
you don't watch your step.

SCORPIO
A relationship takes a serious turn dur

ing the first part ofOctober.Job respon
sibilities may prevent you from spend

ing as much time with a loved one as
you would like until the 17th. Don't
worry — she'll understand. Your intu
ition is working overtime toward
month's end.Luck is on your side if you

AQUARIU2§»
A friendly get-together is just what you
need to get you out of the dumps during
the first part of October. Try not to be
too trusting with someone you meet
around the 13th. Keep your guard up
and you'll save yourself time, money
and frustration. Toward month's end

you should be in a great position to take
some time for yourself - recent prob
lems are behind you now and you can
relax and enjoy the fall weather.

take a chance on an investment.

PISCES

s»AGrrrARiU!$

You should be able to resolve a conflict

Social plans could be postponed by a
family fight during the first part of
October. It may be left up to you to get
things back in control. You could get in
real trouble if you don't keep close tabs
on your spending habits after the 12th.
Romance takes center stage toward

between relatives or coworkers during
the first part of October. After the 16th

your heart wants to do what your head
says you shouldn't — listen to your
head. You will have to try hard to keep
a secret toward month's end. The temp
tation to confide in someone is almost

month's end and could turn into "true

overwhelming, but could cause BIG

love" by the 30th.

trouble!

CAPRICORN
It's the little details that can trip you up
during the first part ofOctober. Stay on

your toes and be
alert to changes
both on the job
and at home.

Avoid taking
risks

Vickie L. Butte

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The DmECTORT
A Listing of Service Organizations, Businesses & Clubs
ALBUQUERQUE,NM (area code 505)
organizations

AIDS Resource Center * P.O. Box 190712 75219
Asians & Friends * PO Box 914275209 *392-3339

Sister Source Cooperative & Lesbian Resource Lirte

Calhedal of Hope MCC•5910 Cedar Springs Rd.* 351-1901
Commirity Church & CoOege of Divine Metaphysics

144 hIaivardSE* 268-2116

4001 Live Oak #401 *826-7110, Ext. 401

AMARILLO,TX (area code 806)
organizations

Couples Metro Dallas*P0 Box 803156 75380*5046775
P.O. Box 190712 75219*528-4233* FAX 522-4604

Usbm<3ayAlliance>P0 Box 9361 79105•373-5725

Dallas Gay/Lesbian Historic Archives•P.O. Box 19071275219 * 821-1653

MCC d Amaiito•PO Box 1276•372-4557

Dallas Gay Youth Group * 300 Turtle Creek Plaza #118 *X7-7203
Dallas Names Project *PO Box 190869 752196869*(214)520-SEWS

Congregation Beth QBiiah •P.O.Box 191188 75219*497-1591

ARUNGTON,TX (areacodeSIT)
organizations
QayA.esbian Assodatjon of UTA

DaQas Gay and Lesbian Alliance

Dallas Outdoors * P.O. Box 35474 75235•276-5270
Dallas Tavern Guild * 3900 Lemmon Ave.#220•526-5292

Dignity/Dabs * PO Box 190133 75219* 2264101
Foindation for Hi^nan Understandng * 5284233
Gay/Lesbian Gardeners•PO Box 190552 75219•3396787

P.O. Box 19346-77, UTA St 76019•794-5140

GLAADDafas*P.O.Box190712 75219*526^LAD

Tfinly MCC•331 Aaron Ave.,Ste 125 •265-5454

Grace Fetowshpii Christ Jesus *2727 Oak Lawn *528-2811

AUSTIN,TX (area code 512)

Lesb^Gay Poitical Coaition •P.O. Box 224424 75222* 828-9682

LesfaarVGay Democrats of Texas * 521-5342 ext. 229

dutis

Lesbian Resource Center•1315 Skiles *821-3999
Lesbian Visjooaries * PO Box 19144375219* 5216342 X 844

UL(Lesb'an info Line * 521-5342 ext. 298

Nexus-305W.5lh -472-5288

SPROUTS(coming out group)•521-5342 ex!. 256

organizations

TWIGS(the wymn in gay society)* 521-5342 ext 269
The New Vision (newsjoumal)•521-5342 ext. 255

Affimalion (Mettxxisi)-7403 Stxal Ciwk - 451-2329
Austin latrKi'a LesbisvVQay Organization

MetropiexRepiblcans * P.O. Box 191033 75219 *9416114

POBox1350 78787 - 28(W107

Oak Lawn Commiriy Services 4300 MacArthur•5288108

Austin Lesbiani'Gay Pofitical Caucus•P.O. Box 822 78767•474-0750

Oak Lawn Symphonic Band * P.O. Box 190973 75219•906-1751

Center tar Battered Women* (LesttiarGfDip)385-5181 or928-9070

PFLAG/Dabs•He^nlne 5566640

Gay/Lesbian Student Association at UT Austr
Lesb»VGayRi^Lobby •POBox2579 78768 *474-5475

Imperial Sovereigi Royal Court * P.O. Box 190464 75245*521-8446
Seventh-Day Adrentist Kinship *416-1358
While Rock Community Church * 722 Tenlson Mem. Rd *320-0043

Lesbian Mothers• Karen *3396506

Womyn Together*3920 Cedar Springs *5284233

4586971 'Box 275 Texas Union 78712-7338

Live Wire Productions * PO B<a 141202 78714

Metropoiian Community(Church•1100 Spriigdale Rd.*929-3660
0^ Mnistry*5555 N. Lamar Blvd. «L101 *441-9191

P-Rag {Parerts'Frtends Lesbians'Gays)* 331-8445
Sappffirel * Lesttian Sodal Group•4500659

DENTON,TX(area code 817)
organizations

Me^ Address *625 E 531/2 St., Ste E103

COURAGE Lesbian Gay Student Org.

htaiig Address * 201W.Stassney,Ste.# 321 78745-3156
Waterloo Counseftfrg Center * 507 Powel 78703* 322-9654

P.O. Box 5067 76203 *382-3813
Harvest MCC * 5900 S.Stemmons 76205 * 1608497-HMCC

Te)QS Hunwi Ri^ Foundation * P.O. Box 49740 78765 *479-8473

P-Fiag (Parents/Friends Lesbians/Gays)*387-1491

AIDS Legal Assistance 1-8006286417

The Treehouse(Lesbian Mothers Support Group)

DRIPPING SPRINGS,TX(area code 512)

607 Nueces St. 78701 * 4776822

accommodations

ATHENS,TX (area code 903)
organizations
P-Flag Parents/Friends Lesbians/(3ays)•6756326

Recreation Plantation •Campgmund * HC01 box 40-A 78620•894-0567

EL PASO,TX(area code 915)
organizations

BANDERA,TX (aeacode210)

Lambda Services * PO Box 31321 79931-0321 •24 hour fine 562-GAyS

accommodations

P-Fbg (Parents'Friends Lesbians/Gays) * Spanish & EngTsh *5914664

MCC H Paso•916 Yandel * 542-1227

Desert Hearts Cowgiil Club * Women's Guest Ranch
HC 3,Box 650 78003* 798-7446

FT. WORTH(area code 817)
organizations

DALLAS,TX (area code 214)

Agjyw MCC•4615 SE Loop 820•535-50O2

businesses
Business Defveiy Systems -14902 Preslai Rd.75240 -733-1108

dubs
Sue ESen's - 3903 Cedar Springs•5594707

organizations

Afliimatm (Methotfcl)•478-7837

Imperial Court de Fort Worth/Arington * 870-1555 or 535-7188

LesbiarVCaay PoWcal CoaRkxi of Tarant County * 263-9006 or 8686326
P-Flag (Parenls'Friends Lesbians/Gays)* 498-5607/498-4855
RESPECT •828 Hardwood Rd.•Hurst, TX 76054

Tarr^ County L/G Alfence•3327 Wnlhrop.Sule 24376116* 7686544

AffirmatiDn•PO Box 225831 75222* 948-1546

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GROESBECK,TX (area code 817)

OKLAHOMA CITY. OK (area code 405)
organizations

accommodations
Rainbow Rancb Campgroind•Rl. 2, Box 165 76642•88M75-7596

Oasis the Community Center
2135 NW 39th 73112 •525-AIDS

HOUSTON,TX (area code 713)

Hertand Sister Resources. Inc.
2312 NW 39th 73112•521-9696

businesses
Wdings BookstKp•1846 Ridimond•521-3369

SAN ANGELO, TX (area code 915)
organizations

dute
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Th® Niewh
From Around the Region, the Country & the World

Senate Passes,

Clinton Signs DOMA
WASHINGTON — President Clinton

has made a historical misjudgment by
signing the discriminatory "Defense of
Marriage Act," (DOMA) the Human
Rights Campaign asserted.
"President Clinton has become the first

presidentin history to trample on states'
traditional jurisdiction over marriage,"

duced, it is a cynical strategy to scape
goat gay and lesbian Americans"
The Defense ofMarriage Act also seeks
to reinforce the right ofstates to ignore
same-sex marriages performed in any
other state. However, there is no juris
diction in this country where same-sex
marriages are legal.

The House passed the Defense of Mar
riage Act on July 12 by a lopsided
342-67. The Senate followed suit on

said Elizabeth Birch, HRC's executive

Sept. 10, by a vote of 85-14.

director."With the stroke of his pen,he

However, the same day the Senate

has condoned the exclusion of all les

passed this anti-marriage bill, it came
within one vote of passing the Employ

bian and gay Americans from the fed
eral benefits and responsibilities that
come with marriage,even though it will
be years before such an institution be
comes available to them."

The so-called Defense of Marriage Act
defines marriage in federal law as a
union between one man and one woman.

This will mean that when gay people
are someday allowed to marry in this
country, they will be unable to collect

each others' Social Security, veterans
or other federal benefits; they will be

prohibited from filing Joint f^eral in
come tax returns; and they will be ex
cluded from a host of other federal

benefits that heterosexual couples take
for granted.
"We regret that Clinton opted to sign
this needless and mean-spirited bill,"
Birch said. "We had hoped that the

president would have changed his mind
after hearing the anti-gay rhetoric

ment Non-Discrimination Act,a bill to

outlaw job discrimination based on
sexual orientation.

Sen.Robb,who voted against the legis
lation, said,"As one who represents a
traditionally conservative state

[Virginia]...many of my fnends and
supporters have urged me to sit this one
out because of the political fallout, but
I can't do that. I feel very strongly that
this legislation isfundamentally wrong.
Despite its name, the [act] does not
defend marriage against some immi
nent, crippling threat. Although we
have made huge strides in the struggle
against discrimination based on gen
der, race and religion, it is more diffi
cult to see beyond our differences re
garding sexual orientation. The fact that
our

hearts don't all speak in the same way is
not cause for justification to discrimi-

spouted by some extreme members of

nate."

Congress.

Melinda Paras,executive director, Na-

"It became clear during the debate on
this measure that it defends' against

nothing and is merely cheap
election-year politicking. As we have
maintained since the bill was intro

J^onal Gay and Lesbian Task Force

i (I^LTF) made the following state
ment following the passage of the legnation, "The passage of DOMA and
the defeat ofENDA may be roadblocks

September 1996 • Dimensioris • Pa^e 5

on ourjourney to equality, but they will

figure out what's next are all flocking to

not turn us back. Unfortunately, the

Creating Change."

majority of the Senate was not willing

The 9th Annual Creating Change Con
ference is the national gathering for the
gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender

to stand up for the principles for which

this country stands: tolerance,compas
sion and fairness. Gay and lesbian lov
ing relationships and families are here
to stay because they speak to our aspi

movement. It will be held this Novem

ber 6-10 at the Radisson Hotel Mark
Center in Alexandria, Va.,just outside

rations of justice and reflect the real

ofthe nation's capital. Last year's gath

circumstances of our lives. Passage of
DOMA will not change this. We will

ering in Detroit attracted some 2,000

attendees. Organizers expect many

not stand by silently. We will not be

more this year because of the promi

used as scapegoats. We will continue to
fight for ourselves, our loving partners,

nence ofkey political battles and issues

our families and our equality."

Record Number

Expected At
Conference Following
Roller Coaster Year

for Gay Rights
Washington,D.C.—In the wake ofthe
recent passage ofthe anti-marriage bill
and defeat of the non-discrimination

measure, registration to the 9th Creat

ing Change activist conference spon
sored by the National Gay and Lesbian
Task Force has surged. Sponsors say
this event,comingjust one day after the
national elections, will cap what can
only be described as a roller coaster
year of highs and lows for lesbians,
gays, bisexuals and transgenders.
"We predict a very strong turnout be
cause of the confluence of emotional

events this year," said Sue Hyde,
NGLTFconference coordinator."There

was the euphoriafollowing the Supreme

Court ruling on Colorado's Amend
ment 2,then collective depression after

the Defense of Marriage Act(DOMA)
and
the
Employment
Non-Discrimination bill(BNDA),then
the ups and downs of the presidential
elections. It seems activists anxious to

in 1996.

This year, the conference will feature

special workshops on DOMAyENDA,
including statewide organizing sessions
focusing on the grassroots implications
of the bills and follow-up strategy.
Grassroots activists have been ponder
ing the impact of DOMA on the local
level since the bill mandates that states
are not obligated to extend "full faith

and credit" recognition to marriages
performed in other states.
Creating Change will feature numerous

workshops designed to capture the cur
rent energy and channel the anxiety of
the movement. For example, there is
heavy emphasis on grassroots move

ment building and leadership training.
This includes a professionally facili
tated Leadership Training track con
ducted by nationally renowned con

sultant Karl Mathiasen and a leadership
training session for g/l/b/t organiza

tions conducted by noted campaign
consultant and trainer David Fleischer.
The Fleischer training is co-sponsored
by the Gay and Lesbian Victory Fund.

Those interested in attending the
Fleischer training are strongly advised

to

register

early

by

calling

718-230-9865.

Other sessions include a Strategy Meet
ing For Statewide Organizations for

activists who toil in state legislatures
and build cross-state networks;and The
Next Presidential Administration, fea-

Page 6 • Dimensions • September 1996

r

turing inside-the-Beltway pros who will
analyze the nextfour years in the White
House. A mini-track of workshops on
the Presidential and Congressional
Elections will also be presented. And

to figure out how to pay for their work,
activists can attend a special
Fundraising Training session sponsored

ence on Nov. 7. Frank is a witty, intel

ligent and blunt politician known as
much for his soundbite zingers as for his

staunchly liberal leanings. Noted au
thor, playwright, librettist, activist and
cultural warrior June Jordan will deliver
the First Annual Vito Russo Memorial

by Kim Klein, diva of grassroots

Lecture on Art and Politics. Closing the
conference will be Carmen Vazquez,

fundraising.
More than 100 workshops and cau

public policy director of the N.Y. Les
bian and Gay Community Services Cen

cuses will be clustered under several

ter and co-director ofPromote the Vote,

main

a national registration and mobilization
project.
Also featured will be acommunity dance
on Nov. 8, and preconference institutes

"themes",

including:

Anti-Violence, Campus, Elections,

Families, Fighting the Right,
Fundraising, Health, International,

Leadership, Legislative, Marriage,
Media, Organizational Development,
Organizing, People of Color, Political
Questions,Public Schools,Aging/Age
ism, Sex/Sexuality/Gender Identify,
Spirituality, Surviving and Thriving,
Transgender, Workplace, Youth and
more.

Creating Change keynote speakers al
ways cause waves. TTiis year should be
no exception. Openly gay Rep.Barney
Frank(D-MA)will kick offthe confer

on Nov.6 and 7. These include sessions

on People of Color Organizing; Race is
the Issue; Finding Common Ground;
Youth Organizing Institute, and Com
munity Center Institute.
For more information and to register for
Creating Change, contact NGLTF at
(202)332-6483, ext. 3329; email to
cc96@ngltf.org; or visit the NGLTF
web site at http://www.ngltf.org/cc96.

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What's Goiiir' Ojv
A Monthly Listing Of Special Events All Around The Area
SAN ANTONIO - The Gay and Les
bian Community Center and The
Happy Foundation, Gay & Lesbian
Archive, will celebrate October as

National Coming Out Month with a
series ofrarely seen documentary films,
and concluding with a "Halloween
Bash"on October 31,1996.Fri.,Oct.4.
will feature "Before Stonewall" Win

formances will be held at the Lovett

Inn(501 Lovett Blvd.).Tickets are $15
and all performances begin at 8pm.
Audience members are encouraged to
come early in order to view showcased
works of art by local lesbian artists.
Seating is limited and reservations are
strongly recommended. For reserva
tions, call (713)522-2204.

ner of 2 Emmy Awards and "March

On" an unconventional documentary
about the March on Washington. On
Fri.,Oct. 11,National Coming Out Day,
it's "The Question of Equality" Parts
1 & 2. On Sat., Oct. 12, join in San
Francisco's Gay Pride Parade from 2

AUSTIN - Would you like to be in the

spotlightor the power behind the scenes?
Queer Waves, a proactive radio pro
gram spotlighting the diversity and
power of Austin's Queer community
on KOOP 91.7 FM is looking for vol

to 4 PM. Produced and broadcast live

unteers. KOOP Radio is an all volun

by San Francisco's KOFY/TV20, this
two hour presentation is fun, shocking
and enlightening.Fri.,Oct. 18,it's"The
Question ofEquality"Parts 3&4(see

teer community radio station, (except

above). Fri.,Oct.25 features"Network

Q" Hosted by Judith Light. This is a

for one paid staff member). Queer
Waves has been on the air since Febru

ary 1995. They have an hourshow from
4-5pm every Saturday. No radio expe
rience is necessary. Radio training is

nationally syndicated television series

offered at KOOP Radio ifone wishes to

which has never aired in San Antonio.

learn how to run the equipment or you

And last, but not least, on Thurs., Oct.
31 —"Rocky Horror Picture Show"!
Prize for Best Costume for tricking and
treating and free refreshments. All pro-

can work behind the scenes. For more
information call 323-9778.

HOUSTON - The law firm of Moore

,grams are presented ffee-of-charge and
begin at 7:30 PM (except the 10/12

& Hunt is sponsoring an all-day semi

event)at 923 East Mistletoe,San Anto
nio, Texas. For additional information
call(210)732-4300.

day, October 19th. Professionals and
lay persons specializing in building

nar called Creating Families on Satur

Workshop) will present Dos Lesbos, a
two character comedy revue beginning
October 2nd and running each Wednes

families through the process of both
adoption and donorinsemination will
present detailed information and an
swer questions in sessions throughout
the day. An informational "how to"
sourcebook will be provided.Class size

day and Thursday from October 3rd
through November 7th. The production

For more information, call Natalie

HOUSTON - The Group (Theatre

is limited and reservations are required.

features Kim Sevier and Sue Ulu and
was nominated for awards in San Fran

WUiiams at(713)522-4282, ext. 10.

cisco, where it ran for two years. Per

DALLAS - The 1996 annual Gay &

September 1996 • Dimensions • Page 9

Lesbian Soccer World Cup will be

HOUSTON - Houston Gay and Les

held this October 30 to November 2 in

bian Parents are holding a camping
trip to New Braunfels the weekend of

Dallas. Hosted by the Oak Lawn Soc
cer Club and sponsored by the Inter
national Gay & Lesbian Football
Association (IGLFA), the tournament

will feature over twenty teams from
around the world. In the past twelve
years of the tournament,there has been

a high level of play and competition,

October 25-27. The November family
activity will be a Thanksgiving Potluck on Saturday, November 16. For
more info, call (713)284-4939.
FORT WORTH - Pleiades Produc

ested, please send e-mail to:

tions presents Jamie Anderson and
Romanovsky and Phillips on Satur
day, November 9th at 8:30pm at Or
chestra Hall (4401 Trail Lake Dr.).

astrojet@aol.com. Or you may write

Tickets are $18 in advance and $22 at

but the focus is on fun and camaraderie.

If you or someone you know are inter

to: Oak Lawn Soccer Club, 834 S.
Montclair Ave., Dallas, Texas 75208.

the door and are available at Connec

If you're unable to attend this year's

tions Bookstore, Agape MCC and
Cowgirls Oasis in Fort Worth and at

toiimament,but would like information

Crossroads Market in Dallas.

about the IGLFA, please e-mail to:
iglfa@aol.com.

more information call(817)924-3264.

For

Desert Hearts

ukfrmen's festiv^al
October 11, 12& 13

Columbus Day Weekend
At Desert Hearts Cowgirl Club
Located between Keppville & Bandepa, TX

call(210)796-7446
Join Hundreds of women on a rugged women's ranch, tucked
away in the woods in the beautiful Texas Hill Country and enjoy
mother nature, sisterhood and entertainment under the stars.

For ticket information and details leave your name,full address
and phone number for a discreetly mailed flyer. Make plans
now and bring all your girlfriends. Big discounts for early tickets.
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Dear Aoaes
Answers to your questions about love,
RELATIONSHIIPS & PERSONAL PROBLEMS

Dear Agnes,

teer your time at any number oflesbian/
gay charitable associations. This infor

Maybe you can help me since I don't
have anyone else. My problem is I've
just come out ofthe closet and admitted

sme locations as listed above.

to my family that I'm gay.
My problem is that I'm a novice. Even
though I've known for years that I am
gay,I've never gone anywhere or tried

I am a faithful reader of yours and have
been a "fan" for almost four years. My

mation should also be availabe at the

Dear Agnes,

to meet anyone for fear of someone

problem seems insignificant compared

finding out. Now I'm ready to meet
how to go about doing this. I don't want

to others in your column. I have been
tempted to write to you several times
but thought it was Just to silly.

to meet someone in a bar because inhi

I know this will sound totally ridicu

bitions are too loose.

lous, but my lover is a terrible cook.
Now,before you throw this letter in the
trash, let me tell you that I have been

someone and I don't know what to do or

I want a friend first and then a lover.

Alone & Lonely

living with this woman for thirteen and
a half years. Furthermore,she has been
cooking all those years. I've tried to

Houston, TX

Dear Alone,
Since you live in a large metropolitan
area, you shouldn't have any problem
meeting people and making friends.
There are groups for gay men and
women with almostany interest in Hous

ton. There are groups for lesbians in
business, gay lawyers or gay students,
groups for almost any sport — includ
ing bowling, cycling, soccer, softball,
etc., groups for gay parents, groups for
gays who like to campout,etc.,etc.,etc.
The best place to start is to go to the
nearest gay community center,women's

"take over"the kitchen numerous times

over the years, but for some reason,
"Joann" thinks she is the world's great

est cook. I assure you she is not!
She can't even boil water. I've spent
hundreds of dollars on food thrown out

the back door and ground down the

garbage disposal. What can I do?
I've had steak as black as the bottom of

a pot and as tough as boot leather,
chicken that looks golden brown on the
outside and raw in the middle, and

vegetables of various textures and de

bulletin boards or ask for information

grees of doneness.
One year she baked cookies for me to

about groups in the Houston area.

take to work — I threw hers out and

Another way to meet people and do
some good in the meantime is to volun

bought some at the store rather than
subject my co-workers to her cooking.

bookstore or gay church and look on the

September 1996 • Dimensions • Page 1

I really love her, but I can't spend
thirteen more years with her cooking. I
keep hoping that, with all this practice,
she'll improve, but she only seems to
get worse.

OUT OF THE KITCHEN

OKLAHOMA CITY,OK
Dear Out,
I assume from your letter that you have
never told her what you truly think
about her cooking. That's the most di
rect approach, but after thirteen years,
I'm not sure I would mention it.

You could give her cooking classes as a
gift (tell her you are giving it to her

because you know how much she loves
to cook and you thought she might
enjoy learning some "tricks" from a
gourmet chef). Or you might consider
investing in some Julia Childs' videos.
You might even develop a "great" in
terestin learning gourmetcooking your
self and ask her to loan you the kitchen
for a few months — she mightjust give
it up entirely.
One other solution might be a patio grill
— many times the kitchen cook shies

away from the grill. However, if she
decides she likes cooking on the grill,
your problems might only get worse.

^Amm

j?ANCH
Lesbiftn/Gay
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W1CCX

1
Hallowmas. The witches' New Year.

The time when the goddess Hecate
shows her power as the destroyer of
life. A time when Nature,so central to

Celtic word wiccan(meaning wise),and
wicca (coven of the wise). The word
witch literally means wise woman. The
wiccan religion is Earth centered and

the wiccan religion, retreats so as to

has no relation to the devil-worshipping

renew itself and gather strength for the

horror portrayed in popular culture. The

coming spring. A time when spirits

Devil is a Christian phenomena and the
wiccan religion predates Christianity by

walk the Earth. In honor of this time

leading up to the Wiccan New Year,
we'll take a look at the rituals, spells
and potions of the Wiccan.
The word "witch" is a derivative of the

thousands and thousands of years.

Although much in-depth study and prac

tice is helpful in the practice of witch
craft, whatfollows is a briefsummary of

September 1996 • Dimensions • Page 13

the tools, rituals, spells and potions of
the wiccan religion.0f cohrse, I wpn't

your astral colors. These colors are de- '

termined by the month in which you
were born and can be used to represent
yourselfand others when casting spells.
You can find your astral candles in the

guarantee that these spells and potions
will work, and I won't be held respon
sible should you choose to cut offa lock
of your lover's hair in the middle ofthe

list below.

night.

January: Red & gold
February: Yellow & blue

iTOLy "D^^ys
The four Great Sabbats in a witches

year are: Candlmas(February 2nd),the

celebration of waxing light and coming
end of winter; May Eve (April 30th),
the celebration of fertility and the re
birth ofspring; Lammas(August 2nd),

March: Blue & green
April: Pink & orange
May: Blue & gold
June: Red & blue

July: Red & green
August: Pink & orange

September: Pink & gold
October: Pink & gold

a time for celebration of the bountiful

November: Yellow & blue

crops and wishes for a good harvest;

December: Red & orange

and Hallowmas(October 31st),the most
sacred of the Greater Sabbats.

There are also four Lesser Sabbats: the
two two solstices at mid-winter and

mid-summer, and the spring and au
tumn equinoxes.

Oils are worn as perfume or used to
annoint candles during a spell. They
can be purchased at occult shops or
ordered by mail from the addresses
listed at the end of this article. Some of

them are easy to come by and I've listed

CAJSJ-Dues,

them below.

OILS XNt?
iNceNse

luck and health

Candles, oils and incense are all impor
tant tools in the practice of witchcraft.
All are used to help you tap into the
powers of your mind.
The color of the candles you burn in
your rituals is important — different

colors have different meanings. A few

Cinnamon Oil: Attracts love, good

Musk: Used in love spells and to excite
sexuality.
Patchouli,Rose and Violet: Sacred to
Pan, Diana and the Fairy Queen in that
order. Used to strengthen a spell or as

general use oils.
Incense is burned to help in spellcasting.
A few of the most powerful are listed

of these are listed below:

below.

Happiness: Pink, Orange, Blue
Friendship: Blue

Healing: Patchouli, Bayberry,Sandal-

Love: Pink and Red

Money:Frankincense,Myrrh,Nutmeg,

Prosperity: Red or Green
Work: Purple

Saffron, Sandalwood
Love:Almond,Sandalwood,Rosemary

wood

Candle colors can also coincide with

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speuus
There is only one rule in speilcasting:
"Harm none, and do as thou wilt." It is

Candle spells can be used to draw
money,love, health,power or whatever
you may come up with. The candles,oil
and incense represent the elements of

helpful to cast positive spells such as
those to bring money, love, health or
success on the waxing moon(when the
moon is getting bigger - going from

the Goddess.

new moon to full). Cast spells to break
hexes and get revenge on the waning

Of course, there is much more to the

moon(from after the full moon until the
new moon).
The only spells talked about here are

"candle spells". They are the easiest
and will bring the most results with a

minimum of planning.

earth, air, fire and water. The spell is

really nothing more than turning your
wishes over to the power of nature and

practice of witchcraft than the spells
and rituals given here. Like any other
"religion" it is a way of life. The tech
niques listed in this article are only,a
simplistic overview and should be

The first step is to set up your altar. You
will place a Goddess image in the cen

treated as such. There are many good
books detailing the practice of witch
craft and many of them are available at

ter ofa small table. The Goddess image

your local women's bookstore.

can be anything that represents the
Goddess to you(a picture,statue, maga

Sources for Oils and Incense:

zine cutout, etc.). Your candles will be

Magic Circle Herbs

set at either comer of your altar.Incense

Circle Sanctuaiy

can be set wherever there is room.

P.O. Box 219

Write down your wish on a piece of

Mt. Horeb, WI 53572

white parchment paper. Place it under

Enchantment

neath the candle and annoint the candle

341 E. 9th St.

with the appropriate oil. Take a sharp
instrument and write what you want on
the candle three times. Light the appro
priate incense and say:
Upon this candle I will write

What I receive ofthee tonight
Grant what I wish you to do,
/ dedicate this rite to you.
I trust that you will grant this boon,
0lovely Goddess ofthe Moon.
1 call earth to bond my spell.
Air speed its travel well.

New York, NY 10003

(212) 228-4394
Information for this article was taken
from:

'Zsuzsanna Budapest, The Holy Book
OfWomen'sMysteries,Wingbow Press,
Berkley, CA, 1989.

Doreen Valiente, Witchcraft For To
morrow, Phoenix Publishing, Custer,
WA, 1978
^

Fire give it spiritfrom above.
Water quench my spell with love.
So Mote it be!

- Sybil Leek'

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What A Wortd,
What A Worth
QUICKLIES
BY Nancy Ford
Do you ever watch that show Ellen,that

situation comedy on ABC starring that
cute Ellen Degeneris? Of course you
watch Ellen. You're a lesbian. You

have to. It's the law. Well, it's been

running the exact same situation she 'f
first experienced 3-5 months ago. That
reminds me: I need to call my mother.
It will be very interesting to see how
more homophobic viewers will react

announced that Ellen's character may

when they find outthat Americas Sweet

come out on her show. Swear to God.

heart is really Americas Big 01' Dyke.
How can they stop liking her? That's
Just it — they can't. That's why it's
such asmart move.They can stop watch
ing, but they can't stop liking someone
they already likejust because she's gay.
I Just found out that one of my closest
friends is Republican, but I can't stop
liking him because of something he

After all these seasons of our gal being
disappointed by hetero-bent romantic
relationships(Remember the pizza boy
who moved to Rome?) she's on the

verge of figuring out why.
I've said it before,I'll say it again. What
a world, what a world. I knew that this

day would come, but only hoped it
would be in my lifetime. After enduring
decades in front of the boob tube(and I
call it that with great affection, being a
breast woman, myself) I have longed
and fantasized for the prime time show

that portrayed Gay Life as what it really
is —just like Straight Life, but with a
lot more style, taste and fun.

This could be the smartest psychologi

obviously has no control over. I don't
understand it, it worries me for his

health, and I'll pray for him, but he'll
always be my friend.
I've long suspected that others in
TV_land may not have been quite as
attracted to the opposite sex as they
would like us to believe. Oh sure, we
have the occasional Jodie on Soap,Lea

cal move in TV history since Roseanne's
Double Becky-Switch. Consider the

brother Ben on that one episode of

concept — all of America(and much of

Mary Tyler Moore...but this is big time.

the rest of the world, including the
Bible Belt) already loves Ellen. The

EIlen'sthestar.Ellen'sthe focus.Ellen's

Delaria on John Larroquette, Phyllis'

the one who has borne the chastisement

ratings prove we love her. After all,
how many of us invite someone other
than out very best friend and/or lover

believed she should open the closet
door and bolt, leaving Jodie F. and

into our homes for regular, standing

Mary C.C. and the others behind. But

weekly visitations regardless if she's

what about —

of many (including me) who have long

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y

V

■'

*

-

Mary and Rhbda Th^y didn't live
together, but Rhoda lived right over
Mary. Hmmmm.
LaVerne and Shirley

These two

closet. You know those fojks we refer

to collectively as The Religious Right
are busy at their word processors -—
typing and praying,typing and praying

didn't fool us for a moment. Sure, they

— as we speak. Drop a card to ABC

slept in twin beds. So did Rob and

Television, attention: Ellen's a Les

Laura. And who were their closest male

bian, 77 W. 66th Street, New York,

companions? Lenny and Squiggy and
Carmen, all of whom, I believe, slept

New York 10023. And, while you're at
it, tell them you'd like them to stop
turning up the volume during commer
cials. It's very annoying
Congratulations and thanks for your
courage, Ellen. You're risking being
made history to make history.

three together in the same bed, a la The

Three Stooges.
The Three Stooges All three slept in
the same bed a la themselves and were
members of The Womenhater's Club.

Ah,subtlety.

WUma and Betty Stone Age Dykes.
Who knows what happened when Fred
and Barney paddled the car off to the
quarry?

Petticoat Junction Betty Jo, Bobbie
Jo and Billie Jo may have not been
sleeping together, but they had no prob

Nancy Ford is a Houston-based
comedian and writer. She hosts

Friends Fest '96, a three day
music, comedy, sports and
entertainment camping

lem bathing together in the water tower

extravaganza.

which was nothing but a metaphor for a

October 4-6 in

Dripping Springs, Texas.

locker room.

Felix and Oscar

Without question,

there's a lost episode in which The

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(not-so) Odd Couple marches in New
York's annual Gay Pride Parade.
Ginger and Mary Ann These two
castaways weren't really lesbians —
just bored. Notice though that neither
ever seems overly eager to be rescued.
Aunt Bea and Clara Edwards

It

starts with and afternoon tonic and sit

ting on the piano bench together sing
ing "Chinatown, My Chinatown." We
all know where it leads.

Let ABC-TV know that you highly

approve of Ellen's coming out of the
September 1996 • Dimensions • Page 19

The Cofeee Ceiib
Lesbians In The Arts • Books, Music, Movies, Etc.
This Month, Tasha Summer Introduces:

The Girl
Next Door
by Mindy Kaplan

by

K.cxLLmoJier'

We'll start this month with The Girl

mer. Suddenly, Lina is having a hard

Next Door by Mindy Kaplan.
Una is aforeign exchange student work

time concentrating on her studies. She

ing as a live-in nanny for a wealthy
family in Washington State. Her time is
spent going to school and taking care of

at Alex's long, tan legs as she lounges

4-year-old Sean. All is going well until
Alexandra, the family's daughter re
turns home from college for the sum

would rather be looking out the window
by the pool.

Lina has taken to anonymous sexual
encounters at a local bar to keep her
sexuality in check.
As Lina learns more about Alex, she

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finds out that Alex spends alot of time
on the Internet, hanging out in the chat
rooms. On impulse, Lina creates a a
false identity and sets out to find Alex in

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In the midst of all this, Lina is having
increasingly frequent nightmares related
to her troubled family life. Her father is
a foreign diplomat, her mother is dead.
Although The Girl Next Door is a hard
book to explain,it is a great one to read.
The plots and subplots keep you turn
ing pages right through to the very
surprise ending.

postage. Complete catalogs are avail
able upon request.

Next we'll look at WUd Things by
Karin Kallmaker (author of In Every
Port,Touchwood and Painted Moon).

Professor Faith Fitzgerald is a scholar,
award-winning author and good Catho
lic girl — still living with her parents at
the ripe age of 34.
Sydney Van Allen is a recovering alco

holic, a rising star in the Chicago politi
cal machine — and the sister of Faith's

Books, music and more,

fiance, Eric. Sydney has decided to
forgo love for the sake ofher career,and

for the lesbian, gay and
feminist communities.

has done such a goodjob that her friends
and colleagues have dubbed her "The
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Eric is anxious for his fiance to meet his

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September 1996 • Dimensions • Page 21

Express

Yourftelings?
You say you're "fine" when you really
feel lousy, you say "nothing" when you
are angry and a lover asks you what's
wrong, and you avoid people you are

disagree with me.

mad at instead of confronting them.
Although these things may seem trivial,

ant, I put it off as long as possible.

hiding your feelings can become a very
destructive habit. Answer the questions

3. I have a problem asking for help

below to see if you need to learn how to
express your feelings.
Answer the questions below with a:Y
for Yes,S for Sometimes,N for No.

opinion when I know people will

2. If I have to do something unpleas

when I need it.

4. I have a hard time expressing what
I want when making love.
5. When I make a mistake on the job,

I wait for my boss to find it instead of
1. I find it hard to express my

pointing it out to her.

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6. When someone hurts my feelings,
I try to ignore it.

want — you may be surprised at how

good it feels to get some of your feel
ings out in the open.

7. If I'm late with the rent, I avoid
the landlord until I have it.

37-51 points

8. I have a hard time making deci

You have a good sense ofwhen to speak
up and when to keep your mouth shut.

sions when there are more than two

You know that expressing an unpopu

choices.

9. When someone asks me for

something, I have a hard time saying
"no," even when I want to.

10. I try not to complain about how I
feel unless I'm really sick.

lar opinion among friends is quiet dif
ferent from openly disagreeing with
your boss. You are expressive without
being "mushy." You know how to say
"no" without hurting feelings, and un
derstand that there are times when you

must do things you don't want to do.
You know when to be completely hon

est about your feelings and when to tell

11. I absolutely hate giving anyone

a "little white lie."

bad news.

22-36 points

SCORING
Give yourself points on each answer
as follows:

You are very good at expressing your
feelings, although you may be a little
too honest at times. Do you really have
to tell your best friend that her new

Yes - 6 points
Sometimes - 4 points
No - 2 points

haircut looks awful on her? There are

some feelings and opinions that are best

kept to yourself. The ability to express
yourself is a wonderful trait, but you

IfYou Scored:
52-66 points

can take it too far. A little compassion
and diplomacy can go a long way to
ward improving your relationships. .

You rarely ever speak your mind —

<S

good or bad. You have a just as hard a
time saying "I love you" as saying I
disagree with you." Even though you
may think that your actions speak louder
than any words, others may not see it
that way. When you don't speak up,

you let resentments build as well as
leaving loved ones in the dark about
how you feel about them. Learning to

express yourselfis easier than you think.
Start small — tell someone how impor

tant they are or ask for something you

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September 1996 • Dimensions • Page 23

Horoscope
ARIES
Don't spend money just to make an
impression during the first part ofOcto
ber. You'11 only hurt your wallet.Try to
keep your composure when a compan
ion gets huffy around the 15th. Rely on
your gut feelings instead of a friend's
advice when it comes to a money matter

week of October. Your social life is on

an upswing and a vacation could be in
the works after the 17th. Don't let your
concentration stray on the job or you

won't enjoy your time off. A break up '
of a close relationship could leave you
feeling disillusioned but you bounce
back quickly toward month's end.

around the 24th. Toward month's end

you should take your time in matters of
love and money.

TAURUS
You may be feeling isolated during the
first part of October. Getting together
with friends or family you haven't seen
for a while will help. You may be
feeling moody after the 16th,but try not
to take it out on others. Keep to yourself
as much as possible. An invitation you
receive toward month's end shouldn't

be ignored. You never know what won
derful people you might meet- this may
even be the beginning of a new ro
mance!

GE9flI»
Balancing personal and professional
commitments could put strain on aclose
relationship during the first part of Oc

tober. All your hard work starts to pay
off after the 16th with a raise or promo
tion. Major changes in a relationship

i.i:o
Money and prestige could be yours
during the first part of October but, if
you aren't careful, it could slip thru
your fingers. A personal relationship
could be strained to the point of break
ing around the 15th. Try to work things
out but don't hesitate to leave ifitreaches

that point. Concentrate on work from
the 26th thru the 29th so that you'll be
free to enjoy social activities on the
30th & 31st.

VIRGO
What you want and what you can ac

complish may be at odds during the first
part of October. Don't be in such a
hurry! Everything will happen if you'll

just give it time. Family problems need
your attention after the 16th. Do what

you can to help out, but don't be taken
advantage of. Finances have been on
your mind all month, but an increase in

income could help you out after the
26th.

could be in the cards towards month's
end. Sit down and talk about where the

relationship is headed and how to work

EIBRA

things out.

The restlessness that has plagued you
for awhile now will lift during the first

CAKTCER

part of October. Focus on a love rela
tionship, but don't get overly posses

You may feel confined by obligations
to family or friends during the first

sive with your lover. After the 15th,
avoid the temptation to spend money

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just to impress someone. You will lose
more than you will gain. Reckless be

month's end. Trust your intuition to
lead you in the right direction.

havior (your's or another's) could get
you in trouble toward month's end if
you don't watch your step.

SCORPIO
A relationship takes a serious turn dur

ing the first part ofOctober.Job respon
sibilities may prevent you from spend

ing as much time with a loved one as
you would like until the 17th. Don't
worry — she'll understand. Your intu
ition is working overtime toward
month's end.Luck is on your side if you

AQUARIU2§»
A friendly get-together is just what you
need to get you out of the dumps during
the first part of October. Try not to be
too trusting with someone you meet
around the 13th. Keep your guard up
and you'll save yourself time, money
and frustration. Toward month's end

you should be in a great position to take
some time for yourself - recent prob
lems are behind you now and you can
relax and enjoy the fall weather.

take a chance on an investment.

PISCES

s»AGrrrARiU!$

You should be able to resolve a conflict

Social plans could be postponed by a
family fight during the first part of
October. It may be left up to you to get
things back in control. You could get in
real trouble if you don't keep close tabs
on your spending habits after the 12th.
Romance takes center stage toward

between relatives or coworkers during
the first part of October. After the 16th

your heart wants to do what your head
says you shouldn't — listen to your
head. You will have to try hard to keep
a secret toward month's end. The temp
tation to confide in someone is almost

month's end and could turn into "true

overwhelming, but could cause BIG

love" by the 30th.

trouble!

CAPRICORN
It's the little details that can trip you up
during the first part ofOctober. Stay on

your toes and be
alert to changes
both on the job
and at home.

Avoid taking
risks

Vickie L. Butte

with

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after the 17th,

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right now. A
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The DmECTORT
A Listing of Service Organizations, Businesses & Clubs
ALBUQUERQUE,NM (area code 505)
organizations

AIDS Resource Center * P.O. Box 190712 75219
Asians & Friends * PO Box 914275209 *392-3339

Sister Source Cooperative & Lesbian Resource Lirte

Calhedal of Hope MCC•5910 Cedar Springs Rd.* 351-1901
Commirity Church & CoOege of Divine Metaphysics

144 hIaivardSE* 268-2116

4001 Live Oak #401 *826-7110, Ext. 401

AMARILLO,TX (area code 806)
organizations

Couples Metro Dallas*P0 Box 803156 75380*5046775
P.O. Box 190712 75219*528-4233* FAX 522-4604

Usbm<3ayAlliance>P0 Box 9361 79105•373-5725

Dallas Gay/Lesbian Historic Archives•P.O. Box 19071275219 * 821-1653

MCC d Amaiito•PO Box 1276•372-4557

Dallas Gay Youth Group * 300 Turtle Creek Plaza #118 *X7-7203
Dallas Names Project *PO Box 190869 752196869*(214)520-SEWS

Congregation Beth QBiiah •P.O.Box 191188 75219*497-1591

ARUNGTON,TX (areacodeSIT)
organizations
QayA.esbian Assodatjon of UTA

DaQas Gay and Lesbian Alliance

Dallas Outdoors * P.O. Box 35474 75235•276-5270
Dallas Tavern Guild * 3900 Lemmon Ave.#220•526-5292

Dignity/Dabs * PO Box 190133 75219* 2264101
Foindation for Hi^nan Understandng * 5284233
Gay/Lesbian Gardeners•PO Box 190552 75219•3396787

P.O. Box 19346-77, UTA St 76019•794-5140

GLAADDafas*P.O.Box190712 75219*526^LAD

Tfinly MCC•331 Aaron Ave.,Ste 125 •265-5454

Grace Fetowshpii Christ Jesus *2727 Oak Lawn *528-2811

AUSTIN,TX (area code 512)

Lesb^Gay Poitical Coaition •P.O. Box 224424 75222* 828-9682

LesfaarVGay Democrats of Texas * 521-5342 ext. 229

dutis

Lesbian Resource Center•1315 Skiles *821-3999
Lesbian Visjooaries * PO Box 19144375219* 5216342 X 844

UL(Lesb'an info Line * 521-5342 ext. 298

Nexus-305W.5lh -472-5288

SPROUTS(coming out group)•521-5342 ex!. 256

organizations

TWIGS(the wymn in gay society)* 521-5342 ext 269
The New Vision (newsjoumal)•521-5342 ext. 255

Affimalion (Mettxxisi)-7403 Stxal Ciwk - 451-2329
Austin latrKi'a LesbisvVQay Organization

MetropiexRepiblcans * P.O. Box 191033 75219 *9416114

POBox1350 78787 - 28(W107

Oak Lawn Commiriy Services 4300 MacArthur•5288108

Austin Lesbiani'Gay Pofitical Caucus•P.O. Box 822 78767•474-0750

Oak Lawn Symphonic Band * P.O. Box 190973 75219•906-1751

Center tar Battered Women* (LesttiarGfDip)385-5181 or928-9070

PFLAG/Dabs•He^nlne 5566640

Gay/Lesbian Student Association at UT Austr
Lesb»VGayRi^Lobby •POBox2579 78768 *474-5475

Imperial Sovereigi Royal Court * P.O. Box 190464 75245*521-8446
Seventh-Day Adrentist Kinship *416-1358
While Rock Community Church * 722 Tenlson Mem. Rd *320-0043

Lesbian Mothers• Karen *3396506

Womyn Together*3920 Cedar Springs *5284233

4586971 'Box 275 Texas Union 78712-7338

Live Wire Productions * PO B<a 141202 78714

Metropoiian Community(Church•1100 Spriigdale Rd.*929-3660
0^ Mnistry*5555 N. Lamar Blvd. «L101 *441-9191

P-Rag {Parerts'Frtends Lesbians'Gays)* 331-8445
Sappffirel * Lesttian Sodal Group•4500659

DENTON,TX(area code 817)
organizations

Me^ Address *625 E 531/2 St., Ste E103

COURAGE Lesbian Gay Student Org.

htaiig Address * 201W.Stassney,Ste.# 321 78745-3156
Waterloo Counseftfrg Center * 507 Powel 78703* 322-9654

P.O. Box 5067 76203 *382-3813
Harvest MCC * 5900 S.Stemmons 76205 * 1608497-HMCC

Te)QS Hunwi Ri^ Foundation * P.O. Box 49740 78765 *479-8473

P-Fiag (Parents/Friends Lesbians/Gays)*387-1491

AIDS Legal Assistance 1-8006286417

The Treehouse(Lesbian Mothers Support Group)

DRIPPING SPRINGS,TX(area code 512)

607 Nueces St. 78701 * 4776822

accommodations

ATHENS,TX (area code 903)
organizations
P-Flag Parents/Friends Lesbians/(3ays)•6756326

Recreation Plantation •Campgmund * HC01 box 40-A 78620•894-0567

EL PASO,TX(area code 915)
organizations

BANDERA,TX (aeacode210)

Lambda Services * PO Box 31321 79931-0321 •24 hour fine 562-GAyS

accommodations

P-Fbg (Parents'Friends Lesbians/Gays) * Spanish & EngTsh *5914664

MCC H Paso•916 Yandel * 542-1227

Desert Hearts Cowgiil Club * Women's Guest Ranch
HC 3,Box 650 78003* 798-7446

FT. WORTH(area code 817)
organizations

DALLAS,TX (area code 214)

Agjyw MCC•4615 SE Loop 820•535-50O2

businesses
Business Defveiy Systems -14902 Preslai Rd.75240 -733-1108

dubs
Sue ESen's - 3903 Cedar Springs•5594707

organizations

Afliimatm (Methotfcl)•478-7837

Imperial Court de Fort Worth/Arington * 870-1555 or 535-7188

LesbiarVCaay PoWcal CoaRkxi of Tarant County * 263-9006 or 8686326
P-Flag (Parenls'Friends Lesbians/Gays)* 498-5607/498-4855
RESPECT •828 Hardwood Rd.•Hurst, TX 76054

Tarr^ County L/G Alfence•3327 Wnlhrop.Sule 24376116* 7686544

AffirmatiDn•PO Box 225831 75222* 948-1546

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GROESBECK,TX (area code 817)

OKLAHOMA CITY. OK (area code 405)
organizations

accommodations
Rainbow Rancb Campgroind•Rl. 2, Box 165 76642•88M75-7596

Oasis the Community Center
2135 NW 39th 73112 •525-AIDS

HOUSTON,TX (area code 713)

Hertand Sister Resources. Inc.
2312 NW 39th 73112•521-9696

businesses
Wdings BookstKp•1846 Ridimond•521-3369

SAN ANGELO, TX (area code 915)
organizations

dute
Ra*h•9218 Buflato Spdwy.'6666464
Ms. Bs•9208 Buffalo Spdwy.•6663366

P-Flag (Parents/Friends LesbensGays)•944-4323

)Crc ■ 9212 Bufiab Spdwy.•6663356

Concho Valey Gayylesbian Affiance

organizations

P.O. Box 750 76902•653-2956

AOS Fbunflblion•3927 Essex Lane•62W796
AIDS HOTUNE •do Switchboajd•529<J211

SAN ANTONIO. TX (area code 210)

Gay/tesbian Students Un^rsity of Houston•4dCX)Catxxf)•529^11
Gayjl-esbm Switchboard-PO Box 66591 77266*529^11

clubs

Houston Gay & Lesbian Parents•980-7995
Houston Gay PoRcai Caucus•P.O. Box 66664 77266•52M000
Wegrity•P.O. Box 66008 7726&6008•432-0414

Bonham Exchange * 411 Bonham * 224-9219
Nexus San Antonio* 8021 Pinebrook* 341-2818

organizations
Deaf Rainbow * 804-1904 TTY

KingdomCcfTimifiityChufch«614 E 19th*862-7533

Dignity/San Antonio * 202 N. St. Mary's * 349-3632

Lambda ALANON *1214 Joanne•521-9772

LesbiarVGayStudents-Unv. Houston Clear Lake *2700 Bay Area 77056
LTN Houston•Lesbian Teacher Network

integrity/San Antonio
PC Box 150006 78212 * 684-4920

Gay & Lesbian Community Center•0 Box 15657 78212*822-3533

PO Box 1835•BeBaire. TX 77402•52^11

Lesbian Gay Switchboard •733-7300

MetrcpoBan Corrminity Chureh Of The ResurrBction

USA (Lesbian Information SA)* 828-LISA (5472)
P-Flag(Parents/Riends LesbrarsGays)*822-4135
River City living Church* 202 HollarxJ 78212 * 822-1121

19190ecatur*861-9149

MontroseConisetiigCenter* 701 Richmond 77006*5290037
Montrose Pool LeaguaBiliards *PJ 8630482

SALGA - San Antonio Lesbian/CSay Assembly

The Movie Ckjb*867-9454

P-Rag(Parents/Friends Lesbois/Gays)•867-9020

P.O. Box 12614 78212•697-3266

PWA CoaKon•Houston * 1475 W.Qr^#163•522-5428

SALSA - San Antonio Lambda Students Alliance
PC Box 12715 78212 * SALSA Line 736-4329

The Women's Groip * 529-5871

Student Pride Soiree-PC Box 12715 78212* 736-4329

Womynspace•P.O. Box 960601 770980601
Women's Softbal League *6431 Preshade*8680256

San Antonio AIDS Foundation
PC Box 120113 78212-9313

LUBB0CK,TX (area code806)
SHERMAN,TX (area code 903)
or;-anlzatlons

organizations
Lubbock Lesblan^Gay Affiance
t P.O. Box 64746 79464 * 766-7184

AIDS Resource Center of Texhoma *813-12^ or800-5256381
Alliance for Life'PC Box 1695 75091*892-9049

MCC Lii)bock * 4501 Urwersiy •792-5562
P-Flag (Parents/Frjends Lesbians/Gays)*7998529

HIV/AIDS Services•PC Box 1695 75091 *463-7258

South Pbhs AIDS Resource Center(SPARC)
4204-B 50th St. 79413•1-800627-7079•796-7068

NATIONAL ORGANIZATIONS

WACO,TX (area code 817)
organizations

Affirmation; Unied Methodsts for Lesbian/Gay Concerns

P-Fiag (Parents/Friends LesbjansGays)*750-7211

PC Box 1021 * Evasion. IL 60204

AIDS Action Coundl•729 El^th St. S.E. Suite 200

Washington. DC 20003 *(202) 547-3101

List Your Business

AIDS 800 *1-800-221-7044

Conference For Catholic Lesbians

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PC Box 436, Planetarium Station• New York. NY 10024
GLAAD/USA * 80 Varick St. #3E * NY. NY 10013

$30 for 3 Months OR,

Hale Crime Line•1800-347-HATE

Gay & Lesbian Parents Coalition intemationa!(GLPCI)

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PC Box 50360. Washington. DC 20091 *(202)583-8029
Lesbian Mothers' National Defense Fund

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PC Box 21567 * Seattle. WA 98111 •(206)325-2643
Lesbian Teachers Network(LTN)

Non-ProfIt, Community Service
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PC Box 638 * Solon. lA 52333

National Gay Alli^ce for Young Adults. Inc.
PC Box 190426 * Dallas. TX 75219 *(214)307-7203
f^tional Gay/Lesbian Clearinghouse
666 Broadway 4lh Floor• NY. NY 10012

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National Gay/Lesbian Task Force

1517 U Street NW • Wastiington D.C. 20009•202-332-6483
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