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Adult Children Of Alcoholics 17

The Coieee Ceub
Lesbians In The Arts • Books, Music, Movies, Etc. 25

How Is Your Sex Life? 28

What a Wored,
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The ^ews»
From Around the Region, the Country & the World

National Helms
Action Called for

12 percent of that amount (approxi
mately S800,000).
If you would like to donate to the Gantt

October 6th

campaign please send your contribu

DURHAM, N.C. - North Carolina

tions to: NC Senate Vote'90,604 West

Senate Vote '90, the statewide coali

Chapel Hill Sl, Durham, NC 27701.

tion working to stop Jesse Helms in
1990, has issued a call to gay and pro
gressive organizations across the coun
try to help make Helm's defeat a reality.
N.C. Senate Vote '90 is inviting pro

gressive Americans to join them in
COUNTDOVvT^ TO VICTORY events

in all 49 supporting states on Saturday,
October 6th. North Carolinians oppos

ing Helms and supporting his oppo
nent, former Charlotte, N.C. mayor

Harvey Gantt, will rally that day in
Raliegh.
"People will be gathering at marches.
Rallies, poducks, dances, concerts —
all kinds of events designed to bring
people together in their support for us
through the last 30 days of the pro-

Gantt,anti-Helms push,"said Vote'90's

Homophobia and
Sexism Rampant m
Na\y Memo
An internal Navy memo advocating
further targeting ofwomen for discharge
due to homosexuality, was recently
leaked to the National Organization for
Women and Congressman Gerry
Studds' office. The memo, entitled
"Equal Treaunent of Male and Female
Homosexuals", was distributed to all

commanding officers in the Naval
Surface Forces ofthe U.S.Atlantic Fleet

and was sent to NOW and Rep. Studds
by anonymous sources in Baltimore,
MD and Norfolk, VA.

National Helms Liberation Action

NOW President Molly Yard said of the
memo, "Rarely is the public privy to
such a clear example of the military's

Day,"is pivotal because Helm's Senate
influence has persistent national reper

homophobic, sexist bigotry. Clearly,
elements in the military still chafe at the

cussions and the national fundraising

success of women in their ranks. This

machine that finances his North Caro

directive uses the military's institution
alized homophobia to directly attack
women in the Navy who are, by the

director, Mandy Carter.

The cross-country effort, subtitled "A

lina races is among the mostlucrative in
the nation.

By August 20 the Helms campaign had
raised SI million (75% from out-ofstate)and the Ganttcampaign had raised

author's own admission, 'the Com
mand's top professionals'."

NOW has long understood that the
military's anti-le.sbian and gay policy is

October 1990• Dimensions • Page

7

one of the primary tools used to harass
and intimidate all military women.
Department of Defense statistics show

from a dream to an active network of 14

that for all the services combined,
women are 3 times more likely to be

Lesbian/Gay/Bisexual organizations
and issues at Southwestern campuses
the Coalition has begun several pro
grams and strategies. These programs
include an organizational study docu

discharged for homosexuality. This
memo spells out more clearly than ever
before the inherentsexism ofthe policy
and its implementation. It amounts to a

blueprint for the Navy to witchhunt its
top women professionals.

student and youth organizations. In
accordance with its mission to promote

menting the progress of Lesbian/Gay/
Bisexual student groups in the South

west,a mixed-media lending library of
Lesbian and Gay materials, the provi

Southwestern

Lesbian/Gay Student
Group To Hold

sion of legal services to the student
organizations and the establishment of
Gay and Lesbian studies at institutions
across the Southwest.

Conference
DALLAS - The Coalition of Lesbian/

Advantage Navratilova

Gay Student Groups(CLGSG), an or
ganization of Lesbians, Gays and Bisexuals at colleges and Universities in

Tennis great Martina Navratilova was
recently slammed for being a lesbian by
bom-again former tennis star Margaret
Court. According to the Associated
Press, Court opined, "I'd like to see

the Southwest will hold its first confer

ence on Saturday, October 6 in Dallas.
The conference entitled "Embracing
Our Diversity", will bring together over
120 young people from Oklahoma,

someone at the top whom the younger
players can look up to,"and added "It is

Arkansas, Louisiana, New Mexico and

very sad for children to be exposed to
[homosexuality]." Court also claimed

Texas for a one-day educational and

some younger players had been led into

inspirational event. There will be a total
of twelve workshops covering Racism,

homosexuality by other,seniorplayers
and that Navratilova was probably lured

Sexism,Self-Identity, Coalition Build

into lesbianism during her early years

ing and Lesbian/Gay Herstory.

on the pro tour.

The conference wi11 be held at the Dallas

We don't have Margaret Court's ad
dress, but we do have Navratilova's
We suggest you write and give her
some encouragement. Ask her to speak

Gay Alliance's new community center
at 2701 Regan. For more information
on rcgisuation,housing and transporta
tion, call CLGSG at(214)471-6482.

out and condemn the ignorance about

The CLGSG, conceived at the Texas

lesbians perpetuated by Court's state

March on Austin for Lesbian and Gay
Rights in the spring of 1989, has grown

ments, and to tell the world that it's
bigots who make bad role models. Write

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to her c/o Intemational Management
Group, 1 Erieview Plaza, Suite 1300,
Cleveland, OH 44114.

From the GLAAD (Gay & Lesbian
Alliance AgainstDefamadon)Bulletin.
SeptVOcL 1990.

Tickets are $100 per person, and will
include a cocktail reception and a silent
auction along with the banquet. A$150
VIP ticket will include a cocktail recep
tion with the keynote speaker and fea

tured guests.Some ofthe items already
donated for the silent auction include:a

San Antonio
Fundraiser
Announced
SAN ANTONIO - The San Antonio

Dinner Committeeofthe Human Rights
Campaign Fund(HCRF)hasannounced
that it will hold it's second annual fun-

draising banquet on November 10th in
the Salon del Rey Ballroom of the Hil

trip to Hawaii; a trip to the coast; a
complete collection of books by Larry
Kramer; a complete autographed col
lection of bodes by Armistad Maupin;
furniture and works by local artists.

Keynote speaker and featured guests
will be announced in the November
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What's Goia' Oa
A Monthly Listing Of Special Events All Around The Area
AUSTIN - Don'tforget that the LONE

HOUSTON - The LONE STAR

STAR WOMEN'S MUSICFESTIVAL

SYMPHONICBAND will{x-esenttheir

will be held in Austin on October 5,6&

annual fall concert on October 2 at

7. Featured performers will include
Nancy Scott, Laura Love, Lara
Linette,Susan Coiton,The Therapy
Sisters, the Fontanelles and many,
many more. If you want more info,

Cullen Auditorium on the St Tho

mas University Campus at 7:30pm.
Tickets are available at INKLINGS,
LOBO and atthe door.The concert will

feature works by American composers

write: Lone Star Women's Music

and is billed as a"Salute to the USO".

Festival,ATTN:DIM,P.O.Box 2650,
Austin,TX 78768.

For more information call (713) 522-

HOUSTON -"Embracing Women's
Legacy: Our Healing Connection"is
the theme of Montrose Counseling
Center's 5th Annual WOMEN'S

WEEKEND, October 26-27 at the
University of Houston Hilton, 4800
Calhoun.In a series ofworkshops playshops and celebrations they will ex
plore life in a culture where women
honw themselves. For registration in
formation call(713)529-0037 or write:
Women's Weekend,Montrose Coun
seling Center,900 Lovett#203,Hous

4282.
DALLAS - The Women's Activities

Department of the Metropolitan
Community Church of Dallas is
sponsoring aWomen'sArtsand Crafts
Festival on Saturday, October 20th.
The Festival will be held at the D'Arts

Visual Center, 2917 Swiss Avenue

(comer of Oak and Swiss) and will be
open from 10am-4pm. Admission is
$1.00. The Festival is an opportunity
for women artists in the Metroplex to
showcasetheir arts and crafts.The work
ofabout40different women artists will

ton,TX 77006.

be on sale.

AUSTIN - LIVE WIRE PRODUC

AUSTIN - The Center for Battered
Women Outreach has a supportgroup

TIONS is going full blast! On Friday,
October 19th they bring you lesbian/

for battered or formerly battered lesbi

feminist comedian Kate Clinton at the

ans and lesbians in abusive relation

Austin Open House, 200 Academy

ships. Call (512) 385-5181 for more

Drive. Tickets are available at Bookwoman,Celebration! and at the door.

information.

On Friday, November 2nd singer/co
median Lynn Lavner at CHANCES,

HOUSTON - HEARTSONG, the

900 Red River. Proceeds from this

rus will be open to new membership

performance will benefit the Lesbian/
Gay Rights Lobby and Live Wire

November 5-26.A trial membership of
four weeks will be required to orient

Houston Women's Community Cho

Productions.

October 1990• Dimensions• Page 11

youto thechraus.Auditions willbeheld
November 26. HEARTSONG meets

for practice every Monday nightat7pm
at the First Unitarian Universalist
Church, 5210 Fannin. For more in
formation,call(713)667-8735.
AUSTIN - The Iris Art Collective,
Austin Parksand Recreation and Live
WireProductionsare bringing you"A
Woman's Tradition: An Art Festi

val" on Saturday and Sunday Novem
ber 17 & 18 at the McBeth Recreation

Center. If you are interested in booth

AUSTIN - Yes,girls. It's really going
to happen. Sometime in the month of
Octoberthe new andimproved NEXUS
will open its doors to you—their ador

ing public! Keep your best duds ironed
and ready... you never know when the
magic day will come.

SAN ANTONIO-Whatever you want,
the CIRCLE has it this month.First,it's
live entertainment with singer Dena
Kaye on the 14th,and comedian Kate
Clinton on the 18th. Then there's
Tuesday Night Discussions. This

space, please call(512) 339-8508 and
leave your address and phone number.

quality in Couples" on the 2nd;

HOUSTON - Getready! The RANCH

"Women Who Have Loved Women
WhoHave Gone BackTo Men"on the

is moving to bigger and better quarters!
The new bar will be opening soon so

keep your eyes and ears open for the
announcement of date and location. In

month's topics are: "Financial Ine

16th; and "De Los Muertes" (Alicia
Lopez will speak on the significance of
the Day of the Dead)on the 30th. And,
if that weren't enough, Halloween

the meantime don't miss Dena Kaye
appearing live on October 11th. The
show starts at 9pm ... don't be late!

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Dear Agaes
Answers to your questions about love,
RELATIONSHIIPS & PERSONAL PROBLEMS

I have a problem I've been Hying to

done anything "wrong", and keep in
mind that just because you love some

solve and can'1.1 have a lover I've been

one does not mean you can live with

Dear Agnes,

with for six months. 1 love her alot, but

them.

she doesn't show me much love. I'm

not happy. I feel like finding someone
else, but find it hard because 1 really
love her.

I've been getting sick alot with bad
headaches, among other things. She
feels I should go home for awhile. I

Dear Agnes,
I know you get alot of letters from
women having problems with their
lovers — well my problem is a little

don't want to go.

different I have a problem with my
lover's dog. She hates me.
1 don't know why the dog hates me so

She's tired all the time. I know she's
tired when she comes home from work,
but she's tired even when she isn't

girlfriend's apartment the dog starts to
growl, show her teeth and bark at me.

working.She doesn'tlike to be touched

We have to lock her up in another room

much.

because she is so threatening towards

I don't know what to think or what to

do. She doesn't seem to love me very

much. She tells me she needs space.
I feel like a fool. Please try to help.
CONFUSED

Dallas, TX
Dear Confused,
I re-read your letter now that is has had
time to "get cold." I seems to me that
you have two choices; 1)You can either
get her to talk to you about specifically
what is wrong,or 2) you can take her at
her word and give her space — move.
As hard as it may be for you to under
stand or accept, it may be that she just
wants to break up. Period. If that's the
case you will only make it harder on
yourself by hanging around. Try to re
member that you have not necessarily

Page 14 • Dimensions • October 1990

much, but as soon as I walk in my

me.

1 also have a dog (a female)and 1 have
wondered if the smell might not have

something to do with it. My dog goes
crazy when my lover comesto my house
—butit is because she is so happy to see
her.

The really bad part is that we would
really like to get a house together ,but I
don't think 1 can live in the same house

as this dog without fearing for my safety
all the time. Any suggestions?
DOG TIRED

Arlington,TX
Dear Tired,
Although it may not have started this
way, it is obvious that the dog is now
well aware of your fear and may sense
you don't like her.

The best way lo go about making friends

Dallas,or any other Texas city,it's with

is to have your girlfriend put the dog on

the state of Texas itself. Until 21.06 is

a strong leash and meet you in "neutral"

taken off the books and a lesbian/gay

territory (a park, a friends yard, etc.).
Don't approach the dog—try to get her

civil rights law is passed we are all in
danger of being harassed by the police,
the public and the judges of this state.
The Texas Human Rights Foundation
and the Lesbian/Gay Rights Lobby of
Texas are working to make these goals
a reality and they need your donations.

lo approach you. A treat or toy may be
a good lure. Kneel down to her level but

avoid looking her in the eyes. Dogs
believe that you are challenging them
when you make prolonged eye-contacL
Don't make any sudden moves. Try to
pet the dog when you feel comfortable.

The gay communities in every city need
volunteers and money.

Until we all get out and help those who
are trying to help us, we have no right to
complain about the conditions under

It may take more than one time of

playing this little game to win her over,
but hang in there.

Remember that if you do decide to
move in with your girlfriend you will
need to introduce your dogs in much the
same way - on neutral territory.

which we must live.

Help Out or Shut Up
Austin, TX

Dear Agnes,

You Can

I have one more comment regarding
"Crossroads ofTime" who complained

Write To "Agnes" At:

about San Antonio's lack of a central

P.O. Box 856
Lubbock, TX 79408

ized gay community.
The problem isn't with San Antonio,

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by Linda Monroe

Various statistics tell us that there are more than ten
million alcoholics in the United States. While that

figure is staggering in and ofitself,these statistics do not
tell the whole story. The alcohoUc's friends, family and
co-workers all feel the effects of alcoholism.

Obviously,it is the family that suffers most—
especially the children. And,when these same

children grow to adulthood, they carry the
scars of growing up in an alcoholic envi
ronment.

Although most of us are aware if
there is an alcoholic in our imme

diate family, we may not be aware
of the effects alcoholism has on
us as adults. Alcohol

ism is a family disease.
Children of alcoholics

run a higher risk of de
veloping alcoholism
than children of non-

alcoholics. They also
tend to marry (or enter
long-term relation

ships) with alco
holies.

October 1990• Dimensions• Page 17

To understand the effects a parent's
alcoholism has on you as an adult, we
must first look at some of the qualities
found in the alcoholic. Although every
alcoholic will not exhibit all of these

behaviors,almost all willshow signs of

Lying is an integral part of the family
affected by alcoholism. The family,as
a unit, lies to itself that "everything is
alright". You may have lied to keep

at least a few. These behaviOTs are:

your alcoholic parent out of trouble,to

•Excessive dependency
• Inability to express emotions

reduce your embarrassment over their

• Low tlerance for frustration

Alcoholic parents also make alot of
promises that never came true.Because
ofthis,lying becomes partofthe family
system and the children of that family
carry this trait into adulthood.

•Emotional immaturity
•High level of anxiety in interpersonal
relationships
•Low self-esteem

behavior or to make excuses for them.

• Feelings of Grandiosity
•Feelings of isolatiwi
•Perfectionism

• Ambivalence toward authority
• Guilt'

Children and families of alcoholics re

spond to these behaviors with:
• Denial

• Protectiveness, pity, concon about
die drinker
•Embarrassment

• Shift in relationship (domination,
rebellion, etc.)
• Guilt

•Obsession or continual worry
• Fear

•Lying
•Confusion

• Anger

• Lethargy, hopelessness, self-pity,
despair,remorse.'

Most children of alcoholics never had
much of a chance to be children. Life

was just too serious to have much fun.
The chUd is forced into a positicm of

responsibility for the parent and conse
quently is forced to "grow up" at a
much younger age. As a result, the
adult child may have problems being

spontaneous and be very rigid.
They feel the need to control their en
vironment and may react violently to

any sudden changes.This lack ofspon
taneity is due to a lack oftrustin anyone
but themselves. Children of alcoholics

learn early that they can depend on no
one else and consequently will usually
not allow anyone else to make deci
sions for them as they grow older.Even

Most,ifnotall,oftheseresponsesin the
child ofan alcoholic willcarry overinto

something as simple as a last minute
change of plans for the evening gives

adulthood. The results of this can be

them the sense thatthey have no control

very harmfulifnotdealt with in aproper

over their lives.

way.

How some of the behaviors manifest
themselvesin the adultchild ofalcohol
ics is discussed below.

Page 18• Dimensions• October 1990

So, what's wrong with trying to be

perfect? Everything if you use it as a

Counseling is a good idea at this stage,

vehicle to cover up whatis wrong in the
family. As a child, you may have used
this search for perfection to insulate
your alcoholic parent from disappoint

as is regular involvement in Al-Anon
or an Adult Children of Alcoholics
group.

Alcoholism truly is a family disease

ment by rationalizing that if you were

and only by recognizing the effect that

good enough, they wouldn't drink. As
an adult, you set your goals so high that
you have little chance ofreaching them.

alcoholism has had on yourlife will you
be able to break the cycle of depend
ency.

You do this for the same reason ... if

you couldjust be good enough,nothing
bad would ever happen to you.^

'Woititz, J.,

Children Of Alco-

hnlics. Deerfield,FL: Health Commu
nications,Inc., 1983, pp.103.
^ Johnson,V.,Intervention. Minneapo
lis: Johnson Institute Books, 1986,

The other side of the "perfection" coin

pp.39.

^

is being irresponsible. Many children
of alcoholics will use this behavior to

draw attention away from the alcoholic
or because of a sense of hopelessness.
This need for attention (negative or

positive)carries over into adulthood in
the guise of irresponsibility. Subcon
sciously you may feel that you get more

attention if you act"bad"than ifyou are
"good".

Your first step in getting help if you are
the adult child ofan alcoholic parent is
to understand that you are not respon

sible for your parent's alcoholism.It is
not yourfaultfhat he/she isan alcoholic
and it is not your responsibility to"fix"
it Itis also good to understand that your
recovery does not depend on the future
sobriety of your parent.
You may wonder if you really need
help. Chances are that you do. Most
families of alcoholic or chemically de

pendent persons have been so close to
the problem for so many years that they

may fail to recognize the problems that
stem from that dependency.

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What A Worud,
What A WortpS
A User's Guide To
The Personals
BY NANCY FORD
"Matchmaker, matchmaker, make me
a match.

ivete, we assume that those who ad

Find me afind, catch me a catch..
— ancient tribal folk song

vertisein the personals are notcurrently
espoused.
D — Divorced. Does not mean "des

perate" as many critics of the personals
Nearly anything can happen when one
respondstoapo^nalad.Youcan meet
the significant other of your dreams.

would insist However,ifthe^you are
responding to is published in'Tass"the
D in this situation could very easily

You can make new business contacts.

mean "Democrat".

You can waste a perfectly good eve
ning.
Having come a long way from it's an
cient precursor of writing names and

G — Gay.Surprise, surprise, surprise.
S — Single.

numb^ on restroom walls and hoping
for the best,the personals have become

an accq)table form of making social
contact Numerous publications have

added a personals column as a regular
feature for their readers, taking the
philosophy of "keeping the customer
satisfied" one step teyond.

W —White.

B—Black.Or Boyish,as in"M,yetB"
("mature, yet boyish")
H — Hi^anic.
C&W — Country and Western, as in
music.Usually preceded by "hates..."
OK — Okay. No mystery here.
ND/D — No drugs/diseases.

Therefore,as a service to the readers of

CA/H — No, not Catholic Asian He
donist. CA/H still means "central air
and heat", and it also means you're

Dimensions.I have compiled"AUser's

looking fw love in all the wrong col

Guide to the Personals".

umns.

First to test your knowledge, here's a

FS —Financially Secure.Shouldnever
be listed in same ad with the phrase
"incurably romantic". The two are

quiz; What does SWM mean? If you
answered "single white male" you've
probably played this game before. If

usually mutually exclusive.

you answered "southwest Methodist"

WPH — Weight Proportionate to

you're probably reading the wrong

Height But would this individualjump

magazine.

at the chance to accompany a 9-foot

Half the battle in reading the personals

180-pound vertebrate on fun evenings
out(X quiet evenings at home?

is knowing the language.

F — Female.

EXTENDED TRANSLATIONS
As in political campaigns, not all per

M — Male. Not"married." In our na-

sonals candidates say what they mean.

CODES

Poge 22•Dimensions•October 1990

have to read between the lines.

years old. You can't shed 10 years,
grow 3 inches and drop 30 pounds by

Beware of ads containing two or more
of the following phrases:

respond to an ad which calls for some

or mean what they say.Sometimes you

•"trivia whiz"

•"enjoys quiet evenings"
•"tropical fish lover"
•"likes music"

This person is a self-described home

body with a capital HO. If you meet,
you will probably need to make a house
call.Don'tplan on being able to dig this
number's roots out of the couch.

Chances are that the drink you meetfor
will be milk with Oreo cookie crumbs

floating in it while watching videotaped
reruns of "Roseanne".

On the otherend ofthe spectrum,watch
out fcff those who list as hobbies:
•"aerobics of all nations."

•"inventing new oat bran recipes."
•"gazelle chasing"
•"likes music"

This is one active date-seeker. Your

first encounter might be a nice,roman
tic jog around the state. Be sure to

BYOG (Bring Your Own Gatorade).
And on the third hand, maybe the ad

that grabs yoiu" attention includes:
•"enjoys tdigning chakras."
•"moon dancing"
•"lives lives to the fuUest"(not a typo)
•"likes music"

If so, make sure that when driving,

there is enough room in the car for the
three of you; you, your new friend,and
your new friend's aura.
Other buzz phrases to consider:
•"adventuresome"= Sex

•"enjoys contact sports"= Sex
•"seeks meaningfulrelationship"=Sex

the time you meet...Conversely,don't
one whoenjoyssailingjust because you
think this would be a chi-chi way to get
a tan.

Second, using every ounce of your
common senseis highly recommended.

When planning to meet Ms.Could-BeWonderful, don't reveal your home

address or home phone number. Ini

tially, a work number should suffice.
No need to be paranoid, but do be
realistic. These are not yet kinder,gen
tler times in which we are living.

Anange fw your first meeting to be
brief and at a public place. A luncheon

ata popular cafe is recommended.TTiis
automatically sets up a time restriction
should thesparksofmutualcompatibil
ity notfly as you had hoped.("Gee,I'd
love to sit here the restoftheday,eating

chips and salsa, listening to the details
of your recentloiee surgery,but I really
must get back to the office.")
Further, let a comrade/cohort know

where you'll be lunching, with whom
and when you expect to return. Then
stick to it.

Above all, keep things in perspective.
Playing the personals is a lot like cata
log shopping: What you see may not

necessarily be what you get.Some outof-stock items may be replaced with
merchandise of comparable value,etc.
Butjustremember,beneath all thecodes
and claims, there are real lives reiM'e-

sented by those ads. Flesh and blood
pet^le,their romantic hqjesand dreams
crammed into the tiny confines of 35-

•"likes music"= Sex

words-or-less for all the literate wwld
to assess. Be fair. Be sensitive. If it

Now that that's out of the way here are

doesn't work, you can always go back
to writing on restnxxn walls.

some more tips for responding to a
personal ad (and to life in general):
Honesty is always the bestpolicy.Don't
claim to be 25 years old and "willowy"
when you're really 5'4",1451bs.and35

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The Coffee Ceiib
Lesbians In The Arts • Books, Music, Movies, Etc.
This Month, T. Sumner Reviews.

MuRD]3R
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by
Dorothy Tell

OOftOTH''

Dorothy Tell, Dallas' premier lesbian

on her first major case as a private

novelist, has come into her own with

detective.

the publication of her second book.
Murder at Red Rook Ranch (Naiad
Press, Inc., S8.95).

Nan High tower,owner ofthe Red Rook
Ranch, has died a mysterious death.
The local sheriff's office says it was

Poppy Dillworth, the crusty sixty-five

suicide. Nan's friend and ranch boss

year old lesbian first introduced in

Zoe Zentmeyer believes otherwise and
hires Poppy and her sidekick, Marcie

Wilderness Trek . has been called out

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(also from Wilderness Trekl. to inves
tigate.
Nan's brother who fled to Canada to

escape the draft during the V ietnam war
is the main suspect. Then there's
Morgana,Nan's latest fling and benefi
ciary of a last-minute change in her
will. And what about Violet, Nan's

flamboyant long-term lover.
To complicate matters;Zoe has her eye
on the straight-laced Marcie,and Poppy
has fallen hard for Violet's Aunt Belle.

Ms. Tell's potential was obvious in her
first novel. Wilderness Trek, but that

book didn't quite live up to her talent.
Murder at Red Rook Ranch definitely
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The Distopian
Tale of a Girl

and Her Biker, by

PAT CALIFIA

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Your
Life?
Sex (or lack of it) plays a large role in
most of our lives. A happy sex life can
improve your primary relationship and
give you more self-confidence. A

4.1 don't feel like my lover and I have

strained or non-existent sex life can

after sex.

adversely affect all areas of your life.
So how is your sex life? Answer the
following 15 questions as honestly as
possible and find out.

6.1 enjoy sex with my current partner
more than with anyone before.

TRUE OR FALSE
1. The older I get, the more I enjoy sex.

sex often enough.

5. I usually feel very self-confident

7. I'm not sure why, but I feel my sex
life is not up to par.
8.1 would rather make new friends than
look for a lover.

2.1 daydream frequently about sex with
someone other than my lover.

9. I feel it takes me too long to reach
orga.sm.

3. My mind often wanders during sex.
10. 1 have never enjoyed sex and try to

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avoid it if possible.

11-20

11. My lover and I are at ease talking
about what makes us feel good in bed.
12.1 would rather masturbate than have

sex with my partner.

13. Sex with my lover is more of an
obligation than a pleasure.
14.1 am looking for the"perfect"lover.
15. Sex is an important part of my
relaticxiship.

Give yourself 2 points
for each correct answer.
9.F

2.F

10.F

3.F

11. T

4.F

12. F

5.T

13. F

6.T

14.F

7.F

15. T

cation skills in the bedroom.

0-10
You are unhappy with your sex life
most of the time and may avoid having
sex at all. Counseling may be called for
in this situation, however, you may be
able to help yourself by carefully ana
lyzing what it is about sex that makes
you unhappy and wOTking to change it
It will only take one positive sexual
experience torekindle your interest and
improve your self-ccmfidence.

SCORING

1.T

Although you enjoy sex and have a
good sex life,you may be a bitinhibited
about communicating what you want.
You may also be concerned about your
own skills in bed.The best way to cure
all these problems is to ask! Ask for
what you want,ask how you are doing,
and ask what it is your partner wants.
You will gain confidence and satisfac
tion by learning to use your communi

8.F

if You Scored:
21-30
You are very satisfied
with your sex life. You
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consequently,you often
get it! You aren't inhib
ited about sex and you
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POETTRY
From Our Readers

Letting Go
When you first left, I sat frozen in fear.
I was in no real rush to move,for 1 knew

that eventually I would melt Into hate.

MMons of thoughts filled my mind but,
only one question flooded my heart. Why?
Therapy, medication nor Religion helped.

Time waited for no one. My hcrir passed my
waistline and Autumn was right around the comer,

again. I found comfort in my pcdn,
and with it. I accepted that I was cdive
and that I didn't die.

I grew.
Tcnie M.Tenorio
San Antonio

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Property of the Center

Horoscope
What's in the stars for you this month?

ARBES
You may be feeling confined during
Oclober. Circumstances force you to
focus more on others than on yourself.

Be sure you are being realistic about a
relationship before you commit your
self. Try to take care of unfinished
work during the last week ofthis month.

home life. Things aren't as bad as they
may first appear. A few days away
from work may help your attitude and
that of your mate. Your social life is
highlighted from the 22nd on. Both

business and home life will profit from
pleasurable pursuits. You have the
upper hand in romance at month's end.

It's possible that higher-ups are watch
ing your performance.

TAURUS
Go ahead, pamper yourself - or let
someone else do it for you - during the
first week of October. You may not be
feeling up-to-par and a little indulgence
will help to lift your spirits. Let your
mate or partner make the big decisions
late in the month. Changes instituted

now can bring you great profit or love in

EEC
Plan ahead to keep responsibilitiesfrom
overwhelming you during thefirst week
ofOctober.Try not to let your emotions
get in the way of an important decision
after the 7th. Work keeps piling up
despite your long hours.Learn when to
say"no"or you may never dig yourself
out! You may find that little luxury item
you've been wanting for yourself. Go
ahead and splurge!

later weeks. Social activities will

brighten your life towards month's end.

VIRGO

GEMIAI

Your main focus during the first week
of October will be money. A dispute
about a shared-account or jointly held

Although love and money are high
lighted this month, you should try to

avoid letting them get mixed together!
It's time to take stock of your money

situation and make changes if you need
to. Changes, both on the job and at
home,may be coming rapidly now and
you'll need to be flexible to make it
through. During the last week of Octo
ber you have time to relax and enjoy the
fruits of your labor.

property could stir up intense emotions

that could lead to a break in a partner
ship or romantic relationship. If you
look in the right places you might just
find someone extra special to cheer you
up. Don't sign any contracts without
looking them over carefully after the

25th. You could wind up in a mess if
you aren't careful.

UBRA

CAACER
Temper flare-ups during the first week
of October could disrupt your idyllic

You have a talent for being in the right
place at the right time during the first
part of October. Others may resent your

October 1990• Dimensions • Page 31

proving your appearance and making

luck,but don'tlet it get you down.You
may decide on aspurofthe momenttrip

new friends. Don't let a problem at
home drag on indefinitely. Handle it
quickly and you'll be able to enjoy the

over the 13th/14th.The weekend could

bring a emotionalchangeforthe better.
Your cash flow increases altxig with
your work load after the 20th.

last few days of the month.

AQ;mRnRs
SCORPIO

Put yoiu" priorities in order early in

A romantic affair could sneak up on
you when you are least expecting it

October and stick to the plan.Work and
career plans could be disrupted if you

during the first week of October. You

don't concentrate on your goals and

may be feeling a bit uptight around

tune out the distractions that seem to

mid-month.A romantic weekend alone

come from all sides this month. Long

with a loved-one may be the perfect
thing to help you relax.Yourchann and

distance travel and communications be

charisma will take you far during the

thefocus during the third week.A close
relationship may be a bit strained to

last week ofthe month.Try notto come
across as too overpowering.

with your loved one.

SA<;nTAKII'S

PISCES

You are easily distracted from thejob at
hand during the first week of OctobCT.
Although you may be feeling the urge

An improvement in your financial and
employment picture lets you focus on
personal projects you may have ne
glected for awhile. A shopping trip to

wards month's end.Setaside time to be

to take a vacation, it would be best to

spruce up your wardrobe or home could

stay on the job. After the 17th you will
be feeling much less stress and able to
enjoy a social occasion. Financial con
cerns could have you running in circles

lift your spirits. Keep your emotions in
check when it comes to dealing with a
new friend or romantic interest dining
the last week. People are not always
what they seem and you could be in
over your head if you movetoo quickly.

towards month's end.Some hard think

ing will lead you to a solution.

CAPRIC01»^
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your own bell to get
any attention during

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The Directory
A Listing of Service Organizations, Businesses & Clubss
ARLINGTON,TX (area code 817)
organizations
Gay/Lesbian Association of UTA
P.O. Box 19348-77, UTA SI. 76019 • 794-5140

AUSTIN, TX (area code 512)

Dallas Gay/Lesbian Historic Archives
P.O. Box 190712 75219 -821-1653

Dallas Gay Youth Group
300 Turtle Creek Plaza #116 - 307-7203
Dallas Outdoors
P.O. Box 35474 75235 - 276-5270
Dallas Tavern Guild

3900 Lemmon Ave. #220 - 526-5292

clubs
Nexus (coming soon)• 448-2292

organizations

Dignity/Daiias - PO Box 190133 75219 - 226-4101
Foundation for Human Understanding-528-4233
Grace Fellowship in Christ Jesus

Affirmation (Methodist)

2727 Oak Lawn 75219-528-2811

7403 Shoal Creek • 451-2329

Lesbian information Line(LiL)

Austin Latino/a Lesbian/Gay Organization

P.O. Box 191443 75219 - 528-2426

P.O. Box 1350 78787• 280-8107

Lesbian/Gay Political Coalition

Austin Lesbian/Gay Poiitical Caucus
P.O. Box 822 78767•462-9888

P.O. Box 224424 75222 - 828-9882
Lesbian Resource Center

Center for Battered Women • Lesbian Group

1315Skiles-821-3999

385-5181 or 928-9070 (hotline)
Gay/Lesbian Student Association at UT Austin

Lesbian Visionaries
P.O. Box 191443 75219-528-4087

458-3971 • Box 275 Texas Union 78712-7338

Metropiex Republicans

Lesbian/Gay Rights Lobby • PO Box 2505 78768

P.O. Box 191033 75219 -941-8114

Lesbian Mothers - Karen • 339-8508
Live Wire Productions • PO Box 141202 78714

P.O. box 191094 75219-520-8108

Metropolitan Community Church
1100 Springdale Rd.•929-3660
Oasis Ministry

P.O. Box 190973 75219 - 986-1751

5555 N. Lamar Blvd. #L101 • 441 -9191

P-Flag (Parents/Friends Lesbians/Gays)*328-3830
Sapphire!• Lesbian Social Group -lOOO S. Lamar
Waterloo Counseling Center

Oak Lawn Community Services
Oak Lawn Symphonic Band
WANT(Women In The Arts)288-929/ 823-3105
Womyn Together - 3920 Cedar Springs -528-4233

507 Powell 78703 • 322-9654

DENTON,TX (area code 817)
organizations

Texas Human Rights Foundation

COURAGE, Lesbian Gay Student Org.

2201 N. Lamar# 203 78705 • 479-8473

P.O. Box 5067 76203 - 382-3813

AIDS Legal Assistance 1-800-828-6417

FT. WORTH (area code 817)
DALLAS,TX (area code 214)

ciubs

businesses
Business Delivery Systems

organizations

14902 Preston Rd. 75240 • 733-1108

Crossroads Market•3930 Cedar Springs

Partners - 1612 Park Place Dr. - 927-9546

Affirmation (Methodist) - 478-7837
RESPECT - Gay/Lesbian Association

521-8919 or 1-800-992-6404
Curious Times - Women's Books etc.

828 Hardwood Rd. - Hurst, TX 76054

4008D Cedar Springs ■ 528-4087
clubs
Sue Ellen's • 3903 Cedar Springs •559-0707

HOUSTON,TX (area code 713)

organizations

Inklings - an alternative bookshop

Affirmation • PO Box 225831 75222 • 948-1546
AIDS Resource Center
P.O. Bo* 190712 75219

Dallas Gay Alliance

businesses
1846 Richmond - 521 -3369

Clubs
Ranch-9125 S. Main - 666-3464

P.O. Box 190712 75219- 528-0144

October 1990 • Dimensions • Page 33

organizations

National Gay/Lesbian Task Force

AIDS Foundation
3927 Essex Lane *623 6796
AIDS HOTLINE
c/o Switchboard • 529-3211

1517 U Street NW

Gay/Lesbian Students University of Houston

Washington D.C. 20009 - 202-332-6483
The Fund for Human Dignity
666 Broadway 4ih Floor
NY, NY 10012

4800 Calhoun • 529-3211

Gay & Lesbian Switchboard
P.O. Box 66591 77266-529-3211

Houston Gay Political Caucus
P.O. Box 66664 77266 • 521 -1000

Kingdom Community Church
SUE. 19lh-862-7533
Lambda ALANON • Lambda Center for Alchoholics
1214 Joanne-521-9772

Lesbian/Gay Students-Unlv. Houston Clear Lake
2700 Bay Area 77058
Metropolitan Community Church
Of The Resurrection
1919Decatur-861-9149

NORMAN,OK (area code 405)
organizatioffs
Women's Resource Center
P.O. Box 5089 73070

OKLAHOMA CITY, OK (area code 405)
organizations
Oasis the Community Center
2135 NW 39th 73112 - 525-AiDS

Hertand Sister Resources, Inc.
2312 NW 39lh 73112- 521-9696

Montrose Counseling Center
900 Lovett #203 77006 • 529-0037

Montrose Pool League/Billiards • PJ 863-8482
PWA Coaihion - Houston

1475 W. Gray #163-522-5428
Womynspace

SAN ANGELO,TX (area code 915)
businesses
Books Etc., Inc - Lesblan/Gay/Alternalive Books
241 OW.AveN 76904 - 942-1544

P.O. Box 980601 77098-0601
880-9517 or 521-0780

Women's Softball League
6431 Pineshade - 868-6256

SAN ANTONIO,TX (area code 512)
clubs
The Circle -8021 Pinebrook - 341-2818

LUBBOCK,TX (area code 806)
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Lubbock LesUan/Gay Alliance
P.O. Box 64746 79464 - 796-2403

organizations
Digntty/San Antonio
202 N St. Mary's - 349-3632
Integrfty.'San Antonio
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Nantes Project/Lubbock - 796-1800 or 744-1957

River City Living
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202 Holland 78212 - 822-1121

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LISA (Lesoian information SA)- 828-LiSA (5472)

AiDS Action Council

Gay Assembly - 733-7300

729 Eighth St. S.E. Suite 200
Washington, DC 20003 -(202) 547-3101

SALSA - San Antonio Lambda Students Alliance
P.O. Box 12715 78212

AIDS 800-1-800-221-7044
Conference For Catholic Lesbians
P.O. Box 436, Planetarium Station
New York, New York 10024
Hate Crime Line -1 -800-347-HATE

National Gay Alliance for Young Adults, Inc.
P.O Box 190426

Coordinator; Jim 228-9877
San Antonio AIDS Foundation
P.O. Box 120113 78212-9313
San Antonio Tavern Guild - 822-2823

SOUTH PADRE ISLAND, TX

Dallas, TX 75219-0426 - (214) 307-7203

(area code 512)

National Gay/Lesbian Clearinghouse
666 Broadway 4th Floor

accomodations
Lyie's Deck -120 E Atol St.

NY, NY 10012

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1-800-SOS-GAYS

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The ^ews»
From Around the Region, the Country & the World

National Helms
Action Called for

12 percent of that amount (approxi
mately S800,000).
If you would like to donate to the Gantt

October 6th

campaign please send your contribu

DURHAM, N.C. - North Carolina

tions to: NC Senate Vote'90,604 West

Senate Vote '90, the statewide coali

Chapel Hill Sl, Durham, NC 27701.

tion working to stop Jesse Helms in
1990, has issued a call to gay and pro
gressive organizations across the coun
try to help make Helm's defeat a reality.
N.C. Senate Vote '90 is inviting pro

gressive Americans to join them in
COUNTDOVvT^ TO VICTORY events

in all 49 supporting states on Saturday,
October 6th. North Carolinians oppos

ing Helms and supporting his oppo
nent, former Charlotte, N.C. mayor

Harvey Gantt, will rally that day in
Raliegh.
"People will be gathering at marches.
Rallies, poducks, dances, concerts —
all kinds of events designed to bring
people together in their support for us
through the last 30 days of the pro-

Gantt,anti-Helms push,"said Vote'90's

Homophobia and
Sexism Rampant m
Na\y Memo
An internal Navy memo advocating
further targeting ofwomen for discharge
due to homosexuality, was recently
leaked to the National Organization for
Women and Congressman Gerry
Studds' office. The memo, entitled
"Equal Treaunent of Male and Female
Homosexuals", was distributed to all

commanding officers in the Naval
Surface Forces ofthe U.S.Atlantic Fleet

and was sent to NOW and Rep. Studds
by anonymous sources in Baltimore,
MD and Norfolk, VA.

National Helms Liberation Action

NOW President Molly Yard said of the
memo, "Rarely is the public privy to
such a clear example of the military's

Day,"is pivotal because Helm's Senate
influence has persistent national reper

homophobic, sexist bigotry. Clearly,
elements in the military still chafe at the

cussions and the national fundraising

success of women in their ranks. This

machine that finances his North Caro

directive uses the military's institution
alized homophobia to directly attack
women in the Navy who are, by the

director, Mandy Carter.

The cross-country effort, subtitled "A

lina races is among the mostlucrative in
the nation.

By August 20 the Helms campaign had
raised SI million (75% from out-ofstate)and the Ganttcampaign had raised

author's own admission, 'the Com
mand's top professionals'."

NOW has long understood that the
military's anti-le.sbian and gay policy is

October 1990• Dimensions • Page

7

one of the primary tools used to harass
and intimidate all military women.
Department of Defense statistics show

from a dream to an active network of 14

that for all the services combined,
women are 3 times more likely to be

Lesbian/Gay/Bisexual organizations
and issues at Southwestern campuses
the Coalition has begun several pro
grams and strategies. These programs
include an organizational study docu

discharged for homosexuality. This
memo spells out more clearly than ever
before the inherentsexism ofthe policy
and its implementation. It amounts to a

blueprint for the Navy to witchhunt its
top women professionals.

student and youth organizations. In
accordance with its mission to promote

menting the progress of Lesbian/Gay/
Bisexual student groups in the South

west,a mixed-media lending library of
Lesbian and Gay materials, the provi

Southwestern

Lesbian/Gay Student
Group To Hold

sion of legal services to the student
organizations and the establishment of
Gay and Lesbian studies at institutions
across the Southwest.

Conference
DALLAS - The Coalition of Lesbian/

Advantage Navratilova

Gay Student Groups(CLGSG), an or
ganization of Lesbians, Gays and Bisexuals at colleges and Universities in

Tennis great Martina Navratilova was
recently slammed for being a lesbian by
bom-again former tennis star Margaret
Court. According to the Associated
Press, Court opined, "I'd like to see

the Southwest will hold its first confer

ence on Saturday, October 6 in Dallas.
The conference entitled "Embracing
Our Diversity", will bring together over
120 young people from Oklahoma,

someone at the top whom the younger
players can look up to,"and added "It is

Arkansas, Louisiana, New Mexico and

very sad for children to be exposed to
[homosexuality]." Court also claimed

Texas for a one-day educational and

some younger players had been led into

inspirational event. There will be a total
of twelve workshops covering Racism,

homosexuality by other,seniorplayers
and that Navratilova was probably lured

Sexism,Self-Identity, Coalition Build

into lesbianism during her early years

ing and Lesbian/Gay Herstory.

on the pro tour.

The conference wi11 be held at the Dallas

We don't have Margaret Court's ad
dress, but we do have Navratilova's
We suggest you write and give her
some encouragement. Ask her to speak

Gay Alliance's new community center
at 2701 Regan. For more information
on rcgisuation,housing and transporta
tion, call CLGSG at(214)471-6482.

out and condemn the ignorance about

The CLGSG, conceived at the Texas

lesbians perpetuated by Court's state

March on Austin for Lesbian and Gay
Rights in the spring of 1989, has grown

ments, and to tell the world that it's
bigots who make bad role models. Write

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to her c/o Intemational Management
Group, 1 Erieview Plaza, Suite 1300,
Cleveland, OH 44114.

From the GLAAD (Gay & Lesbian
Alliance AgainstDefamadon)Bulletin.
SeptVOcL 1990.

Tickets are $100 per person, and will
include a cocktail reception and a silent
auction along with the banquet. A$150
VIP ticket will include a cocktail recep
tion with the keynote speaker and fea

tured guests.Some ofthe items already
donated for the silent auction include:a

San Antonio
Fundraiser
Announced
SAN ANTONIO - The San Antonio

Dinner Committeeofthe Human Rights
Campaign Fund(HCRF)hasannounced
that it will hold it's second annual fun-

draising banquet on November 10th in
the Salon del Rey Ballroom of the Hil

trip to Hawaii; a trip to the coast; a
complete collection of books by Larry
Kramer; a complete autographed col
lection of bodes by Armistad Maupin;
furniture and works by local artists.

Keynote speaker and featured guests
will be announced in the November
issue.

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What's Goia' Oa
A Monthly Listing Of Special Events All Around The Area
AUSTIN - Don'tforget that the LONE

HOUSTON - The LONE STAR

STAR WOMEN'S MUSICFESTIVAL

SYMPHONICBAND will{x-esenttheir

will be held in Austin on October 5,6&

annual fall concert on October 2 at

7. Featured performers will include
Nancy Scott, Laura Love, Lara
Linette,Susan Coiton,The Therapy
Sisters, the Fontanelles and many,
many more. If you want more info,

Cullen Auditorium on the St Tho

mas University Campus at 7:30pm.
Tickets are available at INKLINGS,
LOBO and atthe door.The concert will

feature works by American composers

write: Lone Star Women's Music

and is billed as a"Salute to the USO".

Festival,ATTN:DIM,P.O.Box 2650,
Austin,TX 78768.

For more information call (713) 522-

HOUSTON -"Embracing Women's
Legacy: Our Healing Connection"is
the theme of Montrose Counseling
Center's 5th Annual WOMEN'S

WEEKEND, October 26-27 at the
University of Houston Hilton, 4800
Calhoun.In a series ofworkshops playshops and celebrations they will ex
plore life in a culture where women
honw themselves. For registration in
formation call(713)529-0037 or write:
Women's Weekend,Montrose Coun
seling Center,900 Lovett#203,Hous

4282.
DALLAS - The Women's Activities

Department of the Metropolitan
Community Church of Dallas is
sponsoring aWomen'sArtsand Crafts
Festival on Saturday, October 20th.
The Festival will be held at the D'Arts

Visual Center, 2917 Swiss Avenue

(comer of Oak and Swiss) and will be
open from 10am-4pm. Admission is
$1.00. The Festival is an opportunity
for women artists in the Metroplex to
showcasetheir arts and crafts.The work
ofabout40different women artists will

ton,TX 77006.

be on sale.

AUSTIN - LIVE WIRE PRODUC

AUSTIN - The Center for Battered
Women Outreach has a supportgroup

TIONS is going full blast! On Friday,
October 19th they bring you lesbian/

for battered or formerly battered lesbi

feminist comedian Kate Clinton at the

ans and lesbians in abusive relation

Austin Open House, 200 Academy

ships. Call (512) 385-5181 for more

Drive. Tickets are available at Bookwoman,Celebration! and at the door.

information.

On Friday, November 2nd singer/co
median Lynn Lavner at CHANCES,

HOUSTON - HEARTSONG, the

900 Red River. Proceeds from this

rus will be open to new membership

performance will benefit the Lesbian/
Gay Rights Lobby and Live Wire

November 5-26.A trial membership of
four weeks will be required to orient

Houston Women's Community Cho

Productions.

October 1990• Dimensions• Page 11

youto thechraus.Auditions willbeheld
November 26. HEARTSONG meets

for practice every Monday nightat7pm
at the First Unitarian Universalist
Church, 5210 Fannin. For more in
formation,call(713)667-8735.
AUSTIN - The Iris Art Collective,
Austin Parksand Recreation and Live
WireProductionsare bringing you"A
Woman's Tradition: An Art Festi

val" on Saturday and Sunday Novem
ber 17 & 18 at the McBeth Recreation

Center. If you are interested in booth

AUSTIN - Yes,girls. It's really going
to happen. Sometime in the month of
Octoberthe new andimproved NEXUS
will open its doors to you—their ador

ing public! Keep your best duds ironed
and ready... you never know when the
magic day will come.

SAN ANTONIO-Whatever you want,
the CIRCLE has it this month.First,it's
live entertainment with singer Dena
Kaye on the 14th,and comedian Kate
Clinton on the 18th. Then there's
Tuesday Night Discussions. This

space, please call(512) 339-8508 and
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Dear Agaes
Answers to your questions about love,
RELATIONSHIIPS & PERSONAL PROBLEMS

I have a problem I've been Hying to

done anything "wrong", and keep in
mind that just because you love some

solve and can'1.1 have a lover I've been

one does not mean you can live with

Dear Agnes,

with for six months. 1 love her alot, but

them.

she doesn't show me much love. I'm

not happy. I feel like finding someone
else, but find it hard because 1 really
love her.

I've been getting sick alot with bad
headaches, among other things. She
feels I should go home for awhile. I

Dear Agnes,
I know you get alot of letters from
women having problems with their
lovers — well my problem is a little

don't want to go.

different I have a problem with my
lover's dog. She hates me.
1 don't know why the dog hates me so

She's tired all the time. I know she's
tired when she comes home from work,
but she's tired even when she isn't

girlfriend's apartment the dog starts to
growl, show her teeth and bark at me.

working.She doesn'tlike to be touched

We have to lock her up in another room

much.

because she is so threatening towards

I don't know what to think or what to

do. She doesn't seem to love me very

much. She tells me she needs space.
I feel like a fool. Please try to help.
CONFUSED

Dallas, TX
Dear Confused,
I re-read your letter now that is has had
time to "get cold." I seems to me that
you have two choices; 1)You can either
get her to talk to you about specifically
what is wrong,or 2) you can take her at
her word and give her space — move.
As hard as it may be for you to under
stand or accept, it may be that she just
wants to break up. Period. If that's the
case you will only make it harder on
yourself by hanging around. Try to re
member that you have not necessarily

Page 14 • Dimensions • October 1990

much, but as soon as I walk in my

me.

1 also have a dog (a female)and 1 have
wondered if the smell might not have

something to do with it. My dog goes
crazy when my lover comesto my house
—butit is because she is so happy to see
her.

The really bad part is that we would
really like to get a house together ,but I
don't think 1 can live in the same house

as this dog without fearing for my safety
all the time. Any suggestions?
DOG TIRED

Arlington,TX
Dear Tired,
Although it may not have started this
way, it is obvious that the dog is now
well aware of your fear and may sense
you don't like her.

The best way lo go about making friends

Dallas,or any other Texas city,it's with

is to have your girlfriend put the dog on

the state of Texas itself. Until 21.06 is

a strong leash and meet you in "neutral"

taken off the books and a lesbian/gay

territory (a park, a friends yard, etc.).
Don't approach the dog—try to get her

civil rights law is passed we are all in
danger of being harassed by the police,
the public and the judges of this state.
The Texas Human Rights Foundation
and the Lesbian/Gay Rights Lobby of
Texas are working to make these goals
a reality and they need your donations.

lo approach you. A treat or toy may be
a good lure. Kneel down to her level but

avoid looking her in the eyes. Dogs
believe that you are challenging them
when you make prolonged eye-contacL
Don't make any sudden moves. Try to
pet the dog when you feel comfortable.

The gay communities in every city need
volunteers and money.

Until we all get out and help those who
are trying to help us, we have no right to
complain about the conditions under

It may take more than one time of

playing this little game to win her over,
but hang in there.

Remember that if you do decide to
move in with your girlfriend you will
need to introduce your dogs in much the
same way - on neutral territory.

which we must live.

Help Out or Shut Up
Austin, TX

Dear Agnes,

You Can

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by Linda Monroe

Various statistics tell us that there are more than ten
million alcoholics in the United States. While that

figure is staggering in and ofitself,these statistics do not
tell the whole story. The alcohoUc's friends, family and
co-workers all feel the effects of alcoholism.

Obviously,it is the family that suffers most—
especially the children. And,when these same

children grow to adulthood, they carry the
scars of growing up in an alcoholic envi
ronment.

Although most of us are aware if
there is an alcoholic in our imme

diate family, we may not be aware
of the effects alcoholism has on
us as adults. Alcohol

ism is a family disease.
Children of alcoholics

run a higher risk of de
veloping alcoholism
than children of non-

alcoholics. They also
tend to marry (or enter
long-term relation

ships) with alco
holies.

October 1990• Dimensions• Page 17

To understand the effects a parent's
alcoholism has on you as an adult, we
must first look at some of the qualities
found in the alcoholic. Although every
alcoholic will not exhibit all of these

behaviors,almost all willshow signs of

Lying is an integral part of the family
affected by alcoholism. The family,as
a unit, lies to itself that "everything is
alright". You may have lied to keep

at least a few. These behaviOTs are:

your alcoholic parent out of trouble,to

•Excessive dependency
• Inability to express emotions

reduce your embarrassment over their

• Low tlerance for frustration

Alcoholic parents also make alot of
promises that never came true.Because
ofthis,lying becomes partofthe family
system and the children of that family
carry this trait into adulthood.

•Emotional immaturity
•High level of anxiety in interpersonal
relationships
•Low self-esteem

behavior or to make excuses for them.

• Feelings of Grandiosity
•Feelings of isolatiwi
•Perfectionism

• Ambivalence toward authority
• Guilt'

Children and families of alcoholics re

spond to these behaviors with:
• Denial

• Protectiveness, pity, concon about
die drinker
•Embarrassment

• Shift in relationship (domination,
rebellion, etc.)
• Guilt

•Obsession or continual worry
• Fear

•Lying
•Confusion

• Anger

• Lethargy, hopelessness, self-pity,
despair,remorse.'

Most children of alcoholics never had
much of a chance to be children. Life

was just too serious to have much fun.
The chUd is forced into a positicm of

responsibility for the parent and conse
quently is forced to "grow up" at a
much younger age. As a result, the
adult child may have problems being

spontaneous and be very rigid.
They feel the need to control their en
vironment and may react violently to

any sudden changes.This lack ofspon
taneity is due to a lack oftrustin anyone
but themselves. Children of alcoholics

learn early that they can depend on no
one else and consequently will usually
not allow anyone else to make deci
sions for them as they grow older.Even

Most,ifnotall,oftheseresponsesin the
child ofan alcoholic willcarry overinto

something as simple as a last minute
change of plans for the evening gives

adulthood. The results of this can be

them the sense thatthey have no control

very harmfulifnotdealt with in aproper

over their lives.

way.

How some of the behaviors manifest
themselvesin the adultchild ofalcohol
ics is discussed below.

Page 18• Dimensions• October 1990

So, what's wrong with trying to be

perfect? Everything if you use it as a

Counseling is a good idea at this stage,

vehicle to cover up whatis wrong in the
family. As a child, you may have used
this search for perfection to insulate
your alcoholic parent from disappoint

as is regular involvement in Al-Anon
or an Adult Children of Alcoholics
group.

Alcoholism truly is a family disease

ment by rationalizing that if you were

and only by recognizing the effect that

good enough, they wouldn't drink. As
an adult, you set your goals so high that
you have little chance ofreaching them.

alcoholism has had on yourlife will you
be able to break the cycle of depend
ency.

You do this for the same reason ... if

you couldjust be good enough,nothing
bad would ever happen to you.^

'Woititz, J.,

Children Of Alco-

hnlics. Deerfield,FL: Health Commu
nications,Inc., 1983, pp.103.
^ Johnson,V.,Intervention. Minneapo
lis: Johnson Institute Books, 1986,

The other side of the "perfection" coin

pp.39.

^

is being irresponsible. Many children
of alcoholics will use this behavior to

draw attention away from the alcoholic
or because of a sense of hopelessness.
This need for attention (negative or

positive)carries over into adulthood in
the guise of irresponsibility. Subcon
sciously you may feel that you get more

attention if you act"bad"than ifyou are
"good".

Your first step in getting help if you are
the adult child ofan alcoholic parent is
to understand that you are not respon

sible for your parent's alcoholism.It is
not yourfaultfhat he/she isan alcoholic
and it is not your responsibility to"fix"
it Itis also good to understand that your
recovery does not depend on the future
sobriety of your parent.
You may wonder if you really need
help. Chances are that you do. Most
families of alcoholic or chemically de

pendent persons have been so close to
the problem for so many years that they

may fail to recognize the problems that
stem from that dependency.

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What A Worud,
What A WortpS
A User's Guide To
The Personals
BY NANCY FORD
"Matchmaker, matchmaker, make me
a match.

ivete, we assume that those who ad

Find me afind, catch me a catch..
— ancient tribal folk song

vertisein the personals are notcurrently
espoused.
D — Divorced. Does not mean "des

perate" as many critics of the personals
Nearly anything can happen when one
respondstoapo^nalad.Youcan meet
the significant other of your dreams.

would insist However,ifthe^you are
responding to is published in'Tass"the
D in this situation could very easily

You can make new business contacts.

mean "Democrat".

You can waste a perfectly good eve
ning.
Having come a long way from it's an
cient precursor of writing names and

G — Gay.Surprise, surprise, surprise.
S — Single.

numb^ on restroom walls and hoping
for the best,the personals have become

an accq)table form of making social
contact Numerous publications have

added a personals column as a regular
feature for their readers, taking the
philosophy of "keeping the customer
satisfied" one step teyond.

W —White.

B—Black.Or Boyish,as in"M,yetB"
("mature, yet boyish")
H — Hi^anic.
C&W — Country and Western, as in
music.Usually preceded by "hates..."
OK — Okay. No mystery here.
ND/D — No drugs/diseases.

Therefore,as a service to the readers of

CA/H — No, not Catholic Asian He
donist. CA/H still means "central air
and heat", and it also means you're

Dimensions.I have compiled"AUser's

looking fw love in all the wrong col

Guide to the Personals".

umns.

First to test your knowledge, here's a

FS —Financially Secure.Shouldnever
be listed in same ad with the phrase
"incurably romantic". The two are

quiz; What does SWM mean? If you
answered "single white male" you've
probably played this game before. If

usually mutually exclusive.

you answered "southwest Methodist"

WPH — Weight Proportionate to

you're probably reading the wrong

Height But would this individualjump

magazine.

at the chance to accompany a 9-foot

Half the battle in reading the personals

180-pound vertebrate on fun evenings
out(X quiet evenings at home?

is knowing the language.

F — Female.

EXTENDED TRANSLATIONS
As in political campaigns, not all per

M — Male. Not"married." In our na-

sonals candidates say what they mean.

CODES

Poge 22•Dimensions•October 1990

have to read between the lines.

years old. You can't shed 10 years,
grow 3 inches and drop 30 pounds by

Beware of ads containing two or more
of the following phrases:

respond to an ad which calls for some

or mean what they say.Sometimes you

•"trivia whiz"

•"enjoys quiet evenings"
•"tropical fish lover"
•"likes music"

This person is a self-described home

body with a capital HO. If you meet,
you will probably need to make a house
call.Don'tplan on being able to dig this
number's roots out of the couch.

Chances are that the drink you meetfor
will be milk with Oreo cookie crumbs

floating in it while watching videotaped
reruns of "Roseanne".

On the otherend ofthe spectrum,watch
out fcff those who list as hobbies:
•"aerobics of all nations."

•"inventing new oat bran recipes."
•"gazelle chasing"
•"likes music"

This is one active date-seeker. Your

first encounter might be a nice,roman
tic jog around the state. Be sure to

BYOG (Bring Your Own Gatorade).
And on the third hand, maybe the ad

that grabs yoiu" attention includes:
•"enjoys tdigning chakras."
•"moon dancing"
•"lives lives to the fuUest"(not a typo)
•"likes music"

If so, make sure that when driving,

there is enough room in the car for the
three of you; you, your new friend,and
your new friend's aura.
Other buzz phrases to consider:
•"adventuresome"= Sex

•"enjoys contact sports"= Sex
•"seeks meaningfulrelationship"=Sex

the time you meet...Conversely,don't
one whoenjoyssailingjust because you
think this would be a chi-chi way to get
a tan.

Second, using every ounce of your
common senseis highly recommended.

When planning to meet Ms.Could-BeWonderful, don't reveal your home

address or home phone number. Ini

tially, a work number should suffice.
No need to be paranoid, but do be
realistic. These are not yet kinder,gen
tler times in which we are living.

Anange fw your first meeting to be
brief and at a public place. A luncheon

ata popular cafe is recommended.TTiis
automatically sets up a time restriction
should thesparksofmutualcompatibil
ity notfly as you had hoped.("Gee,I'd
love to sit here the restoftheday,eating

chips and salsa, listening to the details
of your recentloiee surgery,but I really
must get back to the office.")
Further, let a comrade/cohort know

where you'll be lunching, with whom
and when you expect to return. Then
stick to it.

Above all, keep things in perspective.
Playing the personals is a lot like cata
log shopping: What you see may not

necessarily be what you get.Some outof-stock items may be replaced with
merchandise of comparable value,etc.
Butjustremember,beneath all thecodes
and claims, there are real lives reiM'e-

sented by those ads. Flesh and blood
pet^le,their romantic hqjesand dreams
crammed into the tiny confines of 35-

•"likes music"= Sex

words-or-less for all the literate wwld
to assess. Be fair. Be sensitive. If it

Now that that's out of the way here are

doesn't work, you can always go back
to writing on restnxxn walls.

some more tips for responding to a
personal ad (and to life in general):
Honesty is always the bestpolicy.Don't
claim to be 25 years old and "willowy"
when you're really 5'4",1451bs.and35

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This Month, T. Sumner Reviews.

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Wilderness Trek . has been called out

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(also from Wilderness Trekl. to inves
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The Distopian
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and Her Biker, by

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Your
Life?
Sex (or lack of it) plays a large role in
most of our lives. A happy sex life can
improve your primary relationship and
give you more self-confidence. A

4.1 don't feel like my lover and I have

strained or non-existent sex life can

after sex.

adversely affect all areas of your life.
So how is your sex life? Answer the
following 15 questions as honestly as
possible and find out.

6.1 enjoy sex with my current partner
more than with anyone before.

TRUE OR FALSE
1. The older I get, the more I enjoy sex.

sex often enough.

5. I usually feel very self-confident

7. I'm not sure why, but I feel my sex
life is not up to par.
8.1 would rather make new friends than
look for a lover.

2.1 daydream frequently about sex with
someone other than my lover.

9. I feel it takes me too long to reach
orga.sm.

3. My mind often wanders during sex.
10. 1 have never enjoyed sex and try to

Page 28• Dimensions • October 1990

avoid it if possible.

11-20

11. My lover and I are at ease talking
about what makes us feel good in bed.
12.1 would rather masturbate than have

sex with my partner.

13. Sex with my lover is more of an
obligation than a pleasure.
14.1 am looking for the"perfect"lover.
15. Sex is an important part of my
relaticxiship.

Give yourself 2 points
for each correct answer.
9.F

2.F

10.F

3.F

11. T

4.F

12. F

5.T

13. F

6.T

14.F

7.F

15. T

cation skills in the bedroom.

0-10
You are unhappy with your sex life
most of the time and may avoid having
sex at all. Counseling may be called for
in this situation, however, you may be
able to help yourself by carefully ana
lyzing what it is about sex that makes
you unhappy and wOTking to change it
It will only take one positive sexual
experience torekindle your interest and
improve your self-ccmfidence.

SCORING

1.T

Although you enjoy sex and have a
good sex life,you may be a bitinhibited
about communicating what you want.
You may also be concerned about your
own skills in bed.The best way to cure
all these problems is to ask! Ask for
what you want,ask how you are doing,
and ask what it is your partner wants.
You will gain confidence and satisfac
tion by learning to use your communi

8.F

if You Scored:
21-30
You are very satisfied
with your sex life. You
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POETTRY
From Our Readers

Letting Go
When you first left, I sat frozen in fear.
I was in no real rush to move,for 1 knew

that eventually I would melt Into hate.

MMons of thoughts filled my mind but,
only one question flooded my heart. Why?
Therapy, medication nor Religion helped.

Time waited for no one. My hcrir passed my
waistline and Autumn was right around the comer,

again. I found comfort in my pcdn,
and with it. I accepted that I was cdive
and that I didn't die.

I grew.
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San Antonio

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Horoscope
What's in the stars for you this month?

ARBES
You may be feeling confined during
Oclober. Circumstances force you to
focus more on others than on yourself.

Be sure you are being realistic about a
relationship before you commit your
self. Try to take care of unfinished
work during the last week ofthis month.

home life. Things aren't as bad as they
may first appear. A few days away
from work may help your attitude and
that of your mate. Your social life is
highlighted from the 22nd on. Both

business and home life will profit from
pleasurable pursuits. You have the
upper hand in romance at month's end.

It's possible that higher-ups are watch
ing your performance.

TAURUS
Go ahead, pamper yourself - or let
someone else do it for you - during the
first week of October. You may not be
feeling up-to-par and a little indulgence
will help to lift your spirits. Let your
mate or partner make the big decisions
late in the month. Changes instituted

now can bring you great profit or love in

EEC
Plan ahead to keep responsibilitiesfrom
overwhelming you during thefirst week
ofOctober.Try not to let your emotions
get in the way of an important decision
after the 7th. Work keeps piling up
despite your long hours.Learn when to
say"no"or you may never dig yourself
out! You may find that little luxury item
you've been wanting for yourself. Go
ahead and splurge!

later weeks. Social activities will

brighten your life towards month's end.

VIRGO

GEMIAI

Your main focus during the first week
of October will be money. A dispute
about a shared-account or jointly held

Although love and money are high
lighted this month, you should try to

avoid letting them get mixed together!
It's time to take stock of your money

situation and make changes if you need
to. Changes, both on the job and at
home,may be coming rapidly now and
you'll need to be flexible to make it
through. During the last week of Octo
ber you have time to relax and enjoy the
fruits of your labor.

property could stir up intense emotions

that could lead to a break in a partner
ship or romantic relationship. If you
look in the right places you might just
find someone extra special to cheer you
up. Don't sign any contracts without
looking them over carefully after the

25th. You could wind up in a mess if
you aren't careful.

UBRA

CAACER
Temper flare-ups during the first week
of October could disrupt your idyllic

You have a talent for being in the right
place at the right time during the first
part of October. Others may resent your

October 1990• Dimensions • Page 31

proving your appearance and making

luck,but don'tlet it get you down.You
may decide on aspurofthe momenttrip

new friends. Don't let a problem at
home drag on indefinitely. Handle it
quickly and you'll be able to enjoy the

over the 13th/14th.The weekend could

bring a emotionalchangeforthe better.
Your cash flow increases altxig with
your work load after the 20th.

last few days of the month.

AQ;mRnRs
SCORPIO

Put yoiu" priorities in order early in

A romantic affair could sneak up on
you when you are least expecting it

October and stick to the plan.Work and
career plans could be disrupted if you

during the first week of October. You

don't concentrate on your goals and

may be feeling a bit uptight around

tune out the distractions that seem to

mid-month.A romantic weekend alone

come from all sides this month. Long

with a loved-one may be the perfect
thing to help you relax.Yourchann and

distance travel and communications be

charisma will take you far during the

thefocus during the third week.A close
relationship may be a bit strained to

last week ofthe month.Try notto come
across as too overpowering.

with your loved one.

SA<;nTAKII'S

PISCES

You are easily distracted from thejob at
hand during the first week of OctobCT.
Although you may be feeling the urge

An improvement in your financial and
employment picture lets you focus on
personal projects you may have ne
glected for awhile. A shopping trip to

wards month's end.Setaside time to be

to take a vacation, it would be best to

spruce up your wardrobe or home could

stay on the job. After the 17th you will
be feeling much less stress and able to
enjoy a social occasion. Financial con
cerns could have you running in circles

lift your spirits. Keep your emotions in
check when it comes to dealing with a
new friend or romantic interest dining
the last week. People are not always
what they seem and you could be in
over your head if you movetoo quickly.

towards month's end.Some hard think

ing will lead you to a solution.

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your own bell to get
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The Directory
A Listing of Service Organizations, Businesses & Clubss
ARLINGTON,TX (area code 817)
organizations
Gay/Lesbian Association of UTA
P.O. Box 19348-77, UTA SI. 76019 • 794-5140

AUSTIN, TX (area code 512)

Dallas Gay/Lesbian Historic Archives
P.O. Box 190712 75219 -821-1653

Dallas Gay Youth Group
300 Turtle Creek Plaza #116 - 307-7203
Dallas Outdoors
P.O. Box 35474 75235 - 276-5270
Dallas Tavern Guild

3900 Lemmon Ave. #220 - 526-5292

clubs
Nexus (coming soon)• 448-2292

organizations

Dignity/Daiias - PO Box 190133 75219 - 226-4101
Foundation for Human Understanding-528-4233
Grace Fellowship in Christ Jesus

Affirmation (Methodist)

2727 Oak Lawn 75219-528-2811

7403 Shoal Creek • 451-2329

Lesbian information Line(LiL)

Austin Latino/a Lesbian/Gay Organization

P.O. Box 191443 75219 - 528-2426

P.O. Box 1350 78787• 280-8107

Lesbian/Gay Political Coalition

Austin Lesbian/Gay Poiitical Caucus
P.O. Box 822 78767•462-9888

P.O. Box 224424 75222 - 828-9882
Lesbian Resource Center

Center for Battered Women • Lesbian Group

1315Skiles-821-3999

385-5181 or 928-9070 (hotline)
Gay/Lesbian Student Association at UT Austin

Lesbian Visionaries
P.O. Box 191443 75219-528-4087

458-3971 • Box 275 Texas Union 78712-7338

Metropiex Republicans

Lesbian/Gay Rights Lobby • PO Box 2505 78768

P.O. Box 191033 75219 -941-8114

Lesbian Mothers - Karen • 339-8508
Live Wire Productions • PO Box 141202 78714

P.O. box 191094 75219-520-8108

Metropolitan Community Church
1100 Springdale Rd.•929-3660
Oasis Ministry

P.O. Box 190973 75219 - 986-1751

5555 N. Lamar Blvd. #L101 • 441 -9191

P-Flag (Parents/Friends Lesbians/Gays)*328-3830
Sapphire!• Lesbian Social Group -lOOO S. Lamar
Waterloo Counseling Center

Oak Lawn Community Services
Oak Lawn Symphonic Band
WANT(Women In The Arts)288-929/ 823-3105
Womyn Together - 3920 Cedar Springs -528-4233

507 Powell 78703 • 322-9654

DENTON,TX (area code 817)
organizations

Texas Human Rights Foundation

COURAGE, Lesbian Gay Student Org.

2201 N. Lamar# 203 78705 • 479-8473

P.O. Box 5067 76203 - 382-3813

AIDS Legal Assistance 1-800-828-6417

FT. WORTH (area code 817)
DALLAS,TX (area code 214)

ciubs

businesses
Business Delivery Systems

organizations

14902 Preston Rd. 75240 • 733-1108

Crossroads Market•3930 Cedar Springs

Partners - 1612 Park Place Dr. - 927-9546

Affirmation (Methodist) - 478-7837
RESPECT - Gay/Lesbian Association

521-8919 or 1-800-992-6404
Curious Times - Women's Books etc.

828 Hardwood Rd. - Hurst, TX 76054

4008D Cedar Springs ■ 528-4087
clubs
Sue Ellen's • 3903 Cedar Springs •559-0707

HOUSTON,TX (area code 713)

organizations

Inklings - an alternative bookshop

Affirmation • PO Box 225831 75222 • 948-1546
AIDS Resource Center
P.O. Bo* 190712 75219

Dallas Gay Alliance

businesses
1846 Richmond - 521 -3369

Clubs
Ranch-9125 S. Main - 666-3464

P.O. Box 190712 75219- 528-0144

October 1990 • Dimensions • Page 33

organizations

National Gay/Lesbian Task Force

AIDS Foundation
3927 Essex Lane *623 6796
AIDS HOTLINE
c/o Switchboard • 529-3211

1517 U Street NW

Gay/Lesbian Students University of Houston

Washington D.C. 20009 - 202-332-6483
The Fund for Human Dignity
666 Broadway 4ih Floor
NY, NY 10012

4800 Calhoun • 529-3211

Gay & Lesbian Switchboard
P.O. Box 66591 77266-529-3211

Houston Gay Political Caucus
P.O. Box 66664 77266 • 521 -1000

Kingdom Community Church
SUE. 19lh-862-7533
Lambda ALANON • Lambda Center for Alchoholics
1214 Joanne-521-9772

Lesbian/Gay Students-Unlv. Houston Clear Lake
2700 Bay Area 77058
Metropolitan Community Church
Of The Resurrection
1919Decatur-861-9149

NORMAN,OK (area code 405)
organizatioffs
Women's Resource Center
P.O. Box 5089 73070

OKLAHOMA CITY, OK (area code 405)
organizations
Oasis the Community Center
2135 NW 39th 73112 - 525-AiDS

Hertand Sister Resources, Inc.
2312 NW 39lh 73112- 521-9696

Montrose Counseling Center
900 Lovett #203 77006 • 529-0037

Montrose Pool League/Billiards • PJ 863-8482
PWA Coaihion - Houston

1475 W. Gray #163-522-5428
Womynspace

SAN ANGELO,TX (area code 915)
businesses
Books Etc., Inc - Lesblan/Gay/Alternalive Books
241 OW.AveN 76904 - 942-1544

P.O. Box 980601 77098-0601
880-9517 or 521-0780

Women's Softball League
6431 Pineshade - 868-6256

SAN ANTONIO,TX (area code 512)
clubs
The Circle -8021 Pinebrook - 341-2818

LUBBOCK,TX (area code 806)
organizations
Lubbock LesUan/Gay Alliance
P.O. Box 64746 79464 - 796-2403

organizations
Digntty/San Antonio
202 N St. Mary's - 349-3632
Integrfty.'San Antonio
P.O. Box 150006 78212 - 684-4920

Nantes Project/Lubbock - 796-1800 or 744-1957

River City Living
Metropolitan Community Church

NATiONAL ORGANIZATIONS
Affirmation: United Methodists for Lesbian/Gay

202 Holland 78212 - 822-1121

Concerns - P.O. Box 1021 - Evanston, iL 60204

SALGA • San Antonio Lesbian &

LISA (Lesoian information SA)- 828-LiSA (5472)

AiDS Action Council

Gay Assembly - 733-7300

729 Eighth St. S.E. Suite 200
Washington, DC 20003 -(202) 547-3101

SALSA - San Antonio Lambda Students Alliance
P.O. Box 12715 78212

AIDS 800-1-800-221-7044
Conference For Catholic Lesbians
P.O. Box 436, Planetarium Station
New York, New York 10024
Hate Crime Line -1 -800-347-HATE

National Gay Alliance for Young Adults, Inc.
P.O Box 190426

Coordinator; Jim 228-9877
San Antonio AIDS Foundation
P.O. Box 120113 78212-9313
San Antonio Tavern Guild - 822-2823

SOUTH PADRE ISLAND, TX

Dallas, TX 75219-0426 - (214) 307-7203

(area code 512)

National Gay/Lesbian Clearinghouse
666 Broadway 4th Floor

accomodations
Lyie's Deck -120 E Atol St.

NY, NY 10012

National Gay/Lesbian Crislsline
1-800-SOS-GAYS

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1990, has issued a call to gay and pro
gressive organizations across the coun
try to help make Helm's defeat a reality.
N.C. Senate Vote '90 is inviting pro

gressive Americans to join them in
COUNTDOVvT^ TO VICTORY events

in all 49 supporting states on Saturday,
October 6th. North Carolinians oppos

ing Helms and supporting his oppo
nent, former Charlotte, N.C. mayor

Harvey Gantt, will rally that day in
Raliegh.
"People will be gathering at marches.
Rallies, poducks, dances, concerts —
all kinds of events designed to bring
people together in their support for us
through the last 30 days of the pro-

Gantt,anti-Helms push,"said Vote'90's

Homophobia and
Sexism Rampant m
Na\y Memo
An internal Navy memo advocating
further targeting ofwomen for discharge
due to homosexuality, was recently
leaked to the National Organization for
Women and Congressman Gerry
Studds' office. The memo, entitled
"Equal Treaunent of Male and Female
Homosexuals", was distributed to all

commanding officers in the Naval
Surface Forces ofthe U.S.Atlantic Fleet

and was sent to NOW and Rep. Studds
by anonymous sources in Baltimore,
MD and Norfolk, VA.

National Helms Liberation Action

NOW President Molly Yard said of the
memo, "Rarely is the public privy to
such a clear example of the military's

Day,"is pivotal because Helm's Senate
influence has persistent national reper

homophobic, sexist bigotry. Clearly,
elements in the military still chafe at the

cussions and the national fundraising

success of women in their ranks. This

machine that finances his North Caro

directive uses the military's institution
alized homophobia to directly attack
women in the Navy who are, by the

director, Mandy Carter.

The cross-country effort, subtitled "A

lina races is among the mostlucrative in
the nation.

By August 20 the Helms campaign had
raised SI million (75% from out-ofstate)and the Ganttcampaign had raised

author's own admission, 'the Com
mand's top professionals'."

NOW has long understood that the
military's anti-le.sbian and gay policy is

October 1990• Dimensions • Page

7

one of the primary tools used to harass
and intimidate all military women.
Department of Defense statistics show

from a dream to an active network of 14

that for all the services combined,
women are 3 times more likely to be

Lesbian/Gay/Bisexual organizations
and issues at Southwestern campuses
the Coalition has begun several pro
grams and strategies. These programs
include an organizational study docu

discharged for homosexuality. This
memo spells out more clearly than ever
before the inherentsexism ofthe policy
and its implementation. It amounts to a

blueprint for the Navy to witchhunt its
top women professionals.

student and youth organizations. In
accordance with its mission to promote

menting the progress of Lesbian/Gay/
Bisexual student groups in the South

west,a mixed-media lending library of
Lesbian and Gay materials, the provi

Southwestern

Lesbian/Gay Student
Group To Hold

sion of legal services to the student
organizations and the establishment of
Gay and Lesbian studies at institutions
across the Southwest.

Conference
DALLAS - The Coalition of Lesbian/

Advantage Navratilova

Gay Student Groups(CLGSG), an or
ganization of Lesbians, Gays and Bisexuals at colleges and Universities in

Tennis great Martina Navratilova was
recently slammed for being a lesbian by
bom-again former tennis star Margaret
Court. According to the Associated
Press, Court opined, "I'd like to see

the Southwest will hold its first confer

ence on Saturday, October 6 in Dallas.
The conference entitled "Embracing
Our Diversity", will bring together over
120 young people from Oklahoma,

someone at the top whom the younger
players can look up to,"and added "It is

Arkansas, Louisiana, New Mexico and

very sad for children to be exposed to
[homosexuality]." Court also claimed

Texas for a one-day educational and

some younger players had been led into

inspirational event. There will be a total
of twelve workshops covering Racism,

homosexuality by other,seniorplayers
and that Navratilova was probably lured

Sexism,Self-Identity, Coalition Build

into lesbianism during her early years

ing and Lesbian/Gay Herstory.

on the pro tour.

The conference wi11 be held at the Dallas

We don't have Margaret Court's ad
dress, but we do have Navratilova's
We suggest you write and give her
some encouragement. Ask her to speak

Gay Alliance's new community center
at 2701 Regan. For more information
on rcgisuation,housing and transporta
tion, call CLGSG at(214)471-6482.

out and condemn the ignorance about

The CLGSG, conceived at the Texas

lesbians perpetuated by Court's state

March on Austin for Lesbian and Gay
Rights in the spring of 1989, has grown

ments, and to tell the world that it's
bigots who make bad role models. Write

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to her c/o Intemational Management
Group, 1 Erieview Plaza, Suite 1300,
Cleveland, OH 44114.

From the GLAAD (Gay & Lesbian
Alliance AgainstDefamadon)Bulletin.
SeptVOcL 1990.

Tickets are $100 per person, and will
include a cocktail reception and a silent
auction along with the banquet. A$150
VIP ticket will include a cocktail recep
tion with the keynote speaker and fea

tured guests.Some ofthe items already
donated for the silent auction include:a

San Antonio
Fundraiser
Announced
SAN ANTONIO - The San Antonio

Dinner Committeeofthe Human Rights
Campaign Fund(HCRF)hasannounced
that it will hold it's second annual fun-

draising banquet on November 10th in
the Salon del Rey Ballroom of the Hil

trip to Hawaii; a trip to the coast; a
complete collection of books by Larry
Kramer; a complete autographed col
lection of bodes by Armistad Maupin;
furniture and works by local artists.

Keynote speaker and featured guests
will be announced in the November
issue.

From WomanSpace,the publication of
the women'scommunity ofSan Antonio
(September,1990).

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What's Goia' Oa
A Monthly Listing Of Special Events All Around The Area
AUSTIN - Don'tforget that the LONE

HOUSTON - The LONE STAR

STAR WOMEN'S MUSICFESTIVAL

SYMPHONICBAND will{x-esenttheir

will be held in Austin on October 5,6&

annual fall concert on October 2 at

7. Featured performers will include
Nancy Scott, Laura Love, Lara
Linette,Susan Coiton,The Therapy
Sisters, the Fontanelles and many,
many more. If you want more info,

Cullen Auditorium on the St Tho

mas University Campus at 7:30pm.
Tickets are available at INKLINGS,
LOBO and atthe door.The concert will

feature works by American composers

write: Lone Star Women's Music

and is billed as a"Salute to the USO".

Festival,ATTN:DIM,P.O.Box 2650,
Austin,TX 78768.

For more information call (713) 522-

HOUSTON -"Embracing Women's
Legacy: Our Healing Connection"is
the theme of Montrose Counseling
Center's 5th Annual WOMEN'S

WEEKEND, October 26-27 at the
University of Houston Hilton, 4800
Calhoun.In a series ofworkshops playshops and celebrations they will ex
plore life in a culture where women
honw themselves. For registration in
formation call(713)529-0037 or write:
Women's Weekend,Montrose Coun
seling Center,900 Lovett#203,Hous

4282.
DALLAS - The Women's Activities

Department of the Metropolitan
Community Church of Dallas is
sponsoring aWomen'sArtsand Crafts
Festival on Saturday, October 20th.
The Festival will be held at the D'Arts

Visual Center, 2917 Swiss Avenue

(comer of Oak and Swiss) and will be
open from 10am-4pm. Admission is
$1.00. The Festival is an opportunity
for women artists in the Metroplex to
showcasetheir arts and crafts.The work
ofabout40different women artists will

ton,TX 77006.

be on sale.

AUSTIN - LIVE WIRE PRODUC

AUSTIN - The Center for Battered
Women Outreach has a supportgroup

TIONS is going full blast! On Friday,
October 19th they bring you lesbian/

for battered or formerly battered lesbi

feminist comedian Kate Clinton at the

ans and lesbians in abusive relation

Austin Open House, 200 Academy

ships. Call (512) 385-5181 for more

Drive. Tickets are available at Bookwoman,Celebration! and at the door.

information.

On Friday, November 2nd singer/co
median Lynn Lavner at CHANCES,

HOUSTON - HEARTSONG, the

900 Red River. Proceeds from this

rus will be open to new membership

performance will benefit the Lesbian/
Gay Rights Lobby and Live Wire

November 5-26.A trial membership of
four weeks will be required to orient

Houston Women's Community Cho

Productions.

October 1990• Dimensions• Page 11

youto thechraus.Auditions willbeheld
November 26. HEARTSONG meets

for practice every Monday nightat7pm
at the First Unitarian Universalist
Church, 5210 Fannin. For more in
formation,call(713)667-8735.
AUSTIN - The Iris Art Collective,
Austin Parksand Recreation and Live
WireProductionsare bringing you"A
Woman's Tradition: An Art Festi

val" on Saturday and Sunday Novem
ber 17 & 18 at the McBeth Recreation

Center. If you are interested in booth

AUSTIN - Yes,girls. It's really going
to happen. Sometime in the month of
Octoberthe new andimproved NEXUS
will open its doors to you—their ador

ing public! Keep your best duds ironed
and ready... you never know when the
magic day will come.

SAN ANTONIO-Whatever you want,
the CIRCLE has it this month.First,it's
live entertainment with singer Dena
Kaye on the 14th,and comedian Kate
Clinton on the 18th. Then there's
Tuesday Night Discussions. This

space, please call(512) 339-8508 and
leave your address and phone number.

quality in Couples" on the 2nd;

HOUSTON - Getready! The RANCH

"Women Who Have Loved Women
WhoHave Gone BackTo Men"on the

is moving to bigger and better quarters!
The new bar will be opening soon so

keep your eyes and ears open for the
announcement of date and location. In

month's topics are: "Financial Ine

16th; and "De Los Muertes" (Alicia
Lopez will speak on the significance of
the Day of the Dead)on the 30th. And,
if that weren't enough, Halloween

the meantime don't miss Dena Kaye
appearing live on October 11th. The
show starts at 9pm ... don't be late!

byle

festivities are in the works. Be on the

lookout for details as they become

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Dear Agaes
Answers to your questions about love,
RELATIONSHIIPS & PERSONAL PROBLEMS

I have a problem I've been Hying to

done anything "wrong", and keep in
mind that just because you love some

solve and can'1.1 have a lover I've been

one does not mean you can live with

Dear Agnes,

with for six months. 1 love her alot, but

them.

she doesn't show me much love. I'm

not happy. I feel like finding someone
else, but find it hard because 1 really
love her.

I've been getting sick alot with bad
headaches, among other things. She
feels I should go home for awhile. I

Dear Agnes,
I know you get alot of letters from
women having problems with their
lovers — well my problem is a little

don't want to go.

different I have a problem with my
lover's dog. She hates me.
1 don't know why the dog hates me so

She's tired all the time. I know she's
tired when she comes home from work,
but she's tired even when she isn't

girlfriend's apartment the dog starts to
growl, show her teeth and bark at me.

working.She doesn'tlike to be touched

We have to lock her up in another room

much.

because she is so threatening towards

I don't know what to think or what to

do. She doesn't seem to love me very

much. She tells me she needs space.
I feel like a fool. Please try to help.
CONFUSED

Dallas, TX
Dear Confused,
I re-read your letter now that is has had
time to "get cold." I seems to me that
you have two choices; 1)You can either
get her to talk to you about specifically
what is wrong,or 2) you can take her at
her word and give her space — move.
As hard as it may be for you to under
stand or accept, it may be that she just
wants to break up. Period. If that's the
case you will only make it harder on
yourself by hanging around. Try to re
member that you have not necessarily

Page 14 • Dimensions • October 1990

much, but as soon as I walk in my

me.

1 also have a dog (a female)and 1 have
wondered if the smell might not have

something to do with it. My dog goes
crazy when my lover comesto my house
—butit is because she is so happy to see
her.

The really bad part is that we would
really like to get a house together ,but I
don't think 1 can live in the same house

as this dog without fearing for my safety
all the time. Any suggestions?
DOG TIRED

Arlington,TX
Dear Tired,
Although it may not have started this
way, it is obvious that the dog is now
well aware of your fear and may sense
you don't like her.

The best way lo go about making friends

Dallas,or any other Texas city,it's with

is to have your girlfriend put the dog on

the state of Texas itself. Until 21.06 is

a strong leash and meet you in "neutral"

taken off the books and a lesbian/gay

territory (a park, a friends yard, etc.).
Don't approach the dog—try to get her

civil rights law is passed we are all in
danger of being harassed by the police,
the public and the judges of this state.
The Texas Human Rights Foundation
and the Lesbian/Gay Rights Lobby of
Texas are working to make these goals
a reality and they need your donations.

lo approach you. A treat or toy may be
a good lure. Kneel down to her level but

avoid looking her in the eyes. Dogs
believe that you are challenging them
when you make prolonged eye-contacL
Don't make any sudden moves. Try to
pet the dog when you feel comfortable.

The gay communities in every city need
volunteers and money.

Until we all get out and help those who
are trying to help us, we have no right to
complain about the conditions under

It may take more than one time of

playing this little game to win her over,
but hang in there.

Remember that if you do decide to
move in with your girlfriend you will
need to introduce your dogs in much the
same way - on neutral territory.

which we must live.

Help Out or Shut Up
Austin, TX

Dear Agnes,

You Can

I have one more comment regarding
"Crossroads ofTime" who complained

Write To "Agnes" At:

about San Antonio's lack of a central

P.O. Box 856
Lubbock, TX 79408

ized gay community.
The problem isn't with San Antonio,

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/4ctu(t
f4Cc9AotcC(i'
by Linda Monroe

Various statistics tell us that there are more than ten
million alcoholics in the United States. While that

figure is staggering in and ofitself,these statistics do not
tell the whole story. The alcohoUc's friends, family and
co-workers all feel the effects of alcoholism.

Obviously,it is the family that suffers most—
especially the children. And,when these same

children grow to adulthood, they carry the
scars of growing up in an alcoholic envi
ronment.

Although most of us are aware if
there is an alcoholic in our imme

diate family, we may not be aware
of the effects alcoholism has on
us as adults. Alcohol

ism is a family disease.
Children of alcoholics

run a higher risk of de
veloping alcoholism
than children of non-

alcoholics. They also
tend to marry (or enter
long-term relation

ships) with alco
holies.

October 1990• Dimensions• Page 17

To understand the effects a parent's
alcoholism has on you as an adult, we
must first look at some of the qualities
found in the alcoholic. Although every
alcoholic will not exhibit all of these

behaviors,almost all willshow signs of

Lying is an integral part of the family
affected by alcoholism. The family,as
a unit, lies to itself that "everything is
alright". You may have lied to keep

at least a few. These behaviOTs are:

your alcoholic parent out of trouble,to

•Excessive dependency
• Inability to express emotions

reduce your embarrassment over their

• Low tlerance for frustration

Alcoholic parents also make alot of
promises that never came true.Because
ofthis,lying becomes partofthe family
system and the children of that family
carry this trait into adulthood.

•Emotional immaturity
•High level of anxiety in interpersonal
relationships
•Low self-esteem

behavior or to make excuses for them.

• Feelings of Grandiosity
•Feelings of isolatiwi
•Perfectionism

• Ambivalence toward authority
• Guilt'

Children and families of alcoholics re

spond to these behaviors with:
• Denial

• Protectiveness, pity, concon about
die drinker
•Embarrassment

• Shift in relationship (domination,
rebellion, etc.)
• Guilt

•Obsession or continual worry
• Fear

•Lying
•Confusion

• Anger

• Lethargy, hopelessness, self-pity,
despair,remorse.'

Most children of alcoholics never had
much of a chance to be children. Life

was just too serious to have much fun.
The chUd is forced into a positicm of

responsibility for the parent and conse
quently is forced to "grow up" at a
much younger age. As a result, the
adult child may have problems being

spontaneous and be very rigid.
They feel the need to control their en
vironment and may react violently to

any sudden changes.This lack ofspon
taneity is due to a lack oftrustin anyone
but themselves. Children of alcoholics

learn early that they can depend on no
one else and consequently will usually
not allow anyone else to make deci
sions for them as they grow older.Even

Most,ifnotall,oftheseresponsesin the
child ofan alcoholic willcarry overinto

something as simple as a last minute
change of plans for the evening gives

adulthood. The results of this can be

them the sense thatthey have no control

very harmfulifnotdealt with in aproper

over their lives.

way.

How some of the behaviors manifest
themselvesin the adultchild ofalcohol
ics is discussed below.

Page 18• Dimensions• October 1990

So, what's wrong with trying to be

perfect? Everything if you use it as a

Counseling is a good idea at this stage,

vehicle to cover up whatis wrong in the
family. As a child, you may have used
this search for perfection to insulate
your alcoholic parent from disappoint

as is regular involvement in Al-Anon
or an Adult Children of Alcoholics
group.

Alcoholism truly is a family disease

ment by rationalizing that if you were

and only by recognizing the effect that

good enough, they wouldn't drink. As
an adult, you set your goals so high that
you have little chance ofreaching them.

alcoholism has had on yourlife will you
be able to break the cycle of depend
ency.

You do this for the same reason ... if

you couldjust be good enough,nothing
bad would ever happen to you.^

'Woititz, J.,

Children Of Alco-

hnlics. Deerfield,FL: Health Commu
nications,Inc., 1983, pp.103.
^ Johnson,V.,Intervention. Minneapo
lis: Johnson Institute Books, 1986,

The other side of the "perfection" coin

pp.39.

^

is being irresponsible. Many children
of alcoholics will use this behavior to

draw attention away from the alcoholic
or because of a sense of hopelessness.
This need for attention (negative or

positive)carries over into adulthood in
the guise of irresponsibility. Subcon
sciously you may feel that you get more

attention if you act"bad"than ifyou are
"good".

Your first step in getting help if you are
the adult child ofan alcoholic parent is
to understand that you are not respon

sible for your parent's alcoholism.It is
not yourfaultfhat he/she isan alcoholic
and it is not your responsibility to"fix"
it Itis also good to understand that your
recovery does not depend on the future
sobriety of your parent.
You may wonder if you really need
help. Chances are that you do. Most
families of alcoholic or chemically de

pendent persons have been so close to
the problem for so many years that they

may fail to recognize the problems that
stem from that dependency.

nancy ford
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coil or write:
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(713)721-4125
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What A Worud,
What A WortpS
A User's Guide To
The Personals
BY NANCY FORD
"Matchmaker, matchmaker, make me
a match.

ivete, we assume that those who ad

Find me afind, catch me a catch..
— ancient tribal folk song

vertisein the personals are notcurrently
espoused.
D — Divorced. Does not mean "des

perate" as many critics of the personals
Nearly anything can happen when one
respondstoapo^nalad.Youcan meet
the significant other of your dreams.

would insist However,ifthe^you are
responding to is published in'Tass"the
D in this situation could very easily

You can make new business contacts.

mean "Democrat".

You can waste a perfectly good eve
ning.
Having come a long way from it's an
cient precursor of writing names and

G — Gay.Surprise, surprise, surprise.
S — Single.

numb^ on restroom walls and hoping
for the best,the personals have become

an accq)table form of making social
contact Numerous publications have

added a personals column as a regular
feature for their readers, taking the
philosophy of "keeping the customer
satisfied" one step teyond.

W —White.

B—Black.Or Boyish,as in"M,yetB"
("mature, yet boyish")
H — Hi^anic.
C&W — Country and Western, as in
music.Usually preceded by "hates..."
OK — Okay. No mystery here.
ND/D — No drugs/diseases.

Therefore,as a service to the readers of

CA/H — No, not Catholic Asian He
donist. CA/H still means "central air
and heat", and it also means you're

Dimensions.I have compiled"AUser's

looking fw love in all the wrong col

Guide to the Personals".

umns.

First to test your knowledge, here's a

FS —Financially Secure.Shouldnever
be listed in same ad with the phrase
"incurably romantic". The two are

quiz; What does SWM mean? If you
answered "single white male" you've
probably played this game before. If

usually mutually exclusive.

you answered "southwest Methodist"

WPH — Weight Proportionate to

you're probably reading the wrong

Height But would this individualjump

magazine.

at the chance to accompany a 9-foot

Half the battle in reading the personals

180-pound vertebrate on fun evenings
out(X quiet evenings at home?

is knowing the language.

F — Female.

EXTENDED TRANSLATIONS
As in political campaigns, not all per

M — Male. Not"married." In our na-

sonals candidates say what they mean.

CODES

Poge 22•Dimensions•October 1990

have to read between the lines.

years old. You can't shed 10 years,
grow 3 inches and drop 30 pounds by

Beware of ads containing two or more
of the following phrases:

respond to an ad which calls for some

or mean what they say.Sometimes you

•"trivia whiz"

•"enjoys quiet evenings"
•"tropical fish lover"
•"likes music"

This person is a self-described home

body with a capital HO. If you meet,
you will probably need to make a house
call.Don'tplan on being able to dig this
number's roots out of the couch.

Chances are that the drink you meetfor
will be milk with Oreo cookie crumbs

floating in it while watching videotaped
reruns of "Roseanne".

On the otherend ofthe spectrum,watch
out fcff those who list as hobbies:
•"aerobics of all nations."

•"inventing new oat bran recipes."
•"gazelle chasing"
•"likes music"

This is one active date-seeker. Your

first encounter might be a nice,roman
tic jog around the state. Be sure to

BYOG (Bring Your Own Gatorade).
And on the third hand, maybe the ad

that grabs yoiu" attention includes:
•"enjoys tdigning chakras."
•"moon dancing"
•"lives lives to the fuUest"(not a typo)
•"likes music"

If so, make sure that when driving,

there is enough room in the car for the
three of you; you, your new friend,and
your new friend's aura.
Other buzz phrases to consider:
•"adventuresome"= Sex

•"enjoys contact sports"= Sex
•"seeks meaningfulrelationship"=Sex

the time you meet...Conversely,don't
one whoenjoyssailingjust because you
think this would be a chi-chi way to get
a tan.

Second, using every ounce of your
common senseis highly recommended.

When planning to meet Ms.Could-BeWonderful, don't reveal your home

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Further, let a comrade/cohort know

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Playing the personals is a lot like cata
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crammed into the tiny confines of 35-

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some more tips for responding to a
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The Coffee Ceiib
Lesbians In The Arts • Books, Music, Movies, Etc.
This Month, T. Sumner Reviews.

MuRD]3R
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Rook
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by
Dorothy Tell

OOftOTH''

Dorothy Tell, Dallas' premier lesbian

on her first major case as a private

novelist, has come into her own with

detective.

the publication of her second book.
Murder at Red Rook Ranch (Naiad
Press, Inc., S8.95).

Nan High tower,owner ofthe Red Rook
Ranch, has died a mysterious death.
The local sheriff's office says it was

Poppy Dillworth, the crusty sixty-five

suicide. Nan's friend and ranch boss

year old lesbian first introduced in

Zoe Zentmeyer believes otherwise and
hires Poppy and her sidekick, Marcie

Wilderness Trek . has been called out

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(also from Wilderness Trekl. to inves
tigate.
Nan's brother who fled to Canada to

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is the main suspect. Then there's
Morgana,Nan's latest fling and benefi
ciary of a last-minute change in her
will. And what about Violet, Nan's

flamboyant long-term lover.
To complicate matters;Zoe has her eye
on the straight-laced Marcie,and Poppy
has fallen hard for Violet's Aunt Belle.

Ms. Tell's potential was obvious in her
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book didn't quite live up to her talent.
Murder at Red Rook Ranch definitely
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The Distopian
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and Her Biker, by

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Your
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avoid it if possible.

11-20

11. My lover and I are at ease talking
about what makes us feel good in bed.
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13. Sex with my lover is more of an
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POETTRY
From Our Readers

Letting Go
When you first left, I sat frozen in fear.
I was in no real rush to move,for 1 knew

that eventually I would melt Into hate.

MMons of thoughts filled my mind but,
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Property of the Center

Horoscope
What's in the stars for you this month?

ARBES
You may be feeling confined during
Oclober. Circumstances force you to
focus more on others than on yourself.

Be sure you are being realistic about a
relationship before you commit your
self. Try to take care of unfinished
work during the last week ofthis month.

home life. Things aren't as bad as they
may first appear. A few days away
from work may help your attitude and
that of your mate. Your social life is
highlighted from the 22nd on. Both

business and home life will profit from
pleasurable pursuits. You have the
upper hand in romance at month's end.

It's possible that higher-ups are watch
ing your performance.

TAURUS
Go ahead, pamper yourself - or let
someone else do it for you - during the
first week of October. You may not be
feeling up-to-par and a little indulgence
will help to lift your spirits. Let your
mate or partner make the big decisions
late in the month. Changes instituted

now can bring you great profit or love in

EEC
Plan ahead to keep responsibilitiesfrom
overwhelming you during thefirst week
ofOctober.Try not to let your emotions
get in the way of an important decision
after the 7th. Work keeps piling up
despite your long hours.Learn when to
say"no"or you may never dig yourself
out! You may find that little luxury item
you've been wanting for yourself. Go
ahead and splurge!

later weeks. Social activities will

brighten your life towards month's end.

VIRGO

GEMIAI

Your main focus during the first week
of October will be money. A dispute
about a shared-account or jointly held

Although love and money are high
lighted this month, you should try to

avoid letting them get mixed together!
It's time to take stock of your money

situation and make changes if you need
to. Changes, both on the job and at
home,may be coming rapidly now and
you'll need to be flexible to make it
through. During the last week of Octo
ber you have time to relax and enjoy the
fruits of your labor.

property could stir up intense emotions

that could lead to a break in a partner
ship or romantic relationship. If you
look in the right places you might just
find someone extra special to cheer you
up. Don't sign any contracts without
looking them over carefully after the

25th. You could wind up in a mess if
you aren't careful.

UBRA

CAACER
Temper flare-ups during the first week
of October could disrupt your idyllic

You have a talent for being in the right
place at the right time during the first
part of October. Others may resent your

October 1990• Dimensions • Page 31

proving your appearance and making

luck,but don'tlet it get you down.You
may decide on aspurofthe momenttrip

new friends. Don't let a problem at
home drag on indefinitely. Handle it
quickly and you'll be able to enjoy the

over the 13th/14th.The weekend could

bring a emotionalchangeforthe better.
Your cash flow increases altxig with
your work load after the 20th.

last few days of the month.

AQ;mRnRs
SCORPIO

Put yoiu" priorities in order early in

A romantic affair could sneak up on
you when you are least expecting it

October and stick to the plan.Work and
career plans could be disrupted if you

during the first week of October. You

don't concentrate on your goals and

may be feeling a bit uptight around

tune out the distractions that seem to

mid-month.A romantic weekend alone

come from all sides this month. Long

with a loved-one may be the perfect
thing to help you relax.Yourchann and

distance travel and communications be

charisma will take you far during the

thefocus during the third week.A close
relationship may be a bit strained to

last week ofthe month.Try notto come
across as too overpowering.

with your loved one.

SA<;nTAKII'S

PISCES

You are easily distracted from thejob at
hand during the first week of OctobCT.
Although you may be feeling the urge

An improvement in your financial and
employment picture lets you focus on
personal projects you may have ne
glected for awhile. A shopping trip to

wards month's end.Setaside time to be

to take a vacation, it would be best to

spruce up your wardrobe or home could

stay on the job. After the 17th you will
be feeling much less stress and able to
enjoy a social occasion. Financial con
cerns could have you running in circles

lift your spirits. Keep your emotions in
check when it comes to dealing with a
new friend or romantic interest dining
the last week. People are not always
what they seem and you could be in
over your head if you movetoo quickly.

towards month's end.Some hard think

ing will lead you to a solution.

CAPRIC01»^
You've got to ring
your own bell to get
any attention during

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The Directory
A Listing of Service Organizations, Businesses & Clubss
ARLINGTON,TX (area code 817)
organizations
Gay/Lesbian Association of UTA
P.O. Box 19348-77, UTA SI. 76019 • 794-5140

AUSTIN, TX (area code 512)

Dallas Gay/Lesbian Historic Archives
P.O. Box 190712 75219 -821-1653

Dallas Gay Youth Group
300 Turtle Creek Plaza #116 - 307-7203
Dallas Outdoors
P.O. Box 35474 75235 - 276-5270
Dallas Tavern Guild

3900 Lemmon Ave. #220 - 526-5292

clubs
Nexus (coming soon)• 448-2292

organizations

Dignity/Daiias - PO Box 190133 75219 - 226-4101
Foundation for Human Understanding-528-4233
Grace Fellowship in Christ Jesus

Affirmation (Methodist)

2727 Oak Lawn 75219-528-2811

7403 Shoal Creek • 451-2329

Lesbian information Line(LiL)

Austin Latino/a Lesbian/Gay Organization

P.O. Box 191443 75219 - 528-2426

P.O. Box 1350 78787• 280-8107

Lesbian/Gay Political Coalition

Austin Lesbian/Gay Poiitical Caucus
P.O. Box 822 78767•462-9888

P.O. Box 224424 75222 - 828-9882
Lesbian Resource Center

Center for Battered Women • Lesbian Group

1315Skiles-821-3999

385-5181 or 928-9070 (hotline)
Gay/Lesbian Student Association at UT Austin

Lesbian Visionaries
P.O. Box 191443 75219-528-4087

458-3971 • Box 275 Texas Union 78712-7338

Metropiex Republicans

Lesbian/Gay Rights Lobby • PO Box 2505 78768

P.O. Box 191033 75219 -941-8114

Lesbian Mothers - Karen • 339-8508
Live Wire Productions • PO Box 141202 78714

P.O. box 191094 75219-520-8108

Metropolitan Community Church
1100 Springdale Rd.•929-3660
Oasis Ministry

P.O. Box 190973 75219 - 986-1751

5555 N. Lamar Blvd. #L101 • 441 -9191

P-Flag (Parents/Friends Lesbians/Gays)*328-3830
Sapphire!• Lesbian Social Group -lOOO S. Lamar
Waterloo Counseling Center

Oak Lawn Community Services
Oak Lawn Symphonic Band
WANT(Women In The Arts)288-929/ 823-3105
Womyn Together - 3920 Cedar Springs -528-4233

507 Powell 78703 • 322-9654

DENTON,TX (area code 817)
organizations

Texas Human Rights Foundation

COURAGE, Lesbian Gay Student Org.

2201 N. Lamar# 203 78705 • 479-8473

P.O. Box 5067 76203 - 382-3813

AIDS Legal Assistance 1-800-828-6417

FT. WORTH (area code 817)
DALLAS,TX (area code 214)

ciubs

businesses
Business Delivery Systems

organizations

14902 Preston Rd. 75240 • 733-1108

Crossroads Market•3930 Cedar Springs

Partners - 1612 Park Place Dr. - 927-9546

Affirmation (Methodist) - 478-7837
RESPECT - Gay/Lesbian Association

521-8919 or 1-800-992-6404
Curious Times - Women's Books etc.

828 Hardwood Rd. - Hurst, TX 76054

4008D Cedar Springs ■ 528-4087
clubs
Sue Ellen's • 3903 Cedar Springs •559-0707

HOUSTON,TX (area code 713)

organizations

Inklings - an alternative bookshop

Affirmation • PO Box 225831 75222 • 948-1546
AIDS Resource Center
P.O. Bo* 190712 75219

Dallas Gay Alliance

businesses
1846 Richmond - 521 -3369

Clubs
Ranch-9125 S. Main - 666-3464

P.O. Box 190712 75219- 528-0144

October 1990 • Dimensions • Page 33

organizations

National Gay/Lesbian Task Force

AIDS Foundation
3927 Essex Lane *623 6796
AIDS HOTLINE
c/o Switchboard • 529-3211

1517 U Street NW

Gay/Lesbian Students University of Houston

Washington D.C. 20009 - 202-332-6483
The Fund for Human Dignity
666 Broadway 4ih Floor
NY, NY 10012

4800 Calhoun • 529-3211

Gay & Lesbian Switchboard
P.O. Box 66591 77266-529-3211

Houston Gay Political Caucus
P.O. Box 66664 77266 • 521 -1000

Kingdom Community Church
SUE. 19lh-862-7533
Lambda ALANON • Lambda Center for Alchoholics
1214 Joanne-521-9772

Lesbian/Gay Students-Unlv. Houston Clear Lake
2700 Bay Area 77058
Metropolitan Community Church
Of The Resurrection
1919Decatur-861-9149

NORMAN,OK (area code 405)
organizatioffs
Women's Resource Center
P.O. Box 5089 73070

OKLAHOMA CITY, OK (area code 405)
organizations
Oasis the Community Center
2135 NW 39th 73112 - 525-AiDS

Hertand Sister Resources, Inc.
2312 NW 39lh 73112- 521-9696

Montrose Counseling Center
900 Lovett #203 77006 • 529-0037

Montrose Pool League/Billiards • PJ 863-8482
PWA Coaihion - Houston

1475 W. Gray #163-522-5428
Womynspace

SAN ANGELO,TX (area code 915)
businesses
Books Etc., Inc - Lesblan/Gay/Alternalive Books
241 OW.AveN 76904 - 942-1544

P.O. Box 980601 77098-0601
880-9517 or 521-0780

Women's Softball League
6431 Pineshade - 868-6256

SAN ANTONIO,TX (area code 512)
clubs
The Circle -8021 Pinebrook - 341-2818

LUBBOCK,TX (area code 806)
organizations
Lubbock LesUan/Gay Alliance
P.O. Box 64746 79464 - 796-2403

organizations
Digntty/San Antonio
202 N St. Mary's - 349-3632
Integrfty.'San Antonio
P.O. Box 150006 78212 - 684-4920

Nantes Project/Lubbock - 796-1800 or 744-1957

River City Living
Metropolitan Community Church

NATiONAL ORGANIZATIONS
Affirmation: United Methodists for Lesbian/Gay

202 Holland 78212 - 822-1121

Concerns - P.O. Box 1021 - Evanston, iL 60204

SALGA • San Antonio Lesbian &

LISA (Lesoian information SA)- 828-LiSA (5472)

AiDS Action Council

Gay Assembly - 733-7300

729 Eighth St. S.E. Suite 200
Washington, DC 20003 -(202) 547-3101

SALSA - San Antonio Lambda Students Alliance
P.O. Box 12715 78212

AIDS 800-1-800-221-7044
Conference For Catholic Lesbians
P.O. Box 436, Planetarium Station
New York, New York 10024
Hate Crime Line -1 -800-347-HATE

National Gay Alliance for Young Adults, Inc.
P.O Box 190426

Coordinator; Jim 228-9877
San Antonio AIDS Foundation
P.O. Box 120113 78212-9313
San Antonio Tavern Guild - 822-2823

SOUTH PADRE ISLAND, TX

Dallas, TX 75219-0426 - (214) 307-7203

(area code 512)

National Gay/Lesbian Clearinghouse
666 Broadway 4th Floor

accomodations
Lyie's Deck -120 E Atol St.

NY, NY 10012

National Gay/Lesbian Crislsline
1-800-SOS-GAYS

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SOUL AND LATIN = THE RIGHT

COMBINATION FOR ME.I've got
the soul and fluff part covered, so if
you're 26-38 and can handle the latin
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