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Herlan

july • 2006

volume twenty-four number seven

1000 watt march to confront
focus on the family
This summer, dozens of families from across the country will come together
with Soulforce to confront the homophobic rhetoric of James Dobson and Focus on the Family in an event called: The 1000 Watt March, Vigil, and Concert: Shedding the Powerful Light of Truth on the Anti-Gay Dishonesty of
Focus on the Family.
On July 17, same-gender couples, families with children, lesbian, gay, bisexual
and transgender (LGBT) individuals and straight friends will undertake a weeklong justice march which will commence from the steps of the Colorado State
Capitol building. A diverse selection of families from across America will participate in the 65-mile "relay" style march; each group of families taking turns walking a 4-mile segment during the week until they reach the headquarters of Focus on the Family.
The purpose of the
ica connect the dots
tory rhetoric that
the Family and the
the civil liberties of
families.

"(If same-sex marriage is allowed) barring a miracle,
the family as it has been
known for more than five
millennia will crumble, presaging the fall of Western
civilization itself"

march is to help Amerbetween the defamaflows from Focus on
legislative assault on
LGBT people and their

On July 22, actor
Chad Allen and Judy
Shepard, executive
director of The Mat- .James Dobson
thew Shepard Faundation, will lead the
crowd in a final 2mile march from Rampart Park in Colorado Springs to the headquarters of Focus on the Family. The
crowd will encircle James Dobson's headquarters, joining hearts and hands in
vigil as they peacefully call on him to cease his defamation of the LGBT community. Afterwards, Broadway star Billy Porter will protest in song outside Focus
on the Family, with an electrifying jazz concert that celebrates the lives of all
people and loving relationships that seek the American dream.
"Among dozens of other harmful lies, James Dobson says that families like mine
are destroying the institution of marriage, harming children, and posing a .
threat to American society," says Jeff Lutes, executive director of Soulforce, an
organization that uses nonviolent methods to confront anti-gay religious discrimination. "Because of Dobson's wealth, power, and direct ties to the Bush
administration, those lies are being used to justify legislative discrimination and
bigotry at the local, state and federal level."
To find out more about the Soulforce 1000 Watt March, Vigil and Concert,
please see: www.soulforce.org/1 OOOwattmarch .
The Her/and Voice is a publication of Her/and Sister Resources, 2 3 12 NW 39th, Ol<C Of< 73112. Our bookstore/lending library is open Saturdays
from 1-5 pm. Call us at (405} 521-9696 or email us at herland@herlandsisters.org. Visit us on the web atwww.herlandsisters.org.

soulforce equality house
Five Soulforce Equality Riders announced they are starting an Equality
House in OKC. The House will operate on the non-violent principles of
Gandhi and MLK, Jr. and will house 5-8 youth activists who will each
work on a different lgbt project.
Projects will include:
•

visits to Oral Roberts University and other religious schools which ban
the enrollment of lgbt students

•

bringing same-sex couples who are in committed relationships and
wish to be married to city halls across Oklahoma

•

addressing discrimination in the workplace, housing, and in public
schools

The youth will also participate in some larger Soulforce actions such as
the military recruitment office sit -ins this summer. Committed to maintaining a positive im.Jge for the lgbt community and to uniting lgbt brothers, sisters and allies, they look forward to the community involvement.
Please email Pamela 'at pamela@equalityride .com with any questions or if
you wish to make a donation.

the graying of gays
As the generation of gay men and lesbians who came out in the 1960s
and '70s reaches retirement age, about a dozen specialized senior developments across the country are either up and running or in the works .
In such senior-heavy locales as California, Arizona and Florida, as well as
less traditionally g.Jy-friendly places like North Carolina and Texas, builders
have found a market in a segment of the gay population that worries
getting old will mean going back in the closet.
Besides personal safety, specialists in gay aging issues offer other reasons
why the so-called Stonewall Generation, named for the 1969 New York
riots that marked the beginning of the modern gay movement, needs
and craves places of its own to retire .
"There is a real sense of disenfranchisement and also a sense of independence, of 'I don't want to be dependent on family, I want to be dependent on community, ... said Judy Dlugacz, founder of the San Francisco-based lesbian travel company Olivia Cruises and Resorts.
Olivia is currently scouting land in the Palm Springs area for what
Dlugacz hopes will be the first of several high-end resort communities
geared toward mature lesbians who are looking either for a vacation
home or a place to retire.
"In a retirement community, you want to be with people of like minds
and like interests, whether it's a golf community or a religious community," said Bonnie McGowan, who is spearheading Birds of a Feather, a
gay senior complex in New Mexico. "Until I feel safe walking down the
street holding a woman's hand ... and not feel like I'm going to offend
even one person, there is a need for this ...
At Rainbow Vision, a just-completed senior community in Santa Fe, N.M.
cJ private dining room is mmed after Truman C.Jpote and '60s teen icon
Lesley "It's My P.Jrty" Gore was scheduled to appear this weekend. Everything about the 146-unit retirement village was designed with the comfort of gr.Jying gays and lesbi.Jns in mind .

supper club
This month we are going to try the Topanga Bar and Grill,
the restaurant located in the Hollywood Hotel, 3535 NW 39th, for
Supper Club on Saturday, July 8 at 5:30 pm (meet at Herland
at 5:00 if you wish to carpool).
After dinner, at 7 pm, we will venture over to Celebration Station,
off of 1-40 just east of Meridian, for a round or two of miniature
golf. This should be the perfect way to spend a warm Oklahoma
summer evening!

video night
Herland presents the L Word at 7 pm on Saturday, July 15
for this month's video night. We'll catch up on the happenings
with the gang . When last we saw them Tina explored her feelings
for the opposite sex on a business trip to Canada, Dana's treatment
put a strain on her and Lara's relationship, Jenny helped Moira in
her transformation to Max, Carmen and Shane dedicated parts of
their bodies to each other, and Alice reverted back in her obsession
over Dana.
Jenny arranged a charity event to support Moira/Max, Helena took
the girls to a surprise trip to honor Dana in her recovery, and Carmen was still dealing with the aftermath of Shane's ex, Bette kicked
Tina out of the bedroom and tried to find peace in Buddhism.

scrabble day
Don't miss out on a challenge against some of the best Scrabble
players around. Join us on Saturday, July 22, from 1 to 5 pm
for our regular Scrabble games If folks want pizza, we'll order
after everyone arrives.

scrapbool< days in august
Herland is starting a project to pull together its collection of photos
and memorabilia and put them in order in scrapbooks Join us on
the second and fourth Saturdays in August as we try to get some
years associated with our photos and secure them in scrapbooks
for better preservation .
We will work on the scrapbooks on the second and fourth Saturday afternoons in August.

submissions for poetry issue
Herland is still seeking submissions of original poetry for our upcoming poetry issue in November. Please keep in mind our space limitations when choosing your submission(s). You may mail your submissions to Herland, 231 2 NW 39th, 73112 or email them to us at Herland@herlandsisters.org. Please tell us how you wish your name to
appear in publication.

National Women's Music
Festival
July 6-9, 2006, at Illinois State University,
Bloomington
An incredible 4-day, jam-packed weekend of workshops,
concerts, drama, dances, films, and videos, shopping, access and child care services and much more -- all held indoors!

Featured performers include: Vickie Shaw, Cheryl
Wheeler, Deidre McCalla, Margie Adam, Tret Fure, Lisa
Koch, Karen Williams, Erika luckett, Ellis, Alix Olson,
Girlyman, Bitch and The Exciting Conclusion, GOD-DES
and She.
On campus housing available for very reasonable rates.
For more information, check it out online at
www.wiaonline.org/nwmfreg.html.

reasons gays should not be allowed to marry
Reason: Straight marriage will be less meaningful if civil marriage equality
becomes law.
Of course . Straight marriages are always meaningful. Just ask Britney
Spears about her 55-hour 'just for fun " marriage and its deep meaningfulness, or Rush Limbaugh about his four deeply meaningful marriages.
Reason: Civil marriage equality would change the foundation of society.
That's right. Heterosexual-only marriage has been around for a long time.
and we could never adapt to new social norms, just as we haven't
adapted to cars, longer lifespans, the abolition of slavery, or women voting.
Reason: Civil unions provide most of the same benefits as marriage-just
with a different name.
Yes, "separate but equal" always works so well . Just think when we had
separate schools for African-Americans and separate water fountains for
the same - these worked beautifully, and were eminently fair.

Come .to a place of.; ....
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....... Radical' lncl.ll~ion .
·....... 1elentl~~s"· eo~,J1assiot:t.•
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Sundays 6:00pm
First Unitarian Church
600 NW 13th Street
www.cohokc.com

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L word, season 2 dvd set raffle
·k a fund raiser, Herland is raffling off a brand-new box set of the L word,
Season 2 DVDs. Raffle tickets wil l be sold at Herland until August 19.
Then, at the last showing of the L word for this season (on August 19),
we will draw a ticket and announce the winner. Tickets are $1 a piece
or 6 for $5.

- - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - ·- - - - - thanl<you for your gift!

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Your contribution is important! Just $1 5 a year w ill help us pay for the $300+ it
costs every month to print and mail the newsletter. Herland is a non-profit 501 (c)3
organization and exists solely through contributions and the efforts of our volunteers . Your contribution is deductible to the extent allowed by law.

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PAID
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Permit No. 861

Return Service Requested

Dr. Dawn Singleton, Ph.D.

Good Neighbor Development

m ~;!o~ ~

Single and Multi-Family Leasing
Property Management and Development

Licensed Professional Counselor
Licensed Marital & Family Therapist

5005 N. Pennsylvania #204 OKC, OK
405-232-3296

FREE HOUR CONSULTATION

April Stacy
Manager

405.606.5906
www.goodneighbordevelopment.com

PHONE: 943-1467

"TOUCH ME. FEEL THE SOFTNESS."
CITY ANIMAL HOSPITAL
2910 N.W. 23
OKLAHOMA CITY, OKLAHOMA 73107

DELICIOUS BATH AND BODY PRODUCTS

http://www.cbunnyrep.com/8812
N. WORLAND DVM

DOROTHY E. HEIM
Attorney at Law
(405) 616-5045

Sandy Ingraham, J.D., M.S.W.
Attorney-at-Law
Ingraham & Associates, PLLC

dheim033@yahoo.com
Estate Planning, Wills, Trusts, Probate, Adoption, Contracts

Call me with your legal questions:
estate planning
personal injury
contract issues
small business

Route 2, Box 369-B
Mcloud, OK 74851

Tel. (405) 964-2072
Ingraham@mcloudteleco.com



•

Herlan

july • 2006

volume twenty-four number seven

1000 watt march to confront
focus on the family
This summer, dozens of families from across the country will come together
with Soulforce to confront the homophobic rhetoric of James Dobson and Focus on the Family in an event called: The 1000 Watt March, Vigil, and Concert: Shedding the Powerful Light of Truth on the Anti-Gay Dishonesty of
Focus on the Family.
On July 17, same-gender couples, families with children, lesbian, gay, bisexual
and transgender (LGBT) individuals and straight friends will undertake a weeklong justice march which will commence from the steps of the Colorado State
Capitol building. A diverse selection of families from across America will participate in the 65-mile "relay" style march; each group of families taking turns walking a 4-mile segment during the week until they reach the headquarters of Focus on the Family.
The purpose of the
ica connect the dots
tory rhetoric that
the Family and the
the civil liberties of
families.

"(If same-sex marriage is allowed) barring a miracle,
the family as it has been
known for more than five
millennia will crumble, presaging the fall of Western
civilization itself"

march is to help Amerbetween the defamaflows from Focus on
legislative assault on
LGBT people and their

On July 22, actor
Chad Allen and Judy
Shepard, executive
director of The Mat- .James Dobson
thew Shepard Faundation, will lead the
crowd in a final 2mile march from Rampart Park in Colorado Springs to the headquarters of Focus on the Family. The
crowd will encircle James Dobson's headquarters, joining hearts and hands in
vigil as they peacefully call on him to cease his defamation of the LGBT community. Afterwards, Broadway star Billy Porter will protest in song outside Focus
on the Family, with an electrifying jazz concert that celebrates the lives of all
people and loving relationships that seek the American dream.
"Among dozens of other harmful lies, James Dobson says that families like mine
are destroying the institution of marriage, harming children, and posing a .
threat to American society," says Jeff Lutes, executive director of Soulforce, an
organization that uses nonviolent methods to confront anti-gay religious discrimination. "Because of Dobson's wealth, power, and direct ties to the Bush
administration, those lies are being used to justify legislative discrimination and
bigotry at the local, state and federal level."
To find out more about the Soulforce 1000 Watt March, Vigil and Concert,
please see: www.soulforce.org/1 OOOwattmarch .
The Her/and Voice is a publication of Her/and Sister Resources, 2 3 12 NW 39th, Ol<C Of< 73112. Our bookstore/lending library is open Saturdays
from 1-5 pm. Call us at (405} 521-9696 or email us at herland@herlandsisters.org. Visit us on the web atwww.herlandsisters.org.

soulforce equality house
Five Soulforce Equality Riders announced they are starting an Equality
House in OKC. The House will operate on the non-violent principles of
Gandhi and MLK, Jr. and will house 5-8 youth activists who will each
work on a different lgbt project.
Projects will include:
•

visits to Oral Roberts University and other religious schools which ban
the enrollment of lgbt students

•

bringing same-sex couples who are in committed relationships and
wish to be married to city halls across Oklahoma

•

addressing discrimination in the workplace, housing, and in public
schools

The youth will also participate in some larger Soulforce actions such as
the military recruitment office sit -ins this summer. Committed to maintaining a positive im.Jge for the lgbt community and to uniting lgbt brothers, sisters and allies, they look forward to the community involvement.
Please email Pamela 'at pamela@equalityride .com with any questions or if
you wish to make a donation.

the graying of gays
As the generation of gay men and lesbians who came out in the 1960s
and '70s reaches retirement age, about a dozen specialized senior developments across the country are either up and running or in the works .
In such senior-heavy locales as California, Arizona and Florida, as well as
less traditionally g.Jy-friendly places like North Carolina and Texas, builders
have found a market in a segment of the gay population that worries
getting old will mean going back in the closet.
Besides personal safety, specialists in gay aging issues offer other reasons
why the so-called Stonewall Generation, named for the 1969 New York
riots that marked the beginning of the modern gay movement, needs
and craves places of its own to retire .
"There is a real sense of disenfranchisement and also a sense of independence, of 'I don't want to be dependent on family, I want to be dependent on community, ... said Judy Dlugacz, founder of the San Francisco-based lesbian travel company Olivia Cruises and Resorts.
Olivia is currently scouting land in the Palm Springs area for what
Dlugacz hopes will be the first of several high-end resort communities
geared toward mature lesbians who are looking either for a vacation
home or a place to retire.
"In a retirement community, you want to be with people of like minds
and like interests, whether it's a golf community or a religious community," said Bonnie McGowan, who is spearheading Birds of a Feather, a
gay senior complex in New Mexico. "Until I feel safe walking down the
street holding a woman's hand ... and not feel like I'm going to offend
even one person, there is a need for this ...
At Rainbow Vision, a just-completed senior community in Santa Fe, N.M.
cJ private dining room is mmed after Truman C.Jpote and '60s teen icon
Lesley "It's My P.Jrty" Gore was scheduled to appear this weekend. Everything about the 146-unit retirement village was designed with the comfort of gr.Jying gays and lesbi.Jns in mind .

supper club
This month we are going to try the Topanga Bar and Grill,
the restaurant located in the Hollywood Hotel, 3535 NW 39th, for
Supper Club on Saturday, July 8 at 5:30 pm (meet at Herland
at 5:00 if you wish to carpool).
After dinner, at 7 pm, we will venture over to Celebration Station,
off of 1-40 just east of Meridian, for a round or two of miniature
golf. This should be the perfect way to spend a warm Oklahoma
summer evening!

video night
Herland presents the L Word at 7 pm on Saturday, July 15
for this month's video night. We'll catch up on the happenings
with the gang . When last we saw them Tina explored her feelings
for the opposite sex on a business trip to Canada, Dana's treatment
put a strain on her and Lara's relationship, Jenny helped Moira in
her transformation to Max, Carmen and Shane dedicated parts of
their bodies to each other, and Alice reverted back in her obsession
over Dana.
Jenny arranged a charity event to support Moira/Max, Helena took
the girls to a surprise trip to honor Dana in her recovery, and Carmen was still dealing with the aftermath of Shane's ex, Bette kicked
Tina out of the bedroom and tried to find peace in Buddhism.

scrabble day
Don't miss out on a challenge against some of the best Scrabble
players around. Join us on Saturday, July 22, from 1 to 5 pm
for our regular Scrabble games If folks want pizza, we'll order
after everyone arrives.

scrapbool< days in august
Herland is starting a project to pull together its collection of photos
and memorabilia and put them in order in scrapbooks Join us on
the second and fourth Saturdays in August as we try to get some
years associated with our photos and secure them in scrapbooks
for better preservation .
We will work on the scrapbooks on the second and fourth Saturday afternoons in August.

submissions for poetry issue
Herland is still seeking submissions of original poetry for our upcoming poetry issue in November. Please keep in mind our space limitations when choosing your submission(s). You may mail your submissions to Herland, 231 2 NW 39th, 73112 or email them to us at Herland@herlandsisters.org. Please tell us how you wish your name to
appear in publication.

National Women's Music
Festival
July 6-9, 2006, at Illinois State University,
Bloomington
An incredible 4-day, jam-packed weekend of workshops,
concerts, drama, dances, films, and videos, shopping, access and child care services and much more -- all held indoors!

Featured performers include: Vickie Shaw, Cheryl
Wheeler, Deidre McCalla, Margie Adam, Tret Fure, Lisa
Koch, Karen Williams, Erika luckett, Ellis, Alix Olson,
Girlyman, Bitch and The Exciting Conclusion, GOD-DES
and She.
On campus housing available for very reasonable rates.
For more information, check it out online at
www.wiaonline.org/nwmfreg.html.

reasons gays should not be allowed to marry
Reason: Straight marriage will be less meaningful if civil marriage equality
becomes law.
Of course . Straight marriages are always meaningful. Just ask Britney
Spears about her 55-hour 'just for fun " marriage and its deep meaningfulness, or Rush Limbaugh about his four deeply meaningful marriages.
Reason: Civil marriage equality would change the foundation of society.
That's right. Heterosexual-only marriage has been around for a long time.
and we could never adapt to new social norms, just as we haven't
adapted to cars, longer lifespans, the abolition of slavery, or women voting.
Reason: Civil unions provide most of the same benefits as marriage-just
with a different name.
Yes, "separate but equal" always works so well . Just think when we had
separate schools for African-Americans and separate water fountains for
the same - these worked beautifully, and were eminently fair.

Come .to a place of.; ....
...... ~travagan\ (.\~.ice
....... Radical' lncl.ll~ion .
·....... 1elentl~~s"· eo~,J1assiot:t.•
.......... · ...

Sundays 6:00pm
First Unitarian Church
600 NW 13th Street
www.cohokc.com

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3000 Twin Lake Drive
Okla. City, OK 73165-7356

Ginny Poindexter - Realtor.Assoc.
Telephone: 405-91 9-8443
E-Mail: izallgood4now@yahoo.co m

m

lvlultipl e Listing 2ervice

MLS

Realto r"

..............................

L word, season 2 dvd set raffle
·k a fund raiser, Herland is raffling off a brand-new box set of the L word,
Season 2 DVDs. Raffle tickets wil l be sold at Herland until August 19.
Then, at the last showing of the L word for this season (on August 19),
we will draw a ticket and announce the winner. Tickets are $1 a piece
or 6 for $5.

- - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - ·- - - - - thanl<you for your gift!

Name ... .. .. .... .
Street ....... ................. . .. ..... ....... ... . .... . ... ... .... ..... ... . ... .. ... .. .. ... ... ... _..
City . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

State . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Zip .... ... ....... .

Your contribution is important! Just $1 5 a year w ill help us pay for the $300+ it
costs every month to print and mail the newsletter. Herland is a non-profit 501 (c)3
organization and exists solely through contributions and the efforts of our volunteers . Your contribution is deductible to the extent allowed by law.

I I

Enclosed is a contribution for $ .. ... .. .....

[ ]

Please add me to the mailing list for The Vo ice.

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Please change my address (new address above)

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Non-Profit Org.
U.S. Postage

Herland Sister Resources
2312 NW 39th Street
Oklahoma City, OK 73 112

PAID
Oklahoma City, OK
Permit No. 861

Return Service Requested

Dr. Dawn Singleton, Ph.D.

Good Neighbor Development

m ~;!o~ ~

Single and Multi-Family Leasing
Property Management and Development

Licensed Professional Counselor
Licensed Marital & Family Therapist

5005 N. Pennsylvania #204 OKC, OK
405-232-3296

FREE HOUR CONSULTATION

April Stacy
Manager

405.606.5906
www.goodneighbordevelopment.com

PHONE: 943-1467

"TOUCH ME. FEEL THE SOFTNESS."
CITY ANIMAL HOSPITAL
2910 N.W. 23
OKLAHOMA CITY, OKLAHOMA 73107

DELICIOUS BATH AND BODY PRODUCTS

http://www.cbunnyrep.com/8812
N. WORLAND DVM

DOROTHY E. HEIM
Attorney at Law
(405) 616-5045

Sandy Ingraham, J.D., M.S.W.
Attorney-at-Law
Ingraham & Associates, PLLC

dheim033@yahoo.com
Estate Planning, Wills, Trusts, Probate, Adoption, Contracts

Call me with your legal questions:
estate planning
personal injury
contract issues
small business

Route 2, Box 369-B
Mcloud, OK 74851

Tel. (405) 964-2072
Ingraham@mcloudteleco.com