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Herland Spring Retreat - May

14-16, 2004

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etreat to Roman Nose State Park May 14 16, surrender your worries and cares and
give up your responsibilities for one weekend. The retreat features workshops, recreation,
entertainment, a potluck dinner and a Saturday
evening concert in a women-identified and supportive atmosphere. While we have lots of activities which are listed below, many people come to
the retreats and park themselves under a tree
with a good book an day; or go off hiking on their
own - there is no need or pressure to do anything
you don't want to. All women and girl-children
are welcome. No boys over 10, please.
The retreat starts Friday afternoon with plenty
of time for unstructured relaxation. The famous
Retreat soup will be simmering on the stove by 5 ··
pm. Join other retreaters around the campfire
for songs, feliowship and marshmallows. Saturday morning, bright and early, join Judy for a
bird-watching nature hike. The rolling hills of Roman Nose State Park are an ideal setting for birding in May. We have spotted Indigo Buntings,
Painted Buntings, Hawks galore, Kildeer, all kinds
of songbirds, and wild turkeys. Other workshops
include one on Temperament and Relationships,
by Sharlene of IRIS. Margaret will facilitate one
on Dreaming Herland - an open-ended brainstorming of what we would like Herland to be if,
we ever win the lottery, get a big grant or a nice
bequest in someone's estate planning. Michelle
is going to do a workshop on basic massage.
And we're scheduling a Scrabble Tournament at
1 pm. Also we're hoping some creative people
will get together and design a float or theme for a
marching contingent that Herland can enter in
the Pride parade.
Bring your musical equipment and talent for
the Saturday afternoon Open Mic at 4.
The Saturday evening potluck will give you a
chance to show off your culinary skills. Whether
that means a bucket of KFC or flaming a Baked
Alaska, or something in between, you'll enjoy
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breaking bread with your sisters from near and far.
We're happy to have IRIS (Cathy Cahill, Marci
Patrick, Deb Mills and Sharlene on harmonica) as
our musical guests Saturday night. Last time they
played a retreat they rocked the park, and some of
us danced our socks right off. We'll have books,
music, and gifts for sale; and if you have something
you wouldn't mind parting with, please bring an item
for our Door Prize drawing on Sunday. You may
register at the Retreat, but to receive a map to Roman Nose and a schedule of events, complete the
registration form and mail it in time to reach Herland
by Monday, May 10. Pre-registration is also less expensive than on-site. Daytripper registration is
available for those who want to attend during the
day on Saturday and for the concert Saturday evening. Scholarships are available.
Hope to see you there!
Registration form on page 4

Get Lucky in OKC with Melissa
Etheridge

H

ave you heard? Melissa
Etheridge is coming to the Bricktown Events Center on Wednesday, May 19, 2004 at 8:00 p.m. To celebrate, Herland is having a special Supper
Club before the concert at 6:00 p.m. on
May 19 at the Bricktown Brewery, 1
North Oklahoma Ave.
Melissa's new CD, Lucky, contains a perfect mix of ballads, rock, and raw passion that is sure to make her Get Lucky Tonight Tour one of
her best. so buy your concert tickets and plan to join other
Melissa fans for an evening of pizza and great music. Contact Joann at jodebug@yahoo.com or Herland at ( 405) 5219696 for more information and to add your head count to
the Supper Club list.
Get Lucky Tonight Tour tickets for reserved seating are
available at Homeland stores or www.tickets.com for $50
and $75. Fan club reserved seating, $173 for 2 tickets may
be purdlased through http://www.melissaeffieridge.com/
concerts/index.shtml or the M.E.I.N. Hotline at 415-5756655 (M-F 10 a.m. - 5:30 p.m. PT.) Check out the Ticket
Program FAQ at http://www.melissaetheridge.com/
concerts/faq.shtml for complete information on fan club
tickets.

herland sist:er resources, 2312 nw 39th, oklahoma city, ok. 73112

(405) 521-9696

Tracy Grammer Can Flat-Out Sing
By Jill Garner

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he first weekend in April I ventured to The
Blue Door to hear Tracy Grammer and was
blessed enough to be at one of the best shows
I've ever seen there. For one, Tracy Grammer can
flat-out sing~ I heard her the summer before at the
Woody Guthrie Festival in Okemah and was wowed,
but to get to hear her in the intimate atmosphere of
the Blue Door was ..... , well, it was heaven. What a
beautiful voice, and she's a great instrumentalist as
well, playing the guitar, fiddle and mandolin. Jim
Henry, who plays a plethora of instruments, sings
wonderfully as well, and also records on the same
label, Signature Sounds, accompanied her.
Dave Carter, Grammer's partner in music and
fife, died two years ago way too young. He was an
immensely talented musician and writer, and many
predicted he and Grammer were poised to be rising
stars. Grammer is a talented singer and great musician in her own right, and Carter always said he
wanted Grammer to be the one to sing all his songs.
She's committed herself to keeping Dave's songs
alive, and I'm glad she is because his musical mind
was so brilliant and mystical. Losing Dave Carter
reminds me of how I felt when I heard Jim Henson
died. They'll never be any more Muppets created by
Henson's genius, and there will never be any more
songs written by Carter. Fortunately, Grammer
feels that Carter's music is too good not to be
shared, and there's no one better to do it. Carter
was a master of poetry and rhyme, and combined
the common with the fantastical, the love struck
with the heartbroke, and the old with the new. So
many of his songs sound like timeless, traditional
songs, while others are very modern, and then
some, like Don't Tread on Me, are Carter being
downright silly.
Carter was raised in Oklahoma and Texas, and
many of his songs evoke the imagery of the open
plains with mystical references and visions. He
studied a huge range of things in his life including
classical piano, mathematics, computer programming, philosophy, transpersonal psychology, various
martial arts, all kinds of religions and spiritual
paths, and so many of these experiences come out
in his songs. A lot of his songs came to him in
dreams as well. With lyrics like, "He worked the
midnight diners, washed the weary dishes, Street
poets and vision miners, starry-eyed ambitious,
Blew like pilgrim leaves through the sad cafe, The
bards and climbers tradin dreams and wishes" from
"The Power and the Glory" evoke a colorful cast of
characters, and capture the loneliness of drifters
and dreamers. From 236-6132, "I am not looking
for no champion of my freedom, I am anything but
anybody's foundling, Sometimes I feel like I am
wandering, an old balloon on broken string, A

buzzardling, A vulture beating creaky wings,
while angry storms go gathering around me",
the pain and futility of an indifferent love is so
eloquently captured.
Carter and Grammer have three CDs. When I
Go, originally released in 1998 and recently rereleased on Signature Sounds, Tanglewood Tree,
and Drum Hat and Buddha.
Please check out their music. You can find it
all on the internet at http://
daveandtracy.globalhosting.com/index.php, as
well as other sites such as www.amazon.com,
and sometimes you can find their stuff at Borders. Carter's words are brilliant, and Tracy's
singing and musical ability is something you
shouldn't miss. As Carter once said, "If I can
bring the magic of the deep unconscious into the
all-too-predictable realm of the daily grind, well
that's like bringing water into the desert. I need
this to live fully; I suspect we all do." Exactly.

Have You Heard The Mermaids
Singing?
This month's video night offering is "I've Heard
the Mermaids Singing," a Canadian film from
1987 directed by Patricia Rozema. In T.S. Eliot's
poem "The Love-Song of J. Alfred Prufrock," he
writes "I have heard the mermaids singing, each
to each. I do not think that they will sing to
me." Eliot is right, they won't sing to him, but
they will sing to us.
Set for the most part in an art gallery in Toronto, we will watch three characters create and
release tensions in debut performances. This is
an independent effort with a film-noir feel.
Join us at Herland, May 29th at 7:00 PM
The popcorn is free and the soft drinks and bottled water are available for a Herland donation.
If the DVD or tape is closed captioned, captioning
will be available.

Pam Trotter Designs
formerly "Le.afft To

Us"

The Special Event Aorist

(Source of the

beautiful bouquets for the Herland/OGLPC Dance)

300 N. Telephone Road
Moore, OK 73160

Phone: (405) 912-8724
email: leafitous@aol.com

Herland Supper Club
Herland Supper Club will meet at 5 pm on Saturday, May 8th, at Zios (Italian) in Bricktown. Following dinner, we will travel to the Farmer's Market
at 311 S. Klein for the annual May Music Fest
hosted by RAIN and CarePoint. This event benefits
people living with HIV/AIDS across the Western
region of Oklahoma. Wendy Woo, Shelly Phelps,
and Pinkie and the Snakeshakers are the featured
artists.

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• Saturday. May 8: Herland Hike at Martin Nature Park,
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• Bricktown at 5 pm, followed by May Music Fest at
: Farmer's Market at 7 pm
• Saturday. May 8: May Music Fest Benefit for RAIN,
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• Farmer's Market, 311 S. Klein, 7 pm
: Sunday. May9: Million Mom March, U.S. Capitol,
• Wash. DC, 10 am to 3 pm (Mother's Day)
: Monday. May 10: OGLPC Monthly Meeting at the
• Center, 2135 NW 39th, 7 pm
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Womyn of Color group meets the 2nd Sunday of
each month-except May's meeting is the 16th.
Please email womynofcolor@gay.com or call ( 405)
842-3464 or (405) 947-7691 for more information.

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NativeAmerican Women
OKC Two-Spirit Society is having meetings for lesbian and bi-sexual women of Native American descent. Please call the OKC Two-Spirit Hotline number at (405) 317-7283 for information.

Herland Work Day
On Saturday June 12th from 1 to 5 pm, Herland
needs volunteers to help prepare for our annual
Pride Picnjc in the back yard. Tasks indude deaning, painting and repairs and general yard work
outside. All help is greatly appreciated.

Herland Pride Picnic
On Saturday June 26th, Herland will be hosting our
annual Pride Picnic in the back yard. Be sure to
mark your calendars for an afternoon of food, live
music and fun.

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Saturday. May 15: Miss Brown To You will appear at
UCO Jazz Lab, 100 E. 5th St (at Boulvard), in Edmond
Sunday. May 16: Womyn of Color Meeting, call 8423464 for details
Wednesday. May 19: Melissa Etheridge concert-see
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Saturday. May 22: Herland Scrabble Night
Sunday. May23: Herland Board Meeting, 4 pm, everyone welcome
Saturday. May 29: Herland Video Night, 7 pm

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Herland Spring Women's Retreat Registration Form
Roman Nose State Park - May 14-16, 2004
Below are guidelines to help you select an appropriate registration amount Deadline for pre-registration is May I 0th. Please
remember that dogs are welcome but must remain on leashes and are not allowed in the dining hall.
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Annual Income

Household
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under $6,500

under $13,300

$15

$6,500-$13,300

$13,3D0-$18,000

$25

$13,300-$19,500

$18,000-$26,000

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children (gins of all ages and boys under age 10 are welame).

Please return registration form and check to: Hertand Sister Resources, 2312 NW 39th Street, Oklahoma City, OK 73112
A rebeat packet with all information will be sent to you.

Herland/OGLPC Dance
Anyone for Scrabble?
A Herland Scrabble Club is an idea whose time is
long overdue. We are going to meet twice in May.
Saturday May 1, and Saturday May 22, both nights
from 6 - 9. On May 1st we will order pizza, and
thereafter we expect to have Food for Thought -snacks provided by a $2 assessment at the prior
meeting.
We have a few scrabble boards, but please bring
one if you have one. We have tables enough to
have quite a few games going at once, so if you like
to play strict rules or wild and crazy ones, you'll be
able to find a game to suit you.
We'll set a regular Saturday meeting date at the
May 1 meeting. We're also going to have a scrabble
tournament at the Retreat on May 15..

Around a hundred people danced their socks off
and had a fabulous time at the April Fools Dance.
We even managed to raise some funds as well as
raising a lot of fun. In addition to all the great
volunteers affiliated with OGLPC and Herland, too
many to list - oh, all right: Paul, Brenda, Sandy,
Jay, John, Judy, Diane, Ginger, Margaret, Margie,
Joann, Deidra, Chris, Evelyn, Laura, Linda, and
Sandy, we especially want to thank Pam Trotter
for the donation of helium, time, energy and the
very beautiful floral arrangements from Pam Trotter Designs, which we enjoyed all evening and
then auctioned off, with proceeds to Herland and
OGLPC. Some of us still have orchids from those
arrangements blooming on our desks. Herland
thanks Deni and Carol for their wonderful donation of fun art which also was a great fundraiser;
Miss Brown to You was as ever superb, and we
want to thank again the Social Justice Committee
(Ann, Anne, and Ruthie, Thank you!) of First Unitarian Church for the use of wonderful Daniel Hall.
Let's do it again soon.

House Bill 2259, the Mean, Selfish
Amendment
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In 1982 the Oklahoma Legislature saw fit to vote
down the Equal Rights Amendment. The entire
text of the ERA is: "Equal Rights under the law
shall not be denied or abridged, by the United
States or any state on account of sex. Not too
radical, is it? What a breathtaking disregard for
women's. rights it was, what a slap in the face, to
vote against the ERA.
In April of 2004, the Oklahoma legislature again
stepped up to the plate and hit a home run for hatred, bigotry, fear, meanness, small-mindedness
and provincialism. Having denied a constitution~!
amendment to extend rights to all people, they
have now, twenty-two years later, voted for a constitutional amendment that will severely limit the
rights of a large number of people. Here's the
language of the Ballot Question for the Mean Selfish Amendment, aka the Marriage Protection'
Amendment:
"This measure adds a new section of law to
the Constitution. It adds Section 35 to Article 2. It defines marriage to be between one
man and one woman. It prohibits giving the
benefits of marriage to people who are not
married. It provides that same sex marriages in other states are not valid in this
state. It makes issuing a marriage license in
violation of this section a misdemeanor.
This amendment even prohibits civil uni~ns, which bestow at least a few of the many
rights and responsibilities of marriage. It is just
pure meanness - mean as in small, mean as in
an absolute wallow of self-loathing,
cruel. ~nd
cowardice, internalized homophobia and sexism,
there were women in 1982 who voted against the
ERA, and there are glbt members of this legislature
who voted for today's amendment. Shame on
them.
There were just eleven members who voted
agains_t the al'!1endment. In the House, Representa~1ves Op10 Toure, Judy Eason Mcintyre, Darrell ~1lb~rt, and M,C, Leist, voted against it, If you
feel mclmed to thank them for their vote, the
House switchboard is 405/521-2711, or you can
email them using their lastname and the first two
letters of their first name; @state.ck.us; for instance gilbertda@state.ok.us.
In the upper chamber, Senators Maxine Horner
B~r~est Cain, Cal Hobson, Dick Wilkerson, Penn;
Williams, Angela Monson and Ben Robinson voted
against it. The Senate switchboard is 405/5240126; their emails: Lastname@state.ok.us, for
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instance, monsoon@state.ok.us. It is good but
not surprising to note that a disproportionately
large number of women and African-Americans
legislators voted against the bill.
There will be a massive effort put forth on both
sides of this proposed Amendment in the next
six months. GLBT groups will be raising money
for advertisements and commercials, doing voter
registration, getting out the vote, and raising
issues like these for the voters to think about:
• First you brand us as promiscuous and now
you tell us you won't let us get married?
• Are heteros being a little bit selfish here?
• How in the name of heaven can it matter to a
heterosexual couple if their glbt neighbors have
the same 1,300-plus rights and responsibilities
and protections of marriage that they do?
• Why does it matter to Adam and Eve if Adam
and Steve's children have the same right to child
support that little Cain and Abel have?
• Do they know the story of the dog in the
manger? Are they proud to act that way?
• If they want to be biblically correct, why
don't they define marriage as being between one
man and one woman, one time, for life? That's
biblical!
• If marriage is for procreation, why do we let
old geezers get married? And why do we let
married couples use birth control?
• Why would anyone fear that their church
would be forced to perform gay weddings if they
don't want to - no one today can force a Catholic
church to marry divorced people, for instance, or
an Orthodox Synagogue to marry couples outside their faith.
• Sanctity of marriage? Please let's get real.
Marrying for a million dollars on television (or in
real life?) Britney Spears and her 36-hour marriage, this is sacred? Liz Taylor and her eight
marriages? And let's not even go to the divorce
record and fooling around of our legislators and
other elected officials - at least not unless we
get it all documented.
• If you won't let us get married, can we take
or twenty percent off our taxes I since we
like ten
I
won t get the same benefit from taxes that married folks can get?
• Is the pursuit of happiness for heterosexuals only?
Are we going to use our constitution to restrict rather
than expand the rights of our citizens? Or are we the
land of the free and equal, and lovers of liberty?
• If we're married to a man and our husband dies, do
we really have to marry his brother?

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Herland Spring Retreat - May

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etreat to Roman Nose State Park May 14 16, surrender your worries and cares and
give up your responsibilities for one weekend. The retreat features workshops, recreation,
entertainment, a potluck dinner and a Saturday
evening concert in a women-identified and supportive atmosphere. While we have lots of activities which are listed below, many people come to
the retreats and park themselves under a tree
with a good book an day; or go off hiking on their
own - there is no need or pressure to do anything
you don't want to. All women and girl-children
are welcome. No boys over 10, please.
The retreat starts Friday afternoon with plenty
of time for unstructured relaxation. The famous
Retreat soup will be simmering on the stove by 5 ··
pm. Join other retreaters around the campfire
for songs, feliowship and marshmallows. Saturday morning, bright and early, join Judy for a
bird-watching nature hike. The rolling hills of Roman Nose State Park are an ideal setting for birding in May. We have spotted Indigo Buntings,
Painted Buntings, Hawks galore, Kildeer, all kinds
of songbirds, and wild turkeys. Other workshops
include one on Temperament and Relationships,
by Sharlene of IRIS. Margaret will facilitate one
on Dreaming Herland - an open-ended brainstorming of what we would like Herland to be if,
we ever win the lottery, get a big grant or a nice
bequest in someone's estate planning. Michelle
is going to do a workshop on basic massage.
And we're scheduling a Scrabble Tournament at
1 pm. Also we're hoping some creative people
will get together and design a float or theme for a
marching contingent that Herland can enter in
the Pride parade.
Bring your musical equipment and talent for
the Saturday afternoon Open Mic at 4.
The Saturday evening potluck will give you a
chance to show off your culinary skills. Whether
that means a bucket of KFC or flaming a Baked
Alaska, or something in between, you'll enjoy
www.herlandsisters.org

breaking bread with your sisters from near and far.
We're happy to have IRIS (Cathy Cahill, Marci
Patrick, Deb Mills and Sharlene on harmonica) as
our musical guests Saturday night. Last time they
played a retreat they rocked the park, and some of
us danced our socks right off. We'll have books,
music, and gifts for sale; and if you have something
you wouldn't mind parting with, please bring an item
for our Door Prize drawing on Sunday. You may
register at the Retreat, but to receive a map to Roman Nose and a schedule of events, complete the
registration form and mail it in time to reach Herland
by Monday, May 10. Pre-registration is also less expensive than on-site. Daytripper registration is
available for those who want to attend during the
day on Saturday and for the concert Saturday evening. Scholarships are available.
Hope to see you there!
Registration form on page 4

Get Lucky in OKC with Melissa
Etheridge

H

ave you heard? Melissa
Etheridge is coming to the Bricktown Events Center on Wednesday, May 19, 2004 at 8:00 p.m. To celebrate, Herland is having a special Supper
Club before the concert at 6:00 p.m. on
May 19 at the Bricktown Brewery, 1
North Oklahoma Ave.
Melissa's new CD, Lucky, contains a perfect mix of ballads, rock, and raw passion that is sure to make her Get Lucky Tonight Tour one of
her best. so buy your concert tickets and plan to join other
Melissa fans for an evening of pizza and great music. Contact Joann at jodebug@yahoo.com or Herland at ( 405) 5219696 for more information and to add your head count to
the Supper Club list.
Get Lucky Tonight Tour tickets for reserved seating are
available at Homeland stores or www.tickets.com for $50
and $75. Fan club reserved seating, $173 for 2 tickets may
be purdlased through http://www.melissaeffieridge.com/
concerts/index.shtml or the M.E.I.N. Hotline at 415-5756655 (M-F 10 a.m. - 5:30 p.m. PT.) Check out the Ticket
Program FAQ at http://www.melissaetheridge.com/
concerts/faq.shtml for complete information on fan club
tickets.

herland sist:er resources, 2312 nw 39th, oklahoma city, ok. 73112

(405) 521-9696

Tracy Grammer Can Flat-Out Sing
By Jill Garner

T

he first weekend in April I ventured to The
Blue Door to hear Tracy Grammer and was
blessed enough to be at one of the best shows
I've ever seen there. For one, Tracy Grammer can
flat-out sing~ I heard her the summer before at the
Woody Guthrie Festival in Okemah and was wowed,
but to get to hear her in the intimate atmosphere of
the Blue Door was ..... , well, it was heaven. What a
beautiful voice, and she's a great instrumentalist as
well, playing the guitar, fiddle and mandolin. Jim
Henry, who plays a plethora of instruments, sings
wonderfully as well, and also records on the same
label, Signature Sounds, accompanied her.
Dave Carter, Grammer's partner in music and
fife, died two years ago way too young. He was an
immensely talented musician and writer, and many
predicted he and Grammer were poised to be rising
stars. Grammer is a talented singer and great musician in her own right, and Carter always said he
wanted Grammer to be the one to sing all his songs.
She's committed herself to keeping Dave's songs
alive, and I'm glad she is because his musical mind
was so brilliant and mystical. Losing Dave Carter
reminds me of how I felt when I heard Jim Henson
died. They'll never be any more Muppets created by
Henson's genius, and there will never be any more
songs written by Carter. Fortunately, Grammer
feels that Carter's music is too good not to be
shared, and there's no one better to do it. Carter
was a master of poetry and rhyme, and combined
the common with the fantastical, the love struck
with the heartbroke, and the old with the new. So
many of his songs sound like timeless, traditional
songs, while others are very modern, and then
some, like Don't Tread on Me, are Carter being
downright silly.
Carter was raised in Oklahoma and Texas, and
many of his songs evoke the imagery of the open
plains with mystical references and visions. He
studied a huge range of things in his life including
classical piano, mathematics, computer programming, philosophy, transpersonal psychology, various
martial arts, all kinds of religions and spiritual
paths, and so many of these experiences come out
in his songs. A lot of his songs came to him in
dreams as well. With lyrics like, "He worked the
midnight diners, washed the weary dishes, Street
poets and vision miners, starry-eyed ambitious,
Blew like pilgrim leaves through the sad cafe, The
bards and climbers tradin dreams and wishes" from
"The Power and the Glory" evoke a colorful cast of
characters, and capture the loneliness of drifters
and dreamers. From 236-6132, "I am not looking
for no champion of my freedom, I am anything but
anybody's foundling, Sometimes I feel like I am
wandering, an old balloon on broken string, A

buzzardling, A vulture beating creaky wings,
while angry storms go gathering around me",
the pain and futility of an indifferent love is so
eloquently captured.
Carter and Grammer have three CDs. When I
Go, originally released in 1998 and recently rereleased on Signature Sounds, Tanglewood Tree,
and Drum Hat and Buddha.
Please check out their music. You can find it
all on the internet at http://
daveandtracy.globalhosting.com/index.php, as
well as other sites such as www.amazon.com,
and sometimes you can find their stuff at Borders. Carter's words are brilliant, and Tracy's
singing and musical ability is something you
shouldn't miss. As Carter once said, "If I can
bring the magic of the deep unconscious into the
all-too-predictable realm of the daily grind, well
that's like bringing water into the desert. I need
this to live fully; I suspect we all do." Exactly.

Have You Heard The Mermaids
Singing?
This month's video night offering is "I've Heard
the Mermaids Singing," a Canadian film from
1987 directed by Patricia Rozema. In T.S. Eliot's
poem "The Love-Song of J. Alfred Prufrock," he
writes "I have heard the mermaids singing, each
to each. I do not think that they will sing to
me." Eliot is right, they won't sing to him, but
they will sing to us.
Set for the most part in an art gallery in Toronto, we will watch three characters create and
release tensions in debut performances. This is
an independent effort with a film-noir feel.
Join us at Herland, May 29th at 7:00 PM
The popcorn is free and the soft drinks and bottled water are available for a Herland donation.
If the DVD or tape is closed captioned, captioning
will be available.

Pam Trotter Designs
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The Special Event Aorist

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beautiful bouquets for the Herland/OGLPC Dance)

300 N. Telephone Road
Moore, OK 73160

Phone: (405) 912-8724
email: leafitous@aol.com

Herland Supper Club
Herland Supper Club will meet at 5 pm on Saturday, May 8th, at Zios (Italian) in Bricktown. Following dinner, we will travel to the Farmer's Market
at 311 S. Klein for the annual May Music Fest
hosted by RAIN and CarePoint. This event benefits
people living with HIV/AIDS across the Western
region of Oklahoma. Wendy Woo, Shelly Phelps,
and Pinkie and the Snakeshakers are the featured
artists.

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: Sunday. May9: Million Mom March, U.S. Capitol,
• Wash. DC, 10 am to 3 pm (Mother's Day)
: Monday. May 10: OGLPC Monthly Meeting at the
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OKC Two-Spirit Society is having meetings for lesbian and bi-sexual women of Native American descent. Please call the OKC Two-Spirit Hotline number at (405) 317-7283 for information.

Herland Work Day
On Saturday June 12th from 1 to 5 pm, Herland
needs volunteers to help prepare for our annual
Pride Picnjc in the back yard. Tasks indude deaning, painting and repairs and general yard work
outside. All help is greatly appreciated.

Herland Pride Picnic
On Saturday June 26th, Herland will be hosting our
annual Pride Picnic in the back yard. Be sure to
mark your calendars for an afternoon of food, live
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Sunday. May 16: Womyn of Color Meeting, call 8423464 for details
Wednesday. May 19: Melissa Etheridge concert-see
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Saturday. May 22: Herland Scrabble Night
Sunday. May23: Herland Board Meeting, 4 pm, everyone welcome
Saturday. May 29: Herland Video Night, 7 pm

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Herland Spring Women's Retreat Registration Form
Roman Nose State Park - May 14-16, 2004
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Herland/OGLPC Dance
Anyone for Scrabble?
A Herland Scrabble Club is an idea whose time is
long overdue. We are going to meet twice in May.
Saturday May 1, and Saturday May 22, both nights
from 6 - 9. On May 1st we will order pizza, and
thereafter we expect to have Food for Thought -snacks provided by a $2 assessment at the prior
meeting.
We have a few scrabble boards, but please bring
one if you have one. We have tables enough to
have quite a few games going at once, so if you like
to play strict rules or wild and crazy ones, you'll be
able to find a game to suit you.
We'll set a regular Saturday meeting date at the
May 1 meeting. We're also going to have a scrabble
tournament at the Retreat on May 15..

Around a hundred people danced their socks off
and had a fabulous time at the April Fools Dance.
We even managed to raise some funds as well as
raising a lot of fun. In addition to all the great
volunteers affiliated with OGLPC and Herland, too
many to list - oh, all right: Paul, Brenda, Sandy,
Jay, John, Judy, Diane, Ginger, Margaret, Margie,
Joann, Deidra, Chris, Evelyn, Laura, Linda, and
Sandy, we especially want to thank Pam Trotter
for the donation of helium, time, energy and the
very beautiful floral arrangements from Pam Trotter Designs, which we enjoyed all evening and
then auctioned off, with proceeds to Herland and
OGLPC. Some of us still have orchids from those
arrangements blooming on our desks. Herland
thanks Deni and Carol for their wonderful donation of fun art which also was a great fundraiser;
Miss Brown to You was as ever superb, and we
want to thank again the Social Justice Committee
(Ann, Anne, and Ruthie, Thank you!) of First Unitarian Church for the use of wonderful Daniel Hall.
Let's do it again soon.

House Bill 2259, the Mean, Selfish
Amendment
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In 1982 the Oklahoma Legislature saw fit to vote
down the Equal Rights Amendment. The entire
text of the ERA is: "Equal Rights under the law
shall not be denied or abridged, by the United
States or any state on account of sex. Not too
radical, is it? What a breathtaking disregard for
women's. rights it was, what a slap in the face, to
vote against the ERA.
In April of 2004, the Oklahoma legislature again
stepped up to the plate and hit a home run for hatred, bigotry, fear, meanness, small-mindedness
and provincialism. Having denied a constitution~!
amendment to extend rights to all people, they
have now, twenty-two years later, voted for a constitutional amendment that will severely limit the
rights of a large number of people. Here's the
language of the Ballot Question for the Mean Selfish Amendment, aka the Marriage Protection'
Amendment:
"This measure adds a new section of law to
the Constitution. It adds Section 35 to Article 2. It defines marriage to be between one
man and one woman. It prohibits giving the
benefits of marriage to people who are not
married. It provides that same sex marriages in other states are not valid in this
state. It makes issuing a marriage license in
violation of this section a misdemeanor.
This amendment even prohibits civil uni~ns, which bestow at least a few of the many
rights and responsibilities of marriage. It is just
pure meanness - mean as in small, mean as in
an absolute wallow of self-loathing,
cruel. ~nd
cowardice, internalized homophobia and sexism,
there were women in 1982 who voted against the
ERA, and there are glbt members of this legislature
who voted for today's amendment. Shame on
them.
There were just eleven members who voted
agains_t the al'!1endment. In the House, Representa~1ves Op10 Toure, Judy Eason Mcintyre, Darrell ~1lb~rt, and M,C, Leist, voted against it, If you
feel mclmed to thank them for their vote, the
House switchboard is 405/521-2711, or you can
email them using their lastname and the first two
letters of their first name; @state.ck.us; for instance gilbertda@state.ok.us.
In the upper chamber, Senators Maxine Horner
B~r~est Cain, Cal Hobson, Dick Wilkerson, Penn;
Williams, Angela Monson and Ben Robinson voted
against it. The Senate switchboard is 405/5240126; their emails: Lastname@state.ok.us, for
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instance, monsoon@state.ok.us. It is good but
not surprising to note that a disproportionately
large number of women and African-Americans
legislators voted against the bill.
There will be a massive effort put forth on both
sides of this proposed Amendment in the next
six months. GLBT groups will be raising money
for advertisements and commercials, doing voter
registration, getting out the vote, and raising
issues like these for the voters to think about:
• First you brand us as promiscuous and now
you tell us you won't let us get married?
• Are heteros being a little bit selfish here?
• How in the name of heaven can it matter to a
heterosexual couple if their glbt neighbors have
the same 1,300-plus rights and responsibilities
and protections of marriage that they do?
• Why does it matter to Adam and Eve if Adam
and Steve's children have the same right to child
support that little Cain and Abel have?
• Do they know the story of the dog in the
manger? Are they proud to act that way?
• If they want to be biblically correct, why
don't they define marriage as being between one
man and one woman, one time, for life? That's
biblical!
• If marriage is for procreation, why do we let
old geezers get married? And why do we let
married couples use birth control?
• Why would anyone fear that their church
would be forced to perform gay weddings if they
don't want to - no one today can force a Catholic
church to marry divorced people, for instance, or
an Orthodox Synagogue to marry couples outside their faith.
• Sanctity of marriage? Please let's get real.
Marrying for a million dollars on television (or in
real life?) Britney Spears and her 36-hour marriage, this is sacred? Liz Taylor and her eight
marriages? And let's not even go to the divorce
record and fooling around of our legislators and
other elected officials - at least not unless we
get it all documented.
• If you won't let us get married, can we take
or twenty percent off our taxes I since we
like ten
I
won t get the same benefit from taxes that married folks can get?
• Is the pursuit of happiness for heterosexuals only?
Are we going to use our constitution to restrict rather
than expand the rights of our citizens? Or are we the
land of the free and equal, and lovers of liberty?
• If we're married to a man and our husband dies, do
we really have to marry his brother?

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