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A publication of Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights in c,1operation with Parents and Friends of Le.l'bians and Gays

volume 1, Issue 4

October 1995

Coming (and Going) Out
In the gay 90's many of us have finally
begun to celebrate who we are: men and
women who enjoy life, have children, pay
taxes, go to church, work, play, and yes,
love individuals of the same sex.
A part of our celebration includes a certain
level of coming out. Whether we
participate in gay pride activities or read
gay/lesbian novels in the comfort (and
safety) of our own homes is largely a
personal decision.
Many of us have reason to fear coming
(and going) out. But today is a different
day. Lesbianism is chic - the "in thing" as
movies, television shows, and entertainers
celebrate womyn loving womyn. AIDS
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t.o •h
have pushed the gay commum.y
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forefront as we continue to fight what is no
longer considered just a gay man's disease.
About the town, we are beginning to fly
rainbow flags on our car windows, our
front porches, our storefronts, and even on
the clothes we wear.
We talk about GAY PRIDE and HUMAN
RIGHTS, but do we really know what they
mean? PRIDE results when we have a
positive sense of self and community.
RIGHTS happen more quickly when we
join as one.

Get involved with YOUR community,
today!
Great things are coming to Tulsa. As 1995
comes to an end, expect to sec something
very special happening in our community.
You' II want to be a part of the excitement!

Make plans
now to
attend the
CommUNITY meeting on November 7th at
7:00 PM (Alan Chapman Activity Center Choteau Room, Tulsa University).
Meet leaders from the many organizations
dedicated to providing services for Tulsa's
gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgendered
communities. Cast your vote for next year's
tohr leadership, and participate in round
table discussions designed to bring UNITY
to our Community.

Together we can make Tulsa a great
place to come (and go) out. 1-h

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Number 10

October 1995
Newsletter of the Tulsa Chapter of Parents, Family, and Friends
of Lesbians and Gays
P.O. Box 52800 Tulsa, OK 74152
Help line (918) 749-4901
Lynn Mostoller, editor
Regular Meetings Second Monday of the Month
Family AIDS Support Groups: First and Third Wednesday of the month
and First and Third Thursdays of the Month

OCTOBER MEETING

Monday, October 9, 1995
Quadrangle Building
4154 South Harvard
Suite H
Look for the entrance on the north side of the building-''The Gathering Place"
6:30 - 7:45 pm
PFLAG 101 and PFLAG 102
PFLAG 101 is a group designed to support new parents and
members as they begin their journey to accepting and supporting
their lesbian and gay loved ones.
PF LAG 102 is a new group for those who have "graduated" from
PFLAG 101, but who would like to meet in a small, supportive setting
to discuss matters and topics on a more personal level than is
sometimes possible in the larger, general meeting. Everyone is
invited to attend.

SPOUSES, led by Carolyn Wood, is a new group forming to
support straight spouses of gays and lesbians.

7:00 - 8:00 pm
Social and Refreshments
8:00 pm
General Meeting & Program
The program for the October meeting will feature
presentations and training sessions for Project Open
Mind. Public relations and media experts from the
National PFLAG office will be on hand to present the
project details. The TV ads that have been prepared for
Tulsa's prime time viewing audience will be shown, and
our training for this exciting project will begin. Come
and be a part of this incredible opportunity. See inside
for more details.

CALENDAR
SEPTEMBER 28, 1995 (Thursday)
1995 Family to Family HELPLINE
(1-800-24 PFLA G)
See inside for details.
SEPTEMBER 29 THRU
OCTOBER 1 (Friday - Sunday)
INDY 95 PFLAG CONVENTION
SEPTEMBER 30, 1995 (Saturday)
AIDS Walk Tulsa '95, Walk This Way
Boulder Park
9:00 am Registration
10:00 am Step Off
1:00 pm Jaycees' Battle of the Bands
OCTOBER 4, 1995 (Wednesday)
Established Family AIDS Support Group
6:30pm
OCTOBER 5, 1995 (Thursday)
New Family AIDS Support Group
6:30pm
Call (918) 749-4901 for more info.
OCTOBER 9, 1995 (Monday)
PFLAG General Meeting
See left for details.
OCTOBER 13 THRU 15, 1995
(Friday - Sunday)
AIDS Memorial Quilt Returns to·Tulsa
OCTOBER 18, 1995 (Wednesday)
Established Family AIDS Support Group
6:30pm
OCTOBER 19, 1995 (Thursday)
New Family AIDS Support Group
6:30pm

PFLAG

The 1995 Family
to Family
HELPLINE
(1-800-24 PFLAG)
Family to Family is a
one Day, national toll
free help line for
people who have
recently learned that
their child , family
member or friend is,
or might be gay.
Family to Family puts
callers in one on one
confidential contact
with parents, families
and friends of lesbian
and gay men and
select professional
counselors. The
date- is Thursday,
September 28,
1995

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The Quilt Returns to Tulsa
The Tulsa Chapter, Names Project, announces that a major display of
the Quilt will be in Tulsa on October 13 through the 15, 1995. The display of
the Quilt will be at a new location, the Expo Square Pavilion on·the Tulsa
State Fairgrounds. There will be approximately 800 panels on display.
PFLAG will participate in the unfolding of the Quilt. If you would like to be a
member of the team, please call Nancy at 742-8565.

Project Open Mind
Tulsa, OK, has been chosen as one of three cities (along with Atlanta, GA,
and Houston, TX) to pilot Project Open Mind. This project, designed and
supported by PFLAG's National Organization, will focus on addressing the
homophobia that exists in a community. Through a multimedia (radio, TV,
print, forums, speaking engagements, etc.) educational program we hope to
reach Tulsa's "mushy middle" on gay/lesbian/bi issues. Tulsa's PFLAG
chapter can look forward to special media training, materials for TV and
radio, and access to national staff support.

Are You a PFLAG Member?
Hopefully, you feel that our organization is worth supporting and that you
enjoy receiving this newsletter. This organization has continued to grow
because there are people out there who need the support PFLAG offer~. As
an organization, we are completely staffed by volunteers. Your
membership fee is not a luxury to us--it is essential for our survival.
Please use the form below to renew your membership with PFLAG Tulsa.

1995/1996 Dues Are Due!!!
(Clip and Mail to PFLAG, PO Box 52800, Tulsa, OK 74152)

MEMBERSHIPS:
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$20.00

$8.00 of your dues will be sent to National PFLAG to
enable you to receive the FLAGPOLE, the national
quarterly newsletter. The PFLAG pole is mailed to your
home. If you do not want receive the newsletter at your
hove, please check the box _ _ . The words, "Parents,
Families, and Friends of Lesbians and Gays: will appear on
the return address of the PFLAG Pole.

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PFLAG

Urgent Responses Needed on Legislative
Activity!!
Congress has returned from its August recess and is
planning to consider several pieces of legislation of critical
importance to our community. We cannot pinpoint when
they will do so, but we can prepare you to respond.
Please read this Action Alert carefully and take action using
the information the Human Rights Campaign Fund has
provided.
Issue #1:
Critical AIDS Care, Prevention and Education
Programs At Risk!!
During the seek of September 11-15, the Senate
Appropriations Committee and its Labor, Health and
Human Services Subcommittee will take up the UHHS/Ed
appropriations bill which determines FY '96 funding levels
for most federal HIV/AIDS, health and education
programs including: The Ryan White CARE Act, HIV
Prevention; and the Office of AIDS Research (OAR).
Thereafter, the full Senate will consider the bill on the
Senate floor and vote on any amendments.
In the past years, Senator Jesse Helms (R-NC) has
introduced amendments to the L/HHS/Ed bill which
attempt to restrict the content of HIV prevention messages
and youth's access to contraceptives. And, just last
month, Helms introduced an amendment to the Ryan
White CARE Act to deny funds to community-based
organizations that "Promote Homosexuality." Such
amendments single out the gay and lesbian community for
discrimination by denying them life-saving HIV/AIDS
medical care, prevention information and counseling.
Urge your Senators to Oppose any Anti-gay
Amendments!
Call your Senators through the Senate switchboard at
202-224-3121 and urge them to oppose all amendments to
the UHHS/Ed bill offered by Helms or others that single
out the gay and lesbian community for discrimination.
Ask your Senator to speak out on the Senate floor in
support of life-saving HIV/AIDS programs.

Oklahoma Congressional Delegation
U.S. Senator Don Nickles
133 Hart
U.S. Senate
Washington, D.C. 20510
202-224-5754

3310 Mid-Continent Tower
409 So. Boston
Tulsa, OK 74103
918-581-7651
U.S. Senator Jim Inhofe
453 Russell
U.S. Senate
Washington, D.C. 20510
202-224-4721

1924 So. Utica, Suite 530
Tulsa, OK 74104
918-748-5111

U.S. Rep. Steve Largent
410Cannon
U .5. House of Reps.
Washington, D.C. 20515
202-225-2211

2424 East 21st, Suite 510
Tulsa, OK 74114
918-749-0014
U.S.Rep. Tom Coburn
511Cannon
U .5. House of Reps.
Washington, D.C. 20515
202-225-2701

215 State Street, Suite 815
Muskogee, OK 74401
918-687-2533

others may introduce amendments to the bill that would
deny critical HIV/AIDS medical care to the gay and lesbian
community.
Urge your Senators to Oppose any Anti-gay
Amendments!
Call your Representative through the House switchboard at
202-225-3121 and urge them to oppose all amendments
offered to HR 1872 that would deny critical HIV/AIDS
medical care to the gay and lesbian community. Ask your
Representative to speak out on the House floor in support
of this life-saving program.

Issue #3
Anti-gay Hearings on School Programs
Planned!!
Anti-gay extremist Lou Sheldon, the head of the
Traditional Values Coalition, has succeeded in pressuring
Congress to hold hearings on public school programs
which deal with issues of sexual orientation. Sheldon will
Issue #2
use this forum to attack programs that he clams "promote"
homosexuality
but which, in fact, are modest programs,
Ryan White CARE Act Expires on September 30!
The Ryan White CARE Act provides essential lifeadopted by local communities, to respond to an epidemic
sustaining medical and support services to more than
of violence and discrimination that affect all st1,1dents.
350,000 women, men and children living with HIV and
The issue of the "homosexual agenda in schools" will
be part of a hearing entitled "Parental Involvement in
AIDS in communities across America It empowers local
communities to decide how dollars should be spent and is Social Issues in Education" to be held by Rep. Peter
cost-effective, reducing costly hospitalizations and
Hoekstra (R-MI), Chair of the House Oversight and
emergency room care. AIDS is now the number one killer Investigations subcommittee of the Economic and
of all Americans age 25-44. Now, more than ever, we
Educational Opportunities Committee. The hearings were
need the CARE Act, but it will expire at the end of
originally scheduled for September 12, but have been
September unless it is renewed or reauthorized!
postponed, to the end of September or early October.
Urge Chairman Hoekstra to cancel the hearing!!
HR 1872, the CARE Act reauthorization bill was
Please call Chairman Hoekstra at 202-225-4401 to
reported to the House floor by a unanimous, bipartisan
vote in the Commerce Committee. However, we are now urge him to cancel these inflammatory hearings!
concerned that Representative Bob Doman (R-CA) and

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ABOUT PFLAG
Parents, Family, and Friends of Lesbians and
Gays (PFIAG) is a not for profit, tax exempt, all
volunteer, community-based organization of
parents, other relatives and friends of lesbian
and gay persons. PFIAG is not affiliated with
any ethnic, religious or political group.
PFIAG/ Tulsa is a member of the international
fe deration of the same name.
OUR PURPOSES AND GOALS ARE TO:
T Pr ovide a support system for families and
friends of lesbians and gay men in an effort to
understand, accept and support their children
with love and pride,
T Provide education for individuals and the
community at large on the nature of
hom osexuality, and
T Support the full human and civil rights of
lesbians· and gay men.

We gratefully accept advertising from
those who wish to market their goods &
services to our members, space
permitting. As a non-profit organization,
however, we do not endorse any
business enterprise.

Established Family AIDS Support Group
Wednesday, October 4, 1995 &
Wednesday, October 18, 1995
6:30 pm
HIV Resource Center
4154 South Harvard
Suite H

New Family AIDS Support Group
Thursday, October 5, 1995 &
Thursday, October 19, 1995
Call 749-4901 for
Location and Time

PFLAG/ Tulsa's Family AIDS Project, HIVRC, and the Tulsa
Visiting Nurses Association now provide tw~ ~imo~thly support
groups for families wit~ ~embers who a~e living with HIV/AIDS.
These sessions are facilitated by professional counselors who have
experience in AIDS related concerns. If you or a loved one are
dealing with HIV/AIDS you are most welcome at these meetings .
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Many may wonder why a human rights organization
manages the only anonymous HIV testing clil!ic in
northeastern Oklahoma. Perhaps a visit to the past
and a look at the present might explain.
In the mid-to-late 80's when AIDS was first
becoming a regular part of our Oklahoma
vocabulary, tohr was one of the few organizations
already positioned to provide HIV prevention
activities. Tp.e first Testing/Counseling pro!,_'Tam was
developed in response to what tohr believed wa<; a
fundamental human right - the right to be tested for
the HIV virus in an anonymous fa<Jhion. Who better
to protect the rights and anonymity of Tulsa's gay,
lesbian, and bisexual community than the city's
oldest gay and lesbian organization?
Today, the work of the clinic is greatly expanded.
Testing and counseling continue on an anonymous
basis while outreach workers provide prevention
information to gay men, youth, and women.
Although many organizations
now
provide
Inv/ AIDS services, tohr remains steadfast in its
goal of providing some HIV services by and for,
(but not exclusively for) the gay, lesbian, and
bisexual comm unity.
Programs like the newly established Positively
Negative continue to provide prevention services
specifically designed to meet the needs of the gay
and bisexual men. Positively Negative is one of the
first programs in the Nation to explore a new
method for promoting the prevention of HIV.

tohr was originally chartered to: (1) bring a,1 emf to
discrimination and oppression against all persons
based 011 sexual or affectional orie11tatio11 or
preference; (2) to e11courage freedom of expression
of affectional orientatio11 or preference; (3) to
obtain equal treatment under the law for all perso11s
regardless of sexual orientation or preference; (4) to
discourage prejudice or stereotypical treatment by
officials and 11ews media 011 account of sexual

orientation or prefere11ce; (5) to educate the general
public about human rights; (6) to provide a forum
for the discussion of human rights issues, a11d; (7) to
disseminate information 011 such issues to its
members and to the general public.
Some may argue that our mission is not in line with
our two HIV programs (prevention and anonymous
testing). Prevention for the members of our
community benefits all of us. Secondly, many of the
battles fought on behalf of individuals living with
HIV or AIDS have also been batlles related to
discrimination based on sexual orientation . No
matter how much we would like to separate the
disease from the reality of our sexuality - a primary
mode of transmission is through sexual activity . The
very nature of exposure often leads to many
individuals being "outed." Discriminatory treatment
related to HIV is largely based on fear. It is also
based on the fact that until recently, AIDS was
considered a "gay disease ."
Past comments from leaders of the religious right
have forced us to address the human rights of
persons who were not only IIIV + but who were
also gay. "AIDS is God's way of destroying
homosexuals" becomes a battle cry for the gay,
lesbian, and bisexual community, a<; well as for all
those working in the area of HIV/AIDS.
Gay, lesbian, and bisexual comm1111ities across the
Nation are now credited as being the protectors of
rights, the providers of hope, and the promoters of
services for persons living with I IIV or AIDS,
regardless of their sexual orientatiou.
With all this behiud us and so much more before us,
the real questiou may be: "How can tohrJS.QI have
a visible presence in the area of HIV/AIDS?" j/1

PROJECT OPEN MIND
The October 3rd meeting of tohr will
feature PF LAG' s Project Open Mind. The
Tulsa PFLAG was chosen as one of three
Project Open Mind sites nationwiue. Hear
the history of the Project, find out the
exciting things to come, and learn more
about how you might help PFLAG with
this important Project. (See the PFLAG
newsletter for additional
information
regarding Project Open Mind .)
The meeting will begin at 7:00 PM at the
Gathering Place, 4154 South Harvard. A
short business meeting, including the
nominating committee's presentation of the
1996 tohr slate of officer candidates, will
be held prior to the program. ~h

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memberships are due on August 1, 1995, tohr
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If you've not sent your membership - please do so
today and invite 3 friend to join you!
Please detach and mail to: P.O. Box 52729, Tulsa,
OK 74152
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Say No to Hate

ALL COMMUNITY DANCE
Saturday October 21, 1995
8:00 PM to Midnight
Park Plaza Shopping Center - 61st and Sheridan
Community Room - Behind Charleston Bay
(Look for the purple ribbon)

61st and Sheridan
$3.00/single, $5.00/couple
(Costumes Optional)

A week of "Say No to Hate" activities are
currently being planned for October 16 -20 ,
1995. Friday October 20 has been
dedicated to Say No to Racism and Hate
Crimes. Activities (tentatively scheduled)
include an 11:30 AM "march" from the
north side of the Martin Luther King bridge
to the Cultural Center on Greenwood. This
is a chance for the gay and lesbian
community of Tulsa to join with others and
have a presence in saying no to hate
crimes. Complete details will be available
by calling the Helpline at 743-GAYS after
October 5th.
UCO Women's Research & BGLTQt Center

100 N. University Dr
Edmond, OK 73034

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The Third Annual Boo Bash - Benefitting RAIN
October 28 at The Silver Star
Mr. Oklahoma Leather Contest
November 4 at The Silver Star

Hoisting the Banner of Color
A Regional HIV Pre,·ention Education and
Substance Abuse Conference. October 9-10. OKC.
Contact Dennis Green at CarePoint. Inc. for
information 1-800-285-2273.
Creating Change
The National Conference for the Gay. Lesbian.
Bisexual. and Transgender Movement. November
10-12. Detroit. MI. Call 202-332-6438 for
information

Other Activities
Phillip Morris/Virginia Slims Legends Tennis
Tournament - Implemented by the National AIDS
Fund and benefitting CarePoint, Inc . - OKC
Concerts
October 6th - Gladys Knight and Regina Belle
October 7th - Barbara Mandrell and Martina
McBride
Tennis
October 7 & 8 - featuring Martina Navratilova, Bille
Jean King, Chris Evert, and many more
Call CarePoint for more information
1-800-232 2273 or 405-232-2437
National Coming Out Day
Service at Family of Faith - MCC
5451 -E South Mingo
October 11, 1995 Cal l 622-1441 for details
Their Legacy Lives On ... The NAMES Project
AIDS Memorial Quilt Display
Opening ceremonies 6:30 PM Friday October 13
October 13 - 15 at the Tulsa Fairgrounds Pavilion
Building
Women 's Supper Club• Picnic at Zink Park
on 31st between Utica and Peoria
Bring a covered dish and a yard game
October 15th, Call 7-B-GA YS for more info
Coming Out Scary Dance - October 21st
See this issue for additional information
Her/and Fall Retreat
October 27-29, Fountainhead State Park
Call 405-521-9696 for information

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COMING SOON
GAY TULSA: A guide to businesses serving
the Gay , Lesbian, Bisexual, and Trans gendered
Community of Tulsa and the Surrounding
Areas. Watch for it in October
Red Ribbon Treefest
December 3, 1995 - Watch for additional
information in next month's Community News
All Community Holiday Party
sponsored by tohr
December 8, 1995 - Watch for additional
information in next month's Community News

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RING, RING - ANSWER THE PHONE.
Tulsa's Gay and Lesbian Helpline needs~
help. Approximately 10 volunteers are currently
needed to answer the Helpline and provide
information and assistance to members of our
community and visitors to the Tulsa area. If
you have been looking for a special way to
help get information and assistance to Tulsa's
Gay and Lesbian community, TffiS IS IT!
Call the Helpline at 743-GA YS and leave a
message for the Helpline Coordinator.

AJte1·nath e Activities and Resources may not reflect a
complete listing of resources and activities . If we have
failed to include your specific resource or event. we
apologize. Future information to be included in this listing
should he sent to Co mmunity News. P.O. Box 5'.'.729.
Tulsa, OK 74152 or faxed to 918-584-4541. Submission
deadline is the 15th ot every month .

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volume 1, Issue 4

October 1995

Coming (and Going) Out
In the gay 90's many of us have finally
begun to celebrate who we are: men and
women who enjoy life, have children, pay
taxes, go to church, work, play, and yes,
love individuals of the same sex.
A part of our celebration includes a certain
level of coming out. Whether we
participate in gay pride activities or read
gay/lesbian novels in the comfort (and
safety) of our own homes is largely a
personal decision.
Many of us have reason to fear coming
(and going) out. But today is a different
day. Lesbianism is chic - the "in thing" as
movies, television shows, and entertainers
celebrate womyn loving womyn. AIDS
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t.o •h
have pushed the gay commum.y
•. e
forefront as we continue to fight what is no
longer considered just a gay man's disease.
About the town, we are beginning to fly
rainbow flags on our car windows, our
front porches, our storefronts, and even on
the clothes we wear.
We talk about GAY PRIDE and HUMAN
RIGHTS, but do we really know what they
mean? PRIDE results when we have a
positive sense of self and community.
RIGHTS happen more quickly when we
join as one.

Get involved with YOUR community,
today!
Great things are coming to Tulsa. As 1995
comes to an end, expect to sec something
very special happening in our community.
You' II want to be a part of the excitement!

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now to
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CommUNITY meeting on November 7th at
7:00 PM (Alan Chapman Activity Center Choteau Room, Tulsa University).
Meet leaders from the many organizations
dedicated to providing services for Tulsa's
gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgendered
communities. Cast your vote for next year's
tohr leadership, and participate in round
table discussions designed to bring UNITY
to our Community.

Together we can make Tulsa a great
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Number 10

October 1995
Newsletter of the Tulsa Chapter of Parents, Family, and Friends
of Lesbians and Gays
P.O. Box 52800 Tulsa, OK 74152
Help line (918) 749-4901
Lynn Mostoller, editor
Regular Meetings Second Monday of the Month
Family AIDS Support Groups: First and Third Wednesday of the month
and First and Third Thursdays of the Month

OCTOBER MEETING

Monday, October 9, 1995
Quadrangle Building
4154 South Harvard
Suite H
Look for the entrance on the north side of the building-''The Gathering Place"
6:30 - 7:45 pm
PFLAG 101 and PFLAG 102
PFLAG 101 is a group designed to support new parents and
members as they begin their journey to accepting and supporting
their lesbian and gay loved ones.
PF LAG 102 is a new group for those who have "graduated" from
PFLAG 101, but who would like to meet in a small, supportive setting
to discuss matters and topics on a more personal level than is
sometimes possible in the larger, general meeting. Everyone is
invited to attend.

SPOUSES, led by Carolyn Wood, is a new group forming to
support straight spouses of gays and lesbians.

7:00 - 8:00 pm
Social and Refreshments
8:00 pm
General Meeting & Program
The program for the October meeting will feature
presentations and training sessions for Project Open
Mind. Public relations and media experts from the
National PFLAG office will be on hand to present the
project details. The TV ads that have been prepared for
Tulsa's prime time viewing audience will be shown, and
our training for this exciting project will begin. Come
and be a part of this incredible opportunity. See inside
for more details.

CALENDAR
SEPTEMBER 28, 1995 (Thursday)
1995 Family to Family HELPLINE
(1-800-24 PFLA G)
See inside for details.
SEPTEMBER 29 THRU
OCTOBER 1 (Friday - Sunday)
INDY 95 PFLAG CONVENTION
SEPTEMBER 30, 1995 (Saturday)
AIDS Walk Tulsa '95, Walk This Way
Boulder Park
9:00 am Registration
10:00 am Step Off
1:00 pm Jaycees' Battle of the Bands
OCTOBER 4, 1995 (Wednesday)
Established Family AIDS Support Group
6:30pm
OCTOBER 5, 1995 (Thursday)
New Family AIDS Support Group
6:30pm
Call (918) 749-4901 for more info.
OCTOBER 9, 1995 (Monday)
PFLAG General Meeting
See left for details.
OCTOBER 13 THRU 15, 1995
(Friday - Sunday)
AIDS Memorial Quilt Returns to·Tulsa
OCTOBER 18, 1995 (Wednesday)
Established Family AIDS Support Group
6:30pm
OCTOBER 19, 1995 (Thursday)
New Family AIDS Support Group
6:30pm

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The 1995 Family
to Family
HELPLINE
(1-800-24 PFLAG)
Family to Family is a
one Day, national toll
free help line for
people who have
recently learned that
their child , family
member or friend is,
or might be gay.
Family to Family puts
callers in one on one
confidential contact
with parents, families
and friends of lesbian
and gay men and
select professional
counselors. The
date- is Thursday,
September 28,
1995

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The Quilt Returns to Tulsa
The Tulsa Chapter, Names Project, announces that a major display of
the Quilt will be in Tulsa on October 13 through the 15, 1995. The display of
the Quilt will be at a new location, the Expo Square Pavilion on·the Tulsa
State Fairgrounds. There will be approximately 800 panels on display.
PFLAG will participate in the unfolding of the Quilt. If you would like to be a
member of the team, please call Nancy at 742-8565.

Project Open Mind
Tulsa, OK, has been chosen as one of three cities (along with Atlanta, GA,
and Houston, TX) to pilot Project Open Mind. This project, designed and
supported by PFLAG's National Organization, will focus on addressing the
homophobia that exists in a community. Through a multimedia (radio, TV,
print, forums, speaking engagements, etc.) educational program we hope to
reach Tulsa's "mushy middle" on gay/lesbian/bi issues. Tulsa's PFLAG
chapter can look forward to special media training, materials for TV and
radio, and access to national staff support.

Are You a PFLAG Member?
Hopefully, you feel that our organization is worth supporting and that you
enjoy receiving this newsletter. This organization has continued to grow
because there are people out there who need the support PFLAG offer~. As
an organization, we are completely staffed by volunteers. Your
membership fee is not a luxury to us--it is essential for our survival.
Please use the form below to renew your membership with PFLAG Tulsa.

1995/1996 Dues Are Due!!!
(Clip and Mail to PFLAG, PO Box 52800, Tulsa, OK 74152)

MEMBERSHIPS:
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enable you to receive the FLAGPOLE, the national
quarterly newsletter. The PFLAG pole is mailed to your
home. If you do not want receive the newsletter at your
hove, please check the box _ _ . The words, "Parents,
Families, and Friends of Lesbians and Gays: will appear on
the return address of the PFLAG Pole.

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PFLAG

Urgent Responses Needed on Legislative
Activity!!
Congress has returned from its August recess and is
planning to consider several pieces of legislation of critical
importance to our community. We cannot pinpoint when
they will do so, but we can prepare you to respond.
Please read this Action Alert carefully and take action using
the information the Human Rights Campaign Fund has
provided.
Issue #1:
Critical AIDS Care, Prevention and Education
Programs At Risk!!
During the seek of September 11-15, the Senate
Appropriations Committee and its Labor, Health and
Human Services Subcommittee will take up the UHHS/Ed
appropriations bill which determines FY '96 funding levels
for most federal HIV/AIDS, health and education
programs including: The Ryan White CARE Act, HIV
Prevention; and the Office of AIDS Research (OAR).
Thereafter, the full Senate will consider the bill on the
Senate floor and vote on any amendments.
In the past years, Senator Jesse Helms (R-NC) has
introduced amendments to the L/HHS/Ed bill which
attempt to restrict the content of HIV prevention messages
and youth's access to contraceptives. And, just last
month, Helms introduced an amendment to the Ryan
White CARE Act to deny funds to community-based
organizations that "Promote Homosexuality." Such
amendments single out the gay and lesbian community for
discrimination by denying them life-saving HIV/AIDS
medical care, prevention information and counseling.
Urge your Senators to Oppose any Anti-gay
Amendments!
Call your Senators through the Senate switchboard at
202-224-3121 and urge them to oppose all amendments to
the UHHS/Ed bill offered by Helms or others that single
out the gay and lesbian community for discrimination.
Ask your Senator to speak out on the Senate floor in
support of life-saving HIV/AIDS programs.

Oklahoma Congressional Delegation
U.S. Senator Don Nickles
133 Hart
U.S. Senate
Washington, D.C. 20510
202-224-5754

3310 Mid-Continent Tower
409 So. Boston
Tulsa, OK 74103
918-581-7651
U.S. Senator Jim Inhofe
453 Russell
U.S. Senate
Washington, D.C. 20510
202-224-4721

1924 So. Utica, Suite 530
Tulsa, OK 74104
918-748-5111

U.S. Rep. Steve Largent
410Cannon
U .5. House of Reps.
Washington, D.C. 20515
202-225-2211

2424 East 21st, Suite 510
Tulsa, OK 74114
918-749-0014
U.S.Rep. Tom Coburn
511Cannon
U .5. House of Reps.
Washington, D.C. 20515
202-225-2701

215 State Street, Suite 815
Muskogee, OK 74401
918-687-2533

others may introduce amendments to the bill that would
deny critical HIV/AIDS medical care to the gay and lesbian
community.
Urge your Senators to Oppose any Anti-gay
Amendments!
Call your Representative through the House switchboard at
202-225-3121 and urge them to oppose all amendments
offered to HR 1872 that would deny critical HIV/AIDS
medical care to the gay and lesbian community. Ask your
Representative to speak out on the House floor in support
of this life-saving program.

Issue #3
Anti-gay Hearings on School Programs
Planned!!
Anti-gay extremist Lou Sheldon, the head of the
Traditional Values Coalition, has succeeded in pressuring
Congress to hold hearings on public school programs
which deal with issues of sexual orientation. Sheldon will
Issue #2
use this forum to attack programs that he clams "promote"
homosexuality
but which, in fact, are modest programs,
Ryan White CARE Act Expires on September 30!
The Ryan White CARE Act provides essential lifeadopted by local communities, to respond to an epidemic
sustaining medical and support services to more than
of violence and discrimination that affect all st1,1dents.
350,000 women, men and children living with HIV and
The issue of the "homosexual agenda in schools" will
be part of a hearing entitled "Parental Involvement in
AIDS in communities across America It empowers local
communities to decide how dollars should be spent and is Social Issues in Education" to be held by Rep. Peter
cost-effective, reducing costly hospitalizations and
Hoekstra (R-MI), Chair of the House Oversight and
emergency room care. AIDS is now the number one killer Investigations subcommittee of the Economic and
of all Americans age 25-44. Now, more than ever, we
Educational Opportunities Committee. The hearings were
need the CARE Act, but it will expire at the end of
originally scheduled for September 12, but have been
September unless it is renewed or reauthorized!
postponed, to the end of September or early October.
Urge Chairman Hoekstra to cancel the hearing!!
HR 1872, the CARE Act reauthorization bill was
Please call Chairman Hoekstra at 202-225-4401 to
reported to the House floor by a unanimous, bipartisan
vote in the Commerce Committee. However, we are now urge him to cancel these inflammatory hearings!
concerned that Representative Bob Doman (R-CA) and

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ABOUT PFLAG
Parents, Family, and Friends of Lesbians and
Gays (PFIAG) is a not for profit, tax exempt, all
volunteer, community-based organization of
parents, other relatives and friends of lesbian
and gay persons. PFIAG is not affiliated with
any ethnic, religious or political group.
PFIAG/ Tulsa is a member of the international
fe deration of the same name.
OUR PURPOSES AND GOALS ARE TO:
T Pr ovide a support system for families and
friends of lesbians and gay men in an effort to
understand, accept and support their children
with love and pride,
T Provide education for individuals and the
community at large on the nature of
hom osexuality, and
T Support the full human and civil rights of
lesbians· and gay men.

We gratefully accept advertising from
those who wish to market their goods &
services to our members, space
permitting. As a non-profit organization,
however, we do not endorse any
business enterprise.

Established Family AIDS Support Group
Wednesday, October 4, 1995 &
Wednesday, October 18, 1995
6:30 pm
HIV Resource Center
4154 South Harvard
Suite H

New Family AIDS Support Group
Thursday, October 5, 1995 &
Thursday, October 19, 1995
Call 749-4901 for
Location and Time

PFLAG/ Tulsa's Family AIDS Project, HIVRC, and the Tulsa
Visiting Nurses Association now provide tw~ ~imo~thly support
groups for families wit~ ~embers who a~e living with HIV/AIDS.
These sessions are facilitated by professional counselors who have
experience in AIDS related concerns. If you or a loved one are
dealing with HIV/AIDS you are most welcome at these meetings .
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Many may wonder why a human rights organization
manages the only anonymous HIV testing clil!ic in
northeastern Oklahoma. Perhaps a visit to the past
and a look at the present might explain.
In the mid-to-late 80's when AIDS was first
becoming a regular part of our Oklahoma
vocabulary, tohr was one of the few organizations
already positioned to provide HIV prevention
activities. Tp.e first Testing/Counseling pro!,_'Tam was
developed in response to what tohr believed wa<; a
fundamental human right - the right to be tested for
the HIV virus in an anonymous fa<Jhion. Who better
to protect the rights and anonymity of Tulsa's gay,
lesbian, and bisexual community than the city's
oldest gay and lesbian organization?
Today, the work of the clinic is greatly expanded.
Testing and counseling continue on an anonymous
basis while outreach workers provide prevention
information to gay men, youth, and women.
Although many organizations
now
provide
Inv/ AIDS services, tohr remains steadfast in its
goal of providing some HIV services by and for,
(but not exclusively for) the gay, lesbian, and
bisexual comm unity.
Programs like the newly established Positively
Negative continue to provide prevention services
specifically designed to meet the needs of the gay
and bisexual men. Positively Negative is one of the
first programs in the Nation to explore a new
method for promoting the prevention of HIV.

tohr was originally chartered to: (1) bring a,1 emf to
discrimination and oppression against all persons
based 011 sexual or affectional orie11tatio11 or
preference; (2) to e11courage freedom of expression
of affectional orientatio11 or preference; (3) to
obtain equal treatment under the law for all perso11s
regardless of sexual orientation or preference; (4) to
discourage prejudice or stereotypical treatment by
officials and 11ews media 011 account of sexual

orientation or prefere11ce; (5) to educate the general
public about human rights; (6) to provide a forum
for the discussion of human rights issues, a11d; (7) to
disseminate information 011 such issues to its
members and to the general public.
Some may argue that our mission is not in line with
our two HIV programs (prevention and anonymous
testing). Prevention for the members of our
community benefits all of us. Secondly, many of the
battles fought on behalf of individuals living with
HIV or AIDS have also been batlles related to
discrimination based on sexual orientation . No
matter how much we would like to separate the
disease from the reality of our sexuality - a primary
mode of transmission is through sexual activity . The
very nature of exposure often leads to many
individuals being "outed." Discriminatory treatment
related to HIV is largely based on fear. It is also
based on the fact that until recently, AIDS was
considered a "gay disease ."
Past comments from leaders of the religious right
have forced us to address the human rights of
persons who were not only IIIV + but who were
also gay. "AIDS is God's way of destroying
homosexuals" becomes a battle cry for the gay,
lesbian, and bisexual community, a<; well as for all
those working in the area of HIV/AIDS.
Gay, lesbian, and bisexual comm1111ities across the
Nation are now credited as being the protectors of
rights, the providers of hope, and the promoters of
services for persons living with I IIV or AIDS,
regardless of their sexual orientatiou.
With all this behiud us and so much more before us,
the real questiou may be: "How can tohrJS.QI have
a visible presence in the area of HIV/AIDS?" j/1

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The October 3rd meeting of tohr will
feature PF LAG' s Project Open Mind. The
Tulsa PFLAG was chosen as one of three
Project Open Mind sites nationwiue. Hear
the history of the Project, find out the
exciting things to come, and learn more
about how you might help PFLAG with
this important Project. (See the PFLAG
newsletter for additional
information
regarding Project Open Mind .)
The meeting will begin at 7:00 PM at the
Gathering Place, 4154 South Harvard. A
short business meeting, including the
nominating committee's presentation of the
1996 tohr slate of officer candidates, will
be held prior to the program. ~h

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Say No to Hate

ALL COMMUNITY DANCE
Saturday October 21, 1995
8:00 PM to Midnight
Park Plaza Shopping Center - 61st and Sheridan
Community Room - Behind Charleston Bay
(Look for the purple ribbon)

61st and Sheridan
$3.00/single, $5.00/couple
(Costumes Optional)

A week of "Say No to Hate" activities are
currently being planned for October 16 -20 ,
1995. Friday October 20 has been
dedicated to Say No to Racism and Hate
Crimes. Activities (tentatively scheduled)
include an 11:30 AM "march" from the
north side of the Martin Luther King bridge
to the Cultural Center on Greenwood. This
is a chance for the gay and lesbian
community of Tulsa to join with others and
have a presence in saying no to hate
crimes. Complete details will be available
by calling the Helpline at 743-GAYS after
October 5th.
UCO Women's Research & BGLTQt Center

100 N. University Dr
Edmond, OK 73034

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The Third Annual Boo Bash - Benefitting RAIN
October 28 at The Silver Star
Mr. Oklahoma Leather Contest
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Hoisting the Banner of Color
A Regional HIV Pre,·ention Education and
Substance Abuse Conference. October 9-10. OKC.
Contact Dennis Green at CarePoint. Inc. for
information 1-800-285-2273.
Creating Change
The National Conference for the Gay. Lesbian.
Bisexual. and Transgender Movement. November
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Phillip Morris/Virginia Slims Legends Tennis
Tournament - Implemented by the National AIDS
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Concerts
October 6th - Gladys Knight and Regina Belle
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McBride
Tennis
October 7 & 8 - featuring Martina Navratilova, Bille
Jean King, Chris Evert, and many more
Call CarePoint for more information
1-800-232 2273 or 405-232-2437
National Coming Out Day
Service at Family of Faith - MCC
5451 -E South Mingo
October 11, 1995 Cal l 622-1441 for details
Their Legacy Lives On ... The NAMES Project
AIDS Memorial Quilt Display
Opening ceremonies 6:30 PM Friday October 13
October 13 - 15 at the Tulsa Fairgrounds Pavilion
Building
Women 's Supper Club• Picnic at Zink Park
on 31st between Utica and Peoria
Bring a covered dish and a yard game
October 15th, Call 7-B-GA YS for more info
Coming Out Scary Dance - October 21st
See this issue for additional information
Her/and Fall Retreat
October 27-29, Fountainhead State Park
Call 405-521-9696 for information

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COMING SOON
GAY TULSA: A guide to businesses serving
the Gay , Lesbian, Bisexual, and Trans gendered
Community of Tulsa and the Surrounding
Areas. Watch for it in October
Red Ribbon Treefest
December 3, 1995 - Watch for additional
information in next month's Community News
All Community Holiday Party
sponsored by tohr
December 8, 1995 - Watch for additional
information in next month's Community News

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RING, RING - ANSWER THE PHONE.
Tulsa's Gay and Lesbian Helpline needs~
help. Approximately 10 volunteers are currently
needed to answer the Helpline and provide
information and assistance to members of our
community and visitors to the Tulsa area. If
you have been looking for a special way to
help get information and assistance to Tulsa's
Gay and Lesbian community, TffiS IS IT!
Call the Helpline at 743-GA YS and leave a
message for the Helpline Coordinator.

AJte1·nath e Activities and Resources may not reflect a
complete listing of resources and activities . If we have
failed to include your specific resource or event. we
apologize. Future information to be included in this listing
should he sent to Co mmunity News. P.O. Box 5'.'.729.
Tulsa, OK 74152 or faxed to 918-584-4541. Submission
deadline is the 15th ot every month .

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volume 1, Issue 4

October 1995

Coming (and Going) Out
In the gay 90's many of us have finally
begun to celebrate who we are: men and
women who enjoy life, have children, pay
taxes, go to church, work, play, and yes,
love individuals of the same sex.
A part of our celebration includes a certain
level of coming out. Whether we
participate in gay pride activities or read
gay/lesbian novels in the comfort (and
safety) of our own homes is largely a
personal decision.
Many of us have reason to fear coming
(and going) out. But today is a different
day. Lesbianism is chic - the "in thing" as
movies, television shows, and entertainers
celebrate womyn loving womyn. AIDS
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t.o •h
have pushed the gay commum.y
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forefront as we continue to fight what is no
longer considered just a gay man's disease.
About the town, we are beginning to fly
rainbow flags on our car windows, our
front porches, our storefronts, and even on
the clothes we wear.
We talk about GAY PRIDE and HUMAN
RIGHTS, but do we really know what they
mean? PRIDE results when we have a
positive sense of self and community.
RIGHTS happen more quickly when we
join as one.

Get involved with YOUR community,
today!
Great things are coming to Tulsa. As 1995
comes to an end, expect to sec something
very special happening in our community.
You' II want to be a part of the excitement!

Make plans
now to
attend the
CommUNITY meeting on November 7th at
7:00 PM (Alan Chapman Activity Center Choteau Room, Tulsa University).
Meet leaders from the many organizations
dedicated to providing services for Tulsa's
gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgendered
communities. Cast your vote for next year's
tohr leadership, and participate in round
table discussions designed to bring UNITY
to our Community.

Together we can make Tulsa a great
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Number 10

October 1995
Newsletter of the Tulsa Chapter of Parents, Family, and Friends
of Lesbians and Gays
P.O. Box 52800 Tulsa, OK 74152
Help line (918) 749-4901
Lynn Mostoller, editor
Regular Meetings Second Monday of the Month
Family AIDS Support Groups: First and Third Wednesday of the month
and First and Third Thursdays of the Month

OCTOBER MEETING

Monday, October 9, 1995
Quadrangle Building
4154 South Harvard
Suite H
Look for the entrance on the north side of the building-''The Gathering Place"
6:30 - 7:45 pm
PFLAG 101 and PFLAG 102
PFLAG 101 is a group designed to support new parents and
members as they begin their journey to accepting and supporting
their lesbian and gay loved ones.
PF LAG 102 is a new group for those who have "graduated" from
PFLAG 101, but who would like to meet in a small, supportive setting
to discuss matters and topics on a more personal level than is
sometimes possible in the larger, general meeting. Everyone is
invited to attend.

SPOUSES, led by Carolyn Wood, is a new group forming to
support straight spouses of gays and lesbians.

7:00 - 8:00 pm
Social and Refreshments
8:00 pm
General Meeting & Program
The program for the October meeting will feature
presentations and training sessions for Project Open
Mind. Public relations and media experts from the
National PFLAG office will be on hand to present the
project details. The TV ads that have been prepared for
Tulsa's prime time viewing audience will be shown, and
our training for this exciting project will begin. Come
and be a part of this incredible opportunity. See inside
for more details.

CALENDAR
SEPTEMBER 28, 1995 (Thursday)
1995 Family to Family HELPLINE
(1-800-24 PFLA G)
See inside for details.
SEPTEMBER 29 THRU
OCTOBER 1 (Friday - Sunday)
INDY 95 PFLAG CONVENTION
SEPTEMBER 30, 1995 (Saturday)
AIDS Walk Tulsa '95, Walk This Way
Boulder Park
9:00 am Registration
10:00 am Step Off
1:00 pm Jaycees' Battle of the Bands
OCTOBER 4, 1995 (Wednesday)
Established Family AIDS Support Group
6:30pm
OCTOBER 5, 1995 (Thursday)
New Family AIDS Support Group
6:30pm
Call (918) 749-4901 for more info.
OCTOBER 9, 1995 (Monday)
PFLAG General Meeting
See left for details.
OCTOBER 13 THRU 15, 1995
(Friday - Sunday)
AIDS Memorial Quilt Returns to·Tulsa
OCTOBER 18, 1995 (Wednesday)
Established Family AIDS Support Group
6:30pm
OCTOBER 19, 1995 (Thursday)
New Family AIDS Support Group
6:30pm

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The 1995 Family
to Family
HELPLINE
(1-800-24 PFLAG)
Family to Family is a
one Day, national toll
free help line for
people who have
recently learned that
their child , family
member or friend is,
or might be gay.
Family to Family puts
callers in one on one
confidential contact
with parents, families
and friends of lesbian
and gay men and
select professional
counselors. The
date- is Thursday,
September 28,
1995

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The Quilt Returns to Tulsa
The Tulsa Chapter, Names Project, announces that a major display of
the Quilt will be in Tulsa on October 13 through the 15, 1995. The display of
the Quilt will be at a new location, the Expo Square Pavilion on·the Tulsa
State Fairgrounds. There will be approximately 800 panels on display.
PFLAG will participate in the unfolding of the Quilt. If you would like to be a
member of the team, please call Nancy at 742-8565.

Project Open Mind
Tulsa, OK, has been chosen as one of three cities (along with Atlanta, GA,
and Houston, TX) to pilot Project Open Mind. This project, designed and
supported by PFLAG's National Organization, will focus on addressing the
homophobia that exists in a community. Through a multimedia (radio, TV,
print, forums, speaking engagements, etc.) educational program we hope to
reach Tulsa's "mushy middle" on gay/lesbian/bi issues. Tulsa's PFLAG
chapter can look forward to special media training, materials for TV and
radio, and access to national staff support.

Are You a PFLAG Member?
Hopefully, you feel that our organization is worth supporting and that you
enjoy receiving this newsletter. This organization has continued to grow
because there are people out there who need the support PFLAG offer~. As
an organization, we are completely staffed by volunteers. Your
membership fee is not a luxury to us--it is essential for our survival.
Please use the form below to renew your membership with PFLAG Tulsa.

1995/1996 Dues Are Due!!!
(Clip and Mail to PFLAG, PO Box 52800, Tulsa, OK 74152)

MEMBERSHIPS:
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enable you to receive the FLAGPOLE, the national
quarterly newsletter. The PFLAG pole is mailed to your
home. If you do not want receive the newsletter at your
hove, please check the box _ _ . The words, "Parents,
Families, and Friends of Lesbians and Gays: will appear on
the return address of the PFLAG Pole.

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PFLAG

Urgent Responses Needed on Legislative
Activity!!
Congress has returned from its August recess and is
planning to consider several pieces of legislation of critical
importance to our community. We cannot pinpoint when
they will do so, but we can prepare you to respond.
Please read this Action Alert carefully and take action using
the information the Human Rights Campaign Fund has
provided.
Issue #1:
Critical AIDS Care, Prevention and Education
Programs At Risk!!
During the seek of September 11-15, the Senate
Appropriations Committee and its Labor, Health and
Human Services Subcommittee will take up the UHHS/Ed
appropriations bill which determines FY '96 funding levels
for most federal HIV/AIDS, health and education
programs including: The Ryan White CARE Act, HIV
Prevention; and the Office of AIDS Research (OAR).
Thereafter, the full Senate will consider the bill on the
Senate floor and vote on any amendments.
In the past years, Senator Jesse Helms (R-NC) has
introduced amendments to the L/HHS/Ed bill which
attempt to restrict the content of HIV prevention messages
and youth's access to contraceptives. And, just last
month, Helms introduced an amendment to the Ryan
White CARE Act to deny funds to community-based
organizations that "Promote Homosexuality." Such
amendments single out the gay and lesbian community for
discrimination by denying them life-saving HIV/AIDS
medical care, prevention information and counseling.
Urge your Senators to Oppose any Anti-gay
Amendments!
Call your Senators through the Senate switchboard at
202-224-3121 and urge them to oppose all amendments to
the UHHS/Ed bill offered by Helms or others that single
out the gay and lesbian community for discrimination.
Ask your Senator to speak out on the Senate floor in
support of life-saving HIV/AIDS programs.

Oklahoma Congressional Delegation
U.S. Senator Don Nickles
133 Hart
U.S. Senate
Washington, D.C. 20510
202-224-5754

3310 Mid-Continent Tower
409 So. Boston
Tulsa, OK 74103
918-581-7651
U.S. Senator Jim Inhofe
453 Russell
U.S. Senate
Washington, D.C. 20510
202-224-4721

1924 So. Utica, Suite 530
Tulsa, OK 74104
918-748-5111

U.S. Rep. Steve Largent
410Cannon
U .5. House of Reps.
Washington, D.C. 20515
202-225-2211

2424 East 21st, Suite 510
Tulsa, OK 74114
918-749-0014
U.S.Rep. Tom Coburn
511Cannon
U .5. House of Reps.
Washington, D.C. 20515
202-225-2701

215 State Street, Suite 815
Muskogee, OK 74401
918-687-2533

others may introduce amendments to the bill that would
deny critical HIV/AIDS medical care to the gay and lesbian
community.
Urge your Senators to Oppose any Anti-gay
Amendments!
Call your Representative through the House switchboard at
202-225-3121 and urge them to oppose all amendments
offered to HR 1872 that would deny critical HIV/AIDS
medical care to the gay and lesbian community. Ask your
Representative to speak out on the House floor in support
of this life-saving program.

Issue #3
Anti-gay Hearings on School Programs
Planned!!
Anti-gay extremist Lou Sheldon, the head of the
Traditional Values Coalition, has succeeded in pressuring
Congress to hold hearings on public school programs
which deal with issues of sexual orientation. Sheldon will
Issue #2
use this forum to attack programs that he clams "promote"
homosexuality
but which, in fact, are modest programs,
Ryan White CARE Act Expires on September 30!
The Ryan White CARE Act provides essential lifeadopted by local communities, to respond to an epidemic
sustaining medical and support services to more than
of violence and discrimination that affect all st1,1dents.
350,000 women, men and children living with HIV and
The issue of the "homosexual agenda in schools" will
be part of a hearing entitled "Parental Involvement in
AIDS in communities across America It empowers local
communities to decide how dollars should be spent and is Social Issues in Education" to be held by Rep. Peter
cost-effective, reducing costly hospitalizations and
Hoekstra (R-MI), Chair of the House Oversight and
emergency room care. AIDS is now the number one killer Investigations subcommittee of the Economic and
of all Americans age 25-44. Now, more than ever, we
Educational Opportunities Committee. The hearings were
need the CARE Act, but it will expire at the end of
originally scheduled for September 12, but have been
September unless it is renewed or reauthorized!
postponed, to the end of September or early October.
Urge Chairman Hoekstra to cancel the hearing!!
HR 1872, the CARE Act reauthorization bill was
Please call Chairman Hoekstra at 202-225-4401 to
reported to the House floor by a unanimous, bipartisan
vote in the Commerce Committee. However, we are now urge him to cancel these inflammatory hearings!
concerned that Representative Bob Doman (R-CA) and

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ABOUT PFLAG
Parents, Family, and Friends of Lesbians and
Gays (PFIAG) is a not for profit, tax exempt, all
volunteer, community-based organization of
parents, other relatives and friends of lesbian
and gay persons. PFIAG is not affiliated with
any ethnic, religious or political group.
PFIAG/ Tulsa is a member of the international
fe deration of the same name.
OUR PURPOSES AND GOALS ARE TO:
T Pr ovide a support system for families and
friends of lesbians and gay men in an effort to
understand, accept and support their children
with love and pride,
T Provide education for individuals and the
community at large on the nature of
hom osexuality, and
T Support the full human and civil rights of
lesbians· and gay men.

We gratefully accept advertising from
those who wish to market their goods &
services to our members, space
permitting. As a non-profit organization,
however, we do not endorse any
business enterprise.

Established Family AIDS Support Group
Wednesday, October 4, 1995 &
Wednesday, October 18, 1995
6:30 pm
HIV Resource Center
4154 South Harvard
Suite H

New Family AIDS Support Group
Thursday, October 5, 1995 &
Thursday, October 19, 1995
Call 749-4901 for
Location and Time

PFLAG/ Tulsa's Family AIDS Project, HIVRC, and the Tulsa
Visiting Nurses Association now provide tw~ ~imo~thly support
groups for families wit~ ~embers who a~e living with HIV/AIDS.
These sessions are facilitated by professional counselors who have
experience in AIDS related concerns. If you or a loved one are
dealing with HIV/AIDS you are most welcome at these meetings .
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Many may wonder why a human rights organization
manages the only anonymous HIV testing clil!ic in
northeastern Oklahoma. Perhaps a visit to the past
and a look at the present might explain.
In the mid-to-late 80's when AIDS was first
becoming a regular part of our Oklahoma
vocabulary, tohr was one of the few organizations
already positioned to provide HIV prevention
activities. Tp.e first Testing/Counseling pro!,_'Tam was
developed in response to what tohr believed wa<; a
fundamental human right - the right to be tested for
the HIV virus in an anonymous fa<Jhion. Who better
to protect the rights and anonymity of Tulsa's gay,
lesbian, and bisexual community than the city's
oldest gay and lesbian organization?
Today, the work of the clinic is greatly expanded.
Testing and counseling continue on an anonymous
basis while outreach workers provide prevention
information to gay men, youth, and women.
Although many organizations
now
provide
Inv/ AIDS services, tohr remains steadfast in its
goal of providing some HIV services by and for,
(but not exclusively for) the gay, lesbian, and
bisexual comm unity.
Programs like the newly established Positively
Negative continue to provide prevention services
specifically designed to meet the needs of the gay
and bisexual men. Positively Negative is one of the
first programs in the Nation to explore a new
method for promoting the prevention of HIV.

tohr was originally chartered to: (1) bring a,1 emf to
discrimination and oppression against all persons
based 011 sexual or affectional orie11tatio11 or
preference; (2) to e11courage freedom of expression
of affectional orientatio11 or preference; (3) to
obtain equal treatment under the law for all perso11s
regardless of sexual orientation or preference; (4) to
discourage prejudice or stereotypical treatment by
officials and 11ews media 011 account of sexual

orientation or prefere11ce; (5) to educate the general
public about human rights; (6) to provide a forum
for the discussion of human rights issues, a11d; (7) to
disseminate information 011 such issues to its
members and to the general public.
Some may argue that our mission is not in line with
our two HIV programs (prevention and anonymous
testing). Prevention for the members of our
community benefits all of us. Secondly, many of the
battles fought on behalf of individuals living with
HIV or AIDS have also been batlles related to
discrimination based on sexual orientation . No
matter how much we would like to separate the
disease from the reality of our sexuality - a primary
mode of transmission is through sexual activity . The
very nature of exposure often leads to many
individuals being "outed." Discriminatory treatment
related to HIV is largely based on fear. It is also
based on the fact that until recently, AIDS was
considered a "gay disease ."
Past comments from leaders of the religious right
have forced us to address the human rights of
persons who were not only IIIV + but who were
also gay. "AIDS is God's way of destroying
homosexuals" becomes a battle cry for the gay,
lesbian, and bisexual community, a<; well as for all
those working in the area of HIV/AIDS.
Gay, lesbian, and bisexual comm1111ities across the
Nation are now credited as being the protectors of
rights, the providers of hope, and the promoters of
services for persons living with I IIV or AIDS,
regardless of their sexual orientatiou.
With all this behiud us and so much more before us,
the real questiou may be: "How can tohrJS.QI have
a visible presence in the area of HIV/AIDS?" j/1

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The October 3rd meeting of tohr will
feature PF LAG' s Project Open Mind. The
Tulsa PFLAG was chosen as one of three
Project Open Mind sites nationwiue. Hear
the history of the Project, find out the
exciting things to come, and learn more
about how you might help PFLAG with
this important Project. (See the PFLAG
newsletter for additional
information
regarding Project Open Mind .)
The meeting will begin at 7:00 PM at the
Gathering Place, 4154 South Harvard. A
short business meeting, including the
nominating committee's presentation of the
1996 tohr slate of officer candidates, will
be held prior to the program. ~h

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If you've not sent your membership - please do so
today and invite 3 friend to join you!
Please detach and mail to: P.O. Box 52729, Tulsa,
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Say No to Hate

ALL COMMUNITY DANCE
Saturday October 21, 1995
8:00 PM to Midnight
Park Plaza Shopping Center - 61st and Sheridan
Community Room - Behind Charleston Bay
(Look for the purple ribbon)

61st and Sheridan
$3.00/single, $5.00/couple
(Costumes Optional)

A week of "Say No to Hate" activities are
currently being planned for October 16 -20 ,
1995. Friday October 20 has been
dedicated to Say No to Racism and Hate
Crimes. Activities (tentatively scheduled)
include an 11:30 AM "march" from the
north side of the Martin Luther King bridge
to the Cultural Center on Greenwood. This
is a chance for the gay and lesbian
community of Tulsa to join with others and
have a presence in saying no to hate
crimes. Complete details will be available
by calling the Helpline at 743-GAYS after
October 5th.
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100 N. University Dr
Edmond, OK 73034

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The Third Annual Boo Bash - Benefitting RAIN
October 28 at The Silver Star
Mr. Oklahoma Leather Contest
November 4 at The Silver Star

Hoisting the Banner of Color
A Regional HIV Pre,·ention Education and
Substance Abuse Conference. October 9-10. OKC.
Contact Dennis Green at CarePoint. Inc. for
information 1-800-285-2273.
Creating Change
The National Conference for the Gay. Lesbian.
Bisexual. and Transgender Movement. November
10-12. Detroit. MI. Call 202-332-6438 for
information

Other Activities
Phillip Morris/Virginia Slims Legends Tennis
Tournament - Implemented by the National AIDS
Fund and benefitting CarePoint, Inc . - OKC
Concerts
October 6th - Gladys Knight and Regina Belle
October 7th - Barbara Mandrell and Martina
McBride
Tennis
October 7 & 8 - featuring Martina Navratilova, Bille
Jean King, Chris Evert, and many more
Call CarePoint for more information
1-800-232 2273 or 405-232-2437
National Coming Out Day
Service at Family of Faith - MCC
5451 -E South Mingo
October 11, 1995 Cal l 622-1441 for details
Their Legacy Lives On ... The NAMES Project
AIDS Memorial Quilt Display
Opening ceremonies 6:30 PM Friday October 13
October 13 - 15 at the Tulsa Fairgrounds Pavilion
Building
Women 's Supper Club• Picnic at Zink Park
on 31st between Utica and Peoria
Bring a covered dish and a yard game
October 15th, Call 7-B-GA YS for more info
Coming Out Scary Dance - October 21st
See this issue for additional information
Her/and Fall Retreat
October 27-29, Fountainhead State Park
Call 405-521-9696 for information

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COMING SOON
GAY TULSA: A guide to businesses serving
the Gay , Lesbian, Bisexual, and Trans gendered
Community of Tulsa and the Surrounding
Areas. Watch for it in October
Red Ribbon Treefest
December 3, 1995 - Watch for additional
information in next month's Community News
All Community Holiday Party
sponsored by tohr
December 8, 1995 - Watch for additional
information in next month's Community News

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RING, RING - ANSWER THE PHONE.
Tulsa's Gay and Lesbian Helpline needs~
help. Approximately 10 volunteers are currently
needed to answer the Helpline and provide
information and assistance to members of our
community and visitors to the Tulsa area. If
you have been looking for a special way to
help get information and assistance to Tulsa's
Gay and Lesbian community, TffiS IS IT!
Call the Helpline at 743-GA YS and leave a
message for the Helpline Coordinator.

AJte1·nath e Activities and Resources may not reflect a
complete listing of resources and activities . If we have
failed to include your specific resource or event. we
apologize. Future information to be included in this listing
should he sent to Co mmunity News. P.O. Box 5'.'.729.
Tulsa, OK 74152 or faxed to 918-584-4541. Submission
deadline is the 15th ot every month .

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