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September 1993 The Newsletter of Womyn for Womyn, the Lesbian Resource Centre Vol. 4, No. 8

A Few Words
by Christine Jarosz
Director/Coordinator

Do you believe everything yoa read? everythin, yo• -hear?

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Last Sunday,
the Morning
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ran an
a rt i c I e
about the
killing of 12
year old Santos
Rodriquez by a Dallas police officer in 1973. For
those of you who do not recall this incident:
Santos and his brother David were picked up by
the police for questioning regarding a burglary at
a gas station. While in a police car, with his hands
cuffed behind his back, Santos was shot in the
head ~nd killed by a police~an w~o was playing
"Russian roulette". The police officer was

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this ... one organized by men.) What happened has stuck with me to this day... as
I was talking about the loss of this one little boy and the impact of this on my life
andthelivesofallofus, themeninuniformbehindmestartedhissing. lwasreally shocked. I turned around to look at them ("Um", I thought, "guess these guys
don't talk much about sexism and misogyny at their meetings."); I couldn't figure
it out. (But, of course, I could!) I had thought we were all there together for one
reason: to protest the death of the innocent... minority peoples and groups as
well as this child. But at that time I didn't know that a lot of people and groups have
their own agendas. That some people prefer to fight their own battles alone
because it's easier to look at everyone else as the enemy .. .it's not so easy to
figure out ways for different people to work together. I was very sad that day... for
the family of Santos .. .for his friends .. .for all people without
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there. At the time I was president of the
National Organization for Women. Out on the
streets we went. There were all kinds of people
protesting this awful tragedy. The protest was
organized primarily by the Brown Berets; it was
this group of militarily clad men that we had to get
permission from to spsak at the rally. I think they
did not want us to talk because we were bounced
like a ping pong ball between two leaders for
almost an hour before permission was finally
granted. It was only persistence that made it
happen. I got up and talked about the need for all
oppressed groups to work together to end racism
and sexism in our community ... that it was necessary for us to respect our differences and yet
learn to unite on the issues that we had in
common. We as a community had to unite to end
the discrimination and the conditions that keep
many men and more women in this country
virtual slaves. (I remember this part well because

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and, in particular, for all womyn.

Now to the main point of these few words. The Morning News reported that
Hispanics protested the 1978 Justice Department's decision. That statement,
though not totally incorrect, creates a false impression. Hundreds of people of all
races were there ... because issues of this nature affect all of us. But sometimes
I wonder if the media and others who write have their own agenda. Is it better for
them to make their readers think that people are not united on issues? Is
promoting cooperation not in the best interests of the
government and the media? I'm not going to answer
that...l know what I think. You have to decide.
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But I do want to say ... when you read
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it, be sure you know what that person's
agenda really is. It may very well cloud
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theirthinking, their writing, theirconversation. Before rushing to judgement.. check it
out. It saves lots of confusion ...and the truth is worth it.

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THE LEGAL STUFF
The Lesbian Resource Centre exists to create physical
space where lesbians are valued for themselves . This
space, committed to a feminist philosophy, will provide
resources to all lesbians. The LRC Newsletter is published monthly and is distributed to over 650 womyn by the
LRC, P.O. Box 180446, Dallas, TX 75218-0446. (214)
821 -3999.
Board of Directors
Lisa Mashigian
Carolyn Rowley
Rosa Lopez

Ann Brown
Lurese Terrell
Vicki Harris
Jeanne Rubin

AIR E!EJNEITIEJNIN6 ... EJR b-AE!K THE~~~
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Repairing the AC has been an all summer event. The Aciwpuld \
be fixed ... then something else would go wrong with it. Probably
the most significant situation was that there was no single person
working on the repairs from the very first. Once that was taken
care of and once the little idiosyncracies of the unit were conquered everything started working more efficiently. LRC must
thank the new Facilities Coordinator, Diane G, for her monumental efforts in this venture. And LRC appreciates your patience. It
certainly has been unbearably hot and uncomfortable.

Christine Jarosz, Director

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contributions. All material is due in the editors mailbox
at the LRC by 7:00 p.m. on the first Friday of the month .
Letters to the editor and articles must be signed and
include a phone number, and are limited to a maximum
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------~-----THE DISCLAIMER

The views expressed in this publication are those of the
individual authors of the separate articles and letters;
these views are not necessarily those of the LRC or its
Board , or of the editor.

JUD I TH CANNON, P H .D.
INDIVIDUAL. COUPLE and FAMILY COUNSELING

3609 Cedar Springs
Dallas , Texas 75219
(214) 521-4810
Lianset! '.Marriage aruf J ami[y 'If1empist

A View .from the Outside
I saw and talked with a womyn, who happens to be Vietnamese, the other
day that I hadn't seen at the Centre in months. Before I could ask her why
she hadn't been around (which is always of interest to me}, she told me.
She said she wasn't an activist type person and felt uncomfortable at the
Centre ...that her ideas her not well received ...and that she missed being
around it. I tried to encourage her to take another chance at the LRC
because it was important for all of us to be around people with different
focuses in life. It's impossible to learn about different lifestyles and ideas
without exposure to them. If she were missing being at the Centre, she
had to take some chances and some risks and be w illing to be patient.
Just as we all have to. Being shy or unassertive can certainly make it more
difficult to feel included. And facing womyn who are intolerant of different
ideas or styles makes it impossible. We all have to do our part to build a
better world. So, she said she'd try again. So must everyone of us.

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LETTERS TO THE EDITOR

DearLRC,

pear Editor,
Christine Jarosz has invested herself, her time, and her
energy into the Lesbian Resource Center. Because of the
r9le she has played in birthing and nurturing the center, I
think some of us have unrealistic expectations of her. Just
as we looked to, or dreamed of looking to, our mother to
provide a safe and secure home, we look to Christine to create a safe
and secure center. Christine has been criticized for being too controlling and for not taking enough control. She has been criticized for being
too friendly and for not being friendly enough. We look to her to settle
disputes between members. We are like children who want our mother
to magically know what we want and to provide it. In reality, we are
all adults, and if we want a safe and secure center, we have to create
it. In this time of struggle, we need to avoid extremes. We are not
dependent children who need Christine's mothering. We are also not
adolescents who must rebel against her in order to define ourselves.
We are wonderful adult women with tremendous wisdom and resources among us. Christine's dream was to provide a place for us to
gather. She has done that. Now, let's do our part to empower
ourselves, each other, and the center. And, let's tell Christine thanks for
the wonderful opportunity she gives us to do that.
Judith Cannon

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PUBLIC NOTICE!!
A BYLAWS COMMITTEE has been approved and appointed by the
Lesbian Resource Center Board. The purpose of this committee is to
review the current bylaws and accept proposed changes or amendments to the BYLAWS that are submitted by members of the LRC.
The proposed submission should contain the BYLAW(S) at it is
currently worded, the proposed change, and a brief explanation for the
change.

Please submit your proposals to
THE BYLAWS COMMITTEE
LRC
P.O. BOX 180446
DALLAS, TX 75218

I must admit that this letter is long overdue. Yes, it is in reference to Barbara's infamous anti-semetic remark. She has
apologized and explained that it was not made out of malice· but
in jest of her own Jewish ancestry.
'
The uproar over the remark worries me a great deal. Censorship
is looming over the horizon as we lose a piece of our freedom
continuously. This seems like such negative energy wasted on
issues that are not at the top fo the agenda of lesbians or women
in general. Does this mean that it will be necessary for the LRC
to elect a review board for future shows to determine what is
suitable for us to see and hear? Does this also mean that the
review board examine all the books and publications in the LRC
library? What happens then?
Too much time has been lost on this issue. There are great
strides yet to be made by us as women and lesbians. We need to
join together and empower ourselves. We deserve acceptance for
our intelligence and for whomever we choose to be our lovers.
The more progress we make now will lessen the struggle for our
daughters.
Sincerely,
Randa Hope
Maria Candiloros

GAME NIGHT
Carla Dolce
Board games, card games, action games, and all other games
have begun arriving every third Saturday of the month to
provide an enjoyable evening of fun and games. If you missed
the first fun-packed game night August 21,
1993, be sure not to miss the next one, Saturday, September 18, at the LRC! Hosted by the
"38 and Upwards" group, game time is around
7:30 PM> Bring your favorite games. I'll see you
there!

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You may also contact Pam Tise@ (214) 475-2361

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WOMYN EN CAMBIO: GROWTH, DIVERSITY,
MARTI KRANZBERG, Ph.D.

AND CHANGE

Womyn en Cambio (WEC} is a group of concerned LRC
members that was formed over four months ago committed to
revitalizing interest in the LRC from and for the ever-changing
diverse lesbian community. The group's name, "Womyn en Cambio,"
refers to the group's impetus for change or "cambio" for the LRC,
whether the focus is on the organizational structure itself or impacting the actual vision of the Centre. At present, the group is composed
of LRC members which includes both voting and board members,
and is open to any other womyn interested in joining.
WEC's accomplishments to date include involvement in
several open forums which allowed womyn to dialogue about issues
and concerns regarding the LRC. A By-Laws Committee was
formed by the LRC Board in August when the group urged that the
Centre review its existing policies which have been in effect since the
LRC's inception. In addition, WEC initiated the draft and subsequent
posting of the LRC's Policy Statement on Diversity. Womyn en
Cambio hopes to provide encouragement and support of any and all
womyn who have a genuine desire to contribute and be involved in
a growing, thriving, and positively changing LRC.
The group plans to continue being an active and vital voice
within the LRC by effecting change and providing focus for the
Centre. This continues to be accomplished in a variety of different
ways. WEC's members remain visible within the Centre and are
involved in a number of committees such as By-Laws, Communication, Education, and Facilities.
Womyn en Cambio meets regularly and holds a monthly
meeting at the LRC. Interested and prospective members are
encouraged to contact Lori Strong at 275-0708 for meeting times,
places, and any additional information.

(

Psychologist

4054 McKinney Ave ., Suite 212

Dallas, Texas 75204
(214) 528-1815

~Vl=CUL l:Vl=~T~
BY ANN BROWN

A planning and working committee for Special Events will
meet August 25 at 6:30 p.m.
Anyone with ideas for special projects or events is invited
to attend. Please bring your calendar, creativity, expertise,
team spirit, and problem-solving skills.
[Please leave a message at the LRC for Ann Brown if you
are interested in working on this committee but can't
attend.]

A special thanks from the
editor to all of you who
contributed articles to this
edition of the Honeypot. The
majority of submissions
were on diskette - thank you
thank you thank you. What
with the problems of having
the locks changed at the
Centre, missed connections,
etc, your cooperation is the
only thing that allowed this
newsletter to get to the
printer on time.

AN INTRODUCTION TO NLP

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Back by popular. demand - NLP at the LRC
SEE THE RESULTS t
FEEL THE DIJl'FERENCE t
HEAR THE succas STORIES .
from your .uter• who are
NOW NLP GRADUATES.
wUh V. JAN MARSZALEK
• PresldenJ & Owner NLP Learning Systems Corp .
• Largest NLP Center In the Southwest
• 12 Years lnBustness
• Former Member of Govenor's Board
for Communlcatlons
1

Join Deb & Helen
in finding out how
this information can
be beneficial in
your life NOW!
DATE: Sept. 22nd
TIME: 8 - 9 :30 pm
PLACE: At the LRC
For .lfore Ia.fonnatfon

Call (214) 437-6878

All Donation• to the LRC ■

¼
(214) 521-1213
Individual and
C:·oup Therapy

Mary K. Grigsby, M.Ed.
Licensed Proressional
Counselor

• Chronic Illnesses
• Addictions
• Relationships
• Abuse Recovery

3514 Cedar Springs Rd. • Suite 300-C • Dallas, TX 75219

WOMYN EN CAMBIO: GROWTH, DIVERSITY,
MARTI KRANZBERG, Ph.D.

AND CHANGE

Womyn en Cambio (WEC) is a group of concerned LRC
members that was formed over four months ago committed to
revitalizing interest in the LRC from and for the ever-changing
diverse lesbian community. The group's name, "Womyn en Cambio,"
refers to the group's impetus for change or "cambio" for the LRC,
whether the focus is on the organizational structure itself or impacting the actual vision of the Centre. At present, the group is composed
of LRC members which includes both voting and board members,
and is open to any other womyn interested in joining.
WEC's accomplishments to date include involvement in
several open forums which allowed womyn to dialogue about issues
and concerns regarding the LRC. A By-Laws Committee was
formed by the LRC Board in August when the group urged that the
Centre review its existing policies which have been in effect since the
LRC's inception. In addition, WEC initiated the draft and subsequent
posting of the LRC's Policy Statement on Diversity. Womyn en
Cambio hopes to provide encouragement and support of any and all
womyn who have a genuine desire to contribute and be involved in
a growing, thriving, and positively changing LRC.
The group plans to continue being an active and vital voice
within the LRC by effecting change and providing focus for the
Centre. This continues to be accomplished in a variety of different
ways. WEC's members remain visible within the Centre and are
involved in a number of committees such as By-Laws, Communication, Education, and Facilities.
Womyn en Cambio meets regularly and holds a monthly
meeting at the LRC. Interested and prospective members are
encouraged to contact Lori Strong at 275-0708 for meeting times,
places, and any additional information.

(

Psychologist

4054 McKinney Ave ., Suite 212

Dallas, Texas 75204
(214) 528-1815

§J)f'.CUL l:Vl::~T§
BY ANN BROWN

A planning and working committee for Special Events will
meet August 25 at 6:30 p.m.
Anyone with ideas for special projects or events is invited
to attend. Please bring your calendar, creativity, expertise,
team spirit, and problem-solving skills.
[Please leave a message at the LRC for Ann Brown if you
are interested in working on this committee but can't
attend.]

A special thanks from the
editor to all of you who
contributed articles to this
edition of the Honeypot. The
majority of submissions
were on diskette - thank you
thank you thank you. What
with the problems of having
the locks changed at the
Centre. missed connections.
etc, your cooperation is the
only thing that allowed this
newsletter to get to the
printer on time.

AN INTRODUCTION TO NLP

mjm

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Back by popular. demand - NLP at the LRC
SEE THE RESULTS 1
FEEL THE DIFFERENCE !
HEAR THE SUCCESS STORIES ·
from your .Wer• who are
NOW NLP GRADUATES.
with V. JAN MARSZALEK
• President & Owner NLP Learning Systems Corp.
• Largest NLPCenter In the Southwest
• 12 Years In Business
• Former Member of Govenor's Board

for CommuntcaJlons
1

Join Deb & Helen
In finding out how
this information can
be beneficial i n
your life NOW!
DATE: Sept. 22nd
TIME: 8 - 9:30 pm
PLACE: At the LRC
For Jfore Iajonnatfon

Call (214) 437-6878

All Donation• to the LRC ■

¼
(214) 521-1213
lndividue1I e1nd
C:-oup TI,erapy

Mary K. Grigsby, M.Ed.
Licensed Proressional
Counselor

• Chronic Illnesses
• Addictions
• Relationships
• Abuse Recovery

3514 Cedar Springs Rd . • Suite 300-C . Dallas, TX 75219

FACILITATOR NEEDED

Carpels
Upholstery
o n·entals
Dhwri<!s
Haitians
Drapcn·es
Lca1h as

The Tuesday Night Discussion Group is seeking a facilitator to lead discussions on the first and third Wednesday of
each month. This is an excellent opportunity to be involved
in a valuable Centre activity and it's also .lots. of fun! For

DONNA BIGE LOW

3307 Kinmorc S1rce 1, Da llas, Texas 75223,

(214) 826-6133

more details, contact Lori Strong at 275-0708.

SCHOOL'S IN SESSION
38 AND UPWARDS

Womyn For Womyn University
FALL SEMESTER
REGISTER NOW!
Saturdays 11:00 am - 1:00 pm

Carla Dolce
No, certainly not "over the hill!' This lively group meets the
2nd Tuesday of each month at 7:30 PM at the LRC, for a
supportive discussion of topics of interest to the "38 &
Upwards" crowd. At our recent discussion of the herstory of
Dallas lesbians, we shared many interesting stories of "coming out" at a time when the social climate was even more
repressive than it is today. In discussions stimulated by the
recent Lesbian Health Fair, we enjoyed sharing our views on
lesbian health issues.

September Courses:
9/11 - What do I say After I Say Hello?
Interpersonal Communication &
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Assertiveness

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"38 & Upwards" has a social gathering the 4th Tuesday of
each month that is often held at the LRC and sometimes at
other locations as decided at the 2nd Tuesday meeting.

9/18 - LRC 101

It's always a pleasure having the continuity of seeing the
same womyn each month and hearing from the new ones
who join us. If you're 38 and upwards, do not hesitate to join
us for the 2nd Tuesday supportive discussion and the 4th
Tuesday social.

9/25 - I Thought A 'CD' Played Music!

Herstory of the Resource Center and
How theOrganization Operates

Personal Finances for Womyn
Registration Fee:
Members - $3.00 per course
Non-Members - $5.00 per course
Founding Mothers - Free of Charge
Call the LRC to register (leave a message for
Christine or Jeanne) or stop by and pick up a
registration form.

(214 1 618 4282

• Attend 6 courses and receive a W for
WU

Mashigian Investigations
P 0 . Box 260415
Plano . TX 75026-041 5

Commerc,al and Domestic
Private lnvest,gat,ons

Lisa R. Mashigian
President

T-Shirt.
Future courses include: Starting Your
Own Business; Dating; Intro to Computers; WordPerfect; Photography;
Motorcycle Driving; Wellness; and more!!

W omyn for W omyn, a Lesbian Resource Centre
August 29 - October 9, 1993
SUNDAY

MQNDAY

TUESDAY

WEDNESDAY

THURSDAY

Aug 29

Aug 30

Aug 31

Sept 1

Sept 2

7: 30pm Tuesday
Night Discussion

7:00pm Women's
Lodge (Recovery
and Support)

10:30am Women's Lodge (Recovery
and Support)
1:00pm -5 Librarian ' s Open House

Sept 5
10:30am Women's Lodge (Recovery
!llld Support)
1:00pm -5 Librarian's Open House
2:00pm Writers ' Group
2:00pm Library Committee

Sept 12

O FM

Sept 6
Labor Day

Sept 13

Sept 14
5:30pm Domesti,:
Violence Task force

10 :30am Women's Lodge (Recovery
and Support)
1:00pm -5 Librarian' s Open House

Sept 19

Sept 7

7:30pm Over 38's
Group

Sept 20

10:30am Women's Lodge (Recovery and
Support)

7:00pm Women's
Lodge (Recovery
and Support)

Sept 15

Sept 16

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Rosh Hashanah
7:30pm Tuesday
7:00pm Women's
Night Discussion
Lodge (Recovery
Group
and Support)

Sept 21
7:00pm -9:00
Womyn
Overcoming
Racism

I :OOpm -5 Librarian's Open House
2:00pm Writers'Group
5 :OOptn Womyn of Color Poetry and Short
Story Session

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Sept 22
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8:00pm NLP
Orientation

Sept 23
7:00pm Women's
Lodge (Recovery
and Support)

FRIDAY •. ..

Sept 3
7:00pm Newsletter
Deadlne
7:30pm Friday Night
Dinners

Sept 9

Sept 8

7:15pm LRC Board
Meeting

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Sept 10
7:30pm Friday Night
Dinners

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3:00pm -5:00 Under 30's

Sept 11
11 :00am -1 Womyn for Womyn University
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7 :OOpm Umoja Hermwias

MCCARTAUCT10N-LRC Benefits

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Sept 17

Sept 18

6:00pm Newsleller Mailing
6:30pm Membership
Committee
7 :30pm Friday Night

11 :OOam -1 Womyn for Womyn University
3:00pm -5:00 Under 30'•
3:00pm Recycling Party by Under 30's
Group
7 :30pm LRC Fun and Games Nigh!

Dinners

Sept 24
7:30pm Friday Night
Dinners

Sept 25
Yorn Kippur
11:00am - I Womyn for Womyn
University
3:00pm -5:00 Under 30's

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Sept 26

Sept 27

10 :30am Women' s Lodge (Recovery
and Support)
1:00pm -5 Librarian ' s Open House
2:00pm Writers ' Group
2:00pm Library Committee

Sept 29

Oct 4

Oct 5
7: 15pm LRC Board
Meeting

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7:30pm Over 38's
Group

10:30am Women's Lodge (Recovery
and Support)
1:00pm -5 Librarian's Open House

Oct 3

Sept 28

7:00pm Newsletter

7:00pm Women's
Lodge (Recovery
and Support)

Oct 6
7: 30pm Tuesday
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the Honeypot
September 1993 The Newsletter of Womyn for Womyn, the Lesbian Resource Centre Vol. 4, No. 8

A Few Words
by Christine Jarosz
Director/Coordinator

Do you believe everything yoa read? everythin, yo• -hear?

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Last Sunday,
the Morning
~~ N e w s
ran an
a rt i c I e
about the
killing of 12
year old Santos
Rodriquez by a Dallas police officer in 1973. For
those of you who do not recall this incident:
Santos and his brother David were picked up by
the police for questioning regarding a burglary at
a gas station. While in a police car, with his hands
cuffed behind his back, Santos was shot in the
head ~nd killed by a police~an w~o was playing
"Russian roulette". The police officer was

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I was pretty nervous ...! had addressed large crowds before but not one like
this ... one organized by men.) What happened has stuck with me to this day... as
I was talking about the loss of this one little boy and the impact of this on my life
andthelivesofallofus, themeninuniformbehindmestartedhissing. lwasreally shocked. I turned around to look at them ("Um", I thought, "guess these guys
don't talk much about sexism and misogyny at their meetings."); I couldn't figure
it out. (But, of course, I could!) I had thought we were all there together for one
reason: to protest the death of the innocent... minority peoples and groups as
well as this child. But at that time I didn't know that a lot of people and groups have
their own agendas. That some people prefer to fight their own battles alone
because it's easier to look at everyone else as the enemy .. .it's not so easy to
figure out ways for different people to work together. I was very sad that day... for
the family of Santos .. .for his friends .. .for all people without
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justice ... for people who think they are alone. But I
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protest what was so very wrong. What I wanted (and

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there. At the time I was president of the
National Organization for Women. Out on the
streets we went. There were all kinds of people
protesting this awful tragedy. The protest was
organized primarily by the Brown Berets; it was
this group of militarily clad men that we had to get
permission from to spsak at the rally. I think they
did not want us to talk because we were bounced
like a ping pong ball between two leaders for
almost an hour before permission was finally
granted. It was only persistence that made it
happen. I got up and talked about the need for all
oppressed groups to work together to end racism
and sexism in our community ... that it was necessary for us to respect our differences and yet
learn to unite on the issues that we had in
common. We as a community had to unite to end
the discrimination and the conditions that keep
many men and more women in this country
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and, in particular, for all womyn.

Now to the main point of these few words. The Morning News reported that
Hispanics protested the 1978 Justice Department's decision. That statement,
though not totally incorrect, creates a false impression. Hundreds of people of all
races were there ... because issues of this nature affect all of us. But sometimes
I wonder if the media and others who write have their own agenda. Is it better for
them to make their readers think that people are not united on issues? Is
promoting cooperation not in the best interests of the
government and the media? I'm not going to answer
that...l know what I think. You have to decide.
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ter where you read it or where you hear
it, be sure you know what that person's
agenda really is. It may very well cloud
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out. It saves lots of confusion ...and the truth is worth it.

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THE LEGAL STUFF
The Lesbian Resource Centre exists to create physical
space where lesbians are valued for themselves . This
space, committed to a feminist philosophy, will provide
resources to all lesbians. The LRC Newsletter is published monthly and is distributed to over 650 womyn by the
LRC, P.O. Box 180446, Dallas, TX 75218-0446. (214)
821 -3999.
Board of Directors
Lisa Mashigian
Carolyn Rowley
Rosa Lopez

Ann Brown
Lurese Terrell
Vicki Harris
Jeanne Rubin

AIR E!EJNEITIEJNIN6 ... EJR b-AE!K THE~~~
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Repairing the AC has been an all summer event. The Aciwpuld \
be fixed ... then something else would go wrong with it. Probably
the most significant situation was that there was no single person
working on the repairs from the very first. Once that was taken
care of and once the little idiosyncracies of the unit were conquered everything started working more efficiently. LRC must
thank the new Facilities Coordinator, Diane G, for her monumental efforts in this venture. And LRC appreciates your patience. It
certainly has been unbearably hot and uncomfortable.

Christine Jarosz, Director

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Letters to the editor and articles must be signed and
include a phone number, and are limited to a maximum
length of 750 words. Names wiill be withheld upon
request. Submissions should be made on diskette, in
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access to the computer, if needed . Submissions will be
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individual authors of the separate articles and letters;
these views are not necessarily those of the LRC or its
Board , or of the editor.

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INDIVIDUAL. COUPLE and FAMILY COUNSELING

3609 Cedar Springs
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(214) 521-4810
Lianset! '.Marriage aruf J ami[y 'If1empist

A View .from the Outside
I saw and talked with a womyn, who happens to be Vietnamese, the other
day that I hadn't seen at the Centre in months. Before I could ask her why
she hadn't been around (which is always of interest to me}, she told me.
She said she wasn't an activist type person and felt uncomfortable at the
Centre ...that her ideas her not well received ...and that she missed being
around it. I tried to encourage her to take another chance at the LRC
because it was important for all of us to be around people with different
focuses in life. It's impossible to learn about different lifestyles and ideas
without exposure to them. If she were missing being at the Centre, she
had to take some chances and some risks and be w illing to be patient.
Just as we all have to. Being shy or unassertive can certainly make it more
difficult to feel included. And facing womyn who are intolerant of different
ideas or styles makes it impossible. We all have to do our part to build a
better world. So, she said she'd try again. So must everyone of us.

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LETTERS TO THE EDITOR

DearLRC,

pear Editor,
Christine Jarosz has invested herself, her time, and her
energy into the Lesbian Resource Center. Because of the
r9le she has played in birthing and nurturing the center, I
think some of us have unrealistic expectations of her. Just
as we looked to, or dreamed of looking to, our mother to
provide a safe and secure home, we look to Christine to create a safe
and secure center. Christine has been criticized for being too controlling and for not taking enough control. She has been criticized for being
too friendly and for not being friendly enough. We look to her to settle
disputes between members. We are like children who want our mother
to magically know what we want and to provide it. In reality, we are
all adults, and if we want a safe and secure center, we have to create
it. In this time of struggle, we need to avoid extremes. We are not
dependent children who need Christine's mothering. We are also not
adolescents who must rebel against her in order to define ourselves.
We are wonderful adult women with tremendous wisdom and resources among us. Christine's dream was to provide a place for us to
gather. She has done that. Now, let's do our part to empower
ourselves, each other, and the center. And, let's tell Christine thanks for
the wonderful opportunity she gives us to do that.
Judith Cannon

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PUBLIC NOTICE!!
A BYLAWS COMMITTEE has been approved and appointed by the
Lesbian Resource Center Board. The purpose of this committee is to
review the current bylaws and accept proposed changes or amendments to the BYLAWS that are submitted by members of the LRC.
The proposed submission should contain the BYLAW(S) at it is
currently worded, the proposed change, and a brief explanation for the
change.

Please submit your proposals to
THE BYLAWS COMMITTEE
LRC
P.O. BOX 180446
DALLAS, TX 75218

I must admit that this letter is long overdue. Yes, it is in reference to Barbara's infamous anti-semetic remark. She has
apologized and explained that it was not made out of malice· but
in jest of her own Jewish ancestry.
'
The uproar over the remark worries me a great deal. Censorship
is looming over the horizon as we lose a piece of our freedom
continuously. This seems like such negative energy wasted on
issues that are not at the top fo the agenda of lesbians or women
in general. Does this mean that it will be necessary for the LRC
to elect a review board for future shows to determine what is
suitable for us to see and hear? Does this also mean that the
review board examine all the books and publications in the LRC
library? What happens then?
Too much time has been lost on this issue. There are great
strides yet to be made by us as women and lesbians. We need to
join together and empower ourselves. We deserve acceptance for
our intelligence and for whomever we choose to be our lovers.
The more progress we make now will lessen the struggle for our
daughters.
Sincerely,
Randa Hope
Maria Candiloros

GAME NIGHT
Carla Dolce
Board games, card games, action games, and all other games
have begun arriving every third Saturday of the month to
provide an enjoyable evening of fun and games. If you missed
the first fun-packed game night August 21,
1993, be sure not to miss the next one, Saturday, September 18, at the LRC! Hosted by the
"38 and Upwards" group, game time is around
7:30 PM> Bring your favorite games. I'll see you
there!

g

You may also contact Pam Tise@ (214) 475-2361

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WOMYN EN CAMBIO: GROWTH, DIVERSITY,
MARTI KRANZBERG, Ph.D.

AND CHANGE

Womyn en Cambio (WEC} is a group of concerned LRC
members that was formed over four months ago committed to
revitalizing interest in the LRC from and for the ever-changing
diverse lesbian community. The group's name, "Womyn en Cambio,"
refers to the group's impetus for change or "cambio" for the LRC,
whether the focus is on the organizational structure itself or impacting the actual vision of the Centre. At present, the group is composed
of LRC members which includes both voting and board members,
and is open to any other womyn interested in joining.
WEC's accomplishments to date include involvement in
several open forums which allowed womyn to dialogue about issues
and concerns regarding the LRC. A By-Laws Committee was
formed by the LRC Board in August when the group urged that the
Centre review its existing policies which have been in effect since the
LRC's inception. In addition, WEC initiated the draft and subsequent
posting of the LRC's Policy Statement on Diversity. Womyn en
Cambio hopes to provide encouragement and support of any and all
womyn who have a genuine desire to contribute and be involved in
a growing, thriving, and positively changing LRC.
The group plans to continue being an active and vital voice
within the LRC by effecting change and providing focus for the
Centre. This continues to be accomplished in a variety of different
ways. WEC's members remain visible within the Centre and are
involved in a number of committees such as By-Laws, Communication, Education, and Facilities.
Womyn en Cambio meets regularly and holds a monthly
meeting at the LRC. Interested and prospective members are
encouraged to contact Lori Strong at 275-0708 for meeting times,
places, and any additional information.

(

Psychologist

4054 McKinney Ave ., Suite 212

Dallas, Texas 75204
(214) 528-1815

~Vl=CUL l:Vl=~T~
BY ANN BROWN

A planning and working committee for Special Events will
meet August 25 at 6:30 p.m.
Anyone with ideas for special projects or events is invited
to attend. Please bring your calendar, creativity, expertise,
team spirit, and problem-solving skills.
[Please leave a message at the LRC for Ann Brown if you
are interested in working on this committee but can't
attend.]

A special thanks from the
editor to all of you who
contributed articles to this
edition of the Honeypot. The
majority of submissions
were on diskette - thank you
thank you thank you. What
with the problems of having
the locks changed at the
Centre, missed connections,
etc, your cooperation is the
only thing that allowed this
newsletter to get to the
printer on time.

AN INTRODUCTION TO NLP

mjm

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Back by popular. demand - NLP at the LRC
SEE THE RESULTS t
FEEL THE DIJl'FERENCE t
HEAR THE succas STORIES .
from your .uter• who are
NOW NLP GRADUATES.
wUh V. JAN MARSZALEK
• PresldenJ & Owner NLP Learning Systems Corp .
• Largest NLP Center In the Southwest
• 12 Years lnBustness
• Former Member of Govenor's Board
for Communlcatlons
1

Join Deb & Helen
in finding out how
this information can
be beneficial in
your life NOW!
DATE: Sept. 22nd
TIME: 8 - 9 :30 pm
PLACE: At the LRC
For .lfore Ia.fonnatfon

Call (214) 437-6878

All Donation• to the LRC ■

¼
(214) 521-1213
Individual and
C:·oup Therapy

Mary K. Grigsby, M.Ed.
Licensed Proressional
Counselor

• Chronic Illnesses
• Addictions
• Relationships
• Abuse Recovery

3514 Cedar Springs Rd. • Suite 300-C • Dallas, TX 75219

WOMYN EN CAMBIO: GROWTH, DIVERSITY,
MARTI KRANZBERG, Ph.D.

AND CHANGE

Womyn en Cambio (WEC) is a group of concerned LRC
members that was formed over four months ago committed to
revitalizing interest in the LRC from and for the ever-changing
diverse lesbian community. The group's name, "Womyn en Cambio,"
refers to the group's impetus for change or "cambio" for the LRC,
whether the focus is on the organizational structure itself or impacting the actual vision of the Centre. At present, the group is composed
of LRC members which includes both voting and board members,
and is open to any other womyn interested in joining.
WEC's accomplishments to date include involvement in
several open forums which allowed womyn to dialogue about issues
and concerns regarding the LRC. A By-Laws Committee was
formed by the LRC Board in August when the group urged that the
Centre review its existing policies which have been in effect since the
LRC's inception. In addition, WEC initiated the draft and subsequent
posting of the LRC's Policy Statement on Diversity. Womyn en
Cambio hopes to provide encouragement and support of any and all
womyn who have a genuine desire to contribute and be involved in
a growing, thriving, and positively changing LRC.
The group plans to continue being an active and vital voice
within the LRC by effecting change and providing focus for the
Centre. This continues to be accomplished in a variety of different
ways. WEC's members remain visible within the Centre and are
involved in a number of committees such as By-Laws, Communication, Education, and Facilities.
Womyn en Cambio meets regularly and holds a monthly
meeting at the LRC. Interested and prospective members are
encouraged to contact Lori Strong at 275-0708 for meeting times,
places, and any additional information.

(

Psychologist

4054 McKinney Ave ., Suite 212

Dallas, Texas 75204
(214) 528-1815

§J)f'.CUL l:Vl::~T§
BY ANN BROWN

A planning and working committee for Special Events will
meet August 25 at 6:30 p.m.
Anyone with ideas for special projects or events is invited
to attend. Please bring your calendar, creativity, expertise,
team spirit, and problem-solving skills.
[Please leave a message at the LRC for Ann Brown if you
are interested in working on this committee but can't
attend.]

A special thanks from the
editor to all of you who
contributed articles to this
edition of the Honeypot. The
majority of submissions
were on diskette - thank you
thank you thank you. What
with the problems of having
the locks changed at the
Centre. missed connections.
etc, your cooperation is the
only thing that allowed this
newsletter to get to the
printer on time.

AN INTRODUCTION TO NLP

mjm

( \e11r11 -l 111i:111,11c l'roi:ra111111111i:J

Back by popular. demand - NLP at the LRC
SEE THE RESULTS 1
FEEL THE DIFFERENCE !
HEAR THE SUCCESS STORIES ·
from your .Wer• who are
NOW NLP GRADUATES.
with V. JAN MARSZALEK
• President & Owner NLP Learning Systems Corp.
• Largest NLPCenter In the Southwest
• 12 Years In Business
• Former Member of Govenor's Board

for CommuntcaJlons
1

Join Deb & Helen
In finding out how
this information can
be beneficial i n
your life NOW!
DATE: Sept. 22nd
TIME: 8 - 9:30 pm
PLACE: At the LRC
For Jfore Iajonnatfon

Call (214) 437-6878

All Donation• to the LRC ■

¼
(214) 521-1213
lndividue1I e1nd
C:-oup TI,erapy

Mary K. Grigsby, M.Ed.
Licensed Proressional
Counselor

• Chronic Illnesses
• Addictions
• Relationships
• Abuse Recovery

3514 Cedar Springs Rd . • Suite 300-C . Dallas, TX 75219

FACILITATOR NEEDED

Carpels
Upholstery
o n·entals
Dhwri<!s
Haitians
Drapcn·es
Lca1h as

The Tuesday Night Discussion Group is seeking a facilitator to lead discussions on the first and third Wednesday of
each month. This is an excellent opportunity to be involved
in a valuable Centre activity and it's also .lots. of fun! For

DONNA BIGE LOW

3307 Kinmorc S1rce 1, Da llas, Texas 75223,

(214) 826-6133

more details, contact Lori Strong at 275-0708.

SCHOOL'S IN SESSION
38 AND UPWARDS

Womyn For Womyn University
FALL SEMESTER
REGISTER NOW!
Saturdays 11:00 am - 1:00 pm

Carla Dolce
No, certainly not "over the hill!' This lively group meets the
2nd Tuesday of each month at 7:30 PM at the LRC, for a
supportive discussion of topics of interest to the "38 &
Upwards" crowd. At our recent discussion of the herstory of
Dallas lesbians, we shared many interesting stories of "coming out" at a time when the social climate was even more
repressive than it is today. In discussions stimulated by the
recent Lesbian Health Fair, we enjoyed sharing our views on
lesbian health issues.

September Courses:
9/11 - What do I say After I Say Hello?
Interpersonal Communication &
~
Assertiveness

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"38 & Upwards" has a social gathering the 4th Tuesday of
each month that is often held at the LRC and sometimes at
other locations as decided at the 2nd Tuesday meeting.

9/18 - LRC 101

It's always a pleasure having the continuity of seeing the
same womyn each month and hearing from the new ones
who join us. If you're 38 and upwards, do not hesitate to join
us for the 2nd Tuesday supportive discussion and the 4th
Tuesday social.

9/25 - I Thought A 'CD' Played Music!

Herstory of the Resource Center and
How theOrganization Operates

Personal Finances for Womyn
Registration Fee:
Members - $3.00 per course
Non-Members - $5.00 per course
Founding Mothers - Free of Charge
Call the LRC to register (leave a message for
Christine or Jeanne) or stop by and pick up a
registration form.

(214 1 618 4282

• Attend 6 courses and receive a W for
WU

Mashigian Investigations
P 0 . Box 260415
Plano . TX 75026-041 5

Commerc,al and Domestic
Private lnvest,gat,ons

Lisa R. Mashigian
President

T-Shirt.
Future courses include: Starting Your
Own Business; Dating; Intro to Computers; WordPerfect; Photography;
Motorcycle Driving; Wellness; and more!!

W omyn for W omyn, a Lesbian Resource Centre
August 29 - October 9, 1993
SUNDAY

MQNDAY

TUESDAY

WEDNESDAY

THURSDAY

Aug 29

Aug 30

Aug 31

Sept 1

Sept 2

7: 30pm Tuesday
Night Discussion

7:00pm Women's
Lodge (Recovery
and Support)

10:30am Women's Lodge (Recovery
and Support)
1:00pm -5 Librarian ' s Open House

Sept 5
10:30am Women's Lodge (Recovery
!llld Support)
1:00pm -5 Librarian's Open House
2:00pm Writers ' Group
2:00pm Library Committee

Sept 12

O FM

Sept 6
Labor Day

Sept 13

Sept 14
5:30pm Domesti,:
Violence Task force

10 :30am Women's Lodge (Recovery
and Support)
1:00pm -5 Librarian' s Open House

Sept 19

Sept 7

7:30pm Over 38's
Group

Sept 20

10:30am Women's Lodge (Recovery and
Support)

7:00pm Women's
Lodge (Recovery
and Support)

Sept 15

Sept 16

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Rosh Hashanah
7:30pm Tuesday
7:00pm Women's
Night Discussion
Lodge (Recovery
Group
and Support)

Sept 21
7:00pm -9:00
Womyn
Overcoming
Racism

I :OOpm -5 Librarian's Open House
2:00pm Writers'Group
5 :OOptn Womyn of Color Poetry and Short
Story Session

ct LQ

Sept 22
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Autumn begins

8:00pm NLP
Orientation

Sept 23
7:00pm Women's
Lodge (Recovery
and Support)

FRIDAY •. ..

Sept 3
7:00pm Newsletter
Deadlne
7:30pm Friday Night
Dinners

Sept 9

Sept 8

7:15pm LRC Board
Meeting

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Sept 10
7:30pm Friday Night
Dinners

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Sept 4
3:00pm -5:00 Under 30's

Sept 11
11 :00am -1 Womyn for Womyn University
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7 :OOpm Umoja Hermwias

MCCARTAUCT10N-LRC Benefits

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Sept 17

Sept 18

6:00pm Newsleller Mailing
6:30pm Membership
Committee
7 :30pm Friday Night

11 :OOam -1 Womyn for Womyn University
3:00pm -5:00 Under 30'•
3:00pm Recycling Party by Under 30's
Group
7 :30pm LRC Fun and Games Nigh!

Dinners

Sept 24
7:30pm Friday Night
Dinners

Sept 25
Yorn Kippur
11:00am - I Womyn for Womyn
University
3:00pm -5:00 Under 30's

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Sept 26

Sept 27

10 :30am Women' s Lodge (Recovery
and Support)
1:00pm -5 Librarian ' s Open House
2:00pm Writers ' Group
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Sept 29

Oct 4

Oct 5
7: 15pm LRC Board
Meeting

Sept 30
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7:30pm Over 38's
Group

10:30am Women's Lodge (Recovery
and Support)
1:00pm -5 Librarian's Open House

Oct 3

Sept 28

7:00pm Newsletter

7:00pm Women's
Lodge (Recovery
and Support)

Oct 6
7: 30pm Tuesday
Night Discussion

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the Honeypot
September 1993 The Newsletter of Womyn for Womyn, the Lesbian Resource Centre Vol. 4, No. 8

A Few Words
by Christine Jarosz
Director/Coordinator

Do you believe everything yoa read? everythin, yo• -hear?

<F~

Last Sunday,
the Morning
~~ N e w s
ran an
a rt i c I e
about the
killing of 12
year old Santos
Rodriquez by a Dallas police officer in 1973. For
those of you who do not recall this incident:
Santos and his brother David were picked up by
the police for questioning regarding a burglary at
a gas station. While in a police car, with his hands
cuffed behind his back, Santos was shot in the
head ~nd killed by a police~an w~o was playing
"Russian roulette". The police officer was

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again in 1978. For in 1978, the U.S.
·•·

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I was pretty nervous ...! had addressed large crowds before but not one like
this ... one organized by men.) What happened has stuck with me to this day... as
I was talking about the loss of this one little boy and the impact of this on my life
andthelivesofallofus, themeninuniformbehindmestartedhissing. lwasreally shocked. I turned around to look at them ("Um", I thought, "guess these guys
don't talk much about sexism and misogyny at their meetings."); I couldn't figure
it out. (But, of course, I could!) I had thought we were all there together for one
reason: to protest the death of the innocent... minority peoples and groups as
well as this child. But at that time I didn't know that a lot of people and groups have
their own agendas. That some people prefer to fight their own battles alone
because it's easier to look at everyone else as the enemy .. .it's not so easy to
figure out ways for different people to work together. I was very sad that day... for
the family of Santos .. .for his friends .. .for all people without
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justice ... for people who think they are alone. But I
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protest what was so very wrong. What I wanted (and

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there. At the time I was president of the
National Organization for Women. Out on the
streets we went. There were all kinds of people
protesting this awful tragedy. The protest was
organized primarily by the Brown Berets; it was
this group of militarily clad men that we had to get
permission from to spsak at the rally. I think they
did not want us to talk because we were bounced
like a ping pong ball between two leaders for
almost an hour before permission was finally
granted. It was only persistence that made it
happen. I got up and talked about the need for all
oppressed groups to work together to end racism
and sexism in our community ... that it was necessary for us to respect our differences and yet
learn to unite on the issues that we had in
common. We as a community had to unite to end
the discrimination and the conditions that keep
many men and more women in this country
virtual slaves. (I remember this part well because

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and, in particular, for all womyn.

Now to the main point of these few words. The Morning News reported that
Hispanics protested the 1978 Justice Department's decision. That statement,
though not totally incorrect, creates a false impression. Hundreds of people of all
races were there ... because issues of this nature affect all of us. But sometimes
I wonder if the media and others who write have their own agenda. Is it better for
them to make their readers think that people are not united on issues? Is
promoting cooperation not in the best interests of the
government and the media? I'm not going to answer
that...l know what I think. You have to decide.
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But I do want to say ... when you read
something or hear something, no mat- .....,.-...
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ter where you read it or where you hear
it, be sure you know what that person's
agenda really is. It may very well cloud
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theirthinking, their writing, theirconversation. Before rushing to judgement.. check it
out. It saves lots of confusion ...and the truth is worth it.

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THE LEGAL STUFF
The Lesbian Resource Centre exists to create physical
space where lesbians are valued for themselves . This
space, committed to a feminist philosophy, will provide
resources to all lesbians. The LRC Newsletter is published monthly and is distributed to over 650 womyn by the
LRC, P.O. Box 180446, Dallas, TX 75218-0446. (214)
821 -3999.
Board of Directors
Lisa Mashigian
Carolyn Rowley
Rosa Lopez

Ann Brown
Lurese Terrell
Vicki Harris
Jeanne Rubin

AIR E!EJNEITIEJNIN6 ... EJR b-AE!K THE~~~
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Repairing the AC has been an all summer event. The Aciwpuld \
be fixed ... then something else would go wrong with it. Probably
the most significant situation was that there was no single person
working on the repairs from the very first. Once that was taken
care of and once the little idiosyncracies of the unit were conquered everything started working more efficiently. LRC must
thank the new Facilities Coordinator, Diane G, for her monumental efforts in this venture. And LRC appreciates your patience. It
certainly has been unbearably hot and uncomfortable.

Christine Jarosz, Director

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organization. Your donations are tax deductable. All
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We welcome your comments, news, suggestions, and
contributions. All material is due in the editors mailbox
at the LRC by 7:00 p.m. on the first Friday of the month .
Letters to the editor and articles must be signed and
include a phone number, and are limited to a maximum
length of 750 words. Names wiill be withheld upon
request. Submissions should be made on diskette, in
any PC readable format; please call the LRC to shedule
access to the computer, if needed . Submissions will be
printed on a 'space available' basis, in the following order
of priority:
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3. Calendar
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------~-----THE DISCLAIMER

The views expressed in this publication are those of the
individual authors of the separate articles and letters;
these views are not necessarily those of the LRC or its
Board , or of the editor.

JUD I TH CANNON, P H .D.
INDIVIDUAL. COUPLE and FAMILY COUNSELING

3609 Cedar Springs
Dallas , Texas 75219
(214) 521-4810
Lianset! '.Marriage aruf J ami[y 'If1empist

A View .from the Outside
I saw and talked with a womyn, who happens to be Vietnamese, the other
day that I hadn't seen at the Centre in months. Before I could ask her why
she hadn't been around (which is always of interest to me}, she told me.
She said she wasn't an activist type person and felt uncomfortable at the
Centre ...that her ideas her not well received ...and that she missed being
around it. I tried to encourage her to take another chance at the LRC
because it was important for all of us to be around people with different
focuses in life. It's impossible to learn about different lifestyles and ideas
without exposure to them. If she were missing being at the Centre, she
had to take some chances and some risks and be w illing to be patient.
Just as we all have to. Being shy or unassertive can certainly make it more
difficult to feel included. And facing womyn who are intolerant of different
ideas or styles makes it impossible. We all have to do our part to build a
better world. So, she said she'd try again. So must everyone of us.

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LETTERS TO THE EDITOR

DearLRC,

pear Editor,
Christine Jarosz has invested herself, her time, and her
energy into the Lesbian Resource Center. Because of the
r9le she has played in birthing and nurturing the center, I
think some of us have unrealistic expectations of her. Just
as we looked to, or dreamed of looking to, our mother to
provide a safe and secure home, we look to Christine to create a safe
and secure center. Christine has been criticized for being too controlling and for not taking enough control. She has been criticized for being
too friendly and for not being friendly enough. We look to her to settle
disputes between members. We are like children who want our mother
to magically know what we want and to provide it. In reality, we are
all adults, and if we want a safe and secure center, we have to create
it. In this time of struggle, we need to avoid extremes. We are not
dependent children who need Christine's mothering. We are also not
adolescents who must rebel against her in order to define ourselves.
We are wonderful adult women with tremendous wisdom and resources among us. Christine's dream was to provide a place for us to
gather. She has done that. Now, let's do our part to empower
ourselves, each other, and the center. And, let's tell Christine thanks for
the wonderful opportunity she gives us to do that.
Judith Cannon

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PUBLIC NOTICE!!
A BYLAWS COMMITTEE has been approved and appointed by the
Lesbian Resource Center Board. The purpose of this committee is to
review the current bylaws and accept proposed changes or amendments to the BYLAWS that are submitted by members of the LRC.
The proposed submission should contain the BYLAW(S) at it is
currently worded, the proposed change, and a brief explanation for the
change.

Please submit your proposals to
THE BYLAWS COMMITTEE
LRC
P.O. BOX 180446
DALLAS, TX 75218

I must admit that this letter is long overdue. Yes, it is in reference to Barbara's infamous anti-semetic remark. She has
apologized and explained that it was not made out of malice· but
in jest of her own Jewish ancestry.
'
The uproar over the remark worries me a great deal. Censorship
is looming over the horizon as we lose a piece of our freedom
continuously. This seems like such negative energy wasted on
issues that are not at the top fo the agenda of lesbians or women
in general. Does this mean that it will be necessary for the LRC
to elect a review board for future shows to determine what is
suitable for us to see and hear? Does this also mean that the
review board examine all the books and publications in the LRC
library? What happens then?
Too much time has been lost on this issue. There are great
strides yet to be made by us as women and lesbians. We need to
join together and empower ourselves. We deserve acceptance for
our intelligence and for whomever we choose to be our lovers.
The more progress we make now will lessen the struggle for our
daughters.
Sincerely,
Randa Hope
Maria Candiloros

GAME NIGHT
Carla Dolce
Board games, card games, action games, and all other games
have begun arriving every third Saturday of the month to
provide an enjoyable evening of fun and games. If you missed
the first fun-packed game night August 21,
1993, be sure not to miss the next one, Saturday, September 18, at the LRC! Hosted by the
"38 and Upwards" group, game time is around
7:30 PM> Bring your favorite games. I'll see you
there!

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You may also contact Pam Tise@ (214) 475-2361

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WOMYN EN CAMBIO: GROWTH, DIVERSITY,
MARTI KRANZBERG, Ph.D.

AND CHANGE

Womyn en Cambio (WEC} is a group of concerned LRC
members that was formed over four months ago committed to
revitalizing interest in the LRC from and for the ever-changing
diverse lesbian community. The group's name, "Womyn en Cambio,"
refers to the group's impetus for change or "cambio" for the LRC,
whether the focus is on the organizational structure itself or impacting the actual vision of the Centre. At present, the group is composed
of LRC members which includes both voting and board members,
and is open to any other womyn interested in joining.
WEC's accomplishments to date include involvement in
several open forums which allowed womyn to dialogue about issues
and concerns regarding the LRC. A By-Laws Committee was
formed by the LRC Board in August when the group urged that the
Centre review its existing policies which have been in effect since the
LRC's inception. In addition, WEC initiated the draft and subsequent
posting of the LRC's Policy Statement on Diversity. Womyn en
Cambio hopes to provide encouragement and support of any and all
womyn who have a genuine desire to contribute and be involved in
a growing, thriving, and positively changing LRC.
The group plans to continue being an active and vital voice
within the LRC by effecting change and providing focus for the
Centre. This continues to be accomplished in a variety of different
ways. WEC's members remain visible within the Centre and are
involved in a number of committees such as By-Laws, Communication, Education, and Facilities.
Womyn en Cambio meets regularly and holds a monthly
meeting at the LRC. Interested and prospective members are
encouraged to contact Lori Strong at 275-0708 for meeting times,
places, and any additional information.

(

Psychologist

4054 McKinney Ave ., Suite 212

Dallas, Texas 75204
(214) 528-1815

~Vl=CUL l:Vl=~T~
BY ANN BROWN

A planning and working committee for Special Events will
meet August 25 at 6:30 p.m.
Anyone with ideas for special projects or events is invited
to attend. Please bring your calendar, creativity, expertise,
team spirit, and problem-solving skills.
[Please leave a message at the LRC for Ann Brown if you
are interested in working on this committee but can't
attend.]

A special thanks from the
editor to all of you who
contributed articles to this
edition of the Honeypot. The
majority of submissions
were on diskette - thank you
thank you thank you. What
with the problems of having
the locks changed at the
Centre, missed connections,
etc, your cooperation is the
only thing that allowed this
newsletter to get to the
printer on time.

AN INTRODUCTION TO NLP

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Back by popular. demand - NLP at the LRC
SEE THE RESULTS t
FEEL THE DIJl'FERENCE t
HEAR THE succas STORIES .
from your .uter• who are
NOW NLP GRADUATES.
wUh V. JAN MARSZALEK
• PresldenJ & Owner NLP Learning Systems Corp .
• Largest NLP Center In the Southwest
• 12 Years lnBustness
• Former Member of Govenor's Board
for Communlcatlons
1

Join Deb & Helen
in finding out how
this information can
be beneficial in
your life NOW!
DATE: Sept. 22nd
TIME: 8 - 9 :30 pm
PLACE: At the LRC
For .lfore Ia.fonnatfon

Call (214) 437-6878

All Donation• to the LRC ■

¼
(214) 521-1213
Individual and
C:·oup Therapy

Mary K. Grigsby, M.Ed.
Licensed Proressional
Counselor

• Chronic Illnesses
• Addictions
• Relationships
• Abuse Recovery

3514 Cedar Springs Rd. • Suite 300-C • Dallas, TX 75219

WOMYN EN CAMBIO: GROWTH, DIVERSITY,
MARTI KRANZBERG, Ph.D.

AND CHANGE

Womyn en Cambio (WEC) is a group of concerned LRC
members that was formed over four months ago committed to
revitalizing interest in the LRC from and for the ever-changing
diverse lesbian community. The group's name, "Womyn en Cambio,"
refers to the group's impetus for change or "cambio" for the LRC,
whether the focus is on the organizational structure itself or impacting the actual vision of the Centre. At present, the group is composed
of LRC members which includes both voting and board members,
and is open to any other womyn interested in joining.
WEC's accomplishments to date include involvement in
several open forums which allowed womyn to dialogue about issues
and concerns regarding the LRC. A By-Laws Committee was
formed by the LRC Board in August when the group urged that the
Centre review its existing policies which have been in effect since the
LRC's inception. In addition, WEC initiated the draft and subsequent
posting of the LRC's Policy Statement on Diversity. Womyn en
Cambio hopes to provide encouragement and support of any and all
womyn who have a genuine desire to contribute and be involved in
a growing, thriving, and positively changing LRC.
The group plans to continue being an active and vital voice
within the LRC by effecting change and providing focus for the
Centre. This continues to be accomplished in a variety of different
ways. WEC's members remain visible within the Centre and are
involved in a number of committees such as By-Laws, Communication, Education, and Facilities.
Womyn en Cambio meets regularly and holds a monthly
meeting at the LRC. Interested and prospective members are
encouraged to contact Lori Strong at 275-0708 for meeting times,
places, and any additional information.

(

Psychologist

4054 McKinney Ave ., Suite 212

Dallas, Texas 75204
(214) 528-1815

§J)f'.CUL l:Vl::~T§
BY ANN BROWN

A planning and working committee for Special Events will
meet August 25 at 6:30 p.m.
Anyone with ideas for special projects or events is invited
to attend. Please bring your calendar, creativity, expertise,
team spirit, and problem-solving skills.
[Please leave a message at the LRC for Ann Brown if you
are interested in working on this committee but can't
attend.]

A special thanks from the
editor to all of you who
contributed articles to this
edition of the Honeypot. The
majority of submissions
were on diskette - thank you
thank you thank you. What
with the problems of having
the locks changed at the
Centre. missed connections.
etc, your cooperation is the
only thing that allowed this
newsletter to get to the
printer on time.

AN INTRODUCTION TO NLP

mjm

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Back by popular. demand - NLP at the LRC
SEE THE RESULTS 1
FEEL THE DIFFERENCE !
HEAR THE SUCCESS STORIES ·
from your .Wer• who are
NOW NLP GRADUATES.
with V. JAN MARSZALEK
• President & Owner NLP Learning Systems Corp.
• Largest NLPCenter In the Southwest
• 12 Years In Business
• Former Member of Govenor's Board

for CommuntcaJlons
1

Join Deb & Helen
In finding out how
this information can
be beneficial i n
your life NOW!
DATE: Sept. 22nd
TIME: 8 - 9:30 pm
PLACE: At the LRC
For Jfore Iajonnatfon

Call (214) 437-6878

All Donation• to the LRC ■

¼
(214) 521-1213
lndividue1I e1nd
C:-oup TI,erapy

Mary K. Grigsby, M.Ed.
Licensed Proressional
Counselor

• Chronic Illnesses
• Addictions
• Relationships
• Abuse Recovery

3514 Cedar Springs Rd . • Suite 300-C . Dallas, TX 75219

FACILITATOR NEEDED

Carpels
Upholstery
o n·entals
Dhwri<!s
Haitians
Drapcn·es
Lca1h as

The Tuesday Night Discussion Group is seeking a facilitator to lead discussions on the first and third Wednesday of
each month. This is an excellent opportunity to be involved
in a valuable Centre activity and it's also .lots. of fun! For

DONNA BIGE LOW

3307 Kinmorc S1rce 1, Da llas, Texas 75223,

(214) 826-6133

more details, contact Lori Strong at 275-0708.

SCHOOL'S IN SESSION
38 AND UPWARDS

Womyn For Womyn University
FALL SEMESTER
REGISTER NOW!
Saturdays 11:00 am - 1:00 pm

Carla Dolce
No, certainly not "over the hill!' This lively group meets the
2nd Tuesday of each month at 7:30 PM at the LRC, for a
supportive discussion of topics of interest to the "38 &
Upwards" crowd. At our recent discussion of the herstory of
Dallas lesbians, we shared many interesting stories of "coming out" at a time when the social climate was even more
repressive than it is today. In discussions stimulated by the
recent Lesbian Health Fair, we enjoyed sharing our views on
lesbian health issues.

September Courses:
9/11 - What do I say After I Say Hello?
Interpersonal Communication &
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Assertiveness

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"38 & Upwards" has a social gathering the 4th Tuesday of
each month that is often held at the LRC and sometimes at
other locations as decided at the 2nd Tuesday meeting.

9/18 - LRC 101

It's always a pleasure having the continuity of seeing the
same womyn each month and hearing from the new ones
who join us. If you're 38 and upwards, do not hesitate to join
us for the 2nd Tuesday supportive discussion and the 4th
Tuesday social.

9/25 - I Thought A 'CD' Played Music!

Herstory of the Resource Center and
How theOrganization Operates

Personal Finances for Womyn
Registration Fee:
Members - $3.00 per course
Non-Members - $5.00 per course
Founding Mothers - Free of Charge
Call the LRC to register (leave a message for
Christine or Jeanne) or stop by and pick up a
registration form.

(214 1 618 4282

• Attend 6 courses and receive a W for
WU

Mashigian Investigations
P 0 . Box 260415
Plano . TX 75026-041 5

Commerc,al and Domestic
Private lnvest,gat,ons

Lisa R. Mashigian
President

T-Shirt.
Future courses include: Starting Your
Own Business; Dating; Intro to Computers; WordPerfect; Photography;
Motorcycle Driving; Wellness; and more!!

W omyn for W omyn, a Lesbian Resource Centre
August 29 - October 9, 1993
SUNDAY

MQNDAY

TUESDAY

WEDNESDAY

THURSDAY

Aug 29

Aug 30

Aug 31

Sept 1

Sept 2

7: 30pm Tuesday
Night Discussion

7:00pm Women's
Lodge (Recovery
and Support)

10:30am Women's Lodge (Recovery
and Support)
1:00pm -5 Librarian ' s Open House

Sept 5
10:30am Women's Lodge (Recovery
!llld Support)
1:00pm -5 Librarian's Open House
2:00pm Writers ' Group
2:00pm Library Committee

Sept 12

O FM

Sept 6
Labor Day

Sept 13

Sept 14
5:30pm Domesti,:
Violence Task force

10 :30am Women's Lodge (Recovery
and Support)
1:00pm -5 Librarian' s Open House

Sept 19

Sept 7

7:30pm Over 38's
Group

Sept 20

10:30am Women's Lodge (Recovery and
Support)

7:00pm Women's
Lodge (Recovery
and Support)

Sept 15

Sept 16

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Rosh Hashanah
7:30pm Tuesday
7:00pm Women's
Night Discussion
Lodge (Recovery
Group
and Support)

Sept 21
7:00pm -9:00
Womyn
Overcoming
Racism

I :OOpm -5 Librarian's Open House
2:00pm Writers'Group
5 :OOptn Womyn of Color Poetry and Short
Story Session

ct LQ

Sept 22
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Autumn begins

8:00pm NLP
Orientation

Sept 23
7:00pm Women's
Lodge (Recovery
and Support)

FRIDAY •. ..

Sept 3
7:00pm Newsletter
Deadlne
7:30pm Friday Night
Dinners

Sept 9

Sept 8

7:15pm LRC Board
Meeting

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Sept 10
7:30pm Friday Night
Dinners

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Sept 4
3:00pm -5:00 Under 30's

Sept 11
11 :00am -1 Womyn for Womyn University
3:00pm -5:00 Under 30'•
7 :OOpm Umoja Hermwias

MCCARTAUCT10N-LRC Benefits

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Sept 17

Sept 18

6:00pm Newsleller Mailing
6:30pm Membership
Committee
7 :30pm Friday Night

11 :OOam -1 Womyn for Womyn University
3:00pm -5:00 Under 30'•
3:00pm Recycling Party by Under 30's
Group
7 :30pm LRC Fun and Games Nigh!

Dinners

Sept 24
7:30pm Friday Night
Dinners

Sept 25
Yorn Kippur
11:00am - I Womyn for Womyn
University
3:00pm -5:00 Under 30's

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Sept 26

Sept 27

10 :30am Women' s Lodge (Recovery
and Support)
1:00pm -5 Librarian ' s Open House
2:00pm Writers ' Group
2:00pm Library Committee

Sept 29

Oct 4

Oct 5
7: 15pm LRC Board
Meeting

Sept 30
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7:30pm Over 38's
Group

10:30am Women's Lodge (Recovery
and Support)
1:00pm -5 Librarian's Open House

Oct 3

Sept 28

7:00pm Newsletter

7:00pm Women's
Lodge (Recovery
and Support)

Oct 6
7: 30pm Tuesday
Night Discussion

Oct l

Oct 7

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Oct 8

7:00pm Women's ct LQ
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8/5/1993

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