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National Coming Out Day
is October 11, 2005

Herland 20th Anniversary Retreat:
October 28th-30th, Eufaula State Park

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ational Coming Out Day is a
day for every single person who
supports GLBT equality to
speak openly about it. Maybe you're
coming out for the first time ever, or
maybe you're just talking with a
neighbor, coworker, friend or acquaintance about GLBT issues for the first
time. Regardless, coming out and being out is the most important thing you
can do.
This year's theme for National Coming Out Day is "Talk About It." Human
Rights Campaign is working to tell the
stories of GLBT people to the nation
every day, and we hope that you will do
that too - either one on one with someone in your life, or by planning a National Coming Out Day event.
Being brave doesn't mean that you're
not scared. It means that you're
scared, and that you do the thing that
you're afraid of anyway.
Coming out as gay, lesbian, bisexual,
transgender or as a straight supportive
person is an act of bravery, authenticity
and openness. Whether it's for the first
time ever, or for the first time todaycoming out is the most important thing
you will do all day.
Talk about it.
Even after coming out to yourself and
the important people in your life, you
will find that coming out is a lifelong
journey that requires that you make
frequent decisions about whether to
come out to someone new. For example, GLBT people must make comingout decisions in the workplace, the military, with a health care provider and in
a place of worship. Coming out truly is a
never-ending journey.

on't miss out on Herland's 20th anniversary retreat on Halloween weekend at
Eufaula State Park. Fall foliage should be in full bloom and this will be a
great time of year to be out in nature and enjoy the companionship of the Herland community. We have lots of special activities planned to commemorate our 20
years ofretreats, including the "ghosts ofretreats past," a pumpkin carving contest
(bring your own pumpkin), a Halloween costume contest for people and/or pets, a silent auction for a sailboat (see description below), and Saturday brunch featuring made
to order omelets. Activities during the day on Saturday will include tie-dyeing, a
drumming circle, and outdoor and indoor game tournaments earning the winners points
toward prizes from the raffle table. Sunday .will feature brunch and the raffle. There
will be special 20th anniversary t-shirts available at the retreat. (See page 2.)
The sailboat donated to Herland for the silent auction is an O'Day Superswift that is
12'-9" long and weighs approximately 120 lbs. It fits easily into the back of a pickup,
no trailer necessary, or it can be cartopped. Once you get to the shore, one person can
easily rig her and be in the water in 15 minutes; launching from a boat ramp is not necessary. All rigging is intact and in good working order, sheet (rope) and sail are new,
and dagger board is in good worki.11g order. The tag is paid through 2008.
Saturday night will be the potluck (always the best meal of the year) followed by the
concert. Peggy Johnson will be our host and featured performer for the evening. All
the past retreat performers that we were able to contact have been invited to jam in the
second set of the concert. So far we have confirmation for Wende Allyn, Sharlene
Kell, and possibly Nancy Scott and Tuffy.
If you have any questions, please call Laura at 286-0079 or leave a message at Herland at 521-9696.

Julie Loyd in Concert at Herland October Sth, 7 pm
Join us on Wednesday, October 5, for an evening of "cool, crunchy guitar licks" as Julie
Loyd "walks the narrow path
between folk and energetic
pop music." On a national
-tour, Julie is stopping in OKC
as she makes her way from
West Virginia to California
and back to Philly. With her
third album, "The Waiting
Room," just released, Julie
writes from an "unflinchingly
gay feminine perspective, but
the musical presentation packs
enough muscle to back up her
sentiments." Admission is
$7.50 - $15 sliding scale.

www.herlandsisters.org
herland sister resources, 2312 nw 39th, oklahoma city, ok 73112
(405) 521-9696
email: herlandsisters@cox.net
bookstore hours: saturdays 1-5 pm

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At the Retreat

T

he retreats are held at state park group
camps, separated from the rest of the
park by a gate. There are about 10 cabins that hold about 12 people each . There are
bunk beds with thin mattresses (no sheets) in
the cabins or you may also pitch a tent. Bathrooms and showers are in one building near the
center of the group camp.
Signup sheets for the cabins will tell you the
type of activities allowed or not allowed in each
cabin (e.g., smoking, drinking, dogs, children,
partying late). Please sign up also for one shift
of kitchen duty. We must be completely out of
the park by noon on Sunday so we ask folks to
have their cabins cleaned up by 10 am and then
help us clean up the bathrooms, showers, and
main dining hall.
There is a kitchen in the main dining hall with
stoves and ovens and refrigerators and freezers
for storing perishables. Herland has pop, water,
snacks, chips, and fruit for sale all weekend.
The Retreats are Herland's only "womyn only"
eveni held throughout the year. It is a place for
women to feel safe and comfortable being in a
womyn's space. In keeping with that, we ask
that you do not bring male children over the age
of 10 to the retreat. Pets are allowed but must
remain on a leash at all times and are not allowed in the main dining hall (health regulations).

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Directions to Eufaula State Park:
From OKC go east on 1-40 to exit 259. Go south on State Highway 150 to the entrance to Eufaula
State Park. Look for "Group Camp" signs.
From Tulsa, go south on US 75 to 1-40. Go east on 1-40 to exit 259. Go south on State Highway
150 to the entrance to Eufaula State Park. Look for "Group Camp" signs.
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T-shirt Design Winner
Congratulations to Chris Chrisstoffels for
her winning design in our 20th Anniversary
Retreat T-shirt Design Contest. Chris' design captures the spirit of anticipation we all
have felt when heading out to a Herland
Retreat. Many thanks to all who entered
the contest. There were many great designs to choose from.

Herland Retreat Registration Form
Eufaula State Park, October 28-30, 2005
Deadline for pre-registration is October 24th. Please remember that dogs are welcome but
must remain on leashes and are not allowed in the dining hall.

Registration fee enclosed (payable to Herland):
_$15 _$25 _$35 _$45 _$60
_Saturday only (includes concert & one night
stay)- $25
_Concert only- $10

Sliding Scale Pre-Registration
Single Person
Annual Income

under $6,500
$6,500-$13,300
$13,300-$19,500
$19,500-$30,000
over $30,000

Household
Registration
Annual Income per person

under $13,300
$13,300-$18,000
$18,000-$26,000
$26,000-$50,000
over $50,000

$15
$25
$35
$45
$60

Name(s):
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Address:
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City:

State:
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Phone:

Zip:
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( ) I need a scholarship to attend.
( ) I'm enclosing an additional $ _to help provide scholarships.
( ) I'm bringing_ children (girls of all ages and boys under age 10 are welcome).
Please return registration fonn and check to: Herland Sister Resources, 2312 NW 39th
Street, Oklahoma City, OK 73112. A retreat packet with all infonnation will be sent to you.

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Herland Activities
Herland Hiking
The last Herland Hike for the fall season will be Saturday, October
8th, at 1O am. The location for this hike is South Lakes Park, SW
I 19th Street and Meridian. The entrance to the park is on SW I 19th
about a 1/4 mile West ofl-44. Join us for the optional coffee gathering at 9 am at Panera, SW 104th and Penn.

Herland Supper Club

Herland Events Calendar
October 1-23: Oklahoma Holocaust Remembrance

Exhibition, Untitled Artspace, 1 NE 3rd. See
www.okholocaustexhibition.org for hours and details.
Tuesday. Oct 4: PFLAG, Church of the Open Arms,
3131 N Penn, 7 pm.
Wednesday. Oct. 5: Julie Loyd in concert at Herland, 7 pm. $7.50-$15 sliding scale.
Saturday. Oct 8: Herland Hike, South Lakes Park,

Dust off your bowling shoes and join us for
an evening of pizza and bowling on Saturday, October 8. First, at 6:00 pm we will eat
at Joey's Pizzeria, 1807 N. Classen Blvd.
Many have discovered that Joey's has some
of the best pizza in town. (Those wishing to
carpool can meet at Herland Sister Resources
at 5:45 pm.) After supper, at 7:30 pm, we
will go bowling at 66 Bowl, 3810 NW 39th
(near Portland). 66 Bowl is a really fun
place at night-they have a deejay that asks ·
trivia questions and you win prizes with the
correct answers. Not to mention bowling is
more fun at night with the lights low!

SW 119th and Meridian, 10 am. Meet for coffee first
at Panera, SW 104th and Penn, 9 am.
Saturday. Oct 8: Herland Supper Club, eat at
Joey's Pizzeria, 1807 N. Classen, 6 pm, followed by
bowling at 66 Bowl, 3810 NW 39th, 7:30 pm.
Monday, Oct 1O: OGLPC Monthly Meeting at
Neighborhood Alliance, 1236 NW 36th, 7 pm.
Tuesday, Oct 11: Young LGBT Support Group,
Church of the Open Arms, 3131 NPenn, 7 pm. Call
Donna at 748-7301 for details.

Herland Video Nights

Sunday, Oct 16: Herland Board Meeting at Her-

In honor of Lesbian and Gay History
Month, Herland presents The Question of .
Equality, a unique four-part series which
shows a multi-faceted history of the gay
and lesbian civil rights movement. From
Stonewall to Anita Bryant, to Oregon
Measure 9 and "don't ask, don't tell," the
Gay Liberation movement has fought for
equal rights in a climate of hatred, violence, intolerance, and discrimination.
This series examines the history of the
gay liberation movement beginning with
the Stonewall riots in 1969. The videos
will be shown Friday and Saturday, October 14th and 15th. The first night, Fri."
day, we will show the first two parts of
the series-Out Rage '69 and Culture Wars beginning at 7 pm. Saturday night we will have a potluck dinne: first at 7 pm follo.wed by
the showing of Parts 3 and 4--Hollow Liberty and Generation Q.

Herland Scrabble Night
All you panjandrums of Scrabble,
please join us on Saturday, October
22, at 6 pm for a game or two on the
board. We usually order a pizza as
soon as everyone arrives. The competition ranges from beginners to experts, so you'll have lots oflevels to
choose from.

Friday. Oct 14: Herland Video Night, The Question of Equality, Parts 1 &2, at Herland, 7 pm.
Saturday, Oct 15: Herland Potluck and Video
Night, The Question of Equality, Parts 3 &4, at Her-

land, potluck at 7 pm, video follows.
land, 4 pm, everyone welcome.
Saturday. Oct 22: Herland Scrabble Night at Her-

land, 6 pm.
Tuesday. Oct 25: Young Lesbians/Gays Support

Group at Church of the Open Arms, 3131 N Penn, 7
pm.
Fri. Sat. Sun. Oct 28·30: Herland Fall Retreat at
Eufaula State Park.

Website of the Month
www .julieloyd.com

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State NOW Meetings
Get involved with NOW at the local
level. Help plan and implement
strategies to combat sexism.

Email ameevanderpool.now@gmail.com for
more information.

Young LGBT Group
Want to talk to womyn your own age?
Join this "talking circle" for young lesbians, gays, bisexuals, and transgenders
between the ages of 18 and 30. Group
is sponsored by PFLAG and meets the
2nd &4th Tuesdays, of each month at 7
pm at Church of the Open Arms, 3131 N
Penn, OKC. Call Donna at 748-7301 for
more information.

Masterpieces of Hope
Friday, October 21, 2005
Ballroom, Crowne Plaza Hotel, Tulsa
Reception with Silent & Live Auctions

Oklahoma Holocaust Remembrance Exhibition

T

he Oklahoma Holocaust Remembrance Exhibition consists of two
separate exhibits plus movies, workshops, lectures and other events.
The Exhibition is located at Untitled [ArtSpace] in downtown Oklahoma City, at 1NE3rd Street, and will continue through October 23 of this
year.
At the center of the space is Nazi Persecution of Homosexuals, 19331945; and around the perimeter is the exhibit Rescuers: Portraits ofMoral
Courage in the Holocaust.
Nazi Persecution ofHomosexuals, 1933 -1945 is one of several traveling exhibitions offered by the United States Holocaust Memorial Museum in
Washington, D.C. This exhibition examines the rationale, means, and impact of the Nazi regime's effort to rid Germany of male homosexuality. Following an overview of the emerging urban gay community in Germany in
the 1910s to the early 1930s, the exhibition explores Nazi racial and social
ideals that formed the basis for the attempt to eradicate male homosexuality.
The core of the exhibition focuses on the police terror that led to the arrest
of some 100,000 homosexual men, 50,000 of whom were convicted and imprisoned during the Nazi period. Also presented is the brutal and often fatal
incarceration of an estimated 5,000 to 15,000 homosexual men in concentration camps. The exhibition concludes with the postwar aftermath and Germany's memorials to the homosexual victims of Nazi persecution.
The curator of the traveling USHMM exhibit, Dr. Ted Phillips, was in
Oklahoma City for a few days, speaking about the exhibit. Dr. Phillips
made the point that homosexuals should not be referred to as victims of the
"Holocaust": they were victims of Nazi persecution. The term "Holocaust"
refers to the systematic targeting and elimination ofJews, nothing else.
Other victims during that time, such as gays, Roma (Gypsies), political prisoners, etc, were victims of the Nazis' persecution. Dr. Phillips noted that
this is a subtle, but important, historical distinction to make.
In fact, the Nazi persecution of German male homosexuals was not designed to exterminate them, it was designed to "cure" and "heal" them so
they could contribute to re-populating the country. When the Nazis conquered other countries, they did not target gays - it was just German gays
they wanted to turn around and straighten up, so to speak.
Lesbians were not targeted because they were not viewed as a threat to
society: women had little power and their sphere of influence was too narrow (children, kitchen, and church). Besides, lesbians could be forced to
reproduce (there's a chilling thought). Some lesbians were incarcerated as
"asocial" - the "asocials" in the camp wore black triangles, but there were
many different groups considered asocials besides lesbians.
(Continued next page)

Join us for an evening of creativity and compassion. Live auction of denim jacket
"Masterpieces" by local and national artists,
including Lou Hodgston, John Draper,
Charles Faudree and others. Silent auction
of art, gifts, vacations, and more. For ticket
information, call the Tulsa RAIN office at
918-834-4195 or visit
www.rainoklahoma.org.

Church of the Open Arms
3131 N Penn, OKC cordially invites you to a
Super Spud Supper & Musical Celebration
Friday, October 21 • 7:00 pm
Supper will be baked potatoes with a wide selection of toppings.
The concert will feature our fabulous new baby grand piano.
Call 525-9555 for more details.

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Rescuers: Portraits of Moral Courage in the Holocaust was created
by Rabbi Malka Drucker and her partner, photographer Gay Block.
Rabbi Drucker, author of many children's books, was asked by her rabbi
to tell the story of rescuers of Jews during the Holocaust, so that children
learning of the Holocaust would have a ray of hope, and not lose their
innocence and faith in humanity. Malka and Gay spent three years locating and interviewing 105 rescuers and documented their research with
this exhibit, a book, and a video (which runs continually in a side room at
Untitled).
During the Holocaust, rescuers hid Jews in cellars and behind false
walls, shared their meager food rations, disposed of waste, smuggled
people out of ghettos, and brought up Jewish children as their own.
Their stories of heroism are amazing, and even more so are the attitudes
of the rescuers. Some of them lived in perpetual fear or in great degradation; some look at those years as the best of their lives; some are
ashamed of having rescued too few; one says those years made her the
woman she is today. All of them felt they could not have done differently. Unspoken but ever present is the knowledge that many rescuers
were discovered and did not survive the Nazis.
Malka and Gay also were in Oklahoma City to speak about their exhibit. One of the points they emphasized was that people fell into four
categories during the Holocaust: they were persecutors, victims, rescuers,
or bystanders.
The fourth category- bystanders -was far and away the largest percentage of people; and the smallest category was rescuers. Rescuers
were only thousands among the millions who were victims and the tens
of millions who were bystanders. Malka made the comparison that the
ratio of rescuers to bystanders was like one teardrop in an ocean of indifference. Malka and Gay hope that viewers, rather than asking themselves, ''"What would I have done? Could I have been a rescuer? Or
would I have been a bystander?" will instead ask themselves if there are
issues or injustices today in which there are victims and bystanders.
And, perhaps the exhibit will stimulate visitors to consider how they
might be involved in righting contemporary injustices.
In the first five days of the Exhibition, over 1,000 people visited the
gallery or attended one of the film showings at the Oklahoma Museum of
Art. In the next few weeks it is hoped that an actual rescuer whose story
is included in the exhibit, Dr. Marian Pritchard, will be in town to inspire
us. Dr. Pritchard is a psychoanalyst in Maine, and as soon as travel plans
are completed the information will be on the exhibit website at
www.okholocaustexhibition.org.
Also on the website, you will find news of various lectures, workshops,
etc. taking place. One of these is a forum on Monday, October 10th, 7-9
p.m., in the City of Norman City Council Chambers. The forum will be
presented by the Norman Human Rights Commission and is titled "The
Holocaust - How Did It Happen? Could It Happen Again?"
There are several Holocaust scholars here with this event and if you
would like to organize an outing often or more people you can arrange
for one of them to do a special presentation. If you would like to be part
of a Herland group taking advantage of this wonderful opportunity,
please email Margaret Cox at saintsyb 77@hotmail.com.

RESCtJ ERS
; -,

From the window of our house I could see
the ghetto. When the houses were burning
during the ghetto uprising in April 1943, I
saw people jumping from windows. One
family of ten came and stayed for a few
weeks until I found other shelter for them.
No one was refused in my home. We had at
least fifty Jews during the war-- friends,
strangers, acquaintances, or someone who
heard about me from someone else. Anyone was taken in. - Zofia Baniecka
We built a false floor in the kitchen cupboard; Jacob was skinny so he could fit in.
But about two weeks later the Gestapo
came because a neighbor thought she had
seen Jacob. They looked everywhere, but
they didn't find him. Then one day that
same SS man came again, but that time my
brother-in-law was visiting and he knew
this man. Jacob was hiding under the sink,
and we started giving the Nazi whiskey.
They drank and they ate so much, and my
brother-in-law convinced him his sister
would never hide a Jew, so we escaped
that time. But I knew I had to go looking for
another apartment.
I found a nice big apartment in a quiet
neighborhood. I put Jacob inside the
couch, and that's how we moved across
town, right under the noses of the Germans. A couple of days later Dr. Kowalski
came to see me and he says, "Mr. Rosian, I
want to bring you another boy. He's in a
place now where he has to stay in the attic
laying down all the time. He's so skinny
and sickly." - Alex & Mela Rosian

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volume 23, number 10

National Coming Out Day
is October 11, 2005

Herland 20th Anniversary Retreat:
October 28th-30th, Eufaula State Park

N

D

ational Coming Out Day is a
day for every single person who
supports GLBT equality to
speak openly about it. Maybe you're
coming out for the first time ever, or
maybe you're just talking with a
neighbor, coworker, friend or acquaintance about GLBT issues for the first
time. Regardless, coming out and being out is the most important thing you
can do.
This year's theme for National Coming Out Day is "Talk About It." Human
Rights Campaign is working to tell the
stories of GLBT people to the nation
every day, and we hope that you will do
that too - either one on one with someone in your life, or by planning a National Coming Out Day event.
Being brave doesn't mean that you're
not scared. It means that you're
scared, and that you do the thing that
you're afraid of anyway.
Coming out as gay, lesbian, bisexual,
transgender or as a straight supportive
person is an act of bravery, authenticity
and openness. Whether it's for the first
time ever, or for the first time todaycoming out is the most important thing
you will do all day.
Talk about it.
Even after coming out to yourself and
the important people in your life, you
will find that coming out is a lifelong
journey that requires that you make
frequent decisions about whether to
come out to someone new. For example, GLBT people must make comingout decisions in the workplace, the military, with a health care provider and in
a place of worship. Coming out truly is a
never-ending journey.

on't miss out on Herland's 20th anniversary retreat on Halloween weekend at
Eufaula State Park. Fall foliage should be in full bloom and this will be a
great time of year to be out in nature and enjoy the companionship of the Herland community. We have lots of special activities planned to commemorate our 20
years ofretreats, including the "ghosts ofretreats past," a pumpkin carving contest
(bring your own pumpkin), a Halloween costume contest for people and/or pets, a silent auction for a sailboat (see description below), and Saturday brunch featuring made
to order omelets. Activities during the day on Saturday will include tie-dyeing, a
drumming circle, and outdoor and indoor game tournaments earning the winners points
toward prizes from the raffle table. Sunday .will feature brunch and the raffle. There
will be special 20th anniversary t-shirts available at the retreat. (See page 2.)
The sailboat donated to Herland for the silent auction is an O'Day Superswift that is
12'-9" long and weighs approximately 120 lbs. It fits easily into the back of a pickup,
no trailer necessary, or it can be cartopped. Once you get to the shore, one person can
easily rig her and be in the water in 15 minutes; launching from a boat ramp is not necessary. All rigging is intact and in good working order, sheet (rope) and sail are new,
and dagger board is in good worki.11g order. The tag is paid through 2008.
Saturday night will be the potluck (always the best meal of the year) followed by the
concert. Peggy Johnson will be our host and featured performer for the evening. All
the past retreat performers that we were able to contact have been invited to jam in the
second set of the concert. So far we have confirmation for Wende Allyn, Sharlene
Kell, and possibly Nancy Scott and Tuffy.
If you have any questions, please call Laura at 286-0079 or leave a message at Herland at 521-9696.

Julie Loyd in Concert at Herland October Sth, 7 pm
Join us on Wednesday, October 5, for an evening of "cool, crunchy guitar licks" as Julie
Loyd "walks the narrow path
between folk and energetic
pop music." On a national
-tour, Julie is stopping in OKC
as she makes her way from
West Virginia to California
and back to Philly. With her
third album, "The Waiting
Room," just released, Julie
writes from an "unflinchingly
gay feminine perspective, but
the musical presentation packs
enough muscle to back up her
sentiments." Admission is
$7.50 - $15 sliding scale.

www.herlandsisters.org
herland sister resources, 2312 nw 39th, oklahoma city, ok 73112
(405) 521-9696
email: herlandsisters@cox.net
bookstore hours: saturdays 1-5 pm

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october 2005
-<'-- a·irmont

At the Retreat

T

he retreats are held at state park group
camps, separated from the rest of the
park by a gate. There are about 10 cabins that hold about 12 people each . There are
bunk beds with thin mattresses (no sheets) in
the cabins or you may also pitch a tent. Bathrooms and showers are in one building near the
center of the group camp.
Signup sheets for the cabins will tell you the
type of activities allowed or not allowed in each
cabin (e.g., smoking, drinking, dogs, children,
partying late). Please sign up also for one shift
of kitchen duty. We must be completely out of
the park by noon on Sunday so we ask folks to
have their cabins cleaned up by 10 am and then
help us clean up the bathrooms, showers, and
main dining hall.
There is a kitchen in the main dining hall with
stoves and ovens and refrigerators and freezers
for storing perishables. Herland has pop, water,
snacks, chips, and fruit for sale all weekend.
The Retreats are Herland's only "womyn only"
eveni held throughout the year. It is a place for
women to feel safe and comfortable being in a
womyn's space. In keeping with that, we ask
that you do not bring male children over the age
of 10 to the retreat. Pets are allowed but must
remain on a leash at all times and are not allowed in the main dining hall (health regulations).

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Directions to Eufaula State Park:
From OKC go east on 1-40 to exit 259. Go south on State Highway 150 to the entrance to Eufaula
State Park. Look for "Group Camp" signs.
From Tulsa, go south on US 75 to 1-40. Go east on 1-40 to exit 259. Go south on State Highway
150 to the entrance to Eufaula State Park. Look for "Group Camp" signs.
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T-shirt Design Winner
Congratulations to Chris Chrisstoffels for
her winning design in our 20th Anniversary
Retreat T-shirt Design Contest. Chris' design captures the spirit of anticipation we all
have felt when heading out to a Herland
Retreat. Many thanks to all who entered
the contest. There were many great designs to choose from.

Herland Retreat Registration Form
Eufaula State Park, October 28-30, 2005
Deadline for pre-registration is October 24th. Please remember that dogs are welcome but
must remain on leashes and are not allowed in the dining hall.

Registration fee enclosed (payable to Herland):
_$15 _$25 _$35 _$45 _$60
_Saturday only (includes concert & one night
stay)- $25
_Concert only- $10

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under $13,300
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Please return registration fonn and check to: Herland Sister Resources, 2312 NW 39th
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Herland Activities
Herland Hiking
The last Herland Hike for the fall season will be Saturday, October
8th, at 1O am. The location for this hike is South Lakes Park, SW
I 19th Street and Meridian. The entrance to the park is on SW I 19th
about a 1/4 mile West ofl-44. Join us for the optional coffee gathering at 9 am at Panera, SW 104th and Penn.

Herland Supper Club

Herland Events Calendar
October 1-23: Oklahoma Holocaust Remembrance

Exhibition, Untitled Artspace, 1 NE 3rd. See
www.okholocaustexhibition.org for hours and details.
Tuesday. Oct 4: PFLAG, Church of the Open Arms,
3131 N Penn, 7 pm.
Wednesday. Oct. 5: Julie Loyd in concert at Herland, 7 pm. $7.50-$15 sliding scale.
Saturday. Oct 8: Herland Hike, South Lakes Park,

Dust off your bowling shoes and join us for
an evening of pizza and bowling on Saturday, October 8. First, at 6:00 pm we will eat
at Joey's Pizzeria, 1807 N. Classen Blvd.
Many have discovered that Joey's has some
of the best pizza in town. (Those wishing to
carpool can meet at Herland Sister Resources
at 5:45 pm.) After supper, at 7:30 pm, we
will go bowling at 66 Bowl, 3810 NW 39th
(near Portland). 66 Bowl is a really fun
place at night-they have a deejay that asks ·
trivia questions and you win prizes with the
correct answers. Not to mention bowling is
more fun at night with the lights low!

SW 119th and Meridian, 10 am. Meet for coffee first
at Panera, SW 104th and Penn, 9 am.
Saturday. Oct 8: Herland Supper Club, eat at
Joey's Pizzeria, 1807 N. Classen, 6 pm, followed by
bowling at 66 Bowl, 3810 NW 39th, 7:30 pm.
Monday, Oct 1O: OGLPC Monthly Meeting at
Neighborhood Alliance, 1236 NW 36th, 7 pm.
Tuesday, Oct 11: Young LGBT Support Group,
Church of the Open Arms, 3131 NPenn, 7 pm. Call
Donna at 748-7301 for details.

Herland Video Nights

Sunday, Oct 16: Herland Board Meeting at Her-

In honor of Lesbian and Gay History
Month, Herland presents The Question of .
Equality, a unique four-part series which
shows a multi-faceted history of the gay
and lesbian civil rights movement. From
Stonewall to Anita Bryant, to Oregon
Measure 9 and "don't ask, don't tell," the
Gay Liberation movement has fought for
equal rights in a climate of hatred, violence, intolerance, and discrimination.
This series examines the history of the
gay liberation movement beginning with
the Stonewall riots in 1969. The videos
will be shown Friday and Saturday, October 14th and 15th. The first night, Fri."
day, we will show the first two parts of
the series-Out Rage '69 and Culture Wars beginning at 7 pm. Saturday night we will have a potluck dinne: first at 7 pm follo.wed by
the showing of Parts 3 and 4--Hollow Liberty and Generation Q.

Herland Scrabble Night
All you panjandrums of Scrabble,
please join us on Saturday, October
22, at 6 pm for a game or two on the
board. We usually order a pizza as
soon as everyone arrives. The competition ranges from beginners to experts, so you'll have lots oflevels to
choose from.

Friday. Oct 14: Herland Video Night, The Question of Equality, Parts 1 &2, at Herland, 7 pm.
Saturday, Oct 15: Herland Potluck and Video
Night, The Question of Equality, Parts 3 &4, at Her-

land, potluck at 7 pm, video follows.
land, 4 pm, everyone welcome.
Saturday. Oct 22: Herland Scrabble Night at Her-

land, 6 pm.
Tuesday. Oct 25: Young Lesbians/Gays Support

Group at Church of the Open Arms, 3131 N Penn, 7
pm.
Fri. Sat. Sun. Oct 28·30: Herland Fall Retreat at
Eufaula State Park.

Website of the Month
www .julieloyd.com

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State NOW Meetings
Get involved with NOW at the local
level. Help plan and implement
strategies to combat sexism.

Email ameevanderpool.now@gmail.com for
more information.

Young LGBT Group
Want to talk to womyn your own age?
Join this "talking circle" for young lesbians, gays, bisexuals, and transgenders
between the ages of 18 and 30. Group
is sponsored by PFLAG and meets the
2nd &4th Tuesdays, of each month at 7
pm at Church of the Open Arms, 3131 N
Penn, OKC. Call Donna at 748-7301 for
more information.

Masterpieces of Hope
Friday, October 21, 2005
Ballroom, Crowne Plaza Hotel, Tulsa
Reception with Silent & Live Auctions

Oklahoma Holocaust Remembrance Exhibition

T

he Oklahoma Holocaust Remembrance Exhibition consists of two
separate exhibits plus movies, workshops, lectures and other events.
The Exhibition is located at Untitled [ArtSpace] in downtown Oklahoma City, at 1NE3rd Street, and will continue through October 23 of this
year.
At the center of the space is Nazi Persecution of Homosexuals, 19331945; and around the perimeter is the exhibit Rescuers: Portraits ofMoral
Courage in the Holocaust.
Nazi Persecution ofHomosexuals, 1933 -1945 is one of several traveling exhibitions offered by the United States Holocaust Memorial Museum in
Washington, D.C. This exhibition examines the rationale, means, and impact of the Nazi regime's effort to rid Germany of male homosexuality. Following an overview of the emerging urban gay community in Germany in
the 1910s to the early 1930s, the exhibition explores Nazi racial and social
ideals that formed the basis for the attempt to eradicate male homosexuality.
The core of the exhibition focuses on the police terror that led to the arrest
of some 100,000 homosexual men, 50,000 of whom were convicted and imprisoned during the Nazi period. Also presented is the brutal and often fatal
incarceration of an estimated 5,000 to 15,000 homosexual men in concentration camps. The exhibition concludes with the postwar aftermath and Germany's memorials to the homosexual victims of Nazi persecution.
The curator of the traveling USHMM exhibit, Dr. Ted Phillips, was in
Oklahoma City for a few days, speaking about the exhibit. Dr. Phillips
made the point that homosexuals should not be referred to as victims of the
"Holocaust": they were victims of Nazi persecution. The term "Holocaust"
refers to the systematic targeting and elimination ofJews, nothing else.
Other victims during that time, such as gays, Roma (Gypsies), political prisoners, etc, were victims of the Nazis' persecution. Dr. Phillips noted that
this is a subtle, but important, historical distinction to make.
In fact, the Nazi persecution of German male homosexuals was not designed to exterminate them, it was designed to "cure" and "heal" them so
they could contribute to re-populating the country. When the Nazis conquered other countries, they did not target gays - it was just German gays
they wanted to turn around and straighten up, so to speak.
Lesbians were not targeted because they were not viewed as a threat to
society: women had little power and their sphere of influence was too narrow (children, kitchen, and church). Besides, lesbians could be forced to
reproduce (there's a chilling thought). Some lesbians were incarcerated as
"asocial" - the "asocials" in the camp wore black triangles, but there were
many different groups considered asocials besides lesbians.
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Join us for an evening of creativity and compassion. Live auction of denim jacket
"Masterpieces" by local and national artists,
including Lou Hodgston, John Draper,
Charles Faudree and others. Silent auction
of art, gifts, vacations, and more. For ticket
information, call the Tulsa RAIN office at
918-834-4195 or visit
www.rainoklahoma.org.

Church of the Open Arms
3131 N Penn, OKC cordially invites you to a
Super Spud Supper & Musical Celebration
Friday, October 21 • 7:00 pm
Supper will be baked potatoes with a wide selection of toppings.
The concert will feature our fabulous new baby grand piano.
Call 525-9555 for more details.

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Rescuers: Portraits of Moral Courage in the Holocaust was created
by Rabbi Malka Drucker and her partner, photographer Gay Block.
Rabbi Drucker, author of many children's books, was asked by her rabbi
to tell the story of rescuers of Jews during the Holocaust, so that children
learning of the Holocaust would have a ray of hope, and not lose their
innocence and faith in humanity. Malka and Gay spent three years locating and interviewing 105 rescuers and documented their research with
this exhibit, a book, and a video (which runs continually in a side room at
Untitled).
During the Holocaust, rescuers hid Jews in cellars and behind false
walls, shared their meager food rations, disposed of waste, smuggled
people out of ghettos, and brought up Jewish children as their own.
Their stories of heroism are amazing, and even more so are the attitudes
of the rescuers. Some of them lived in perpetual fear or in great degradation; some look at those years as the best of their lives; some are
ashamed of having rescued too few; one says those years made her the
woman she is today. All of them felt they could not have done differently. Unspoken but ever present is the knowledge that many rescuers
were discovered and did not survive the Nazis.
Malka and Gay also were in Oklahoma City to speak about their exhibit. One of the points they emphasized was that people fell into four
categories during the Holocaust: they were persecutors, victims, rescuers,
or bystanders.
The fourth category- bystanders -was far and away the largest percentage of people; and the smallest category was rescuers. Rescuers
were only thousands among the millions who were victims and the tens
of millions who were bystanders. Malka made the comparison that the
ratio of rescuers to bystanders was like one teardrop in an ocean of indifference. Malka and Gay hope that viewers, rather than asking themselves, ''"What would I have done? Could I have been a rescuer? Or
would I have been a bystander?" will instead ask themselves if there are
issues or injustices today in which there are victims and bystanders.
And, perhaps the exhibit will stimulate visitors to consider how they
might be involved in righting contemporary injustices.
In the first five days of the Exhibition, over 1,000 people visited the
gallery or attended one of the film showings at the Oklahoma Museum of
Art. In the next few weeks it is hoped that an actual rescuer whose story
is included in the exhibit, Dr. Marian Pritchard, will be in town to inspire
us. Dr. Pritchard is a psychoanalyst in Maine, and as soon as travel plans
are completed the information will be on the exhibit website at
www.okholocaustexhibition.org.
Also on the website, you will find news of various lectures, workshops,
etc. taking place. One of these is a forum on Monday, October 10th, 7-9
p.m., in the City of Norman City Council Chambers. The forum will be
presented by the Norman Human Rights Commission and is titled "The
Holocaust - How Did It Happen? Could It Happen Again?"
There are several Holocaust scholars here with this event and if you
would like to organize an outing often or more people you can arrange
for one of them to do a special presentation. If you would like to be part
of a Herland group taking advantage of this wonderful opportunity,
please email Margaret Cox at saintsyb 77@hotmail.com.

RESCtJ ERS
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From the window of our house I could see
the ghetto. When the houses were burning
during the ghetto uprising in April 1943, I
saw people jumping from windows. One
family of ten came and stayed for a few
weeks until I found other shelter for them.
No one was refused in my home. We had at
least fifty Jews during the war-- friends,
strangers, acquaintances, or someone who
heard about me from someone else. Anyone was taken in. - Zofia Baniecka
We built a false floor in the kitchen cupboard; Jacob was skinny so he could fit in.
But about two weeks later the Gestapo
came because a neighbor thought she had
seen Jacob. They looked everywhere, but
they didn't find him. Then one day that
same SS man came again, but that time my
brother-in-law was visiting and he knew
this man. Jacob was hiding under the sink,
and we started giving the Nazi whiskey.
They drank and they ate so much, and my
brother-in-law convinced him his sister
would never hide a Jew, so we escaped
that time. But I knew I had to go looking for
another apartment.
I found a nice big apartment in a quiet
neighborhood. I put Jacob inside the
couch, and that's how we moved across
town, right under the noses of the Germans. A couple of days later Dr. Kowalski
came to see me and he says, "Mr. Rosian, I
want to bring you another boy. He's in a
place now where he has to stay in the attic
laying down all the time. He's so skinny
and sickly." - Alex & Mela Rosian

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