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HERLAND SPRING .
RETREAT
May 19-21 at Roman Nose State Park
Wende Allyn and Wanda D. will join forces as the
featured entertainers for the Herland Spring Retreat scheduled for May 19 -- 21 at Roman Nose State Park.
A well-known performer in Oklahoma City, Wende has
opened for national touring acts like Janis Ian, Ray Wylie
Hubbard, Guy Clark, Sara Hickman, Betty Elders, Cheryl
Wheeler and Meredith Louise Miller. Known for her
raucous Tex-Mex blues style, Wanda D. is a member of the
new band, Iris and a member of the popular group, Circle of
Friends. Both musicians have selections onDustBowl Lullaby,
the Herland CD.
Workshops are still being planned for the retreat. If you
are interested in leading a workshop, please call Herland or
send a note to Attn: Retreat Workshops, Herland, 2312
N.W. 39, Oklahoma City, OK 73112.
The canyons of Roman Nose State Park offer ample
recreational opportunities. Softball and volleyball playing
fields are on the retreat grounds. Hiking trails, horseback
riding, and a golf course are nearby in the park. Ifthat's not
enough, there's sure be a group heading out to the Watonga
Cheese Factory for a tour and some tasty curds.
An open mic on Saturday afternoon and the evening
potluck will give everyone a chance to share some of their
talents with other retreat goers.
Registration includes all retreat activites, Friday supper,
Saturday brunch and Sunday breakfast, and bunk space in
a cabin.
Saturday-only registration includes Saturday
meals and activities, and the concert. Concert-only tickets
are $10 at the door. See inside for Retreat pre-registration
D
form and suggested registration an10unts.

"Wende AJ!yn brings to mind the best of Mary
Chapin Carpenter. A wonderful voice, great
story-songs and some of the best country-folk
hooks you'll ever hear" --Matthew Smith of
Folk Web

Volume 18 Number 04

MARTIN LUTHER KING, lR.
CELEBRATIONS
At2:45p.m.,April2,2000,attheRalphEllisonLibrary,located
at NE 23rd and MLK.ing Boulevard, there will be an opening
remembrance ceremony to precede a traditional silent march to the
Oklahoma State CapitolBuilding. The feature remarks will be made
by Calvin Luper, an original Civil Rights Sit-Inner. At approximately 3:00 p.m. the march will proceed down NE 23'a Streetto the
South Steps of the State Capitol.
At4:00p.m., April 2,2000, the Oklahoma City Martin Luther
King Jr. Coalition is sponsoring "A Dream to Act On", at the
Oklahoma State Capitol building, on north Lincoln Boulevard,
Oklahoma City. This program, held to commemorate the anniversary of Dr. King's assassination, (April 4, l 968)will be reflective
of the life and philosophy of Dr. King. We will take a look at how
far we have come and how far we still have to go. The keynote ·
speaker will be Lecia Swain Ross, Editor of the Ebony Tribune.
Music will be provided by Bridgeforth Show Choir 2000.
Iminediately following the program there will be a candlelight
ceremony at the MLK Tree of Life, which is planted just south of
the east entrance to the State Capitol building. The featured
speaker will be Representative Opio Toure.
Dr. George Cooper is the Master of Ceremonies.
D

Happening at Her/and
Two-Spirit Group - Safurday, April 1, 7:00 P. M.
Supper Club - Safurday, April 8 5:30 P. M.
Meet at Her/and with your suggestions for dinner.
Her/and Board Meeting - Sunday, April 16 4:30

P.M
Come see what makes Her/and work andadd your voice.
The Lunch Bunch -Thursday, April 13, 11:30 A.M.
Meet in the Backroom of the BoulevardCafeteria, 525
NWJJ, OKC
Spring Clean Up-Fix Up - Sunday, April 22, 1 P. M.
We'll provide the lunch. You bring a friend and come
help spruce up Her/and

Her/and, 2312 NW 39, OKC
Open every Saturday and Sunday 1 P.M --5 P.M.

Berland Sister Resources

2312 N.W. 39, OKC, OK 73112

MAKE YOUR
FAMILY COUNT!
"Make Your Family Count" is a national public education campaign of Institute for Gay and Lesbian Strategic
Studies (IGLSS) and the Policy Institute of the National Gay
and Lesbian Task Force (NGLTF) encouraging same-sex
couples ·within the gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgendered
(GLBT) communities to be counted in the U.S. Census.
The campaign urges same-sex couples living in the same
household to mark the 'Unmarried Partners' option when
asked to describe their relationships. The forms will be
mailed to every household in the United States in March and
April.
"This campaign has one simple message: Our families
exist and we must be counted," said Paula Ettelbrick, Family
Policy Director of the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force
Policy Institute. "Over the last ten years our community has
had a major impact in changing family policies, from domestic
partnership to second parent adoption. It's time that we
include our families in the official count."
"The Census will provide us with a gold mine of infonnation. We will have a statistical picture of same-sex households by racial composition, where they live, and how many
children they have," said Dr. Lee Badgett, Director of the
Institute for Gay and Lesbian Strategic Studies. "The Census
tracks changes in families in the U.S. Our families deserve
to be counted so that the full diversity ofthe American family
can be reflected and presented to policy makers."
In 1990, the category of "unmarried partner" first appeared on the census form. Approximately 150,000 households self-reported as same-sex unmarried partners - a
severe undercount compounded by the U.S. Census Bureau's
disqualification of same-sex couples who marked "spouse"
to describe their relationship.
To date the Census Bureau has not included a question
about sexual orientation. Gay, lesbian, bisexual and
transgendered people not living with someone of the same
sex whom they consider to be an unmarried partner will not
be visibly counted. However, a large enough count of samesex households, with or without children, could help substantially in future efforts to be included in the Census count.O

See Her/and on the web!

www.her/andsisters.org

CHECK THESE

OuT

Spring, when a woman's fancy turns to .... vacation!!!!!
If you're in the planning mode check out some of the travel
guidebooks available at your local Metropolitan Library
System branch library. The System offers a wide variety of
guidebooks, from standards such as the Fodor and Mobil
series, to some that take you off-the-beaten path, like those
published by Lonely Planet. These mainstream guidebooks
are good starting points for your trip planning; many provide
some information to gay/lesbian places of interest. The
library system also offers some travel guidebooks designed
specifically for the gay/lesbian traveler.
If your vacation destination is in the US, check out Gay
USA: Where the Babes Go (Lori Hobkirk, 1998). With
coverage of 11 "big cities," such as Atlanta, Minneapolis, and
Seattle, and seven "smaller towns and resorts," including
Palm Springs and Santa Fe, this guidebook does a great job
of meeting the author's goal of being "an all-in-one lesbian
travel book." So, which Atlanta cafo does attract lesbians
like biscuits attract gravy?
Heading to the Big Apple? Be sure to check out
Stepping Out: Nine Walks Through New York City's Gay
and Lesbian Past (Daniel Hurewitz, 1997). The tours will
take you from New York City's West Village through
· Midtown and into the Battery, pointing out historic sites and
profiling historic persons of importance to the history of gays
and lesbians in New York City and the United States.
If your travels take you across the Pacific to Hawaii,
check out Rainbow Handbook Hawaii: the Islands' Ultimate Gay Guide (Matthew Link, 1999). Although written
more for gay men, this book will help you locate "friendly"
places in the islands.
Do you have a travel guidebook you would like to see
added to the Metropolitan Library System's collection? You
can use the System's website, \vww .mls.lib.ok. us, to place a
request to purchase it or any other material. Follow the
Library Catalogs & Databases link, click on CyberMARS,
logon with either your card number or anonymously, and
scroll the Library Catalog window down to the Request for
Material link.
D
Until next time, good reading and happy travels!
The Voice is published by: Herland Sister Resources, Inc.
2312 N.W. 39th, Oklahoma City, OK 73112.
The Voice is offered as an open forum for community discourse.
Articles reflect the opinions of the author and not necessarily
those of Herland Sister Resources. Unsolicited articles and
letters to the editor are welcomed and must be signed by the
writer with full name and address. Upon request. letters or
articles may be printed under a pseudonym or anonymously.
Subscriptions to The Voice are free upon request although a
donation is requested to meet publication and distribution
costs .

YOUR LETTERS
Hi,
I work out at the General Motors Plant. During the
last contract negotiations, domestic partner benefits
were proposed. They have been a part of Canada 's GMl
VA W jor many years now. Anyway, it was agreed upon
that GM would look into the feasibility and cost of this.
I was so thrilled that it was finally an issue in the US auto
industry not to mention the US union that collects dues
from us.
Anyway. what happened as a result of this proposal
was very disturbing to me. My own union members,
people I have worked beside for years, began circulating petitions to stop gays from getting this benefit. There
were several petitions that were taken to the Union
meeting and forwarded upward to the appropriate top
union and management positions.
Another very disturbing fact is, one of the instigators
of these petitions is a gentleman (I use this title loosely)
~ho has a booth out at the Arts Festival every April. We
all know. as I'm sure he does, that there would be very1
little art ~f not for the gay community. I am asking that
you get the word out to boycott his booth. The booth is
Beau Dan 's. It serves Cajun food.

Please help me get this information out to the communitv. I don 't believe we need to be spending our money
at. an establishment that not only disagrees with our
basic rights, but goes out of his way to DENY us these
rights.
"A Union Woman "

WOW.I What a great page... really a beautifill site to
behold! Although I absolutely love living in CA, I wish I
could take part in all the activities and music going on in
OKC via Her/and in one way or another. I lookforward
to The Voice every month. .. it brings a little bit ofhome to
me. now the website ... well, what can I say but Congratulations! BTW, I'd like to take this opportunity to send
kudos to each and every one of you who participated in
making "Dust Bowl Lullaby" happen. We play it often
and will be ordering more to pass around to our CA
friends.
Pat Colognesi

Individual, couples or family counseling. Accessible rates. Call fora Wednesday evening appointment. Jo L. Soske, Phd, LPC, CADC 879-2226

------------------------------------------HERLAND
MAY

SPRING RETREAT

19 - - 21,

ROMAN

Please choose the registration amount most appropriate
for you. On-site registration will be $65. Deadline for preregistration is May 14 and registration is non-refundable after
May 17.

Nose

STATE PARK
Single Person's
Annual Income

Suggested
Pre-registration
per person

under $6,500

$15

under $13,300

$6,500 - $13,250

$25

$13,300 - $18,000

Household Annual
Income

$13,250 - $19,500

$35

$18,000 - $26,000

$19,500 - $30,000

$45

$26 ,000 - $50 ,000

over $30 ,000

$60

over $50,000

Registration fee enclosed (payable to Herl and):_ $15 _$25 _$35 _$45 _$60
_ Saturday only Registration $25
Name: _____________________________________

Phone:_~~~~

Address:. _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ City _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ State____Zip_ _ __
____ I need a scholarship to attend.
__ I'm enclosing and additional $

to help provide scholarships.

____ I'm bringing __ children (girls of all ages and boys under 10 are welcome)
Return registration to: Herland Sister Resources, 2312 N.W . 39, Oklahoma City, OK 73112
Her/and Voice April , 2000 Page 3

Herl and Sister Resources
2312 N.W. 39
Oklahoma City, OK 73112

NonProfit Org.
U.S. Postage

PAID
Oklahoma City, OK
Permit No. 861

Address Service Requested

Support our Supporters
""°*PLU~BING

r

844-1951
"FORALL YOURPLUMBINGNEEDS"

REBECCA R. HOLT, Ph.D.
CLINICALPSYCHOLOGY

321-2148
P.O. Box5119
Norman, Okla. 73070

lndi vidual - Couples
Fani..ily Therapy, Retreats



A ril 2000

HERLAND SPRING .
RETREAT
May 19-21 at Roman Nose State Park
Wende Allyn and Wanda D. will join forces as the
featured entertainers for the Herland Spring Retreat scheduled for May 19 -- 21 at Roman Nose State Park.
A well-known performer in Oklahoma City, Wende has
opened for national touring acts like Janis Ian, Ray Wylie
Hubbard, Guy Clark, Sara Hickman, Betty Elders, Cheryl
Wheeler and Meredith Louise Miller. Known for her
raucous Tex-Mex blues style, Wanda D. is a member of the
new band, Iris and a member of the popular group, Circle of
Friends. Both musicians have selections onDustBowl Lullaby,
the Herland CD.
Workshops are still being planned for the retreat. If you
are interested in leading a workshop, please call Herland or
send a note to Attn: Retreat Workshops, Herland, 2312
N.W. 39, Oklahoma City, OK 73112.
The canyons of Roman Nose State Park offer ample
recreational opportunities. Softball and volleyball playing
fields are on the retreat grounds. Hiking trails, horseback
riding, and a golf course are nearby in the park. Ifthat's not
enough, there's sure be a group heading out to the Watonga
Cheese Factory for a tour and some tasty curds.
An open mic on Saturday afternoon and the evening
potluck will give everyone a chance to share some of their
talents with other retreat goers.
Registration includes all retreat activites, Friday supper,
Saturday brunch and Sunday breakfast, and bunk space in
a cabin.
Saturday-only registration includes Saturday
meals and activities, and the concert. Concert-only tickets
are $10 at the door. See inside for Retreat pre-registration
D
form and suggested registration an10unts.

"Wende AJ!yn brings to mind the best of Mary
Chapin Carpenter. A wonderful voice, great
story-songs and some of the best country-folk
hooks you'll ever hear" --Matthew Smith of
Folk Web

Volume 18 Number 04

MARTIN LUTHER KING, lR.
CELEBRATIONS
At2:45p.m.,April2,2000,attheRalphEllisonLibrary,located
at NE 23rd and MLK.ing Boulevard, there will be an opening
remembrance ceremony to precede a traditional silent march to the
Oklahoma State CapitolBuilding. The feature remarks will be made
by Calvin Luper, an original Civil Rights Sit-Inner. At approximately 3:00 p.m. the march will proceed down NE 23'a Streetto the
South Steps of the State Capitol.
At4:00p.m., April 2,2000, the Oklahoma City Martin Luther
King Jr. Coalition is sponsoring "A Dream to Act On", at the
Oklahoma State Capitol building, on north Lincoln Boulevard,
Oklahoma City. This program, held to commemorate the anniversary of Dr. King's assassination, (April 4, l 968)will be reflective
of the life and philosophy of Dr. King. We will take a look at how
far we have come and how far we still have to go. The keynote ·
speaker will be Lecia Swain Ross, Editor of the Ebony Tribune.
Music will be provided by Bridgeforth Show Choir 2000.
Iminediately following the program there will be a candlelight
ceremony at the MLK Tree of Life, which is planted just south of
the east entrance to the State Capitol building. The featured
speaker will be Representative Opio Toure.
Dr. George Cooper is the Master of Ceremonies.
D

Happening at Her/and
Two-Spirit Group - Safurday, April 1, 7:00 P. M.
Supper Club - Safurday, April 8 5:30 P. M.
Meet at Her/and with your suggestions for dinner.
Her/and Board Meeting - Sunday, April 16 4:30

P.M
Come see what makes Her/and work andadd your voice.
The Lunch Bunch -Thursday, April 13, 11:30 A.M.
Meet in the Backroom of the BoulevardCafeteria, 525
NWJJ, OKC
Spring Clean Up-Fix Up - Sunday, April 22, 1 P. M.
We'll provide the lunch. You bring a friend and come
help spruce up Her/and

Her/and, 2312 NW 39, OKC
Open every Saturday and Sunday 1 P.M --5 P.M.

Berland Sister Resources

2312 N.W. 39, OKC, OK 73112

MAKE YOUR
FAMILY COUNT!
"Make Your Family Count" is a national public education campaign of Institute for Gay and Lesbian Strategic
Studies (IGLSS) and the Policy Institute of the National Gay
and Lesbian Task Force (NGLTF) encouraging same-sex
couples ·within the gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgendered
(GLBT) communities to be counted in the U.S. Census.
The campaign urges same-sex couples living in the same
household to mark the 'Unmarried Partners' option when
asked to describe their relationships. The forms will be
mailed to every household in the United States in March and
April.
"This campaign has one simple message: Our families
exist and we must be counted," said Paula Ettelbrick, Family
Policy Director of the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force
Policy Institute. "Over the last ten years our community has
had a major impact in changing family policies, from domestic
partnership to second parent adoption. It's time that we
include our families in the official count."
"The Census will provide us with a gold mine of infonnation. We will have a statistical picture of same-sex households by racial composition, where they live, and how many
children they have," said Dr. Lee Badgett, Director of the
Institute for Gay and Lesbian Strategic Studies. "The Census
tracks changes in families in the U.S. Our families deserve
to be counted so that the full diversity ofthe American family
can be reflected and presented to policy makers."
In 1990, the category of "unmarried partner" first appeared on the census form. Approximately 150,000 households self-reported as same-sex unmarried partners - a
severe undercount compounded by the U.S. Census Bureau's
disqualification of same-sex couples who marked "spouse"
to describe their relationship.
To date the Census Bureau has not included a question
about sexual orientation. Gay, lesbian, bisexual and
transgendered people not living with someone of the same
sex whom they consider to be an unmarried partner will not
be visibly counted. However, a large enough count of samesex households, with or without children, could help substantially in future efforts to be included in the Census count.O

See Her/and on the web!

www.her/andsisters.org

CHECK THESE

OuT

Spring, when a woman's fancy turns to .... vacation!!!!!
If you're in the planning mode check out some of the travel
guidebooks available at your local Metropolitan Library
System branch library. The System offers a wide variety of
guidebooks, from standards such as the Fodor and Mobil
series, to some that take you off-the-beaten path, like those
published by Lonely Planet. These mainstream guidebooks
are good starting points for your trip planning; many provide
some information to gay/lesbian places of interest. The
library system also offers some travel guidebooks designed
specifically for the gay/lesbian traveler.
If your vacation destination is in the US, check out Gay
USA: Where the Babes Go (Lori Hobkirk, 1998). With
coverage of 11 "big cities," such as Atlanta, Minneapolis, and
Seattle, and seven "smaller towns and resorts," including
Palm Springs and Santa Fe, this guidebook does a great job
of meeting the author's goal of being "an all-in-one lesbian
travel book." So, which Atlanta cafo does attract lesbians
like biscuits attract gravy?
Heading to the Big Apple? Be sure to check out
Stepping Out: Nine Walks Through New York City's Gay
and Lesbian Past (Daniel Hurewitz, 1997). The tours will
take you from New York City's West Village through
· Midtown and into the Battery, pointing out historic sites and
profiling historic persons of importance to the history of gays
and lesbians in New York City and the United States.
If your travels take you across the Pacific to Hawaii,
check out Rainbow Handbook Hawaii: the Islands' Ultimate Gay Guide (Matthew Link, 1999). Although written
more for gay men, this book will help you locate "friendly"
places in the islands.
Do you have a travel guidebook you would like to see
added to the Metropolitan Library System's collection? You
can use the System's website, \vww .mls.lib.ok. us, to place a
request to purchase it or any other material. Follow the
Library Catalogs & Databases link, click on CyberMARS,
logon with either your card number or anonymously, and
scroll the Library Catalog window down to the Request for
Material link.
D
Until next time, good reading and happy travels!
The Voice is published by: Herland Sister Resources, Inc.
2312 N.W. 39th, Oklahoma City, OK 73112.
The Voice is offered as an open forum for community discourse.
Articles reflect the opinions of the author and not necessarily
those of Herland Sister Resources. Unsolicited articles and
letters to the editor are welcomed and must be signed by the
writer with full name and address. Upon request. letters or
articles may be printed under a pseudonym or anonymously.
Subscriptions to The Voice are free upon request although a
donation is requested to meet publication and distribution
costs .

YOUR LETTERS
Hi,
I work out at the General Motors Plant. During the
last contract negotiations, domestic partner benefits
were proposed. They have been a part of Canada 's GMl
VA W jor many years now. Anyway, it was agreed upon
that GM would look into the feasibility and cost of this.
I was so thrilled that it was finally an issue in the US auto
industry not to mention the US union that collects dues
from us.
Anyway. what happened as a result of this proposal
was very disturbing to me. My own union members,
people I have worked beside for years, began circulating petitions to stop gays from getting this benefit. There
were several petitions that were taken to the Union
meeting and forwarded upward to the appropriate top
union and management positions.
Another very disturbing fact is, one of the instigators
of these petitions is a gentleman (I use this title loosely)
~ho has a booth out at the Arts Festival every April. We
all know. as I'm sure he does, that there would be very1
little art ~f not for the gay community. I am asking that
you get the word out to boycott his booth. The booth is
Beau Dan 's. It serves Cajun food.

Please help me get this information out to the communitv. I don 't believe we need to be spending our money
at. an establishment that not only disagrees with our
basic rights, but goes out of his way to DENY us these
rights.
"A Union Woman "

WOW.I What a great page... really a beautifill site to
behold! Although I absolutely love living in CA, I wish I
could take part in all the activities and music going on in
OKC via Her/and in one way or another. I lookforward
to The Voice every month. .. it brings a little bit ofhome to
me. now the website ... well, what can I say but Congratulations! BTW, I'd like to take this opportunity to send
kudos to each and every one of you who participated in
making "Dust Bowl Lullaby" happen. We play it often
and will be ordering more to pass around to our CA
friends.
Pat Colognesi

Individual, couples or family counseling. Accessible rates. Call fora Wednesday evening appointment. Jo L. Soske, Phd, LPC, CADC 879-2226

------------------------------------------HERLAND
MAY

SPRING RETREAT

19 - - 21,

ROMAN

Please choose the registration amount most appropriate
for you. On-site registration will be $65. Deadline for preregistration is May 14 and registration is non-refundable after
May 17.

Nose

STATE PARK
Single Person's
Annual Income

Suggested
Pre-registration
per person

under $6,500

$15

under $13,300

$6,500 - $13,250

$25

$13,300 - $18,000

Household Annual
Income

$13,250 - $19,500

$35

$18,000 - $26,000

$19,500 - $30,000

$45

$26 ,000 - $50 ,000

over $30 ,000

$60

over $50,000

Registration fee enclosed (payable to Herl and):_ $15 _$25 _$35 _$45 _$60
_ Saturday only Registration $25
Name: _____________________________________

Phone:_~~~~

Address:. _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ City _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ State____Zip_ _ __
____ I need a scholarship to attend.
__ I'm enclosing and additional $

to help provide scholarships.

____ I'm bringing __ children (girls of all ages and boys under 10 are welcome)
Return registration to: Herland Sister Resources, 2312 N.W . 39, Oklahoma City, OK 73112
Her/and Voice April , 2000 Page 3

Herl and Sister Resources
2312 N.W. 39
Oklahoma City, OK 73112

NonProfit Org.
U.S. Postage

PAID
Oklahoma City, OK
Permit No. 861

Address Service Requested

Support our Supporters
""°*PLU~BING

r

844-1951
"FORALL YOURPLUMBINGNEEDS"

REBECCA R. HOLT, Ph.D.
CLINICALPSYCHOLOGY

321-2148
P.O. Box5119
Norman, Okla. 73070

lndi vidual - Couples
Fani..ily Therapy, Retreats