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January/February, 1998

CD

HERLAND

When: F~ '13, "IC,. ~ '15, '1'1'1g
Where: Ol<Lc~o- <:!~, A~ 1-foL;J,.~
Theme: l_tµ. ff_
-ai

f.......

.ol 'lk_ljurv.:t .

Labyrinths will be the theme and the experience of this
conference.
An OKC-based dance company, Theatre Upon a
StarDanceSwan with.M4GJCAYA will open the conference on
Friday evening with a performance of "Wonder*ment, a garden," a piece inspired by a labyrinth and which includes the
walking of a hand shaped labyrinth by the audience as well as the
dancers.
Victoria Stone will speak on "Resdiscovering Our
Heartpaths" and will guide participants through the walking of
a replica of the Chartres Cathedral labyrinth. Unlike a maze, a
labyrinth has only one path which leads to the center and out
again. The Labyrinth Walk, an ancient universal symbol
representing the path oflife, is a symbolic journey in the form of
a walking meditation.
Stone is an award winning interior designer and health
educator who takes a holistic approach to design and health by
creating environments which address physical, emotional, and
spiritual needs. An innovator in the design of healing environments, she brings significant insight into the creative process
and its relationship to spirit, health and well-being.
Conference registration is $85 for SWUUW members and
$90 for nonmembers who register after January 2. The conference fee includes 2 continental breakfasts, Saturday lunch,
banquet and fabulous entertainment. For more information,
brochures are available the First Unitarian Church of Oklahoma
City or contact Mary Francis at (405)741-0694 or Elizabeth
Muller (405)341-4066 or ElizMuller@aol.com.

Volume 16 Number I

Peggy Johnson and Darenda will present an evening of
acoustic music at Partners to benefit for 1he Herland CD Project.
Fundraising for the Herland CD project kicked off with a
bang at Medina's Coffeehouse on January 2. The packed house
was treated to a full evening of music fr01 n soml: of the musicians
who 'II be included on the Herland CD. M:1ry Reynolds opened the
evening with a surprise solo set, followed by Donna D. 's one-ofa kind songs and stories and then Mary Reynolds was back with
Louise Goldberg, Terri Hoersch, and Elyse Angelo in a rare
performance by Miss Brown to You .
By the end of the evening, over a thousand dollars had been
raised toward the CD production costs. To date, 23 of the 70 CD
Underwriter slots have been filled and "e are over a third of the
way to the $4,000 necessary to produce 1he CD. lfyou haven't
yet sent in your contribution, do it today
CD underwriters will receive complimentary admission to all
CD benefits, the CD release party, recognition in the Voice and
on the CD liner notes and will receive art autographed CD.

CD

UNDERWRITERS

Carla Splaingard
Debbie T.
Donna DeSalvo
DTH
In honor of Honey West
In Honor of Making Music
In Honor of Nancy Nesser
J.A. Graham
Janis Galloway
Jean Kelsey
Jim and Ruth Gordon
Judy Kaufman and Jan MacDonald
Karen Messana

Herland Sister Resources

Margaret Cox
Margy Dillon
Medina's Coffeehouse
Meg Moore
Nancy Jones
Renee McBride
Sandra Hoyt
Stiefrniller Family
Tim Larason
Timi Richardson
Wendy Galbraith

SPAGHETTI DINNER
AT
HERLAND SISTER RESOURCES

2312 N. W 39

7 PM
f EBRUARY 21 , 1998
$4

DONATION REQUESTED

2312N.W.

3~.

OKC, OK 73112

ST. SYBIL
Sybil Ludington, Revolutionary War Hero and Matron Saint of the Forgotten
Woman, has been taking a little R & R over on the moons of Jupiter. She has
returned to bring solace and comfort to the Resolution Impaired here on Earth.

Dear St. Sybil,
Is it too late to make some New Year's Resolutions? Do they
ever work? I think I need to make some, before it's too late; life
is passing by so fast and, like Oklahoma did to the Oil Boom, I
seem to be pissing it away. I've noticed that my twice-yearly
dental appointments seem to come once a month, and it's scaring
me. I'll appreciate any help or advice you can give to help me live
a good life.
Yours,
Phaeden Phast
Dear Phaeden,
I just dashed off a thousand or so words of the best advice a
person could ever hope for, guaranteed to make your life eminently worthwhile and valuable. It was also a bunch of the most
boring, tedious, judgmental, Calvinistic, disagreeable hooey ever
to be decreed from on high, resolutions that no person in their
right mind would ever want to hear, let alone adhere to: Do this,
don't do that, improve this, eschew that, no chewing the other (let
alone the fat), no tv, no wine or spirits, no spirit at all. Boring
boring boring.
Instead of all that, Phae, do these few things: Dance, girl.
Dance, and sing, and write bad poetry- all right, if you can write
good poetry, even better. Get up early and stay up late and nap a
lot; play with your doggies and your kitties and your kiddies;
snuggle with your sweetie or if you don't have one, celebrate your
freedom; see more movies & read more books, write more letters;
ifyou've got to chow down on cheddar pepper poppers or a banana
split, do it with gusto; but remember to take your vitamins, you
want to try to keep your arteries from getting as hard as drilling
bits; take a walk sometimes, the more, the longer, the more scenic
the better. Just one proscription: Cigarettes. Don't smoke,
Phaeden, doing that to your body is a sin.
Other than that, take care, take power, and trust joy. Life
is longer and richer than you yet know.
Love,
Sybil
Dear St. Sybil,
Help me please. How on earth do I extricate myself from my
possessive controlling lover, when her battered, bruised, badly
hurt inner child continues to break my heart?
Yours in mental anguish, and feeling very
Guilty
Dear NOT Guilty,
Abraham Lincoln once said, when chided for not liking a
man because of his appearance: Before forty, we are not responsible for our looks. After forty, we are.
Well, to a certain age people are not responsible for the bad
actions and attitudes of their inner child; but after a certain age
- twenty? thirty? surely by forty - the adult has to keep that inner
child in hand, under control, and on good behavior to others.
2 HerlandVoiceJan./Feb., 1998

Many of the most wonderful, warm, comp<1 ssionate, active,
accomplished, caring people in the wo rid have sad, suffering
inner children. Above all remember thai your inner child is just
as vulnerable and deserving as anyone ebe' s, a1td as much as you
hurt for and empathize with and esteem another's inner child, it
is your own who deserves your fullest measme of honor and
tenderness. Don't let someone else's inner kid bully yours.
Cherish your child, cherish yourself, :md da nee through the
millennium.
Love and kisses,
Sybil

UNDISCOVERED TALENT?
Are you an undiscovered entertainer 1 If you are a musician,
comic, orother entertainer, Herland wants to hear from you. Send
us a tape (if you have one), your name, addre5s, phone and a
description of the type of entertainment you do. You could be
invited to perform at a Herland coffeehouse, retreat or other
Herland event. Send your information to: Social Committee,
Herland, 2312 NW 39, Oklahoma City, OK 73112.

HERLAND SPRING RETREAT
The Herland Spring Retreat will be May 1-3 at Red Rock
Canyon State Park. Planning for retreat activities has just begun.
If you have a workshop/discussion group or other activity you'd
like to facilitate, let us know. Come to tl1e next Board meeting,
4:30 PM February 15 or leave a message at Herland.

EVERYONE NEEDS A LITTLE SHELTER
You can drop off donated items at Berland for the Norman
battered women's shelter. Some of the most needed items are:
new or nearly new children's clothing, all types of household
cleaning products, toilet paper, paper to\\ els, disposable diapers,
school supplies for all ages, new women's llllderwear, bath
towels, dish towels, hair care and other grooming items.

Individual, couple and family counseling. Call for a Wednesday evening appointment. Jo L. Soske, LPC/CADC 879-2226.
Country Living! Modest home, SE OKC near Tinker.
Pasture space available. 400 MT, Bills Pd 672-3686.

The Voice is published by: Herland Sister Resources, Inc. 2312
N.W. 39th, Oklahoma City, OK 73112
The Voice is offered as an open forum for community discourse.
Articles reflect the opinions of the author and not necessarily those
of Herland Sister Resources. Unsolicited articles and letters to the
editor are welcomed and must be signed by the writer with full
name and address. Upon request, letters or articles may be
printed under a pseudonym or anonymously

Subscriptions to The Voice are free upon request although a
donation is requested to meet publication and distrioution costs.

Herland Sister Resources
February, 1998
Sunday

Monday

1

2

Civil-rights sit-in begins at
lunch counters in Greensboro, North Carolina

Groundhog Day

9

8

Tuesday

3

4

16

Susan B. Anthony b. 1820

President's Day

Hattie McDaniel was the
first African-American to
earn an Oscar as best
supporting actress for
"Gone With the Wind"

JO

11

17

18

Marian Anderson, B. 1902

23

5

6

7

12

13

14

24

Washington's Birthday

Lincoln's
Birthday

Frederick Doug/ass, black
abolitionist,
born 1817

19

25

26

Ash Wednesday

8:00 PM
Darenda
& Peggy
at
Partners

Norma Merrick ( b. 1928)
was the first licensed
female architect in the
US.

-'alentinf·s Day

20

21
Ma/corr X assa~ inated 1965

In 1921, Bessie
Coleman
became the
first black flier
in the world to
become a
licensed pilot.

4:30 PM HSR Board Mtg.

22

saturoay

Friday

Rosa Parks,
called the
'Mother of the
Civil Rights
Movement'
born in Tuskegee, AL in 1913

In 1989, the Rev.
Batbara C. HlllTfs,
an AfricanAmerican, became
thefi'stfemale
bishop of the
Episcopal Ch11th.

15

Thursday

Wednesday

Barbara Jordan, b. 1936

7:00 PM Spaghetti
Dinner at Herland

27

28

1833, Marla W.
Slewsrtgave one
of the 4 speeches
that made her BS
the fi'st Americanbom woman ID give
public Isch.re

If you have an event for the Herland calendar, send it ATIN: Calendar, HSR, 2312 N.W. 39, OKC, OK 73112 or email
Herland@usa.net.

Sign me up to be a CD underwriterl
Here's my contribution of $50 or more.

Name

-~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

Address
City_ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _.State_ _ _ Zip

-~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~-

My contribution is
in honor of:
_in memory of

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~-

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~-

-

Please do not list my name in the Voice or on the liner notes.

Send to: HSR ATTN: CD, 2312 NW 39, OKC, OK 73112

(2/98)
Her/an.I Voic!· Jan/Feb., 1998

RfYMfal(

~tiP PLU~BING

r

Preferrf'd

406-628-1018

FAX 405-528-1035

Peggy C. Johnson

Office: (405) 751-4848
Toll Free: (800) 299-5615
Fax: (405) 751-4330
3705

w. Memorial

REBECCA R.

2200 Classen Blvd., Suite 650
Oklahoma City, OK 73106-5609

\"(\'1S ti C _
~Rest tR€c\SUR€S
• tncxna" & oils • candla • impocts
• \.~alala & alona • j~elfi
• amlqu" & unusual gtfls

Campa Comer
3'.3 ~hDc Slnd
Norman, OK 73069

·~~aupplka

Naluha Rice (405) 447-5111

Herland Sister Resources
2312 N.W. 39
Oklahoma City, OK 73112
Address Correction Requested
Return Postage Guaranteed

OklahOma City, OK 73134

COH~,

Ph.D.

CLINICAL PSYCHOLOGY

Attorney At Law

Associated with
Parr, Friend and Johnson

Inc.

Carla SpJaingard

844-1951
"FOR ALL YOUR PLUMBING NEEDS"

JEAN PROCKISH

Propertit~s

321-2148
P.O. Box 5119
Norman, Okla. 73070

Individual - Couples
Therapy, Retreats

Famil~·

Nancy Nesser
'T Attorney at Law 'T
942-4190
•bc:in.::ru~cy and co-isumer lc:iw

•wills, trusts ~ estat"e pl::Jnning
•divorce, custody ~ fomi lv law
Email: njnesser~uno.c:Jm

NonProfit Org.
U.S. Postage

PAID
Oklahoma City, OK
Permit No. 861



January/February, 1998

CD

HERLAND

When: F~ '13, "IC,. ~ '15, '1'1'1g
Where: Ol<Lc~o- <:!~, A~ 1-foL;J,.~
Theme: l_tµ. ff_
-ai

f.......

.ol 'lk_ljurv.:t .

Labyrinths will be the theme and the experience of this
conference.
An OKC-based dance company, Theatre Upon a
StarDanceSwan with.M4GJCAYA will open the conference on
Friday evening with a performance of "Wonder*ment, a garden," a piece inspired by a labyrinth and which includes the
walking of a hand shaped labyrinth by the audience as well as the
dancers.
Victoria Stone will speak on "Resdiscovering Our
Heartpaths" and will guide participants through the walking of
a replica of the Chartres Cathedral labyrinth. Unlike a maze, a
labyrinth has only one path which leads to the center and out
again. The Labyrinth Walk, an ancient universal symbol
representing the path oflife, is a symbolic journey in the form of
a walking meditation.
Stone is an award winning interior designer and health
educator who takes a holistic approach to design and health by
creating environments which address physical, emotional, and
spiritual needs. An innovator in the design of healing environments, she brings significant insight into the creative process
and its relationship to spirit, health and well-being.
Conference registration is $85 for SWUUW members and
$90 for nonmembers who register after January 2. The conference fee includes 2 continental breakfasts, Saturday lunch,
banquet and fabulous entertainment. For more information,
brochures are available the First Unitarian Church of Oklahoma
City or contact Mary Francis at (405)741-0694 or Elizabeth
Muller (405)341-4066 or ElizMuller@aol.com.

Volume 16 Number I

Peggy Johnson and Darenda will present an evening of
acoustic music at Partners to benefit for 1he Herland CD Project.
Fundraising for the Herland CD project kicked off with a
bang at Medina's Coffeehouse on January 2. The packed house
was treated to a full evening of music fr01 n soml: of the musicians
who 'II be included on the Herland CD. M:1ry Reynolds opened the
evening with a surprise solo set, followed by Donna D. 's one-ofa kind songs and stories and then Mary Reynolds was back with
Louise Goldberg, Terri Hoersch, and Elyse Angelo in a rare
performance by Miss Brown to You .
By the end of the evening, over a thousand dollars had been
raised toward the CD production costs. To date, 23 of the 70 CD
Underwriter slots have been filled and "e are over a third of the
way to the $4,000 necessary to produce 1he CD. lfyou haven't
yet sent in your contribution, do it today
CD underwriters will receive complimentary admission to all
CD benefits, the CD release party, recognition in the Voice and
on the CD liner notes and will receive art autographed CD.

CD

UNDERWRITERS

Carla Splaingard
Debbie T.
Donna DeSalvo
DTH
In honor of Honey West
In Honor of Making Music
In Honor of Nancy Nesser
J.A. Graham
Janis Galloway
Jean Kelsey
Jim and Ruth Gordon
Judy Kaufman and Jan MacDonald
Karen Messana

Herland Sister Resources

Margaret Cox
Margy Dillon
Medina's Coffeehouse
Meg Moore
Nancy Jones
Renee McBride
Sandra Hoyt
Stiefrniller Family
Tim Larason
Timi Richardson
Wendy Galbraith

SPAGHETTI DINNER
AT
HERLAND SISTER RESOURCES

2312 N. W 39

7 PM
f EBRUARY 21 , 1998
$4

DONATION REQUESTED

2312N.W.

3~.

OKC, OK 73112

ST. SYBIL
Sybil Ludington, Revolutionary War Hero and Matron Saint of the Forgotten
Woman, has been taking a little R & R over on the moons of Jupiter. She has
returned to bring solace and comfort to the Resolution Impaired here on Earth.

Dear St. Sybil,
Is it too late to make some New Year's Resolutions? Do they
ever work? I think I need to make some, before it's too late; life
is passing by so fast and, like Oklahoma did to the Oil Boom, I
seem to be pissing it away. I've noticed that my twice-yearly
dental appointments seem to come once a month, and it's scaring
me. I'll appreciate any help or advice you can give to help me live
a good life.
Yours,
Phaeden Phast
Dear Phaeden,
I just dashed off a thousand or so words of the best advice a
person could ever hope for, guaranteed to make your life eminently worthwhile and valuable. It was also a bunch of the most
boring, tedious, judgmental, Calvinistic, disagreeable hooey ever
to be decreed from on high, resolutions that no person in their
right mind would ever want to hear, let alone adhere to: Do this,
don't do that, improve this, eschew that, no chewing the other (let
alone the fat), no tv, no wine or spirits, no spirit at all. Boring
boring boring.
Instead of all that, Phae, do these few things: Dance, girl.
Dance, and sing, and write bad poetry- all right, if you can write
good poetry, even better. Get up early and stay up late and nap a
lot; play with your doggies and your kitties and your kiddies;
snuggle with your sweetie or if you don't have one, celebrate your
freedom; see more movies & read more books, write more letters;
ifyou've got to chow down on cheddar pepper poppers or a banana
split, do it with gusto; but remember to take your vitamins, you
want to try to keep your arteries from getting as hard as drilling
bits; take a walk sometimes, the more, the longer, the more scenic
the better. Just one proscription: Cigarettes. Don't smoke,
Phaeden, doing that to your body is a sin.
Other than that, take care, take power, and trust joy. Life
is longer and richer than you yet know.
Love,
Sybil
Dear St. Sybil,
Help me please. How on earth do I extricate myself from my
possessive controlling lover, when her battered, bruised, badly
hurt inner child continues to break my heart?
Yours in mental anguish, and feeling very
Guilty
Dear NOT Guilty,
Abraham Lincoln once said, when chided for not liking a
man because of his appearance: Before forty, we are not responsible for our looks. After forty, we are.
Well, to a certain age people are not responsible for the bad
actions and attitudes of their inner child; but after a certain age
- twenty? thirty? surely by forty - the adult has to keep that inner
child in hand, under control, and on good behavior to others.
2 HerlandVoiceJan./Feb., 1998

Many of the most wonderful, warm, comp<1 ssionate, active,
accomplished, caring people in the wo rid have sad, suffering
inner children. Above all remember thai your inner child is just
as vulnerable and deserving as anyone ebe' s, a1td as much as you
hurt for and empathize with and esteem another's inner child, it
is your own who deserves your fullest measme of honor and
tenderness. Don't let someone else's inner kid bully yours.
Cherish your child, cherish yourself, :md da nee through the
millennium.
Love and kisses,
Sybil

UNDISCOVERED TALENT?
Are you an undiscovered entertainer 1 If you are a musician,
comic, orother entertainer, Herland wants to hear from you. Send
us a tape (if you have one), your name, addre5s, phone and a
description of the type of entertainment you do. You could be
invited to perform at a Herland coffeehouse, retreat or other
Herland event. Send your information to: Social Committee,
Herland, 2312 NW 39, Oklahoma City, OK 73112.

HERLAND SPRING RETREAT
The Herland Spring Retreat will be May 1-3 at Red Rock
Canyon State Park. Planning for retreat activities has just begun.
If you have a workshop/discussion group or other activity you'd
like to facilitate, let us know. Come to tl1e next Board meeting,
4:30 PM February 15 or leave a message at Herland.

EVERYONE NEEDS A LITTLE SHELTER
You can drop off donated items at Berland for the Norman
battered women's shelter. Some of the most needed items are:
new or nearly new children's clothing, all types of household
cleaning products, toilet paper, paper to\\ els, disposable diapers,
school supplies for all ages, new women's llllderwear, bath
towels, dish towels, hair care and other grooming items.

Individual, couple and family counseling. Call for a Wednesday evening appointment. Jo L. Soske, LPC/CADC 879-2226.
Country Living! Modest home, SE OKC near Tinker.
Pasture space available. 400 MT, Bills Pd 672-3686.

The Voice is published by: Herland Sister Resources, Inc. 2312
N.W. 39th, Oklahoma City, OK 73112
The Voice is offered as an open forum for community discourse.
Articles reflect the opinions of the author and not necessarily those
of Herland Sister Resources. Unsolicited articles and letters to the
editor are welcomed and must be signed by the writer with full
name and address. Upon request, letters or articles may be
printed under a pseudonym or anonymously

Subscriptions to The Voice are free upon request although a
donation is requested to meet publication and distrioution costs.

Herland Sister Resources
February, 1998
Sunday

Monday

1

2

Civil-rights sit-in begins at
lunch counters in Greensboro, North Carolina

Groundhog Day

9

8

Tuesday

3

4

16

Susan B. Anthony b. 1820

President's Day

Hattie McDaniel was the
first African-American to
earn an Oscar as best
supporting actress for
"Gone With the Wind"

JO

11

17

18

Marian Anderson, B. 1902

23

5

6

7

12

13

14

24

Washington's Birthday

Lincoln's
Birthday

Frederick Doug/ass, black
abolitionist,
born 1817

19

25

26

Ash Wednesday

8:00 PM
Darenda
& Peggy
at
Partners

Norma Merrick ( b. 1928)
was the first licensed
female architect in the
US.

-'alentinf·s Day

20

21
Ma/corr X assa~ inated 1965

In 1921, Bessie
Coleman
became the
first black flier
in the world to
become a
licensed pilot.

4:30 PM HSR Board Mtg.

22

saturoay

Friday

Rosa Parks,
called the
'Mother of the
Civil Rights
Movement'
born in Tuskegee, AL in 1913

In 1989, the Rev.
Batbara C. HlllTfs,
an AfricanAmerican, became
thefi'stfemale
bishop of the
Episcopal Ch11th.

15

Thursday

Wednesday

Barbara Jordan, b. 1936

7:00 PM Spaghetti
Dinner at Herland

27

28

1833, Marla W.
Slewsrtgave one
of the 4 speeches
that made her BS
the fi'st Americanbom woman ID give
public Isch.re

If you have an event for the Herland calendar, send it ATIN: Calendar, HSR, 2312 N.W. 39, OKC, OK 73112 or email
Herland@usa.net.

Sign me up to be a CD underwriterl
Here's my contribution of $50 or more.

Name

-~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

Address
City_ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _.State_ _ _ Zip

-~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~-

My contribution is
in honor of:
_in memory of

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~-

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~-

-

Please do not list my name in the Voice or on the liner notes.

Send to: HSR ATTN: CD, 2312 NW 39, OKC, OK 73112

(2/98)
Her/an.I Voic!· Jan/Feb., 1998

RfYMfal(

~tiP PLU~BING

r

Preferrf'd

406-628-1018

FAX 405-528-1035

Peggy C. Johnson

Office: (405) 751-4848
Toll Free: (800) 299-5615
Fax: (405) 751-4330
3705

w. Memorial

REBECCA R.

2200 Classen Blvd., Suite 650
Oklahoma City, OK 73106-5609

\"(\'1S ti C _
~Rest tR€c\SUR€S
• tncxna" & oils • candla • impocts
• \.~alala & alona • j~elfi
• amlqu" & unusual gtfls

Campa Comer
3'.3 ~hDc Slnd
Norman, OK 73069

·~~aupplka

Naluha Rice (405) 447-5111

Herland Sister Resources
2312 N.W. 39
Oklahoma City, OK 73112
Address Correction Requested
Return Postage Guaranteed

OklahOma City, OK 73134

COH~,

Ph.D.

CLINICAL PSYCHOLOGY

Attorney At Law

Associated with
Parr, Friend and Johnson

Inc.

Carla SpJaingard

844-1951
"FOR ALL YOUR PLUMBING NEEDS"

JEAN PROCKISH

Propertit~s

321-2148
P.O. Box 5119
Norman, Okla. 73070

Individual - Couples
Therapy, Retreats

Famil~·

Nancy Nesser
'T Attorney at Law 'T
942-4190
•bc:in.::ru~cy and co-isumer lc:iw

•wills, trusts ~ estat"e pl::Jnning
•divorce, custody ~ fomi lv law
Email: njnesser~uno.c:Jm

NonProfit Org.
U.S. Postage

PAID
Oklahoma City, OK
Permit No. 861



January/February, 1998

CD

HERLAND

When: F~ '13, "IC,. ~ '15, '1'1'1g
Where: Ol<Lc~o- <:!~, A~ 1-foL;J,.~
Theme: l_tµ. ff_
-ai

f.......

.ol 'lk_ljurv.:t .

Labyrinths will be the theme and the experience of this
conference.
An OKC-based dance company, Theatre Upon a
StarDanceSwan with.M4GJCAYA will open the conference on
Friday evening with a performance of "Wonder*ment, a garden," a piece inspired by a labyrinth and which includes the
walking of a hand shaped labyrinth by the audience as well as the
dancers.
Victoria Stone will speak on "Resdiscovering Our
Heartpaths" and will guide participants through the walking of
a replica of the Chartres Cathedral labyrinth. Unlike a maze, a
labyrinth has only one path which leads to the center and out
again. The Labyrinth Walk, an ancient universal symbol
representing the path oflife, is a symbolic journey in the form of
a walking meditation.
Stone is an award winning interior designer and health
educator who takes a holistic approach to design and health by
creating environments which address physical, emotional, and
spiritual needs. An innovator in the design of healing environments, she brings significant insight into the creative process
and its relationship to spirit, health and well-being.
Conference registration is $85 for SWUUW members and
$90 for nonmembers who register after January 2. The conference fee includes 2 continental breakfasts, Saturday lunch,
banquet and fabulous entertainment. For more information,
brochures are available the First Unitarian Church of Oklahoma
City or contact Mary Francis at (405)741-0694 or Elizabeth
Muller (405)341-4066 or ElizMuller@aol.com.

Volume 16 Number I

Peggy Johnson and Darenda will present an evening of
acoustic music at Partners to benefit for 1he Herland CD Project.
Fundraising for the Herland CD project kicked off with a
bang at Medina's Coffeehouse on January 2. The packed house
was treated to a full evening of music fr01 n soml: of the musicians
who 'II be included on the Herland CD. M:1ry Reynolds opened the
evening with a surprise solo set, followed by Donna D. 's one-ofa kind songs and stories and then Mary Reynolds was back with
Louise Goldberg, Terri Hoersch, and Elyse Angelo in a rare
performance by Miss Brown to You .
By the end of the evening, over a thousand dollars had been
raised toward the CD production costs. To date, 23 of the 70 CD
Underwriter slots have been filled and "e are over a third of the
way to the $4,000 necessary to produce 1he CD. lfyou haven't
yet sent in your contribution, do it today
CD underwriters will receive complimentary admission to all
CD benefits, the CD release party, recognition in the Voice and
on the CD liner notes and will receive art autographed CD.

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UNDERWRITERS

Carla Splaingard
Debbie T.
Donna DeSalvo
DTH
In honor of Honey West
In Honor of Making Music
In Honor of Nancy Nesser
J.A. Graham
Janis Galloway
Jean Kelsey
Jim and Ruth Gordon
Judy Kaufman and Jan MacDonald
Karen Messana

Herland Sister Resources

Margaret Cox
Margy Dillon
Medina's Coffeehouse
Meg Moore
Nancy Jones
Renee McBride
Sandra Hoyt
Stiefrniller Family
Tim Larason
Timi Richardson
Wendy Galbraith

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ST. SYBIL
Sybil Ludington, Revolutionary War Hero and Matron Saint of the Forgotten
Woman, has been taking a little R & R over on the moons of Jupiter. She has
returned to bring solace and comfort to the Resolution Impaired here on Earth.

Dear St. Sybil,
Is it too late to make some New Year's Resolutions? Do they
ever work? I think I need to make some, before it's too late; life
is passing by so fast and, like Oklahoma did to the Oil Boom, I
seem to be pissing it away. I've noticed that my twice-yearly
dental appointments seem to come once a month, and it's scaring
me. I'll appreciate any help or advice you can give to help me live
a good life.
Yours,
Phaeden Phast
Dear Phaeden,
I just dashed off a thousand or so words of the best advice a
person could ever hope for, guaranteed to make your life eminently worthwhile and valuable. It was also a bunch of the most
boring, tedious, judgmental, Calvinistic, disagreeable hooey ever
to be decreed from on high, resolutions that no person in their
right mind would ever want to hear, let alone adhere to: Do this,
don't do that, improve this, eschew that, no chewing the other (let
alone the fat), no tv, no wine or spirits, no spirit at all. Boring
boring boring.
Instead of all that, Phae, do these few things: Dance, girl.
Dance, and sing, and write bad poetry- all right, if you can write
good poetry, even better. Get up early and stay up late and nap a
lot; play with your doggies and your kitties and your kiddies;
snuggle with your sweetie or if you don't have one, celebrate your
freedom; see more movies & read more books, write more letters;
ifyou've got to chow down on cheddar pepper poppers or a banana
split, do it with gusto; but remember to take your vitamins, you
want to try to keep your arteries from getting as hard as drilling
bits; take a walk sometimes, the more, the longer, the more scenic
the better. Just one proscription: Cigarettes. Don't smoke,
Phaeden, doing that to your body is a sin.
Other than that, take care, take power, and trust joy. Life
is longer and richer than you yet know.
Love,
Sybil
Dear St. Sybil,
Help me please. How on earth do I extricate myself from my
possessive controlling lover, when her battered, bruised, badly
hurt inner child continues to break my heart?
Yours in mental anguish, and feeling very
Guilty
Dear NOT Guilty,
Abraham Lincoln once said, when chided for not liking a
man because of his appearance: Before forty, we are not responsible for our looks. After forty, we are.
Well, to a certain age people are not responsible for the bad
actions and attitudes of their inner child; but after a certain age
- twenty? thirty? surely by forty - the adult has to keep that inner
child in hand, under control, and on good behavior to others.
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Many of the most wonderful, warm, comp<1 ssionate, active,
accomplished, caring people in the wo rid have sad, suffering
inner children. Above all remember thai your inner child is just
as vulnerable and deserving as anyone ebe' s, a1td as much as you
hurt for and empathize with and esteem another's inner child, it
is your own who deserves your fullest measme of honor and
tenderness. Don't let someone else's inner kid bully yours.
Cherish your child, cherish yourself, :md da nee through the
millennium.
Love and kisses,
Sybil

UNDISCOVERED TALENT?
Are you an undiscovered entertainer 1 If you are a musician,
comic, orother entertainer, Herland wants to hear from you. Send
us a tape (if you have one), your name, addre5s, phone and a
description of the type of entertainment you do. You could be
invited to perform at a Herland coffeehouse, retreat or other
Herland event. Send your information to: Social Committee,
Herland, 2312 NW 39, Oklahoma City, OK 73112.

HERLAND SPRING RETREAT
The Herland Spring Retreat will be May 1-3 at Red Rock
Canyon State Park. Planning for retreat activities has just begun.
If you have a workshop/discussion group or other activity you'd
like to facilitate, let us know. Come to tl1e next Board meeting,
4:30 PM February 15 or leave a message at Herland.

EVERYONE NEEDS A LITTLE SHELTER
You can drop off donated items at Berland for the Norman
battered women's shelter. Some of the most needed items are:
new or nearly new children's clothing, all types of household
cleaning products, toilet paper, paper to\\ els, disposable diapers,
school supplies for all ages, new women's llllderwear, bath
towels, dish towels, hair care and other grooming items.

Individual, couple and family counseling. Call for a Wednesday evening appointment. Jo L. Soske, LPC/CADC 879-2226.
Country Living! Modest home, SE OKC near Tinker.
Pasture space available. 400 MT, Bills Pd 672-3686.

The Voice is published by: Herland Sister Resources, Inc. 2312
N.W. 39th, Oklahoma City, OK 73112
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Articles reflect the opinions of the author and not necessarily those
of Herland Sister Resources. Unsolicited articles and letters to the
editor are welcomed and must be signed by the writer with full
name and address. Upon request, letters or articles may be
printed under a pseudonym or anonymously

Subscriptions to The Voice are free upon request although a
donation is requested to meet publication and distrioution costs.

Herland Sister Resources
February, 1998
Sunday

Monday

1

2

Civil-rights sit-in begins at
lunch counters in Greensboro, North Carolina

Groundhog Day

9

8

Tuesday

3

4

16

Susan B. Anthony b. 1820

President's Day

Hattie McDaniel was the
first African-American to
earn an Oscar as best
supporting actress for
"Gone With the Wind"

JO

11

17

18

Marian Anderson, B. 1902

23

5

6

7

12

13

14

24

Washington's Birthday

Lincoln's
Birthday

Frederick Doug/ass, black
abolitionist,
born 1817

19

25

26

Ash Wednesday

8:00 PM
Darenda
& Peggy
at
Partners

Norma Merrick ( b. 1928)
was the first licensed
female architect in the
US.

-'alentinf·s Day

20

21
Ma/corr X assa~ inated 1965

In 1921, Bessie
Coleman
became the
first black flier
in the world to
become a
licensed pilot.

4:30 PM HSR Board Mtg.

22

saturoay

Friday

Rosa Parks,
called the
'Mother of the
Civil Rights
Movement'
born in Tuskegee, AL in 1913

In 1989, the Rev.
Batbara C. HlllTfs,
an AfricanAmerican, became
thefi'stfemale
bishop of the
Episcopal Ch11th.

15

Thursday

Wednesday

Barbara Jordan, b. 1936

7:00 PM Spaghetti
Dinner at Herland

27

28

1833, Marla W.
Slewsrtgave one
of the 4 speeches
that made her BS
the fi'st Americanbom woman ID give
public Isch.re

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