The Herland Voice : v.19: no.11(2001)
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- The Herland Voice : v.19: no.11(2001)
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- The Herland Voice is the monthly publication of Herland Sister Resources, a womanist organization with a strong lesbian focus based in Oklahoma City.
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November, 2001
DeM FtiMds,
We would au 'lb tah dris oppOl'twUtfl 'lb
t/ranR, !JOU hw !fO'UJ' suppott hw fk past !Jt!N onJ
invite, !JOU 'fb tuHltin.ue !JO'UI' ~ wit/r,
l./etftwl. l./et!ond is a """'/'n>lit "°'1.mteN
wlu>se purpMe is 'lb suppott W0111.J!,/1.
in tku jO'Ul'M!J ttHNord self-delilzttibn ond selfrlmnni.notiJHI. l./et!ond was estolJ/ishe,d in
J fl89 h!J a g/'O'UfJ of WotnNt oMWtsfs ~neJ
ahout fk oppte.rsil>ft ofolf WotnNt onJ /.es/Ji.ans
in po;~ Tku missibn, lnlKt silnfJ/g doted,
was 'lb M!Ole a sol'e ploll liw I.es/Ji.ans 'lb meet
ond exc/ronge ifkas, /Wings, ht>pes ond ~
ond 'lb leoJ.n o/Jout tkmse&es ond ~ otliu.
l./e#.andwot-Rs 'fb~eote. indl.vi.rluols ondexpond
tuJ111h1.Unitg awt»enl!SS a/Jout /.es/Ji.an, gag, hisexu.of
and f/'ansgentiel' (Ilg/hit) issues. We pu/J/is/,, a
ln.Ollt/,Jy MWS/ettu, OfJNoh a /JooilstMe onJ l.entling
lihto/"!f, ond p!Oflide 111.USiML ond Cl.lituml ~ liw
eriaMtiO'IL ond e.ntNtoi.nMent. l./e1lond wt>l'ks in
eolla/JOl'otil>n wit/r, ond suppotts tk ell'Mts olot:ktl!g/6/t ond lniluH-it!J f>l'ganizatil>ns 'lb elilninote.
m&sm, ageism, sexism, ond ~exism. l{O'UI'
tumhihutiMt will. ollJ>W us 'lb tuHltin.ue 'lb Se.Ne tk II
g/6/t tuJ111h1.Unitg of Oldolwmo.
Sincetelg,
Tlie WotnNt oll./e#.and
f>l'ganizotil>n
NOVEMBER
2001
EVENTS
Herland Supper Club, 4:45 pm,
Saturday, November 10th. Meet at
Herland to carpool to Eischen's in Okarche
for dinner (plan on being there at 5:30 p.m.).
Women from the Enid group will meet us
there for a multi-city Supper Club.
Peace Fest, 10 am - 4:00 pm,
Saturday, November 17th, at the
Myriad. Stop by Herland's booth for holiday
cards and gift items.
Thanksgiving Day Potluck, 4:30 pm;
Thursday, November 22nd, at Herland.
Bring your favorite dish (!!) to Herland for a
potluck and games
Her/and is open every
Saturday from 1 -5 PM
Yes! I want to support Herland's efforts in my community.
Donation categories: *
_ _ _$10
_ _ _$20
_ _ _$30
_ _ _$50
_ _ _$100
Name: _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ __
Beebo Brinker
Rubyfruit Jungle
Lesbian/Woman
Sappho Was a Right-on Woman!
Sisterhood is Powerful!
Address: _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ __
City: _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ State:_ Zip: _ _
Email Address
--------------
_ Check here if you would like to receive the newsletter by email.
Please mail with your contribution to: Herland, 2312 NW 39, OKC, OK. Contributions are tax-deductible
"'Don't recognize these titles? You can check them out in the Herland Library.
Volume 19Number 11
Herland Sister Resources
www.herlandsisters.org
2312 N.W. 39, OKC, OK 73112
MEMORIES OF THE
2001
ffERLAND
FALL RETREAT
I arri not a big fan of camping or outside sleeping so I
figured this would be a piece of cake. A bed to sleep in and solid
roof over my head. I was set for my first retreat. My partner,
Cindy, failed to inform me of the huge insects that planned to
spend the weekend with us . Huge-gigantic-enormous spiders
craw ling on my bunk, on the floor , on the toliet paper rolls, and
even dangling from the only mirror that was usable. I dido 't
hang around having conversations with these bugs. I pursuaded
them with the end of a broom to find a new residence but they
had a different agenda. To scare the hell out of me!
Anyway, besides the spiders many memories come to
mind. Kate from Tulsa and her exciting stories of the
Michagan Womens Festival. Marty T, showing up at the
retreat with her motorcycle leathers and of course fashionably
late. Graceful Denise F, a newcomer from the panhandle and
her dog" Happy". Thanks goes out to Laura C. and Pat R. for
all the information on starting a community resource center in
Enid. I am grateful for all the wonderful cooks that prepared
meals and the recipes that engulfed my tastebuds. Also, Laura
C. was humorous and very happy with homemade soap in her
pocket.
It was reported by Cheryl P. that a couple was having
sexual relations in camp during waking hours. She collaborated with many wellwishers to applaud as the couple returned
to the lodge. This was the first time in my history I had so many
women applaud me for an act of sex- Boy, was I smiling ear
to ear.
I was invited by friends and partner to try fishing in the
near by Watonga Lake. Fishing license in one hand and pole
in the other I was set. My partner pulled out this awful smelling
box of chicken livers and stink bait. Well-ladies this was
almost as scary as the spiders in my bed. My partner placed
this huge clump of fatty red liver on my hook and I "casted".
That' s fishing talk! Green to fishing lingo, I decided to try my
hand at catching perch. Guess what? I caught 5 and those
experienced Pro fishing nuts caught absolutely NOTHING!
YES! Fems will overcome!! My new nickname became
"Perch" for the rest of the retreat thanks to Mari.
Back at the lodge there was a rumor that someone got
happy with a camera and started shooting photos of naked bodies
in the shower. This was almost more than I could bare, I didn't
shower the whole time I was at the retreat. My deepest apologies
to my camping buddies.
Ladies, many different thoughts cross my mind when I
began to write down these memories. This one detail really
brings harmony. During the concert, Mary Catherine Reynolds
and friends distinguished sound aroused the charms of many
past and present lovers. It seemed she took us on an enchanted
journey through emotion after emotion until we finally agreed
that this was a time of hope and peace. Everyone joined the
singalong afterwards, some of us had definitely had a few to
many intoxicating bevarages, but we combined voice in
addition some became aware of new talents- drumming,
snapping, popping, different sounds of pitch! Can't say it
was pretty but it was down right hillbilly style.
The weekend flew by and soon Sunday morning was
here. A final breakfast together and the cleanup of the lodge
and camp. We packed our belongings on the little red wagon
and up the hill we went, stopping long enough for final
photos together and to say goodbye to all our new friends .
We packed the car and left Roman Nose. I must admit that
I had my reservations about attending the retreat but I
discovered a deep enlightment that will serve as a step in my
growth towards knowing myself.
In conclusion, thank you to all the dedicated supporters
ofHerland Sisters. Also, thank you to my partner Cindy for
persuading me to attend. I will treasure the memories of my
first retreat for a lifetime.
Sincerely,
Rhonda
NOW
MEETING
The National Organization for Women's newly
reorganized Oklahoma City chapter will meet at 6:30
p.m. Monday, November 12, 2001, at the Hometown
Buffet, 3900 NW 63rd , Oklahoma City. Everyone,
women, men, transgendered, lesbian, gay, straight,
black or white, all genders and ethnicities, who cares
about the equality of women and the importance of
"women's issues" is welcome to attend.
Please give a little thought as you drive to the
meeting (or before!) as to what issues you would most
like to see the Chapter address, and where you would
like to put your talents and energies in the administration of the Chapter. Leadership positions to be filled
include Coordinator, Co-coordinator, Secretary, Treasurer, Data base maven, and Newsletter editor.
Issues discussed as possible priorities at the first
two planning meetings included reproductive rights,
legislative issues, fighting racism, fighting homophobia, education, global feminism, and fighting the radical
right. There are of course many others -- So please
come join us for good fellowship, supper, and an
ongoing fight for justice. The Homeland Buffet is
handicapped accessible.
tJ
Her/and Voice November, 2001 Page 3
SAINT SYBIL·
Dear Sybil,
I saw the worst, nastiest t-shirt today, and I was with my
12 year old niece at the time. We were at the county jail
waiting to bail out her mother, who had been arrested in a civil
disobedience action.
A young man who was there to pay off a traffic fine came
in, looking pretty disreputable even without the ugly tee. He
had long dish-water blond hair, and was just generally
unkempt and not quite squeaky-clean looking. And then the
shirt! The shirt had a crude drawing of an impossibly buxom
woman, just barely contained by her own tee, perched on a
loose stack ofover-sized truck tires; and the message was: "If
it's got tits or tires, it's gonna be trouble."
Now my question, Syb - what should my comment to my
niece have been, bearing in mind that I don't want her to be
a snob, socially or even intellectually, and I do strive as much
as possible (especially when I'm trying to be a role model) to
be as gentle and nonjudgmental as possible. 1also don't want
her to think that I hate all men. And was there possibly a really
kick-ass comment to the room at large that would have
chastised the young man without getting him arrested again
for hurting me real bad?
Forever in turmoil,
Mags
Dear Mags,
I'm glad to know you are bringing your niece up right.
Some off-the-cuff suggestions for the next time you run into
a truly offensive t-shirt, which unfortunately, living as you do
in early 21st century Oklahoma, won't be long in the offmg.
§ If you didn't feel so sorry for him, you' djust want to smack
him, wouldn't you?
§ Can you imagine any woman hating herself enough to go
out with him?
§ His mother must be dead, or she would have ripped that
shirt right off his scrawny body.
§ Isn't it sad to think how much time that young man is gong
to spend in jail?
§ Life is tough, but it's much tougher if you're as dumb and
hateful as he is.
§ I have a feeling everything is going to be trouble for that
poor young man, don't you?"
And if you feel you have to say something to the room at
large, you might try, "Gee, most real men I know like
breasts" .....
And then, ofcourse, you could go up to him and offer him
your apologies for any trouble you've given him, and when he
looks confused, shyly murmur "tits, you know" ...
Page 2 Her/and Voice November, 2001
But really, Mags, the less energy you give this type of
display, the better. As long as you' re working to change the
kind of ignorance behind it, you should feel free to just roll
your eyes and let it go.
Fondly,
Sybil
D
BOOK CLUB
Herland will be welcoming a book elub beginning in
January. The club will meet once a month, choose a book for
the members to read, and meet the next month to talk about
how they liked (or didn't like!) the book, and dis~uss the
interesting points. The organizing meeting is set for the first
Sunday in January, which is January 6, at 4:30. At that
meeting, the new members will gather and choose the books
to read for the first few months. Everyone is encouraged to
bring one book idea.
You might learn about a great book from friends, from a ·
newspaper or magazine review, from the Internet, or other
sources. Bring a review of the book to share, if you can, to
help everyone decide. The only stipulation to begin with
might be to focus on women-positive and/or women-centered
books. That can be changed if book club members want to do
something different.
Book club members will be encouraged to take a few
notes as they read and bring one or two questions each to the
next meeting, to encourage a lively discussion. There are also
Internet sites for book clubs which have discussion questions
and topics for many books. If you are interested in being a
member, please call Louise at 286-140 I to let her know you
will becoming to the firstmeeting on January 6. Or, just show
up on that day!
O
Herland Board of Directors:
Laura Choate
Jacqueline Gatewood
DTH
Ginger McGovern
Pat Reaves
Judy Walden
The Voice is published by: Herland Sister Resources, Inc. 2312
N.W. 39th, Oklahoma City, OK 73112. The Voice is offered as an
open forum for community discourse. Articles reflect the opinions of
the author and not necessarily those al Herland Sister Resoutces.
Unsolicited articles and letters to the edlor are welcomed and must
be signed by the writer with full name and eddress. Upon request,
letters or articles may be printed under a pseudonym or anonymously. Subscriptions to The Voice are free upon request although
a donation is requested to meet publication and clstribution costs.
www.herlandsisters.org
Herland Sister Resources
2312 N.W. 39
Oklahoma City, OK 73112
NonProfit Org .
U.S . Postage
PAID
Oklahoma City, OK
Permit No. 861
Address Service Requested
Support our
Supporters
REBECCA R. HOLT, Ph.D.
CLINICAL PSYCHOLOGY
321-2148
P.O. Box 5119
Norman, Ok.Ia 73070
Individual - Couples
Family Therapy, Retreats
-
November, 2001
DeM FtiMds,
We would au 'lb tah dris oppOl'twUtfl 'lb
t/ranR, !JOU hw !fO'UJ' suppott hw fk past !Jt!N onJ
invite, !JOU 'fb tuHltin.ue !JO'UI' ~ wit/r,
l./etftwl. l./et!ond is a """'/'n>lit "°'1.mteN
wlu>se purpMe is 'lb suppott W0111.J!,/1.
in tku jO'Ul'M!J ttHNord self-delilzttibn ond selfrlmnni.notiJHI. l./et!ond was estolJ/ishe,d in
J fl89 h!J a g/'O'UfJ of WotnNt oMWtsfs ~neJ
ahout fk oppte.rsil>ft ofolf WotnNt onJ /.es/Ji.ans
in po;~ Tku missibn, lnlKt silnfJ/g doted,
was 'lb M!Ole a sol'e ploll liw I.es/Ji.ans 'lb meet
ond exc/ronge ifkas, /Wings, ht>pes ond ~
ond 'lb leoJ.n o/Jout tkmse&es ond ~ otliu.
l./e#.andwot-Rs 'fb~eote. indl.vi.rluols ondexpond
tuJ111h1.Unitg awt»enl!SS a/Jout /.es/Ji.an, gag, hisexu.of
and f/'ansgentiel' (Ilg/hit) issues. We pu/J/is/,, a
ln.Ollt/,Jy MWS/ettu, OfJNoh a /JooilstMe onJ l.entling
lihto/"!f, ond p!Oflide 111.USiML ond Cl.lituml ~ liw
eriaMtiO'IL ond e.ntNtoi.nMent. l./e1lond wt>l'ks in
eolla/JOl'otil>n wit/r, ond suppotts tk ell'Mts olot:ktl!g/6/t ond lniluH-it!J f>l'ganizatil>ns 'lb elilninote.
m&sm, ageism, sexism, ond ~exism. l{O'UI'
tumhihutiMt will. ollJ>W us 'lb tuHltin.ue 'lb Se.Ne tk II
g/6/t tuJ111h1.Unitg of Oldolwmo.
Sincetelg,
Tlie WotnNt oll./e#.and
f>l'ganizotil>n
NOVEMBER
2001
EVENTS
Herland Supper Club, 4:45 pm,
Saturday, November 10th. Meet at
Herland to carpool to Eischen's in Okarche
for dinner (plan on being there at 5:30 p.m.).
Women from the Enid group will meet us
there for a multi-city Supper Club.
Peace Fest, 10 am - 4:00 pm,
Saturday, November 17th, at the
Myriad. Stop by Herland's booth for holiday
cards and gift items.
Thanksgiving Day Potluck, 4:30 pm;
Thursday, November 22nd, at Herland.
Bring your favorite dish (!!) to Herland for a
potluck and games
Her/and is open every
Saturday from 1 -5 PM
Yes! I want to support Herland's efforts in my community.
Donation categories: *
_ _ _$10
_ _ _$20
_ _ _$30
_ _ _$50
_ _ _$100
Name: _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ __
Beebo Brinker
Rubyfruit Jungle
Lesbian/Woman
Sappho Was a Right-on Woman!
Sisterhood is Powerful!
Address: _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ __
City: _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ State:_ Zip: _ _
Email Address
--------------
_ Check here if you would like to receive the newsletter by email.
Please mail with your contribution to: Herland, 2312 NW 39, OKC, OK. Contributions are tax-deductible
"'Don't recognize these titles? You can check them out in the Herland Library.
Volume 19Number 11
Herland Sister Resources
www.herlandsisters.org
2312 N.W. 39, OKC, OK 73112
MEMORIES OF THE
2001
ffERLAND
FALL RETREAT
I arri not a big fan of camping or outside sleeping so I
figured this would be a piece of cake. A bed to sleep in and solid
roof over my head. I was set for my first retreat. My partner,
Cindy, failed to inform me of the huge insects that planned to
spend the weekend with us . Huge-gigantic-enormous spiders
craw ling on my bunk, on the floor , on the toliet paper rolls, and
even dangling from the only mirror that was usable. I dido 't
hang around having conversations with these bugs. I pursuaded
them with the end of a broom to find a new residence but they
had a different agenda. To scare the hell out of me!
Anyway, besides the spiders many memories come to
mind. Kate from Tulsa and her exciting stories of the
Michagan Womens Festival. Marty T, showing up at the
retreat with her motorcycle leathers and of course fashionably
late. Graceful Denise F, a newcomer from the panhandle and
her dog" Happy". Thanks goes out to Laura C. and Pat R. for
all the information on starting a community resource center in
Enid. I am grateful for all the wonderful cooks that prepared
meals and the recipes that engulfed my tastebuds. Also, Laura
C. was humorous and very happy with homemade soap in her
pocket.
It was reported by Cheryl P. that a couple was having
sexual relations in camp during waking hours. She collaborated with many wellwishers to applaud as the couple returned
to the lodge. This was the first time in my history I had so many
women applaud me for an act of sex- Boy, was I smiling ear
to ear.
I was invited by friends and partner to try fishing in the
near by Watonga Lake. Fishing license in one hand and pole
in the other I was set. My partner pulled out this awful smelling
box of chicken livers and stink bait. Well-ladies this was
almost as scary as the spiders in my bed. My partner placed
this huge clump of fatty red liver on my hook and I "casted".
That' s fishing talk! Green to fishing lingo, I decided to try my
hand at catching perch. Guess what? I caught 5 and those
experienced Pro fishing nuts caught absolutely NOTHING!
YES! Fems will overcome!! My new nickname became
"Perch" for the rest of the retreat thanks to Mari.
Back at the lodge there was a rumor that someone got
happy with a camera and started shooting photos of naked bodies
in the shower. This was almost more than I could bare, I didn't
shower the whole time I was at the retreat. My deepest apologies
to my camping buddies.
Ladies, many different thoughts cross my mind when I
began to write down these memories. This one detail really
brings harmony. During the concert, Mary Catherine Reynolds
and friends distinguished sound aroused the charms of many
past and present lovers. It seemed she took us on an enchanted
journey through emotion after emotion until we finally agreed
that this was a time of hope and peace. Everyone joined the
singalong afterwards, some of us had definitely had a few to
many intoxicating bevarages, but we combined voice in
addition some became aware of new talents- drumming,
snapping, popping, different sounds of pitch! Can't say it
was pretty but it was down right hillbilly style.
The weekend flew by and soon Sunday morning was
here. A final breakfast together and the cleanup of the lodge
and camp. We packed our belongings on the little red wagon
and up the hill we went, stopping long enough for final
photos together and to say goodbye to all our new friends .
We packed the car and left Roman Nose. I must admit that
I had my reservations about attending the retreat but I
discovered a deep enlightment that will serve as a step in my
growth towards knowing myself.
In conclusion, thank you to all the dedicated supporters
ofHerland Sisters. Also, thank you to my partner Cindy for
persuading me to attend. I will treasure the memories of my
first retreat for a lifetime.
Sincerely,
Rhonda
NOW
MEETING
The National Organization for Women's newly
reorganized Oklahoma City chapter will meet at 6:30
p.m. Monday, November 12, 2001, at the Hometown
Buffet, 3900 NW 63rd , Oklahoma City. Everyone,
women, men, transgendered, lesbian, gay, straight,
black or white, all genders and ethnicities, who cares
about the equality of women and the importance of
"women's issues" is welcome to attend.
Please give a little thought as you drive to the
meeting (or before!) as to what issues you would most
like to see the Chapter address, and where you would
like to put your talents and energies in the administration of the Chapter. Leadership positions to be filled
include Coordinator, Co-coordinator, Secretary, Treasurer, Data base maven, and Newsletter editor.
Issues discussed as possible priorities at the first
two planning meetings included reproductive rights,
legislative issues, fighting racism, fighting homophobia, education, global feminism, and fighting the radical
right. There are of course many others -- So please
come join us for good fellowship, supper, and an
ongoing fight for justice. The Homeland Buffet is
handicapped accessible.
tJ
Her/and Voice November, 2001 Page 3
SAINT SYBIL·
Dear Sybil,
I saw the worst, nastiest t-shirt today, and I was with my
12 year old niece at the time. We were at the county jail
waiting to bail out her mother, who had been arrested in a civil
disobedience action.
A young man who was there to pay off a traffic fine came
in, looking pretty disreputable even without the ugly tee. He
had long dish-water blond hair, and was just generally
unkempt and not quite squeaky-clean looking. And then the
shirt! The shirt had a crude drawing of an impossibly buxom
woman, just barely contained by her own tee, perched on a
loose stack ofover-sized truck tires; and the message was: "If
it's got tits or tires, it's gonna be trouble."
Now my question, Syb - what should my comment to my
niece have been, bearing in mind that I don't want her to be
a snob, socially or even intellectually, and I do strive as much
as possible (especially when I'm trying to be a role model) to
be as gentle and nonjudgmental as possible. 1also don't want
her to think that I hate all men. And was there possibly a really
kick-ass comment to the room at large that would have
chastised the young man without getting him arrested again
for hurting me real bad?
Forever in turmoil,
Mags
Dear Mags,
I'm glad to know you are bringing your niece up right.
Some off-the-cuff suggestions for the next time you run into
a truly offensive t-shirt, which unfortunately, living as you do
in early 21st century Oklahoma, won't be long in the offmg.
§ If you didn't feel so sorry for him, you' djust want to smack
him, wouldn't you?
§ Can you imagine any woman hating herself enough to go
out with him?
§ His mother must be dead, or she would have ripped that
shirt right off his scrawny body.
§ Isn't it sad to think how much time that young man is gong
to spend in jail?
§ Life is tough, but it's much tougher if you're as dumb and
hateful as he is.
§ I have a feeling everything is going to be trouble for that
poor young man, don't you?"
And if you feel you have to say something to the room at
large, you might try, "Gee, most real men I know like
breasts" .....
And then, ofcourse, you could go up to him and offer him
your apologies for any trouble you've given him, and when he
looks confused, shyly murmur "tits, you know" ...
Page 2 Her/and Voice November, 2001
But really, Mags, the less energy you give this type of
display, the better. As long as you' re working to change the
kind of ignorance behind it, you should feel free to just roll
your eyes and let it go.
Fondly,
Sybil
D
BOOK CLUB
Herland will be welcoming a book elub beginning in
January. The club will meet once a month, choose a book for
the members to read, and meet the next month to talk about
how they liked (or didn't like!) the book, and dis~uss the
interesting points. The organizing meeting is set for the first
Sunday in January, which is January 6, at 4:30. At that
meeting, the new members will gather and choose the books
to read for the first few months. Everyone is encouraged to
bring one book idea.
You might learn about a great book from friends, from a ·
newspaper or magazine review, from the Internet, or other
sources. Bring a review of the book to share, if you can, to
help everyone decide. The only stipulation to begin with
might be to focus on women-positive and/or women-centered
books. That can be changed if book club members want to do
something different.
Book club members will be encouraged to take a few
notes as they read and bring one or two questions each to the
next meeting, to encourage a lively discussion. There are also
Internet sites for book clubs which have discussion questions
and topics for many books. If you are interested in being a
member, please call Louise at 286-140 I to let her know you
will becoming to the firstmeeting on January 6. Or, just show
up on that day!
O
Herland Board of Directors:
Laura Choate
Jacqueline Gatewood
DTH
Ginger McGovern
Pat Reaves
Judy Walden
The Voice is published by: Herland Sister Resources, Inc. 2312
N.W. 39th, Oklahoma City, OK 73112. The Voice is offered as an
open forum for community discourse. Articles reflect the opinions of
the author and not necessarily those al Herland Sister Resoutces.
Unsolicited articles and letters to the edlor are welcomed and must
be signed by the writer with full name and eddress. Upon request,
letters or articles may be printed under a pseudonym or anonymously. Subscriptions to The Voice are free upon request although
a donation is requested to meet publication and clstribution costs.
www.herlandsisters.org
Herland Sister Resources
2312 N.W. 39
Oklahoma City, OK 73112
NonProfit Org .
U.S . Postage
PAID
Oklahoma City, OK
Permit No. 861
Address Service Requested
Support our
Supporters
REBECCA R. HOLT, Ph.D.
CLINICAL PSYCHOLOGY
321-2148
P.O. Box 5119
Norman, Ok.Ia 73070
Individual - Couples
Family Therapy, Retreats
-
November, 2001
DeM FtiMds,
We would au 'lb tah dris oppOl'twUtfl 'lb
t/ranR, !JOU hw !fO'UJ' suppott hw fk past !Jt!N onJ
invite, !JOU 'fb tuHltin.ue !JO'UI' ~ wit/r,
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NOVEMBER
2001
EVENTS
Herland Supper Club, 4:45 pm,
Saturday, November 10th. Meet at
Herland to carpool to Eischen's in Okarche
for dinner (plan on being there at 5:30 p.m.).
Women from the Enid group will meet us
there for a multi-city Supper Club.
Peace Fest, 10 am - 4:00 pm,
Saturday, November 17th, at the
Myriad. Stop by Herland's booth for holiday
cards and gift items.
Thanksgiving Day Potluck, 4:30 pm;
Thursday, November 22nd, at Herland.
Bring your favorite dish (!!) to Herland for a
potluck and games
Her/and is open every
Saturday from 1 -5 PM
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Volume 19Number 11
Herland Sister Resources
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2312 N.W. 39, OKC, OK 73112
MEMORIES OF THE
2001
ffERLAND
FALL RETREAT
I arri not a big fan of camping or outside sleeping so I
figured this would be a piece of cake. A bed to sleep in and solid
roof over my head. I was set for my first retreat. My partner,
Cindy, failed to inform me of the huge insects that planned to
spend the weekend with us . Huge-gigantic-enormous spiders
craw ling on my bunk, on the floor , on the toliet paper rolls, and
even dangling from the only mirror that was usable. I dido 't
hang around having conversations with these bugs. I pursuaded
them with the end of a broom to find a new residence but they
had a different agenda. To scare the hell out of me!
Anyway, besides the spiders many memories come to
mind. Kate from Tulsa and her exciting stories of the
Michagan Womens Festival. Marty T, showing up at the
retreat with her motorcycle leathers and of course fashionably
late. Graceful Denise F, a newcomer from the panhandle and
her dog" Happy". Thanks goes out to Laura C. and Pat R. for
all the information on starting a community resource center in
Enid. I am grateful for all the wonderful cooks that prepared
meals and the recipes that engulfed my tastebuds. Also, Laura
C. was humorous and very happy with homemade soap in her
pocket.
It was reported by Cheryl P. that a couple was having
sexual relations in camp during waking hours. She collaborated with many wellwishers to applaud as the couple returned
to the lodge. This was the first time in my history I had so many
women applaud me for an act of sex- Boy, was I smiling ear
to ear.
I was invited by friends and partner to try fishing in the
near by Watonga Lake. Fishing license in one hand and pole
in the other I was set. My partner pulled out this awful smelling
box of chicken livers and stink bait. Well-ladies this was
almost as scary as the spiders in my bed. My partner placed
this huge clump of fatty red liver on my hook and I "casted".
That' s fishing talk! Green to fishing lingo, I decided to try my
hand at catching perch. Guess what? I caught 5 and those
experienced Pro fishing nuts caught absolutely NOTHING!
YES! Fems will overcome!! My new nickname became
"Perch" for the rest of the retreat thanks to Mari.
Back at the lodge there was a rumor that someone got
happy with a camera and started shooting photos of naked bodies
in the shower. This was almost more than I could bare, I didn't
shower the whole time I was at the retreat. My deepest apologies
to my camping buddies.
Ladies, many different thoughts cross my mind when I
began to write down these memories. This one detail really
brings harmony. During the concert, Mary Catherine Reynolds
and friends distinguished sound aroused the charms of many
past and present lovers. It seemed she took us on an enchanted
journey through emotion after emotion until we finally agreed
that this was a time of hope and peace. Everyone joined the
singalong afterwards, some of us had definitely had a few to
many intoxicating bevarages, but we combined voice in
addition some became aware of new talents- drumming,
snapping, popping, different sounds of pitch! Can't say it
was pretty but it was down right hillbilly style.
The weekend flew by and soon Sunday morning was
here. A final breakfast together and the cleanup of the lodge
and camp. We packed our belongings on the little red wagon
and up the hill we went, stopping long enough for final
photos together and to say goodbye to all our new friends .
We packed the car and left Roman Nose. I must admit that
I had my reservations about attending the retreat but I
discovered a deep enlightment that will serve as a step in my
growth towards knowing myself.
In conclusion, thank you to all the dedicated supporters
ofHerland Sisters. Also, thank you to my partner Cindy for
persuading me to attend. I will treasure the memories of my
first retreat for a lifetime.
Sincerely,
Rhonda
NOW
MEETING
The National Organization for Women's newly
reorganized Oklahoma City chapter will meet at 6:30
p.m. Monday, November 12, 2001, at the Hometown
Buffet, 3900 NW 63rd , Oklahoma City. Everyone,
women, men, transgendered, lesbian, gay, straight,
black or white, all genders and ethnicities, who cares
about the equality of women and the importance of
"women's issues" is welcome to attend.
Please give a little thought as you drive to the
meeting (or before!) as to what issues you would most
like to see the Chapter address, and where you would
like to put your talents and energies in the administration of the Chapter. Leadership positions to be filled
include Coordinator, Co-coordinator, Secretary, Treasurer, Data base maven, and Newsletter editor.
Issues discussed as possible priorities at the first
two planning meetings included reproductive rights,
legislative issues, fighting racism, fighting homophobia, education, global feminism, and fighting the radical
right. There are of course many others -- So please
come join us for good fellowship, supper, and an
ongoing fight for justice. The Homeland Buffet is
handicapped accessible.
tJ
Her/and Voice November, 2001 Page 3
SAINT SYBIL·
Dear Sybil,
I saw the worst, nastiest t-shirt today, and I was with my
12 year old niece at the time. We were at the county jail
waiting to bail out her mother, who had been arrested in a civil
disobedience action.
A young man who was there to pay off a traffic fine came
in, looking pretty disreputable even without the ugly tee. He
had long dish-water blond hair, and was just generally
unkempt and not quite squeaky-clean looking. And then the
shirt! The shirt had a crude drawing of an impossibly buxom
woman, just barely contained by her own tee, perched on a
loose stack ofover-sized truck tires; and the message was: "If
it's got tits or tires, it's gonna be trouble."
Now my question, Syb - what should my comment to my
niece have been, bearing in mind that I don't want her to be
a snob, socially or even intellectually, and I do strive as much
as possible (especially when I'm trying to be a role model) to
be as gentle and nonjudgmental as possible. 1also don't want
her to think that I hate all men. And was there possibly a really
kick-ass comment to the room at large that would have
chastised the young man without getting him arrested again
for hurting me real bad?
Forever in turmoil,
Mags
Dear Mags,
I'm glad to know you are bringing your niece up right.
Some off-the-cuff suggestions for the next time you run into
a truly offensive t-shirt, which unfortunately, living as you do
in early 21st century Oklahoma, won't be long in the offmg.
§ If you didn't feel so sorry for him, you' djust want to smack
him, wouldn't you?
§ Can you imagine any woman hating herself enough to go
out with him?
§ His mother must be dead, or she would have ripped that
shirt right off his scrawny body.
§ Isn't it sad to think how much time that young man is gong
to spend in jail?
§ Life is tough, but it's much tougher if you're as dumb and
hateful as he is.
§ I have a feeling everything is going to be trouble for that
poor young man, don't you?"
And if you feel you have to say something to the room at
large, you might try, "Gee, most real men I know like
breasts" .....
And then, ofcourse, you could go up to him and offer him
your apologies for any trouble you've given him, and when he
looks confused, shyly murmur "tits, you know" ...
Page 2 Her/and Voice November, 2001
But really, Mags, the less energy you give this type of
display, the better. As long as you' re working to change the
kind of ignorance behind it, you should feel free to just roll
your eyes and let it go.
Fondly,
Sybil
D
BOOK CLUB
Herland will be welcoming a book elub beginning in
January. The club will meet once a month, choose a book for
the members to read, and meet the next month to talk about
how they liked (or didn't like!) the book, and dis~uss the
interesting points. The organizing meeting is set for the first
Sunday in January, which is January 6, at 4:30. At that
meeting, the new members will gather and choose the books
to read for the first few months. Everyone is encouraged to
bring one book idea.
You might learn about a great book from friends, from a ·
newspaper or magazine review, from the Internet, or other
sources. Bring a review of the book to share, if you can, to
help everyone decide. The only stipulation to begin with
might be to focus on women-positive and/or women-centered
books. That can be changed if book club members want to do
something different.
Book club members will be encouraged to take a few
notes as they read and bring one or two questions each to the
next meeting, to encourage a lively discussion. There are also
Internet sites for book clubs which have discussion questions
and topics for many books. If you are interested in being a
member, please call Louise at 286-140 I to let her know you
will becoming to the firstmeeting on January 6. Or, just show
up on that day!
O
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Jacqueline Gatewood
DTH
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Pat Reaves
Judy Walden
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