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Feature
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The Coffee Ceub
Lesbian Literature, Music, Movies & More 25

Do You Believe in Ghosts? 28

What A Woruo, What A Worco
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MoaJTHEr Features
8 News• 12 What's Goin' On
15 Dear Agnes *27 Poetry
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The Nmn
From Around the Region, the Country & the World

Hate Crime Provision

Included In Crime Bill
WASHINGTON,D.C.—The recently

passed federal crime bill in a final vote
in the Senate, includes two important
measures supported by the National
Gay & Lesbian Task Force (NGLTF)
— the Hate Crimes Sentencing
Enhancement Act and the Violence

Against Women Act.
The Hate Crime Sentencing
Enhancement Act will advance the

federal response to crimes in which the

perpetrator intentionally selects a victim
because ofhis or her"actual orperceived

race, color, religion, national origin,

ethnicity,gender or sexual orientation."

Houston. According to police,the teens
hunted down the victim because they
had heard that gay men often had a lot
of money and were "easy targets."
"Many vicious crimes against gay,
lesbian and bisexual people are not
federal crimes, and will not be directly
impacted by this legislation,"Domi said.
"However, it is imperative that the
highest level of government send a
message that hate crimes will not go
unpunished in this society."

Along with the Hate Crime Sentencing
Enhancement Act,the Violence Against
Women Act wasfolded into the massive
crime bill. That act doubles the federal

penalty for repeat sex offenders and
requires that federal laws treat

Specifically,the act increases penalties

acquaintance rape and stranger rape the

for federal crimes that are hatemotivated and enhances federal
sentences not less than three offense

same.The act also mandates restitution

levels.

"This act sends a dramatic signal to
those who seek to victimize gay people,
and others," said Tanya Domi,NGLTF

Legislative Director. "The federal
government declares that hate crimes
will be taken seriously by the federal
courts and will be punished."

Passage of the measure is especially
timely, with several anti-gay incidents

garnering media attention nationwide.
Gay and lesbian activists in Salt Lake
City staged a rally earlier this month
after a district court judge reduced the
sentence in a case involving the killing
ofa gay man. While the case proved the
victim was targeted because he was
gay,the perpetrator wascharged merely
with manslaughter and sentenced to
only six years. In a separate incident,
four teens were charged in August with
the vicious murder of a gay man in

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for the victims of sex crimes. The

measure includes money for a wide
variety of police training, counseling
services, data collection systems, and
educational programs.

Lesbian Mother's

National Defense
Fund Expands
SEATTLE, WA — The Lesbian

Mother's National Defense fu^^j
(LMNDF) celebrates its 20th
anniversary this year with an expansion
ofits membership and program services

and a name change to become the'
Lavender Families Resource Network
In 1974 the twelve "founding mothers
of LMNDF began fundraising for two
lesbian mothers in Eatonville

Washington. One mother lost custody
and her children were placed in foster

care. Only after four years ofexpensive

litigation and intense personal struggle
did she regain custody of her children
— custody she lost solely because she
was a lesbian.

Twenty years ago, it scarcely occurred

currently searching for additional
Directors for the board including
individuals with specific expertise in
legal issues and finances.
Annual membership in the Lavender

to lesbian and gay parents to even try to

Families Resource Network is $10 and

maintain or fight for custody of their
children.Since that time,more and more
lesbians and gay men have refused to

includes a subscription to their quarterly
newsletter. Mom's Apple Pie.For more
information or to join the Network,

accept the social prejudice which
assumes that we are not fit parents, and

Washington 98111 or call (206) 325-

have taken their cases to court.Although
the chances of winning such a legal

write to: P.O. Box 21567, Seattle,
2643.

battle are relatively good in a few areas,
gay and lesbian parents in most parts of

Celebrities Lend

the United States still face the serious

Their Names to

threat of losing their children if they
end up in court.
LMNDF's ability to serve as a
clearinghouse of information and a
network of support has enhanced
opportunities for every lesbian to

exercise her right to parent. Although
our custody and visitation information
has focused on lesbian families, it has
also helped gay fathers, lesbian

grandmothers, bisexual mothers and
transsexual parents when these people
are discriminated against based on their

Fight the Right
WASHINGTON, D.C. — Some 110

notable figures and groups from the
political, entertainment, religions and
other fields have lent their names and

support in the coalition effort to fight
the Radical Right's campaign against
lesbians, gays and bisexuals.
The National Gay & LesbianTaskForce

(NGLTF)

Equality

Statement

Endorsement Project has asked major
political organizations, civil rights

parents, too, lose their children when
they are labeled as gay, lesbian, or

groups, unions, elected officials,
government bodies and others to sign
onto a statement supporting

bisexual. None of these groups has
developed a resource designed to

fundamental equal rights for gay,
lesbian, bisexual and transgender

sexual orientation. Heterosexual

support their struggles against

people. The statement condemns the

discrimination in parenting as LMNDF
has done for lesbians. Changing the
name and explicitly including this whole

Radical right-sponsored anti-gay ballot

variety offamilies is a natural extension
of their traditional services.

initiatives.

"We support equality for all
Americans,"reads the statement."Every

From its original purpose of assisting

American's right to be free from
discrimination in jobs, housing and

lesbian mothers in custody litigation,
LMNDF branched out years ago to

defended and protected. No person's

provide information about donor
insemination, adoption and parenting

public accommodations must be

fundamental civil rights should be
denied by a ballot initiative or any other

rights.

means."

Lavender Families Resource Network

The Endorsement Project has garnered
the support of Hollywood and
entertainment celebrities including

is looking for attorneys to participate in
their attorney referral program and is

October 1994 • Dimensions• Page 9

Whoopi Goldberg and Armistead
Maupin. Political leaders in the U.S.
Congress, including Senators Paul
Simon,
John
Chafee
and

governmental organizations have lent
their support.

NGLTF is distributing the list of
endorsers to state and local groups that

Representatives Patricia Schroeder,

will use it to build coalitions forfighting
anti-gay ballot initiatives. This year
started with ten states targeted for antigay measures.The Radical Right failed
to place measures on the November

Barney Frank and Gerry Studds have

signed on, as have the AFL-CIO,
AFSCME, United Auto Workers and

other unions. The American Library
Association, National Lawyers Guild,
PEN(international writer's association)
and numerous other professional
associations have joined the effort. In

ballot in all but two states — Idaho and

Oregon.

The Project is still seeking endorsers. If
you, your organization or business
would like to sign on, contact NGLTF
Fight the Right Project volunteer.Buzz

addition, the Southern Christian

Leadership Conference, a host of other
religious affiliations, dozens of
advocacy groups, businesses and

Harris at (617) 492-6393
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What's Gom' On
A Monthly Listing Of Special Events All Around The Area

Fifth Annual Lone Star Women's

phone number to: TGRA Rodeo
Director,PO Box 116863, Carrollton,

Music Festival will take place October

TX 75011-6863, ATTN: Tickets.

WOMEN EVERYWHERE - The

7, 8 & 9 on the beautiful Guadalupe
River north of New Braunfels. More

HOUSTON - Heartsong, Houston

than 20 musical acts will perform.There
will also be comedy, workshops,

Area Women's Chorus will present

campfire song circles, open mike and

and Shared Hopes"in Hamman Hall

its fourth solo concert,"New Directions

lots of women! Tickets are $85 in

on the Rice University campus at

advance and $105 at the gate and are

7:30pm on Saturday, October 15th.

available at most women's bookstores.

Tickets are $8 in advance and $10 at the

Maps and other info are also available

door and are available at Inklings,

at ticket outlets. For more info, call
(512)929-0002.

Lucia's Garden,Crossroads Market
and from individual chorus members.

TEXAS-The Eleventh Annual Texas

Gay Rodeo Association (TGRA)
Rodeo will happen November 11-13 in
Austin, TX at the Travis County

Exposition Center. In addition to the
rodeo on Saturday and Sunday, there
will also be a dance both nights.
Individual tickets are $12.50 for each

day's rodeo and $5 for each night's

For more info,call Denise at(713)9887150.

SAN ANTONIO - The Esperanza
Peace and Justice Center(EPJC)needs
donations to help meet their next semi

annual building payment of $25,000.

EPJC is a multiracial, multicultural,
grassroots organization helping to
empower women, lesbians & gays,

dance. The package ticket price for all

people

events is available for $25 (a $10

environmentalists

savings)if you purchase your tickets by

progressives. To help out, send

November 1st. Hotel accommodations
are available at the Doubletree Hotel
(1-800-222-TREE or 512-454-3737)

and at the Red Lion Hotel(1-800-5478010 or 512-323-5466). Ask for the
TGRA rate when making reservations.
For information about vendor spaces,
volunteering or about the rodeo itself,
call 214-720-6051 or 512-835-5314.

To order your tickets,send your check,
along with your name, address and

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of

color,
and

youth,
other

donations to: The Esperanza Building
Fund,922 San Pedro,San Antonio,TX
78212.

HOUSTON - The law firm of Moore
& Hunt is sponsoring an all-day seminar
called Womyn Choosing Mothyrhood
on Saturday,October I st.Professionals
and lay persons specializing in the
psychological, medical, financial and
legal aspects ofdonor insemination will

present detailed information and answer

LUBBOCK - South Plains AIDS

questions.For more info,call Natalie at

AMARILLO - Washington Square,

Resource Center(SPARC)is holding
its annual fundraiser. Art for
Humanity V:An Exhibition ofHope,
on Friday,October 14th from 8pm-1am

a new coffeehouse and bookstore, the

at the Baker Building(1211 13th St.).

(713)522-4282 ext. 14.

only one of its kind in Amarillo, will
open sometime in October at 1607 S.
Washington. Washington Square is
gay owned and operated and will offer

All proceeds will go to benefit SPARC
and their clients.The event is a silent art

auction and exhibition and will include
a cash bar and hors d'oeuvers. A

info, operating hours and calendar of

donation of$15 is requested. For more
information,call SPARC at(806)796-

events, call (806) 373-5885.

7068.

NEW MEXICO - The Museum of
Fine Arts in Santa Fe is planning an
exhibit about lesbian presence and

of Houston is selling videos of the

books,coffee,food and music.For more

history in New Mexico.The curators of
the exhibit are asking to borrow one

object of significance to you (that you
didn't produce yourself). The resulting
collection of borrowed objects will be
shown at the Museum of Fine Arts in
Santa Fe.For information,call or write
Catherine Lord and Millie Wilson,c/

HOUSTON - The Pride Committee

1994 Pride Parade for $27.43 each

(price includes sales tax and shipping).
To order, send your name, address and
telephone number along with a check
to: Pride Committee of Houston,PC
Box 6607 i, Houston,TX 77266-6071.
ALBUQUERQUE- Full CircleBooks

will hold a Read-a-Thon by, for and

oSiteSantaFe,P.O. Box 10190,Santa

about lesbians to honor National

Fe,NM 87504.Phone(505)982-2935,

Coming Out Day. The event is titled
"Lesbian Tongues"and will be held at

FAX (505) 989-1188. E-mail:
cblord@uci.edu. All letters answered,
all calls returned. Requests for

anonymity will be honored.
HOUSTON

-

the bookstore from noon-midnight on
Tuesday, October 11th. For more info,
call (505) 266-0022.

Metropolitan

Community Church of the
Resurrection(MCCR)is looking for a

few good books. The MCCR Library
and Gay/Lesbian Archives is looking
for any books borrowed from their

library that have not been returned.

They also need donations of used books
and other artifacts for the Archives and
volunteersfor the Library Committee.
For more info, call (713)861-9149.

if you have information for
What's Goin' On,
please send it to us!
Deadline for submissions
is the 20th of each month

before publication.

October 1994• Dimensions• Page 13

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Dear Aojkes
Answers to your questions about love,
RELATIONSHIIPS & PERSONAL PROBLEMS

Dear Agnes,

Start by making a budget. It doesn't

I have been reading your column for
years. I never imagined that I would
someday write you with a problem.
Anyway, here goes...
My lover and I have been together for
two years and we get along beautifully.
We share many of the same interests
and we enjoy spending time together.
We have an excellent sex life. The only
problem we have is money.

have to be anything complicated,just
start writing down what you spend on
bills, and then figure up how much cash
you have(on average)after the bills are
paid.
Most people will not write down their
expenses because they really don't want
to know where their money is going(or,
they think it's just plain hopeless). This
has got to be your first step.
Once you've written down your

We are not out ofcontrol with our credit

expenses for a couple of months, you'll
be able to see your "spending trend."
From here you will be able to see the

or anything like that, we Just can't seem
to manage our cash. We both get paid at
the same time. We pay the bills and
then, by the start of the next week,
we're completely broke.
That's when we start fighting. She'll
accuse me ofspending too much,then I

For instance, are you going to the
grocery store and spending lots ofmoney
and then going out to eat while your

get mad and accuse her of over
spending. It gets progressively worse

food rots in the fridge? Are you paying
for two movie channels and then renting

places you can cut back.

from there. We spend a whole week

videos so you've seen all the movies

fighting until payday comes around

before they make it to cable? Can you

again. Then we start all over with this

cut back on clothing purchases? These
are all places to look for overspending.

little cycle of ours.

around payday?

Based on your individual circumstances,
you will be able to find more areas
where you can cut back.
After you have figured out where you
can cut back, you might consider

I'm sick and tired of this, but I don't

know what to do about it. Do you have

any suggestions other than getting two
apartments and only seeing each other

Money is the Root of All Evil

splitting your spending money in half.

Houston, TX

Stash half back for the week before

Dear Money,

Remember, it will take both of you,
working together,to solve this problem.

payday.

Another apartment won't help anything.
You'll only double your expenses and
be twice as broke, so scratch that idea.

October 1994• Dimensions• Page 15

Dear Agnes,
My lover and I arc having a huge fight.
It sounds really silly, but it is very
serious to me.

is being unreasonable. What do you
say?
Neuter or Not
East Texas

I have a six-year-old male eat. I had this
cat for three years before I even met my
current lover.

We 1ive in the country and the eat comes
and goes as he pleases. The problem is
that he isn't "fixed." My lover insists
that I should have him neutered, but I
don't think so.

He's getting older and I think it would
be cruel to have him fixed at this late
date. Besides, there are millions of
"unfixed" eats around here, all our

Dear Neuter,
In most cases, it really is a good idea to
have a any cat fixed. Not only does it
help control unwanted kittens, it can
also help prevent many other health
problems.A neutered male is also much
less likely to wander off or to fight with
other males. However,since your cat is
six years old, I would suggest that you
talk to your vet before making a decision.

neighbors keep cats in their barns to
keep the rat and mice population down.
I don't see what difference fixing this
one eat is going to make. My lover says
I'm just being stubborn, but I think she

Women's Music Festival
tHeji

fifh annual women's retreat

October 7, 8, and 9, 1994
thr#e days and nights of entertainment and camping on the
beautiful Whitewater Guadaiupe River in the Texas hiii country
more than 20 musical acts from our region,the nation, and

around the world - rock,folk. Jazz, country, pop, and comedy
always lots of surprises

workshops, campfire song circles, open mikes,
and the pleasure of the company of women
tickets $75-$65 in advance,$105 at the gate
tickets and information at many women's bookstores in Texas

for information caii (512)929-0002, or write PO Box 2650, Austin, TX 78768

Page 16• Dimensions •October 1994

PROTECTING
YOURSELF
...and your car. and your home,
and your belongings, and...

pound ofcure."

alarm systems are available in a wide
range of prices to suit most budgets.

"The best offense is a good defense."
"There's no use closing the barn door

Make sure that the stickers the alarm
company places on doors and windows

after the horse is gone."

don't specify what type alarm is

"An ounce of prevention is worth a

Cliches? Yes, but there is truth to back
them up. Steps you take now to protect

yourself, your home and your
belongings can pay off in a time of
crisis. There's more to personal

installed. Experienced thieves know

how to get around many alarm systems,
and advertising what type you have
installed may increase your chances of

give you some ideas on how to guard

being robbed rather than decreasing
them. If you simply can't afford an
actual alarm system, you can always
place those"This property protected by

against harm to yourself or theft of your

a monitored alarm system" stickers on

protection than an alarm system and a
can of mace — the following should

property.

your doors and windows anyway.
Studies have shown that homes with

YOUR HOME

these stickers in place are burgled 40%

Home security systemscome in a variety

less often than those without them.

offorms ranging from the do-it-yourself
kind from the local hardware store to
elaborate systems that are monitored on
a 24 hour basis. Monitored systems are
the most reliable. Talk to your local

Although home security systems
abound these days, there are some
simpler steps you can take to protect
your home and belongings.
Install a "peep hole" in your front door
and use it. Remember that you don't
have to open the door. Ask to see

alarm company about what is best for

your home and your lifestyle. Monitored

October 1994• Dimensions• Page 17

identification for anyone who says they
are with a utility, phone or cable
company — even if you called them to
come make repairs. If you don't know
the person at the door,or ifthey claim to

the police and makes it easier to identify
your property if it is stolen and retrieved
by police.Some ofthe items mostlikely
to be stolen include your TV set, CD

Make sure that windows and doors have

player and stereo, cameras, computers
and Jewelry.
The other thing than can help is to make
a complete inventory of your home
with original price, purchase date and

secure locks. A deadbolt is a must on all

serial numbers.Store one list in a"safe"

outside doors. Be sure that you use the
type that locks with a key on the inside

place in your home and a copy in a safe
deposit box. Not only will this help in

ifthe door has windows in it or is within

case of theft by establishing ownership

reach of nearby windows. Without this

and worth, it will also be invaluable in
case of fire, flood, tornado or other
natural disaster. One easy way to take

be a salesman, tell them (without

opening the door) to call and set up an
appointment.

feature, a thief could break out the
window, reach in and unlock the

deadbolt. Security experts recommend
deadbolt locks made in the U.S. or

Germany as superior to those made in
Taiwan, China or Japan.
Tall shrubs that cover windows can

inventory of your home is by
videotaping. Make a tape that shows all

your belongings and narrate it with
original purchase prices. Be sure to
open all your closets and cabinets to get
an accurate and complete picture of

provide a place for a burglar to hide
while he is breaking into your home.
Cut these back so that your windows
and doors are visible to neighbors and
police. Also be sure that your home has

copy at home and another in a safe

adequate outside lighting. Motion
detector lights are a good option to

about the $8,000 stereo system you just

your belongings. Once again, keep a
deposit box.
One last note — Don't go around

bragging to people you don't know

scare off potential thieves. And,last but

purchased or the 4 karat diamond your

not least, don't leave a ladder laying
around outside your home. This can be
just what a robber needs to boost him

loverboughtyou.And,don't tell anyone

(even a friend) that you have an alarm
system, but you rarely turn it on. This

into a second story or attic window.

kind ofinformation gets around and can

make you a perfect target.

YOUR BELONGINGS
Next to chaining them to the foundation

your car

of your house, the best way to protect

This may sound obvious,but you should

your valuables is to leave your mark on
them.Police departments in most cities
will either mark your property for you
or loan you an engraving tool free of
charge as part of Operation

always take your keys out ofthe ignition
when you leave the car. Statistics show
that nearly half of all cars stolen in the
U.S. had keys in the ignition. So,even
though it is -30° outside, don't leave

Identification. The identification

your car running with the keys in it

number you use (usually your driver's
license number) is placed on file with

while you run into a convenience store
for a cup ofcoffee. After all, would you

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Some other tips to prevent car theft

from injury, rape or even death, is the
most important part of any discussion

include:

about crime. You can make a good start

• don't hide a spare key under the seat,

rather have a warm car or no car at all?

magnetic boxes.Thieves know all these

by following the tips listed below:
• When walking anywhere, choose a
well-lighted route where there will be

places.

other people around. If possible, walk

• Park in well-lighted areas at night,
preferably close to a street comer.

• Walk with purpose (like you know

above the visor or in one of those

with a friend or a dog.

• Don't leave the title in the car, it

where you're going) and pay attention

belongs in a safe deposit box.

to your surroundings.

• Car alarms seldom deter thieves,
instead, invest in a $25 cutoff switch.

• Walk in the middle of the sidewalk

This device is easy to install and won't

curb.

let the car start unless the switch is

• Carry your purse close to your body

instead ofclose to buildings or near the

turned on. A thief won't take the time to

with the clasp facing you.

look for the switch and will move on to

• Carry your keys and money in your

greener pastures.

pocket, not in your purse.
• Don't carry large sums of money and

YOURSELF

never flash a roll of bills (even if you
know they are all ones.

Homes can be repaired,belongings and
carscan be replaced.Protecting yourself

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WHAT IS "NORMAL'ANYWAY?
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There I was,in my own home,minding

moment I would have said, "I'm not

my own business,when the phone rang.
On the other end of the line was one of

interested in your service, but thank
you for calling," and hung up. But

Those people—one ofthose telephone

Seinfeld was a rerun, and something

solicitors.

kept me on the line — perhaps the
intrigue of it all.

AAAUUUGHHH!

Let's pause for a moment. Make no
mistake,I believe that there is dignity in

"—but let me save us both some time.I

all honest work. I understand that

"Excuse me?"

sometimes people find themselves in
the unenviable position of having to do

"What does that mean — that you're

am single, but I'm a single lesbian."

"I said I'm a lesbian.I'm a gay woman"

things which are extremely distasteful,

happy all the time?

sometimes even morally reprehensible,

I'm serious; this is truly how he
responded. Seems to me that the

for the sake of economics. Don't take

my word forit—ask Lisa Marie Presley.
But this was no ordinary, run-of-themill, hey-lady-aluminum-siding-willchange-your-life kind of telephone
solicitor. This particular solicitor was a
representative of a high-tech
matchmaking service.I can't say which
one exactly — that might be

Personnel Department at Date

Expectorations needs to pay more
attention to the social-awareness level

of the people they hire to perform the
function of professional dance-cardfiller-uppers. No, that means 1 form

my romantic relationships with people
of the same sex. So unless your

misconstrued as a commercial

company has a division that links

endorsement. Let's just call the
organization Date Expectorations.

members of the gay and lesbian

The gentleman introduced himself and

community, I would have no need for
your service."

said that he had a special invitation for

"Wait a minute. You mean you don't

me. Seems that the Yentes over at DE

date?"

were throwing a big soiree that very
weekend which would give me the
opportunity to...well, it would give me
the opportunity to do whatever it is
people do at gatherings of this nature.
"You are single, aren't you Ms.Ford?"
"Well, yes, as a matter of fact, I am—"
Generally, this would have been the

"Yes, I date," I recollected, thinking
back to a kinder, gentler period of my

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life. "But when 1 do, I date women.
That's what a lesbian does."

"Well, if you've never dated a man,
how do you know you're a...you're a..."
He couldn't bring himself to say the
word."Okay, that's your choice—"

I didn't bother addressing the nature vs.
nurture question. After all, Letterman

"man hater"; that, in fact, I had once

would be on in an hour or so. He

"Oh, that explains it. Your marriage
didn't work, so now you're taking the
easy way out."
That's when I hung up.

continued relentlessly.
"—but haven't you ever thought about
getting married? We're notjust adating
service you know. People get married

been married to a man.

for a lot of different reasons..."

Had it become my karmic assignment
to try to make this guy realize the

misconceptions he was operating under?
As much as the whole conversation

annoyed me, it nevertheless comforted
me to know that I was not interacting
with Quintessential Straight Man

anymore than he was conversing with
the Queen of the Lesbians.

I further tried to explain that yes,indeed,
someday I hoped to marry. And when
that happened, it would be because I
was in love with a woman I wanted to

monogamously spend the rest of my
life in partnership with. What an
outrageous concept! I told him about
the legislative breakthroughs in Hawaii,
where same-gender marriage was closer
to being legalized than ever before. He
was stunned, yet undaunted in his quest
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The Cofebb Cbiib
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This Month, Tasha Sumner Introduces;

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Fhe Sure Thing
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The first book we're going to look at
this month is Second Guess by Rose

club.

Bccchatn. Second Guess is the second

Sybil had lots of money, and lots of

in the Atnanda Valentine Mystery

enemies. The man at work who thought

Series.

she had stolen a Job that was rightfully
his; her homophobic brother who

Detectivelnspcctor Amanda Valentine
of the Wellington,NcwZcaiand Police
Department has just returned from a
year's leave of ab.sencc in New York.
She is looking forward to the slower
pace of life in New Zealand. Instead,
she returns Just in time for a highly
public, very .scandalous murder case.
Sybil Knight was the director of the
Wellington City Art Gallery and
daughter of the former Ambassador to
the U.S. Her body is found in the

believed she had tnorc than her share of

a wealthy Aunt's estate; her lover, Kim,
who suspected that Sybil was having an
affair; and Casey, the owner of the sex
club where she was found dead.

Amanda must deal with the press, as
well as Sybil's influential family while
trying to find the murderer,
Author Rose Beecham also writes under

the name Jennifer Fulton. Her previous
books include Passion Bay, Saving

October 1994• Dimensions• Page 25

Grace and True Love. She is an

lesbians, but that doesn't make it an

engaging writer and has created some

endearing quality. Any woman who

unusual (but entirely believable)

will leave and not speak to you for three
months when you complain about her

characters. Detective Amanda
Valentine can be compared very
favorable to that other scion of lesbian
detectivedom — Kate Delafield (the
creation of Katherine V. Forrest).

Second Guess is a good read and is
definitely recommended.

work isn't worth a second chance.

Maybe The Sure Thing is just too
close to real life for comfort. If I want

to hear stories of women who get

together and break-up,get together and
break-up again and again, I'll go to the
bar.

Next, we'll look at The Sure Thing by
Melissa Hartman.

Dr. Christine Kennedy is a researcher
studying earthquake prediction. When
she accurately forecasts a Southern
California earthquake,the press is very

Both Second Guess and The Sure

Thing are available at your local
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reporter for an LA TV station is sent to

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interested.

interview Chris. To thank her for the

interview, Doiy offers to take Chris to
lunch — a lunch that turns into much
more.

Chris'lover ofseven years was killed in
a car accident three years before and
Chris is still having ahard time with her
death. Dory grew up in the barrios of

for the lesbian, gay and

East LA and is driven to succeed in her

feminist communities.

Books, music and more

chosen profession.

When Dory's work takes her into
dangerous situation, Chris is terrified.

The thought of Dory putting herself in

harm's way — on purpose — is totally
foreign to her and very nerve-wracking.
When Dory has to go out and report on

Inklings

the riots in L.A. following the Rodney
King verdict, Chris is beside herself
with fear.

Will their relationship last? Who cares.
Although Chris is a sympathetic
character at the start, her whining about
Dory's work gets old. Dory's love 'em
and leave 'em,"my career comes first"
attitude may be common among
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Do You
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Halloween is here. Ancient cultures
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a. assume you moved it and forgot.
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she calls the next day. You:

a. are happy she called.

c. figure the poltergeist is acting up

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5. You dream that your lover dies in

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b. figure the sun was hitting the lens

a. are upset when you wake up, but
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b. tell her about it and ask her to be

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c. show everyone your picture of a
ghost.

c. take her car keys and drive her

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everywhere for the next two weeks.

6. When you wake up with a feeling
that something bad is going to happen
to you today, you:
a. laugh it off.
b. try to shake it off and go to work.
c. call your boss and go back to bed.

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•Ifyou are headed out oftown,even for
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•Don't use isolated ATM's,go instead
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Pi op6:t>' of the Center

HOROSiCOPE
What's in the stars for you this month?

ARIES

CAACER

Don't spend money just to make an
impression during the first part of
October. You'll only hurt your wallet.
Try to keep your composure when a

You may feel confined by obligations
to family or friends during the first part

companion gets bitchy around the 15th.
A difference of opinion is nothing to

fight about. Rely on your gut feelings
instead of a friend's advice when it

comes to a money matter around the

24th. Take your time in matters oflove
and money toward month's end. Your
instincts aren't very reliable, so you'll

of October. Your social life is on an

upswing and a vacation could be in the
works after the 17th. Don't let your
concentration stray on the job or you

won't enjoy your time off. A break up
of a close relationship could leave you
feeling disillusioned but you bounce

back quickly toward month's end.

need to watch your step.

EEO

TAURUS

Money and prestige could be yours
during the first part of October—but if
you aren't careful, it could slip through

You may be feeling isolated during the
first part of October. Getting together
with friends or family you haven't seen
for a while will help. You may be
feeling moody around the 16th. Keep to

your fingers. A personal relationship
could be strained to the pointofbreaking
around the 15th. Try to work things out
but don't hesitate to leave if it reaches
that point. Concentrate on work toward

yourselfas much as possible and try not

month's end so that you'll be free to

to take it out on others. An invitation

enjoy social activities on Halloween.

you receive toward month's end

shouldn't be ignored. You never know
what wonderful people you might meet
— this may even be the beginning of a
new romance!

GEJimAI
Balancing personal and professional
commitments could put strain on a close
relationship during the first part of

VIRGO
What you want and what you can
accomplish may be at odds during the
first part of October. Don't be in such a
hurry! Everything will happen if you'll
just give it time. Family problems need
your attention after the 16th. Do what

you can to help out, but don't be taken

October. All your hard work starts to

advantage of. Finances have been on
your mind all month, but an increase in

pay off after the 16th with a raise or

income could help you out after the

promotion. Major changes in a

26th.

relationship could be in the cards
towards month's end.Sit down and talk

about where the relationship is headed
and how to work things out.

LIBRA
The restlessness that has plagued you
for awhile now will lift during the first
part of October. Focus on a love

October 1994• Dimensions•Page 31

relationship, but don't get overly
possessive with your lover. After the
15th, avoid the temptation to spend
money just to impress someone. You

AftUARIUS

will lose more than you will gain.
Reckless behavior(your's or another's)
could get you in trouble toward month's

on the job and at home. Avoid taking

end if you don't watch your step.

It's the little details that can trip you up
during the first part of October. Stay on
your toes and be alert to changes both
risks with money or love after the 17th,
"Lady Luck" isn't on your side right
now. A casual relationship could turn
serious toward month's end.Trust your

iSCORPlO

intuition to lead you in the right

A relationship takes a serious turn during
the first part of October. Job
responsibilities may prevent you from

direction.

spending as much time with a loved one
as you would like until the 17th. Don't
worry — she'll understand. Your

PIS»CEJ§»
You should be able to resolve a conflict

between relatives or coworkers during
the first part of October. After the 16th

intuition is working overtime toward

your heart wants to do what your head

month's end — follow a hunch and see

says you shouldn't — listen to your

where it leads. Luck is on your side if

head. You will have to try hard to keep

you take a chance on an investment.

a secret toward month's end. The

SAorrrARiui^

almost overwhelming, but could cause

temptation to confide in someone is
Social plans could be postponed by a

BIG trouble!

family fight during the first part of
October. It may be left up to you to get

things back in control. You could get in
real trouble if you don't keep close tabs
on your spending habits after the 12th.
Romance takes center stage toward
month's end and could turn into "true

love" by the 30th.

^cAtcttct

CAPRICORSr
A friendly get-together isjust what you
need to get you out ofthe dumps during
the first part of October. Try not to be
too trusting with someone you meet
around the 13th. Keep your guard up
and you'll save yourself time, money

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and frustration. Toward month's end

you should be in a great position to take
some time for yourself-recent problems
are behind you now and you can relax
and enjoy Halloween.

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Hollywxxj• 113 San Jacinto • 480-9627
Nexus*305W.5th *472-5288

organizations

Grace Fellowship in Christ Jesus * 2727 Oak Lawn •5282811
Lesbian/Gay Democrats of Texas * 521-6342 exL 229
Lesbian/Gay Porrtical Coalition • P.O. Box 224424 75222 * 8289882
Lesbian ResourcefCenter* 1315 Sttes* 8216999

Lesbian Visionaries • PO Box 191443 75219 * 521-5342 X 844
LIL(Lesbian Info Line • 521-5342 exL 298

Afftrmation (Methodist) ■ 7403 Shoal Creek * 451-2329

SPROUTS(coming out group)* 521-5342 exL 256

Austin Latino/a Lesbian/Gay Organization

TWIGS (the wymn in gay society)•521-5342 exL 269

PO Box 1350 78787*2806107

Austin Lesbian/Gay Political Caucus • P.O. Box 822 78767 * 462-9888

The I4€w Vision (newsjoumal)* ffi18342 exL 256
Metfoplex Republicans * P.O. Box 191033 75219 *9418114

Center for Battered Women * (Lesbian Group)

Oak Lawn Community Services 4300 MacArthur•5286108

3856181 or 928-9070(hodine)

GayA-esbian Student Association at UT Austin

Oak Lawn Symphonic Band * P.O. Box 190973 75219 * 9881751
PFLAG/Dallas * Helpline 6588640

4586971 •Box275TexasUnion 78712-7338

Imperial Sovereign Royal Court of DaBas

Lesbian/Gay Rights Lobby • PO Box 2579 78768•474-5475

P.O. Box 190464 75245•5218446

Lesbian Mothers - Karen • 339-8508

Seventh-Day Adventist Kinship *4181358

Live Wire Productions • PO Box 141202 78714

Womyn Together •3920 Cedar Springs *5284233

MetropoRtan ODmmunrly Church *1100 Springdale Rd.* 9296660
Oasis Minstry • 5555 N. Lamar Blvd.#L101 • 441-9191

P-FIag (Parentsfnends Lesbians^Gays)• 331-8445
S^)phfire!• Lesbian Social Group * 4580659
luting Address• 825 E.531/2 St.. Ste E103
Marling Address * 201 W.Stassney,Ste.# 321 78745-3156
Waterloo Counseling Center * 507 Powell 78703• 322-9654
Texas Human Rights Foundation • P.O. Box 49740 78765 • 479-8473

AIDS Legal Asststance 1-8088286417
The Treehouse (Lesbian Mothers Support Group)
607NuecesSt. 78701 *477-5822

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P-Flag (Parents/Friends Lesbians/Gays)•6788326

BANDERA,TX (area code 210)
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DErrrON,TX(area code 817)
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COURAGE, Lesbian Gay Student Org.
P.O. Box 5067 76203 * 362-3813
Harvest MCC * 5900 S.Stemmons 76205•1808497-HMCC

P-Rag (Parents/Friends LesbiansitSays) * 387-1491

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1^B Paso • 916 Yandell *642-1227

P-Rag (Parents/Friends Lesbians/Gays)

Desert Hearts Cowgirl Oub• Women's Guest Ranch
HC 3, Box 650 78003 * 796-7446

Spanish & English Language Meetings * 591-4664

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FT. WORTH (area code 817)
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businesses
Altemalive Visions * Dating Service •747-2033

Agape MCC•4616 SE Loop 820•535«)02
Affirmation (Methodist) * 4787837

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RESPECT •828 Hartlwood Rd • Hurst TX 76054

Tarrant County L/G Alliance •3327 Winthrop,Suite 243 76116•763-5544

HOUSTON,TX (area code 713)

National Gay/Lesbian Task Force
1517 U Slreel NW • Washington D.C. 20C09 • 202-332-6483

Parents & Friends ol Lesbians and Gays (P-Flag) • 1-80O-4-FAMILY

The Fund lor Human Dignity
666 Broadway 4th Floor • NY, NY 10012

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NEW ORLEANS, LA (area code 504)

Inklings Bookshop • 1846 Richmond •521-3369

club & accommodations

clubs

Chariene's • 940 Elysian Fields • 945-9328

Ranch •9218 Buffalo Spdwy.• 66&<}464
Ms.Bs•9208 Buffalo Spdwy.•666-3356

XTC•9212 Buffalo Spdwy.•666-3356

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OKLAHOMA CITY, OK (area code 405)
organizations

AIDS Foundation •3927 Essex Lane•623-6796
AIDSHOTUNE • c/o Switchboard»529-3211

Oasis the Community Center

Gay/Lesbian Students University of Houston •4800 Calhoun •529-3211

Herland Sister Resources. Inc.

Gay/Lesbian Switchboard-PO Box 66591 77266-529<3211

2312 NW 39th 73112 • 521-9696

Houston Gay & Lesbian Parents •980-7995
Houston Gay Political Caucus • P.O. Box 66664 77266•521-1000
Integity • P.O. Box 66008 77268^•432-<M14

Kingdom Community Church • 614 E. 19th •862-7533
Lambda ALANON• 1214 Joanne • 521-9772

2l35NW39th 73112- 525-AlDS

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P-Rag (Parents/Friends Lesbians/fSays) • 9444323

Lesbian/Gay Students-Univ. Houston Gear Lake•2700 Bay Area 77058

Concho Valey Gay/Lesbian AJSance

LIN Houston • Lesbian Teacher Network
PO Box 1835 • Bellaire. TX 77402•529^3211

P.O. Box 750 76902 • 653-2956

Metropolitan Community Church Of The Resurrection

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1919 Decatur'861-9149

Montrose Counseling Center• 900 Lovett #203 77006•529-0037
Montrose Pool League/Blliards• PJ 863-8482

clubs
Bonham Exchange • 411 Bonham • 224-9219

P-Rag (Parents/Friends Lesbians/Gays)• 867-9020
PWA Coalition - Houston • 1475 W.Gray #163•522-5428

Nexus San Antonio • 8021 Pinebrook • 341-2818

SORA (Sex or Relationship Addicts Anonymous)

Deaf Rainbow • 804-1904 TTY

support group for lesbians • 523-9398

Dignity/San Antonio • 202 N. St. Mary's • 349-3632
Integrity/San Antonio

Womynspace* P.O. Box 980601 77098-0601
Women's Softball League • 6431 Pineshade•868-6266

organizations

PO Box 150006 78212 • 6844920

P-Rag (Parents^nends LesbiansiGays) • 8224135

LUBBOCK,TX (area code 806)

River City Living Metropolitan Community Church
202 Holland 78212 -822-1121

businesses

Lambda Students Center -1140 W. Woodlawn Ave.

Distinct Travel • 793-8374

LISA (Lesbian Information SA) • 828-LISA (5472)

organizations
Lubtxxk Lesbian/Gay Alliance & Wikj Wilde West Prod.
P.O. Box 64746 79464• 7914499

Community Outreach Center & Outreach AA (Tues. &Thurs.@8pm) *102
N.Ave.S' 762-1019

MCC Lubbock •5502 34th St.• 792-6562

P-Rag (Parents/Friends LesbiansiGays)• 799-8529
South Plains AIDS Resource Center(SPARC)
4204-8 50th St 79413 • 1-60O627-7079 • 7987068

NATIONAL ORGANIZATIONS
Affifmation: United Melodists for Lesbian/Gay Cdncems
PO Box 1021 • Evanstoo, IL 60204

SALGA - San Antonio Lesbian/Gay Assembly - 733-7300
SALSA - San Antonio Lambda Students Alliance
PO Box 12715 78212 • SALSA Line 733-1225
San Antonio AIDS Foundation
PO Box 120113 78212-9313

San Antonio Tavern Guild - 822-2823

SHERMAN, TX (area code 903)
organizations
Alliance lor Lite ■ PO Box 1695 76091 • 892-9049

HIV/AIDS Services • PO Box 1696 76091 • 463-7258

AIDS 800 • 1-800-221-7044

WACO,TX (area code 817)
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Conference For Catholic Lesbians

P-Rag (Parents/Fnends Lesbians/Gays) • 750-7211

AIDS Action Counal •729 Eighth St S.E. Suite 200
Washington, DC 20003 -(202) 547-3101

PO Box 436, Planelanum Station • New York. NY 10024
GLAAD/USA ■ 80 Varick Si. #3E • NY, NY 10013
Hale Crime bne • i-gOO-347-HATE

Gay 4 Lesbian Parents Coalition international (GLPCI)
PO Box 50360, Washington, DC 20091 •(202)683-8029
Lesbian Mothers' National Defense Fund

PO Box 21567 • Seattle, WA 98111 •(206) 325-2643
Lesbian Teachers Network (LTN)
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Hate Crime Provision

Included In Crime Bill
WASHINGTON,D.C.—The recently

passed federal crime bill in a final vote
in the Senate, includes two important
measures supported by the National
Gay & Lesbian Task Force (NGLTF)
— the Hate Crimes Sentencing
Enhancement Act and the Violence

Against Women Act.
The Hate Crime Sentencing
Enhancement Act will advance the

federal response to crimes in which the

perpetrator intentionally selects a victim
because ofhis or her"actual orperceived

race, color, religion, national origin,

ethnicity,gender or sexual orientation."

Houston. According to police,the teens
hunted down the victim because they
had heard that gay men often had a lot
of money and were "easy targets."
"Many vicious crimes against gay,
lesbian and bisexual people are not
federal crimes, and will not be directly
impacted by this legislation,"Domi said.
"However, it is imperative that the
highest level of government send a
message that hate crimes will not go
unpunished in this society."

Along with the Hate Crime Sentencing
Enhancement Act,the Violence Against
Women Act wasfolded into the massive
crime bill. That act doubles the federal

penalty for repeat sex offenders and
requires that federal laws treat

Specifically,the act increases penalties

acquaintance rape and stranger rape the

for federal crimes that are hatemotivated and enhances federal
sentences not less than three offense

same.The act also mandates restitution

levels.

"This act sends a dramatic signal to
those who seek to victimize gay people,
and others," said Tanya Domi,NGLTF

Legislative Director. "The federal
government declares that hate crimes
will be taken seriously by the federal
courts and will be punished."

Passage of the measure is especially
timely, with several anti-gay incidents

garnering media attention nationwide.
Gay and lesbian activists in Salt Lake
City staged a rally earlier this month
after a district court judge reduced the
sentence in a case involving the killing
ofa gay man. While the case proved the
victim was targeted because he was
gay,the perpetrator wascharged merely
with manslaughter and sentenced to
only six years. In a separate incident,
four teens were charged in August with
the vicious murder of a gay man in

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for the victims of sex crimes. The

measure includes money for a wide
variety of police training, counseling
services, data collection systems, and
educational programs.

Lesbian Mother's

National Defense
Fund Expands
SEATTLE, WA — The Lesbian

Mother's National Defense fu^^j
(LMNDF) celebrates its 20th
anniversary this year with an expansion
ofits membership and program services

and a name change to become the'
Lavender Families Resource Network
In 1974 the twelve "founding mothers
of LMNDF began fundraising for two
lesbian mothers in Eatonville

Washington. One mother lost custody
and her children were placed in foster

care. Only after four years ofexpensive

litigation and intense personal struggle
did she regain custody of her children
— custody she lost solely because she
was a lesbian.

Twenty years ago, it scarcely occurred

currently searching for additional
Directors for the board including
individuals with specific expertise in
legal issues and finances.
Annual membership in the Lavender

to lesbian and gay parents to even try to

Families Resource Network is $10 and

maintain or fight for custody of their
children.Since that time,more and more
lesbians and gay men have refused to

includes a subscription to their quarterly
newsletter. Mom's Apple Pie.For more
information or to join the Network,

accept the social prejudice which
assumes that we are not fit parents, and

Washington 98111 or call (206) 325-

have taken their cases to court.Although
the chances of winning such a legal

write to: P.O. Box 21567, Seattle,
2643.

battle are relatively good in a few areas,
gay and lesbian parents in most parts of

Celebrities Lend

the United States still face the serious

Their Names to

threat of losing their children if they
end up in court.
LMNDF's ability to serve as a
clearinghouse of information and a
network of support has enhanced
opportunities for every lesbian to

exercise her right to parent. Although
our custody and visitation information
has focused on lesbian families, it has
also helped gay fathers, lesbian

grandmothers, bisexual mothers and
transsexual parents when these people
are discriminated against based on their

Fight the Right
WASHINGTON, D.C. — Some 110

notable figures and groups from the
political, entertainment, religions and
other fields have lent their names and

support in the coalition effort to fight
the Radical Right's campaign against
lesbians, gays and bisexuals.
The National Gay & LesbianTaskForce

(NGLTF)

Equality

Statement

Endorsement Project has asked major
political organizations, civil rights

parents, too, lose their children when
they are labeled as gay, lesbian, or

groups, unions, elected officials,
government bodies and others to sign
onto a statement supporting

bisexual. None of these groups has
developed a resource designed to

fundamental equal rights for gay,
lesbian, bisexual and transgender

sexual orientation. Heterosexual

support their struggles against

people. The statement condemns the

discrimination in parenting as LMNDF
has done for lesbians. Changing the
name and explicitly including this whole

Radical right-sponsored anti-gay ballot

variety offamilies is a natural extension
of their traditional services.

initiatives.

"We support equality for all
Americans,"reads the statement."Every

From its original purpose of assisting

American's right to be free from
discrimination in jobs, housing and

lesbian mothers in custody litigation,
LMNDF branched out years ago to

defended and protected. No person's

provide information about donor
insemination, adoption and parenting

public accommodations must be

fundamental civil rights should be
denied by a ballot initiative or any other

rights.

means."

Lavender Families Resource Network

The Endorsement Project has garnered
the support of Hollywood and
entertainment celebrities including

is looking for attorneys to participate in
their attorney referral program and is

October 1994 • Dimensions• Page 9

Whoopi Goldberg and Armistead
Maupin. Political leaders in the U.S.
Congress, including Senators Paul
Simon,
John
Chafee
and

governmental organizations have lent
their support.

NGLTF is distributing the list of
endorsers to state and local groups that

Representatives Patricia Schroeder,

will use it to build coalitions forfighting
anti-gay ballot initiatives. This year
started with ten states targeted for antigay measures.The Radical Right failed
to place measures on the November

Barney Frank and Gerry Studds have

signed on, as have the AFL-CIO,
AFSCME, United Auto Workers and

other unions. The American Library
Association, National Lawyers Guild,
PEN(international writer's association)
and numerous other professional
associations have joined the effort. In

ballot in all but two states — Idaho and

Oregon.

The Project is still seeking endorsers. If
you, your organization or business
would like to sign on, contact NGLTF
Fight the Right Project volunteer.Buzz

addition, the Southern Christian

Leadership Conference, a host of other
religious affiliations, dozens of
advocacy groups, businesses and

Harris at (617) 492-6393
bxhngltf@aol.com.

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What's Gom' On
A Monthly Listing Of Special Events All Around The Area

Fifth Annual Lone Star Women's

phone number to: TGRA Rodeo
Director,PO Box 116863, Carrollton,

Music Festival will take place October

TX 75011-6863, ATTN: Tickets.

WOMEN EVERYWHERE - The

7, 8 & 9 on the beautiful Guadalupe
River north of New Braunfels. More

HOUSTON - Heartsong, Houston

than 20 musical acts will perform.There
will also be comedy, workshops,

Area Women's Chorus will present

campfire song circles, open mike and

and Shared Hopes"in Hamman Hall

its fourth solo concert,"New Directions

lots of women! Tickets are $85 in

on the Rice University campus at

advance and $105 at the gate and are

7:30pm on Saturday, October 15th.

available at most women's bookstores.

Tickets are $8 in advance and $10 at the

Maps and other info are also available

door and are available at Inklings,

at ticket outlets. For more info, call
(512)929-0002.

Lucia's Garden,Crossroads Market
and from individual chorus members.

TEXAS-The Eleventh Annual Texas

Gay Rodeo Association (TGRA)
Rodeo will happen November 11-13 in
Austin, TX at the Travis County

Exposition Center. In addition to the
rodeo on Saturday and Sunday, there
will also be a dance both nights.
Individual tickets are $12.50 for each

day's rodeo and $5 for each night's

For more info,call Denise at(713)9887150.

SAN ANTONIO - The Esperanza
Peace and Justice Center(EPJC)needs
donations to help meet their next semi

annual building payment of $25,000.

EPJC is a multiracial, multicultural,
grassroots organization helping to
empower women, lesbians & gays,

dance. The package ticket price for all

people

events is available for $25 (a $10

environmentalists

savings)if you purchase your tickets by

progressives. To help out, send

November 1st. Hotel accommodations
are available at the Doubletree Hotel
(1-800-222-TREE or 512-454-3737)

and at the Red Lion Hotel(1-800-5478010 or 512-323-5466). Ask for the
TGRA rate when making reservations.
For information about vendor spaces,
volunteering or about the rodeo itself,
call 214-720-6051 or 512-835-5314.

To order your tickets,send your check,
along with your name, address and

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of

color,
and

youth,
other

donations to: The Esperanza Building
Fund,922 San Pedro,San Antonio,TX
78212.

HOUSTON - The law firm of Moore
& Hunt is sponsoring an all-day seminar
called Womyn Choosing Mothyrhood
on Saturday,October I st.Professionals
and lay persons specializing in the
psychological, medical, financial and
legal aspects ofdonor insemination will

present detailed information and answer

LUBBOCK - South Plains AIDS

questions.For more info,call Natalie at

AMARILLO - Washington Square,

Resource Center(SPARC)is holding
its annual fundraiser. Art for
Humanity V:An Exhibition ofHope,
on Friday,October 14th from 8pm-1am

a new coffeehouse and bookstore, the

at the Baker Building(1211 13th St.).

(713)522-4282 ext. 14.

only one of its kind in Amarillo, will
open sometime in October at 1607 S.
Washington. Washington Square is
gay owned and operated and will offer

All proceeds will go to benefit SPARC
and their clients.The event is a silent art

auction and exhibition and will include
a cash bar and hors d'oeuvers. A

info, operating hours and calendar of

donation of$15 is requested. For more
information,call SPARC at(806)796-

events, call (806) 373-5885.

7068.

NEW MEXICO - The Museum of
Fine Arts in Santa Fe is planning an
exhibit about lesbian presence and

of Houston is selling videos of the

books,coffee,food and music.For more

history in New Mexico.The curators of
the exhibit are asking to borrow one

object of significance to you (that you
didn't produce yourself). The resulting
collection of borrowed objects will be
shown at the Museum of Fine Arts in
Santa Fe.For information,call or write
Catherine Lord and Millie Wilson,c/

HOUSTON - The Pride Committee

1994 Pride Parade for $27.43 each

(price includes sales tax and shipping).
To order, send your name, address and
telephone number along with a check
to: Pride Committee of Houston,PC
Box 6607 i, Houston,TX 77266-6071.
ALBUQUERQUE- Full CircleBooks

will hold a Read-a-Thon by, for and

oSiteSantaFe,P.O. Box 10190,Santa

about lesbians to honor National

Fe,NM 87504.Phone(505)982-2935,

Coming Out Day. The event is titled
"Lesbian Tongues"and will be held at

FAX (505) 989-1188. E-mail:
cblord@uci.edu. All letters answered,
all calls returned. Requests for

anonymity will be honored.
HOUSTON

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the bookstore from noon-midnight on
Tuesday, October 11th. For more info,
call (505) 266-0022.

Metropolitan

Community Church of the
Resurrection(MCCR)is looking for a

few good books. The MCCR Library
and Gay/Lesbian Archives is looking
for any books borrowed from their

library that have not been returned.

They also need donations of used books
and other artifacts for the Archives and
volunteersfor the Library Committee.
For more info, call (713)861-9149.

if you have information for
What's Goin' On,
please send it to us!
Deadline for submissions
is the 20th of each month

before publication.

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Dear Aojkes
Answers to your questions about love,
RELATIONSHIIPS & PERSONAL PROBLEMS

Dear Agnes,

Start by making a budget. It doesn't

I have been reading your column for
years. I never imagined that I would
someday write you with a problem.
Anyway, here goes...
My lover and I have been together for
two years and we get along beautifully.
We share many of the same interests
and we enjoy spending time together.
We have an excellent sex life. The only
problem we have is money.

have to be anything complicated,just
start writing down what you spend on
bills, and then figure up how much cash
you have(on average)after the bills are
paid.
Most people will not write down their
expenses because they really don't want
to know where their money is going(or,
they think it's just plain hopeless). This
has got to be your first step.
Once you've written down your

We are not out ofcontrol with our credit

expenses for a couple of months, you'll
be able to see your "spending trend."
From here you will be able to see the

or anything like that, we Just can't seem
to manage our cash. We both get paid at
the same time. We pay the bills and
then, by the start of the next week,
we're completely broke.
That's when we start fighting. She'll
accuse me ofspending too much,then I

For instance, are you going to the
grocery store and spending lots ofmoney
and then going out to eat while your

get mad and accuse her of over
spending. It gets progressively worse

food rots in the fridge? Are you paying
for two movie channels and then renting

places you can cut back.

from there. We spend a whole week

videos so you've seen all the movies

fighting until payday comes around

before they make it to cable? Can you

again. Then we start all over with this

cut back on clothing purchases? These
are all places to look for overspending.

little cycle of ours.

around payday?

Based on your individual circumstances,
you will be able to find more areas
where you can cut back.
After you have figured out where you
can cut back, you might consider

I'm sick and tired of this, but I don't

know what to do about it. Do you have

any suggestions other than getting two
apartments and only seeing each other

Money is the Root of All Evil

splitting your spending money in half.

Houston, TX

Stash half back for the week before

Dear Money,

Remember, it will take both of you,
working together,to solve this problem.

payday.

Another apartment won't help anything.
You'll only double your expenses and
be twice as broke, so scratch that idea.

October 1994• Dimensions• Page 15

Dear Agnes,
My lover and I arc having a huge fight.
It sounds really silly, but it is very
serious to me.

is being unreasonable. What do you
say?
Neuter or Not
East Texas

I have a six-year-old male eat. I had this
cat for three years before I even met my
current lover.

We 1ive in the country and the eat comes
and goes as he pleases. The problem is
that he isn't "fixed." My lover insists
that I should have him neutered, but I
don't think so.

He's getting older and I think it would
be cruel to have him fixed at this late
date. Besides, there are millions of
"unfixed" eats around here, all our

Dear Neuter,
In most cases, it really is a good idea to
have a any cat fixed. Not only does it
help control unwanted kittens, it can
also help prevent many other health
problems.A neutered male is also much
less likely to wander off or to fight with
other males. However,since your cat is
six years old, I would suggest that you
talk to your vet before making a decision.

neighbors keep cats in their barns to
keep the rat and mice population down.
I don't see what difference fixing this
one eat is going to make. My lover says
I'm just being stubborn, but I think she

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PROTECTING
YOURSELF
...and your car. and your home,
and your belongings, and...

pound ofcure."

alarm systems are available in a wide
range of prices to suit most budgets.

"The best offense is a good defense."
"There's no use closing the barn door

Make sure that the stickers the alarm
company places on doors and windows

after the horse is gone."

don't specify what type alarm is

"An ounce of prevention is worth a

Cliches? Yes, but there is truth to back
them up. Steps you take now to protect

yourself, your home and your
belongings can pay off in a time of
crisis. There's more to personal

installed. Experienced thieves know

how to get around many alarm systems,
and advertising what type you have
installed may increase your chances of

give you some ideas on how to guard

being robbed rather than decreasing
them. If you simply can't afford an
actual alarm system, you can always
place those"This property protected by

against harm to yourself or theft of your

a monitored alarm system" stickers on

protection than an alarm system and a
can of mace — the following should

property.

your doors and windows anyway.
Studies have shown that homes with

YOUR HOME

these stickers in place are burgled 40%

Home security systemscome in a variety

less often than those without them.

offorms ranging from the do-it-yourself
kind from the local hardware store to
elaborate systems that are monitored on
a 24 hour basis. Monitored systems are
the most reliable. Talk to your local

Although home security systems
abound these days, there are some
simpler steps you can take to protect
your home and belongings.
Install a "peep hole" in your front door
and use it. Remember that you don't
have to open the door. Ask to see

alarm company about what is best for

your home and your lifestyle. Monitored

October 1994• Dimensions• Page 17

identification for anyone who says they
are with a utility, phone or cable
company — even if you called them to
come make repairs. If you don't know
the person at the door,or ifthey claim to

the police and makes it easier to identify
your property if it is stolen and retrieved
by police.Some ofthe items mostlikely
to be stolen include your TV set, CD

Make sure that windows and doors have

player and stereo, cameras, computers
and Jewelry.
The other thing than can help is to make
a complete inventory of your home
with original price, purchase date and

secure locks. A deadbolt is a must on all

serial numbers.Store one list in a"safe"

outside doors. Be sure that you use the
type that locks with a key on the inside

place in your home and a copy in a safe
deposit box. Not only will this help in

ifthe door has windows in it or is within

case of theft by establishing ownership

reach of nearby windows. Without this

and worth, it will also be invaluable in
case of fire, flood, tornado or other
natural disaster. One easy way to take

be a salesman, tell them (without

opening the door) to call and set up an
appointment.

feature, a thief could break out the
window, reach in and unlock the

deadbolt. Security experts recommend
deadbolt locks made in the U.S. or

Germany as superior to those made in
Taiwan, China or Japan.
Tall shrubs that cover windows can

inventory of your home is by
videotaping. Make a tape that shows all

your belongings and narrate it with
original purchase prices. Be sure to
open all your closets and cabinets to get
an accurate and complete picture of

provide a place for a burglar to hide
while he is breaking into your home.
Cut these back so that your windows
and doors are visible to neighbors and
police. Also be sure that your home has

copy at home and another in a safe

adequate outside lighting. Motion
detector lights are a good option to

about the $8,000 stereo system you just

your belongings. Once again, keep a
deposit box.
One last note — Don't go around

bragging to people you don't know

scare off potential thieves. And,last but

purchased or the 4 karat diamond your

not least, don't leave a ladder laying
around outside your home. This can be
just what a robber needs to boost him

loverboughtyou.And,don't tell anyone

(even a friend) that you have an alarm
system, but you rarely turn it on. This

into a second story or attic window.

kind ofinformation gets around and can

make you a perfect target.

YOUR BELONGINGS
Next to chaining them to the foundation

your car

of your house, the best way to protect

This may sound obvious,but you should

your valuables is to leave your mark on
them.Police departments in most cities
will either mark your property for you
or loan you an engraving tool free of
charge as part of Operation

always take your keys out ofthe ignition
when you leave the car. Statistics show
that nearly half of all cars stolen in the
U.S. had keys in the ignition. So,even
though it is -30° outside, don't leave

Identification. The identification

your car running with the keys in it

number you use (usually your driver's
license number) is placed on file with

while you run into a convenience store
for a cup ofcoffee. After all, would you

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Some other tips to prevent car theft

from injury, rape or even death, is the
most important part of any discussion

include:

about crime. You can make a good start

• don't hide a spare key under the seat,

rather have a warm car or no car at all?

magnetic boxes.Thieves know all these

by following the tips listed below:
• When walking anywhere, choose a
well-lighted route where there will be

places.

other people around. If possible, walk

• Park in well-lighted areas at night,
preferably close to a street comer.

• Walk with purpose (like you know

above the visor or in one of those

with a friend or a dog.

• Don't leave the title in the car, it

where you're going) and pay attention

belongs in a safe deposit box.

to your surroundings.

• Car alarms seldom deter thieves,
instead, invest in a $25 cutoff switch.

• Walk in the middle of the sidewalk

This device is easy to install and won't

curb.

let the car start unless the switch is

• Carry your purse close to your body

instead ofclose to buildings or near the

turned on. A thief won't take the time to

with the clasp facing you.

look for the switch and will move on to

• Carry your keys and money in your

greener pastures.

pocket, not in your purse.
• Don't carry large sums of money and

YOURSELF

never flash a roll of bills (even if you
know they are all ones.

Homes can be repaired,belongings and
carscan be replaced.Protecting yourself

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WHAT IS "NORMAL'ANYWAY?
BY NANCY FORD
There I was,in my own home,minding

moment I would have said, "I'm not

my own business,when the phone rang.
On the other end of the line was one of

interested in your service, but thank
you for calling," and hung up. But

Those people—one ofthose telephone

Seinfeld was a rerun, and something

solicitors.

kept me on the line — perhaps the
intrigue of it all.

AAAUUUGHHH!

Let's pause for a moment. Make no
mistake,I believe that there is dignity in

"—but let me save us both some time.I

all honest work. I understand that

"Excuse me?"

sometimes people find themselves in
the unenviable position of having to do

"What does that mean — that you're

am single, but I'm a single lesbian."

"I said I'm a lesbian.I'm a gay woman"

things which are extremely distasteful,

happy all the time?

sometimes even morally reprehensible,

I'm serious; this is truly how he
responded. Seems to me that the

for the sake of economics. Don't take

my word forit—ask Lisa Marie Presley.
But this was no ordinary, run-of-themill, hey-lady-aluminum-siding-willchange-your-life kind of telephone
solicitor. This particular solicitor was a
representative of a high-tech
matchmaking service.I can't say which
one exactly — that might be

Personnel Department at Date

Expectorations needs to pay more
attention to the social-awareness level

of the people they hire to perform the
function of professional dance-cardfiller-uppers. No, that means 1 form

my romantic relationships with people
of the same sex. So unless your

misconstrued as a commercial

company has a division that links

endorsement. Let's just call the
organization Date Expectorations.

members of the gay and lesbian

The gentleman introduced himself and

community, I would have no need for
your service."

said that he had a special invitation for

"Wait a minute. You mean you don't

me. Seems that the Yentes over at DE

date?"

were throwing a big soiree that very
weekend which would give me the
opportunity to...well, it would give me
the opportunity to do whatever it is
people do at gatherings of this nature.
"You are single, aren't you Ms.Ford?"
"Well, yes, as a matter of fact, I am—"
Generally, this would have been the

"Yes, I date," I recollected, thinking
back to a kinder, gentler period of my

Page 22• Dimensions •October 1994

life. "But when 1 do, I date women.
That's what a lesbian does."

"Well, if you've never dated a man,
how do you know you're a...you're a..."
He couldn't bring himself to say the
word."Okay, that's your choice—"

I didn't bother addressing the nature vs.
nurture question. After all, Letterman

"man hater"; that, in fact, I had once

would be on in an hour or so. He

"Oh, that explains it. Your marriage
didn't work, so now you're taking the
easy way out."
That's when I hung up.

continued relentlessly.
"—but haven't you ever thought about
getting married? We're notjust adating
service you know. People get married

been married to a man.

for a lot of different reasons..."

Had it become my karmic assignment
to try to make this guy realize the

misconceptions he was operating under?
As much as the whole conversation

annoyed me, it nevertheless comforted
me to know that I was not interacting
with Quintessential Straight Man

anymore than he was conversing with
the Queen of the Lesbians.

I further tried to explain that yes,indeed,
someday I hoped to marry. And when
that happened, it would be because I
was in love with a woman I wanted to

monogamously spend the rest of my
life in partnership with. What an
outrageous concept! I told him about
the legislative breakthroughs in Hawaii,
where same-gender marriage was closer
to being legalized than ever before. He
was stunned, yet undaunted in his quest
to sign me up for that party.
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Sybil had lots of money, and lots of

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Detectivelnspcctor Amanda Valentine
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year's leave of ab.sencc in New York.
She is looking forward to the slower
pace of life in New Zealand. Instead,
she returns Just in time for a highly
public, very .scandalous murder case.
Sybil Knight was the director of the
Wellington City Art Gallery and
daughter of the former Ambassador to
the U.S. Her body is found in the

believed she had tnorc than her share of

a wealthy Aunt's estate; her lover, Kim,
who suspected that Sybil was having an
affair; and Casey, the owner of the sex
club where she was found dead.

Amanda must deal with the press, as
well as Sybil's influential family while
trying to find the murderer,
Author Rose Beecham also writes under

the name Jennifer Fulton. Her previous
books include Passion Bay, Saving

October 1994• Dimensions• Page 25

Grace and True Love. She is an

lesbians, but that doesn't make it an

engaging writer and has created some

endearing quality. Any woman who

unusual (but entirely believable)

will leave and not speak to you for three
months when you complain about her

characters. Detective Amanda
Valentine can be compared very
favorable to that other scion of lesbian
detectivedom — Kate Delafield (the
creation of Katherine V. Forrest).

Second Guess is a good read and is
definitely recommended.

work isn't worth a second chance.

Maybe The Sure Thing is just too
close to real life for comfort. If I want

to hear stories of women who get

together and break-up,get together and
break-up again and again, I'll go to the
bar.

Next, we'll look at The Sure Thing by
Melissa Hartman.

Dr. Christine Kennedy is a researcher
studying earthquake prediction. When
she accurately forecasts a Southern
California earthquake,the press is very

Both Second Guess and The Sure

Thing are available at your local
women's bookstore or by mail for$9.95
from Naiad Press,Inc.,P.O.Box 10543,
Tallahassee, PL 32302. Please include

Dory Moraga,an Emmy award-winning

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reporter for an LA TV station is sent to

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interested.

interview Chris. To thank her for the

interview, Doiy offers to take Chris to
lunch — a lunch that turns into much
more.

Chris'lover ofseven years was killed in
a car accident three years before and
Chris is still having ahard time with her
death. Dory grew up in the barrios of

for the lesbian, gay and

East LA and is driven to succeed in her

feminist communities.

Books, music and more

chosen profession.

When Dory's work takes her into
dangerous situation, Chris is terrified.

The thought of Dory putting herself in

harm's way — on purpose — is totally
foreign to her and very nerve-wracking.
When Dory has to go out and report on

Inklings

the riots in L.A. following the Rodney
King verdict, Chris is beside herself
with fear.

Will their relationship last? Who cares.
Although Chris is a sympathetic
character at the start, her whining about
Dory's work gets old. Dory's love 'em
and leave 'em,"my career comes first"
attitude may be common among
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Do You
Believe

in Ghosts?
Halloween is here. Ancient cultures
believed this was the time when the

3. After you've watched a vampire

door between worlds was open and

a. go to sleep as usual.

spirits were free to roam the earth. Do

b. are a little scared and go to sleep

you believe in ghosts and other things
that can't be explained? Take the
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movie on the late, late show, you:

with the radio on.

c. stay up peeking out your window,
wondering why your neighbor always
leaves her house at 3 am.

1. When one of your possessions is
not where you remember leaving it,

4. You've been thinking of friend

you:

you haven't spoken to in years and

a. assume you moved it and forgot.
b. figure your lover moved it.

she calls the next day. You:

a. are happy she called.

c. figure the poltergeist is acting up

b. are amazed at the coincidence.

again.

c. figure she got your psychic

2. A picture you took has a strange,

messages.

filmy, human-shaped blob in the

5. You dream that your lover dies in

middle, you:
a. wonder why the camera is doubleexposing your film.

a car accident, you:

b. figure the sun was hitting the lens

a. are upset when you wake up, but
figure it's only a dream.
b. tell her about it and ask her to be

wrong.

careful.

c. show everyone your picture of a
ghost.

c. take her car keys and drive her

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everywhere for the next two weeks.

6. When you wake up with a feeling
that something bad is going to happen
to you today, you:
a. laugh it off.
b. try to shake it off and go to work.
c. call your boss and go back to bed.

7. When you hear someone talk about
being kidnapped by aliens, you:
a. think they are completely crazy.
b. wonder about the possibilities.
c. want to know why they haven't
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SCORING

smart enough to pay attention to your
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28-41 points
Your feet are firmly planted on the
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Open your mind to the possibilities.
Who knows, someday you may be the
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Give yourself points as follows:
4 points for each "A" answer.
6 points for each "B" answer.
10 points for each "C" answer.

If you scored:
56-70 points
Yes, you believe in ghosts, and
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PERSONAL PROTECTION

don't let anyone see your personal code

coninfued from page 19

number.

• Avoid walking near vacant lots and
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• When traveling on the bus,choose an
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•Ifyou are headed out oftown,even for
only a day, let someone know where
you are going and when you should be
back.

•Don't use isolated ATM's,go instead
to a grocery or convenience store where
other people are around. Stay alert and

Other than these simple tips, you can
also take a self-defense course, or

purchase a gun.If you do choose to own
a gun for protection, be sure you take a
class that teaches you how to use it and
practice at a shooting range on a regular

basis. If you are not comfortable with
the use of a gun, you could end up in
worse trouble since the criminal could

take it and turn it back on you.

Protecting yourselfand your belongings
is mostly a matter of common sense.
Following these simple tips can reduce
(although not eliminate) your chances
of being a victim. If you are the victim
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Pi op6:t>' of the Center

HOROSiCOPE
What's in the stars for you this month?

ARIES

CAACER

Don't spend money just to make an
impression during the first part of
October. You'll only hurt your wallet.
Try to keep your composure when a

You may feel confined by obligations
to family or friends during the first part

companion gets bitchy around the 15th.
A difference of opinion is nothing to

fight about. Rely on your gut feelings
instead of a friend's advice when it

comes to a money matter around the

24th. Take your time in matters oflove
and money toward month's end. Your
instincts aren't very reliable, so you'll

of October. Your social life is on an

upswing and a vacation could be in the
works after the 17th. Don't let your
concentration stray on the job or you

won't enjoy your time off. A break up
of a close relationship could leave you
feeling disillusioned but you bounce

back quickly toward month's end.

need to watch your step.

EEO

TAURUS

Money and prestige could be yours
during the first part of October—but if
you aren't careful, it could slip through

You may be feeling isolated during the
first part of October. Getting together
with friends or family you haven't seen
for a while will help. You may be
feeling moody around the 16th. Keep to

your fingers. A personal relationship
could be strained to the pointofbreaking
around the 15th. Try to work things out
but don't hesitate to leave if it reaches
that point. Concentrate on work toward

yourselfas much as possible and try not

month's end so that you'll be free to

to take it out on others. An invitation

enjoy social activities on Halloween.

you receive toward month's end

shouldn't be ignored. You never know
what wonderful people you might meet
— this may even be the beginning of a
new romance!

GEJimAI
Balancing personal and professional
commitments could put strain on a close
relationship during the first part of

VIRGO
What you want and what you can
accomplish may be at odds during the
first part of October. Don't be in such a
hurry! Everything will happen if you'll
just give it time. Family problems need
your attention after the 16th. Do what

you can to help out, but don't be taken

October. All your hard work starts to

advantage of. Finances have been on
your mind all month, but an increase in

pay off after the 16th with a raise or

income could help you out after the

promotion. Major changes in a

26th.

relationship could be in the cards
towards month's end.Sit down and talk

about where the relationship is headed
and how to work things out.

LIBRA
The restlessness that has plagued you
for awhile now will lift during the first
part of October. Focus on a love

October 1994• Dimensions•Page 31

relationship, but don't get overly
possessive with your lover. After the
15th, avoid the temptation to spend
money just to impress someone. You

AftUARIUS

will lose more than you will gain.
Reckless behavior(your's or another's)
could get you in trouble toward month's

on the job and at home. Avoid taking

end if you don't watch your step.

It's the little details that can trip you up
during the first part of October. Stay on
your toes and be alert to changes both
risks with money or love after the 17th,
"Lady Luck" isn't on your side right
now. A casual relationship could turn
serious toward month's end.Trust your

iSCORPlO

intuition to lead you in the right

A relationship takes a serious turn during
the first part of October. Job
responsibilities may prevent you from

direction.

spending as much time with a loved one
as you would like until the 17th. Don't
worry — she'll understand. Your

PIS»CEJ§»
You should be able to resolve a conflict

between relatives or coworkers during
the first part of October. After the 16th

intuition is working overtime toward

your heart wants to do what your head

month's end — follow a hunch and see

says you shouldn't — listen to your

where it leads. Luck is on your side if

head. You will have to try hard to keep

you take a chance on an investment.

a secret toward month's end. The

SAorrrARiui^

almost overwhelming, but could cause

temptation to confide in someone is
Social plans could be postponed by a

BIG trouble!

family fight during the first part of
October. It may be left up to you to get

things back in control. You could get in
real trouble if you don't keep close tabs
on your spending habits after the 12th.
Romance takes center stage toward
month's end and could turn into "true

love" by the 30th.

^cAtcttct

CAPRICORSr
A friendly get-together isjust what you
need to get you out ofthe dumps during
the first part of October. Try not to be
too trusting with someone you meet
around the 13th. Keep your guard up
and you'll save yourself time, money

call us t

oil your
travel r

and frustration. Toward month's end

you should be in a great position to take
some time for yourself-recent problems
are behind you now and you can relax
and enjoy Halloween.

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INDEPBNPCNT
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Thd Dbrbctort
A Listing of Service Organizations, Businesses & Clubs
ALBUQUERQUE,NM (area code 505)
organizations

Business Delivery Systems• 14902 Preston Rd. 75240 * 733-1108

clubs

Sister Source Cooperative & Lesbian Resource Line

Sue Ellen's * 3903 Cedar Springs * 5596707

144 Harvard SE* 268-2116

organizations
Affirmation * PO Box 22583175222 ■ 948-1546

AMARILLO,TX (area code 806)
organizations
Lesbian/Gay AlEance* POBox9361 79105*3594219
MCC of Amarillo • PO Box 1276•3724557

AIDS Resource Center • P.O. Box 190712 75219
Asians & Friends * PO Box 9142 75209 *392-3339

Cathedral of Hope MCC * 5910 Cedar Springs Rd • 351-1901
Community Church &(3oDege of Divine Metaphysics
4001 Live Oak #401 *826-7110. ExL 401

(Congregation Beth El Binah • P.O. Box 191188 75219*497-1591

ARLINGTON,TX (area code 817)

Couples Metro Dallas*POBox803l56 75380 * 5048775
Dallas Gay and Lesbian Alliance

ciubs

P.O. Box 190712 75219•5284233 * FAX 522-4604

Ropers• 2023 South Cooper•265-5574

Dallas(Say/Lesbian Historic Archives * P.O. Box 190712 75219 * 821-1653
Dallas Gay Youth Group •300 Turtle Creek Plaza #116 * 307-7203

organizations
Gay/Lesbian Association of UTA

Dallas Outdoors • P.O. Box 35474 75235 * 2785270
Dallas Tavern Guild * 3900 Lemmon Ave.#220•5285292

P.O. Box 19348-77. UTA SL 76019• 794-5140

Dignity/Dallas * PO Box 190133 75219 * 2284101

Trinity MCC• 331 Aaron Ave.,Ste 125 • 265-5454

Foundation for Human Understandng • 5284233

AUSTIN,TX (area code 512)

GLAAD/DaBas• P.O. Box 190712 75219• 528GLAD

Gay/Lesbian Gardeners *1^80x190652 75219*3396787

ciubs
Hollywxxj• 113 San Jacinto • 480-9627
Nexus*305W.5th *472-5288

organizations

Grace Fellowship in Christ Jesus * 2727 Oak Lawn •5282811
Lesbian/Gay Democrats of Texas * 521-6342 exL 229
Lesbian/Gay Porrtical Coalition • P.O. Box 224424 75222 * 8289882
Lesbian ResourcefCenter* 1315 Sttes* 8216999

Lesbian Visionaries • PO Box 191443 75219 * 521-5342 X 844
LIL(Lesbian Info Line • 521-5342 exL 298

Afftrmation (Methodist) ■ 7403 Shoal Creek * 451-2329

SPROUTS(coming out group)* 521-5342 exL 256

Austin Latino/a Lesbian/Gay Organization

TWIGS (the wymn in gay society)•521-5342 exL 269

PO Box 1350 78787*2806107

Austin Lesbian/Gay Political Caucus • P.O. Box 822 78767 * 462-9888

The I4€w Vision (newsjoumal)* ffi18342 exL 256
Metfoplex Republicans * P.O. Box 191033 75219 *9418114

Center for Battered Women * (Lesbian Group)

Oak Lawn Community Services 4300 MacArthur•5286108

3856181 or 928-9070(hodine)

GayA-esbian Student Association at UT Austin

Oak Lawn Symphonic Band * P.O. Box 190973 75219 * 9881751
PFLAG/Dallas * Helpline 6588640

4586971 •Box275TexasUnion 78712-7338

Imperial Sovereign Royal Court of DaBas

Lesbian/Gay Rights Lobby • PO Box 2579 78768•474-5475

P.O. Box 190464 75245•5218446

Lesbian Mothers - Karen • 339-8508

Seventh-Day Adventist Kinship *4181358

Live Wire Productions • PO Box 141202 78714

Womyn Together •3920 Cedar Springs *5284233

MetropoRtan ODmmunrly Church *1100 Springdale Rd.* 9296660
Oasis Minstry • 5555 N. Lamar Blvd.#L101 • 441-9191

P-FIag (Parentsfnends Lesbians^Gays)• 331-8445
S^)phfire!• Lesbian Social Group * 4580659
luting Address• 825 E.531/2 St.. Ste E103
Marling Address * 201 W.Stassney,Ste.# 321 78745-3156
Waterloo Counseling Center * 507 Powell 78703• 322-9654
Texas Human Rights Foundation • P.O. Box 49740 78765 • 479-8473

AIDS Legal Asststance 1-8088286417
The Treehouse (Lesbian Mothers Support Group)
607NuecesSt. 78701 *477-5822

ATHENS,TX (area code 903)
organizations
P-Flag (Parents/Friends Lesbians/Gays)•6788326

BANDERA,TX (area code 210)
accommodations

DErrrON,TX(area code 817)
organizations
COURAGE, Lesbian Gay Student Org.
P.O. Box 5067 76203 * 362-3813
Harvest MCC * 5900 S.Stemmons 76205•1808497-HMCC

P-Rag (Parents/Friends LesbiansitSays) * 387-1491

DRIPPING SPRINGS,TX (area code 512)
accommodations
Reaeation Plantation •(Campground * HCOl box 48A 78620•894-0567

EL PASO,TX(area code 915)
organizations
Lembda Services • PO Box 31321 799316321 * 24 hour line 562-GAYS
1^B Paso • 916 Yandell *642-1227

P-Rag (Parents/Friends Lesbians/Gays)

Desert Hearts Cowgirl Oub• Women's Guest Ranch
HC 3, Box 650 78003 * 796-7446

Spanish & English Language Meetings * 591-4664

DALLAS,TX (area code 214)

FT. WORTH (area code 817)
organizations

businesses
Altemalive Visions * Dating Service •747-2033

Agape MCC•4616 SE Loop 820•535«)02
Affirmation (Methodist) * 4787837

October 1994• Dimensions• Page 33

P-Rag (Parents/Friends Lesbians'Gays)•498-5607/4984855
RESPECT •828 Hartlwood Rd • Hurst TX 76054

Tarrant County L/G Alliance •3327 Winthrop,Suite 243 76116•763-5544

HOUSTON,TX (area code 713)

National Gay/Lesbian Task Force
1517 U Slreel NW • Washington D.C. 20C09 • 202-332-6483

Parents & Friends ol Lesbians and Gays (P-Flag) • 1-80O-4-FAMILY

The Fund lor Human Dignity
666 Broadway 4th Floor • NY, NY 10012

businesses

NEW ORLEANS, LA (area code 504)

Inklings Bookshop • 1846 Richmond •521-3369

club & accommodations

clubs

Chariene's • 940 Elysian Fields • 945-9328

Ranch •9218 Buffalo Spdwy.• 66&<}464
Ms.Bs•9208 Buffalo Spdwy.•666-3356

XTC•9212 Buffalo Spdwy.•666-3356

organizations

OKLAHOMA CITY, OK (area code 405)
organizations

AIDS Foundation •3927 Essex Lane•623-6796
AIDSHOTUNE • c/o Switchboard»529-3211

Oasis the Community Center

Gay/Lesbian Students University of Houston •4800 Calhoun •529-3211

Herland Sister Resources. Inc.

Gay/Lesbian Switchboard-PO Box 66591 77266-529<3211

2312 NW 39th 73112 • 521-9696

Houston Gay & Lesbian Parents •980-7995
Houston Gay Political Caucus • P.O. Box 66664 77266•521-1000
Integity • P.O. Box 66008 77268^•432-<M14

Kingdom Community Church • 614 E. 19th •862-7533
Lambda ALANON• 1214 Joanne • 521-9772

2l35NW39th 73112- 525-AlDS

SAN ANGELO, TX (area code 915)
organizations
P-Rag (Parents/Friends Lesbians/fSays) • 9444323

Lesbian/Gay Students-Univ. Houston Gear Lake•2700 Bay Area 77058

Concho Valey Gay/Lesbian AJSance

LIN Houston • Lesbian Teacher Network
PO Box 1835 • Bellaire. TX 77402•529^3211

P.O. Box 750 76902 • 653-2956

Metropolitan Community Church Of The Resurrection

SAN ANTONIO, TX (area code 210)

1919 Decatur'861-9149

Montrose Counseling Center• 900 Lovett #203 77006•529-0037
Montrose Pool League/Blliards• PJ 863-8482

clubs
Bonham Exchange • 411 Bonham • 224-9219

P-Rag (Parents/Friends Lesbians/Gays)• 867-9020
PWA Coalition - Houston • 1475 W.Gray #163•522-5428

Nexus San Antonio • 8021 Pinebrook • 341-2818

SORA (Sex or Relationship Addicts Anonymous)

Deaf Rainbow • 804-1904 TTY

support group for lesbians • 523-9398

Dignity/San Antonio • 202 N. St. Mary's • 349-3632
Integrity/San Antonio

Womynspace* P.O. Box 980601 77098-0601
Women's Softball League • 6431 Pineshade•868-6266

organizations

PO Box 150006 78212 • 6844920

P-Rag (Parents^nends LesbiansiGays) • 8224135

LUBBOCK,TX (area code 806)

River City Living Metropolitan Community Church
202 Holland 78212 -822-1121

businesses

Lambda Students Center -1140 W. Woodlawn Ave.

Distinct Travel • 793-8374

LISA (Lesbian Information SA) • 828-LISA (5472)

organizations
Lubtxxk Lesbian/Gay Alliance & Wikj Wilde West Prod.
P.O. Box 64746 79464• 7914499

Community Outreach Center & Outreach AA (Tues. &Thurs.@8pm) *102
N.Ave.S' 762-1019

MCC Lubbock •5502 34th St.• 792-6562

P-Rag (Parents/Friends LesbiansiGays)• 799-8529
South Plains AIDS Resource Center(SPARC)
4204-8 50th St 79413 • 1-60O627-7079 • 7987068

NATIONAL ORGANIZATIONS
Affifmation: United Melodists for Lesbian/Gay Cdncems
PO Box 1021 • Evanstoo, IL 60204

SALGA - San Antonio Lesbian/Gay Assembly - 733-7300
SALSA - San Antonio Lambda Students Alliance
PO Box 12715 78212 • SALSA Line 733-1225
San Antonio AIDS Foundation
PO Box 120113 78212-9313

San Antonio Tavern Guild - 822-2823

SHERMAN, TX (area code 903)
organizations
Alliance lor Lite ■ PO Box 1695 76091 • 892-9049

HIV/AIDS Services • PO Box 1696 76091 • 463-7258

AIDS 800 • 1-800-221-7044

WACO,TX (area code 817)
organizations

Conference For Catholic Lesbians

P-Rag (Parents/Fnends Lesbians/Gays) • 750-7211

AIDS Action Counal •729 Eighth St S.E. Suite 200
Washington, DC 20003 -(202) 547-3101

PO Box 436, Planelanum Station • New York. NY 10024
GLAAD/USA ■ 80 Varick Si. #3E • NY, NY 10013
Hale Crime bne • i-gOO-347-HATE

Gay 4 Lesbian Parents Coalition international (GLPCI)
PO Box 50360, Washington, DC 20091 •(202)683-8029
Lesbian Mothers' National Defense Fund

PO Box 21567 • Seattle, WA 98111 •(206) 325-2643
Lesbian Teachers Network (LTN)
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The Nmn
From Around the Region, the Country & the World

Hate Crime Provision

Included In Crime Bill
WASHINGTON,D.C.—The recently

passed federal crime bill in a final vote
in the Senate, includes two important
measures supported by the National
Gay & Lesbian Task Force (NGLTF)
— the Hate Crimes Sentencing
Enhancement Act and the Violence

Against Women Act.
The Hate Crime Sentencing
Enhancement Act will advance the

federal response to crimes in which the

perpetrator intentionally selects a victim
because ofhis or her"actual orperceived

race, color, religion, national origin,

ethnicity,gender or sexual orientation."

Houston. According to police,the teens
hunted down the victim because they
had heard that gay men often had a lot
of money and were "easy targets."
"Many vicious crimes against gay,
lesbian and bisexual people are not
federal crimes, and will not be directly
impacted by this legislation,"Domi said.
"However, it is imperative that the
highest level of government send a
message that hate crimes will not go
unpunished in this society."

Along with the Hate Crime Sentencing
Enhancement Act,the Violence Against
Women Act wasfolded into the massive
crime bill. That act doubles the federal

penalty for repeat sex offenders and
requires that federal laws treat

Specifically,the act increases penalties

acquaintance rape and stranger rape the

for federal crimes that are hatemotivated and enhances federal
sentences not less than three offense

same.The act also mandates restitution

levels.

"This act sends a dramatic signal to
those who seek to victimize gay people,
and others," said Tanya Domi,NGLTF

Legislative Director. "The federal
government declares that hate crimes
will be taken seriously by the federal
courts and will be punished."

Passage of the measure is especially
timely, with several anti-gay incidents

garnering media attention nationwide.
Gay and lesbian activists in Salt Lake
City staged a rally earlier this month
after a district court judge reduced the
sentence in a case involving the killing
ofa gay man. While the case proved the
victim was targeted because he was
gay,the perpetrator wascharged merely
with manslaughter and sentenced to
only six years. In a separate incident,
four teens were charged in August with
the vicious murder of a gay man in

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for the victims of sex crimes. The

measure includes money for a wide
variety of police training, counseling
services, data collection systems, and
educational programs.

Lesbian Mother's

National Defense
Fund Expands
SEATTLE, WA — The Lesbian

Mother's National Defense fu^^j
(LMNDF) celebrates its 20th
anniversary this year with an expansion
ofits membership and program services

and a name change to become the'
Lavender Families Resource Network
In 1974 the twelve "founding mothers
of LMNDF began fundraising for two
lesbian mothers in Eatonville

Washington. One mother lost custody
and her children were placed in foster

care. Only after four years ofexpensive

litigation and intense personal struggle
did she regain custody of her children
— custody she lost solely because she
was a lesbian.

Twenty years ago, it scarcely occurred

currently searching for additional
Directors for the board including
individuals with specific expertise in
legal issues and finances.
Annual membership in the Lavender

to lesbian and gay parents to even try to

Families Resource Network is $10 and

maintain or fight for custody of their
children.Since that time,more and more
lesbians and gay men have refused to

includes a subscription to their quarterly
newsletter. Mom's Apple Pie.For more
information or to join the Network,

accept the social prejudice which
assumes that we are not fit parents, and

Washington 98111 or call (206) 325-

have taken their cases to court.Although
the chances of winning such a legal

write to: P.O. Box 21567, Seattle,
2643.

battle are relatively good in a few areas,
gay and lesbian parents in most parts of

Celebrities Lend

the United States still face the serious

Their Names to

threat of losing their children if they
end up in court.
LMNDF's ability to serve as a
clearinghouse of information and a
network of support has enhanced
opportunities for every lesbian to

exercise her right to parent. Although
our custody and visitation information
has focused on lesbian families, it has
also helped gay fathers, lesbian

grandmothers, bisexual mothers and
transsexual parents when these people
are discriminated against based on their

Fight the Right
WASHINGTON, D.C. — Some 110

notable figures and groups from the
political, entertainment, religions and
other fields have lent their names and

support in the coalition effort to fight
the Radical Right's campaign against
lesbians, gays and bisexuals.
The National Gay & LesbianTaskForce

(NGLTF)

Equality

Statement

Endorsement Project has asked major
political organizations, civil rights

parents, too, lose their children when
they are labeled as gay, lesbian, or

groups, unions, elected officials,
government bodies and others to sign
onto a statement supporting

bisexual. None of these groups has
developed a resource designed to

fundamental equal rights for gay,
lesbian, bisexual and transgender

sexual orientation. Heterosexual

support their struggles against

people. The statement condemns the

discrimination in parenting as LMNDF
has done for lesbians. Changing the
name and explicitly including this whole

Radical right-sponsored anti-gay ballot

variety offamilies is a natural extension
of their traditional services.

initiatives.

"We support equality for all
Americans,"reads the statement."Every

From its original purpose of assisting

American's right to be free from
discrimination in jobs, housing and

lesbian mothers in custody litigation,
LMNDF branched out years ago to

defended and protected. No person's

provide information about donor
insemination, adoption and parenting

public accommodations must be

fundamental civil rights should be
denied by a ballot initiative or any other

rights.

means."

Lavender Families Resource Network

The Endorsement Project has garnered
the support of Hollywood and
entertainment celebrities including

is looking for attorneys to participate in
their attorney referral program and is

October 1994 • Dimensions• Page 9

Whoopi Goldberg and Armistead
Maupin. Political leaders in the U.S.
Congress, including Senators Paul
Simon,
John
Chafee
and

governmental organizations have lent
their support.

NGLTF is distributing the list of
endorsers to state and local groups that

Representatives Patricia Schroeder,

will use it to build coalitions forfighting
anti-gay ballot initiatives. This year
started with ten states targeted for antigay measures.The Radical Right failed
to place measures on the November

Barney Frank and Gerry Studds have

signed on, as have the AFL-CIO,
AFSCME, United Auto Workers and

other unions. The American Library
Association, National Lawyers Guild,
PEN(international writer's association)
and numerous other professional
associations have joined the effort. In

ballot in all but two states — Idaho and

Oregon.

The Project is still seeking endorsers. If
you, your organization or business
would like to sign on, contact NGLTF
Fight the Right Project volunteer.Buzz

addition, the Southern Christian

Leadership Conference, a host of other
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What's Gom' On
A Monthly Listing Of Special Events All Around The Area

Fifth Annual Lone Star Women's

phone number to: TGRA Rodeo
Director,PO Box 116863, Carrollton,

Music Festival will take place October

TX 75011-6863, ATTN: Tickets.

WOMEN EVERYWHERE - The

7, 8 & 9 on the beautiful Guadalupe
River north of New Braunfels. More

HOUSTON - Heartsong, Houston

than 20 musical acts will perform.There
will also be comedy, workshops,

Area Women's Chorus will present

campfire song circles, open mike and

and Shared Hopes"in Hamman Hall

its fourth solo concert,"New Directions

lots of women! Tickets are $85 in

on the Rice University campus at

advance and $105 at the gate and are

7:30pm on Saturday, October 15th.

available at most women's bookstores.

Tickets are $8 in advance and $10 at the

Maps and other info are also available

door and are available at Inklings,

at ticket outlets. For more info, call
(512)929-0002.

Lucia's Garden,Crossroads Market
and from individual chorus members.

TEXAS-The Eleventh Annual Texas

Gay Rodeo Association (TGRA)
Rodeo will happen November 11-13 in
Austin, TX at the Travis County

Exposition Center. In addition to the
rodeo on Saturday and Sunday, there
will also be a dance both nights.
Individual tickets are $12.50 for each

day's rodeo and $5 for each night's

For more info,call Denise at(713)9887150.

SAN ANTONIO - The Esperanza
Peace and Justice Center(EPJC)needs
donations to help meet their next semi

annual building payment of $25,000.

EPJC is a multiracial, multicultural,
grassroots organization helping to
empower women, lesbians & gays,

dance. The package ticket price for all

people

events is available for $25 (a $10

environmentalists

savings)if you purchase your tickets by

progressives. To help out, send

November 1st. Hotel accommodations
are available at the Doubletree Hotel
(1-800-222-TREE or 512-454-3737)

and at the Red Lion Hotel(1-800-5478010 or 512-323-5466). Ask for the
TGRA rate when making reservations.
For information about vendor spaces,
volunteering or about the rodeo itself,
call 214-720-6051 or 512-835-5314.

To order your tickets,send your check,
along with your name, address and

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of

color,
and

youth,
other

donations to: The Esperanza Building
Fund,922 San Pedro,San Antonio,TX
78212.

HOUSTON - The law firm of Moore
& Hunt is sponsoring an all-day seminar
called Womyn Choosing Mothyrhood
on Saturday,October I st.Professionals
and lay persons specializing in the
psychological, medical, financial and
legal aspects ofdonor insemination will

present detailed information and answer

LUBBOCK - South Plains AIDS

questions.For more info,call Natalie at

AMARILLO - Washington Square,

Resource Center(SPARC)is holding
its annual fundraiser. Art for
Humanity V:An Exhibition ofHope,
on Friday,October 14th from 8pm-1am

a new coffeehouse and bookstore, the

at the Baker Building(1211 13th St.).

(713)522-4282 ext. 14.

only one of its kind in Amarillo, will
open sometime in October at 1607 S.
Washington. Washington Square is
gay owned and operated and will offer

All proceeds will go to benefit SPARC
and their clients.The event is a silent art

auction and exhibition and will include
a cash bar and hors d'oeuvers. A

info, operating hours and calendar of

donation of$15 is requested. For more
information,call SPARC at(806)796-

events, call (806) 373-5885.

7068.

NEW MEXICO - The Museum of
Fine Arts in Santa Fe is planning an
exhibit about lesbian presence and

of Houston is selling videos of the

books,coffee,food and music.For more

history in New Mexico.The curators of
the exhibit are asking to borrow one

object of significance to you (that you
didn't produce yourself). The resulting
collection of borrowed objects will be
shown at the Museum of Fine Arts in
Santa Fe.For information,call or write
Catherine Lord and Millie Wilson,c/

HOUSTON - The Pride Committee

1994 Pride Parade for $27.43 each

(price includes sales tax and shipping).
To order, send your name, address and
telephone number along with a check
to: Pride Committee of Houston,PC
Box 6607 i, Houston,TX 77266-6071.
ALBUQUERQUE- Full CircleBooks

will hold a Read-a-Thon by, for and

oSiteSantaFe,P.O. Box 10190,Santa

about lesbians to honor National

Fe,NM 87504.Phone(505)982-2935,

Coming Out Day. The event is titled
"Lesbian Tongues"and will be held at

FAX (505) 989-1188. E-mail:
cblord@uci.edu. All letters answered,
all calls returned. Requests for

anonymity will be honored.
HOUSTON

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the bookstore from noon-midnight on
Tuesday, October 11th. For more info,
call (505) 266-0022.

Metropolitan

Community Church of the
Resurrection(MCCR)is looking for a

few good books. The MCCR Library
and Gay/Lesbian Archives is looking
for any books borrowed from their

library that have not been returned.

They also need donations of used books
and other artifacts for the Archives and
volunteersfor the Library Committee.
For more info, call (713)861-9149.

if you have information for
What's Goin' On,
please send it to us!
Deadline for submissions
is the 20th of each month

before publication.

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Dear Aojkes
Answers to your questions about love,
RELATIONSHIIPS & PERSONAL PROBLEMS

Dear Agnes,

Start by making a budget. It doesn't

I have been reading your column for
years. I never imagined that I would
someday write you with a problem.
Anyway, here goes...
My lover and I have been together for
two years and we get along beautifully.
We share many of the same interests
and we enjoy spending time together.
We have an excellent sex life. The only
problem we have is money.

have to be anything complicated,just
start writing down what you spend on
bills, and then figure up how much cash
you have(on average)after the bills are
paid.
Most people will not write down their
expenses because they really don't want
to know where their money is going(or,
they think it's just plain hopeless). This
has got to be your first step.
Once you've written down your

We are not out ofcontrol with our credit

expenses for a couple of months, you'll
be able to see your "spending trend."
From here you will be able to see the

or anything like that, we Just can't seem
to manage our cash. We both get paid at
the same time. We pay the bills and
then, by the start of the next week,
we're completely broke.
That's when we start fighting. She'll
accuse me ofspending too much,then I

For instance, are you going to the
grocery store and spending lots ofmoney
and then going out to eat while your

get mad and accuse her of over
spending. It gets progressively worse

food rots in the fridge? Are you paying
for two movie channels and then renting

places you can cut back.

from there. We spend a whole week

videos so you've seen all the movies

fighting until payday comes around

before they make it to cable? Can you

again. Then we start all over with this

cut back on clothing purchases? These
are all places to look for overspending.

little cycle of ours.

around payday?

Based on your individual circumstances,
you will be able to find more areas
where you can cut back.
After you have figured out where you
can cut back, you might consider

I'm sick and tired of this, but I don't

know what to do about it. Do you have

any suggestions other than getting two
apartments and only seeing each other

Money is the Root of All Evil

splitting your spending money in half.

Houston, TX

Stash half back for the week before

Dear Money,

Remember, it will take both of you,
working together,to solve this problem.

payday.

Another apartment won't help anything.
You'll only double your expenses and
be twice as broke, so scratch that idea.

October 1994• Dimensions• Page 15

Dear Agnes,
My lover and I arc having a huge fight.
It sounds really silly, but it is very
serious to me.

is being unreasonable. What do you
say?
Neuter or Not
East Texas

I have a six-year-old male eat. I had this
cat for three years before I even met my
current lover.

We 1ive in the country and the eat comes
and goes as he pleases. The problem is
that he isn't "fixed." My lover insists
that I should have him neutered, but I
don't think so.

He's getting older and I think it would
be cruel to have him fixed at this late
date. Besides, there are millions of
"unfixed" eats around here, all our

Dear Neuter,
In most cases, it really is a good idea to
have a any cat fixed. Not only does it
help control unwanted kittens, it can
also help prevent many other health
problems.A neutered male is also much
less likely to wander off or to fight with
other males. However,since your cat is
six years old, I would suggest that you
talk to your vet before making a decision.

neighbors keep cats in their barns to
keep the rat and mice population down.
I don't see what difference fixing this
one eat is going to make. My lover says
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PROTECTING
YOURSELF
...and your car. and your home,
and your belongings, and...

pound ofcure."

alarm systems are available in a wide
range of prices to suit most budgets.

"The best offense is a good defense."
"There's no use closing the barn door

Make sure that the stickers the alarm
company places on doors and windows

after the horse is gone."

don't specify what type alarm is

"An ounce of prevention is worth a

Cliches? Yes, but there is truth to back
them up. Steps you take now to protect

yourself, your home and your
belongings can pay off in a time of
crisis. There's more to personal

installed. Experienced thieves know

how to get around many alarm systems,
and advertising what type you have
installed may increase your chances of

give you some ideas on how to guard

being robbed rather than decreasing
them. If you simply can't afford an
actual alarm system, you can always
place those"This property protected by

against harm to yourself or theft of your

a monitored alarm system" stickers on

protection than an alarm system and a
can of mace — the following should

property.

your doors and windows anyway.
Studies have shown that homes with

YOUR HOME

these stickers in place are burgled 40%

Home security systemscome in a variety

less often than those without them.

offorms ranging from the do-it-yourself
kind from the local hardware store to
elaborate systems that are monitored on
a 24 hour basis. Monitored systems are
the most reliable. Talk to your local

Although home security systems
abound these days, there are some
simpler steps you can take to protect
your home and belongings.
Install a "peep hole" in your front door
and use it. Remember that you don't
have to open the door. Ask to see

alarm company about what is best for

your home and your lifestyle. Monitored

October 1994• Dimensions• Page 17

identification for anyone who says they
are with a utility, phone or cable
company — even if you called them to
come make repairs. If you don't know
the person at the door,or ifthey claim to

the police and makes it easier to identify
your property if it is stolen and retrieved
by police.Some ofthe items mostlikely
to be stolen include your TV set, CD

Make sure that windows and doors have

player and stereo, cameras, computers
and Jewelry.
The other thing than can help is to make
a complete inventory of your home
with original price, purchase date and

secure locks. A deadbolt is a must on all

serial numbers.Store one list in a"safe"

outside doors. Be sure that you use the
type that locks with a key on the inside

place in your home and a copy in a safe
deposit box. Not only will this help in

ifthe door has windows in it or is within

case of theft by establishing ownership

reach of nearby windows. Without this

and worth, it will also be invaluable in
case of fire, flood, tornado or other
natural disaster. One easy way to take

be a salesman, tell them (without

opening the door) to call and set up an
appointment.

feature, a thief could break out the
window, reach in and unlock the

deadbolt. Security experts recommend
deadbolt locks made in the U.S. or

Germany as superior to those made in
Taiwan, China or Japan.
Tall shrubs that cover windows can

inventory of your home is by
videotaping. Make a tape that shows all

your belongings and narrate it with
original purchase prices. Be sure to
open all your closets and cabinets to get
an accurate and complete picture of

provide a place for a burglar to hide
while he is breaking into your home.
Cut these back so that your windows
and doors are visible to neighbors and
police. Also be sure that your home has

copy at home and another in a safe

adequate outside lighting. Motion
detector lights are a good option to

about the $8,000 stereo system you just

your belongings. Once again, keep a
deposit box.
One last note — Don't go around

bragging to people you don't know

scare off potential thieves. And,last but

purchased or the 4 karat diamond your

not least, don't leave a ladder laying
around outside your home. This can be
just what a robber needs to boost him

loverboughtyou.And,don't tell anyone

(even a friend) that you have an alarm
system, but you rarely turn it on. This

into a second story or attic window.

kind ofinformation gets around and can

make you a perfect target.

YOUR BELONGINGS
Next to chaining them to the foundation

your car

of your house, the best way to protect

This may sound obvious,but you should

your valuables is to leave your mark on
them.Police departments in most cities
will either mark your property for you
or loan you an engraving tool free of
charge as part of Operation

always take your keys out ofthe ignition
when you leave the car. Statistics show
that nearly half of all cars stolen in the
U.S. had keys in the ignition. So,even
though it is -30° outside, don't leave

Identification. The identification

your car running with the keys in it

number you use (usually your driver's
license number) is placed on file with

while you run into a convenience store
for a cup ofcoffee. After all, would you

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Some other tips to prevent car theft

from injury, rape or even death, is the
most important part of any discussion

include:

about crime. You can make a good start

• don't hide a spare key under the seat,

rather have a warm car or no car at all?

magnetic boxes.Thieves know all these

by following the tips listed below:
• When walking anywhere, choose a
well-lighted route where there will be

places.

other people around. If possible, walk

• Park in well-lighted areas at night,
preferably close to a street comer.

• Walk with purpose (like you know

above the visor or in one of those

with a friend or a dog.

• Don't leave the title in the car, it

where you're going) and pay attention

belongs in a safe deposit box.

to your surroundings.

• Car alarms seldom deter thieves,
instead, invest in a $25 cutoff switch.

• Walk in the middle of the sidewalk

This device is easy to install and won't

curb.

let the car start unless the switch is

• Carry your purse close to your body

instead ofclose to buildings or near the

turned on. A thief won't take the time to

with the clasp facing you.

look for the switch and will move on to

• Carry your keys and money in your

greener pastures.

pocket, not in your purse.
• Don't carry large sums of money and

YOURSELF

never flash a roll of bills (even if you
know they are all ones.

Homes can be repaired,belongings and
carscan be replaced.Protecting yourself

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Whata Woru>,
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WHAT IS "NORMAL'ANYWAY?
BY NANCY FORD
There I was,in my own home,minding

moment I would have said, "I'm not

my own business,when the phone rang.
On the other end of the line was one of

interested in your service, but thank
you for calling," and hung up. But

Those people—one ofthose telephone

Seinfeld was a rerun, and something

solicitors.

kept me on the line — perhaps the
intrigue of it all.

AAAUUUGHHH!

Let's pause for a moment. Make no
mistake,I believe that there is dignity in

"—but let me save us both some time.I

all honest work. I understand that

"Excuse me?"

sometimes people find themselves in
the unenviable position of having to do

"What does that mean — that you're

am single, but I'm a single lesbian."

"I said I'm a lesbian.I'm a gay woman"

things which are extremely distasteful,

happy all the time?

sometimes even morally reprehensible,

I'm serious; this is truly how he
responded. Seems to me that the

for the sake of economics. Don't take

my word forit—ask Lisa Marie Presley.
But this was no ordinary, run-of-themill, hey-lady-aluminum-siding-willchange-your-life kind of telephone
solicitor. This particular solicitor was a
representative of a high-tech
matchmaking service.I can't say which
one exactly — that might be

Personnel Department at Date

Expectorations needs to pay more
attention to the social-awareness level

of the people they hire to perform the
function of professional dance-cardfiller-uppers. No, that means 1 form

my romantic relationships with people
of the same sex. So unless your

misconstrued as a commercial

company has a division that links

endorsement. Let's just call the
organization Date Expectorations.

members of the gay and lesbian

The gentleman introduced himself and

community, I would have no need for
your service."

said that he had a special invitation for

"Wait a minute. You mean you don't

me. Seems that the Yentes over at DE

date?"

were throwing a big soiree that very
weekend which would give me the
opportunity to...well, it would give me
the opportunity to do whatever it is
people do at gatherings of this nature.
"You are single, aren't you Ms.Ford?"
"Well, yes, as a matter of fact, I am—"
Generally, this would have been the

"Yes, I date," I recollected, thinking
back to a kinder, gentler period of my

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life. "But when 1 do, I date women.
That's what a lesbian does."

"Well, if you've never dated a man,
how do you know you're a...you're a..."
He couldn't bring himself to say the
word."Okay, that's your choice—"

I didn't bother addressing the nature vs.
nurture question. After all, Letterman

"man hater"; that, in fact, I had once

would be on in an hour or so. He

"Oh, that explains it. Your marriage
didn't work, so now you're taking the
easy way out."
That's when I hung up.

continued relentlessly.
"—but haven't you ever thought about
getting married? We're notjust adating
service you know. People get married

been married to a man.

for a lot of different reasons..."

Had it become my karmic assignment
to try to make this guy realize the

misconceptions he was operating under?
As much as the whole conversation

annoyed me, it nevertheless comforted
me to know that I was not interacting
with Quintessential Straight Man

anymore than he was conversing with
the Queen of the Lesbians.

I further tried to explain that yes,indeed,
someday I hoped to marry. And when
that happened, it would be because I
was in love with a woman I wanted to

monogamously spend the rest of my
life in partnership with. What an
outrageous concept! I told him about
the legislative breakthroughs in Hawaii,
where same-gender marriage was closer
to being legalized than ever before. He
was stunned, yet undaunted in his quest
to sign me up for that party.
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The Cofebb Cbiib
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This Month, Tasha Sumner Introduces;

Second Guess
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Fhe Sure Thing
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The first book we're going to look at
this month is Second Guess by Rose

club.

Bccchatn. Second Guess is the second

Sybil had lots of money, and lots of

in the Atnanda Valentine Mystery

enemies. The man at work who thought

Series.

she had stolen a Job that was rightfully
his; her homophobic brother who

Detectivelnspcctor Amanda Valentine
of the Wellington,NcwZcaiand Police
Department has just returned from a
year's leave of ab.sencc in New York.
She is looking forward to the slower
pace of life in New Zealand. Instead,
she returns Just in time for a highly
public, very .scandalous murder case.
Sybil Knight was the director of the
Wellington City Art Gallery and
daughter of the former Ambassador to
the U.S. Her body is found in the

believed she had tnorc than her share of

a wealthy Aunt's estate; her lover, Kim,
who suspected that Sybil was having an
affair; and Casey, the owner of the sex
club where she was found dead.

Amanda must deal with the press, as
well as Sybil's influential family while
trying to find the murderer,
Author Rose Beecham also writes under

the name Jennifer Fulton. Her previous
books include Passion Bay, Saving

October 1994• Dimensions• Page 25

Grace and True Love. She is an

lesbians, but that doesn't make it an

engaging writer and has created some

endearing quality. Any woman who

unusual (but entirely believable)

will leave and not speak to you for three
months when you complain about her

characters. Detective Amanda
Valentine can be compared very
favorable to that other scion of lesbian
detectivedom — Kate Delafield (the
creation of Katherine V. Forrest).

Second Guess is a good read and is
definitely recommended.

work isn't worth a second chance.

Maybe The Sure Thing is just too
close to real life for comfort. If I want

to hear stories of women who get

together and break-up,get together and
break-up again and again, I'll go to the
bar.

Next, we'll look at The Sure Thing by
Melissa Hartman.

Dr. Christine Kennedy is a researcher
studying earthquake prediction. When
she accurately forecasts a Southern
California earthquake,the press is very

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reporter for an LA TV station is sent to

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interested.

interview Chris. To thank her for the

interview, Doiy offers to take Chris to
lunch — a lunch that turns into much
more.

Chris'lover ofseven years was killed in
a car accident three years before and
Chris is still having ahard time with her
death. Dory grew up in the barrios of

for the lesbian, gay and

East LA and is driven to succeed in her

feminist communities.

Books, music and more

chosen profession.

When Dory's work takes her into
dangerous situation, Chris is terrified.

The thought of Dory putting herself in

harm's way — on purpose — is totally
foreign to her and very nerve-wracking.
When Dory has to go out and report on

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the riots in L.A. following the Rodney
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with fear.

Will their relationship last? Who cares.
Although Chris is a sympathetic
character at the start, her whining about
Dory's work gets old. Dory's love 'em
and leave 'em,"my career comes first"
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a. assume you moved it and forgot.
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b. figure the sun was hitting the lens

a. are upset when you wake up, but
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ghost.

c. take her car keys and drive her

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that something bad is going to happen
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•Don't use isolated ATM's,go instead
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HOROSiCOPE
What's in the stars for you this month?

ARIES

CAACER

Don't spend money just to make an
impression during the first part of
October. You'll only hurt your wallet.
Try to keep your composure when a

You may feel confined by obligations
to family or friends during the first part

companion gets bitchy around the 15th.
A difference of opinion is nothing to

fight about. Rely on your gut feelings
instead of a friend's advice when it

comes to a money matter around the

24th. Take your time in matters oflove
and money toward month's end. Your
instincts aren't very reliable, so you'll

of October. Your social life is on an

upswing and a vacation could be in the
works after the 17th. Don't let your
concentration stray on the job or you

won't enjoy your time off. A break up
of a close relationship could leave you
feeling disillusioned but you bounce

back quickly toward month's end.

need to watch your step.

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Money and prestige could be yours
during the first part of October—but if
you aren't careful, it could slip through

You may be feeling isolated during the
first part of October. Getting together
with friends or family you haven't seen
for a while will help. You may be
feeling moody around the 16th. Keep to

your fingers. A personal relationship
could be strained to the pointofbreaking
around the 15th. Try to work things out
but don't hesitate to leave if it reaches
that point. Concentrate on work toward

yourselfas much as possible and try not

month's end so that you'll be free to

to take it out on others. An invitation

enjoy social activities on Halloween.

you receive toward month's end

shouldn't be ignored. You never know
what wonderful people you might meet
— this may even be the beginning of a
new romance!

GEJimAI
Balancing personal and professional
commitments could put strain on a close
relationship during the first part of

VIRGO
What you want and what you can
accomplish may be at odds during the
first part of October. Don't be in such a
hurry! Everything will happen if you'll
just give it time. Family problems need
your attention after the 16th. Do what

you can to help out, but don't be taken

October. All your hard work starts to

advantage of. Finances have been on
your mind all month, but an increase in

pay off after the 16th with a raise or

income could help you out after the

promotion. Major changes in a

26th.

relationship could be in the cards
towards month's end.Sit down and talk

about where the relationship is headed
and how to work things out.

LIBRA
The restlessness that has plagued you
for awhile now will lift during the first
part of October. Focus on a love

October 1994• Dimensions•Page 31

relationship, but don't get overly
possessive with your lover. After the
15th, avoid the temptation to spend
money just to impress someone. You

AftUARIUS

will lose more than you will gain.
Reckless behavior(your's or another's)
could get you in trouble toward month's

on the job and at home. Avoid taking

end if you don't watch your step.

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during the first part of October. Stay on
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risks with money or love after the 17th,
"Lady Luck" isn't on your side right
now. A casual relationship could turn
serious toward month's end.Trust your

iSCORPlO

intuition to lead you in the right

A relationship takes a serious turn during
the first part of October. Job
responsibilities may prevent you from

direction.

spending as much time with a loved one
as you would like until the 17th. Don't
worry — she'll understand. Your

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between relatives or coworkers during
the first part of October. After the 16th

intuition is working overtime toward

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month's end — follow a hunch and see

says you shouldn't — listen to your

where it leads. Luck is on your side if

head. You will have to try hard to keep

you take a chance on an investment.

a secret toward month's end. The

SAorrrARiui^

almost overwhelming, but could cause

temptation to confide in someone is
Social plans could be postponed by a

BIG trouble!

family fight during the first part of
October. It may be left up to you to get

things back in control. You could get in
real trouble if you don't keep close tabs
on your spending habits after the 12th.
Romance takes center stage toward
month's end and could turn into "true

love" by the 30th.

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the first part of October. Try not to be
too trusting with someone you meet
around the 13th. Keep your guard up
and you'll save yourself time, money

call us t

oil your
travel r

and frustration. Toward month's end

you should be in a great position to take
some time for yourself-recent problems
are behind you now and you can relax
and enjoy Halloween.

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A Listing of Service Organizations, Businesses & Clubs
ALBUQUERQUE,NM (area code 505)
organizations

Business Delivery Systems• 14902 Preston Rd. 75240 * 733-1108

clubs

Sister Source Cooperative & Lesbian Resource Line

Sue Ellen's * 3903 Cedar Springs * 5596707

144 Harvard SE* 268-2116

organizations
Affirmation * PO Box 22583175222 ■ 948-1546

AMARILLO,TX (area code 806)
organizations
Lesbian/Gay AlEance* POBox9361 79105*3594219
MCC of Amarillo • PO Box 1276•3724557

AIDS Resource Center • P.O. Box 190712 75219
Asians & Friends * PO Box 9142 75209 *392-3339

Cathedral of Hope MCC * 5910 Cedar Springs Rd • 351-1901
Community Church &(3oDege of Divine Metaphysics
4001 Live Oak #401 *826-7110. ExL 401

(Congregation Beth El Binah • P.O. Box 191188 75219*497-1591

ARLINGTON,TX (area code 817)

Couples Metro Dallas*POBox803l56 75380 * 5048775
Dallas Gay and Lesbian Alliance

ciubs

P.O. Box 190712 75219•5284233 * FAX 522-4604

Ropers• 2023 South Cooper•265-5574

Dallas(Say/Lesbian Historic Archives * P.O. Box 190712 75219 * 821-1653
Dallas Gay Youth Group •300 Turtle Creek Plaza #116 * 307-7203

organizations
Gay/Lesbian Association of UTA

Dallas Outdoors • P.O. Box 35474 75235 * 2785270
Dallas Tavern Guild * 3900 Lemmon Ave.#220•5285292

P.O. Box 19348-77. UTA SL 76019• 794-5140

Dignity/Dallas * PO Box 190133 75219 * 2284101

Trinity MCC• 331 Aaron Ave.,Ste 125 • 265-5454

Foundation for Human Understandng • 5284233

AUSTIN,TX (area code 512)

GLAAD/DaBas• P.O. Box 190712 75219• 528GLAD

Gay/Lesbian Gardeners *1^80x190652 75219*3396787

ciubs
Hollywxxj• 113 San Jacinto • 480-9627
Nexus*305W.5th *472-5288

organizations

Grace Fellowship in Christ Jesus * 2727 Oak Lawn •5282811
Lesbian/Gay Democrats of Texas * 521-6342 exL 229
Lesbian/Gay Porrtical Coalition • P.O. Box 224424 75222 * 8289882
Lesbian ResourcefCenter* 1315 Sttes* 8216999

Lesbian Visionaries • PO Box 191443 75219 * 521-5342 X 844
LIL(Lesbian Info Line • 521-5342 exL 298

Afftrmation (Methodist) ■ 7403 Shoal Creek * 451-2329

SPROUTS(coming out group)* 521-5342 exL 256

Austin Latino/a Lesbian/Gay Organization

TWIGS (the wymn in gay society)•521-5342 exL 269

PO Box 1350 78787*2806107

Austin Lesbian/Gay Political Caucus • P.O. Box 822 78767 * 462-9888

The I4€w Vision (newsjoumal)* ffi18342 exL 256
Metfoplex Republicans * P.O. Box 191033 75219 *9418114

Center for Battered Women * (Lesbian Group)

Oak Lawn Community Services 4300 MacArthur•5286108

3856181 or 928-9070(hodine)

GayA-esbian Student Association at UT Austin

Oak Lawn Symphonic Band * P.O. Box 190973 75219 * 9881751
PFLAG/Dallas * Helpline 6588640

4586971 •Box275TexasUnion 78712-7338

Imperial Sovereign Royal Court of DaBas

Lesbian/Gay Rights Lobby • PO Box 2579 78768•474-5475

P.O. Box 190464 75245•5218446

Lesbian Mothers - Karen • 339-8508

Seventh-Day Adventist Kinship *4181358

Live Wire Productions • PO Box 141202 78714

Womyn Together •3920 Cedar Springs *5284233

MetropoRtan ODmmunrly Church *1100 Springdale Rd.* 9296660
Oasis Minstry • 5555 N. Lamar Blvd.#L101 • 441-9191

P-FIag (Parentsfnends Lesbians^Gays)• 331-8445
S^)phfire!• Lesbian Social Group * 4580659
luting Address• 825 E.531/2 St.. Ste E103
Marling Address * 201 W.Stassney,Ste.# 321 78745-3156
Waterloo Counseling Center * 507 Powell 78703• 322-9654
Texas Human Rights Foundation • P.O. Box 49740 78765 • 479-8473

AIDS Legal Asststance 1-8088286417
The Treehouse (Lesbian Mothers Support Group)
607NuecesSt. 78701 *477-5822

ATHENS,TX (area code 903)
organizations
P-Flag (Parents/Friends Lesbians/Gays)•6788326

BANDERA,TX (area code 210)
accommodations

DErrrON,TX(area code 817)
organizations
COURAGE, Lesbian Gay Student Org.
P.O. Box 5067 76203 * 362-3813
Harvest MCC * 5900 S.Stemmons 76205•1808497-HMCC

P-Rag (Parents/Friends LesbiansitSays) * 387-1491

DRIPPING SPRINGS,TX (area code 512)
accommodations
Reaeation Plantation •(Campground * HCOl box 48A 78620•894-0567

EL PASO,TX(area code 915)
organizations
Lembda Services • PO Box 31321 799316321 * 24 hour line 562-GAYS
1^B Paso • 916 Yandell *642-1227

P-Rag (Parents/Friends Lesbians/Gays)

Desert Hearts Cowgirl Oub• Women's Guest Ranch
HC 3, Box 650 78003 * 796-7446

Spanish & English Language Meetings * 591-4664

DALLAS,TX (area code 214)

FT. WORTH (area code 817)
organizations

businesses
Altemalive Visions * Dating Service •747-2033

Agape MCC•4616 SE Loop 820•535«)02
Affirmation (Methodist) * 4787837

October 1994• Dimensions• Page 33

P-Rag (Parents/Friends Lesbians'Gays)•498-5607/4984855
RESPECT •828 Hartlwood Rd • Hurst TX 76054

Tarrant County L/G Alliance •3327 Winthrop,Suite 243 76116•763-5544

HOUSTON,TX (area code 713)

National Gay/Lesbian Task Force
1517 U Slreel NW • Washington D.C. 20C09 • 202-332-6483

Parents & Friends ol Lesbians and Gays (P-Flag) • 1-80O-4-FAMILY

The Fund lor Human Dignity
666 Broadway 4th Floor • NY, NY 10012

businesses

NEW ORLEANS, LA (area code 504)

Inklings Bookshop • 1846 Richmond •521-3369

club & accommodations

clubs

Chariene's • 940 Elysian Fields • 945-9328

Ranch •9218 Buffalo Spdwy.• 66&<}464
Ms.Bs•9208 Buffalo Spdwy.•666-3356

XTC•9212 Buffalo Spdwy.•666-3356

organizations

OKLAHOMA CITY, OK (area code 405)
organizations

AIDS Foundation •3927 Essex Lane•623-6796
AIDSHOTUNE • c/o Switchboard»529-3211

Oasis the Community Center

Gay/Lesbian Students University of Houston •4800 Calhoun •529-3211

Herland Sister Resources. Inc.

Gay/Lesbian Switchboard-PO Box 66591 77266-529<3211

2312 NW 39th 73112 • 521-9696

Houston Gay & Lesbian Parents •980-7995
Houston Gay Political Caucus • P.O. Box 66664 77266•521-1000
Integity • P.O. Box 66008 77268^•432-<M14

Kingdom Community Church • 614 E. 19th •862-7533
Lambda ALANON• 1214 Joanne • 521-9772

2l35NW39th 73112- 525-AlDS

SAN ANGELO, TX (area code 915)
organizations
P-Rag (Parents/Friends Lesbians/fSays) • 9444323

Lesbian/Gay Students-Univ. Houston Gear Lake•2700 Bay Area 77058

Concho Valey Gay/Lesbian AJSance

LIN Houston • Lesbian Teacher Network
PO Box 1835 • Bellaire. TX 77402•529^3211

P.O. Box 750 76902 • 653-2956

Metropolitan Community Church Of The Resurrection

SAN ANTONIO, TX (area code 210)

1919 Decatur'861-9149

Montrose Counseling Center• 900 Lovett #203 77006•529-0037
Montrose Pool League/Blliards• PJ 863-8482

clubs
Bonham Exchange • 411 Bonham • 224-9219

P-Rag (Parents/Friends Lesbians/Gays)• 867-9020
PWA Coalition - Houston • 1475 W.Gray #163•522-5428

Nexus San Antonio • 8021 Pinebrook • 341-2818

SORA (Sex or Relationship Addicts Anonymous)

Deaf Rainbow • 804-1904 TTY

support group for lesbians • 523-9398

Dignity/San Antonio • 202 N. St. Mary's • 349-3632
Integrity/San Antonio

Womynspace* P.O. Box 980601 77098-0601
Women's Softball League • 6431 Pineshade•868-6266

organizations

PO Box 150006 78212 • 6844920

P-Rag (Parents^nends LesbiansiGays) • 8224135

LUBBOCK,TX (area code 806)

River City Living Metropolitan Community Church
202 Holland 78212 -822-1121

businesses

Lambda Students Center -1140 W. Woodlawn Ave.

Distinct Travel • 793-8374

LISA (Lesbian Information SA) • 828-LISA (5472)

organizations
Lubtxxk Lesbian/Gay Alliance & Wikj Wilde West Prod.
P.O. Box 64746 79464• 7914499

Community Outreach Center & Outreach AA (Tues. &Thurs.@8pm) *102
N.Ave.S' 762-1019

MCC Lubbock •5502 34th St.• 792-6562

P-Rag (Parents/Friends LesbiansiGays)• 799-8529
South Plains AIDS Resource Center(SPARC)
4204-8 50th St 79413 • 1-60O627-7079 • 7987068

NATIONAL ORGANIZATIONS
Affifmation: United Melodists for Lesbian/Gay Cdncems
PO Box 1021 • Evanstoo, IL 60204

SALGA - San Antonio Lesbian/Gay Assembly - 733-7300
SALSA - San Antonio Lambda Students Alliance
PO Box 12715 78212 • SALSA Line 733-1225
San Antonio AIDS Foundation
PO Box 120113 78212-9313

San Antonio Tavern Guild - 822-2823

SHERMAN, TX (area code 903)
organizations
Alliance lor Lite ■ PO Box 1695 76091 • 892-9049

HIV/AIDS Services • PO Box 1696 76091 • 463-7258

AIDS 800 • 1-800-221-7044

WACO,TX (area code 817)
organizations

Conference For Catholic Lesbians

P-Rag (Parents/Fnends Lesbians/Gays) • 750-7211

AIDS Action Counal •729 Eighth St S.E. Suite 200
Washington, DC 20003 -(202) 547-3101

PO Box 436, Planelanum Station • New York. NY 10024
GLAAD/USA ■ 80 Varick Si. #3E • NY, NY 10013
Hale Crime bne • i-gOO-347-HATE

Gay 4 Lesbian Parents Coalition international (GLPCI)
PO Box 50360, Washington, DC 20091 •(202)683-8029
Lesbian Mothers' National Defense Fund

PO Box 21567 • Seattle, WA 98111 •(206) 325-2643
Lesbian Teachers Network (LTN)
PO Box 638 ■ Soloh, lA 62333

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