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Community ( Center) News .
July 1995

Volume 1, Issue 1
Community Newsletter Begins!

Welcome to the first issue of the Community ( Center) News. In the .interest of serving a larger portion of
our community without duplication of effort, the Community ( Center) News was born. In this first issue, a
cooperative effort between PFLAG and T.OJI.R., a new era of communication and information for the Tulsa
community has been realized.
This Newsletter is the beginning of what will later become an indispensable vehicle for the Community
Center to keep its members and patrons informed about the activities and resources available through our
non- profit organizations. We hope to be joined by other non- profits in the production of this newsletter so
that it might serve a broader audience, and will become a powerful a venue for non- profits to inform the
community while sharing expenses.
Let us hear from you. If you are a member of PFLAG or T.011.R. and have just received this newsletter,
please call us and let us know what you think, or if you are a non- profit organization that would like to
participate in our newsletter, we may be reached at the T.OJI.R. helpline number, 743-4297. We
appreciate your input and as always your support of our organizations.

We will he dropping the parentheses in the title, Community ( Center) News when the new center is opened.
Your donation to the hwJding fund will help make this center a reality.

Inside
PFLAG Newsletter
T.O.H.R. Reporter
Community Ca.lendar

tohr Reporter
Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights, P.O. Box 52729, Tulsa. 74152
July 1995 Volume 15 Number 6

fifteenth Anniversary Follies
Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights will present the l 5th
Anniversary production of TOHR Follies, Friday, June 30th.
The TOHR follies has consistently been one of the
organization's largest f W1d- raisers of the year. The l 5th
..\nniversary production theme "Priscilla" was inspired by the
recent popular movie, and promises several over- the- top
nwnbers sure to deLght audiences.
Lynn Smith, TOHR FW1d- Raising Chair and his Follies CoCha1r, Renee Anthony, have assembled a group of
unparalleled entertainers for the evening. Linda and Stevens
and Friends will bring several of their nwnbers from the Follies
Revue to the TOHR Follies, delighting audiences with their Lve
vocal re nditions. Bill Lewis ( aka Lola McCall) has assembled
his Lola's Girls, who will recreate several of the production
nwnbers from the movie Priscilla. Tulsa legend, Raghenna,
will return to T- Town to spice up this special event, and long
time Follies Contributor, Danny Hale, will again appear. The
recently formed Tulsa Family Choral is also scheduled to
perform.
Tickets for the evening are $8 in advance and $10 at the door.
Tickets are .available at several Tulsa area businesses,
includi ng Budget Window Treatments, Tomfoolery, and floral
Design Studios. Doors open at 7:30 pm and the production
begins at 8pm. The evening will conclude at 10pm, and
includes a cash bar. Seating is Lmited to a maximum of 200
people and the event will take place at All Souls Unitarian
Church, 2952 S Peoria.
John Rothrock and Steve Walley, the owners of the Silver Star
Saloon. have donated the use of their spotlight for the
produc tion, and Charles DJ 8W1ny Campbell has donated the
sound system. Other assistance is needed with the event, and
those wishing to volW1teer or obtain additional information
should call, 918.743.4297.

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So Long--Farewell
Sadly we are losing our 1st Vice President, Tim Henry.
Tim has been transferred to Houston and will be moving
soon. We would like to thank Tim for his hard work and
support ofT.O.H.R .. We will miss Tim and wish him
the best of lick in his new position.

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Welcome
To fill the vacancy left by Tim ' s departure the
nominating committee has indicated they will submit the
name of Debbie Starnes. Debbie is a past president of
T.O.H.R. and is a grant writer by profession. Debbie' s
knowledge will be a great asset to the organization. We
will be voting on her nomination at the July 11th
meeting. Nominations will also be accepted from the
floor at this meeting.

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We need a computer
T. O.H.R. is in need of a computer for our helpline
. 'database as well as one for the clinic. We need to track
these numbers to be effective in our grant writing and in
our lobbying of city officials. So if you know anyone who
has a computer they are not using or someone who w~uld
just like to donate to a worthy cause, give them our
number. It would help if the computer had ample
memory and speed to run Windows applications.

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Picnic on Bartlett Square
The August 1st meeting ofT.O.H.R. will be held on
Bartlett Square. This is the third annual Dance and
Picnic on Bartlett Square. Soft drinks and music are
provided at no cost to you. Join us from 7-10 PM. Don't
forget to brin~a snack

Community Center
Monthly Pledges

Canter Stage - Ona Time Donations

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$100 Month
$75 Month
$50 Month
S45 Month
$40 Month
S35 Month
$20 Month
$10 Month

$2500-$5000
S 15 00-$2499
$750-$1499
$300-$749
$100-$299
Other

Detach and mail to: TOHR. PO Box 52729,
Tulsa, 74152

PFLAG
Parents. Families. and Friends of Lesbians and Gays
July 1995 Volume IV Number 5
Ne wsletter of the Tulsa Chapter of Parents, Family, and Friends of Lesbians and Gays
P.O. Box 52800 Tulsa, OK 74152
Helpline 918- 749- 4901
Regular meetings: Second Monday of the month
Family AIDS Support Group: First and Third Wednesday of the month .

July Meeting
Monday , July 10 1995
Quadrangle Building
4154 South Harvard, Suite H
6:30 - 7 :45 PM
PFLAG 101 and PFLAG 102
PFLAG 101 is a group designed to
support new parents and members as they
begin their journey to accepting and
supporting their lesbian and gay loved
ones.
PFLAG 102 is a new group for those who
have "graduated" from PFLAG 101, but
who would like to meet in a small,
supportive setting to discuss matters and
topics on a more personal level than is
sometimes possible in the larger, general
meeting. Everyone is invited to attend.
SPOUSES, led by Carolyn Wood, is a
new group forming to support straight
spouses of gays and lesbians.
8:00 PM
General Meeting and Program
July program, "Our Stories," will
involve PFLAG parents as they share
their personal stories about their child
coming out and how they responded.

Sharing - Discussion - Questions Answers

ABOUT PFLAG
Parents, Family, and Friends of Lesbians and
Gays (PFI.AG) is a not for profit, tax exempt,
all volunteer, community-based organization
of parents, other relatives and friends of
lesbian and gay persons. PFLAG is not
affiliated with any ethnic, religious or
political group. PFLAG/ Tulsa is a member of
the international federation of the same
name.
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• OUR PURPOSES AND GOALS ARE TO:
T Provide a support system for families and
friends of lesbians and gay men in an effort
to understand, accept and support their
children with love and pride,
T Provide education for individuals and the
community at large on the nature of
homosexuality, and
- T Support the full human and civil rights of
lesbians and gay men.

14th International PFLAG
Convention
September 29 - October 1
For Registration & Convention Information,
please contact:

I116'Jr95
P.O. Box 1406
Anderson, IN 46015-1406
Phone/Fax (317) 644-3570 Email:
kgprunty@aol.com

PFLAG
Parents. Families, and Friends of Lesbians and Gays
July 1995 Volume IV Number 5

May 17, 1995
Dear P- FLAG Family:
I write to notify you of a situation which merits swift responses from as many people in your chapter as
possible!
On March 30, 1995, my supervisor, Ray Morgan, fired me two days after discovering that I am Gay. The
day I learned from a fellow employee that my supervisor had discovered that I am Gay, I began to try to talk
to him. He refused all my attempts at communication, and on the third day, he fired me! The termination
came in a cowardly Fed Ex'd letter, with no explanation. The supervisor and the President of the division,
Chuck Nelson, ref used to return my calls ore- mail, following the firing. The letter of termination
instructed me tci use the company credit card to return the equipment and the samples. but when I attempted
to pay the shippers, the card had been canceled! Homophobia is both mean- spirited and cowardly!
The most helpful persons to contact at this company are listed below. The company is a paper manufacturer
which does not sell to the public, but rather through distributors. Their distributors are listed in the local
yellow pages under either Promotional Products Distributors or Specialty Advertising Companies. Their most
challenging competitors are the 3M Company and the Kreiger- Ragsdale Company.
Raymond Morgan, the Vice President who fired me, has been under internal investigation on three occasions
for sexual harassment as brought to light by three women working in his office. On the last complaint, the
Nelson family requested that Mrs. Morgan accompany him to the meeting before the Board!
Homophobia has various relatives!
I realize that we are offered, at this time, no legal protection. But, we can still let people know that this
behavior has got to stop! Thank you for any help you can offer!
Fellow-P- FLAGGER in Houston,
Signed by Dean Luttrell
2686 Murworth Dr. #702
Houston, Tx. 77054
My former company is: Barton Nelson Inc. ( Also known in the industry as "The Bebco Lne")
Mr. Dwight Nelson, President
13700 Wyandotte
Kansas City, MO 64145
( 800) 821- 6697
Local ( 816) 942- 3100
Fax ( 816) 942- 6995
At the same address: Mr. Chuck Nelson, President, Promotional Products Di vision

I'm asking each Chapter to generate at least 10 letters plus phone calls and faxes. Thanks, Dean

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COMMUNITY CALENDAR
A Community Service Broughc co Yot.J by TOHR and Tt.Jlsa Family NevVs

WEEKLY EVENTS

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BLESS 'THr I:ORO AT ALL TIMes
CHRISTIA,lj C!N'r~R • Sunday Scnool 9:45,
Mo1ni119 Wotahlp S•111lc.t 11 :00. 2~7-li
E11111th. Call 583-781~ tor 11110.
BLGA • UnlYtr1Jty or TUIH,
6:30 Q,m .
Canltitlu,y C.nt.er.
COMMUNIT'V OF HOPe (United Methodlal) •
evenlr<1 WorsnI0 Service 8:00. 13'17 Noll/1
Y11t. cau a»-7232 for Info.
f'AMILY OF FAITH MCC. MOlftlng WOii/iip
S11111ic.e 11 :00. $,161-E Sout~ Ml1190. CaU
1122·14"41 for Into.

MCC OF GREATER TULSA • Moml11g
WMhip

Se,vk:,e 10:4~ • 16.?:) Nolth
Maplawood. Cad &J&.171S ror In10.
'TH! MNN!O • Gtv Sand • Pracdc:• WMkly
In OKC. Cal a:38-2121 tor Info,

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!MONDAYS

HIV TESTING • 'foHR CUnle. F,ee and
Anonymou, taating ual~ 11ng,rsll,:Jc rnethod,
No appointment ,equi,ed. WIik In 14111 OOUA:
7:00 • S:30 pm. Ruulta Hou11: 7:00 • 9:00
pm.
Cill
74&-41&4
Info.
~SOA 80WLIN0 LEAGUe , 8owling
b6QI~ et 8:46. snerlclan Lanoa 3121 South
Snttl<hln,

Al/THORITY OF THI! 1:1e1.IEVeR • 8iolo
Swdy 7:00. MCC or Grote, Tull;i 182'
Nonn MapleWcod. Cell OJS-1715 for Info,
BLESS THE 1..0~ AT ALI. TIMES
CHRISTIAN CENTER • Cl\oir Pr;ic.llol 7:00,
2&27-8 eaat 11th. cau 583-7115 for Info.
rAMIL Y OF FAITH MCC • PoUuci( 6:30.
8101-t Slu<fi, 7:00. Chait Praaica 8:00. ~~1 •
Souch Min90, C ■U 62:M4-41 tor Inro.

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MINISTI:R'S CLASS • iloaa the Lotd il Aif
TltnH Cl\riStlan C4nter. 7:30 p.m. 2~7-6
eaa111th. cau 583-781~ to, Into.

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!THURSDAYS

16-STEP !:MPOWERMiNT GROUP FOR
WOMeN • 7:00, Women'• 1uppor1 group.
Community of 1-igpe, 1347 Nonh Yale. Call

&:$8-72:SZ for lnfQ,

co-oePENOeNCY SUPPOR'r OROUP •
Wtekly mNUIIQ 7130. Family ot J"alt/1 MCC.
5-451-E South Mingo. Call 62:2-1441 fO< Info,
HIV TESTINO • 'l'OHR Cijnle. Froo and
Anonymoua taallng ua"1g nngorslld< mothod.
No ;ippointment required. weu,; In tut hours:
7:00 • a:30 pm. R.MUIU HOU/$! 7:00 • g;oo
pm.
Cau
749--4194
for
Info.
PA.AYER TIMe • 7:00 p.m. MCC of Gn!at~r
Tul6a. 18:?3 North M;ipJew00<1. Call aJa.
1715
for
Into.
TULSA FAMII.Y CHOAAU: • WNkly
ptacdce 9::30 om. Lola's. 2830 E. 15tn St.

ISAruRDAYs
NARCOTICS.ANONYMOUS• Moela wNl<ly
at 11 :00 pm. PrOVidH i:onfldenti;ll I U ~
for r«ovorllig add~. Community of Hope.
13'7 NoM YIJ9, Call 838-7232 fQr Info.

JUNE-JULY

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WEONeSOAY
NIGHT
WOMEN'S
SUPPER CLUB • L.a Nortena. &408
Sou1h Peoria. 6:30 p.m.

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OK FLAMeS WOMEN'S BASKETBALL
• Mculn HlGl'I School, $~Cket. 7:30
p.m. Cell bNpor 646-6455 for more
info.

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TULSA PRIDE PICNIC • >-nnuill Gay

Pride C.lebnltlcn held at Mohawlc Patk,
Shell.el' #8. Food./Drlnk/ Enttlrtainment.
AJ•o boolhs and infonnalion dillributlon.
Mlnl,,.,,.l chargaa for food thi1 yMr,
Beer stlU he. 12:00 • 8:00. Ceremony
and -.ichibitlon soilballNoUeyball begin
at 2:00. Call 832-0233 for Info.

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GAY COMEOY NIGHT • Paul J.
'Mlllams w!U appear to benefit TOHR.
$6 Cover • Advan~ tlc:ktts or at the
door. 10:00 p.m. at Conoenions. 3340
South PeOria. Call 744-0886 for ll'lfo.

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Faith member. put ot1 a very large

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TOHR Office. -41 st & H&l\lard. Call
74~2&7 lot Info.

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COMMUNITY CHURCH SERVICES,
o,..wir Tull ■, Speclel for Oay
Pride Week. Also inciudH Femlly ot
Faith MCC and other area churehu.
1623 NoM Maplewood. CAIi 838-1715
MCC of

for Info.

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TOHFt FOLLIES • TOHR's annual
ent.-rtainment extravaganza. Many new
perlormera.
8:00 p.m.
All Soul'a
Unita1ian Churcn. 2932 South Peotla.
CaU 743-4297 torTicket lnformatlon.
WOMEN'S COFFEE HOUSE • Java
Oa11e'1. S310 South P4JOl'ia. 6:30 • 8:00
p.m. Call 8aaper &46-6455 tor more
info.

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FAMILY AIOS SUPPORT GROUP •
Meeting, 6:30 p,m. PFI.AG. 4154
South Ha,vard • Lower LAval. Ciill 58351'47 for Info.
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CANCE CLASS • Community of Hope.
8:00 p.m. 1$47 North Yale. Call 838·
7232 for Info.
!JUNE

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GAY PRIDE PAAAOE, Oklalloma Cily.
AMemble from 12:00. 2:00 at lhe parl<.
Parade end11 at Hebana Inn with 11

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RAINBOW 8USINESS GUILO • Monthly
M..ting 7:00 p,m. Ollve Garden • $10.
CaU 254-2100 for Info.

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Community meeting for Civij Rights for
Lesl:liana & <lays, Every o~aniution
should have a rap1•sentati11e and YOU
NEEO TO SE Tr/ERE. 7:00 • 8:00 p.m.
Downtown Ubrary. L.ectu,e room nnt
to Aaroneon Auditorium. Call 838•2121
for more Info.

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FAMILY AIOS SUPPORT GROUP •
Meeting. 6:30 p.m. PFLAG. 4154
South Harvard • Lowe, UIV4Jl. Call 583-

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DANCE CLASS • Community of Hopo.
8:00 p.m. 1347 North Yale. C11U 838-

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FESTIVAL OF PRAISE. 1st ever MCC
musleal featival (MCC's from OK, TX,
LA),
Lawton, OK.
1:00 • 4:00.
Fo~owe<I by welner roaal FOf Carpool

M..li119 7:00 p.m. Call 254-2100 for

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information call ezz.1441.

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?FLAG 101/102 • Monthly meeting
6:3o-7:30 p.m. 415" South HatVard,
Sta. H. CaU 7-48-4801 (or Info.
SPOUSES •
For spouMs of
Gay/LeaJBI/Trans. 7:00-7:30 p.m. aoelal

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7:30-8:30 meeting. CaU 749-4801 for
Info. Sponsored by PFLAG.

FEEO THE HOMELESS • Community of
Hope. 1347 North Yale. MM! at chureh
al 5:30 p.m. and caravan to Day Center
for the Homeleas. Call 838°7232 for

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TOHR BOARO MEETING. 7:00 p.m.
TOHR Office. 41at & Hatvatd.
Call
743-4297 for Info.

DANCE CLASS • Community of Hope.
p.m. 1347 North Yale. CaJI 838-

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party.

LJULY

7232 fO( Info.

garage ale. Call 622•1441 for address,
etc.

FAMILY OF FAITH SPAGHETTI
DINNER • 5:30 p.m. prior to Goapel
SllllJ. Oonauon, only. 5"461•e South
Mingo, Cell 622-1441 tor Info.

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South Harvard • Lower Level. Call 683-

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COMMUNITY•W10E GOSPEL SING •
Kick off pride WHk With II goapel iing Ill
Family of FaltJi MCC. 54~1-E Soutl'I
Mingo. WIii include MCC Tulsa, BktH
the' Lord II All Tlm•H, Community of
Hope 111d other area churches, Call
622,1441 fer more info.

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MEETING.
Monthly Meetin;. 8::10 Social 7:00 p.m.
1.

TOHR

MeetJng. The Gltl'Ultlng Place. 4164
SoulJ'I t-1ar11ard, Ste. 1-1. Call 743-4297
for Info.

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COUNTRY FOR HUMAN
RIGHTS LeAGUe. Mu1kogee Library.
8:00 p.m. • 9:00 p.m. Write P.O. Box
814 • Muakoge., OK 74402 for mora
Info.

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RAINBOW BUSINESS GUILC • Monthly

Info.

MtSCEl.LANfOUS
GROUP MEt;TINGS
GLAS - Gay & Lesbian Student
Association • TJC Soutileaat Campus.
Call 631-76.32 for info.

LAGPAC • Lesbian end Gay Polltlcal •
Adlon Committee, CaU 838-1i.22 for
Info.

LOG CABIN REPUBLICANS • Gay and
Lesbian Republican Group. Calf 8320233 for Info.
WAN • Single WomE1n'a Activity
Network.
TOHR CLINIC • In addition to Thursday
Clinic: Houri (~e Thuradays), offe"
daytime testing by appoln~nt Monday

• Thu11day from 10 am • ~ p.m. Call
740-4194 for appointmant.
TOHR HELPLINE • Staffed daily 8:00
p.m. • 10:00 p.m. Call 743-GAYS.
TULSA • Tulaa Uniform and Leather
SeeMrt Aaaoelallon. Call 838-1222 for
Info.
WEONESOAY
NIGHT
WOMeN'S
SUPPER CI.UB • Maeta et varying
ioeatlona 1h11 2nd o, 3rd Wednesday of
each month.

Oo you have a group or event that •hould be //$tad in the TOHR Community Calendar? If so, plHH call u• at 838-2121.
Every elfol'I WH rnada ID •llfure 111e ac:cut&"f and compleieneea of lilla e.alendar. nowever, nettr.er Tuia, family New11 nor TOHR a.uumea 1e11pons1bility for errors or omlesi0n.s.

PFLAG
Parents. Families. and Friends of Lesbians and Gays
July 1995 Volume IV Number 5

14th International PFLAG Convention',
September 29 to October 1, 1995 at the
Indianapolis Hyatt Regency
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Family AIDS Support Group
6:30 PM
Wednesday July 5 and Wednesday July 19

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Enjoy Labor Day at Home in 1995.
And come to Indianapolis on Friday, September 29 for the 14th
International PFLAG Convention. Almost everybody is glad that the
1995 PFLAG Convention has been shifted away from Labor Day
weekend. We hope you can begin~ to plan now to be in Indianapolis for
the lndy95 Convention.
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The Convention begins on Friday afternoon, September 29 and ends
on Sunday afternoon, October 1. The sightly shorter schedule allows
the saving of one night of hotel lodging for most delegates and enables
us to make even better use of our time.
Mel White will be the keynote speaker. A frequent speaker at Human i
Rights Campaign Fund dinner and conventions and an ordained minister,
Mel is also a much published writer and a film producer. Mel is now
dean of the Cathedral of Hope in Dallas, TX, the largest gay and lesbian ,
congregation in the world. he comes to lndy95 with great appreciation
for PFL.AG having dedicated Stranger at the Gate to PFLAG. He
carries much concern for the spiritual nurturing of gay and lesbian
persons and their families and brings deep concern fro the safety of gay
and lesbian persons and their families in light of the declaration of war
made against homosexual persons by leaders of the radical right. He is
an inspiring and interesting speaker.
lndy95 has a strong focus on education - the second leg of PFLAG's .
'. hree legged stool of purpose. Though the convention will stand on all
·hree legs -support, education and advocacy. Friday's focus will be on
3upport and Sunday's emphasis will center in on Advocacy. Saturday,
he major full day of the convention, will keep zeroed in on Education and
rraining all day long.
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Here's the schedule for the 1995 convention:
Friday, September 29, 1995
"We Support as We Listen"
8:3:J
Registration & Check-In
4:00 • 5:30
Interest Groups and SkillShops
8:00
KeyNote Program with Mel White
9:30
_Hospitalfy/Community Building.Centers
Saturday; September 30, 1995
"We Educate Toward Love and Acceptance"
8:00 - 9:30
KickOff Program for All
10:00 - 3:30
Seminars
12:15
Special Interest Luncheons
4:00
Annual PFLAG Meeting
7-:JO
DinnerCelebration
Sunday, October 1, 1995
''We Focus on Advocacy- Equal Rights for Air'
8:00
Community Celebration
9:30
Forums on Issues and Opportunities
11 :45
Luncheon Program
2:30
It's All Over!

Call for location

PFLAG/Tulsa's Family AIDS Project, HIVRC, and
the Tulsa Visiting Nurse's Association provide a
bimonthly support group for f am.ilies with members
who are living with HIV/ AIDS. These sessions are
facilitated by a professional counselor who has
experience in AIDS related concerns. If you or a
loved one are dealing with HIV/ AIDS you are most
welcome at these meetings.
Oklahoma Congressional Delegation

U.S. Senator Don Nickles
133 Hart
.JJ.S. Senate
··washington, D.C. 20510
202-224-5754

U.S. Rep. Steve Largent
410Cannon
U.S. House of Reps.
Washington, D.C. 20515
202-225-2211

3310 Mid-Continent Tower
409 So. Boston
Tulsa, OK 74103
918-581-7651

2424 East 21st, Suite 510
Tulsa, OK 74114
918-749-0014

U.S. Senator Jim Inhofe
453 Russell
U.S. Senate
Washington, D.C. 20510
202-224-4721

1924 So. Utica, Suite 530
Tulsa, OK 74104
918-748-5111

U.S.Rep.TomCobum
SllCannon
U.S. House of Reps.
Washington, D.C. 20515
202-225-2701

215 State Street, Suite 815
Muskogee, OK 74401
916-687-2533

PFLAG
Parents. Families. and Friends of Lesbians and Gaus
July 1995 Volume IV Number 5

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Among Family: If your gay child's partner answers the phone when
you call, take the time to exchange a few words. It will mean m:>re
than you know.

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tohr Reporter
Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights. P.O. Box 52729. Tulsa, 74152
July 1995 Volume 15 Number 6

Letter from the President
I hope you are enjoying our new look. We have rejoined the
ranks of monthly newsletter publishers. This will allow T.OH.R.
to share more of our ideas and thoughts with the membership
and allow space for our membership to share with us. The
newsletter will provide space to cover topics of interest to our
membership and be a useful tool in organizing future projects
for the organization. Sort of a direct line to the community
center and its programs.
This first issue is a trial run with PFLAG to see how efficient we
can be in producing a community center newsletter. We are
able to combine efforts and reduce costs for both organizations.
We hope that in the future we will be able to have participation
from other non-profit groups with information that affects our
community. Let us know what you think. This newsletter will be
taking the place of the Tulsa Family News as your monthly
information source. To continue to receive the Tulsa Family
News, one should subscribe to the publication directly.
I hope you made it to the Pride Picnic, it was a great time . The
weather was beautiful and the turnout great. Thanks to the
Pride Picnic committee for the great event. The committee has
expressed an interest in turning this event over to T.OH.R.., to
which the board has agreed and will present to the membership
at the July 11th meeting for a vote.
As always we need your participation to implement new
programs and fun events for our community. If you have a
talent or skill to share please let us know.
-Tim

HELPLINE:
Reuben Garcia has announced a party for the helpline
volunteers. All volunteers are invited to attend the party July
17th. Look for details in your mailbox soon.
LIFEGUARD:
The lifeguard program is starting again! The first session
HEAT will be held July 11th call 742-2927 for more
information. This series will be a provocative educational
experience for men. Learn how HIV prevention can be
exciting and erotic.

tohr Reporter
Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights. P.O. Box 52729. Tulsa. 74152
July 1995 Volume IS Number 6

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Monday and Thursday Evenings
7:00 - 8:30 for Testing
7 :00 - 9:00 for Results
Daytime testing
Monday - Thursday
By appointment.
4154 South Harvard, Suite H- 1
Call for directions, 74g~ 4194

'By~{or, btd"not"~f!/t"O-the,~ ~ . ~~
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HELPLINE: Bisexual, Lesbian, and Gay Information and
Referrals. 743-GAYS (4297)
TORR Membership Application

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TOHR. Please accept payment as described
below:
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S20 Regular Membership
S35 Organizational/Household Membership
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Event planning and party preparations
Lesbian/Gay/Bisexual Helpline
Executive Board Member
Monthly Meeting Support

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UCO Women's Research & BGLTQ+ Cen!er

100 N. University Dr
Edmond, OK 73034

Please detach and mail the bottom of this page to: P.O. Box 52729, Tulsa, 74152



Community ( Center) News .
July 1995

Volume 1, Issue 1
Community Newsletter Begins!

Welcome to the first issue of the Community ( Center) News. In the .interest of serving a larger portion of
our community without duplication of effort, the Community ( Center) News was born. In this first issue, a
cooperative effort between PFLAG and T.OJI.R., a new era of communication and information for the Tulsa
community has been realized.
This Newsletter is the beginning of what will later become an indispensable vehicle for the Community
Center to keep its members and patrons informed about the activities and resources available through our
non- profit organizations. We hope to be joined by other non- profits in the production of this newsletter so
that it might serve a broader audience, and will become a powerful a venue for non- profits to inform the
community while sharing expenses.
Let us hear from you. If you are a member of PFLAG or T.011.R. and have just received this newsletter,
please call us and let us know what you think, or if you are a non- profit organization that would like to
participate in our newsletter, we may be reached at the T.OJI.R. helpline number, 743-4297. We
appreciate your input and as always your support of our organizations.

We will he dropping the parentheses in the title, Community ( Center) News when the new center is opened.
Your donation to the hwJding fund will help make this center a reality.

Inside
PFLAG Newsletter
T.O.H.R. Reporter
Community Ca.lendar

tohr Reporter
Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights, P.O. Box 52729, Tulsa. 74152
July 1995 Volume 15 Number 6

fifteenth Anniversary Follies
Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights will present the l 5th
Anniversary production of TOHR Follies, Friday, June 30th.
The TOHR follies has consistently been one of the
organization's largest f W1d- raisers of the year. The l 5th
..\nniversary production theme "Priscilla" was inspired by the
recent popular movie, and promises several over- the- top
nwnbers sure to deLght audiences.
Lynn Smith, TOHR FW1d- Raising Chair and his Follies CoCha1r, Renee Anthony, have assembled a group of
unparalleled entertainers for the evening. Linda and Stevens
and Friends will bring several of their nwnbers from the Follies
Revue to the TOHR Follies, delighting audiences with their Lve
vocal re nditions. Bill Lewis ( aka Lola McCall) has assembled
his Lola's Girls, who will recreate several of the production
nwnbers from the movie Priscilla. Tulsa legend, Raghenna,
will return to T- Town to spice up this special event, and long
time Follies Contributor, Danny Hale, will again appear. The
recently formed Tulsa Family Choral is also scheduled to
perform.
Tickets for the evening are $8 in advance and $10 at the door.
Tickets are .available at several Tulsa area businesses,
includi ng Budget Window Treatments, Tomfoolery, and floral
Design Studios. Doors open at 7:30 pm and the production
begins at 8pm. The evening will conclude at 10pm, and
includes a cash bar. Seating is Lmited to a maximum of 200
people and the event will take place at All Souls Unitarian
Church, 2952 S Peoria.
John Rothrock and Steve Walley, the owners of the Silver Star
Saloon. have donated the use of their spotlight for the
produc tion, and Charles DJ 8W1ny Campbell has donated the
sound system. Other assistance is needed with the event, and
those wishing to volW1teer or obtain additional information
should call, 918.743.4297.

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So Long--Farewell
Sadly we are losing our 1st Vice President, Tim Henry.
Tim has been transferred to Houston and will be moving
soon. We would like to thank Tim for his hard work and
support ofT.O.H.R .. We will miss Tim and wish him
the best of lick in his new position.

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Welcome
To fill the vacancy left by Tim ' s departure the
nominating committee has indicated they will submit the
name of Debbie Starnes. Debbie is a past president of
T.O.H.R. and is a grant writer by profession. Debbie' s
knowledge will be a great asset to the organization. We
will be voting on her nomination at the July 11th
meeting. Nominations will also be accepted from the
floor at this meeting.

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We need a computer
T. O.H.R. is in need of a computer for our helpline
. 'database as well as one for the clinic. We need to track
these numbers to be effective in our grant writing and in
our lobbying of city officials. So if you know anyone who
has a computer they are not using or someone who w~uld
just like to donate to a worthy cause, give them our
number. It would help if the computer had ample
memory and speed to run Windows applications.

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Picnic on Bartlett Square
The August 1st meeting ofT.O.H.R. will be held on
Bartlett Square. This is the third annual Dance and
Picnic on Bartlett Square. Soft drinks and music are
provided at no cost to you. Join us from 7-10 PM. Don't
forget to brin~a snack

Community Center
Monthly Pledges

Canter Stage - Ona Time Donations

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$300-$749
$100-$299
Other

Detach and mail to: TOHR. PO Box 52729,
Tulsa, 74152

PFLAG
Parents. Families. and Friends of Lesbians and Gays
July 1995 Volume IV Number 5
Ne wsletter of the Tulsa Chapter of Parents, Family, and Friends of Lesbians and Gays
P.O. Box 52800 Tulsa, OK 74152
Helpline 918- 749- 4901
Regular meetings: Second Monday of the month
Family AIDS Support Group: First and Third Wednesday of the month .

July Meeting
Monday , July 10 1995
Quadrangle Building
4154 South Harvard, Suite H
6:30 - 7 :45 PM
PFLAG 101 and PFLAG 102
PFLAG 101 is a group designed to
support new parents and members as they
begin their journey to accepting and
supporting their lesbian and gay loved
ones.
PFLAG 102 is a new group for those who
have "graduated" from PFLAG 101, but
who would like to meet in a small,
supportive setting to discuss matters and
topics on a more personal level than is
sometimes possible in the larger, general
meeting. Everyone is invited to attend.
SPOUSES, led by Carolyn Wood, is a
new group forming to support straight
spouses of gays and lesbians.
8:00 PM
General Meeting and Program
July program, "Our Stories," will
involve PFLAG parents as they share
their personal stories about their child
coming out and how they responded.

Sharing - Discussion - Questions Answers

ABOUT PFLAG
Parents, Family, and Friends of Lesbians and
Gays (PFI.AG) is a not for profit, tax exempt,
all volunteer, community-based organization
of parents, other relatives and friends of
lesbian and gay persons. PFLAG is not
affiliated with any ethnic, religious or
political group. PFLAG/ Tulsa is a member of
the international federation of the same
name.
•

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• OUR PURPOSES AND GOALS ARE TO:
T Provide a support system for families and
friends of lesbians and gay men in an effort
to understand, accept and support their
children with love and pride,
T Provide education for individuals and the
community at large on the nature of
homosexuality, and
- T Support the full human and civil rights of
lesbians and gay men.

14th International PFLAG
Convention
September 29 - October 1
For Registration & Convention Information,
please contact:

I116'Jr95
P.O. Box 1406
Anderson, IN 46015-1406
Phone/Fax (317) 644-3570 Email:
kgprunty@aol.com

PFLAG
Parents. Families, and Friends of Lesbians and Gays
July 1995 Volume IV Number 5

May 17, 1995
Dear P- FLAG Family:
I write to notify you of a situation which merits swift responses from as many people in your chapter as
possible!
On March 30, 1995, my supervisor, Ray Morgan, fired me two days after discovering that I am Gay. The
day I learned from a fellow employee that my supervisor had discovered that I am Gay, I began to try to talk
to him. He refused all my attempts at communication, and on the third day, he fired me! The termination
came in a cowardly Fed Ex'd letter, with no explanation. The supervisor and the President of the division,
Chuck Nelson, ref used to return my calls ore- mail, following the firing. The letter of termination
instructed me tci use the company credit card to return the equipment and the samples. but when I attempted
to pay the shippers, the card had been canceled! Homophobia is both mean- spirited and cowardly!
The most helpful persons to contact at this company are listed below. The company is a paper manufacturer
which does not sell to the public, but rather through distributors. Their distributors are listed in the local
yellow pages under either Promotional Products Distributors or Specialty Advertising Companies. Their most
challenging competitors are the 3M Company and the Kreiger- Ragsdale Company.
Raymond Morgan, the Vice President who fired me, has been under internal investigation on three occasions
for sexual harassment as brought to light by three women working in his office. On the last complaint, the
Nelson family requested that Mrs. Morgan accompany him to the meeting before the Board!
Homophobia has various relatives!
I realize that we are offered, at this time, no legal protection. But, we can still let people know that this
behavior has got to stop! Thank you for any help you can offer!
Fellow-P- FLAGGER in Houston,
Signed by Dean Luttrell
2686 Murworth Dr. #702
Houston, Tx. 77054
My former company is: Barton Nelson Inc. ( Also known in the industry as "The Bebco Lne")
Mr. Dwight Nelson, President
13700 Wyandotte
Kansas City, MO 64145
( 800) 821- 6697
Local ( 816) 942- 3100
Fax ( 816) 942- 6995
At the same address: Mr. Chuck Nelson, President, Promotional Products Di vision

I'm asking each Chapter to generate at least 10 letters plus phone calls and faxes. Thanks, Dean

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COMMUNITY CALENDAR
A Community Service Broughc co Yot.J by TOHR and Tt.Jlsa Family NevVs

WEEKLY EVENTS

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BLESS 'THr I:ORO AT ALL TIMes
CHRISTIA,lj C!N'r~R • Sunday Scnool 9:45,
Mo1ni119 Wotahlp S•111lc.t 11 :00. 2~7-li
E11111th. Call 583-781~ tor 11110.
BLGA • UnlYtr1Jty or TUIH,
6:30 Q,m .
Canltitlu,y C.nt.er.
COMMUNIT'V OF HOPe (United Methodlal) •
evenlr<1 WorsnI0 Service 8:00. 13'17 Noll/1
Y11t. cau a»-7232 for Info.
f'AMILY OF FAITH MCC. MOlftlng WOii/iip
S11111ic.e 11 :00. $,161-E Sout~ Ml1190. CaU
1122·14"41 for Into.

MCC OF GREATER TULSA • Moml11g
WMhip

Se,vk:,e 10:4~ • 16.?:) Nolth
Maplawood. Cad &J&.171S ror In10.
'TH! MNN!O • Gtv Sand • Pracdc:• WMkly
In OKC. Cal a:38-2121 tor Info,

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!MONDAYS

HIV TESTING • 'foHR CUnle. F,ee and
Anonymou, taating ual~ 11ng,rsll,:Jc rnethod,
No appointment ,equi,ed. WIik In 14111 OOUA:
7:00 • S:30 pm. Ruulta Hou11: 7:00 • 9:00
pm.
Cill
74&-41&4
Info.
~SOA 80WLIN0 LEAGUe , 8owling
b6QI~ et 8:46. snerlclan Lanoa 3121 South
Snttl<hln,

Al/THORITY OF THI! 1:1e1.IEVeR • 8iolo
Swdy 7:00. MCC or Grote, Tull;i 182'
Nonn MapleWcod. Cell OJS-1715 for Info,
BLESS THE 1..0~ AT ALI. TIMES
CHRISTIAN CENTER • Cl\oir Pr;ic.llol 7:00,
2&27-8 eaat 11th. cau 583-7115 for Info.
rAMIL Y OF FAITH MCC • PoUuci( 6:30.
8101-t Slu<fi, 7:00. Chait Praaica 8:00. ~~1 •
Souch Min90, C ■U 62:M4-41 tor Inro.

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MINISTI:R'S CLASS • iloaa the Lotd il Aif
TltnH Cl\riStlan C4nter. 7:30 p.m. 2~7-6
eaa111th. cau 583-781~ to, Into.

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16-STEP !:MPOWERMiNT GROUP FOR
WOMeN • 7:00, Women'• 1uppor1 group.
Community of 1-igpe, 1347 Nonh Yale. Call

&:$8-72:SZ for lnfQ,

co-oePENOeNCY SUPPOR'r OROUP •
Wtekly mNUIIQ 7130. Family ot J"alt/1 MCC.
5-451-E South Mingo. Call 62:2-1441 fO< Info,
HIV TESTINO • 'l'OHR Cijnle. Froo and
Anonymoua taallng ua"1g nngorslld< mothod.
No ;ippointment required. weu,; In tut hours:
7:00 • a:30 pm. R.MUIU HOU/$! 7:00 • g;oo
pm.
Cau
749--4194
for
Info.
PA.AYER TIMe • 7:00 p.m. MCC of Gn!at~r
Tul6a. 18:?3 North M;ipJew00<1. Call aJa.
1715
for
Into.
TULSA FAMII.Y CHOAAU: • WNkly
ptacdce 9::30 om. Lola's. 2830 E. 15tn St.

ISAruRDAYs
NARCOTICS.ANONYMOUS• Moela wNl<ly
at 11 :00 pm. PrOVidH i:onfldenti;ll I U ~
for r«ovorllig add~. Community of Hope.
13'7 NoM YIJ9, Call 838-7232 fQr Info.

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WEONeSOAY
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WOMEN'S
SUPPER CLUB • L.a Nortena. &408
Sou1h Peoria. 6:30 p.m.

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OK FLAMeS WOMEN'S BASKETBALL
• Mculn HlGl'I School, $~Cket. 7:30
p.m. Cell bNpor 646-6455 for more
info.

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Pride C.lebnltlcn held at Mohawlc Patk,
Shell.el' #8. Food./Drlnk/ Enttlrtainment.
AJ•o boolhs and infonnalion dillributlon.
Mlnl,,.,,.l chargaa for food thi1 yMr,
Beer stlU he. 12:00 • 8:00. Ceremony
and -.ichibitlon soilballNoUeyball begin
at 2:00. Call 832-0233 for Info.

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GAY COMEOY NIGHT • Paul J.
'Mlllams w!U appear to benefit TOHR.
$6 Cover • Advan~ tlc:ktts or at the
door. 10:00 p.m. at Conoenions. 3340
South PeOria. Call 744-0886 for ll'lfo.

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Faith member. put ot1 a very large

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TOHR Office. -41 st & H&l\lard. Call
74~2&7 lot Info.

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COMMUNITY CHURCH SERVICES,
o,..wir Tull ■, Speclel for Oay
Pride Week. Also inciudH Femlly ot
Faith MCC and other area churehu.
1623 NoM Maplewood. CAIi 838-1715
MCC of

for Info.

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TOHFt FOLLIES • TOHR's annual
ent.-rtainment extravaganza. Many new
perlormera.
8:00 p.m.
All Soul'a
Unita1ian Churcn. 2932 South Peotla.
CaU 743-4297 torTicket lnformatlon.
WOMEN'S COFFEE HOUSE • Java
Oa11e'1. S310 South P4JOl'ia. 6:30 • 8:00
p.m. Call 8aaper &46-6455 tor more
info.

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FAMILY AIOS SUPPORT GROUP •
Meeting, 6:30 p,m. PFI.AG. 4154
South Ha,vard • Lower LAval. Ciill 58351'47 for Info.
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CANCE CLASS • Community of Hope.
8:00 p.m. 1$47 North Yale. Call 838·
7232 for Info.
!JUNE

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GAY PRIDE PAAAOE, Oklalloma Cily.
AMemble from 12:00. 2:00 at lhe parl<.
Parade end11 at Hebana Inn with 11

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RAINBOW 8USINESS GUILO • Monthly
M..ting 7:00 p,m. Ollve Garden • $10.
CaU 254-2100 for Info.

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Community meeting for Civij Rights for
Lesl:liana & <lays, Every o~aniution
should have a rap1•sentati11e and YOU
NEEO TO SE Tr/ERE. 7:00 • 8:00 p.m.
Downtown Ubrary. L.ectu,e room nnt
to Aaroneon Auditorium. Call 838•2121
for more Info.

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FAMILY AIOS SUPPORT GROUP •
Meeting. 6:30 p.m. PFLAG. 4154
South Harvard • Lowe, UIV4Jl. Call 583-

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DANCE CLASS • Community of Hopo.
8:00 p.m. 1347 North Yale. C11U 838-

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FESTIVAL OF PRAISE. 1st ever MCC
musleal featival (MCC's from OK, TX,
LA),
Lawton, OK.
1:00 • 4:00.
Fo~owe<I by welner roaal FOf Carpool

M..li119 7:00 p.m. Call 254-2100 for

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information call ezz.1441.

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6:3o-7:30 p.m. 415" South HatVard,
Sta. H. CaU 7-48-4801 (or Info.
SPOUSES •
For spouMs of
Gay/LeaJBI/Trans. 7:00-7:30 p.m. aoelal

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7:30-8:30 meeting. CaU 749-4801 for
Info. Sponsored by PFLAG.

FEEO THE HOMELESS • Community of
Hope. 1347 North Yale. MM! at chureh
al 5:30 p.m. and caravan to Day Center
for the Homeleas. Call 838°7232 for

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TOHR BOARO MEETING. 7:00 p.m.
TOHR Office. 41at & Hatvatd.
Call
743-4297 for Info.

DANCE CLASS • Community of Hope.
p.m. 1347 North Yale. CaJI 838-

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LJULY

7232 fO( Info.

garage ale. Call 622•1441 for address,
etc.

FAMILY OF FAITH SPAGHETTI
DINNER • 5:30 p.m. prior to Goapel
SllllJ. Oonauon, only. 5"461•e South
Mingo, Cell 622-1441 tor Info.

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South Harvard • Lower Level. Call 683-

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COMMUNITY•W10E GOSPEL SING •
Kick off pride WHk With II goapel iing Ill
Family of FaltJi MCC. 54~1-E Soutl'I
Mingo. WIii include MCC Tulsa, BktH
the' Lord II All Tlm•H, Community of
Hope 111d other area churches, Call
622,1441 fer more info.

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MEETING.
Monthly Meetin;. 8::10 Social 7:00 p.m.
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TOHR

MeetJng. The Gltl'Ultlng Place. 4164
SoulJ'I t-1ar11ard, Ste. 1-1. Call 743-4297
for Info.

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COUNTRY FOR HUMAN
RIGHTS LeAGUe. Mu1kogee Library.
8:00 p.m. • 9:00 p.m. Write P.O. Box
814 • Muakoge., OK 74402 for mora
Info.

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RAINBOW BUSINESS GUILC • Monthly

Info.

MtSCEl.LANfOUS
GROUP MEt;TINGS
GLAS - Gay & Lesbian Student
Association • TJC Soutileaat Campus.
Call 631-76.32 for info.

LAGPAC • Lesbian end Gay Polltlcal •
Adlon Committee, CaU 838-1i.22 for
Info.

LOG CABIN REPUBLICANS • Gay and
Lesbian Republican Group. Calf 8320233 for Info.
WAN • Single WomE1n'a Activity
Network.
TOHR CLINIC • In addition to Thursday
Clinic: Houri (~e Thuradays), offe"
daytime testing by appoln~nt Monday

• Thu11day from 10 am • ~ p.m. Call
740-4194 for appointmant.
TOHR HELPLINE • Staffed daily 8:00
p.m. • 10:00 p.m. Call 743-GAYS.
TULSA • Tulaa Uniform and Leather
SeeMrt Aaaoelallon. Call 838-1222 for
Info.
WEONESOAY
NIGHT
WOMeN'S
SUPPER CI.UB • Maeta et varying
ioeatlona 1h11 2nd o, 3rd Wednesday of
each month.

Oo you have a group or event that •hould be //$tad in the TOHR Community Calendar? If so, plHH call u• at 838-2121.
Every elfol'I WH rnada ID •llfure 111e ac:cut&"f and compleieneea of lilla e.alendar. nowever, nettr.er Tuia, family New11 nor TOHR a.uumea 1e11pons1bility for errors or omlesi0n.s.

PFLAG
Parents. Families. and Friends of Lesbians and Gays
July 1995 Volume IV Number 5

14th International PFLAG Convention',
September 29 to October 1, 1995 at the
Indianapolis Hyatt Regency
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Family AIDS Support Group
6:30 PM
Wednesday July 5 and Wednesday July 19

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Enjoy Labor Day at Home in 1995.
And come to Indianapolis on Friday, September 29 for the 14th
International PFLAG Convention. Almost everybody is glad that the
1995 PFLAG Convention has been shifted away from Labor Day
weekend. We hope you can begin~ to plan now to be in Indianapolis for
the lndy95 Convention.
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The Convention begins on Friday afternoon, September 29 and ends
on Sunday afternoon, October 1. The sightly shorter schedule allows
the saving of one night of hotel lodging for most delegates and enables
us to make even better use of our time.
Mel White will be the keynote speaker. A frequent speaker at Human i
Rights Campaign Fund dinner and conventions and an ordained minister,
Mel is also a much published writer and a film producer. Mel is now
dean of the Cathedral of Hope in Dallas, TX, the largest gay and lesbian ,
congregation in the world. he comes to lndy95 with great appreciation
for PFL.AG having dedicated Stranger at the Gate to PFLAG. He
carries much concern for the spiritual nurturing of gay and lesbian
persons and their families and brings deep concern fro the safety of gay
and lesbian persons and their families in light of the declaration of war
made against homosexual persons by leaders of the radical right. He is
an inspiring and interesting speaker.
lndy95 has a strong focus on education - the second leg of PFLAG's .
'. hree legged stool of purpose. Though the convention will stand on all
·hree legs -support, education and advocacy. Friday's focus will be on
3upport and Sunday's emphasis will center in on Advocacy. Saturday,
he major full day of the convention, will keep zeroed in on Education and
rraining all day long.
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Here's the schedule for the 1995 convention:
Friday, September 29, 1995
"We Support as We Listen"
8:3:J
Registration & Check-In
4:00 • 5:30
Interest Groups and SkillShops
8:00
KeyNote Program with Mel White
9:30
_Hospitalfy/Community Building.Centers
Saturday; September 30, 1995
"We Educate Toward Love and Acceptance"
8:00 - 9:30
KickOff Program for All
10:00 - 3:30
Seminars
12:15
Special Interest Luncheons
4:00
Annual PFLAG Meeting
7-:JO
DinnerCelebration
Sunday, October 1, 1995
''We Focus on Advocacy- Equal Rights for Air'
8:00
Community Celebration
9:30
Forums on Issues and Opportunities
11 :45
Luncheon Program
2:30
It's All Over!

Call for location

PFLAG/Tulsa's Family AIDS Project, HIVRC, and
the Tulsa Visiting Nurse's Association provide a
bimonthly support group for f am.ilies with members
who are living with HIV/ AIDS. These sessions are
facilitated by a professional counselor who has
experience in AIDS related concerns. If you or a
loved one are dealing with HIV/ AIDS you are most
welcome at these meetings.
Oklahoma Congressional Delegation

U.S. Senator Don Nickles
133 Hart
.JJ.S. Senate
··washington, D.C. 20510
202-224-5754

U.S. Rep. Steve Largent
410Cannon
U.S. House of Reps.
Washington, D.C. 20515
202-225-2211

3310 Mid-Continent Tower
409 So. Boston
Tulsa, OK 74103
918-581-7651

2424 East 21st, Suite 510
Tulsa, OK 74114
918-749-0014

U.S. Senator Jim Inhofe
453 Russell
U.S. Senate
Washington, D.C. 20510
202-224-4721

1924 So. Utica, Suite 530
Tulsa, OK 74104
918-748-5111

U.S.Rep.TomCobum
SllCannon
U.S. House of Reps.
Washington, D.C. 20515
202-225-2701

215 State Street, Suite 815
Muskogee, OK 74401
916-687-2533

PFLAG
Parents. Families. and Friends of Lesbians and Gaus
July 1995 Volume IV Number 5

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WAY THEY ARE

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Available for all your business and
personal tax and accounting needs

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Tulsa, OK 74146

PO Box 14011, Tulsa, OK 74159
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you call, take the time to exchange a few words. It will mean m:>re
than you know.

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tohr Reporter
Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights. P.O. Box 52729. Tulsa, 74152
July 1995 Volume 15 Number 6

Letter from the President
I hope you are enjoying our new look. We have rejoined the
ranks of monthly newsletter publishers. This will allow T.OH.R.
to share more of our ideas and thoughts with the membership
and allow space for our membership to share with us. The
newsletter will provide space to cover topics of interest to our
membership and be a useful tool in organizing future projects
for the organization. Sort of a direct line to the community
center and its programs.
This first issue is a trial run with PFLAG to see how efficient we
can be in producing a community center newsletter. We are
able to combine efforts and reduce costs for both organizations.
We hope that in the future we will be able to have participation
from other non-profit groups with information that affects our
community. Let us know what you think. This newsletter will be
taking the place of the Tulsa Family News as your monthly
information source. To continue to receive the Tulsa Family
News, one should subscribe to the publication directly.
I hope you made it to the Pride Picnic, it was a great time . The
weather was beautiful and the turnout great. Thanks to the
Pride Picnic committee for the great event. The committee has
expressed an interest in turning this event over to T.OH.R.., to
which the board has agreed and will present to the membership
at the July 11th meeting for a vote.
As always we need your participation to implement new
programs and fun events for our community. If you have a
talent or skill to share please let us know.
-Tim

HELPLINE:
Reuben Garcia has announced a party for the helpline
volunteers. All volunteers are invited to attend the party July
17th. Look for details in your mailbox soon.
LIFEGUARD:
The lifeguard program is starting again! The first session
HEAT will be held July 11th call 742-2927 for more
information. This series will be a provocative educational
experience for men. Learn how HIV prevention can be
exciting and erotic.

tohr Reporter
Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights. P.O. Box 52729. Tulsa. 74152
July 1995 Volume IS Number 6

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Please detach and mail the bottom of this page to: P.O. Box 52729, Tulsa, 74152



Community ( Center) News .
July 1995

Volume 1, Issue 1
Community Newsletter Begins!

Welcome to the first issue of the Community ( Center) News. In the .interest of serving a larger portion of
our community without duplication of effort, the Community ( Center) News was born. In this first issue, a
cooperative effort between PFLAG and T.OJI.R., a new era of communication and information for the Tulsa
community has been realized.
This Newsletter is the beginning of what will later become an indispensable vehicle for the Community
Center to keep its members and patrons informed about the activities and resources available through our
non- profit organizations. We hope to be joined by other non- profits in the production of this newsletter so
that it might serve a broader audience, and will become a powerful a venue for non- profits to inform the
community while sharing expenses.
Let us hear from you. If you are a member of PFLAG or T.011.R. and have just received this newsletter,
please call us and let us know what you think, or if you are a non- profit organization that would like to
participate in our newsletter, we may be reached at the T.OJI.R. helpline number, 743-4297. We
appreciate your input and as always your support of our organizations.

We will he dropping the parentheses in the title, Community ( Center) News when the new center is opened.
Your donation to the hwJding fund will help make this center a reality.

Inside
PFLAG Newsletter
T.O.H.R. Reporter
Community Ca.lendar

tohr Reporter
Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights, P.O. Box 52729, Tulsa. 74152
July 1995 Volume 15 Number 6

fifteenth Anniversary Follies
Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights will present the l 5th
Anniversary production of TOHR Follies, Friday, June 30th.
The TOHR follies has consistently been one of the
organization's largest f W1d- raisers of the year. The l 5th
..\nniversary production theme "Priscilla" was inspired by the
recent popular movie, and promises several over- the- top
nwnbers sure to deLght audiences.
Lynn Smith, TOHR FW1d- Raising Chair and his Follies CoCha1r, Renee Anthony, have assembled a group of
unparalleled entertainers for the evening. Linda and Stevens
and Friends will bring several of their nwnbers from the Follies
Revue to the TOHR Follies, delighting audiences with their Lve
vocal re nditions. Bill Lewis ( aka Lola McCall) has assembled
his Lola's Girls, who will recreate several of the production
nwnbers from the movie Priscilla. Tulsa legend, Raghenna,
will return to T- Town to spice up this special event, and long
time Follies Contributor, Danny Hale, will again appear. The
recently formed Tulsa Family Choral is also scheduled to
perform.
Tickets for the evening are $8 in advance and $10 at the door.
Tickets are .available at several Tulsa area businesses,
includi ng Budget Window Treatments, Tomfoolery, and floral
Design Studios. Doors open at 7:30 pm and the production
begins at 8pm. The evening will conclude at 10pm, and
includes a cash bar. Seating is Lmited to a maximum of 200
people and the event will take place at All Souls Unitarian
Church, 2952 S Peoria.
John Rothrock and Steve Walley, the owners of the Silver Star
Saloon. have donated the use of their spotlight for the
produc tion, and Charles DJ 8W1ny Campbell has donated the
sound system. Other assistance is needed with the event, and
those wishing to volW1teer or obtain additional information
should call, 918.743.4297.

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So Long--Farewell
Sadly we are losing our 1st Vice President, Tim Henry.
Tim has been transferred to Houston and will be moving
soon. We would like to thank Tim for his hard work and
support ofT.O.H.R .. We will miss Tim and wish him
the best of lick in his new position.

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Welcome
To fill the vacancy left by Tim ' s departure the
nominating committee has indicated they will submit the
name of Debbie Starnes. Debbie is a past president of
T.O.H.R. and is a grant writer by profession. Debbie' s
knowledge will be a great asset to the organization. We
will be voting on her nomination at the July 11th
meeting. Nominations will also be accepted from the
floor at this meeting.

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We need a computer
T. O.H.R. is in need of a computer for our helpline
. 'database as well as one for the clinic. We need to track
these numbers to be effective in our grant writing and in
our lobbying of city officials. So if you know anyone who
has a computer they are not using or someone who w~uld
just like to donate to a worthy cause, give them our
number. It would help if the computer had ample
memory and speed to run Windows applications.

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Picnic on Bartlett Square
The August 1st meeting ofT.O.H.R. will be held on
Bartlett Square. This is the third annual Dance and
Picnic on Bartlett Square. Soft drinks and music are
provided at no cost to you. Join us from 7-10 PM. Don't
forget to brin~a snack

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PFLAG
Parents. Families. and Friends of Lesbians and Gays
July 1995 Volume IV Number 5
Ne wsletter of the Tulsa Chapter of Parents, Family, and Friends of Lesbians and Gays
P.O. Box 52800 Tulsa, OK 74152
Helpline 918- 749- 4901
Regular meetings: Second Monday of the month
Family AIDS Support Group: First and Third Wednesday of the month .

July Meeting
Monday , July 10 1995
Quadrangle Building
4154 South Harvard, Suite H
6:30 - 7 :45 PM
PFLAG 101 and PFLAG 102
PFLAG 101 is a group designed to
support new parents and members as they
begin their journey to accepting and
supporting their lesbian and gay loved
ones.
PFLAG 102 is a new group for those who
have "graduated" from PFLAG 101, but
who would like to meet in a small,
supportive setting to discuss matters and
topics on a more personal level than is
sometimes possible in the larger, general
meeting. Everyone is invited to attend.
SPOUSES, led by Carolyn Wood, is a
new group forming to support straight
spouses of gays and lesbians.
8:00 PM
General Meeting and Program
July program, "Our Stories," will
involve PFLAG parents as they share
their personal stories about their child
coming out and how they responded.

Sharing - Discussion - Questions Answers

ABOUT PFLAG
Parents, Family, and Friends of Lesbians and
Gays (PFI.AG) is a not for profit, tax exempt,
all volunteer, community-based organization
of parents, other relatives and friends of
lesbian and gay persons. PFLAG is not
affiliated with any ethnic, religious or
political group. PFLAG/ Tulsa is a member of
the international federation of the same
name.
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• OUR PURPOSES AND GOALS ARE TO:
T Provide a support system for families and
friends of lesbians and gay men in an effort
to understand, accept and support their
children with love and pride,
T Provide education for individuals and the
community at large on the nature of
homosexuality, and
- T Support the full human and civil rights of
lesbians and gay men.

14th International PFLAG
Convention
September 29 - October 1
For Registration & Convention Information,
please contact:

I116'Jr95
P.O. Box 1406
Anderson, IN 46015-1406
Phone/Fax (317) 644-3570 Email:
kgprunty@aol.com

PFLAG
Parents. Families, and Friends of Lesbians and Gays
July 1995 Volume IV Number 5

May 17, 1995
Dear P- FLAG Family:
I write to notify you of a situation which merits swift responses from as many people in your chapter as
possible!
On March 30, 1995, my supervisor, Ray Morgan, fired me two days after discovering that I am Gay. The
day I learned from a fellow employee that my supervisor had discovered that I am Gay, I began to try to talk
to him. He refused all my attempts at communication, and on the third day, he fired me! The termination
came in a cowardly Fed Ex'd letter, with no explanation. The supervisor and the President of the division,
Chuck Nelson, ref used to return my calls ore- mail, following the firing. The letter of termination
instructed me tci use the company credit card to return the equipment and the samples. but when I attempted
to pay the shippers, the card had been canceled! Homophobia is both mean- spirited and cowardly!
The most helpful persons to contact at this company are listed below. The company is a paper manufacturer
which does not sell to the public, but rather through distributors. Their distributors are listed in the local
yellow pages under either Promotional Products Distributors or Specialty Advertising Companies. Their most
challenging competitors are the 3M Company and the Kreiger- Ragsdale Company.
Raymond Morgan, the Vice President who fired me, has been under internal investigation on three occasions
for sexual harassment as brought to light by three women working in his office. On the last complaint, the
Nelson family requested that Mrs. Morgan accompany him to the meeting before the Board!
Homophobia has various relatives!
I realize that we are offered, at this time, no legal protection. But, we can still let people know that this
behavior has got to stop! Thank you for any help you can offer!
Fellow-P- FLAGGER in Houston,
Signed by Dean Luttrell
2686 Murworth Dr. #702
Houston, Tx. 77054
My former company is: Barton Nelson Inc. ( Also known in the industry as "The Bebco Lne")
Mr. Dwight Nelson, President
13700 Wyandotte
Kansas City, MO 64145
( 800) 821- 6697
Local ( 816) 942- 3100
Fax ( 816) 942- 6995
At the same address: Mr. Chuck Nelson, President, Promotional Products Di vision

I'm asking each Chapter to generate at least 10 letters plus phone calls and faxes. Thanks, Dean

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A Community Service Broughc co Yot.J by TOHR and Tt.Jlsa Family NevVs

WEEKLY EVENTS

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BLESS 'THr I:ORO AT ALL TIMes
CHRISTIA,lj C!N'r~R • Sunday Scnool 9:45,
Mo1ni119 Wotahlp S•111lc.t 11 :00. 2~7-li
E11111th. Call 583-781~ tor 11110.
BLGA • UnlYtr1Jty or TUIH,
6:30 Q,m .
Canltitlu,y C.nt.er.
COMMUNIT'V OF HOPe (United Methodlal) •
evenlr<1 WorsnI0 Service 8:00. 13'17 Noll/1
Y11t. cau a»-7232 for Info.
f'AMILY OF FAITH MCC. MOlftlng WOii/iip
S11111ic.e 11 :00. $,161-E Sout~ Ml1190. CaU
1122·14"41 for Into.

MCC OF GREATER TULSA • Moml11g
WMhip

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Maplawood. Cad &J&.171S ror In10.
'TH! MNN!O • Gtv Sand • Pracdc:• WMkly
In OKC. Cal a:38-2121 tor Info,

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HIV TESTING • 'foHR CUnle. F,ee and
Anonymou, taating ual~ 11ng,rsll,:Jc rnethod,
No appointment ,equi,ed. WIik In 14111 OOUA:
7:00 • S:30 pm. Ruulta Hou11: 7:00 • 9:00
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Info.
~SOA 80WLIN0 LEAGUe , 8owling
b6QI~ et 8:46. snerlclan Lanoa 3121 South
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Swdy 7:00. MCC or Grote, Tull;i 182'
Nonn MapleWcod. Cell OJS-1715 for Info,
BLESS THE 1..0~ AT ALI. TIMES
CHRISTIAN CENTER • Cl\oir Pr;ic.llol 7:00,
2&27-8 eaat 11th. cau 583-7115 for Info.
rAMIL Y OF FAITH MCC • PoUuci( 6:30.
8101-t Slu<fi, 7:00. Chait Praaica 8:00. ~~1 •
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16-STEP !:MPOWERMiNT GROUP FOR
WOMeN • 7:00, Women'• 1uppor1 group.
Community of 1-igpe, 1347 Nonh Yale. Call

&:$8-72:SZ for lnfQ,

co-oePENOeNCY SUPPOR'r OROUP •
Wtekly mNUIIQ 7130. Family ot J"alt/1 MCC.
5-451-E South Mingo. Call 62:2-1441 fO< Info,
HIV TESTINO • 'l'OHR Cijnle. Froo and
Anonymoua taallng ua"1g nngorslld< mothod.
No ;ippointment required. weu,; In tut hours:
7:00 • a:30 pm. R.MUIU HOU/$! 7:00 • g;oo
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Cau
749--4194
for
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PA.AYER TIMe • 7:00 p.m. MCC of Gn!at~r
Tul6a. 18:?3 North M;ipJew00<1. Call aJa.
1715
for
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TULSA FAMII.Y CHOAAU: • WNkly
ptacdce 9::30 om. Lola's. 2830 E. 15tn St.

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NARCOTICS.ANONYMOUS• Moela wNl<ly
at 11 :00 pm. PrOVidH i:onfldenti;ll I U ~
for r«ovorllig add~. Community of Hope.
13'7 NoM YIJ9, Call 838-7232 fQr Info.

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• Mculn HlGl'I School, $~Cket. 7:30
p.m. Cell bNpor 646-6455 for more
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Pride C.lebnltlcn held at Mohawlc Patk,
Shell.el' #8. Food./Drlnk/ Enttlrtainment.
AJ•o boolhs and infonnalion dillributlon.
Mlnl,,.,,.l chargaa for food thi1 yMr,
Beer stlU he. 12:00 • 8:00. Ceremony
and -.ichibitlon soilballNoUeyball begin
at 2:00. Call 832-0233 for Info.

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'Mlllams w!U appear to benefit TOHR.
$6 Cover • Advan~ tlc:ktts or at the
door. 10:00 p.m. at Conoenions. 3340
South PeOria. Call 744-0886 for ll'lfo.

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TOHR Office. -41 st & H&l\lard. Call
74~2&7 lot Info.

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o,..wir Tull ■, Speclel for Oay
Pride Week. Also inciudH Femlly ot
Faith MCC and other area churehu.
1623 NoM Maplewood. CAIi 838-1715
MCC of

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TOHFt FOLLIES • TOHR's annual
ent.-rtainment extravaganza. Many new
perlormera.
8:00 p.m.
All Soul'a
Unita1ian Churcn. 2932 South Peotla.
CaU 743-4297 torTicket lnformatlon.
WOMEN'S COFFEE HOUSE • Java
Oa11e'1. S310 South P4JOl'ia. 6:30 • 8:00
p.m. Call 8aaper &46-6455 tor more
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FAMILY AIOS SUPPORT GROUP •
Meeting, 6:30 p,m. PFI.AG. 4154
South Ha,vard • Lower LAval. Ciill 58351'47 for Info.
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8:00 p.m. 1$47 North Yale. Call 838·
7232 for Info.
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AMemble from 12:00. 2:00 at lhe parl<.
Parade end11 at Hebana Inn with 11

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M..ting 7:00 p,m. Ollve Garden • $10.
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Community meeting for Civij Rights for
Lesl:liana & <lays, Every o~aniution
should have a rap1•sentati11e and YOU
NEEO TO SE Tr/ERE. 7:00 • 8:00 p.m.
Downtown Ubrary. L.ectu,e room nnt
to Aaroneon Auditorium. Call 838•2121
for more Info.

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FAMILY AIOS SUPPORT GROUP •
Meeting. 6:30 p.m. PFLAG. 4154
South Harvard • Lowe, UIV4Jl. Call 583-

5147 for Into.

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DANCE CLASS • Community of Hopo.
8:00 p.m. 1347 North Yale. C11U 838-

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FESTIVAL OF PRAISE. 1st ever MCC
musleal featival (MCC's from OK, TX,
LA),
Lawton, OK.
1:00 • 4:00.
Fo~owe<I by welner roaal FOf Carpool

M..li119 7:00 p.m. Call 254-2100 for

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information call ezz.1441.

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?FLAG 101/102 • Monthly meeting
6:3o-7:30 p.m. 415" South HatVard,
Sta. H. CaU 7-48-4801 (or Info.
SPOUSES •
For spouMs of
Gay/LeaJBI/Trans. 7:00-7:30 p.m. aoelal

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7:30-8:30 meeting. CaU 749-4801 for
Info. Sponsored by PFLAG.

FEEO THE HOMELESS • Community of
Hope. 1347 North Yale. MM! at chureh
al 5:30 p.m. and caravan to Day Center
for the Homeleas. Call 838°7232 for

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TOHR BOARO MEETING. 7:00 p.m.
TOHR Office. 41at & Hatvatd.
Call
743-4297 for Info.

DANCE CLASS • Community of Hope.
p.m. 1347 North Yale. CaJI 838-

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LJULY

7232 fO( Info.

garage ale. Call 622•1441 for address,
etc.

FAMILY OF FAITH SPAGHETTI
DINNER • 5:30 p.m. prior to Goapel
SllllJ. Oonauon, only. 5"461•e South
Mingo, Cell 622-1441 tor Info.

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COMMUNITY•W10E GOSPEL SING •
Kick off pride WHk With II goapel iing Ill
Family of FaltJi MCC. 54~1-E Soutl'I
Mingo. WIii include MCC Tulsa, BktH
the' Lord II All Tlm•H, Community of
Hope 111d other area churches, Call
622,1441 fer more info.

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FAMJI.Y AIOS SUPPOFtT GROUP •

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MEETING.
Monthly Meetin;. 8::10 Social 7:00 p.m.
1.

TOHR

MeetJng. The Gltl'Ultlng Place. 4164
SoulJ'I t-1ar11ard, Ste. 1-1. Call 743-4297
for Info.

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COUNTRY FOR HUMAN
RIGHTS LeAGUe. Mu1kogee Library.
8:00 p.m. • 9:00 p.m. Write P.O. Box
814 • Muakoge., OK 74402 for mora
Info.

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RAINBOW BUSINESS GUILC • Monthly

Info.

MtSCEl.LANfOUS
GROUP MEt;TINGS
GLAS - Gay & Lesbian Student
Association • TJC Soutileaat Campus.
Call 631-76.32 for info.

LAGPAC • Lesbian end Gay Polltlcal •
Adlon Committee, CaU 838-1i.22 for
Info.

LOG CABIN REPUBLICANS • Gay and
Lesbian Republican Group. Calf 8320233 for Info.
WAN • Single WomE1n'a Activity
Network.
TOHR CLINIC • In addition to Thursday
Clinic: Houri (~e Thuradays), offe"
daytime testing by appoln~nt Monday

• Thu11day from 10 am • ~ p.m. Call
740-4194 for appointmant.
TOHR HELPLINE • Staffed daily 8:00
p.m. • 10:00 p.m. Call 743-GAYS.
TULSA • Tulaa Uniform and Leather
SeeMrt Aaaoelallon. Call 838-1222 for
Info.
WEONESOAY
NIGHT
WOMeN'S
SUPPER CI.UB • Maeta et varying
ioeatlona 1h11 2nd o, 3rd Wednesday of
each month.

Oo you have a group or event that •hould be //$tad in the TOHR Community Calendar? If so, plHH call u• at 838-2121.
Every elfol'I WH rnada ID •llfure 111e ac:cut&"f and compleieneea of lilla e.alendar. nowever, nettr.er Tuia, family New11 nor TOHR a.uumea 1e11pons1bility for errors or omlesi0n.s.

PFLAG
Parents. Families. and Friends of Lesbians and Gays
July 1995 Volume IV Number 5

14th International PFLAG Convention',
September 29 to October 1, 1995 at the
Indianapolis Hyatt Regency
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Family AIDS Support Group
6:30 PM
Wednesday July 5 and Wednesday July 19

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Enjoy Labor Day at Home in 1995.
And come to Indianapolis on Friday, September 29 for the 14th
International PFLAG Convention. Almost everybody is glad that the
1995 PFLAG Convention has been shifted away from Labor Day
weekend. We hope you can begin~ to plan now to be in Indianapolis for
the lndy95 Convention.
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The Convention begins on Friday afternoon, September 29 and ends
on Sunday afternoon, October 1. The sightly shorter schedule allows
the saving of one night of hotel lodging for most delegates and enables
us to make even better use of our time.
Mel White will be the keynote speaker. A frequent speaker at Human i
Rights Campaign Fund dinner and conventions and an ordained minister,
Mel is also a much published writer and a film producer. Mel is now
dean of the Cathedral of Hope in Dallas, TX, the largest gay and lesbian ,
congregation in the world. he comes to lndy95 with great appreciation
for PFL.AG having dedicated Stranger at the Gate to PFLAG. He
carries much concern for the spiritual nurturing of gay and lesbian
persons and their families and brings deep concern fro the safety of gay
and lesbian persons and their families in light of the declaration of war
made against homosexual persons by leaders of the radical right. He is
an inspiring and interesting speaker.
lndy95 has a strong focus on education - the second leg of PFLAG's .
'. hree legged stool of purpose. Though the convention will stand on all
·hree legs -support, education and advocacy. Friday's focus will be on
3upport and Sunday's emphasis will center in on Advocacy. Saturday,
he major full day of the convention, will keep zeroed in on Education and
rraining all day long.
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Here's the schedule for the 1995 convention:
Friday, September 29, 1995
"We Support as We Listen"
8:3:J
Registration & Check-In
4:00 • 5:30
Interest Groups and SkillShops
8:00
KeyNote Program with Mel White
9:30
_Hospitalfy/Community Building.Centers
Saturday; September 30, 1995
"We Educate Toward Love and Acceptance"
8:00 - 9:30
KickOff Program for All
10:00 - 3:30
Seminars
12:15
Special Interest Luncheons
4:00
Annual PFLAG Meeting
7-:JO
DinnerCelebration
Sunday, October 1, 1995
''We Focus on Advocacy- Equal Rights for Air'
8:00
Community Celebration
9:30
Forums on Issues and Opportunities
11 :45
Luncheon Program
2:30
It's All Over!

Call for location

PFLAG/Tulsa's Family AIDS Project, HIVRC, and
the Tulsa Visiting Nurse's Association provide a
bimonthly support group for f am.ilies with members
who are living with HIV/ AIDS. These sessions are
facilitated by a professional counselor who has
experience in AIDS related concerns. If you or a
loved one are dealing with HIV/ AIDS you are most
welcome at these meetings.
Oklahoma Congressional Delegation

U.S. Senator Don Nickles
133 Hart
.JJ.S. Senate
··washington, D.C. 20510
202-224-5754

U.S. Rep. Steve Largent
410Cannon
U.S. House of Reps.
Washington, D.C. 20515
202-225-2211

3310 Mid-Continent Tower
409 So. Boston
Tulsa, OK 74103
918-581-7651

2424 East 21st, Suite 510
Tulsa, OK 74114
918-749-0014

U.S. Senator Jim Inhofe
453 Russell
U.S. Senate
Washington, D.C. 20510
202-224-4721

1924 So. Utica, Suite 530
Tulsa, OK 74104
918-748-5111

U.S.Rep.TomCobum
SllCannon
U.S. House of Reps.
Washington, D.C. 20515
202-225-2701

215 State Street, Suite 815
Muskogee, OK 74401
916-687-2533

PFLAG
Parents. Families. and Friends of Lesbians and Gaus
July 1995 Volume IV Number 5

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tohr Reporter
Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights. P.O. Box 52729. Tulsa, 74152
July 1995 Volume 15 Number 6

Letter from the President
I hope you are enjoying our new look. We have rejoined the
ranks of monthly newsletter publishers. This will allow T.OH.R.
to share more of our ideas and thoughts with the membership
and allow space for our membership to share with us. The
newsletter will provide space to cover topics of interest to our
membership and be a useful tool in organizing future projects
for the organization. Sort of a direct line to the community
center and its programs.
This first issue is a trial run with PFLAG to see how efficient we
can be in producing a community center newsletter. We are
able to combine efforts and reduce costs for both organizations.
We hope that in the future we will be able to have participation
from other non-profit groups with information that affects our
community. Let us know what you think. This newsletter will be
taking the place of the Tulsa Family News as your monthly
information source. To continue to receive the Tulsa Family
News, one should subscribe to the publication directly.
I hope you made it to the Pride Picnic, it was a great time . The
weather was beautiful and the turnout great. Thanks to the
Pride Picnic committee for the great event. The committee has
expressed an interest in turning this event over to T.OH.R.., to
which the board has agreed and will present to the membership
at the July 11th meeting for a vote.
As always we need your participation to implement new
programs and fun events for our community. If you have a
talent or skill to share please let us know.
-Tim

HELPLINE:
Reuben Garcia has announced a party for the helpline
volunteers. All volunteers are invited to attend the party July
17th. Look for details in your mailbox soon.
LIFEGUARD:
The lifeguard program is starting again! The first session
HEAT will be held July 11th call 742-2927 for more
information. This series will be a provocative educational
experience for men. Learn how HIV prevention can be
exciting and erotic.

tohr Reporter
Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights. P.O. Box 52729. Tulsa. 74152
July 1995 Volume IS Number 6

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