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All Eyes On The
104th
WASHINGTON, D.C. — Promising
to revolutionize American government.

Republicans opened the doors of the
Capitol Building to a new House of
Representatives and Senate both
dominated by the Republican party for
the first time in 40 years.Stepping up to
the rostrum for the first time on the

who have a long-standing tradition of
opposing gay-positive legislation.Chief
among them is Jesse Helms, the
homophobic North Carolina senator,
who will now head the Senate Foreign
Relations Committee.

Activists can expect to spend the bulk
of their energies throughout the 104th
Congress fighting off anti-gay
legislation and funding cuts. Many

morning of January 3rd, new Speaker

previously defeated Radical Right
initiatives may find a second wind in

of the House Newt Gingrich touted his

the 104th session.Anti-gay amendments

Contract With America. Previous
statements by Gingrich, including that
"it is madness to pretend that families

may appear in legislation on topics
ranging from government personnel
policies to milk subsidies.Funding may

are anything other than heterosexual

be challenged for the Ryan White CARE

couples,"make it clear that his Contract
With America is intended to support

only some Americans.Gay,lesbian and
bisexual people have learned to read
between the lines of proposed Contract

policies

like "The

Family

Reinforcement Act"and mightconsider
renaming the Republican Contract a

Actand other AIDS research and service

appropriations, the
National
Endowment of the Arts for its funding
of gay positive art, and for sehools
teaching tolerance and acceptance of
all students, including gay and lesbian
youth.Unfortunately,pro-active efforts,

What concerns most progressive
activists is notthe takeover ofthe House

ineluding movement of pro-gay federal
legislation such as the Employment
Non-Discrimination Actseem unlikely
in such politically conservative and

and Senate by the Republican party per

hostile environment.In addition,attacks

se but rather the dominance of an

on abortion rights, social security

ultraconservative faction of Senators
and Representatives. According to a
recentreport by the Christian Coalition,
a full 44 of the 62 new Republican
members ofthe House conformed to its

insurance, health care and new

"Contract on America.

"pro-family, pro-life" agenda. Also
alarming are the number of familiar

immigrants all appear likely.
Activistsfrom all comers ofthe country

will need to keep up on the new hostile

Congress by lobbying their Senators
and Representatives regularly if the
voices gay,lesbian and bisexual people

faces now chairing powerful committees
February 1995• Dimensions• Page 7

are to be heard on Capitol Hill.
The National Gay and Lesbian Task
Force(NGLTF)offers several resources
to assist in lobbying the federal

government. To learn more about

writing, calling and visiting your
senators and representatives,Call(202)
332-6483, ext. 3327 and request

screen lover)will star in the production.

"Serving in Silence" will include a much
anticipated lesbian kiss between these
two well-respected and popular
actresses. The Radical Right is already
up in arms over the kiss and is urging
advertisers to boycott the movie.
Executive producers are Glenn Close,

Lobbying Tips($1.00)from the NGLTF
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Cammermeyer Story

AUSTIN, TX - The Eighth Annual

HOLLYWOOD,CA - NBC will air the

Texas Lesbian Conference(TLC) will

two hour, made for television movie

"Serving in Silence; The Margarethe
Cammermeyer Story" on Monday,
February 6th.
The movie is based on the true story of
Colonel Margarethe Cammermeyer,the

highest ranking officer ever to be
discharged from the U.S. military for
admitting she is a lesbian. Colonel
Cammermeyerhasfought her discharge
through the federal courts with the help
of the Lambda Defense Fund,
Northwestern Women'sLaw Center and

the National Lawyers Guild. In June of
1994, a federal judge declared the
regulation leading to her discharge
unconstitutional and reinstated the

Colonel in the National Guard. An

appeal is pending,but it is believed that
it will be resolved in her favor based on
the Keith Meinhold decision.

Academy Award nominated actresses
Glen Close(as Colonel Cammermeyer)
and Australian Judy Davis (as her on

Meron and Cis Corman.

be held March 31, April 1 & 2 at the
Radisson Hotel onTownLake in Austin.

TLC is the only annual statewide lesbian
conference in the United States.

Organized each year by volunteers in
the host city, TLC has proven to be an
effective tool for sharing resources and
ideas, for expanding awareness and

developing leadership asTexaslesbians.
This year's theme is "Texas Women:
Living Out Loud." We are currently

accepting proposals for workshops to
be presented at the conference under
this theme.

TLC'95 will dovetail with the Statewide

"Stop the Violence, Stop the Hate

Lesbian and Gay Rights March on
Austin on April 2nd.The March begins
at 12 noon at Palmer Auditorium and

will proceed up Congress Avenue

toward the Capitol.The March is being
held because seven people in Texas
were murdered because they were gay

in 1994.The March is sponsored by the
Lesbian/Gay Rights Lobby of Texas.

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Early registration for TLC '95 is $45

478-9611 and state that you are a TLC
participant.TLC will arrange alternative
housing upon request.

and includes entertainment, keynote
speakers, workshops, a banquet,
Saturday night women's dance and all
other conference activities. Registration
fees will increase closer to the

For more information, call the TLC
Hotline at (512) 326-4453 or write to
TLC'95,P.O.Box 200546,Austin,TX

conference.

78720-0546. The conference is

The Radisson Hotel is offering a special
rate for conference participants. Single
or double occupancy will be $82 per
room, with three or four per room the
rate will be $92 per night. The hotel is

wheelchair accessible,and will provide
sign language interpreters. Braille
materials, and child care on request.

only holding 100 rooms for the

conference, so be sure to make your
reservations early to get the special
room rates. Call the Radisson at (512)

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What's

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A Monthly Listing Of Special Events All Around The Area
SUZANNE WESTENHOEFER -

AUSTIN - Make your plans now to

Suzanne Westenhoefer, comedienne

attend the 8th Annual Texas Lesbian

extrodinairre will be making a quick
tour of Texas in February. If you have
caught her act on Comedy Central or
various talk shows, you know just how

Conference and to show your pride in
the Lesbian and Gay March on

funny she is. This is a don't miss show.

on Town Lake. The March (sponsored

SAN ANTONIO - First stop, San
Antonio. Ms. Westenhoefer will be

by the Lesbian/Gay Rights Lobby of
Texas)will begin at 12 noon on April 2

Austin. The conference will be held

March 31-April2atthe Radisson Hotel

appearing at Bonham Exchange on

atthePalmer Auditorium and proceed

Thursday,February 9th. The show will
start about 9:30pm. Tickets are $10 in

For more info on the conference, call

advance and $12 at the door and are

(512) 326-4453. For more info on the

available at Bonham Exchange. For
more info, call(210) 224-9219.
AUSTIN - She will be appearing in

march, call (512)474-5475.

Austin atthe Radisson Hotel Ballroom

on

Friday, February 10th at 8pm.

up Congress Ave. toward the Capitol.

DALLAS - ART-Positive, a gallery

show & sale featuring the work ofHIVpositive artists opens Sunday, March

Tickets are $15 in advance and $18 at

19th at the Edith Baker Gallery(2404

the

Cedaar Springs Road). The show will
present a wide range of paintings and
sculpturefrom area HIV-positive artists.
A portion of the proceeds will go to
benefit Legacy Counseling Center, a

door and

are

available

at

Bookwoman, Celebration! and

Liberty Books. Call (512) 929-8630
for more info.

FORT WORTH - She will then travel to

the Metroplex for a show on Saturday,
February 11th at 8pm at Orchestra
Hal! (4401 Trail Lake Dr.) in Fort
Worth. Tickets are $15 in advance and

non-profit mental health care agency

that provides counseling and emotional
support to individuals, friends and
family members challenged with AlDs

$17 at the door and are available at

and HIV. For more info, call Carolyn

Connections Bookstore and Agape

at(214)622-5252.

MCC in Fort Worth and at Crossroads
Market in Dallas. For more info, call
(817)924-3264.
HOUSTON - Then, it's on to Houston

on Sunday,February 12th for her final

Texas appearance at the Heinen
Theatre(3517 Austin St.at Holman)at
7:30pm.Tickets are$15 in advance and

OKLAHOMA CITY - Herland Sister

Resourcesisforming acommunityfood
pantry to help lesbians in need.
Donationsofnon-perishablefood items,
pet food and household supplies are
needed.If you can donate or if you need

Inklings Bookshop and Crossroads

help,go by Herland(2312 N.W.39th)
during business hours on Saturdays
10am-5pm and Sundays lpm-5pm.For

Market.For more info,call(713)521-

more info, call(405)521-9696.

$17 at the door and are available at

3369.

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hold their 4th annual festival on

OF INTEREST TO ALL
Golden Threads, a worldwide social
network ofLesbian women over50and

February 16-18. This year's festival
will again be held at the Dallas Theater
Center on Turtle Creek with a special
opening night screening at the Inwood

older women will hold its 9th Annual
Golden Threads Celebration on June
23-25 in Provincetown,Massachusetts.

DALLAS - The Dallas Lesbian &

Gay International Film Festival will

Theater.If you would like more info or
are interested in volunteering to help
with the festival, call Deb at(214)2574443.

women ofany age who are interested in

There will be workshops,entertainment

provided by Alix Dobkin and a banquet
to be followed by dancing.OLOC(Old
Lesbians Organizingfor Change)will
also hold their June meeting to coincide

FORT WORTH - The First Thursday

with the Celebration. For more

Lesbian Social (formerly Second
Tuesday, formerly First Friday) meets
the first Thursday of each month from
6-9pm at Downtown Java(at 6th St.&
Houston on Sundance Square). First
Thursday is amonthly social networking
group for lesbians. Admission is $1.
food,coffee and beverages are available.

information, write Christine Burton,
Golden Threads, P.O. Box 60475,

Northhampton, MA 01060-0475.
Team Seattle will hold its Second

Annual Winter SportsFestival March
10-12 at the Seattle Center Arena and

the Lesbian Caucus of the Women's

at Snoqualmie Pass ski area.
Competitions will be held in alpine
skiing, cross-country
skiing,
snowboarding, ice hockey and figure
skating(singles,pairs and ice dancing).
For more info or to register, call(206)

Caucusfor Art will host"Re/Defining

820-3438.

BYOB if desired.

SAN ANTONIO - The Esperanza
Peace & Justice Center (EPJC) and

Lesbians: Power/Transition", a
national exhibition of recent visual art

by self-identifying lesbians. The show
will be held through February 19th at
EPJC (922 San Pedro at Evergreen).
For more info, call(210)228-0201.

If you have Information for
What's Goln'On,
please send It to us!
Deadline for submissions
is the 20th of each month.

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m^EAR A09irE2$
Answers to your questions about love,

RELATIONSHIIPS & PERSONAL PROBLEMS

Dear Agnes,

Dear Agnes,

How refreshing to read that there is a
butch out there willing to be "a butch
searching for a femme." She can feel
free to write to me if you will give her

This is in reference to the letter in the

Dec./Jan.94-95 issue signed "Looking
for Femmes."

It seems that a lesbian is in the eye ofthe
beholder, like beauty. You see,I don't

The best thing she can do is quit putting
women into categories based on their
looks. I have long hair, wear makeup
and occasionally even heels.I can work

see many (if any) butches out there

on my own car,do my own home repairs

unless already welded - oops -1 mean

and have a collection oftools that would

wedded.

make most men drool. I may look
"femme," but I'm truly a butch girl at

my address.

"Looking for Femmes" would not be
attracted to mefor I am an older woman,

heart.

not too femme, but attractive. Living
has left its trace-lines and so forth. But,

On the other hand,I know women with

I delighted in her letter and strongly
encourage her to keep up her search.

change their own tire.

I believe there can be good butch/femme

attracted to someone who looks like

a classic "butch" look who can't even

The letter-writer states that she is "not

togetherness, mutual respect. I cherish

myself."I think she needs to change her

a dream of someday meeting a butch
with whom I can live life as her femme
even though I understand women's

standards.Looks are not what it is about.

If she truly wants to find someone to

all-ableness and liberation. Women's

shares her interests and not someone

Lib empowered me and Iam a person,

even try a dance ...

who looks just right but couldn't care
less about the things she finds fun,
interesting or entertaining.
One last note: going on the "big love
hunt," usually results only in
disappointment. The best way to find
love is to quit looking for it. Make
friends, have fun. Love can find you in
the most amazing places.

Sincerely,

Look Below the Haircut

Femme Looking for a Butch

Dallas, TX

a lesbian, a femme — all part of a

spiritual being and hey — it's great.
I believe a good way to approach me as
a femme is to be simple and honest.

Say, "I'm not a good dancer, but I'd
like to buy you a coke (or a drink, or
whatever) and talk with you a little —

love,she should look for a woman who

Austin, TX

February 1995• Dimensions • Page 13

Dear Agnes,

Gray on December 27th,without paying

This is to "Looking forFemmes"in the

for the items that had previously hung

January issue. Give me a break! Can't
we get passed all this butch/femme crap?

rack.

on the hangers left on the magazine

Women are women are women.Period.

We are blessed to have a gay store that

Whether they have short hair or long,

provides a variety ofitems and services,

wearjeans or skirts,heels or workboots,
they all have the same plumbing.
middle ofthe butch/femme equation.In

for San Antonio's gays and lesbians.
How could you steal from your
"family"?
Your Conscience

the right circumstances they can lean

San Antonio, TX

Most women I know fall close to the

either way. They may go to work in a
dress,heels and full makeup,and to the

bar in jeans, t-shirt and no makeup.
The only way to know if you are truly
attracted to someone or not is to talk to

them.It may be that the prettiestfemme
in the bar has a mouth like a sailor and

that semi-butch girl you passed over
because she didn'tlook rightis someone
you could really fall in love with.
Also,the best way to approach someone
if you don't know how to dance is
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Dear Agnes,

SUZANNE

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IN ADNANCE

Celebration

LOVE
HUN?
HANDY HINTS AND TIPS TO HELP YOU IN
YOUR SEARCH FOR A VALENTINE

You're single (not by choice) and it
seems like everyone around you has
someone to love. You would really like
someone to share your bed and your
life.Someone who will bring you candy
and flowers on Valentine's Day,comfort

you when you've had a bad day and

expect it." Instead of going out to a bar,
coffee house or church and seeing every
woman present as a potential partner,
try going to those places just for fun.

Desperation is not pretty. When you are
on a big hunt for love, it shows on your
face and scares off those who might

someone who will help you do laundry

otherwise respond to an overture of

and clean house on Saturdays. So you
set out for the bar, dressed in your best
and start looking,right? Wrong.Below
are some tips to help you find love.

friendship.
2. NETWORK.Sounds like a business

Some are common sense, some are a

term, but it can be applied to personal
relationships as well. Many women are

little harder to implement, but all are
sound advice.

in relationships with people who started
out being"friends offriends." Ask your
friends to introduce you to women they

1, QUIT LOOKING.I know,I know.
You've heard it before. The problem is
that the old adage usually holds true —
"Love will find you when you least

think you might like. Go to parties
where you are likely to meet women
you wouldn't meet in the normal course
of your life.

February 1995• Dimensions • Page 15

Join a club that interests you.There are

your cat. You've heard the old joke:

hundreds of specialized groups for gay

What does a lesbian bring on the first
date? A U-Haul. Don't be a u-hauler.
Just because you've met a woman you

men and lesbians out there. There are

outdoor groups,political groups,sports

teams, gardening clubs, theater cjubs,
and organizations for gays of many
occupations or certain ages or both.
Pick one that suits your interests and

like and enjoyed your first date doesn t

mean you have to move in together
within the week.

Put yourself in her shoes: You've met a

join up. If you can't find a group you

woman at a friends house. You ask er

like, start your own.

out to dinner and a movie. Before you

If you are a religious person, join and

even getto the main course,she's talking

attend a gay church in your area. Even

about
whatarecolors
the ^
house you
goingyou'll
to buy decorate
together an

if you live out in the sticks, you could
still attend church in a city close to you
once a month or so. Of course, while

you are doing all this networking,keep
rule number one in mind.

3.ADVERTISE.No,this doesn't mean
wearing a low cut blouse and skin-tight
jeans to the bar.I mean...place an ad.In
your local gay paper, here in
Dimensions,or on the bulletin board at
your local women's group. Don't go

into it looking for love.Start by looking
for new friends. Give yourself some

space. This way you don't have to feel
bad if you don't find that perfect
someone and you might end up with
alot of new friends to network through.

asking if you want to be the one to e
artificially inseminated. What
do? a. Swoon and say yes, you d mve

to have a family with her, or; b. un
screaming from the restaurant an go
straight home to call all your frien s o
tell them how crazy she is and tha you
are lucky you got out alive? Most o us
would probably pick "b."

6. DONT COUNT ON "LOVE AT
FIRST SIGHT." Yes, it does happen,
but that doesn't mean it's the only way
to find true love.I once had a frien w o

believed fervently in love at first sig t
— and she practiced at the bar every
weekend.She always knew she was in
love" with a woman just because s e

a. CO ON LOTS OF CASUAL

danced a certain way or walked ^ross

DATES.I do mean casual.Don't make

the
bar in just the right manner, ever
mind that she didn't know the woman s

every date the wine,dinner and dancing
type.Go to lunch or to the Softball park.

name,age, occupation or temperament

Be creative. It is hard to know if you

— all she needed was to see her

really like a woman when the only

a crowed, smoky room and tha as
enough.Overtheyearsshehadcoun ss

conversation you have is shouting at
each other over the music in a bar or

"lovers" who lasted a week

sitting quietly next to her in the pew at

months. I don't know where s

church. Go somewhere where neither

today, but I hope she's learne

of you will feel that romantic pressure

although love at first sight is a

and there's lots of room to just talk.

is ^

possibility, it isn't anything to hase a
long-term relationship on.

5. NO TALK OF COMMITMENT
ON THE FIRST (OR SECOND OR

THIRD) DATE. The fastest way to
scare offa woman is to talk about setting
up housekeeping before she's even met

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7.WHEN YOU DO SEE SOMEOJE
YOU THINK YOU LIKE, BE
PERSISTENT (BUT NOT TOO
PERSISTENT). Most of us have had

,

this experience. You are sitting in the
bar with friends when a nice looking
woman comes over and asks you to

dance.You havejustcome offthe dance
floor and you are hot,sweaty and thirsty.
You tell her no thanks and say you'd
love to dance later, after you rest for a
minute. She takes it as total rejection
and never comes back. On the other

hand there are the women you might

have talked to if they hadn't been so
pushy — asking you to dance at the
beginning of every song for an hour

Come Play The Dating Game

when all you want to do is sit back and
take it easy. If she had only offered to
buy you a drink instead of constantly
bugging you to dance, you might have

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accepted and gotten to know her.
Take these examples as lessons. Just
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Ask again — you may be surprised. If
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What A World,
What A World
SMART FAT
BY NANCY FORD
The New Queer Year is here, and a

mere one month later,already the sound

family, should be regarded and
respected as fat with a Master's degree.

of resolutions can be heard shattering

Weight and body image have been very

across this great self-deprecating land

much in the forefront of our collective

of ours.

American consciousness since Dolly

I personally have never been much of

Madison put aside her needle and started
baking snack cakes. We've watched
Oprah expand and contract,expand and
contract, expand and contract. We've
listened to Susan Powter pout. We've
played poker with our Deal-A-Meal
cards. I'll see your three vegetable
exchanges and raise you a chocolate

one for resolutions. I figure, I'm forty
years old. The only New Trick this Old
Dog is interested in has little to do with

changing habits permanently ingrained
into my psyche for four decades. Not to
imply that I'm inflexible. Absolutely
not.I am flexible,I don't care what you
say,and I'll never change.Sof _you.
Silliness aside,(Yeah, right.) There is
one resolution-type specterthat has hung
over my head for as nearly as long as I
can remember. It's the old "This year
I'm definitely losing weight" post-

croissant.

Food for thought, but not for
swallowing. The average American
female stands 5'4" tall and weighs 146

pounds.Conversely,the average fashion
model stands 5'10" and weighs 120

holiday mantra.

pounds. Hel-/o? Who's doing the math

I was raised to believe that the best time

at the fashion designing store? Hubbell

to start a diet is January 2. If that date
happens to fall on Monday,all the better.
Magic Monday.It's as though we think
fat is stupid. We think we can binge all
week long, but then, come Monday
morning,we eatacouple ofcarrotsticks,
pop some bee pollen, and chase that

telescope scientists?

It's been suggested that love always has
a metabolic effect on those who have

the good fortune to tumble into it. Some
insist that one has a tendency to lose
weight when in love, as a result of

turning to one's paramour, rather than

silly, stupid old fat away — right?
Wrong. Fat is not stupid. Fat is smart.

food, for comfort. It's true — who

Fat homesteads.Fat is not nomadic.Fat

ourselves by curling up on the couch

finds a place where it is most
comfortable,and it stays.Like on thighs.

with a big pork roastdipped in chocolate
on a cold,rainy night? Maybe that'sjust

Smartfat.Smart,smart,smart.Cellulite,

me.

the most enduring member of the fat

Now comes psychiatrist and eating-

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among us,when single,haven'tindulged

^

disorder specialist Dr.Leo Wollman to

relatively inconsequential. But it still

tell us that "two out of three people

beats the hell out of bowling. And you
can wear your own shoes.

gain weight afterfalling in love, Social
drinking also increases because meeting
each other's family and friends often
involves afew drinks;sometimes,alot

of drinks,depending on the family and
friends.

The good doctor offered tips to avoid
adding poundage after giving your heart
to another. These suggestions were

originally published in Weekly World
News,in the same issue in which Elvis
informed President Clinton of his
eminent return to show business. So
don't think I haven't done my

journalistic research.
• Find substitutes for gifts you eat.

Nancy Ford is a Houston-based conedan and writer,
and isa irequent contrOiitnr to the gay an lesidan press.
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Bring flowers instead of wine. Even
non-edible panties might be nice for a
change.

• Don't make a special event out of
mealtime. Avoid exotic restaurants and

gourmet cookbooks. This is a good
way to your honey's depth ofdevotion,
too.Do you love me a la Filet do boeuf
or do you love me a la Whopper?It's all

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in the translation.

'Have a talk aboutfood early in your
relationship. Determine through open
communication if you and your partner
intend to eattogether.Make sure you're
both ready. Plan it, don't be

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It's a matter of respect. Oh, wait —
that's the procedure for safe sex.Forget
I brought it up.
• Work off anxious moments with
activity rather than food.
Unfortunately, it has been determined

that while sex can be wonderfully
invigorating, the actual number of
calories burned during the act is

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The Coffee Ceub
Lesbians In The Arts • Books, Music, Movies, Etc.

This Month, Tasha Sumner Introduces:

Getting to tiie Point
tg Teresa Stores

Night Songs
by Penny Mickelbury

The first book we'll look at this month

for the occasional "don't tell your

is Getting to thePoint by Teresa Stores.
The story revolves around Dix, an

grandmother," and her brother and his
wife are trying hard notto bejudgmental.

aspiring writer who has returned home

Everything is moving along semismoothly until Dix's lover, Sarah,

to"The Point" to help her mother while

her grandmother dies. The Point is a

arrives.

town at the end of the road on the

Sarah has never had a family.

Florida-Georgia border.
Dix's family is filled with bom-again

Abandoned by her mother at age five,
she grew up in a procession of foster

Christians. Her father hasn't spoken to

homes. She doesn't understand Dix's

her since she announced her lesbianism.

need for her family's love. She shows
up at the Point in her restored'52pickup

Her mother avoids the subject except

February 1995• Dimensions• Page 23

with pink triangles painted down the

for Baby Doll's life.

side and Greenpeace, Pro-Choice and
No Nukes bumper stickers all over the
back end. One of the first things she
does is kiss Dix in full view ofthe entire
family.

The next question is: Who is killing

There are no stereotypes here — only
family. Dix's right-wing family reacts
with real-life confusion to the news that
one of their members is gay. There is

love and concern mixed with disgust
and embarrassment.

women on the streets of Washington,
D.C.?The further each woman gets into

her own investigation, the more the

evidence points to the highest levels of
the political food chain.

NightSongs is astep above mostlesbian
murder mysteries.The plot is believable
and the characters feel real. Plot and

sub-plot work together seamlessly to
make Night Songs a great read.

Getting to the Point is a wonderful

book although a little choppy. Abrupt
changes in person (i.e.: from whose
point-of-view the story is being told)
are,confusing and ineffective.However,
those complaints aside,the overall effect
is an honest look at how families cope
— with death, with life, with abuse,

Both Getting to the Point and Night
Songs are available at your local
women's bookstore orfor $10.95 from
Naiad Press, Inc., P.O. Box 10543,
Tallahassee, FL 32302. Please include

15% postage and handling. Complete
catalogs are available upon request.

with love and with a lesbian in their

<S

midst.I highly recommend this book to
any and all.

Next, we'll look at Night Songs, A

Gianna Maglione Mystery by Penny
Micklebury (author of Keeping

Books, music and more

Secrets).

for the lesbian, gay and

Gianna Maglione is a police lieutenant

feminist communities.

and head of the Hate Crimes Unit in

Washington, D.C.. Her lover, Mimi
Patterson, is a hot-shot investigative

newspaper reporter. Both,on their own
time are investigating the murder of a

Inklings

number of prostitutes in the city. The
two women can't share information

about their separate investigations
although each knows the other is
working on the same case. Gianna,as a

1846 Richmond Ave.

Houston, Texas 77098

cop, can't even be seen talking with
Mimi, much less acknowledge their

(713) 521-3369

relationship. Mimi,a a reporter, is just

Toll-Free Ordering:

tiying to break a hot story until she
meets Baby Doll.Then her quest to find
the killers becomes personal as she fears

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Poetry
From Our Readers
Take me away,

Take me to the place that my passion runs free
hearing the song that can take me there
The intense fire that burns within

The yearning for fulfillment
Look into my eyes
Read my sord
Look and admire

Do not try to possess
Come with me

Release the passion
You have created erotic fantasy

The longing for you will die slowly
This will be fire or ice,
Love or hate

No neutral state

That fleeting moment must subside
The waiting. Oh the waiting
A heavy weight
Will this weight lift
Can the fire go out
Is the fire of the earth

Will time let it die
Of the earth there is a volcano

This volcanic activity rules my soul.
Mostly my heart.
-CJ

Dallas, TX

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real name or what pen name you prefer.

February 1995• Dimensions• Page 25

qviz

n ...is it

J^OL
OUE.
OP is It

UIST?

There are many stages toa relationship.

S. On a typical date, you:

First comes lust... you know, it's that
time when you first get really involved

a. go to dinner and a movie.

when you can't seem to drag yourself
out of the bedroom. Hopefully the lust
period is followed by love — when you
finally emerge from the bedroom to
find that even out here, you still want to
spend your time with her. So,is it love
or lust or on the rocks? To find out,

answer the questions below.

b. talk about anything & everything.
c.intend to go out,but never make it out
the door.

4. When you are away from her,
you think about:
a. how mad she was this morning

because you left the lid off the
toothpaste.
b. her smile.

/.The most attractive thing about

c. the hot time you had last night and

her is:

will have again tonight.

a. her eyes.
b. everything.

5. When the two of you talk

c. her butt.

2. When you look into her eyes,

about sex, you:
a. wonder why you don't do it more
often.

you:

b. tell each other how wonderful you

a. wonder if she fed the dog.

are together.

b. think about how much you love her.

c. don't talk, you act.

c. wonder how many steps it is to the
bedroom.

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67 She looks her best:

a. when she's asleep.
b. all the time.
c. in the shower.

7. During the last seven nights
you've spent together,you've had
sex:

a. not at all.
b. one to three times.

c. 15 to 20 times if you count more than
once a night.

<?. When you go out of town:
a. you go to the museum while she goes
to the zoo.

b. you plan things you both enjoy and
save the nights for romance.
c. you never see anything but your hotel
and the room service waiter.

rScori/^
Give yourself points as follows:
4 points for every "A" answer.
6 points for every "B" answer.
10 points for every "C" answer.

6^-iSOjoints/
Although love may be in the making,
you are definitely in the extreme lust
stage right now. The question is if the

love will grow enough to replace the
lust when it cools down. Although it
may seem hard right now,try to think
about what you like about her other
than the feel of her naked body in your
bed.Can you imagine living with heron
a daily basis when you aren't spending
every moment in the bedroom? If so,

this relationship just might have a
chance!

4^-6^S
Congratulations! You have found love.
Sex is important to both of you,but it is
not the entire basis of your relationship.
You share common interests and enjoy

spending time together outside the
bedroom. Your sex life is fun,but your

whole life together doesn't revolve
around it.

S2-47^<Hnts^
You may have settled into this
relationship a little too comfortably.
You take each other for granted and
forget sometimes just how lucky you
are. You may need to plan time for
intimacy and getting to know each other
again. Next time you look at her, try to
think about what is right in your
relationship instead of focusing on the
negative aspects.

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Horoscope
What's in the stars for you this month?

ARIES
You may be feeling especially vulnerable to
stress during the first part of February.
Upsetting conditions at home or work could

be affecting you more than they should.

Getting out to socialize could improve your

February. Between work, financial, and

family problems, you may feel you are
being pulled in too many directions after the
8th.Try not to lose your temper with anyone
and stay focused on the task at hand.Things
work themselves out by the 14th. The last

mood as long as you don't overspend. After

part ofthe month brings more fun and social

the 15th your patience and diplomacy can

engagements.

help keep a minor argument from getting
totally out of hand. Your mood is much

improved after the 22nd when your finances

and love life both seem to be improving.

TAI7R1TS
You can get what you want in February if
you ask for it. Whether it's love or money,
if you put in a word to the right person you
just might hit thejackpot! A minor crisis can
be turned into a great opportunity if you play
yourcardsrightafterthe ISth.Don'thesitate

on an important decision—yourfirst instinct
is the one to go with. After the 24th you'll
need to move into the background and follow
a partner's lead to get what you want. You

liBO
Your communication skills are the focus in

February. Even though you aren't in a
sociable mood, you may have many
obligations that require your diplomatic
skills. Although your finances seem to be in
good shape, you should watch spending
after the 15th when you may have to shell
outsome money for a household emergency.
You may have to compromise with your
partner to resolve and old problem on the
20th. Speak up about your wishes toward
month's end — you may be surprised and
get just what you want!

can't always run the show!

VIRGO

GEmm

or a move to bigger and better living

All work and no play won't make for a very
exciting February. A change ofjobs or just
a change of routine could be just what you

conditions could be on the horizon in

A major change in your living arrangements

February. Improvements on the financial
front could be behind the big change. Try to

need to lift your spirits. After the 8th don't

find a balance between work and home

be too trusting with someone who has misled
you in the past. You may be reluctant to

obligations after the 15th. Leaning too far in

form new ties or new relationships after the
21 St. Although this may make you appear to
be standoffish, it is best to remain low-key
and approach any new people in your life

either direction could get you into trouble.
You income could rise after the 23rd, but

along with the extra money will come extra
responsibilities. Be sure to save time for
family activities towards month's end.

with caution.

EIIIRA

CAllfCER
Try not to spread yourself thin or change
directions too quickly during the first part of

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Your bargaining skills should be put to use

during February.If you go about it the right
way, you could talk higher ups into giving
you a raise, promotion or both! An

unexpected attraction to someone you meet
after the 10th could catch you off guard. Be
careful not to move to quickly or you could
get hurt. A weekend apart from a loved one
might bejust what you need to improve your
relationship after the 22nd. Month's end is

a good time to explore new career options
open to you.

SCORPIO
Your financial picture looks rosy during

AQUARnJ!!§»
You'll have to watch your finances closely
this month. Romance could give way to

bickering ifspending continues to rise. Your
life becomes even more hectic after the 15th

when financial concerns carry over to the
workplace and cause friction among your
co-workers. Everything falls into place and
it's smooth sailing after the 24th. Work,
family and home lives are all on an even
keel through month's end.

February, but you may have some minor

problems with the people you live and work
with.Trust and cooperation can help improve

a primary relationship after the 13th. You'll
have to carefully balance work and pleasure
after the 18th.You are likely to find yourself
in a precarious position if you lean too much
in one way or the other. Around the 22nd
you may be feeling hemmed in. A weekend
trip could improve your mood.

PISCES
You certainly won't be lonely during
February! Social and group events fill your
calendar all month. A new friend that you
meet around the 5th could have a very

calming effect on your life. Luck is on your
side after the 19th. Take advantage of this
trend to push your goals and ambitions
forward. Budget your money carefully or
you could find yourselfin a bind by month's

SAorrrARius
You have your work cut out for you during
February. Juggling love, money and career
interests can be difficult if you don't set
your priorities at the outset. The urge to get
away may set in by the 15th. A break from
your usual routine can help you relax and be
ready to go back to work with a new outlook.
An opportunity to advance your career may
arise during the last week,but you'll have to
put in some long hours to secure the position.
Make a plan and stick to it and you'll reach
your goal.

CAPRICORIV
Romance and creative pursuits are at the
forefront during February. The great mood
you are in could cause you to overspend or
ignore your work. This works out fine until
the 13th when you'll have to turn your
attention to the workplace. Travel may be in
the works after the 23rd. Although you and

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The Dirbctort
A Listing of Service Organizations, Businesses & Clubs
Business De&very Systems• 14902 Preston Rd.75240 •733-1108

ALBUQUERQUE,NM (area code 505)
organizations

clubs

Sister Source Cooperative & Lesbian Resource line

Sue Ellen's •3903 Cedar Springs•5598707

144 Harvard SE'268-2116

organizations

AMARILLO,TX (area code 806)
organizations
LesbianA3ayAliance-POBox9361 79105•359-4219
MCC of Amarilo • PC Box 1276•3724557

ARUNGTON,TX (area code 817)

Affirmation • PO Box 225831 75222•948-1546
AIDS Resource Center • P.O. Box 190712 75219

Asians & Friends-PO Box 9142 76209-392-3339

Catliedral ol Hope MCC ■ 5910 Cedar Spnngs Rd.- 361-1901
Community Church & College of Divine Metaphysics
400lUveOak#40l'826-7110.ExL401

Congregation Betti El Binali - P.O.Box 191188 75219 - 497-1591
Couples Metro Dallas - PO Box 803156 75380 - E04-6775
Dallas Gay and Lesbian Alliance

clubs

P.O. Box 190712 75219•5284233• FAX 5224604

Ropers•2023 South Cooper •26&^4

Dallas Gay/Lesbian Historic Archives• P.O. Box 190712 75219 •821-1653
Dallas Gay Youth Group •300 Turtle Creek Plaza #116'307-7203

organizations
Gay/Lesbian Association of LTTA
P.O. Box 19348-77, UTA SL 76019•794-6140

Trinity MCC•331 Aaron Ave.,Ste 125 •265-5454

Dallas Outdoors• P.O. Box 35474 75235•2755270

Dallas Tavern Guild •3900 Lemmon Ave.#220• 5255292
Dignity/Dallas • PO Box 190133 75219 •2264101
Foundation for Human Understanding ■ 5284233

Gay/Lesbian Gardeners • PO Box 190552 75219• 3398787

AUSTIN,TX (area code 512)

GLAAD/Dallas• P.O. Box 190712 75219•525GLAD

Grace Fellowship in Christ Jesus •2727 Oak l_awn • 5252811

clubs

Lesbian/(Say Demoaats of Texas•521-5342 exL 229

HdlywDOd • 113 San Jadnto •4809627

LesbianASay Political CJoalition • P.O. Box 224424 75222•8259882

Nexus-305W.Stti •472-5288

organizations
Affirmation (Methodist)•7403 Shoal Creek•451-2329

Austin Latino/a LesbianyOay Organization
PC Box 1350 78787 • 2808107

Lesbian Resource Center • 1315 Skiles* 8218999

Usbian Visionaries • PO Box 191443 75219•521-5342 Xe44
UL(Usbian Info Une •521-5342 exL 298

SPROUTS(coming out group)• £21-5342 exL 256
TWKaS (the wymn in gay society)• 5218342 exL 269
The New Vision (newsjoumal)•521-5342 exL 255

Austin Lesbian/Gay Politicai Caucus• P.O. Box 822 78767•474^)750

MetroplexRepublicans 'P.O.Box 191033 75219 '9418114

Center for Battered Women • (Lesbian(^p)

Oak Lawn Community Services 4300 MacArthur•5208108
Oak Lawn Symphonic Band -P.O. Box 19097376219'9851751

385-5181 Of 9209070(hotline)

Gay/Lesbian Student Association at UT Austin
458-3971 'Box 275 Texas Union 78712-7338

PFLAG/Dallas' Helpline 5588640
Imperial Sovereign Royal Court of Dallas

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P.O. Box 190464 75245
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Lesbian Mothers - Karen •339-8508

Sevenlh-Oay Adventist Knshp '4151358

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Womyn Together'3920 Ced^ Springs'5284233

Metropolitan Community Church •1100 Springdale Rd.• 929-3660
Oasis Mnistry•5555 N. Lamar Blvd.#L101 • 441-9191

P-Fiag (Parents/Friends Lesbians/Gays)• 331-8445

Sapphfire!• Lesbian Social Group• 4508659
Meeting Address• 825 E. 531/2 SL.Ste E103

Maiing Address* 201 W.Stassney,Ste.#321 78746-3156
Waterloo Counseling Center •507 Powell 78703• 322-9654
Texas Human Rights Foundation • P.O. Box 49740 78765•479-8473
AIDS Legal Assistance 1-800-8288417
The Treehouse (Lesbian Mothers Support(aroup)
607 Nueces SL 78701 •477-6822

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P.O. Box 5067 76203
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Agape MCC - 4815 SE Loop 820 - 535-5002

Alternative Visions • Dating Service•747-2033

Affirmation (MethorSst)•4757837

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Lesblan-'Gay Politcal Coalitjon ol Tarrant County •263^006 or 8600326
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IrkJmgs Bookshop • 1846 Richmond • 521-3369
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National Gay/Lesbian Clearinghouse

666 Broadway 4th Floor - NY. NY 10012
National Gay/Lesbian Task Force
1517 U Street NW • Washington D.C. 20009• 202-332-6483
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XTC • 9212 Buffalo SpcJwy.•666-3356

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Herland Sister Resources. Inc.

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Houston Gay Political Caucus• P.O. Box 66664 77266 ■ 521-1000
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1919 Decatur-861-9149

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P-Rag (Parents/Friends Lesbians/Gays)•822-4135
River City Living Metropolitan Community Church
202 Holland 78212 -622-1121

Lambda Students Center • 1140 W. Woodtawn Ave.

Dstinct Travel • 793-8374

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Lbttock Lesbian/Gay Alliance & Wild Wilde West Prod.
P.O. Box 64746 79464 • 79M499

Community Outreach Center & Outreach AA (Tues. AThurs.@8pm) l02N.Ave.S- 762-1019
MCC Lubbock - 5502 34lh SL • 792-5562

SALSA - San Antonio Lambda Students Alliance

PO Box 12715 76212 - SALSA Une 733-1225
San Antonio AIDS Foundation
PO Box 120113 78212-9313
San Antonio Tavem Guild - 822-2823

P-Flag (Parents/Friends Lesbians.'Gays)• 7990529
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4204-B 50th SI 79413• 1-806627-7079• 7967068

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SHERMAN,TX (area code 903)
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AIDS Resource Center of Texhoma - 8161272 or 800-5266361
Alliance for Ufe•PO Box 1695 75091 - 892-9049
HIV/AIDS Setvices•PO Box 169575091 •4667258

PO Box 1021 - Evanston. IL 60204

AIDS Action Counal• 729 Eighth St. S.E. Suite 200
Washington. DC 20003 -{202)647-3101
AIDS 800-1-806221-7044
Conference For Catholic Lesbians

PO Box 436, Planetarium Station • New York, NY 10024
GLAAD/USA • 80 Vanck St. #3E • NY. NY 10013
Hate Crime Line • 1-606347-HATE

Gay & Lesbian Parents Coalition International (GLPCI)
PO Box 50360, Washington. DC 20091 •(202) 583-8029
Lesbian Mothers' National Defense Fund

PO Box 21S67 • Seattle. WA 98111 - (206) 3262643
Lesbian Teachers Network (LTN)
PO Box 638-Solon, IA 52333

National Gay Alliance for Young Adults, Inc.
PO Box 190426 • Dallas. TX 75219 •(214)307-7203

WACO,TX (area code 817)
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P-Flag (Parents/Friends Lesbians/Gays)• 750-7211

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It's unfortunate but true that the radical right
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They wish to force their narrow dogma on
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announcement,the administration reinstated
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well-funded propaganda machine is stealing
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A case in point: the recent events at Stephen
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can really make a difference.

Student Association,depriving the group of
funding and the use of campus facilities.
On public college campuses,students must
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The radical right has demonstrated that there
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they have generated a war chest of millions.
The time has come for us to join together:
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of condemnation. The courts have agreed.

They have upheld free expression on college
campuses,regardless ofwhether the message

To donate or for more information, call or

is popular. The Texas Human Rights
right of gay and lesbian student groups to

write THRF at:(512)479-THRF;P.O. Box
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use campus facilities. The result, we have
seen gay and lesbian student organizations

Acting Executive Director
Texas Human Rights Foundation

Foundation sponsored the lawsuit against
Texas A&M University that affirmed the

and support groups formed on every major
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All Eyes On The
104th
WASHINGTON, D.C. — Promising
to revolutionize American government.

Republicans opened the doors of the
Capitol Building to a new House of
Representatives and Senate both
dominated by the Republican party for
the first time in 40 years.Stepping up to
the rostrum for the first time on the

who have a long-standing tradition of
opposing gay-positive legislation.Chief
among them is Jesse Helms, the
homophobic North Carolina senator,
who will now head the Senate Foreign
Relations Committee.

Activists can expect to spend the bulk
of their energies throughout the 104th
Congress fighting off anti-gay
legislation and funding cuts. Many

morning of January 3rd, new Speaker

previously defeated Radical Right
initiatives may find a second wind in

of the House Newt Gingrich touted his

the 104th session.Anti-gay amendments

Contract With America. Previous
statements by Gingrich, including that
"it is madness to pretend that families

may appear in legislation on topics
ranging from government personnel
policies to milk subsidies.Funding may

are anything other than heterosexual

be challenged for the Ryan White CARE

couples,"make it clear that his Contract
With America is intended to support

only some Americans.Gay,lesbian and
bisexual people have learned to read
between the lines of proposed Contract

policies

like "The

Family

Reinforcement Act"and mightconsider
renaming the Republican Contract a

Actand other AIDS research and service

appropriations, the
National
Endowment of the Arts for its funding
of gay positive art, and for sehools
teaching tolerance and acceptance of
all students, including gay and lesbian
youth.Unfortunately,pro-active efforts,

What concerns most progressive
activists is notthe takeover ofthe House

ineluding movement of pro-gay federal
legislation such as the Employment
Non-Discrimination Actseem unlikely
in such politically conservative and

and Senate by the Republican party per

hostile environment.In addition,attacks

se but rather the dominance of an

on abortion rights, social security

ultraconservative faction of Senators
and Representatives. According to a
recentreport by the Christian Coalition,
a full 44 of the 62 new Republican
members ofthe House conformed to its

insurance, health care and new

"Contract on America.

"pro-family, pro-life" agenda. Also
alarming are the number of familiar

immigrants all appear likely.
Activistsfrom all comers ofthe country

will need to keep up on the new hostile

Congress by lobbying their Senators
and Representatives regularly if the
voices gay,lesbian and bisexual people

faces now chairing powerful committees
February 1995• Dimensions• Page 7

are to be heard on Capitol Hill.
The National Gay and Lesbian Task
Force(NGLTF)offers several resources
to assist in lobbying the federal

government. To learn more about

writing, calling and visiting your
senators and representatives,Call(202)
332-6483, ext. 3327 and request

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HOLLYWOOD,CA - NBC will air the

Texas Lesbian Conference(TLC) will

two hour, made for television movie

"Serving in Silence; The Margarethe
Cammermeyer Story" on Monday,
February 6th.
The movie is based on the true story of
Colonel Margarethe Cammermeyer,the

highest ranking officer ever to be
discharged from the U.S. military for
admitting she is a lesbian. Colonel
Cammermeyerhasfought her discharge
through the federal courts with the help
of the Lambda Defense Fund,
Northwestern Women'sLaw Center and

the National Lawyers Guild. In June of
1994, a federal judge declared the
regulation leading to her discharge
unconstitutional and reinstated the

Colonel in the National Guard. An

appeal is pending,but it is believed that
it will be resolved in her favor based on
the Keith Meinhold decision.

Academy Award nominated actresses
Glen Close(as Colonel Cammermeyer)
and Australian Judy Davis (as her on

Meron and Cis Corman.

be held March 31, April 1 & 2 at the
Radisson Hotel onTownLake in Austin.

TLC is the only annual statewide lesbian
conference in the United States.

Organized each year by volunteers in
the host city, TLC has proven to be an
effective tool for sharing resources and
ideas, for expanding awareness and

developing leadership asTexaslesbians.
This year's theme is "Texas Women:
Living Out Loud." We are currently

accepting proposals for workshops to
be presented at the conference under
this theme.

TLC'95 will dovetail with the Statewide

"Stop the Violence, Stop the Hate

Lesbian and Gay Rights March on
Austin on April 2nd.The March begins
at 12 noon at Palmer Auditorium and

will proceed up Congress Avenue

toward the Capitol.The March is being
held because seven people in Texas
were murdered because they were gay

in 1994.The March is sponsored by the
Lesbian/Gay Rights Lobby of Texas.

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Early registration for TLC '95 is $45

478-9611 and state that you are a TLC
participant.TLC will arrange alternative
housing upon request.

and includes entertainment, keynote
speakers, workshops, a banquet,
Saturday night women's dance and all
other conference activities. Registration
fees will increase closer to the

For more information, call the TLC
Hotline at (512) 326-4453 or write to
TLC'95,P.O.Box 200546,Austin,TX

conference.

78720-0546. The conference is

The Radisson Hotel is offering a special
rate for conference participants. Single
or double occupancy will be $82 per
room, with three or four per room the
rate will be $92 per night. The hotel is

wheelchair accessible,and will provide
sign language interpreters. Braille
materials, and child care on request.

only holding 100 rooms for the

conference, so be sure to make your
reservations early to get the special
room rates. Call the Radisson at (512)

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What's

Oa

A Monthly Listing Of Special Events All Around The Area
SUZANNE WESTENHOEFER -

AUSTIN - Make your plans now to

Suzanne Westenhoefer, comedienne

attend the 8th Annual Texas Lesbian

extrodinairre will be making a quick
tour of Texas in February. If you have
caught her act on Comedy Central or
various talk shows, you know just how

Conference and to show your pride in
the Lesbian and Gay March on

funny she is. This is a don't miss show.

on Town Lake. The March (sponsored

SAN ANTONIO - First stop, San
Antonio. Ms. Westenhoefer will be

by the Lesbian/Gay Rights Lobby of
Texas)will begin at 12 noon on April 2

Austin. The conference will be held

March 31-April2atthe Radisson Hotel

appearing at Bonham Exchange on

atthePalmer Auditorium and proceed

Thursday,February 9th. The show will
start about 9:30pm. Tickets are $10 in

For more info on the conference, call

advance and $12 at the door and are

(512) 326-4453. For more info on the

available at Bonham Exchange. For
more info, call(210) 224-9219.
AUSTIN - She will be appearing in

march, call (512)474-5475.

Austin atthe Radisson Hotel Ballroom

on

Friday, February 10th at 8pm.

up Congress Ave. toward the Capitol.

DALLAS - ART-Positive, a gallery

show & sale featuring the work ofHIVpositive artists opens Sunday, March

Tickets are $15 in advance and $18 at

19th at the Edith Baker Gallery(2404

the

Cedaar Springs Road). The show will
present a wide range of paintings and
sculpturefrom area HIV-positive artists.
A portion of the proceeds will go to
benefit Legacy Counseling Center, a

door and

are

available

at

Bookwoman, Celebration! and

Liberty Books. Call (512) 929-8630
for more info.

FORT WORTH - She will then travel to

the Metroplex for a show on Saturday,
February 11th at 8pm at Orchestra
Hal! (4401 Trail Lake Dr.) in Fort
Worth. Tickets are $15 in advance and

non-profit mental health care agency

that provides counseling and emotional
support to individuals, friends and
family members challenged with AlDs

$17 at the door and are available at

and HIV. For more info, call Carolyn

Connections Bookstore and Agape

at(214)622-5252.

MCC in Fort Worth and at Crossroads
Market in Dallas. For more info, call
(817)924-3264.
HOUSTON - Then, it's on to Houston

on Sunday,February 12th for her final

Texas appearance at the Heinen
Theatre(3517 Austin St.at Holman)at
7:30pm.Tickets are$15 in advance and

OKLAHOMA CITY - Herland Sister

Resourcesisforming acommunityfood
pantry to help lesbians in need.
Donationsofnon-perishablefood items,
pet food and household supplies are
needed.If you can donate or if you need

Inklings Bookshop and Crossroads

help,go by Herland(2312 N.W.39th)
during business hours on Saturdays
10am-5pm and Sundays lpm-5pm.For

Market.For more info,call(713)521-

more info, call(405)521-9696.

$17 at the door and are available at

3369.

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hold their 4th annual festival on

OF INTEREST TO ALL
Golden Threads, a worldwide social
network ofLesbian women over50and

February 16-18. This year's festival
will again be held at the Dallas Theater
Center on Turtle Creek with a special
opening night screening at the Inwood

older women will hold its 9th Annual
Golden Threads Celebration on June
23-25 in Provincetown,Massachusetts.

DALLAS - The Dallas Lesbian &

Gay International Film Festival will

Theater.If you would like more info or
are interested in volunteering to help
with the festival, call Deb at(214)2574443.

women ofany age who are interested in

There will be workshops,entertainment

provided by Alix Dobkin and a banquet
to be followed by dancing.OLOC(Old
Lesbians Organizingfor Change)will
also hold their June meeting to coincide

FORT WORTH - The First Thursday

with the Celebration. For more

Lesbian Social (formerly Second
Tuesday, formerly First Friday) meets
the first Thursday of each month from
6-9pm at Downtown Java(at 6th St.&
Houston on Sundance Square). First
Thursday is amonthly social networking
group for lesbians. Admission is $1.
food,coffee and beverages are available.

information, write Christine Burton,
Golden Threads, P.O. Box 60475,

Northhampton, MA 01060-0475.
Team Seattle will hold its Second

Annual Winter SportsFestival March
10-12 at the Seattle Center Arena and

the Lesbian Caucus of the Women's

at Snoqualmie Pass ski area.
Competitions will be held in alpine
skiing, cross-country
skiing,
snowboarding, ice hockey and figure
skating(singles,pairs and ice dancing).
For more info or to register, call(206)

Caucusfor Art will host"Re/Defining

820-3438.

BYOB if desired.

SAN ANTONIO - The Esperanza
Peace & Justice Center (EPJC) and

Lesbians: Power/Transition", a
national exhibition of recent visual art

by self-identifying lesbians. The show
will be held through February 19th at
EPJC (922 San Pedro at Evergreen).
For more info, call(210)228-0201.

If you have Information for
What's Goln'On,
please send It to us!
Deadline for submissions
is the 20th of each month.

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Sunday, FE&RUARY 12, 1995, 7:30 pm
at Houston's HEINEN THEATRE. 3517 Austin @ Holman

TICKETS: $ 15 advance, $ 1 7 at door (k
In advance at: Inklings Bookshop, (713)521-3369
& Crossroads Market, (713)942-0147

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m^EAR A09irE2$
Answers to your questions about love,

RELATIONSHIIPS & PERSONAL PROBLEMS

Dear Agnes,

Dear Agnes,

How refreshing to read that there is a
butch out there willing to be "a butch
searching for a femme." She can feel
free to write to me if you will give her

This is in reference to the letter in the

Dec./Jan.94-95 issue signed "Looking
for Femmes."

It seems that a lesbian is in the eye ofthe
beholder, like beauty. You see,I don't

The best thing she can do is quit putting
women into categories based on their
looks. I have long hair, wear makeup
and occasionally even heels.I can work

see many (if any) butches out there

on my own car,do my own home repairs

unless already welded - oops -1 mean

and have a collection oftools that would

wedded.

make most men drool. I may look
"femme," but I'm truly a butch girl at

my address.

"Looking for Femmes" would not be
attracted to mefor I am an older woman,

heart.

not too femme, but attractive. Living
has left its trace-lines and so forth. But,

On the other hand,I know women with

I delighted in her letter and strongly
encourage her to keep up her search.

change their own tire.

I believe there can be good butch/femme

attracted to someone who looks like

a classic "butch" look who can't even

The letter-writer states that she is "not

togetherness, mutual respect. I cherish

myself."I think she needs to change her

a dream of someday meeting a butch
with whom I can live life as her femme
even though I understand women's

standards.Looks are not what it is about.

If she truly wants to find someone to

all-ableness and liberation. Women's

shares her interests and not someone

Lib empowered me and Iam a person,

even try a dance ...

who looks just right but couldn't care
less about the things she finds fun,
interesting or entertaining.
One last note: going on the "big love
hunt," usually results only in
disappointment. The best way to find
love is to quit looking for it. Make
friends, have fun. Love can find you in
the most amazing places.

Sincerely,

Look Below the Haircut

Femme Looking for a Butch

Dallas, TX

a lesbian, a femme — all part of a

spiritual being and hey — it's great.
I believe a good way to approach me as
a femme is to be simple and honest.

Say, "I'm not a good dancer, but I'd
like to buy you a coke (or a drink, or
whatever) and talk with you a little —

love,she should look for a woman who

Austin, TX

February 1995• Dimensions • Page 13

Dear Agnes,

Gray on December 27th,without paying

This is to "Looking forFemmes"in the

for the items that had previously hung

January issue. Give me a break! Can't
we get passed all this butch/femme crap?

rack.

on the hangers left on the magazine

Women are women are women.Period.

We are blessed to have a gay store that

Whether they have short hair or long,

provides a variety ofitems and services,

wearjeans or skirts,heels or workboots,
they all have the same plumbing.
middle ofthe butch/femme equation.In

for San Antonio's gays and lesbians.
How could you steal from your
"family"?
Your Conscience

the right circumstances they can lean

San Antonio, TX

Most women I know fall close to the

either way. They may go to work in a
dress,heels and full makeup,and to the

bar in jeans, t-shirt and no makeup.
The only way to know if you are truly
attracted to someone or not is to talk to

them.It may be that the prettiestfemme
in the bar has a mouth like a sailor and

that semi-butch girl you passed over
because she didn'tlook rightis someone
you could really fall in love with.
Also,the best way to approach someone
if you don't know how to dance is
simply to ask if they mind if you buy

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COME OUT

Dear Agnes,

SUZANNE

I would like to address the two heavy-

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IN ADNANCE

Celebration

LOVE
HUN?
HANDY HINTS AND TIPS TO HELP YOU IN
YOUR SEARCH FOR A VALENTINE

You're single (not by choice) and it
seems like everyone around you has
someone to love. You would really like
someone to share your bed and your
life.Someone who will bring you candy
and flowers on Valentine's Day,comfort

you when you've had a bad day and

expect it." Instead of going out to a bar,
coffee house or church and seeing every
woman present as a potential partner,
try going to those places just for fun.

Desperation is not pretty. When you are
on a big hunt for love, it shows on your
face and scares off those who might

someone who will help you do laundry

otherwise respond to an overture of

and clean house on Saturdays. So you
set out for the bar, dressed in your best
and start looking,right? Wrong.Below
are some tips to help you find love.

friendship.
2. NETWORK.Sounds like a business

Some are common sense, some are a

term, but it can be applied to personal
relationships as well. Many women are

little harder to implement, but all are
sound advice.

in relationships with people who started
out being"friends offriends." Ask your
friends to introduce you to women they

1, QUIT LOOKING.I know,I know.
You've heard it before. The problem is
that the old adage usually holds true —
"Love will find you when you least

think you might like. Go to parties
where you are likely to meet women
you wouldn't meet in the normal course
of your life.

February 1995• Dimensions • Page 15

Join a club that interests you.There are

your cat. You've heard the old joke:

hundreds of specialized groups for gay

What does a lesbian bring on the first
date? A U-Haul. Don't be a u-hauler.
Just because you've met a woman you

men and lesbians out there. There are

outdoor groups,political groups,sports

teams, gardening clubs, theater cjubs,
and organizations for gays of many
occupations or certain ages or both.
Pick one that suits your interests and

like and enjoyed your first date doesn t

mean you have to move in together
within the week.

Put yourself in her shoes: You've met a

join up. If you can't find a group you

woman at a friends house. You ask er

like, start your own.

out to dinner and a movie. Before you

If you are a religious person, join and

even getto the main course,she's talking

attend a gay church in your area. Even

about
whatarecolors
the ^
house you
goingyou'll
to buy decorate
together an

if you live out in the sticks, you could
still attend church in a city close to you
once a month or so. Of course, while

you are doing all this networking,keep
rule number one in mind.

3.ADVERTISE.No,this doesn't mean
wearing a low cut blouse and skin-tight
jeans to the bar.I mean...place an ad.In
your local gay paper, here in
Dimensions,or on the bulletin board at
your local women's group. Don't go

into it looking for love.Start by looking
for new friends. Give yourself some

space. This way you don't have to feel
bad if you don't find that perfect
someone and you might end up with
alot of new friends to network through.

asking if you want to be the one to e
artificially inseminated. What
do? a. Swoon and say yes, you d mve

to have a family with her, or; b. un
screaming from the restaurant an go
straight home to call all your frien s o
tell them how crazy she is and tha you
are lucky you got out alive? Most o us
would probably pick "b."

6. DONT COUNT ON "LOVE AT
FIRST SIGHT." Yes, it does happen,
but that doesn't mean it's the only way
to find true love.I once had a frien w o

believed fervently in love at first sig t
— and she practiced at the bar every
weekend.She always knew she was in
love" with a woman just because s e

a. CO ON LOTS OF CASUAL

danced a certain way or walked ^ross

DATES.I do mean casual.Don't make

the
bar in just the right manner, ever
mind that she didn't know the woman s

every date the wine,dinner and dancing
type.Go to lunch or to the Softball park.

name,age, occupation or temperament

Be creative. It is hard to know if you

— all she needed was to see her

really like a woman when the only

a crowed, smoky room and tha as
enough.Overtheyearsshehadcoun ss

conversation you have is shouting at
each other over the music in a bar or

"lovers" who lasted a week

sitting quietly next to her in the pew at

months. I don't know where s

church. Go somewhere where neither

today, but I hope she's learne

of you will feel that romantic pressure

although love at first sight is a

and there's lots of room to just talk.

is ^

possibility, it isn't anything to hase a
long-term relationship on.

5. NO TALK OF COMMITMENT
ON THE FIRST (OR SECOND OR

THIRD) DATE. The fastest way to
scare offa woman is to talk about setting
up housekeeping before she's even met

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7.WHEN YOU DO SEE SOMEOJE
YOU THINK YOU LIKE, BE
PERSISTENT (BUT NOT TOO
PERSISTENT). Most of us have had

,

this experience. You are sitting in the
bar with friends when a nice looking
woman comes over and asks you to

dance.You havejustcome offthe dance
floor and you are hot,sweaty and thirsty.
You tell her no thanks and say you'd
love to dance later, after you rest for a
minute. She takes it as total rejection
and never comes back. On the other

hand there are the women you might

have talked to if they hadn't been so
pushy — asking you to dance at the
beginning of every song for an hour

Come Play The Dating Game

when all you want to do is sit back and
take it easy. If she had only offered to
buy you a drink instead of constantly
bugging you to dance, you might have

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accepted and gotten to know her.
Take these examples as lessons. Just
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Ask again — you may be surprised. If
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What A World,
What A World
SMART FAT
BY NANCY FORD
The New Queer Year is here, and a

mere one month later,already the sound

family, should be regarded and
respected as fat with a Master's degree.

of resolutions can be heard shattering

Weight and body image have been very

across this great self-deprecating land

much in the forefront of our collective

of ours.

American consciousness since Dolly

I personally have never been much of

Madison put aside her needle and started
baking snack cakes. We've watched
Oprah expand and contract,expand and
contract, expand and contract. We've
listened to Susan Powter pout. We've
played poker with our Deal-A-Meal
cards. I'll see your three vegetable
exchanges and raise you a chocolate

one for resolutions. I figure, I'm forty
years old. The only New Trick this Old
Dog is interested in has little to do with

changing habits permanently ingrained
into my psyche for four decades. Not to
imply that I'm inflexible. Absolutely
not.I am flexible,I don't care what you
say,and I'll never change.Sof _you.
Silliness aside,(Yeah, right.) There is
one resolution-type specterthat has hung
over my head for as nearly as long as I
can remember. It's the old "This year
I'm definitely losing weight" post-

croissant.

Food for thought, but not for
swallowing. The average American
female stands 5'4" tall and weighs 146

pounds.Conversely,the average fashion
model stands 5'10" and weighs 120

holiday mantra.

pounds. Hel-/o? Who's doing the math

I was raised to believe that the best time

at the fashion designing store? Hubbell

to start a diet is January 2. If that date
happens to fall on Monday,all the better.
Magic Monday.It's as though we think
fat is stupid. We think we can binge all
week long, but then, come Monday
morning,we eatacouple ofcarrotsticks,
pop some bee pollen, and chase that

telescope scientists?

It's been suggested that love always has
a metabolic effect on those who have

the good fortune to tumble into it. Some
insist that one has a tendency to lose
weight when in love, as a result of

turning to one's paramour, rather than

silly, stupid old fat away — right?
Wrong. Fat is not stupid. Fat is smart.

food, for comfort. It's true — who

Fat homesteads.Fat is not nomadic.Fat

ourselves by curling up on the couch

finds a place where it is most
comfortable,and it stays.Like on thighs.

with a big pork roastdipped in chocolate
on a cold,rainy night? Maybe that'sjust

Smartfat.Smart,smart,smart.Cellulite,

me.

the most enduring member of the fat

Now comes psychiatrist and eating-

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among us,when single,haven'tindulged

^

disorder specialist Dr.Leo Wollman to

relatively inconsequential. But it still

tell us that "two out of three people

beats the hell out of bowling. And you
can wear your own shoes.

gain weight afterfalling in love, Social
drinking also increases because meeting
each other's family and friends often
involves afew drinks;sometimes,alot

of drinks,depending on the family and
friends.

The good doctor offered tips to avoid
adding poundage after giving your heart
to another. These suggestions were

originally published in Weekly World
News,in the same issue in which Elvis
informed President Clinton of his
eminent return to show business. So
don't think I haven't done my

journalistic research.
• Find substitutes for gifts you eat.

Nancy Ford is a Houston-based conedan and writer,
and isa irequent contrOiitnr to the gay an lesidan press.
Eacb Tiu^,sbe hosts Open Mc atPiaza San(3200
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713-000-3484 for kiforaaOon and reservations.

Bring flowers instead of wine. Even
non-edible panties might be nice for a
change.

• Don't make a special event out of
mealtime. Avoid exotic restaurants and

gourmet cookbooks. This is a good
way to your honey's depth ofdevotion,
too.Do you love me a la Filet do boeuf
or do you love me a la Whopper?It's all

lUDDlJM'S

in the translation.

'Have a talk aboutfood early in your
relationship. Determine through open
communication if you and your partner
intend to eattogether.Make sure you're
both ready. Plan it, don't be

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It's a matter of respect. Oh, wait —
that's the procedure for safe sex.Forget
I brought it up.
• Work off anxious moments with
activity rather than food.
Unfortunately, it has been determined

that while sex can be wonderfully
invigorating, the actual number of
calories burned during the act is

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The Coffee Ceub
Lesbians In The Arts • Books, Music, Movies, Etc.

This Month, Tasha Sumner Introduces:

Getting to tiie Point
tg Teresa Stores

Night Songs
by Penny Mickelbury

The first book we'll look at this month

for the occasional "don't tell your

is Getting to thePoint by Teresa Stores.
The story revolves around Dix, an

grandmother," and her brother and his
wife are trying hard notto bejudgmental.

aspiring writer who has returned home

Everything is moving along semismoothly until Dix's lover, Sarah,

to"The Point" to help her mother while

her grandmother dies. The Point is a

arrives.

town at the end of the road on the

Sarah has never had a family.

Florida-Georgia border.
Dix's family is filled with bom-again

Abandoned by her mother at age five,
she grew up in a procession of foster

Christians. Her father hasn't spoken to

homes. She doesn't understand Dix's

her since she announced her lesbianism.

need for her family's love. She shows
up at the Point in her restored'52pickup

Her mother avoids the subject except

February 1995• Dimensions• Page 23

with pink triangles painted down the

for Baby Doll's life.

side and Greenpeace, Pro-Choice and
No Nukes bumper stickers all over the
back end. One of the first things she
does is kiss Dix in full view ofthe entire
family.

The next question is: Who is killing

There are no stereotypes here — only
family. Dix's right-wing family reacts
with real-life confusion to the news that
one of their members is gay. There is

love and concern mixed with disgust
and embarrassment.

women on the streets of Washington,
D.C.?The further each woman gets into

her own investigation, the more the

evidence points to the highest levels of
the political food chain.

NightSongs is astep above mostlesbian
murder mysteries.The plot is believable
and the characters feel real. Plot and

sub-plot work together seamlessly to
make Night Songs a great read.

Getting to the Point is a wonderful

book although a little choppy. Abrupt
changes in person (i.e.: from whose
point-of-view the story is being told)
are,confusing and ineffective.However,
those complaints aside,the overall effect
is an honest look at how families cope
— with death, with life, with abuse,

Both Getting to the Point and Night
Songs are available at your local
women's bookstore orfor $10.95 from
Naiad Press, Inc., P.O. Box 10543,
Tallahassee, FL 32302. Please include

15% postage and handling. Complete
catalogs are available upon request.

with love and with a lesbian in their

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midst.I highly recommend this book to
any and all.

Next, we'll look at Night Songs, A

Gianna Maglione Mystery by Penny
Micklebury (author of Keeping

Books, music and more

Secrets).

for the lesbian, gay and

Gianna Maglione is a police lieutenant

feminist communities.

and head of the Hate Crimes Unit in

Washington, D.C.. Her lover, Mimi
Patterson, is a hot-shot investigative

newspaper reporter. Both,on their own
time are investigating the murder of a

Inklings

number of prostitutes in the city. The
two women can't share information

about their separate investigations
although each knows the other is
working on the same case. Gianna,as a

1846 Richmond Ave.

Houston, Texas 77098

cop, can't even be seen talking with
Mimi, much less acknowledge their

(713) 521-3369

relationship. Mimi,a a reporter, is just

Toll-Free Ordering:

tiying to break a hot story until she
meets Baby Doll.Then her quest to find
the killers becomes personal as she fears

(800)931-3369

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in Houston

(713) 521-3369

Poetry
From Our Readers
Take me away,

Take me to the place that my passion runs free
hearing the song that can take me there
The intense fire that burns within

The yearning for fulfillment
Look into my eyes
Read my sord
Look and admire

Do not try to possess
Come with me

Release the passion
You have created erotic fantasy

The longing for you will die slowly
This will be fire or ice,
Love or hate

No neutral state

That fleeting moment must subside
The waiting. Oh the waiting
A heavy weight
Will this weight lift
Can the fire go out
Is the fire of the earth

Will time let it die
Of the earth there is a volcano

This volcanic activity rules my soul.
Mostly my heart.
-CJ

Dallas, TX

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There are many stages toa relationship.

S. On a typical date, you:

First comes lust... you know, it's that
time when you first get really involved

a. go to dinner and a movie.

when you can't seem to drag yourself
out of the bedroom. Hopefully the lust
period is followed by love — when you
finally emerge from the bedroom to
find that even out here, you still want to
spend your time with her. So,is it love
or lust or on the rocks? To find out,

answer the questions below.

b. talk about anything & everything.
c.intend to go out,but never make it out
the door.

4. When you are away from her,
you think about:
a. how mad she was this morning

because you left the lid off the
toothpaste.
b. her smile.

/.The most attractive thing about

c. the hot time you had last night and

her is:

will have again tonight.

a. her eyes.
b. everything.

5. When the two of you talk

c. her butt.

2. When you look into her eyes,

about sex, you:
a. wonder why you don't do it more
often.

you:

b. tell each other how wonderful you

a. wonder if she fed the dog.

are together.

b. think about how much you love her.

c. don't talk, you act.

c. wonder how many steps it is to the
bedroom.

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67 She looks her best:

a. when she's asleep.
b. all the time.
c. in the shower.

7. During the last seven nights
you've spent together,you've had
sex:

a. not at all.
b. one to three times.

c. 15 to 20 times if you count more than
once a night.

<?. When you go out of town:
a. you go to the museum while she goes
to the zoo.

b. you plan things you both enjoy and
save the nights for romance.
c. you never see anything but your hotel
and the room service waiter.

rScori/^
Give yourself points as follows:
4 points for every "A" answer.
6 points for every "B" answer.
10 points for every "C" answer.

6^-iSOjoints/
Although love may be in the making,
you are definitely in the extreme lust
stage right now. The question is if the

love will grow enough to replace the
lust when it cools down. Although it
may seem hard right now,try to think
about what you like about her other
than the feel of her naked body in your
bed.Can you imagine living with heron
a daily basis when you aren't spending
every moment in the bedroom? If so,

this relationship just might have a
chance!

4^-6^S
Congratulations! You have found love.
Sex is important to both of you,but it is
not the entire basis of your relationship.
You share common interests and enjoy

spending time together outside the
bedroom. Your sex life is fun,but your

whole life together doesn't revolve
around it.

S2-47^<Hnts^
You may have settled into this
relationship a little too comfortably.
You take each other for granted and
forget sometimes just how lucky you
are. You may need to plan time for
intimacy and getting to know each other
again. Next time you look at her, try to
think about what is right in your
relationship instead of focusing on the
negative aspects.

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Horoscope
What's in the stars for you this month?

ARIES
You may be feeling especially vulnerable to
stress during the first part of February.
Upsetting conditions at home or work could

be affecting you more than they should.

Getting out to socialize could improve your

February. Between work, financial, and

family problems, you may feel you are
being pulled in too many directions after the
8th.Try not to lose your temper with anyone
and stay focused on the task at hand.Things
work themselves out by the 14th. The last

mood as long as you don't overspend. After

part ofthe month brings more fun and social

the 15th your patience and diplomacy can

engagements.

help keep a minor argument from getting
totally out of hand. Your mood is much

improved after the 22nd when your finances

and love life both seem to be improving.

TAI7R1TS
You can get what you want in February if
you ask for it. Whether it's love or money,
if you put in a word to the right person you
just might hit thejackpot! A minor crisis can
be turned into a great opportunity if you play
yourcardsrightafterthe ISth.Don'thesitate

on an important decision—yourfirst instinct
is the one to go with. After the 24th you'll
need to move into the background and follow
a partner's lead to get what you want. You

liBO
Your communication skills are the focus in

February. Even though you aren't in a
sociable mood, you may have many
obligations that require your diplomatic
skills. Although your finances seem to be in
good shape, you should watch spending
after the 15th when you may have to shell
outsome money for a household emergency.
You may have to compromise with your
partner to resolve and old problem on the
20th. Speak up about your wishes toward
month's end — you may be surprised and
get just what you want!

can't always run the show!

VIRGO

GEmm

or a move to bigger and better living

All work and no play won't make for a very
exciting February. A change ofjobs or just
a change of routine could be just what you

conditions could be on the horizon in

A major change in your living arrangements

February. Improvements on the financial
front could be behind the big change. Try to

need to lift your spirits. After the 8th don't

find a balance between work and home

be too trusting with someone who has misled
you in the past. You may be reluctant to

obligations after the 15th. Leaning too far in

form new ties or new relationships after the
21 St. Although this may make you appear to
be standoffish, it is best to remain low-key
and approach any new people in your life

either direction could get you into trouble.
You income could rise after the 23rd, but

along with the extra money will come extra
responsibilities. Be sure to save time for
family activities towards month's end.

with caution.

EIIIRA

CAllfCER
Try not to spread yourself thin or change
directions too quickly during the first part of

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Your bargaining skills should be put to use

during February.If you go about it the right
way, you could talk higher ups into giving
you a raise, promotion or both! An

unexpected attraction to someone you meet
after the 10th could catch you off guard. Be
careful not to move to quickly or you could
get hurt. A weekend apart from a loved one
might bejust what you need to improve your
relationship after the 22nd. Month's end is

a good time to explore new career options
open to you.

SCORPIO
Your financial picture looks rosy during

AQUARnJ!!§»
You'll have to watch your finances closely
this month. Romance could give way to

bickering ifspending continues to rise. Your
life becomes even more hectic after the 15th

when financial concerns carry over to the
workplace and cause friction among your
co-workers. Everything falls into place and
it's smooth sailing after the 24th. Work,
family and home lives are all on an even
keel through month's end.

February, but you may have some minor

problems with the people you live and work
with.Trust and cooperation can help improve

a primary relationship after the 13th. You'll
have to carefully balance work and pleasure
after the 18th.You are likely to find yourself
in a precarious position if you lean too much
in one way or the other. Around the 22nd
you may be feeling hemmed in. A weekend
trip could improve your mood.

PISCES
You certainly won't be lonely during
February! Social and group events fill your
calendar all month. A new friend that you
meet around the 5th could have a very

calming effect on your life. Luck is on your
side after the 19th. Take advantage of this
trend to push your goals and ambitions
forward. Budget your money carefully or
you could find yourselfin a bind by month's

SAorrrARius
You have your work cut out for you during
February. Juggling love, money and career
interests can be difficult if you don't set
your priorities at the outset. The urge to get
away may set in by the 15th. A break from
your usual routine can help you relax and be
ready to go back to work with a new outlook.
An opportunity to advance your career may
arise during the last week,but you'll have to
put in some long hours to secure the position.
Make a plan and stick to it and you'll reach
your goal.

CAPRICORIV
Romance and creative pursuits are at the
forefront during February. The great mood
you are in could cause you to overspend or
ignore your work. This works out fine until
the 13th when you'll have to turn your
attention to the workplace. Travel may be in
the works after the 23rd. Although you and

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The Dirbctort
A Listing of Service Organizations, Businesses & Clubs
Business De&very Systems• 14902 Preston Rd.75240 •733-1108

ALBUQUERQUE,NM (area code 505)
organizations

clubs

Sister Source Cooperative & Lesbian Resource line

Sue Ellen's •3903 Cedar Springs•5598707

144 Harvard SE'268-2116

organizations

AMARILLO,TX (area code 806)
organizations
LesbianA3ayAliance-POBox9361 79105•359-4219
MCC of Amarilo • PC Box 1276•3724557

ARUNGTON,TX (area code 817)

Affirmation • PO Box 225831 75222•948-1546
AIDS Resource Center • P.O. Box 190712 75219

Asians & Friends-PO Box 9142 76209-392-3339

Catliedral ol Hope MCC ■ 5910 Cedar Spnngs Rd.- 361-1901
Community Church & College of Divine Metaphysics
400lUveOak#40l'826-7110.ExL401

Congregation Betti El Binali - P.O.Box 191188 75219 - 497-1591
Couples Metro Dallas - PO Box 803156 75380 - E04-6775
Dallas Gay and Lesbian Alliance

clubs

P.O. Box 190712 75219•5284233• FAX 5224604

Ropers•2023 South Cooper •26&^4

Dallas Gay/Lesbian Historic Archives• P.O. Box 190712 75219 •821-1653
Dallas Gay Youth Group •300 Turtle Creek Plaza #116'307-7203

organizations
Gay/Lesbian Association of LTTA
P.O. Box 19348-77, UTA SL 76019•794-6140

Trinity MCC•331 Aaron Ave.,Ste 125 •265-5454

Dallas Outdoors• P.O. Box 35474 75235•2755270

Dallas Tavern Guild •3900 Lemmon Ave.#220• 5255292
Dignity/Dallas • PO Box 190133 75219 •2264101
Foundation for Human Understanding ■ 5284233

Gay/Lesbian Gardeners • PO Box 190552 75219• 3398787

AUSTIN,TX (area code 512)

GLAAD/Dallas• P.O. Box 190712 75219•525GLAD

Grace Fellowship in Christ Jesus •2727 Oak l_awn • 5252811

clubs

Lesbian/(Say Demoaats of Texas•521-5342 exL 229

HdlywDOd • 113 San Jadnto •4809627

LesbianASay Political CJoalition • P.O. Box 224424 75222•8259882

Nexus-305W.Stti •472-5288

organizations
Affirmation (Methodist)•7403 Shoal Creek•451-2329

Austin Latino/a LesbianyOay Organization
PC Box 1350 78787 • 2808107

Lesbian Resource Center • 1315 Skiles* 8218999

Usbian Visionaries • PO Box 191443 75219•521-5342 Xe44
UL(Usbian Info Une •521-5342 exL 298

SPROUTS(coming out group)• £21-5342 exL 256
TWKaS (the wymn in gay society)• 5218342 exL 269
The New Vision (newsjoumal)•521-5342 exL 255

Austin Lesbian/Gay Politicai Caucus• P.O. Box 822 78767•474^)750

MetroplexRepublicans 'P.O.Box 191033 75219 '9418114

Center for Battered Women • (Lesbian(^p)

Oak Lawn Community Services 4300 MacArthur•5208108
Oak Lawn Symphonic Band -P.O. Box 19097376219'9851751

385-5181 Of 9209070(hotline)

Gay/Lesbian Student Association at UT Austin
458-3971 'Box 275 Texas Union 78712-7338

PFLAG/Dallas' Helpline 5588640
Imperial Sovereign Royal Court of Dallas

Lesbian/Gay Rights lx>bby • PO Box 2579 78768•474-6475

P.O. Box 190464 75245
'
5218446

Lesbian Mothers - Karen •339-8508

Sevenlh-Oay Adventist Knshp '4151358

Live Wire Productions • PO Box 14120278714

Womyn Together'3920 Ced^ Springs'5284233

Metropolitan Community Church •1100 Springdale Rd.• 929-3660
Oasis Mnistry•5555 N. Lamar Blvd.#L101 • 441-9191

P-Fiag (Parents/Friends Lesbians/Gays)• 331-8445

Sapphfire!• Lesbian Social Group• 4508659
Meeting Address• 825 E. 531/2 SL.Ste E103

Maiing Address* 201 W.Stassney,Ste.#321 78746-3156
Waterloo Counseling Center •507 Powell 78703• 322-9654
Texas Human Rights Foundation • P.O. Box 49740 78765•479-8473
AIDS Legal Assistance 1-800-8288417
The Treehouse (Lesbian Mothers Support(aroup)
607 Nueces SL 78701 •477-6822

DEm"ON,TX(area code 817)
organizations
COURAGE.Lesbian Gay Student Org.
P.O. Box 5067 76203
'
382-3813

Harvest MCC'5900 S.Stemmons 76205• 1805497-HMX

P-Flag (Parents/Friends Lesbians/(3ays)'387-1491

DRIPPING SPRINGS,TX (area code 512)
accommodations

ATHENS,TX (area code 903)
organizations
P-Fiag (Parents/Friends Lesbians/Gays)•6758326

Recreation Rantation • Campground • HC01 box 45A 78620• 894-0567

EL PASO,TX(area code 915)
organizations

BANDERA,TX (area code 210)
accommodations
Desert Hearts Cow^ Oub • Women's Guest Ranch
HC3.Box 650 78003'796-7446

Lambda Services • PO Box 31321 799318321 •24 hour line 562-GAYS
1^ El Paso•916 Yandell •542-1227

P-Flag (Parents/Friends LesbiansASays)
Spanish & English Language Meetings•5914664

DALLAS,TX (area code 214)

F.WORTH(area code 817)
organizalions

businesses

Agape MCC - 4815 SE Loop 820 - 535-5002

Alternative Visions • Dating Service•747-2033

Affirmation (MethorSst)•4757837

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Piopeity of thp. Center
Imperial Coutl de Fort Worth/Arlington •870-1555 or 535-7188
Lesblan-'Gay Politcal Coalitjon ol Tarrant County •263^006 or 8600326
P-Rag (Parents'Fnends Lesbians'Ga)S)•498-5607/498-4855
RESPECT •828 Hardvrood Rd.• Hursl.TX 76054

Tarrant County L'G Alliance ■ 3327 Wmttirop. Suite 243 76116• 763-5544

HOUSTON,n (area code 713)
businesses
IrkJmgs Bookshop • 1846 Richmond • 521-3369
clubs

National Gay/Lesbian Clearinghouse

666 Broadway 4th Floor - NY. NY 10012
National Gay/Lesbian Task Force
1517 U Street NW • Washington D.C. 20009• 202-332-6483
Parents & Friends ol Lesbians and Gays(P-Rag)• 1-8G0-4-FAMILY
The Fund for Human Dignity
666 Broadway 4th Floor • NY. NY 10012

NEW ORLEANS, LA (area code 504)
club & accommodations
Charlene's • 940 Elysian Fields • 9469328

Ranch • 9218 Buffalo Spdwy.• 666-3464
Ms. Bs • 9208 Bufiao Spdwy.•666<3356

organizations

OKLAHOMA CITY, OK (area code 405)
organizations

AIDS Foundation •3927 Essex Lane •623-6796
AIDS HOTLINE • c/o Swtcfiboard •529-3211

2l35NW39th 73112• 526AIDS

XTC • 9212 Buffalo SpcJwy.•666-3356

Oasis the Community Center

Gay^Lesbtan Students Umversity of Houston • 4800 Calhoun • 529-3211

Herland Sister Resources. Inc.

Gay/Lesplan Switchboard • PC Box 66591 77266 •529-3211
Houston Gay & Lesbian Parents • 980-7995
Houston Gay Political Caucus• P.O. Box 66664 77266 ■ 521-1000
Integnty • P.O. Box 66008 772666008 • 432-6414
Kingdom Community Church '614 E. I9th •862-7533

2312 NW 39th 73112-521-9696

SAN ANGELO,TX (area code 915)
organizations

Lambda ALAJ40N • 1214 Joanne-521-9772

P-Flag (Parer.ts/Friends Lesbians^Gays)•944-4323

LesbiaaGay Sludents-Univ. Houston Clear Lake • 2700 Bay Aea 77058

Concho Valey Gay/lesCxan Alliance

LTN Houston • Lesbian Teacher Network

P.O. Box 750 76902 - 6562956

FO Box 1835• Beliaire, TX 77402• 529-3211

Metropd.lan Community Church Of The Resunection

SAN ANTONIO,TX (area code 210)

1919 Decatur-861-9149

Montrose Counseling Center - 900 Lovett #203 770O6• 5230037
Montrose Pod League/Bltia,Tj3• PJ 863-8482

clubs

P-Flag (Parents/Friends Lestjians/Gays)•867-9(^

Nexus San Antonio • 8021 Pinebrook • 341-2818

PWA Coa'rtion • Houston • 1475 W.Gray #163•522-5428

organizations

SORA (Sex or Relationship Addicts Anonymous) lesbian group • 523-9398

Deaf Rainbow - 804-1904 TTY

Bonham Exchange • 411 Bonham • 224-9219

The Women's Group • 529-5871

Dignity/San Antonio • 202 N. St. Mary's • 349-3632

Womynspace • P.O. Box 980601 77098-0601

Integrity/San Antonio

Women^ Softball League • 6431 Pineshade •8680256

PO Box 150006 78212• 684-4920

LUBBOCK.TX (area code 806)
businesses

P-Rag (Parents/Friends Lesbians/Gays)•822-4135
River City Living Metropolitan Community Church
202 Holland 78212 -622-1121

Lambda Students Center • 1140 W. Woodtawn Ave.

Dstinct Travel • 793-8374

LISA (Lesbian Information SA)• 828-LISA (5472)

organizations

SALGA - San Antonio Lesbian/Gay Assembly - 733-7300

Lbttock Lesbian/Gay Alliance & Wild Wilde West Prod.
P.O. Box 64746 79464 • 79M499

Community Outreach Center & Outreach AA (Tues. AThurs.@8pm) l02N.Ave.S- 762-1019
MCC Lubbock - 5502 34lh SL • 792-5562

SALSA - San Antonio Lambda Students Alliance

PO Box 12715 76212 - SALSA Une 733-1225
San Antonio AIDS Foundation
PO Box 120113 78212-9313
San Antonio Tavem Guild - 822-2823

P-Flag (Parents/Friends Lesbians.'Gays)• 7990529
South Plains AIDS Resource Center(SPARC)
4204-B 50th SI 79413• 1-806627-7079• 7967068

NATIONAL ORGANIZATIONS
Affirmation: United Methodsts for Lesbian/Gay Concerns

SHERMAN,TX (area code 903)
organizations
AIDS Resource Center of Texhoma - 8161272 or 800-5266361
Alliance for Ufe•PO Box 1695 75091 - 892-9049
HIV/AIDS Setvices•PO Box 169575091 •4667258

PO Box 1021 - Evanston. IL 60204

AIDS Action Counal• 729 Eighth St. S.E. Suite 200
Washington. DC 20003 -{202)647-3101
AIDS 800-1-806221-7044
Conference For Catholic Lesbians

PO Box 436, Planetarium Station • New York, NY 10024
GLAAD/USA • 80 Vanck St. #3E • NY. NY 10013
Hate Crime Line • 1-606347-HATE

Gay & Lesbian Parents Coalition International (GLPCI)
PO Box 50360, Washington. DC 20091 •(202) 583-8029
Lesbian Mothers' National Defense Fund

PO Box 21S67 • Seattle. WA 98111 - (206) 3262643
Lesbian Teachers Network (LTN)
PO Box 638-Solon, IA 52333

National Gay Alliance for Young Adults, Inc.
PO Box 190426 • Dallas. TX 75219 •(214)307-7203

WACO,TX (area code 817)
organizations
P-Flag (Parents/Friends Lesbians/Gays)• 750-7211

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All Eyes On The
104th
WASHINGTON, D.C. — Promising
to revolutionize American government.

Republicans opened the doors of the
Capitol Building to a new House of
Representatives and Senate both
dominated by the Republican party for
the first time in 40 years.Stepping up to
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who have a long-standing tradition of
opposing gay-positive legislation.Chief
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who will now head the Senate Foreign
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Activists can expect to spend the bulk
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morning of January 3rd, new Speaker

previously defeated Radical Right
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of the House Newt Gingrich touted his

the 104th session.Anti-gay amendments

Contract With America. Previous
statements by Gingrich, including that
"it is madness to pretend that families

may appear in legislation on topics
ranging from government personnel
policies to milk subsidies.Funding may

are anything other than heterosexual

be challenged for the Ryan White CARE

couples,"make it clear that his Contract
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teaching tolerance and acceptance of
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youth.Unfortunately,pro-active efforts,

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ineluding movement of pro-gay federal
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and Senate by the Republican party per

hostile environment.In addition,attacks

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immigrants all appear likely.
Activistsfrom all comers ofthe country

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voices gay,lesbian and bisexual people

faces now chairing powerful committees
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are to be heard on Capitol Hill.
The National Gay and Lesbian Task
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to assist in lobbying the federal

government. To learn more about

writing, calling and visiting your
senators and representatives,Call(202)
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screen lover)will star in the production.

"Serving in Silence" will include a much
anticipated lesbian kiss between these
two well-respected and popular
actresses. The Radical Right is already
up in arms over the kiss and is urging
advertisers to boycott the movie.
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AUSTIN, TX - The Eighth Annual

HOLLYWOOD,CA - NBC will air the

Texas Lesbian Conference(TLC) will

two hour, made for television movie

"Serving in Silence; The Margarethe
Cammermeyer Story" on Monday,
February 6th.
The movie is based on the true story of
Colonel Margarethe Cammermeyer,the

highest ranking officer ever to be
discharged from the U.S. military for
admitting she is a lesbian. Colonel
Cammermeyerhasfought her discharge
through the federal courts with the help
of the Lambda Defense Fund,
Northwestern Women'sLaw Center and

the National Lawyers Guild. In June of
1994, a federal judge declared the
regulation leading to her discharge
unconstitutional and reinstated the

Colonel in the National Guard. An

appeal is pending,but it is believed that
it will be resolved in her favor based on
the Keith Meinhold decision.

Academy Award nominated actresses
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and Australian Judy Davis (as her on

Meron and Cis Corman.

be held March 31, April 1 & 2 at the
Radisson Hotel onTownLake in Austin.

TLC is the only annual statewide lesbian
conference in the United States.

Organized each year by volunteers in
the host city, TLC has proven to be an
effective tool for sharing resources and
ideas, for expanding awareness and

developing leadership asTexaslesbians.
This year's theme is "Texas Women:
Living Out Loud." We are currently

accepting proposals for workshops to
be presented at the conference under
this theme.

TLC'95 will dovetail with the Statewide

"Stop the Violence, Stop the Hate

Lesbian and Gay Rights March on
Austin on April 2nd.The March begins
at 12 noon at Palmer Auditorium and

will proceed up Congress Avenue

toward the Capitol.The March is being
held because seven people in Texas
were murdered because they were gay

in 1994.The March is sponsored by the
Lesbian/Gay Rights Lobby of Texas.

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Early registration for TLC '95 is $45

478-9611 and state that you are a TLC
participant.TLC will arrange alternative
housing upon request.

and includes entertainment, keynote
speakers, workshops, a banquet,
Saturday night women's dance and all
other conference activities. Registration
fees will increase closer to the

For more information, call the TLC
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TLC'95,P.O.Box 200546,Austin,TX

conference.

78720-0546. The conference is

The Radisson Hotel is offering a special
rate for conference participants. Single
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room, with three or four per room the
rate will be $92 per night. The hotel is

wheelchair accessible,and will provide
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A Monthly Listing Of Special Events All Around The Area
SUZANNE WESTENHOEFER -

AUSTIN - Make your plans now to

Suzanne Westenhoefer, comedienne

attend the 8th Annual Texas Lesbian

extrodinairre will be making a quick
tour of Texas in February. If you have
caught her act on Comedy Central or
various talk shows, you know just how

Conference and to show your pride in
the Lesbian and Gay March on

funny she is. This is a don't miss show.

on Town Lake. The March (sponsored

SAN ANTONIO - First stop, San
Antonio. Ms. Westenhoefer will be

by the Lesbian/Gay Rights Lobby of
Texas)will begin at 12 noon on April 2

Austin. The conference will be held

March 31-April2atthe Radisson Hotel

appearing at Bonham Exchange on

atthePalmer Auditorium and proceed

Thursday,February 9th. The show will
start about 9:30pm. Tickets are $10 in

For more info on the conference, call

advance and $12 at the door and are

(512) 326-4453. For more info on the

available at Bonham Exchange. For
more info, call(210) 224-9219.
AUSTIN - She will be appearing in

march, call (512)474-5475.

Austin atthe Radisson Hotel Ballroom

on

Friday, February 10th at 8pm.

up Congress Ave. toward the Capitol.

DALLAS - ART-Positive, a gallery

show & sale featuring the work ofHIVpositive artists opens Sunday, March

Tickets are $15 in advance and $18 at

19th at the Edith Baker Gallery(2404

the

Cedaar Springs Road). The show will
present a wide range of paintings and
sculpturefrom area HIV-positive artists.
A portion of the proceeds will go to
benefit Legacy Counseling Center, a

door and

are

available

at

Bookwoman, Celebration! and

Liberty Books. Call (512) 929-8630
for more info.

FORT WORTH - She will then travel to

the Metroplex for a show on Saturday,
February 11th at 8pm at Orchestra
Hal! (4401 Trail Lake Dr.) in Fort
Worth. Tickets are $15 in advance and

non-profit mental health care agency

that provides counseling and emotional
support to individuals, friends and
family members challenged with AlDs

$17 at the door and are available at

and HIV. For more info, call Carolyn

Connections Bookstore and Agape

at(214)622-5252.

MCC in Fort Worth and at Crossroads
Market in Dallas. For more info, call
(817)924-3264.
HOUSTON - Then, it's on to Houston

on Sunday,February 12th for her final

Texas appearance at the Heinen
Theatre(3517 Austin St.at Holman)at
7:30pm.Tickets are$15 in advance and

OKLAHOMA CITY - Herland Sister

Resourcesisforming acommunityfood
pantry to help lesbians in need.
Donationsofnon-perishablefood items,
pet food and household supplies are
needed.If you can donate or if you need

Inklings Bookshop and Crossroads

help,go by Herland(2312 N.W.39th)
during business hours on Saturdays
10am-5pm and Sundays lpm-5pm.For

Market.For more info,call(713)521-

more info, call(405)521-9696.

$17 at the door and are available at

3369.

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hold their 4th annual festival on

OF INTEREST TO ALL
Golden Threads, a worldwide social
network ofLesbian women over50and

February 16-18. This year's festival
will again be held at the Dallas Theater
Center on Turtle Creek with a special
opening night screening at the Inwood

older women will hold its 9th Annual
Golden Threads Celebration on June
23-25 in Provincetown,Massachusetts.

DALLAS - The Dallas Lesbian &

Gay International Film Festival will

Theater.If you would like more info or
are interested in volunteering to help
with the festival, call Deb at(214)2574443.

women ofany age who are interested in

There will be workshops,entertainment

provided by Alix Dobkin and a banquet
to be followed by dancing.OLOC(Old
Lesbians Organizingfor Change)will
also hold their June meeting to coincide

FORT WORTH - The First Thursday

with the Celebration. For more

Lesbian Social (formerly Second
Tuesday, formerly First Friday) meets
the first Thursday of each month from
6-9pm at Downtown Java(at 6th St.&
Houston on Sundance Square). First
Thursday is amonthly social networking
group for lesbians. Admission is $1.
food,coffee and beverages are available.

information, write Christine Burton,
Golden Threads, P.O. Box 60475,

Northhampton, MA 01060-0475.
Team Seattle will hold its Second

Annual Winter SportsFestival March
10-12 at the Seattle Center Arena and

the Lesbian Caucus of the Women's

at Snoqualmie Pass ski area.
Competitions will be held in alpine
skiing, cross-country
skiing,
snowboarding, ice hockey and figure
skating(singles,pairs and ice dancing).
For more info or to register, call(206)

Caucusfor Art will host"Re/Defining

820-3438.

BYOB if desired.

SAN ANTONIO - The Esperanza
Peace & Justice Center (EPJC) and

Lesbians: Power/Transition", a
national exhibition of recent visual art

by self-identifying lesbians. The show
will be held through February 19th at
EPJC (922 San Pedro at Evergreen).
For more info, call(210)228-0201.

If you have Information for
What's Goln'On,
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Answers to your questions about love,

RELATIONSHIIPS & PERSONAL PROBLEMS

Dear Agnes,

Dear Agnes,

How refreshing to read that there is a
butch out there willing to be "a butch
searching for a femme." She can feel
free to write to me if you will give her

This is in reference to the letter in the

Dec./Jan.94-95 issue signed "Looking
for Femmes."

It seems that a lesbian is in the eye ofthe
beholder, like beauty. You see,I don't

The best thing she can do is quit putting
women into categories based on their
looks. I have long hair, wear makeup
and occasionally even heels.I can work

see many (if any) butches out there

on my own car,do my own home repairs

unless already welded - oops -1 mean

and have a collection oftools that would

wedded.

make most men drool. I may look
"femme," but I'm truly a butch girl at

my address.

"Looking for Femmes" would not be
attracted to mefor I am an older woman,

heart.

not too femme, but attractive. Living
has left its trace-lines and so forth. But,

On the other hand,I know women with

I delighted in her letter and strongly
encourage her to keep up her search.

change their own tire.

I believe there can be good butch/femme

attracted to someone who looks like

a classic "butch" look who can't even

The letter-writer states that she is "not

togetherness, mutual respect. I cherish

myself."I think she needs to change her

a dream of someday meeting a butch
with whom I can live life as her femme
even though I understand women's

standards.Looks are not what it is about.

If she truly wants to find someone to

all-ableness and liberation. Women's

shares her interests and not someone

Lib empowered me and Iam a person,

even try a dance ...

who looks just right but couldn't care
less about the things she finds fun,
interesting or entertaining.
One last note: going on the "big love
hunt," usually results only in
disappointment. The best way to find
love is to quit looking for it. Make
friends, have fun. Love can find you in
the most amazing places.

Sincerely,

Look Below the Haircut

Femme Looking for a Butch

Dallas, TX

a lesbian, a femme — all part of a

spiritual being and hey — it's great.
I believe a good way to approach me as
a femme is to be simple and honest.

Say, "I'm not a good dancer, but I'd
like to buy you a coke (or a drink, or
whatever) and talk with you a little —

love,she should look for a woman who

Austin, TX

February 1995• Dimensions • Page 13

Dear Agnes,

Gray on December 27th,without paying

This is to "Looking forFemmes"in the

for the items that had previously hung

January issue. Give me a break! Can't
we get passed all this butch/femme crap?

rack.

on the hangers left on the magazine

Women are women are women.Period.

We are blessed to have a gay store that

Whether they have short hair or long,

provides a variety ofitems and services,

wearjeans or skirts,heels or workboots,
they all have the same plumbing.
middle ofthe butch/femme equation.In

for San Antonio's gays and lesbians.
How could you steal from your
"family"?
Your Conscience

the right circumstances they can lean

San Antonio, TX

Most women I know fall close to the

either way. They may go to work in a
dress,heels and full makeup,and to the

bar in jeans, t-shirt and no makeup.
The only way to know if you are truly
attracted to someone or not is to talk to

them.It may be that the prettiestfemme
in the bar has a mouth like a sailor and

that semi-butch girl you passed over
because she didn'tlook rightis someone
you could really fall in love with.
Also,the best way to approach someone
if you don't know how to dance is
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IN ADNANCE

Celebration

LOVE
HUN?
HANDY HINTS AND TIPS TO HELP YOU IN
YOUR SEARCH FOR A VALENTINE

You're single (not by choice) and it
seems like everyone around you has
someone to love. You would really like
someone to share your bed and your
life.Someone who will bring you candy
and flowers on Valentine's Day,comfort

you when you've had a bad day and

expect it." Instead of going out to a bar,
coffee house or church and seeing every
woman present as a potential partner,
try going to those places just for fun.

Desperation is not pretty. When you are
on a big hunt for love, it shows on your
face and scares off those who might

someone who will help you do laundry

otherwise respond to an overture of

and clean house on Saturdays. So you
set out for the bar, dressed in your best
and start looking,right? Wrong.Below
are some tips to help you find love.

friendship.
2. NETWORK.Sounds like a business

Some are common sense, some are a

term, but it can be applied to personal
relationships as well. Many women are

little harder to implement, but all are
sound advice.

in relationships with people who started
out being"friends offriends." Ask your
friends to introduce you to women they

1, QUIT LOOKING.I know,I know.
You've heard it before. The problem is
that the old adage usually holds true —
"Love will find you when you least

think you might like. Go to parties
where you are likely to meet women
you wouldn't meet in the normal course
of your life.

February 1995• Dimensions • Page 15

Join a club that interests you.There are

your cat. You've heard the old joke:

hundreds of specialized groups for gay

What does a lesbian bring on the first
date? A U-Haul. Don't be a u-hauler.
Just because you've met a woman you

men and lesbians out there. There are

outdoor groups,political groups,sports

teams, gardening clubs, theater cjubs,
and organizations for gays of many
occupations or certain ages or both.
Pick one that suits your interests and

like and enjoyed your first date doesn t

mean you have to move in together
within the week.

Put yourself in her shoes: You've met a

join up. If you can't find a group you

woman at a friends house. You ask er

like, start your own.

out to dinner and a movie. Before you

If you are a religious person, join and

even getto the main course,she's talking

attend a gay church in your area. Even

about
whatarecolors
the ^
house you
goingyou'll
to buy decorate
together an

if you live out in the sticks, you could
still attend church in a city close to you
once a month or so. Of course, while

you are doing all this networking,keep
rule number one in mind.

3.ADVERTISE.No,this doesn't mean
wearing a low cut blouse and skin-tight
jeans to the bar.I mean...place an ad.In
your local gay paper, here in
Dimensions,or on the bulletin board at
your local women's group. Don't go

into it looking for love.Start by looking
for new friends. Give yourself some

space. This way you don't have to feel
bad if you don't find that perfect
someone and you might end up with
alot of new friends to network through.

asking if you want to be the one to e
artificially inseminated. What
do? a. Swoon and say yes, you d mve

to have a family with her, or; b. un
screaming from the restaurant an go
straight home to call all your frien s o
tell them how crazy she is and tha you
are lucky you got out alive? Most o us
would probably pick "b."

6. DONT COUNT ON "LOVE AT
FIRST SIGHT." Yes, it does happen,
but that doesn't mean it's the only way
to find true love.I once had a frien w o

believed fervently in love at first sig t
— and she practiced at the bar every
weekend.She always knew she was in
love" with a woman just because s e

a. CO ON LOTS OF CASUAL

danced a certain way or walked ^ross

DATES.I do mean casual.Don't make

the
bar in just the right manner, ever
mind that she didn't know the woman s

every date the wine,dinner and dancing
type.Go to lunch or to the Softball park.

name,age, occupation or temperament

Be creative. It is hard to know if you

— all she needed was to see her

really like a woman when the only

a crowed, smoky room and tha as
enough.Overtheyearsshehadcoun ss

conversation you have is shouting at
each other over the music in a bar or

"lovers" who lasted a week

sitting quietly next to her in the pew at

months. I don't know where s

church. Go somewhere where neither

today, but I hope she's learne

of you will feel that romantic pressure

although love at first sight is a

and there's lots of room to just talk.

is ^

possibility, it isn't anything to hase a
long-term relationship on.

5. NO TALK OF COMMITMENT
ON THE FIRST (OR SECOND OR

THIRD) DATE. The fastest way to
scare offa woman is to talk about setting
up housekeeping before she's even met

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7.WHEN YOU DO SEE SOMEOJE
YOU THINK YOU LIKE, BE
PERSISTENT (BUT NOT TOO
PERSISTENT). Most of us have had

,

this experience. You are sitting in the
bar with friends when a nice looking
woman comes over and asks you to

dance.You havejustcome offthe dance
floor and you are hot,sweaty and thirsty.
You tell her no thanks and say you'd
love to dance later, after you rest for a
minute. She takes it as total rejection
and never comes back. On the other

hand there are the women you might

have talked to if they hadn't been so
pushy — asking you to dance at the
beginning of every song for an hour

Come Play The Dating Game

when all you want to do is sit back and
take it easy. If she had only offered to
buy you a drink instead of constantly
bugging you to dance, you might have

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accepted and gotten to know her.
Take these examples as lessons. Just
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Ask again — you may be surprised. If
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after all and decide to stay that way —
right before you meet Ms. Right.

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What A World,
What A World
SMART FAT
BY NANCY FORD
The New Queer Year is here, and a

mere one month later,already the sound

family, should be regarded and
respected as fat with a Master's degree.

of resolutions can be heard shattering

Weight and body image have been very

across this great self-deprecating land

much in the forefront of our collective

of ours.

American consciousness since Dolly

I personally have never been much of

Madison put aside her needle and started
baking snack cakes. We've watched
Oprah expand and contract,expand and
contract, expand and contract. We've
listened to Susan Powter pout. We've
played poker with our Deal-A-Meal
cards. I'll see your three vegetable
exchanges and raise you a chocolate

one for resolutions. I figure, I'm forty
years old. The only New Trick this Old
Dog is interested in has little to do with

changing habits permanently ingrained
into my psyche for four decades. Not to
imply that I'm inflexible. Absolutely
not.I am flexible,I don't care what you
say,and I'll never change.Sof _you.
Silliness aside,(Yeah, right.) There is
one resolution-type specterthat has hung
over my head for as nearly as long as I
can remember. It's the old "This year
I'm definitely losing weight" post-

croissant.

Food for thought, but not for
swallowing. The average American
female stands 5'4" tall and weighs 146

pounds.Conversely,the average fashion
model stands 5'10" and weighs 120

holiday mantra.

pounds. Hel-/o? Who's doing the math

I was raised to believe that the best time

at the fashion designing store? Hubbell

to start a diet is January 2. If that date
happens to fall on Monday,all the better.
Magic Monday.It's as though we think
fat is stupid. We think we can binge all
week long, but then, come Monday
morning,we eatacouple ofcarrotsticks,
pop some bee pollen, and chase that

telescope scientists?

It's been suggested that love always has
a metabolic effect on those who have

the good fortune to tumble into it. Some
insist that one has a tendency to lose
weight when in love, as a result of

turning to one's paramour, rather than

silly, stupid old fat away — right?
Wrong. Fat is not stupid. Fat is smart.

food, for comfort. It's true — who

Fat homesteads.Fat is not nomadic.Fat

ourselves by curling up on the couch

finds a place where it is most
comfortable,and it stays.Like on thighs.

with a big pork roastdipped in chocolate
on a cold,rainy night? Maybe that'sjust

Smartfat.Smart,smart,smart.Cellulite,

me.

the most enduring member of the fat

Now comes psychiatrist and eating-

Page 20• Dimensions • February 1995

among us,when single,haven'tindulged

^

disorder specialist Dr.Leo Wollman to

relatively inconsequential. But it still

tell us that "two out of three people

beats the hell out of bowling. And you
can wear your own shoes.

gain weight afterfalling in love, Social
drinking also increases because meeting
each other's family and friends often
involves afew drinks;sometimes,alot

of drinks,depending on the family and
friends.

The good doctor offered tips to avoid
adding poundage after giving your heart
to another. These suggestions were

originally published in Weekly World
News,in the same issue in which Elvis
informed President Clinton of his
eminent return to show business. So
don't think I haven't done my

journalistic research.
• Find substitutes for gifts you eat.

Nancy Ford is a Houston-based conedan and writer,
and isa irequent contrOiitnr to the gay an lesidan press.
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Bring flowers instead of wine. Even
non-edible panties might be nice for a
change.

• Don't make a special event out of
mealtime. Avoid exotic restaurants and

gourmet cookbooks. This is a good
way to your honey's depth ofdevotion,
too.Do you love me a la Filet do boeuf
or do you love me a la Whopper?It's all

lUDDlJM'S

in the translation.

'Have a talk aboutfood early in your
relationship. Determine through open
communication if you and your partner
intend to eattogether.Make sure you're
both ready. Plan it, don't be

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It's a matter of respect. Oh, wait —
that's the procedure for safe sex.Forget
I brought it up.
• Work off anxious moments with
activity rather than food.
Unfortunately, it has been determined

that while sex can be wonderfully
invigorating, the actual number of
calories burned during the act is

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The Coffee Ceub
Lesbians In The Arts • Books, Music, Movies, Etc.

This Month, Tasha Sumner Introduces:

Getting to tiie Point
tg Teresa Stores

Night Songs
by Penny Mickelbury

The first book we'll look at this month

for the occasional "don't tell your

is Getting to thePoint by Teresa Stores.
The story revolves around Dix, an

grandmother," and her brother and his
wife are trying hard notto bejudgmental.

aspiring writer who has returned home

Everything is moving along semismoothly until Dix's lover, Sarah,

to"The Point" to help her mother while

her grandmother dies. The Point is a

arrives.

town at the end of the road on the

Sarah has never had a family.

Florida-Georgia border.
Dix's family is filled with bom-again

Abandoned by her mother at age five,
she grew up in a procession of foster

Christians. Her father hasn't spoken to

homes. She doesn't understand Dix's

her since she announced her lesbianism.

need for her family's love. She shows
up at the Point in her restored'52pickup

Her mother avoids the subject except

February 1995• Dimensions• Page 23

with pink triangles painted down the

for Baby Doll's life.

side and Greenpeace, Pro-Choice and
No Nukes bumper stickers all over the
back end. One of the first things she
does is kiss Dix in full view ofthe entire
family.

The next question is: Who is killing

There are no stereotypes here — only
family. Dix's right-wing family reacts
with real-life confusion to the news that
one of their members is gay. There is

love and concern mixed with disgust
and embarrassment.

women on the streets of Washington,
D.C.?The further each woman gets into

her own investigation, the more the

evidence points to the highest levels of
the political food chain.

NightSongs is astep above mostlesbian
murder mysteries.The plot is believable
and the characters feel real. Plot and

sub-plot work together seamlessly to
make Night Songs a great read.

Getting to the Point is a wonderful

book although a little choppy. Abrupt
changes in person (i.e.: from whose
point-of-view the story is being told)
are,confusing and ineffective.However,
those complaints aside,the overall effect
is an honest look at how families cope
— with death, with life, with abuse,

Both Getting to the Point and Night
Songs are available at your local
women's bookstore orfor $10.95 from
Naiad Press, Inc., P.O. Box 10543,
Tallahassee, FL 32302. Please include

15% postage and handling. Complete
catalogs are available upon request.

with love and with a lesbian in their

<S

midst.I highly recommend this book to
any and all.

Next, we'll look at Night Songs, A

Gianna Maglione Mystery by Penny
Micklebury (author of Keeping

Books, music and more

Secrets).

for the lesbian, gay and

Gianna Maglione is a police lieutenant

feminist communities.

and head of the Hate Crimes Unit in

Washington, D.C.. Her lover, Mimi
Patterson, is a hot-shot investigative

newspaper reporter. Both,on their own
time are investigating the murder of a

Inklings

number of prostitutes in the city. The
two women can't share information

about their separate investigations
although each knows the other is
working on the same case. Gianna,as a

1846 Richmond Ave.

Houston, Texas 77098

cop, can't even be seen talking with
Mimi, much less acknowledge their

(713) 521-3369

relationship. Mimi,a a reporter, is just

Toll-Free Ordering:

tiying to break a hot story until she
meets Baby Doll.Then her quest to find
the killers becomes personal as she fears

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in Houston

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Poetry
From Our Readers
Take me away,

Take me to the place that my passion runs free
hearing the song that can take me there
The intense fire that burns within

The yearning for fulfillment
Look into my eyes
Read my sord
Look and admire

Do not try to possess
Come with me

Release the passion
You have created erotic fantasy

The longing for you will die slowly
This will be fire or ice,
Love or hate

No neutral state

That fleeting moment must subside
The waiting. Oh the waiting
A heavy weight
Will this weight lift
Can the fire go out
Is the fire of the earth

Will time let it die
Of the earth there is a volcano

This volcanic activity rules my soul.
Mostly my heart.
-CJ

Dallas, TX

Would you like to see your poetry or short stories in print?
Send us a copy! Please include your name, address, phone number & signature. All poetry received will be
assumed for publication. Your signature grants Dimensions permission to publish and verifies that you are
the author/owner of said poetry or writings. Be sure and tell us if you want to use your
real name or what pen name you prefer.

February 1995• Dimensions• Page 25

qviz

n ...is it

J^OL
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OP is It

UIST?

There are many stages toa relationship.

S. On a typical date, you:

First comes lust... you know, it's that
time when you first get really involved

a. go to dinner and a movie.

when you can't seem to drag yourself
out of the bedroom. Hopefully the lust
period is followed by love — when you
finally emerge from the bedroom to
find that even out here, you still want to
spend your time with her. So,is it love
or lust or on the rocks? To find out,

answer the questions below.

b. talk about anything & everything.
c.intend to go out,but never make it out
the door.

4. When you are away from her,
you think about:
a. how mad she was this morning

because you left the lid off the
toothpaste.
b. her smile.

/.The most attractive thing about

c. the hot time you had last night and

her is:

will have again tonight.

a. her eyes.
b. everything.

5. When the two of you talk

c. her butt.

2. When you look into her eyes,

about sex, you:
a. wonder why you don't do it more
often.

you:

b. tell each other how wonderful you

a. wonder if she fed the dog.

are together.

b. think about how much you love her.

c. don't talk, you act.

c. wonder how many steps it is to the
bedroom.

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67 She looks her best:

a. when she's asleep.
b. all the time.
c. in the shower.

7. During the last seven nights
you've spent together,you've had
sex:

a. not at all.
b. one to three times.

c. 15 to 20 times if you count more than
once a night.

<?. When you go out of town:
a. you go to the museum while she goes
to the zoo.

b. you plan things you both enjoy and
save the nights for romance.
c. you never see anything but your hotel
and the room service waiter.

rScori/^
Give yourself points as follows:
4 points for every "A" answer.
6 points for every "B" answer.
10 points for every "C" answer.

6^-iSOjoints/
Although love may be in the making,
you are definitely in the extreme lust
stage right now. The question is if the

love will grow enough to replace the
lust when it cools down. Although it
may seem hard right now,try to think
about what you like about her other
than the feel of her naked body in your
bed.Can you imagine living with heron
a daily basis when you aren't spending
every moment in the bedroom? If so,

this relationship just might have a
chance!

4^-6^S
Congratulations! You have found love.
Sex is important to both of you,but it is
not the entire basis of your relationship.
You share common interests and enjoy

spending time together outside the
bedroom. Your sex life is fun,but your

whole life together doesn't revolve
around it.

S2-47^<Hnts^
You may have settled into this
relationship a little too comfortably.
You take each other for granted and
forget sometimes just how lucky you
are. You may need to plan time for
intimacy and getting to know each other
again. Next time you look at her, try to
think about what is right in your
relationship instead of focusing on the
negative aspects.

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Horoscope
What's in the stars for you this month?

ARIES
You may be feeling especially vulnerable to
stress during the first part of February.
Upsetting conditions at home or work could

be affecting you more than they should.

Getting out to socialize could improve your

February. Between work, financial, and

family problems, you may feel you are
being pulled in too many directions after the
8th.Try not to lose your temper with anyone
and stay focused on the task at hand.Things
work themselves out by the 14th. The last

mood as long as you don't overspend. After

part ofthe month brings more fun and social

the 15th your patience and diplomacy can

engagements.

help keep a minor argument from getting
totally out of hand. Your mood is much

improved after the 22nd when your finances

and love life both seem to be improving.

TAI7R1TS
You can get what you want in February if
you ask for it. Whether it's love or money,
if you put in a word to the right person you
just might hit thejackpot! A minor crisis can
be turned into a great opportunity if you play
yourcardsrightafterthe ISth.Don'thesitate

on an important decision—yourfirst instinct
is the one to go with. After the 24th you'll
need to move into the background and follow
a partner's lead to get what you want. You

liBO
Your communication skills are the focus in

February. Even though you aren't in a
sociable mood, you may have many
obligations that require your diplomatic
skills. Although your finances seem to be in
good shape, you should watch spending
after the 15th when you may have to shell
outsome money for a household emergency.
You may have to compromise with your
partner to resolve and old problem on the
20th. Speak up about your wishes toward
month's end — you may be surprised and
get just what you want!

can't always run the show!

VIRGO

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or a move to bigger and better living

All work and no play won't make for a very
exciting February. A change ofjobs or just
a change of routine could be just what you

conditions could be on the horizon in

A major change in your living arrangements

February. Improvements on the financial
front could be behind the big change. Try to

need to lift your spirits. After the 8th don't

find a balance between work and home

be too trusting with someone who has misled
you in the past. You may be reluctant to

obligations after the 15th. Leaning too far in

form new ties or new relationships after the
21 St. Although this may make you appear to
be standoffish, it is best to remain low-key
and approach any new people in your life

either direction could get you into trouble.
You income could rise after the 23rd, but

along with the extra money will come extra
responsibilities. Be sure to save time for
family activities towards month's end.

with caution.

EIIIRA

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Try not to spread yourself thin or change
directions too quickly during the first part of

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Your bargaining skills should be put to use

during February.If you go about it the right
way, you could talk higher ups into giving
you a raise, promotion or both! An

unexpected attraction to someone you meet
after the 10th could catch you off guard. Be
careful not to move to quickly or you could
get hurt. A weekend apart from a loved one
might bejust what you need to improve your
relationship after the 22nd. Month's end is

a good time to explore new career options
open to you.

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Your financial picture looks rosy during

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You'll have to watch your finances closely
this month. Romance could give way to

bickering ifspending continues to rise. Your
life becomes even more hectic after the 15th

when financial concerns carry over to the
workplace and cause friction among your
co-workers. Everything falls into place and
it's smooth sailing after the 24th. Work,
family and home lives are all on an even
keel through month's end.

February, but you may have some minor

problems with the people you live and work
with.Trust and cooperation can help improve

a primary relationship after the 13th. You'll
have to carefully balance work and pleasure
after the 18th.You are likely to find yourself
in a precarious position if you lean too much
in one way or the other. Around the 22nd
you may be feeling hemmed in. A weekend
trip could improve your mood.

PISCES
You certainly won't be lonely during
February! Social and group events fill your
calendar all month. A new friend that you
meet around the 5th could have a very

calming effect on your life. Luck is on your
side after the 19th. Take advantage of this
trend to push your goals and ambitions
forward. Budget your money carefully or
you could find yourselfin a bind by month's

SAorrrARius
You have your work cut out for you during
February. Juggling love, money and career
interests can be difficult if you don't set
your priorities at the outset. The urge to get
away may set in by the 15th. A break from
your usual routine can help you relax and be
ready to go back to work with a new outlook.
An opportunity to advance your career may
arise during the last week,but you'll have to
put in some long hours to secure the position.
Make a plan and stick to it and you'll reach
your goal.

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Romance and creative pursuits are at the
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A Listing of Service Organizations, Businesses & Clubs
Business De&very Systems• 14902 Preston Rd.75240 •733-1108

ALBUQUERQUE,NM (area code 505)
organizations

clubs

Sister Source Cooperative & Lesbian Resource line

Sue Ellen's •3903 Cedar Springs•5598707

144 Harvard SE'268-2116

organizations

AMARILLO,TX (area code 806)
organizations
LesbianA3ayAliance-POBox9361 79105•359-4219
MCC of Amarilo • PC Box 1276•3724557

ARUNGTON,TX (area code 817)

Affirmation • PO Box 225831 75222•948-1546
AIDS Resource Center • P.O. Box 190712 75219

Asians & Friends-PO Box 9142 76209-392-3339

Catliedral ol Hope MCC ■ 5910 Cedar Spnngs Rd.- 361-1901
Community Church & College of Divine Metaphysics
400lUveOak#40l'826-7110.ExL401

Congregation Betti El Binali - P.O.Box 191188 75219 - 497-1591
Couples Metro Dallas - PO Box 803156 75380 - E04-6775
Dallas Gay and Lesbian Alliance

clubs

P.O. Box 190712 75219•5284233• FAX 5224604

Ropers•2023 South Cooper •26&^4

Dallas Gay/Lesbian Historic Archives• P.O. Box 190712 75219 •821-1653
Dallas Gay Youth Group •300 Turtle Creek Plaza #116'307-7203

organizations
Gay/Lesbian Association of LTTA
P.O. Box 19348-77, UTA SL 76019•794-6140

Trinity MCC•331 Aaron Ave.,Ste 125 •265-5454

Dallas Outdoors• P.O. Box 35474 75235•2755270

Dallas Tavern Guild •3900 Lemmon Ave.#220• 5255292
Dignity/Dallas • PO Box 190133 75219 •2264101
Foundation for Human Understanding ■ 5284233

Gay/Lesbian Gardeners • PO Box 190552 75219• 3398787

AUSTIN,TX (area code 512)

GLAAD/Dallas• P.O. Box 190712 75219•525GLAD

Grace Fellowship in Christ Jesus •2727 Oak l_awn • 5252811

clubs

Lesbian/(Say Demoaats of Texas•521-5342 exL 229

HdlywDOd • 113 San Jadnto •4809627

LesbianASay Political CJoalition • P.O. Box 224424 75222•8259882

Nexus-305W.Stti •472-5288

organizations
Affirmation (Methodist)•7403 Shoal Creek•451-2329

Austin Latino/a LesbianyOay Organization
PC Box 1350 78787 • 2808107

Lesbian Resource Center • 1315 Skiles* 8218999

Usbian Visionaries • PO Box 191443 75219•521-5342 Xe44
UL(Usbian Info Une •521-5342 exL 298

SPROUTS(coming out group)• £21-5342 exL 256
TWKaS (the wymn in gay society)• 5218342 exL 269
The New Vision (newsjoumal)•521-5342 exL 255

Austin Lesbian/Gay Politicai Caucus• P.O. Box 822 78767•474^)750

MetroplexRepublicans 'P.O.Box 191033 75219 '9418114

Center for Battered Women • (Lesbian(^p)

Oak Lawn Community Services 4300 MacArthur•5208108
Oak Lawn Symphonic Band -P.O. Box 19097376219'9851751

385-5181 Of 9209070(hotline)

Gay/Lesbian Student Association at UT Austin
458-3971 'Box 275 Texas Union 78712-7338

PFLAG/Dallas' Helpline 5588640
Imperial Sovereign Royal Court of Dallas

Lesbian/Gay Rights lx>bby • PO Box 2579 78768•474-6475

P.O. Box 190464 75245
'
5218446

Lesbian Mothers - Karen •339-8508

Sevenlh-Oay Adventist Knshp '4151358

Live Wire Productions • PO Box 14120278714

Womyn Together'3920 Ced^ Springs'5284233

Metropolitan Community Church •1100 Springdale Rd.• 929-3660
Oasis Mnistry•5555 N. Lamar Blvd.#L101 • 441-9191

P-Fiag (Parents/Friends Lesbians/Gays)• 331-8445

Sapphfire!• Lesbian Social Group• 4508659
Meeting Address• 825 E. 531/2 SL.Ste E103

Maiing Address* 201 W.Stassney,Ste.#321 78746-3156
Waterloo Counseling Center •507 Powell 78703• 322-9654
Texas Human Rights Foundation • P.O. Box 49740 78765•479-8473
AIDS Legal Assistance 1-800-8288417
The Treehouse (Lesbian Mothers Support(aroup)
607 Nueces SL 78701 •477-6822

DEm"ON,TX(area code 817)
organizations
COURAGE.Lesbian Gay Student Org.
P.O. Box 5067 76203
'
382-3813

Harvest MCC'5900 S.Stemmons 76205• 1805497-HMX

P-Flag (Parents/Friends Lesbians/(3ays)'387-1491

DRIPPING SPRINGS,TX (area code 512)
accommodations

ATHENS,TX (area code 903)
organizations
P-Fiag (Parents/Friends Lesbians/Gays)•6758326

Recreation Rantation • Campground • HC01 box 45A 78620• 894-0567

EL PASO,TX(area code 915)
organizations

BANDERA,TX (area code 210)
accommodations
Desert Hearts Cow^ Oub • Women's Guest Ranch
HC3.Box 650 78003'796-7446

Lambda Services • PO Box 31321 799318321 •24 hour line 562-GAYS
1^ El Paso•916 Yandell •542-1227

P-Flag (Parents/Friends LesbiansASays)
Spanish & English Language Meetings•5914664

DALLAS,TX (area code 214)

F.WORTH(area code 817)
organizalions

businesses

Agape MCC - 4815 SE Loop 820 - 535-5002

Alternative Visions • Dating Service•747-2033

Affirmation (MethorSst)•4757837

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Piopeity of thp. Center
Imperial Coutl de Fort Worth/Arlington •870-1555 or 535-7188
Lesblan-'Gay Politcal Coalitjon ol Tarrant County •263^006 or 8600326
P-Rag (Parents'Fnends Lesbians'Ga)S)•498-5607/498-4855
RESPECT •828 Hardvrood Rd.• Hursl.TX 76054

Tarrant County L'G Alliance ■ 3327 Wmttirop. Suite 243 76116• 763-5544

HOUSTON,n (area code 713)
businesses
IrkJmgs Bookshop • 1846 Richmond • 521-3369
clubs

National Gay/Lesbian Clearinghouse

666 Broadway 4th Floor - NY. NY 10012
National Gay/Lesbian Task Force
1517 U Street NW • Washington D.C. 20009• 202-332-6483
Parents & Friends ol Lesbians and Gays(P-Rag)• 1-8G0-4-FAMILY
The Fund for Human Dignity
666 Broadway 4th Floor • NY. NY 10012

NEW ORLEANS, LA (area code 504)
club & accommodations
Charlene's • 940 Elysian Fields • 9469328

Ranch • 9218 Buffalo Spdwy.• 666-3464
Ms. Bs • 9208 Bufiao Spdwy.•666<3356

organizations

OKLAHOMA CITY, OK (area code 405)
organizations

AIDS Foundation •3927 Essex Lane •623-6796
AIDS HOTLINE • c/o Swtcfiboard •529-3211

2l35NW39th 73112• 526AIDS

XTC • 9212 Buffalo SpcJwy.•666-3356

Oasis the Community Center

Gay^Lesbtan Students Umversity of Houston • 4800 Calhoun • 529-3211

Herland Sister Resources. Inc.

Gay/Lesplan Switchboard • PC Box 66591 77266 •529-3211
Houston Gay & Lesbian Parents • 980-7995
Houston Gay Political Caucus• P.O. Box 66664 77266 ■ 521-1000
Integnty • P.O. Box 66008 772666008 • 432-6414
Kingdom Community Church '614 E. I9th •862-7533

2312 NW 39th 73112-521-9696

SAN ANGELO,TX (area code 915)
organizations

Lambda ALAJ40N • 1214 Joanne-521-9772

P-Flag (Parer.ts/Friends Lesbians^Gays)•944-4323

LesbiaaGay Sludents-Univ. Houston Clear Lake • 2700 Bay Aea 77058

Concho Valey Gay/lesCxan Alliance

LTN Houston • Lesbian Teacher Network

P.O. Box 750 76902 - 6562956

FO Box 1835• Beliaire, TX 77402• 529-3211

Metropd.lan Community Church Of The Resunection

SAN ANTONIO,TX (area code 210)

1919 Decatur-861-9149

Montrose Counseling Center - 900 Lovett #203 770O6• 5230037
Montrose Pod League/Bltia,Tj3• PJ 863-8482

clubs

P-Flag (Parents/Friends Lestjians/Gays)•867-9(^

Nexus San Antonio • 8021 Pinebrook • 341-2818

PWA Coa'rtion • Houston • 1475 W.Gray #163•522-5428

organizations

SORA (Sex or Relationship Addicts Anonymous) lesbian group • 523-9398

Deaf Rainbow - 804-1904 TTY

Bonham Exchange • 411 Bonham • 224-9219

The Women's Group • 529-5871

Dignity/San Antonio • 202 N. St. Mary's • 349-3632

Womynspace • P.O. Box 980601 77098-0601

Integrity/San Antonio

Women^ Softball League • 6431 Pineshade •8680256

PO Box 150006 78212• 684-4920

LUBBOCK.TX (area code 806)
businesses

P-Rag (Parents/Friends Lesbians/Gays)•822-4135
River City Living Metropolitan Community Church
202 Holland 78212 -622-1121

Lambda Students Center • 1140 W. Woodtawn Ave.

Dstinct Travel • 793-8374

LISA (Lesbian Information SA)• 828-LISA (5472)

organizations

SALGA - San Antonio Lesbian/Gay Assembly - 733-7300

Lbttock Lesbian/Gay Alliance & Wild Wilde West Prod.
P.O. Box 64746 79464 • 79M499

Community Outreach Center & Outreach AA (Tues. AThurs.@8pm) l02N.Ave.S- 762-1019
MCC Lubbock - 5502 34lh SL • 792-5562

SALSA - San Antonio Lambda Students Alliance

PO Box 12715 76212 - SALSA Une 733-1225
San Antonio AIDS Foundation
PO Box 120113 78212-9313
San Antonio Tavem Guild - 822-2823

P-Flag (Parents/Friends Lesbians.'Gays)• 7990529
South Plains AIDS Resource Center(SPARC)
4204-B 50th SI 79413• 1-806627-7079• 7967068

NATIONAL ORGANIZATIONS
Affirmation: United Methodsts for Lesbian/Gay Concerns

SHERMAN,TX (area code 903)
organizations
AIDS Resource Center of Texhoma - 8161272 or 800-5266361
Alliance for Ufe•PO Box 1695 75091 - 892-9049
HIV/AIDS Setvices•PO Box 169575091 •4667258

PO Box 1021 - Evanston. IL 60204

AIDS Action Counal• 729 Eighth St. S.E. Suite 200
Washington. DC 20003 -{202)647-3101
AIDS 800-1-806221-7044
Conference For Catholic Lesbians

PO Box 436, Planetarium Station • New York, NY 10024
GLAAD/USA • 80 Vanck St. #3E • NY. NY 10013
Hate Crime Line • 1-606347-HATE

Gay & Lesbian Parents Coalition International (GLPCI)
PO Box 50360, Washington. DC 20091 •(202) 583-8029
Lesbian Mothers' National Defense Fund

PO Box 21S67 • Seattle. WA 98111 - (206) 3262643
Lesbian Teachers Network (LTN)
PO Box 638-Solon, IA 52333

National Gay Alliance for Young Adults, Inc.
PO Box 190426 • Dallas. TX 75219 •(214)307-7203

WACO,TX (area code 817)
organizations
P-Flag (Parents/Friends Lesbians/Gays)• 750-7211

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