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News & Vliews

Vol.8, No.4
April 1997

MANY HEARTS • • •

ONE COMMUNITY

WHATS HAPPENING IN APRIL

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JUNE

SAT, MAR 29 CT Gay Men's Chorus presents"Out!, the Whole Story." 8 pm, Shubert Theater, New Haven.
SUN, MAR 30 Bloodroot 20th anniversary beer, wine, cheese and juice tasting, 85 Ferris, Bridgeport. 5-7:30.
$5. (203) 576-9168.
SAT, APR 5

and Sun, Apr 6. 4th Annual Gay & Lesbian Business Expo, New York Coliseum, Columbus
Circle, NYC. 11-6 Sat, 12-6 Sun. Food, performances, shopping.

SUN, APR 6

Sunday at the Center, Clean the Office, 2-5 pm.

SUN, APR 6

Whoop Dee Doo Appreciation Brunch for volunteers and cast, Trumbull. See TCC News.

SAT, APR 12 CT Premiere of"lt's Elementary" about gay issues in school, sponsored by GLSTN, Trinity
College, Hartford, 1:30 pm. See FYI for details. (860) 289-45766.
SUN, APR 13 Casino Bus Trip to Mohegan Sun Casino, Uncasville CT. Leave TCC 10 am. $25 members,
$30 non members. Limited seating, so book reservations by Apr 5. (203) 261-4661.
FRI, APR 18 Hartford Stage Fundraiser, "Gershwin at the Goodwin". See FYI.
SAT, APR 19 TCC Friend raiser, at the home of Bob Scrofarii in Norwalk, 6-9 pm. See article for directions.
FRI, APR 25 Another Octave, the Connecticut Women's Chorus presents Music in My Mother's House,
Pequot Library Southport 8pm. Tickets $IO advance, $12 door, $7 seniors and children. Info
(203) 772-0639. See flyer.
SAT, APR 26 Another Octave, the Connecticut Women's Chorus presents Music in My Mother's House,
Church of St Paul & St James, New Haven, 8 pm, (203) 772-0639.
WED, APR 30 "Ellen Morgan" comes out, at long last, ABC-TV.
FRI, MAY 2

Another Octave, the Connecticut Women's Chorus presents Music in My Mother's House,
Unitarian Society of New Haven, Hamden, 8pm.

SAT, MAY 3 Another Octave, the Connecticut Women's Chorus presents Music in My Mothers House,
Community Center, Hartford, 8pm.
SUN, MAY 4 Sunday at the Center, 4-6 pm. Salad Potluck.
SAT, MAY 31 CT Gay Men's Chorus reprises The Hat Ball, the "Prom Night of your Dreams ... with fifty
fabulous men and their eighty-three dancing feet." 8:30, Oakdale Theatre, Wallingford. Info
1-800-644-CGMC.
SAT, JUNE 21 TCC Pride Friendraiser and Back-yard Barbecue-at Meg & Justine's home in Stratford,
3-6 pm. Save the date!

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SAT, JUNE 21 Connecticut Pride in Hartford. Watch for more info.

TRIP

VISIT THE MOHEGAN
SUN APRIL

SUN, JUNE 29Annual New York City Pride Parade. Watch for more info.

For the latest update on What's Happening in the area check our TCC home page on the internet.

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Oh no! Tax time again! Don't you wish you had 'found'
money to pay those taxes? Do you feel lucky? Well, maybe
we have the answer - a bus trip on April 13 to the
Mohegan Sun Casino Resort in Uncasville, CT.
Triangle Community Center Fund Raising Committee is
sponsoring this trip on a Fitzgerald Coach chartered
exclusively for the TCC and the New Haven Community
Center.
The coach will leave from TCC, 25 Van Zant Street in
Norwalk at 10 am headed for the Mohegan Sun. We will
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provide a light snack and sodas and show an appropriately
themed video! Alcoholic beverages are permitted on the
bus if you bring your own, but no glass bottles are allowed.
Once at the casino, there are over 10 restaurants to choose
from, live entertainment, bingo, and six hours of gambling! We will depart from the casino around 6 pm.
The price is $25 for members and $30 for non-members.
There is limited seating for 47 people, so book early. Call
(203) 261-4661 for reservations or further information.
The cutoff date for reservations is April 5, 1997. - RB
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LETTERS AND E-MAIL

WE SHOULD TREAT EACH OTHER

GAY ADVICE FROM DEAR OLD AUNTIE EM!
Hello! Come in dear. Come and visit with your dear sweet old Auntie Em. Come
tell me what's on your mind. I've seen a lot in my time, and I've got some good advice
for you. Believe me, this old gal has seen it all. So why don't you pull up a chair while
I pour myself a brandy. There now, just tell me what's on your mind, and don't be
shy. I love to dish the dirt with you boyz, it adds a bit of spice to an old lady's life.
I've only been on-line a short time, but I already consider myself the cyber advice
queen like, now what was that Abby girl's advice column? Please stop by and visit
my web site, Ask Auntie Em, at the address http://members.aol.com/ecbbsl/auntem
- and drop me an e-mail. I'll be looking forward to hearing from you! [ (Editor's note:
"Auntie Em"'s website is maintained by the Emerald City Bulletin Board Service.]

LIKE GOLD
by Mike Collins

We should treat each other like gold.
We homosexuals should treat each other like gold.
I have mentioned this to many friends in the gay and lesbian
community.
I am flattered that John Allen, founding president of the
New Haven Gay and Lesbian Community Center, regularly quotes me on this, and that Roger Hooverman, N&V
editor, asked that a piece be done. Chris Bull, author of
Perfect Enemies (the fight between the Christian Coalition
and gays) also strongly agrees.
As Andrew Stone, former member ofTCC's OutSpoken
and now a student at NYU, once told me - and he
articulated it well - members of every other minority
group who are persecuted by the bullies can at least find
peace and support at home.
If you are a member of a religious group or ethnic group,
at least your parents and family will hug you and give you
affection when you get home.
But not gays, in some cases.
In some cases, the parents and family will torment you even
worse than the schoolyard bullies.
So, I ask, why is it a good idea for some in our community
to not treat others "like gold", and, be what one gay
acquaintance from Tennessee termed them, "attitude
queens"?
Sometimes you'll even see it in newspaper personal ads: "no
fems."
Or at a social gathering, the atmosphere will be ice cold.
I have found so many wonderful and loving people in the
gay community over the past quarter century, and I love the
gay community and lesbian community.
But it seems some in the gay community buy into the rightwing agenda ofstupidity, arrogance, negative competitiveness, and attitude, along with selfishness.
Why is it a good idea to impose this on members of our own
community, who are already being persecuted by society in
general, and in some cases, by their own families?
We should treat each other like gold.
We should recall the attitude of the "counter-culture" days
as Newt Gingrich calls them, when the ethic was
"Everybody's your brother/sister" and Stephen Stills sang,
"Love the one you're with."
We should reject the superiority and attitude values that
flooded back into society with the Reagan Revolution,
along with the Reaganite attitude of total selfishness.
The right's so-called "family values" ethic is: "My family,
and screw the rest ofthe world." These so-called Christians
might refer to scripture, and to Jesus, who never says
anything about homosexuals, but does say the GREATEST commandment is to love God and to love your
neighbor as yourself. Not just your family.
No one is perfect and certainly I have many faults and have
disappointed many people over the years.
But it should at least be our ethic, or "agenda," to drive to
reject the mean-spiritedness and total selfishness and negative competitiveness of the extreme right.
We should treat each other like gold.
April 1997

READER IS NOT THINKING IRRATIONALLY AFTER ALL
I just thought I would let you know that as I read through all the editorial responses
and messages to those, you say all that I would. This is having a calming effect as it
proves that I am not thinking irrationally. Politics can upset me ...
-Stianna
RESEARCH ON DOMESTIC PARTNER BENEFITS
I am researching the issue of Domestic Partner benefits and I was wondering if you
could put a question out to all those on your distribution list. I would like to know
of all companies with employees in Connecticut that offer Domestic Partner benefits
to their employees. I would also like to know what Domestic Partner benefits are
offered by each of these companies'. Anyone with information related to these 2
questions can E-Mail me at: mmelanso@bcbsct.com
Thank You, Mark Melanson
RESEARCH ON GAY ADOPTIVE COUPLES
I am conducting my dissertation research on gay male adoptive couples. I'm
comparing this group with other gay male couples who choose not to become
parents. I'm contacting your center in hopes of using it as a source for volunteers for
my study. Would it be possible to post a flyer in your facility or perhaps insert an ad
in your newsletter asking for participants? I can provide you with whatever references
you might need to validate who I am and my study including the name and phone
number of my commitee chairperson. Thanks for considering my request.
- Daniel Scott Angel, CIIS ILL Department, 9 Peter Yorke Way, San Francisco,
Caifornia, 94109; 7374l.3205@compuserve.com.
INVITATION TO INTERNET NEWSGROUPS
If you want, you can remind readers that I put out regular e-mail mailings of news
items of interest to CTgays and lesbians. You can invite readers of your newsletter
to e-mail me if they would like to be added to the: (a) marriage list; (b) religion list;
&/or (c) youth issues list.
All I ask is they send their name and which list(s) they are interested in by e-mail to
ctfreedom@aol.com.
Thank you, Thomas Jackson (tcjackson@snet.net)

TRIVIA
by Seggerman

ANSWER TO MARCH

Sorry, Liz, but that crack about Congressman Bob Barr's multitudinous marriages was written by Margaret Carlson in a Time
Magazine essay of September 16. There she acknowledged a
queasiness about same-sex marriage but still was able to comprehend the hypocrisy of one of DOMA's chief sponsors.
OUESTION FOR APRIL

What openly gay commentator on the Jim Lehrer News Hour
recently joked that he should have a bumper sticker reading,
"Assimilation Happens"?

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TCCNEWS
STONE, DELVECCHIO NEW N&VEDITORS
Michele Stone and John DelVecchio will be the new co-editors of our
newsletter, TCC News & v'iews, beginning with the May, 1997 issue.
They replace Roger Hooverman, who is retiring as editor after three years.
Michele Stone, senior editor, has already been ori the News & Views staff
for over a year as advertising manager, a position which she will continue.
Earlier, she had been an editor of Talking Triangles, the now-defunct
newsletter of the CT Coalition for Gay & Lesbian Civil Rights.
John DelVecchio, assistant editor, who recently joined the TCC Board of
Dirctors, also has significant newsletter experience. He is Editor (Direttore
Responsabile) of Attenzione, the monthly newsletter of the greater Bridgeport area's Italian-American community. John's principal responsibility
will be garnering information from outside sources and overall coordination of the TCC communications effort. Michele, the computer maven of
the team, will be in charge of compiling and editing materials into the
finished newsletter.

Contributions to the N&Vmay be now be sent to

Michele Stone, Editor
PO Box 8185
Stamford CT 06905
Voice Phone (203) 316-0333
Fax (203) 964-1133
e-mail NewsViews2@aol.com.
HIV CouNSELINGITEsTING CONTINUES AT TCC
The Norwalk Health Department, in partnership with the TCC, is offering
a program of counseling and HIV testing at the Center. The counselor,
Karen Gorman, will be available at the Center, 25 Van Zant St., every
Tuesday from 3:30 to 6:30 pm for walk-in counseling. HIV testing will
also be available by appointment. For more information, or to make an
appointment for testing, please call 854-7979 or 854-7779.
SUNDAY AT THE CENTER SWINGS IN TO SPRING
On the first Sunday in April we'll do "Spring Cleaning'' and get the office
cleaned up. There is so much stuff under the table that the typewriter can't
be used to type up membership cards and the fax machine is blocked. If you
can't make it but think you may have stuff that you want to save, please call
Marianne at 222-8294 prior to April 5. Work will begin at 2 and go on until
5 or so.
On the first Sunday in May, "Salad Days Are Here Again." Sunday at the
Center is holding a Salad Potluck on May 4 at 4 pm. Bring a flower or two
for a communal decoration. A vase and sodas will be provided.
THE OA1<s ON You
For its May6 meeting, the Lesbian Literature Group has chosen ''Trees Call
for What They Need," by Melissa Kwasny. Thanks to Justine Michaud for
supplying the following synopsis of the book.
"Trees Call for What They Need," published by Spinsters Ink, is a beautiful
new novel with a warm regional flavor. It is the story of three women born
at the turn of the century and their lives in the Town of Pines: Nettie, a
woolen mill worker and tenant farmer; Aunt Till, a Spiritualist medium and
lesbian; and Marie, a Polish immigrant who owns the Poletown bar. It is
the story of their friendship and their exchange of pain and remedies as the
novel chronicles the changing of their lives with the changing of their land
near the Big Lakes. It is a lyrical remembrance oflife, both past and present,
narrated to us in Nettie's own inimitable voice. It is a novel about family and
belonging, farming and caring for the land, the roots you put down and
leave behind you. It's about love, caring, healing, and friendship. It is the
story of one woman's life, and how she made a difference without even
trying.
The group meets at the Center the first Tuesday ofevery month at 7: 30 pm.
Copies of"T rees" can be found in your local library or bookstore, or ordered
from Bloodroot (203) 576-9168. For more information please call Gwen
(203) 316-0333.

April 1997

WHooP-DEE-Doo! FoLLOWUP
WHooP-DEE•Doo:

THE Mov1E!

Watch your local Resource Room for the new addition of a video
copy of our Whoop-Dee-Dool show. Relive the music, fun and
costumes of your favorite musical. Watch this video of the final
performance ofTCC's production ofWhoop-Dee-Doo!
WHooP-DEE-Doo:

THE PERPETUAL PARTY!

Following up several cast parties and a recent screening of the new
Whoop-Dee-Dool video, there is to be yet another associated getAll Whoop-Dee-Doo! volunteers are invited to an
together.
appreciation brunch Sunday, April 6, "noonish". Peter and Russ are
graciously hosting the event at their Trumbull home. Call 203-2614661 to RSVP and obtain directions.
WHOOP-DEE-Doo:

THE FINANCIAL UPDATE!

Last, but not least, is a report of the finances for the Whoop-DeeDool theater fund raiser held in January. TCC's Finance Committee
has reported a net income from the project of $17,703.90. These
proceeds include income from all sources: corporate and individual
underwriting, ticket sales, raffle, t-shirt and soda sales, and the ad
book/playbill revenue.
Expenses of just over $14,000 were just over budget, due to printing
costs which we had hoped would be donated.
All 1n all, this was an extremely successful project, financially and
otherwise. Profits are being shared with Bread & Roses, Stamford
CARES and Mid-Fairfield AIDS Project.
TCC's share, over $7000, will be used to establish a new TCC
scholarship program. This program was proposed by the Fund
Raising Committee and is now being developed by a special committee organized by the TCC Board of Directors. More information
about the scholarship fund will be announced later.
POLITICAL ACTION GROUP ON A NEW
NIGHT
The Political Action Group has announced a change in its meeting
time from the third Wednesday to the Second Tuesday of each
month, 7:30 at the Center. The group's principal activity is to
generate letters expressing lesbigay viewspoints to political figures.
For information, call Michele, 438-4465 .
TCC GETS A NEW COMPUTER
Thanks to Bread & Roses, the TCC office now has a new - well, a
newer- computer. Now we can perform important recordkeeping
functions, like maintaining our mailing lists and financial records, on
a close-to-state-of-the-art machine.
If you have expertise in MS Access, we could use your help in revising
and upgrading our membership database. Call membership database manager Marianne Seggerman at 222-8294.

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SPLINTERS FROM THE BOARD
[This month 's "Splinters" is shared by the three retiring members of
the TCC Board of Directors}

THANKS TO ALL THE VOLUNTEERS
One thing I can definitely say about this past year is that being President
of TCC's Board of Directors was an exrerience I will never forget!
Many things - the good things - I don t want to forget. I very much
appreciate the fact that you trusted me enough to be the official "voice"
of the Triangle Community Center, and I am grateful to have had a
chance to serve, in a small way, Connecticut's gay/lesbian/bisexual
population in general and the Fairfield County community in particular.
Mostly what I won't forget are PEOPLE: people I've spoken with by
phone; people I've met; people I've worked with; friends I've made. But
first and foremost, PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEERED - who gave
of their time and talents and energy to keep the Center ("Our Center'')
going for six years and will, I hope, for sixty more. The phenomenally
successful "Whoop-De-Doo" benefit demonstrates better than anything what our community can do when lots of volunteers work
together. We need that "Whoop-Dee-Doo" spirit to continue all year,
year after year, not just for-"BIG EVENTS" but also in the hundreds of
"little things" that are necessary for the Center's day-to-day existence.
The Center, in short, needs YOU! ALL OF YOU!!! Young and NotSo-Young; Rich and Not-At-All-Rich; Single and No-Longer-Single;
People of Any and Every Color; Bisexual, Transgendered, Gay and
Lesbian (especially lesbian, for the Center to reach its stated goal of
"gender parity'' -e.qualmembership, e.qual participation, e.qual leadership).
By the time you read this, my term as Board President will have ended.
I want onelast time to thank ALL OF YOU for ALL YOU'VE DONE,
and for giving me the chance to be a part of it.
Respectfully and Sincerely, Tom Mariconda

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FAREWELL TO THE BOARD
When I joined the Board of Directors, the 1993 March on Washington
was fresh in the minds of those of us who attended. Gays and lesbians
had taken a grip on the nation's attention in the unlikely conduit of a
struggle over their presence and visibility in the military. There were
over 400 paid memberships at the Triangle Community Center, and ten
or eleven board members. There was less than two weeks of operating
funds . A move to cheaper space was in order. The present location is
the result of that effort.
I had promised myself, way back in 1989, that when there was an openly
gay Republican in Congress (my equivalent of"when pigs fly''), then I
would put aside gay activism and concentrate on my career, like I'm
supposed to. Well, by the end of 1996 there were two openly gay
Republicans in Congress, and I was still on the Board. As much an
indicator of progress - a mainstay of the local bike club brought her
companion to the annual brunch for the first time last year.
The Center's move back to financial health was started by a summer of
reduced energy bills - the air conditioning broke down, remember?
Unfortunately, as the financial picture improved, the equally necessary
people capital declined, stemmed somewhat last year by a huge mailing.
The energy and numbers of the women is quite high but then as now
fewer women go from being active in the rap group to Center leadership
than do men from the men's rap. Groups have come"(the Bi rap) and
groups have gone (the Mixed rap). The constant is the Resource Room,
and space to use in any way ones imagination takes one.
There is one thing I have not done in the past almost 4 years of
maintaining the Center's membership database: I have not been
constantly making updates to account for members and former members who have died - because hardly any have. Am I callous to be
grateful that in the time when the AIDS epidemic has so hit hard in so
many places, our membership roster counts only two casualties over
those four years, and those happened to be women who died from other
causes.
So what has changed in the past four years, and what is to come?
Certainly there is a lot more public visibility ofCenter and ofthelesbigay
community. A number of our past presidents have been in the closet at
work (to some degree). That is no longer possible. The days when we
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had less than one month's operating expenses in the bank seem to be over,
but so are the days wh~n 35 people could be counted on to show up at
any event.
Looking forward, I foresee that there will be a shift towards a more
working-class sensibility, judging solely from the current make-up of the
Board. Perhaps the crowds will come back (or come to Center for the
first time) when the State of Hawaii starts issuing marriage licenses to
same-sex couples. Ifl have learned anything about the demographics of
the lesbigay community in this area, I have learned it is an overwhelmingly coupled community. Even many of our "Contributing" members
are in fact one half of a poor, cheap or closeted pair. I predict that many
of these couples (those that have never been in the Center) already know
the Triangle Community Center exists and will turn to it for advice and
support when they try to get their marriages recognized. I'll probably
still be doing membership then.
- Ma~ianne G. C. Seggerman
LIFE GOES ON
Long ago, ina universe faraway, when it finally dawned onme that I was
gay, one of the first things I did (after sex) was seek out the local Gay
Community Center. That was in Albany, New York, over 20 years ago,
so long ago that the name of the organization did not have the word
"lesbian" in it yet. I owe a lot to that Center - because through it I
learned that being gay was more than sex; it was being part of a
community of oppressed, liberated, foolish, brave, dysfunctional, lifegiving, crazy, wonderful women and men who from that time on were
my family.
I was a part of that Center in Albany for ten years before I moved to
Connecticut, and during that time I saw it go through one crisis after
another. There wasn't enough money to pay the bills. There weren't
enough volunteers to operate the organization. Yet, every time that
Center was about to close its doors, new people would show up out of
nowhere; with the enthusiasm and involvement to make the old Center
climb out of the grave and hum again. They are still going strong today.
That's why I am not worried about the future of our Triangle Community Center either. I know from experience that crisis is what makes our
Community, and our Centers, strong. A few years ago the TCC had a
financial crisis, and people who needed the Center and wanted it to
survive came forward, and today we operate with a comfortable reserve
in the bank. Two months ago, I was afraid that no one would be here
to continue News & Views after I left; and now we have not one but two
able editors to carry on and, yes, improve on what has gone before.
At present, the TCC in general and the Board of Directors in particular
are feeling a severe crisis because there are too few people willing and able
to take on the job of running the Center. Our new Board is starting out
with only five members - four men and one woman, barely enough to
maintain the legal requirement of four officers of the corporation.
Yet our membership numbers remain healthy, and scores ofpeople come
through the Center every week for rap groups and other events.
There are a lot of you members out there who take the Center for granted
- not to mention others who make regulasr use of the Center, but refuse
to support it with a membership. You use it, you need it, your lives would
be poorer without it. Or, even if you don't need it for yourselves, you
realize how valuable it is as a positive presence in the community, as a safe
place for our youth, and a source ofsupport for those just coming out and
for their families. I trust that any day now it will dawn on a number of
you that the Triangle Community Center is about to disappear out from
under you because there is no one left to run it.
Then we will see volunteers coming out of the woodwork, with a rebirth
of enthusiasm and dedication that will fill the board room with new faces,
new ideas, and a new life for our community. That's the nature of a
volunteer organization like ours. It's cyclic. It lives from one crisis to
another. But as long as there is a need for places like the Triangle
Community Center in Norwalk, like the Centers. _in New Haven and
Hartford and White Plains and Albany and scores of other cities, those
Centers will not, can not be allowed to die.
Let the last word from the retiring Board be this above all: Your Center
Needs YOU, NOW! VOLUNTEER!!
- Roger Hooverman

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ELEMENTARY

The Connecticut chapter of the Gay, Lesbian Strait Teacher's
Network (GLSTN) invites you to see and discuss "It's Elementary," a film for educators and parents talking about gay issues
at school.
This 78-minute documentary makes a compelling case that
children should be taught to respect all people, including
lesbians and gay men, as part of their early education. At its heart
is incredibly inspiring footage of elementary and middle school
classrooms where teachers are finding age-appropriate, creative
ways to confront anti-gay prejudice and counter gay invisibility.
"It's Elementary'' demystifies what it means to incorporate
information about gay people into early education, and inspires
teachers and administrators to take the next steps at their own
schools.
Rather than focusing on the political debate or the impediments
to dealing with gay issues in the classroom, the fillm is am
inspiring look at what can be done.
Faith Middleton, author of The Goodness ofOrdinary People
and Co1mecticut Public Radio and Television interviewer, will
be hosting the event and moderating a discussion following the
film .
Connecticut premiere of "It's Elementary'' will be Saturday,
April 12, 1: 30 pm at Cinestudio, Trinity College, Hartford CT.
It is sponsored by the Trinity College Women's Center, Children from the Shadows, the CT Education Association, Safe
and Affirming Network ofEducators, Metroline. And PFLAG.
A reception for sponsors will follow.
For information or tickets, call (860) 289-4576.

A GUIDELINE REMINDER
The Gay and Lesbian GuideLine offers information, referrals
and support. If you want to find a gay-friendly doctor, lawyer
or therapist in your town, we have the latest listings. If you're
new to Connecticut and where to know where to meet people,
give us a call. Or if you just need to talk to someone who
understands, we are here for you. Call us most weeknights at
(203) 366-3734.

NEW HAVEN "COURSE IN MIRACLES"
STUDY GROUP
Miracles Mondays, A Course In Miracles® study group, is
changing its' start time to 8 pm beginning in April 7th, 1997.
The group meets at the New Haven Gay&Lesbian Community
Center, One Long Wharf Plaza. The change in time will help the
New Haven Gay & Lesbian Community Center to provide even
more programs and services to the New Haven Community.
Anyone interested in joining the group should contact Casey
Roberts at (203) 230-2050 or Rev. Alexander R. Garbera at
(203 ) 937-8085 . The group is open to all persons. There are
no dues or fees for membership for the Miracles Mondays
group. Donations will help support use of the space.
A long time student of A Course In Miracles, Rev. Alexander
Garbera stated that "even though I have been through the text
and workbook several times, there is always something new to
learn and experience through it. It is an unfolding process, and
has been an instrumental part of my own healing journey." Rev.
Garbera is an Interfaith Minister and graduated from The New
Seminary.
Rev. Garbera also went on to say that "from the very first
meeting in February, the group was positively electric! When
leaving by the elevator, some other individuals came from a
different part of the building, noticed our enthusiasm, and asked
'where did you people just come from?' to which we replied .. 'we
were just exploring the mysteries of the Universe.' The onlookers, tired from working late, smiled and said 'that explains it."'
April 1997

GERSHWIN FUNDRAISER IN HARTFORD
On Friday, April 18, Hartford's Goodwin Hotel will be transformed into an Art
Deco paradise for "Gerschwin at the Goodwin," a fundraiser for the many
educational programs of the Hartford Stage Companay. A raffle-type auction 1s
planned, along with lots of live entertainment. There willbe performances by
panist Paul Biscaccia, jazz singer Dianne Mower, guitarist Norman Johnson, and
the Connecticut Gay Men's Chorus, accompanied by special ~uest Harvey
Fierstein. Tickets for the program, which runs from 8 pm to midnight at the
Goodwin Hotel. Prices are $75 for atrium tickets and $100 for salon tickets . For
tickets or more info call Anne Dyjak, (860) 525-5601.

SCHOLARSHIP AVAILABLE FoR GAY, LESBIAN,
BISEXUAL, TRANSGENDERED YouTH
As part of its on-going support for Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual an_d Transgendered
Youth, the Gay Lesbian Student Teacher Network/ConnectICut (GLSTN) 1s
offering a $500 scholarship to recognize such students, support continuing
education and foster a positive image of GLBT students in the school and
community.
The $500 award will go to a student who is a self-identified gay, lesbian, bisexual
youth who is between the ages ofl6 and 21 as of May 1, 1997 and planning to
attend a post-secondary education institution during the next year. Applicants
must be residents of Connecticut, and prior recipients are not eligible. All
application materials must be received by April 15, 1997.
This is the second year GLSTN Connecticut has offered such a scholarship. Last
year's winner was Carl Sciortinq, Jr. of Milford, who attends Tufts U111vers1ty.
Applications have been sent to guidances offices in all of the state's public and
private high schools. Applications are also available by mail. Write to: Ronnie
Kim, Robertson School, 227 Cross St., Coventry, CT 06238.
SHAYS AGREES TO BE PRINCIPAL ENDA SPONSOR
U .S. Rep. Christopher Shays (R-Conn.) has agreed to become the principal
Republican co-sponsor of the Employment Non-Discrimination Act (ENDA),
marking the first time a House Republican has taken the lead in sponsoring the
measure.
Shays's office disclosed his new role in backing ENDA less than a week after Sen.
Alfonse D'Amato (R-N .Y.) told leaders of the Human Rights Campaign, a
national Gay political group, that he will become a co-sponsor of ENDA in the
Senate.
ENDA calls for amending the U .S. civil rights code to prohibit employment
discrimination based solely on a person's sexual orientation. The bill covers both
private sector and civilian government employment.
Shays's spokesperson Seth Amgott said Shays will join openly Gay Rep . Barney
Frank (D-Mass.), ENDA's chief Democratic sponsor in the House, and HRC
in recruiting other House members to sign on as ENDA co-sponsors. HRC
Legislative Director Wi1mie Stachelberg said HRC expects "considerably more"
House members to sign on as ENDA co-sponsors in this year's 105th Congress
than the 139 who became co-sponsors in last year's 104th Congress. Amgott said
Shays and Frank are expected to reintroduce ENDA sometime next month.
"ENDA is based on a fundamental American idea," Shays said in a statement
released by his office. "Americans should be judged at work based on their
performance at work. I am proud to belead Republican sponsor of this common
sense legislation."
- Lou Chibbaro Jr., Washington Blade, via the internet.

P-FLAG SCHEDULE OF MEETINGS AT

TCC

"Big" Monthly Meeting: Every 1st Wednesday, 7:45
Spouses and Ex Spouses group: Every 3rd Thursday, 7 :30

Deadline for the May News & Views is Saturday,
April 12. Material received after this date will not be
included in the May newsletter.

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EDITOR's DESK

WORTH REPEATING

••• AND MAKE OUR GARDEN GROW
It is with great joy and satisfaction that, after three years as editor, I put
this, my last issue of News & ½ews, to bed and turn the newsletter over
to our new Editors: Michele Stone and John DelVecchio.
I am confident that this team will continue to maintain the TCC News
& ½ewsat the high level of excellence that Connie Cash, Martin Ulmer
and I have striven for since its first issue, over seven years ago. In fact,
I expect they will make it even better.
For one last time, I would like to express my heartfelt thanks to the many
people who have helped me produce News & ½ews over the past three
years: To our many regular contributors, especially Marianne Seggerman
and Michael Collins, who have provided news and opinion with
dedication and wit. To David Dey, whose artistic talents have given the
' layout of our newsletter a professional appearance worthy of a commercial magazine. To Damian Kane and Len Horey and their crew of
stuffers, who have committed themselves to getting the finished product
into the mail and to your doorstep on time month after month, and the
many volunteers who have helped deliver stacks of newsletters to gay
establishments, bookstores and libraries about the community. And, of
course, to my partner, Greg Weingardt, who has faithfully proofread
each and every newsletter before it went to press, and helped bring our
product as close to perfection as possible.
As for myself, I now breathe a great sigh of relief and look forward at last
to a summer where every sunny weekend is mine to enjoy, with no
deadlines and no commitments. I might even get around to some of
those housekeeping chores that have been piling up for the last three
years, like cleaning out the closet...
I'll keep my hand in to a limited amount, of course, maintaining the TCC
web page and contributing occasionally to the local papers and lesbigay
news groups on the net. And I've promised Michelle I will continue to
provide occasional articles for N& V, though I won't commit myself to
contributing something every issue.
After twenty years of on-and-off gay activism, I feel I am ready for a
period of relative rest and retirement - at least for a while. The image
that comes to my mind is the closing chorus of Leonard Bernstein's
Candide. There the principals, after trying and failing in one adventure
after another to make this the best ofall possible worlds, finally step back
and decide they will be satisfied simply to do the best they know -to
"build our house, and chop our wood, and make our garden grow."
See you on the beach.
- Roger Hooverman.
OTHER AREA GROUPS AND
ORGANIZATIONS
Bare & Gay (B&G) gay nudists
Bisexually Curious Support Group Bpt
Chiltern Mountain Club
Connecticut Kids and Families
Connecticut Freedom to Marry Coalition
40-Up Club.(Social Grp.-call Dale before 10pm)
Gay Fathers Group
Gay Mens Association of Danbury
GEMS (Mature GLBT)
Guideline (gay/lesbian phone info)
Hartford Community Center
Married Men's Bisexual Suppt Grp Htfd
Metropolitan Community Church
The Loft, White Plains NY,
Triangle Bowling League
Triangle Kids
Western Connecticut Gay Men's Group

Lush green forests everywhere
And really, really incredible hair
That's Gay Heaven
Judy Garland at the Emerald Gate
and whoop-dee-doo
It's ten percent straight
That's· Gay Heaven
Endless beaches where turquoise waters
Kiss the cool pink sand
Soft sea breezes and rock hard bodies
Perfectly, evenly, perpetually tanned
Laughing at earthly mediocrities
Brunching with Tchaikovsky
Dancing with Socrates
That's Gay Heaven
Jesse Helms all butch and sweaty
And Pat Buchanan's nicknamed "Betty"
That's ( Frederick's of Hollywood) Gay Heaven
Hunky waiters and flirty bellmen
Look! in the strapless It's Cardinal Spellman
That's (Eleanor Roosevelt) Gay Heaven
Sexy slow tunes and swanky show tunes
Swing for ever more
One part leather and one part feather
Two parts Eva and Zsa Zsa Gabor
Noel Coward at the eighty-eights
In fact, it's just like Provincetown
without the straights
In James Dean, Jodie Foster
Rock Hudson, Hillary Clinton
Heaven, Heaven, Heaven
Gay Heaven!

Contributors to this issue:
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644-4305
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899-0270
256-8414
791-9553
261-4019
866- 7051
778- 7016
688-1881
366-3734
724 5542
262-1555
389-6750
948-4922
931-8789
255-6229
323-6278
773-9947

We're glad to list your non-profit ·gay/lesbian/bi/cg group free of
charge. Call (203) 849-1508. Please keep us informed of changes.

April 1997

GAY HEAVEN
· From the CT Gay Men's Chorus' World Premiere of "Out! - The
Whole Story," first performed in New Haven March, 1997. Lyrics
b Win.ston Clark Music Director.

Russ Bain. CT Gay Men's Chorus, Mike Collins, Thomas
Jackson. Tom Mariconda. Peter McKnight. Justine
Michaud. Micharl Pavlicin, Bob Scrofani, Marianne
Seggerman. Stianna. Michele Stone. Michele Tesbir.

Horticultural Botanist
Gardener & House I Pet Sitter
Donald J. Comes
(203) 866-2823

30 7lerney Street
Norwal,k, CT 06851

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Effective April 7, 1 997,

Nicholas Lang, MS, NCC
is delighted to announce
his ability to provide

Counseling
and
Psychotherapy Services
at 387 Danbury Road (Route 7), Wilton.
His practice includes specializations in
sexual orientation, loss,
relationship, and HIV-related issues.

Telephone: 761-8825
This new location is in addition
to his New Haven office.

TRIANGLE COMMUNITY CENTER, INC.
P.O.BOX 4062, East Norwalk, CT 06855
Tel/Fax: (203) 853-0600
e-mail TCCenter@aol.com
EXECUTIVE COMMITTEE
TOM MARI CONDA ....................... President
MARIANNE SEGGERMAN .......... Vice-President
BARB SCHADE ................... .. ... ...... Treasurer
DON BUXTON .......... ....... ........ ..... . Corresponding Secretary
DAVE CARROLL ........................... Acting Recording Sec'y
BOARD OF DIRECTORS
LEN HOREY
DON BUXTON
TOM MARICONDA
DAYID CARROLL
BARB SCHADE
JOHN DEL VECCHIO
MARIANNE SEGGERMAN
ROGER HOOVERMAN
STANDING COMMITTEES
AIDS Liaison
Tom M
Board Development
Tom M
Communications
Roger H
-Public Relations
Mike C
Finance
Doug N
Fundraising/Sp Events
Michael P
Membership
Vacant
-Member Database
Marianne S
Operations
Cindy M
(and to schedule events at the Center)
Program
Dave C
-Resource Room
Walter D
--Center Forums
Dave C
Volunteer
Meg B & Justine M

374-6934
374-6934
849-1508
375-3567
838-2367
866-6993
222-8294
595-9799
838-1881
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April 1997

Is published monthly by
Triangle Community Center, Inc.
P.O. Box 4062, East Norwalk, CT 06855.
NEWS & VIEWS encourages its readers to submit materials of interest
to our community, including short articles, letters to the editor, etc. We
cannot respond to, or publish, anonymous letters. We reserve the right
to edit or condense as appropriate to meet space requirements. Authors
will be contacted if major revisions are necessary. Please submit to :

NEWS&VIEWS
Michele Stone: Editor
P.O. Box 8185
Stamford, CT 06905
Phone 316-0333 Fax 964-1133
e-mail: NewsViews2@aol.com

John Delvecchio: Asst Editor
Phone: 203-334-3822
Mike Collins: Publicity
Phone: 203-375-3567

FOR ADVERTISING RATES CONTACT MICHELE STONE:
Ads must be camera-ready. If your ad is not camera
ready or you need help with its layout or design,
contact Michele Stone BEFORE submission. Inserts
and special sizes upon prior agreement. All ads are
placed on a space available basis.
The publication of the name of any person or organization in articles or
advertisements in NEWS & VIEWS is not to be construed as any indication of
the sexual orientation of such persons or members of such organizations.
The appearance of advertisements in NEWS & VIEWS does not imply nor
constitute endorsement by TCC,Inc.
The views expressed in "Point of View" and "Gaily Forward" are not necessarily those ofTCC, Inc.
Copyright 1997 by Triangle Community Center, Inc. All rights reserved. This
work, or any parts thereof, may not beused or reproduced in any manner without
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The Norwalk Health Department
In cooperation with

~nnouncement

Triangle Community Center
Proudly Announces
HIV Counseling & Testing Services
Commencing:
February 11, 1997

STAMFORD RELIGIOUS SCIENCE CENTER
FOR DYNAMIC LIVING
Sunday Experience 1st and 3rd Sundays, 11 :00 am Tara
Stamford Hotel, 2701 Summer St., Stamford. For information call Linda A. Bardes, Director, (203) 975-5267.
Information pack available

From 3 :30 - 6:30 p.m.
25 Van Zant Street
For Information and an Appointment
Please ca/1855-7979 or 854-7779

NO WALK-INS
(to ensure anonymity and confidentiality)
Counselor Karen Gorman, MSW
(Family Therapist)

Massage Uonnection

PAUL D. SCHNEIDER
Attorney at Law
PO Box 451
Souhtport, CT 06490-0451
203/255-5520
Adoption
Child Custody Divorce
Partnership Agreements

Our Families Matter

THRESHOLD
MORTGAGE COMPANY

• Specializing in professional Swedish
massage
• By appointment only - Day or evening
• Student discounts available
• Home visits available

1-800-611-0641
Office located in the New Haven area

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PATRICK WINTERS
LOAN OFFICER
THRESHOLD MORTGAGE
COMPANY
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59 W!LTON ROAD
WESTPORT, CT 06880
OFFICE (203) 454-0525
TOLL FREE {800) 562-5577
FAX (203) 454-0069
HOME (203) 256-5951
EMAIL pkw@thresholdmtg .com

• Specializing in residential home mortgages in Fairfield County
• Capable or handling all loan scenario's from a$60,000 condo in
Stamford to a$1,000,000 home in Greenwich
• Consistent top producing loan officer for over ten years with a
w1ialth of knowledgti and experience
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companJbarin!f dosed orer JI15, ODO, ODO in loans in f?ail'lif1fdf!oun(y
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(203j 256-4565
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(800) 628-7209
FAX: (203) 256-1759

362 NORTH STREET
MILFORD, CT 06460
PH.: 878-1779 HM.: 874-1918

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FAX: 878-2204

VICE PRESIDENT INVESTMENTS

INSURANCE:
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REALTOR:
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Tel : 730-1400 • Fax: 798-9611

MARYY.LENNEY,MSW,CADC
Individual / Couples / Group
Turning Points
387 Danbury Rd.
Wilton, CT 06897

(203) 834-2846

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Individuals, Couples, and Families
7-11 South Broadway, Suite 400
White Plains, NY 10601
(203) 372-9799
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1169 Sylvan Avenue
Bridgeport, CT 06606
(203) 372-9799
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ATTORNEY AT LAW

(203) 227-9585

WESTPORT, CT
ADMITTED IN CT AND NY

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Maria C. Castillo, MSW, LCSW

GAY MEN'S GROUP
NOW FORMING

Individual, Couples, and Family Therapy
Recovery from Abuse

Bilingual

• Self Esteem
• Coming Out

(203) 261-3492
Monroe, CT

(203) 336-2708
Bridgeport, CT

• Dating and Relationships
• Building Community

ALDIS

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(203)778•9399

SAUGATUCK COUNSELING CENTER
225 MAIN STREET, LL-1
WESTPORT, CT 06880

FAX (203)744• 1139

PHONE

203/454-1549

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49 Coolidge Avenue

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1305 POST ROAD, FAIRFIELD
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Tax Strategy & Preparation • Real Estate
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270Alden Avenue, New Haven, CT06515-2114

Fax 20J / 387-9899

Voice 20J I 389-8614

WHERE ARE WE? The Triangle Community Center Inc. is located at 25 Van Zant Street in Norwalk.
From 1-95, take Exit 16 and go south (from Stamford, turn right; from New Haven, turn left). Continue
south under the railroad bridge and turn right on Van Zant St. (Route 136). 25 Van Zant is a large
condominium office building on the right. TCC is in Suite 7-C on the ground floor, Tel. (203) 853-0600.
April 1997

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Calendar

April, 1997

Sun
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Tues

Mon
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Easter
Women's Rap 7:30
M9-10am
OutSpoken 4-6
Bloodroot beer, wine, juice
etc 5-7:30
16
17
M 9-10 am
Women's Rap 7:30
Whoop brunch
OutSpoken 4-6
Sunday at Center
Business expo NYC
IJ
14
M 9-10 am
Women's Rap 7:30
OutSpoken 4-6
Casino Bus Trip to
Mohegan Sun leaves TCC
10:30
ILV
121
M9-10am
Women's Rap 7:30
OutSpoken 4-6

127
M9-10am
OutSpoken 4-6

Ila

14
M9-IO am
OutSpoken 4-6
Sunday at Center

15
Women's Rap 7:30

Wed

Fri

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Sat

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40+ Women 7-9
Bowling 8:30
Circle Lanes

Men's Rap 7:30

P-FLAG7:45

Oral History 7:30

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HIV couns 3:30-6:30

Bi Rap Grp 7:30
TCC Board 7:30

Men's Rap 7:30

15
HIV couns 3:30-6:30
Fundraisin!ifSpec Events
Comm 7:30

Business expo NYC
Deadline for casino trip
reservations

ILL

HIV couns 3:30-6:30
Passover begins

HIV couns 3:30-6:30
Passover ends

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mv couns 3:30-6:30

16

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Out & About 6:30-8
Bowling 8:30
Circle Lanes

117
Mens' Rap 7:30
P-FLAG Spouses & Exspouses 7:30

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40+ Women 7-9
Bowling 8:30
Circle Lanes

123
Bi Rap Grp 7:30
TCC Board 7:30

124
Men's Rap 7:30

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Men's Rap 7:30

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Men's Rap 7:30
Oral History 7 :30

Lesbian Lit Grp 7 :30

DIRECTORY

GROUPS MEETING AT OR SPONSORED BY TCC
A.A. - Don 762-9964
Bi Rap Group - Peter 838-2806;Robin 358-8391
Connecticut Business Guild - 225-6464
40+ Womens Group - Judy 227-5566
Free Association of Fairfield County - John 268-8858 x304
Gay Men's Rap Group - Dave 838-1881; John 926-8971
Gmosaic (People of Color) - not currently active call TCC 853-0600
Lesbian Literature Reading Group - Michele, 316-0333
Out & About (Gen.X Group) - Jen 736-6417 or Dan 838-2367
Outspoken (Youth) - Barb 259-8171; Dan 227-1755;
Doug 838-2367
Political Action Group - Michele, 438-4465; Charlie, 226-8652
P-FLAG (Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians & Gays) Joan 544-8724; Lester 322-5380; Belinda 855-1203
P-FLAG Spouses & Ex Spouses Group - Joan 544-8724
Triangle Bowling League (Circle Lanes, Fairfield) - Lisa 3333113; Roseann 931-8789
Women's Rap Group - Linda 866-4598; Charlie 226-8652
All meetings are held at the Center and in the evening unless
otherwise noted. A $3 donation per person is appreciated with
your participation in activities to help support the Center.

April 1997

Thu

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Women's Rap 7:30

TELEPHONE

Apr l
HIV couns 3:30-6:30
Lesbian Lit Grp 7:30

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Bowling 8:30
Circle Lanes
Women's Chorus,
Southport 8pm

4o+ Women 7-9
Bowling 8:30
Circle Lanes
Women's Chorus, New
Haven8pm

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It's Elementary, Hartford
N&V deadline

19
TCC Friendraiser, Bob's in
Norwalk

126
Women's Chorus, New
Haven 8pm

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Women's Chorus, Hartford
8pm

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Out & About 6:30-8
Bowling 8:30
Circle Lanes

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News & Vliews

Vol.8, No.4
April 1997

MANY HEARTS • • •

ONE COMMUNITY

WHATS HAPPENING IN APRIL

MAY

&

JUNE

SAT, MAR 29 CT Gay Men's Chorus presents"Out!, the Whole Story." 8 pm, Shubert Theater, New Haven.
SUN, MAR 30 Bloodroot 20th anniversary beer, wine, cheese and juice tasting, 85 Ferris, Bridgeport. 5-7:30.
$5. (203) 576-9168.
SAT, APR 5

and Sun, Apr 6. 4th Annual Gay & Lesbian Business Expo, New York Coliseum, Columbus
Circle, NYC. 11-6 Sat, 12-6 Sun. Food, performances, shopping.

SUN, APR 6

Sunday at the Center, Clean the Office, 2-5 pm.

SUN, APR 6

Whoop Dee Doo Appreciation Brunch for volunteers and cast, Trumbull. See TCC News.

SAT, APR 12 CT Premiere of"lt's Elementary" about gay issues in school, sponsored by GLSTN, Trinity
College, Hartford, 1:30 pm. See FYI for details. (860) 289-45766.
SUN, APR 13 Casino Bus Trip to Mohegan Sun Casino, Uncasville CT. Leave TCC 10 am. $25 members,
$30 non members. Limited seating, so book reservations by Apr 5. (203) 261-4661.
FRI, APR 18 Hartford Stage Fundraiser, "Gershwin at the Goodwin". See FYI.
SAT, APR 19 TCC Friend raiser, at the home of Bob Scrofarii in Norwalk, 6-9 pm. See article for directions.
FRI, APR 25 Another Octave, the Connecticut Women's Chorus presents Music in My Mother's House,
Pequot Library Southport 8pm. Tickets $IO advance, $12 door, $7 seniors and children. Info
(203) 772-0639. See flyer.
SAT, APR 26 Another Octave, the Connecticut Women's Chorus presents Music in My Mother's House,
Church of St Paul & St James, New Haven, 8 pm, (203) 772-0639.
WED, APR 30 "Ellen Morgan" comes out, at long last, ABC-TV.
FRI, MAY 2

Another Octave, the Connecticut Women's Chorus presents Music in My Mother's House,
Unitarian Society of New Haven, Hamden, 8pm.

SAT, MAY 3 Another Octave, the Connecticut Women's Chorus presents Music in My Mothers House,
Community Center, Hartford, 8pm.
SUN, MAY 4 Sunday at the Center, 4-6 pm. Salad Potluck.
SAT, MAY 31 CT Gay Men's Chorus reprises The Hat Ball, the "Prom Night of your Dreams ... with fifty
fabulous men and their eighty-three dancing feet." 8:30, Oakdale Theatre, Wallingford. Info
1-800-644-CGMC.
SAT, JUNE 21 TCC Pride Friendraiser and Back-yard Barbecue-at Meg & Justine's home in Stratford,
3-6 pm. Save the date!

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Bus

SAT, JUNE 21 Connecticut Pride in Hartford. Watch for more info.

TRIP

VISIT THE MOHEGAN
SUN APRIL

SUN, JUNE 29Annual New York City Pride Parade. Watch for more info.

For the latest update on What's Happening in the area check our TCC home page on the internet.

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Oh no! Tax time again! Don't you wish you had 'found'
money to pay those taxes? Do you feel lucky? Well, maybe
we have the answer - a bus trip on April 13 to the
Mohegan Sun Casino Resort in Uncasville, CT.
Triangle Community Center Fund Raising Committee is
sponsoring this trip on a Fitzgerald Coach chartered
exclusively for the TCC and the New Haven Community
Center.
The coach will leave from TCC, 25 Van Zant Street in
Norwalk at 10 am headed for the Mohegan Sun. We will
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provide a light snack and sodas and show an appropriately
themed video! Alcoholic beverages are permitted on the
bus if you bring your own, but no glass bottles are allowed.
Once at the casino, there are over 10 restaurants to choose
from, live entertainment, bingo, and six hours of gambling! We will depart from the casino around 6 pm.
The price is $25 for members and $30 for non-members.
There is limited seating for 47 people, so book early. Call
(203) 261-4661 for reservations or further information.
The cutoff date for reservations is April 5, 1997. - RB
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LETTERS AND E-MAIL

WE SHOULD TREAT EACH OTHER

GAY ADVICE FROM DEAR OLD AUNTIE EM!
Hello! Come in dear. Come and visit with your dear sweet old Auntie Em. Come
tell me what's on your mind. I've seen a lot in my time, and I've got some good advice
for you. Believe me, this old gal has seen it all. So why don't you pull up a chair while
I pour myself a brandy. There now, just tell me what's on your mind, and don't be
shy. I love to dish the dirt with you boyz, it adds a bit of spice to an old lady's life.
I've only been on-line a short time, but I already consider myself the cyber advice
queen like, now what was that Abby girl's advice column? Please stop by and visit
my web site, Ask Auntie Em, at the address http://members.aol.com/ecbbsl/auntem
- and drop me an e-mail. I'll be looking forward to hearing from you! [ (Editor's note:
"Auntie Em"'s website is maintained by the Emerald City Bulletin Board Service.]

LIKE GOLD
by Mike Collins

We should treat each other like gold.
We homosexuals should treat each other like gold.
I have mentioned this to many friends in the gay and lesbian
community.
I am flattered that John Allen, founding president of the
New Haven Gay and Lesbian Community Center, regularly quotes me on this, and that Roger Hooverman, N&V
editor, asked that a piece be done. Chris Bull, author of
Perfect Enemies (the fight between the Christian Coalition
and gays) also strongly agrees.
As Andrew Stone, former member ofTCC's OutSpoken
and now a student at NYU, once told me - and he
articulated it well - members of every other minority
group who are persecuted by the bullies can at least find
peace and support at home.
If you are a member of a religious group or ethnic group,
at least your parents and family will hug you and give you
affection when you get home.
But not gays, in some cases.
In some cases, the parents and family will torment you even
worse than the schoolyard bullies.
So, I ask, why is it a good idea for some in our community
to not treat others "like gold", and, be what one gay
acquaintance from Tennessee termed them, "attitude
queens"?
Sometimes you'll even see it in newspaper personal ads: "no
fems."
Or at a social gathering, the atmosphere will be ice cold.
I have found so many wonderful and loving people in the
gay community over the past quarter century, and I love the
gay community and lesbian community.
But it seems some in the gay community buy into the rightwing agenda ofstupidity, arrogance, negative competitiveness, and attitude, along with selfishness.
Why is it a good idea to impose this on members of our own
community, who are already being persecuted by society in
general, and in some cases, by their own families?
We should treat each other like gold.
We should recall the attitude of the "counter-culture" days
as Newt Gingrich calls them, when the ethic was
"Everybody's your brother/sister" and Stephen Stills sang,
"Love the one you're with."
We should reject the superiority and attitude values that
flooded back into society with the Reagan Revolution,
along with the Reaganite attitude of total selfishness.
The right's so-called "family values" ethic is: "My family,
and screw the rest ofthe world." These so-called Christians
might refer to scripture, and to Jesus, who never says
anything about homosexuals, but does say the GREATEST commandment is to love God and to love your
neighbor as yourself. Not just your family.
No one is perfect and certainly I have many faults and have
disappointed many people over the years.
But it should at least be our ethic, or "agenda," to drive to
reject the mean-spiritedness and total selfishness and negative competitiveness of the extreme right.
We should treat each other like gold.
April 1997

READER IS NOT THINKING IRRATIONALLY AFTER ALL
I just thought I would let you know that as I read through all the editorial responses
and messages to those, you say all that I would. This is having a calming effect as it
proves that I am not thinking irrationally. Politics can upset me ...
-Stianna
RESEARCH ON DOMESTIC PARTNER BENEFITS
I am researching the issue of Domestic Partner benefits and I was wondering if you
could put a question out to all those on your distribution list. I would like to know
of all companies with employees in Connecticut that offer Domestic Partner benefits
to their employees. I would also like to know what Domestic Partner benefits are
offered by each of these companies'. Anyone with information related to these 2
questions can E-Mail me at: mmelanso@bcbsct.com
Thank You, Mark Melanson
RESEARCH ON GAY ADOPTIVE COUPLES
I am conducting my dissertation research on gay male adoptive couples. I'm
comparing this group with other gay male couples who choose not to become
parents. I'm contacting your center in hopes of using it as a source for volunteers for
my study. Would it be possible to post a flyer in your facility or perhaps insert an ad
in your newsletter asking for participants? I can provide you with whatever references
you might need to validate who I am and my study including the name and phone
number of my commitee chairperson. Thanks for considering my request.
- Daniel Scott Angel, CIIS ILL Department, 9 Peter Yorke Way, San Francisco,
Caifornia, 94109; 7374l.3205@compuserve.com.
INVITATION TO INTERNET NEWSGROUPS
If you want, you can remind readers that I put out regular e-mail mailings of news
items of interest to CTgays and lesbians. You can invite readers of your newsletter
to e-mail me if they would like to be added to the: (a) marriage list; (b) religion list;
&/or (c) youth issues list.
All I ask is they send their name and which list(s) they are interested in by e-mail to
ctfreedom@aol.com.
Thank you, Thomas Jackson (tcjackson@snet.net)

TRIVIA
by Seggerman

ANSWER TO MARCH

Sorry, Liz, but that crack about Congressman Bob Barr's multitudinous marriages was written by Margaret Carlson in a Time
Magazine essay of September 16. There she acknowledged a
queasiness about same-sex marriage but still was able to comprehend the hypocrisy of one of DOMA's chief sponsors.
OUESTION FOR APRIL

What openly gay commentator on the Jim Lehrer News Hour
recently joked that he should have a bumper sticker reading,
"Assimilation Happens"?

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TCCNEWS
STONE, DELVECCHIO NEW N&VEDITORS
Michele Stone and John DelVecchio will be the new co-editors of our
newsletter, TCC News & v'iews, beginning with the May, 1997 issue.
They replace Roger Hooverman, who is retiring as editor after three years.
Michele Stone, senior editor, has already been ori the News & Views staff
for over a year as advertising manager, a position which she will continue.
Earlier, she had been an editor of Talking Triangles, the now-defunct
newsletter of the CT Coalition for Gay & Lesbian Civil Rights.
John DelVecchio, assistant editor, who recently joined the TCC Board of
Dirctors, also has significant newsletter experience. He is Editor (Direttore
Responsabile) of Attenzione, the monthly newsletter of the greater Bridgeport area's Italian-American community. John's principal responsibility
will be garnering information from outside sources and overall coordination of the TCC communications effort. Michele, the computer maven of
the team, will be in charge of compiling and editing materials into the
finished newsletter.

Contributions to the N&Vmay be now be sent to

Michele Stone, Editor
PO Box 8185
Stamford CT 06905
Voice Phone (203) 316-0333
Fax (203) 964-1133
e-mail NewsViews2@aol.com.
HIV CouNSELINGITEsTING CONTINUES AT TCC
The Norwalk Health Department, in partnership with the TCC, is offering
a program of counseling and HIV testing at the Center. The counselor,
Karen Gorman, will be available at the Center, 25 Van Zant St., every
Tuesday from 3:30 to 6:30 pm for walk-in counseling. HIV testing will
also be available by appointment. For more information, or to make an
appointment for testing, please call 854-7979 or 854-7779.
SUNDAY AT THE CENTER SWINGS IN TO SPRING
On the first Sunday in April we'll do "Spring Cleaning'' and get the office
cleaned up. There is so much stuff under the table that the typewriter can't
be used to type up membership cards and the fax machine is blocked. If you
can't make it but think you may have stuff that you want to save, please call
Marianne at 222-8294 prior to April 5. Work will begin at 2 and go on until
5 or so.
On the first Sunday in May, "Salad Days Are Here Again." Sunday at the
Center is holding a Salad Potluck on May 4 at 4 pm. Bring a flower or two
for a communal decoration. A vase and sodas will be provided.
THE OA1<s ON You
For its May6 meeting, the Lesbian Literature Group has chosen ''Trees Call
for What They Need," by Melissa Kwasny. Thanks to Justine Michaud for
supplying the following synopsis of the book.
"Trees Call for What They Need," published by Spinsters Ink, is a beautiful
new novel with a warm regional flavor. It is the story of three women born
at the turn of the century and their lives in the Town of Pines: Nettie, a
woolen mill worker and tenant farmer; Aunt Till, a Spiritualist medium and
lesbian; and Marie, a Polish immigrant who owns the Poletown bar. It is
the story of their friendship and their exchange of pain and remedies as the
novel chronicles the changing of their lives with the changing of their land
near the Big Lakes. It is a lyrical remembrance oflife, both past and present,
narrated to us in Nettie's own inimitable voice. It is a novel about family and
belonging, farming and caring for the land, the roots you put down and
leave behind you. It's about love, caring, healing, and friendship. It is the
story of one woman's life, and how she made a difference without even
trying.
The group meets at the Center the first Tuesday ofevery month at 7: 30 pm.
Copies of"T rees" can be found in your local library or bookstore, or ordered
from Bloodroot (203) 576-9168. For more information please call Gwen
(203) 316-0333.

April 1997

WHooP-DEE-Doo! FoLLOWUP
WHooP-DEE•Doo:

THE Mov1E!

Watch your local Resource Room for the new addition of a video
copy of our Whoop-Dee-Dool show. Relive the music, fun and
costumes of your favorite musical. Watch this video of the final
performance ofTCC's production ofWhoop-Dee-Doo!
WHooP-DEE-Doo:

THE PERPETUAL PARTY!

Following up several cast parties and a recent screening of the new
Whoop-Dee-Dool video, there is to be yet another associated getAll Whoop-Dee-Doo! volunteers are invited to an
together.
appreciation brunch Sunday, April 6, "noonish". Peter and Russ are
graciously hosting the event at their Trumbull home. Call 203-2614661 to RSVP and obtain directions.
WHOOP-DEE-Doo:

THE FINANCIAL UPDATE!

Last, but not least, is a report of the finances for the Whoop-DeeDool theater fund raiser held in January. TCC's Finance Committee
has reported a net income from the project of $17,703.90. These
proceeds include income from all sources: corporate and individual
underwriting, ticket sales, raffle, t-shirt and soda sales, and the ad
book/playbill revenue.
Expenses of just over $14,000 were just over budget, due to printing
costs which we had hoped would be donated.
All 1n all, this was an extremely successful project, financially and
otherwise. Profits are being shared with Bread & Roses, Stamford
CARES and Mid-Fairfield AIDS Project.
TCC's share, over $7000, will be used to establish a new TCC
scholarship program. This program was proposed by the Fund
Raising Committee and is now being developed by a special committee organized by the TCC Board of Directors. More information
about the scholarship fund will be announced later.
POLITICAL ACTION GROUP ON A NEW
NIGHT
The Political Action Group has announced a change in its meeting
time from the third Wednesday to the Second Tuesday of each
month, 7:30 at the Center. The group's principal activity is to
generate letters expressing lesbigay viewspoints to political figures.
For information, call Michele, 438-4465 .
TCC GETS A NEW COMPUTER
Thanks to Bread & Roses, the TCC office now has a new - well, a
newer- computer. Now we can perform important recordkeeping
functions, like maintaining our mailing lists and financial records, on
a close-to-state-of-the-art machine.
If you have expertise in MS Access, we could use your help in revising
and upgrading our membership database. Call membership database manager Marianne Seggerman at 222-8294.

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SPLINTERS FROM THE BOARD
[This month 's "Splinters" is shared by the three retiring members of
the TCC Board of Directors}

THANKS TO ALL THE VOLUNTEERS
One thing I can definitely say about this past year is that being President
of TCC's Board of Directors was an exrerience I will never forget!
Many things - the good things - I don t want to forget. I very much
appreciate the fact that you trusted me enough to be the official "voice"
of the Triangle Community Center, and I am grateful to have had a
chance to serve, in a small way, Connecticut's gay/lesbian/bisexual
population in general and the Fairfield County community in particular.
Mostly what I won't forget are PEOPLE: people I've spoken with by
phone; people I've met; people I've worked with; friends I've made. But
first and foremost, PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEERED - who gave
of their time and talents and energy to keep the Center ("Our Center'')
going for six years and will, I hope, for sixty more. The phenomenally
successful "Whoop-De-Doo" benefit demonstrates better than anything what our community can do when lots of volunteers work
together. We need that "Whoop-Dee-Doo" spirit to continue all year,
year after year, not just for-"BIG EVENTS" but also in the hundreds of
"little things" that are necessary for the Center's day-to-day existence.
The Center, in short, needs YOU! ALL OF YOU!!! Young and NotSo-Young; Rich and Not-At-All-Rich; Single and No-Longer-Single;
People of Any and Every Color; Bisexual, Transgendered, Gay and
Lesbian (especially lesbian, for the Center to reach its stated goal of
"gender parity'' -e.qualmembership, e.qual participation, e.qual leadership).
By the time you read this, my term as Board President will have ended.
I want onelast time to thank ALL OF YOU for ALL YOU'VE DONE,
and for giving me the chance to be a part of it.
Respectfully and Sincerely, Tom Mariconda

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FAREWELL TO THE BOARD
When I joined the Board of Directors, the 1993 March on Washington
was fresh in the minds of those of us who attended. Gays and lesbians
had taken a grip on the nation's attention in the unlikely conduit of a
struggle over their presence and visibility in the military. There were
over 400 paid memberships at the Triangle Community Center, and ten
or eleven board members. There was less than two weeks of operating
funds . A move to cheaper space was in order. The present location is
the result of that effort.
I had promised myself, way back in 1989, that when there was an openly
gay Republican in Congress (my equivalent of"when pigs fly''), then I
would put aside gay activism and concentrate on my career, like I'm
supposed to. Well, by the end of 1996 there were two openly gay
Republicans in Congress, and I was still on the Board. As much an
indicator of progress - a mainstay of the local bike club brought her
companion to the annual brunch for the first time last year.
The Center's move back to financial health was started by a summer of
reduced energy bills - the air conditioning broke down, remember?
Unfortunately, as the financial picture improved, the equally necessary
people capital declined, stemmed somewhat last year by a huge mailing.
The energy and numbers of the women is quite high but then as now
fewer women go from being active in the rap group to Center leadership
than do men from the men's rap. Groups have come"(the Bi rap) and
groups have gone (the Mixed rap). The constant is the Resource Room,
and space to use in any way ones imagination takes one.
There is one thing I have not done in the past almost 4 years of
maintaining the Center's membership database: I have not been
constantly making updates to account for members and former members who have died - because hardly any have. Am I callous to be
grateful that in the time when the AIDS epidemic has so hit hard in so
many places, our membership roster counts only two casualties over
those four years, and those happened to be women who died from other
causes.
So what has changed in the past four years, and what is to come?
Certainly there is a lot more public visibility ofCenter and ofthelesbigay
community. A number of our past presidents have been in the closet at
work (to some degree). That is no longer possible. The days when we
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had less than one month's operating expenses in the bank seem to be over,
but so are the days wh~n 35 people could be counted on to show up at
any event.
Looking forward, I foresee that there will be a shift towards a more
working-class sensibility, judging solely from the current make-up of the
Board. Perhaps the crowds will come back (or come to Center for the
first time) when the State of Hawaii starts issuing marriage licenses to
same-sex couples. Ifl have learned anything about the demographics of
the lesbigay community in this area, I have learned it is an overwhelmingly coupled community. Even many of our "Contributing" members
are in fact one half of a poor, cheap or closeted pair. I predict that many
of these couples (those that have never been in the Center) already know
the Triangle Community Center exists and will turn to it for advice and
support when they try to get their marriages recognized. I'll probably
still be doing membership then.
- Ma~ianne G. C. Seggerman
LIFE GOES ON
Long ago, ina universe faraway, when it finally dawned onme that I was
gay, one of the first things I did (after sex) was seek out the local Gay
Community Center. That was in Albany, New York, over 20 years ago,
so long ago that the name of the organization did not have the word
"lesbian" in it yet. I owe a lot to that Center - because through it I
learned that being gay was more than sex; it was being part of a
community of oppressed, liberated, foolish, brave, dysfunctional, lifegiving, crazy, wonderful women and men who from that time on were
my family.
I was a part of that Center in Albany for ten years before I moved to
Connecticut, and during that time I saw it go through one crisis after
another. There wasn't enough money to pay the bills. There weren't
enough volunteers to operate the organization. Yet, every time that
Center was about to close its doors, new people would show up out of
nowhere; with the enthusiasm and involvement to make the old Center
climb out of the grave and hum again. They are still going strong today.
That's why I am not worried about the future of our Triangle Community Center either. I know from experience that crisis is what makes our
Community, and our Centers, strong. A few years ago the TCC had a
financial crisis, and people who needed the Center and wanted it to
survive came forward, and today we operate with a comfortable reserve
in the bank. Two months ago, I was afraid that no one would be here
to continue News & Views after I left; and now we have not one but two
able editors to carry on and, yes, improve on what has gone before.
At present, the TCC in general and the Board of Directors in particular
are feeling a severe crisis because there are too few people willing and able
to take on the job of running the Center. Our new Board is starting out
with only five members - four men and one woman, barely enough to
maintain the legal requirement of four officers of the corporation.
Yet our membership numbers remain healthy, and scores ofpeople come
through the Center every week for rap groups and other events.
There are a lot of you members out there who take the Center for granted
- not to mention others who make regulasr use of the Center, but refuse
to support it with a membership. You use it, you need it, your lives would
be poorer without it. Or, even if you don't need it for yourselves, you
realize how valuable it is as a positive presence in the community, as a safe
place for our youth, and a source ofsupport for those just coming out and
for their families. I trust that any day now it will dawn on a number of
you that the Triangle Community Center is about to disappear out from
under you because there is no one left to run it.
Then we will see volunteers coming out of the woodwork, with a rebirth
of enthusiasm and dedication that will fill the board room with new faces,
new ideas, and a new life for our community. That's the nature of a
volunteer organization like ours. It's cyclic. It lives from one crisis to
another. But as long as there is a need for places like the Triangle
Community Center in Norwalk, like the Centers. _in New Haven and
Hartford and White Plains and Albany and scores of other cities, those
Centers will not, can not be allowed to die.
Let the last word from the retiring Board be this above all: Your Center
Needs YOU, NOW! VOLUNTEER!!
- Roger Hooverman

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ELEMENTARY

The Connecticut chapter of the Gay, Lesbian Strait Teacher's
Network (GLSTN) invites you to see and discuss "It's Elementary," a film for educators and parents talking about gay issues
at school.
This 78-minute documentary makes a compelling case that
children should be taught to respect all people, including
lesbians and gay men, as part of their early education. At its heart
is incredibly inspiring footage of elementary and middle school
classrooms where teachers are finding age-appropriate, creative
ways to confront anti-gay prejudice and counter gay invisibility.
"It's Elementary'' demystifies what it means to incorporate
information about gay people into early education, and inspires
teachers and administrators to take the next steps at their own
schools.
Rather than focusing on the political debate or the impediments
to dealing with gay issues in the classroom, the fillm is am
inspiring look at what can be done.
Faith Middleton, author of The Goodness ofOrdinary People
and Co1mecticut Public Radio and Television interviewer, will
be hosting the event and moderating a discussion following the
film .
Connecticut premiere of "It's Elementary'' will be Saturday,
April 12, 1: 30 pm at Cinestudio, Trinity College, Hartford CT.
It is sponsored by the Trinity College Women's Center, Children from the Shadows, the CT Education Association, Safe
and Affirming Network ofEducators, Metroline. And PFLAG.
A reception for sponsors will follow.
For information or tickets, call (860) 289-4576.

A GUIDELINE REMINDER
The Gay and Lesbian GuideLine offers information, referrals
and support. If you want to find a gay-friendly doctor, lawyer
or therapist in your town, we have the latest listings. If you're
new to Connecticut and where to know where to meet people,
give us a call. Or if you just need to talk to someone who
understands, we are here for you. Call us most weeknights at
(203) 366-3734.

NEW HAVEN "COURSE IN MIRACLES"
STUDY GROUP
Miracles Mondays, A Course In Miracles® study group, is
changing its' start time to 8 pm beginning in April 7th, 1997.
The group meets at the New Haven Gay&Lesbian Community
Center, One Long Wharf Plaza. The change in time will help the
New Haven Gay & Lesbian Community Center to provide even
more programs and services to the New Haven Community.
Anyone interested in joining the group should contact Casey
Roberts at (203) 230-2050 or Rev. Alexander R. Garbera at
(203 ) 937-8085 . The group is open to all persons. There are
no dues or fees for membership for the Miracles Mondays
group. Donations will help support use of the space.
A long time student of A Course In Miracles, Rev. Alexander
Garbera stated that "even though I have been through the text
and workbook several times, there is always something new to
learn and experience through it. It is an unfolding process, and
has been an instrumental part of my own healing journey." Rev.
Garbera is an Interfaith Minister and graduated from The New
Seminary.
Rev. Garbera also went on to say that "from the very first
meeting in February, the group was positively electric! When
leaving by the elevator, some other individuals came from a
different part of the building, noticed our enthusiasm, and asked
'where did you people just come from?' to which we replied .. 'we
were just exploring the mysteries of the Universe.' The onlookers, tired from working late, smiled and said 'that explains it."'
April 1997

GERSHWIN FUNDRAISER IN HARTFORD
On Friday, April 18, Hartford's Goodwin Hotel will be transformed into an Art
Deco paradise for "Gerschwin at the Goodwin," a fundraiser for the many
educational programs of the Hartford Stage Companay. A raffle-type auction 1s
planned, along with lots of live entertainment. There willbe performances by
panist Paul Biscaccia, jazz singer Dianne Mower, guitarist Norman Johnson, and
the Connecticut Gay Men's Chorus, accompanied by special ~uest Harvey
Fierstein. Tickets for the program, which runs from 8 pm to midnight at the
Goodwin Hotel. Prices are $75 for atrium tickets and $100 for salon tickets . For
tickets or more info call Anne Dyjak, (860) 525-5601.

SCHOLARSHIP AVAILABLE FoR GAY, LESBIAN,
BISEXUAL, TRANSGENDERED YouTH
As part of its on-going support for Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual an_d Transgendered
Youth, the Gay Lesbian Student Teacher Network/ConnectICut (GLSTN) 1s
offering a $500 scholarship to recognize such students, support continuing
education and foster a positive image of GLBT students in the school and
community.
The $500 award will go to a student who is a self-identified gay, lesbian, bisexual
youth who is between the ages ofl6 and 21 as of May 1, 1997 and planning to
attend a post-secondary education institution during the next year. Applicants
must be residents of Connecticut, and prior recipients are not eligible. All
application materials must be received by April 15, 1997.
This is the second year GLSTN Connecticut has offered such a scholarship. Last
year's winner was Carl Sciortinq, Jr. of Milford, who attends Tufts U111vers1ty.
Applications have been sent to guidances offices in all of the state's public and
private high schools. Applications are also available by mail. Write to: Ronnie
Kim, Robertson School, 227 Cross St., Coventry, CT 06238.
SHAYS AGREES TO BE PRINCIPAL ENDA SPONSOR
U .S. Rep. Christopher Shays (R-Conn.) has agreed to become the principal
Republican co-sponsor of the Employment Non-Discrimination Act (ENDA),
marking the first time a House Republican has taken the lead in sponsoring the
measure.
Shays's office disclosed his new role in backing ENDA less than a week after Sen.
Alfonse D'Amato (R-N .Y.) told leaders of the Human Rights Campaign, a
national Gay political group, that he will become a co-sponsor of ENDA in the
Senate.
ENDA calls for amending the U .S. civil rights code to prohibit employment
discrimination based solely on a person's sexual orientation. The bill covers both
private sector and civilian government employment.
Shays's spokesperson Seth Amgott said Shays will join openly Gay Rep . Barney
Frank (D-Mass.), ENDA's chief Democratic sponsor in the House, and HRC
in recruiting other House members to sign on as ENDA co-sponsors. HRC
Legislative Director Wi1mie Stachelberg said HRC expects "considerably more"
House members to sign on as ENDA co-sponsors in this year's 105th Congress
than the 139 who became co-sponsors in last year's 104th Congress. Amgott said
Shays and Frank are expected to reintroduce ENDA sometime next month.
"ENDA is based on a fundamental American idea," Shays said in a statement
released by his office. "Americans should be judged at work based on their
performance at work. I am proud to belead Republican sponsor of this common
sense legislation."
- Lou Chibbaro Jr., Washington Blade, via the internet.

P-FLAG SCHEDULE OF MEETINGS AT

TCC

"Big" Monthly Meeting: Every 1st Wednesday, 7:45
Spouses and Ex Spouses group: Every 3rd Thursday, 7 :30

Deadline for the May News & Views is Saturday,
April 12. Material received after this date will not be
included in the May newsletter.

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EDITOR's DESK

WORTH REPEATING

••• AND MAKE OUR GARDEN GROW
It is with great joy and satisfaction that, after three years as editor, I put
this, my last issue of News & ½ews, to bed and turn the newsletter over
to our new Editors: Michele Stone and John DelVecchio.
I am confident that this team will continue to maintain the TCC News
& ½ewsat the high level of excellence that Connie Cash, Martin Ulmer
and I have striven for since its first issue, over seven years ago. In fact,
I expect they will make it even better.
For one last time, I would like to express my heartfelt thanks to the many
people who have helped me produce News & ½ews over the past three
years: To our many regular contributors, especially Marianne Seggerman
and Michael Collins, who have provided news and opinion with
dedication and wit. To David Dey, whose artistic talents have given the
' layout of our newsletter a professional appearance worthy of a commercial magazine. To Damian Kane and Len Horey and their crew of
stuffers, who have committed themselves to getting the finished product
into the mail and to your doorstep on time month after month, and the
many volunteers who have helped deliver stacks of newsletters to gay
establishments, bookstores and libraries about the community. And, of
course, to my partner, Greg Weingardt, who has faithfully proofread
each and every newsletter before it went to press, and helped bring our
product as close to perfection as possible.
As for myself, I now breathe a great sigh of relief and look forward at last
to a summer where every sunny weekend is mine to enjoy, with no
deadlines and no commitments. I might even get around to some of
those housekeeping chores that have been piling up for the last three
years, like cleaning out the closet...
I'll keep my hand in to a limited amount, of course, maintaining the TCC
web page and contributing occasionally to the local papers and lesbigay
news groups on the net. And I've promised Michelle I will continue to
provide occasional articles for N& V, though I won't commit myself to
contributing something every issue.
After twenty years of on-and-off gay activism, I feel I am ready for a
period of relative rest and retirement - at least for a while. The image
that comes to my mind is the closing chorus of Leonard Bernstein's
Candide. There the principals, after trying and failing in one adventure
after another to make this the best ofall possible worlds, finally step back
and decide they will be satisfied simply to do the best they know -to
"build our house, and chop our wood, and make our garden grow."
See you on the beach.
- Roger Hooverman.
OTHER AREA GROUPS AND
ORGANIZATIONS
Bare & Gay (B&G) gay nudists
Bisexually Curious Support Group Bpt
Chiltern Mountain Club
Connecticut Kids and Families
Connecticut Freedom to Marry Coalition
40-Up Club.(Social Grp.-call Dale before 10pm)
Gay Fathers Group
Gay Mens Association of Danbury
GEMS (Mature GLBT)
Guideline (gay/lesbian phone info)
Hartford Community Center
Married Men's Bisexual Suppt Grp Htfd
Metropolitan Community Church
The Loft, White Plains NY,
Triangle Bowling League
Triangle Kids
Western Connecticut Gay Men's Group

Lush green forests everywhere
And really, really incredible hair
That's Gay Heaven
Judy Garland at the Emerald Gate
and whoop-dee-doo
It's ten percent straight
That's· Gay Heaven
Endless beaches where turquoise waters
Kiss the cool pink sand
Soft sea breezes and rock hard bodies
Perfectly, evenly, perpetually tanned
Laughing at earthly mediocrities
Brunching with Tchaikovsky
Dancing with Socrates
That's Gay Heaven
Jesse Helms all butch and sweaty
And Pat Buchanan's nicknamed "Betty"
That's ( Frederick's of Hollywood) Gay Heaven
Hunky waiters and flirty bellmen
Look! in the strapless It's Cardinal Spellman
That's (Eleanor Roosevelt) Gay Heaven
Sexy slow tunes and swanky show tunes
Swing for ever more
One part leather and one part feather
Two parts Eva and Zsa Zsa Gabor
Noel Coward at the eighty-eights
In fact, it's just like Provincetown
without the straights
In James Dean, Jodie Foster
Rock Hudson, Hillary Clinton
Heaven, Heaven, Heaven
Gay Heaven!

Contributors to this issue:
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261-4019
866- 7051
778- 7016
688-1881
366-3734
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262-1555
389-6750
948-4922
931-8789
255-6229
323-6278
773-9947

We're glad to list your non-profit ·gay/lesbian/bi/cg group free of
charge. Call (203) 849-1508. Please keep us informed of changes.

April 1997

GAY HEAVEN
· From the CT Gay Men's Chorus' World Premiere of "Out! - The
Whole Story," first performed in New Haven March, 1997. Lyrics
b Win.ston Clark Music Director.

Russ Bain. CT Gay Men's Chorus, Mike Collins, Thomas
Jackson. Tom Mariconda. Peter McKnight. Justine
Michaud. Micharl Pavlicin, Bob Scrofani, Marianne
Seggerman. Stianna. Michele Stone. Michele Tesbir.

Horticultural Botanist
Gardener & House I Pet Sitter
Donald J. Comes
(203) 866-2823

30 7lerney Street
Norwal,k, CT 06851

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Effective April 7, 1 997,

Nicholas Lang, MS, NCC
is delighted to announce
his ability to provide

Counseling
and
Psychotherapy Services
at 387 Danbury Road (Route 7), Wilton.
His practice includes specializations in
sexual orientation, loss,
relationship, and HIV-related issues.

Telephone: 761-8825
This new location is in addition
to his New Haven office.

TRIANGLE COMMUNITY CENTER, INC.
P.O.BOX 4062, East Norwalk, CT 06855
Tel/Fax: (203) 853-0600
e-mail TCCenter@aol.com
EXECUTIVE COMMITTEE
TOM MARI CONDA ....................... President
MARIANNE SEGGERMAN .......... Vice-President
BARB SCHADE ................... .. ... ...... Treasurer
DON BUXTON .......... ....... ........ ..... . Corresponding Secretary
DAVE CARROLL ........................... Acting Recording Sec'y
BOARD OF DIRECTORS
LEN HOREY
DON BUXTON
TOM MARICONDA
DAYID CARROLL
BARB SCHADE
JOHN DEL VECCHIO
MARIANNE SEGGERMAN
ROGER HOOVERMAN
STANDING COMMITTEES
AIDS Liaison
Tom M
Board Development
Tom M
Communications
Roger H
-Public Relations
Mike C
Finance
Doug N
Fundraising/Sp Events
Michael P
Membership
Vacant
-Member Database
Marianne S
Operations
Cindy M
(and to schedule events at the Center)
Program
Dave C
-Resource Room
Walter D
--Center Forums
Dave C
Volunteer
Meg B & Justine M

374-6934
374-6934
849-1508
375-3567
838-2367
866-6993
222-8294
595-9799
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Is published monthly by
Triangle Community Center, Inc.
P.O. Box 4062, East Norwalk, CT 06855.
NEWS & VIEWS encourages its readers to submit materials of interest
to our community, including short articles, letters to the editor, etc. We
cannot respond to, or publish, anonymous letters. We reserve the right
to edit or condense as appropriate to meet space requirements. Authors
will be contacted if major revisions are necessary. Please submit to :

NEWS&VIEWS
Michele Stone: Editor
P.O. Box 8185
Stamford, CT 06905
Phone 316-0333 Fax 964-1133
e-mail: NewsViews2@aol.com

John Delvecchio: Asst Editor
Phone: 203-334-3822
Mike Collins: Publicity
Phone: 203-375-3567

FOR ADVERTISING RATES CONTACT MICHELE STONE:
Ads must be camera-ready. If your ad is not camera
ready or you need help with its layout or design,
contact Michele Stone BEFORE submission. Inserts
and special sizes upon prior agreement. All ads are
placed on a space available basis.
The publication of the name of any person or organization in articles or
advertisements in NEWS & VIEWS is not to be construed as any indication of
the sexual orientation of such persons or members of such organizations.
The appearance of advertisements in NEWS & VIEWS does not imply nor
constitute endorsement by TCC,Inc.
The views expressed in "Point of View" and "Gaily Forward" are not necessarily those ofTCC, Inc.
Copyright 1997 by Triangle Community Center, Inc. All rights reserved. This
work, or any parts thereof, may not beused or reproduced in any manner without
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The Norwalk Health Department
In cooperation with

~nnouncement

Triangle Community Center
Proudly Announces
HIV Counseling & Testing Services
Commencing:
February 11, 1997

STAMFORD RELIGIOUS SCIENCE CENTER
FOR DYNAMIC LIVING
Sunday Experience 1st and 3rd Sundays, 11 :00 am Tara
Stamford Hotel, 2701 Summer St., Stamford. For information call Linda A. Bardes, Director, (203) 975-5267.
Information pack available

From 3 :30 - 6:30 p.m.
25 Van Zant Street
For Information and an Appointment
Please ca/1855-7979 or 854-7779

NO WALK-INS
(to ensure anonymity and confidentiality)
Counselor Karen Gorman, MSW
(Family Therapist)

Massage Uonnection

PAUL D. SCHNEIDER
Attorney at Law
PO Box 451
Souhtport, CT 06490-0451
203/255-5520
Adoption
Child Custody Divorce
Partnership Agreements

Our Families Matter

THRESHOLD
MORTGAGE COMPANY

• Specializing in professional Swedish
massage
• By appointment only - Day or evening
• Student discounts available
• Home visits available

1-800-611-0641
Office located in the New Haven area

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LOAN OFFICER
THRESHOLD MORTGAGE
COMPANY
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59 W!LTON ROAD
WESTPORT, CT 06880
OFFICE (203) 454-0525
TOLL FREE {800) 562-5577
FAX (203) 454-0069
HOME (203) 256-5951
EMAIL pkw@thresholdmtg .com

• Specializing in residential home mortgages in Fairfield County
• Capable or handling all loan scenario's from a$60,000 condo in
Stamford to a$1,000,000 home in Greenwich
• Consistent top producing loan officer for over ten years with a
w1ialth of knowledgti and experience
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FAX: (203) 256-1759

362 NORTH STREET
MILFORD, CT 06460
PH.: 878-1779 HM.: 874-1918

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FAX: 878-2204

VICE PRESIDENT INVESTMENTS

INSURANCE:
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Tel : 730-1400 • Fax: 798-9611

MARYY.LENNEY,MSW,CADC
Individual / Couples / Group
Turning Points
387 Danbury Rd.
Wilton, CT 06897

(203) 834-2846

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Individuals, Couples, and Families
7-11 South Broadway, Suite 400
White Plains, NY 10601
(203) 372-9799
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1169 Sylvan Avenue
Bridgeport, CT 06606
(203) 372-9799
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ATTORNEY AT LAW

(203) 227-9585

WESTPORT, CT
ADMITTED IN CT AND NY

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Maria C. Castillo, MSW, LCSW

GAY MEN'S GROUP
NOW FORMING

Individual, Couples, and Family Therapy
Recovery from Abuse

Bilingual

• Self Esteem
• Coming Out

(203) 261-3492
Monroe, CT

(203) 336-2708
Bridgeport, CT

• Dating and Relationships
• Building Community

ALDIS

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(203)778•9399

SAUGATUCK COUNSELING CENTER
225 MAIN STREET, LL-1
WESTPORT, CT 06880

FAX (203)744• 1139

PHONE

203/454-1549

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49 Coolidge Avenue

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Fax 20J / 387-9899

Voice 20J I 389-8614

WHERE ARE WE? The Triangle Community Center Inc. is located at 25 Van Zant Street in Norwalk.
From 1-95, take Exit 16 and go south (from Stamford, turn right; from New Haven, turn left). Continue
south under the railroad bridge and turn right on Van Zant St. (Route 136). 25 Van Zant is a large
condominium office building on the right. TCC is in Suite 7-C on the ground floor, Tel. (203) 853-0600.
April 1997

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Calendar

April, 1997

Sun
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Tues

Mon
.'1

Easter
Women's Rap 7:30
M9-10am
OutSpoken 4-6
Bloodroot beer, wine, juice
etc 5-7:30
16
17
M 9-10 am
Women's Rap 7:30
Whoop brunch
OutSpoken 4-6
Sunday at Center
Business expo NYC
IJ
14
M 9-10 am
Women's Rap 7:30
OutSpoken 4-6
Casino Bus Trip to
Mohegan Sun leaves TCC
10:30
ILV
121
M9-10am
Women's Rap 7:30
OutSpoken 4-6

127
M9-10am
OutSpoken 4-6

Ila

14
M9-IO am
OutSpoken 4-6
Sunday at Center

15
Women's Rap 7:30

Wed

Fri

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Sat

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40+ Women 7-9
Bowling 8:30
Circle Lanes

Men's Rap 7:30

P-FLAG7:45

Oral History 7:30

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HIV couns 3:30-6:30

Bi Rap Grp 7:30
TCC Board 7:30

Men's Rap 7:30

15
HIV couns 3:30-6:30
Fundraisin!ifSpec Events
Comm 7:30

Business expo NYC
Deadline for casino trip
reservations

ILL

HIV couns 3:30-6:30
Passover begins

HIV couns 3:30-6:30
Passover ends

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mv couns 3:30-6:30

16

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Out & About 6:30-8
Bowling 8:30
Circle Lanes

117
Mens' Rap 7:30
P-FLAG Spouses & Exspouses 7:30

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40+ Women 7-9
Bowling 8:30
Circle Lanes

123
Bi Rap Grp 7:30
TCC Board 7:30

124
Men's Rap 7:30

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Men's Rap 7:30

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Men's Rap 7:30
Oral History 7 :30

Lesbian Lit Grp 7 :30

DIRECTORY

GROUPS MEETING AT OR SPONSORED BY TCC
A.A. - Don 762-9964
Bi Rap Group - Peter 838-2806;Robin 358-8391
Connecticut Business Guild - 225-6464
40+ Womens Group - Judy 227-5566
Free Association of Fairfield County - John 268-8858 x304
Gay Men's Rap Group - Dave 838-1881; John 926-8971
Gmosaic (People of Color) - not currently active call TCC 853-0600
Lesbian Literature Reading Group - Michele, 316-0333
Out & About (Gen.X Group) - Jen 736-6417 or Dan 838-2367
Outspoken (Youth) - Barb 259-8171; Dan 227-1755;
Doug 838-2367
Political Action Group - Michele, 438-4465; Charlie, 226-8652
P-FLAG (Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians & Gays) Joan 544-8724; Lester 322-5380; Belinda 855-1203
P-FLAG Spouses & Ex Spouses Group - Joan 544-8724
Triangle Bowling League (Circle Lanes, Fairfield) - Lisa 3333113; Roseann 931-8789
Women's Rap Group - Linda 866-4598; Charlie 226-8652
All meetings are held at the Center and in the evening unless
otherwise noted. A $3 donation per person is appreciated with
your participation in activities to help support the Center.

April 1997

Thu

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Women's Rap 7:30

TELEPHONE

Apr l
HIV couns 3:30-6:30
Lesbian Lit Grp 7:30

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Bowling 8:30
Circle Lanes
Women's Chorus,
Southport 8pm

4o+ Women 7-9
Bowling 8:30
Circle Lanes
Women's Chorus, New
Haven8pm

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It's Elementary, Hartford
N&V deadline

19
TCC Friendraiser, Bob's in
Norwalk

126
Women's Chorus, New
Haven 8pm

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Women's Chorus, Hartford
8pm

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Out & About 6:30-8
Bowling 8:30
Circle Lanes

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News & Vliews

Vol.8, No.4
April 1997

MANY HEARTS • • •

ONE COMMUNITY

WHATS HAPPENING IN APRIL

MAY

&

JUNE

SAT, MAR 29 CT Gay Men's Chorus presents"Out!, the Whole Story." 8 pm, Shubert Theater, New Haven.
SUN, MAR 30 Bloodroot 20th anniversary beer, wine, cheese and juice tasting, 85 Ferris, Bridgeport. 5-7:30.
$5. (203) 576-9168.
SAT, APR 5

and Sun, Apr 6. 4th Annual Gay & Lesbian Business Expo, New York Coliseum, Columbus
Circle, NYC. 11-6 Sat, 12-6 Sun. Food, performances, shopping.

SUN, APR 6

Sunday at the Center, Clean the Office, 2-5 pm.

SUN, APR 6

Whoop Dee Doo Appreciation Brunch for volunteers and cast, Trumbull. See TCC News.

SAT, APR 12 CT Premiere of"lt's Elementary" about gay issues in school, sponsored by GLSTN, Trinity
College, Hartford, 1:30 pm. See FYI for details. (860) 289-45766.
SUN, APR 13 Casino Bus Trip to Mohegan Sun Casino, Uncasville CT. Leave TCC 10 am. $25 members,
$30 non members. Limited seating, so book reservations by Apr 5. (203) 261-4661.
FRI, APR 18 Hartford Stage Fundraiser, "Gershwin at the Goodwin". See FYI.
SAT, APR 19 TCC Friend raiser, at the home of Bob Scrofarii in Norwalk, 6-9 pm. See article for directions.
FRI, APR 25 Another Octave, the Connecticut Women's Chorus presents Music in My Mother's House,
Pequot Library Southport 8pm. Tickets $IO advance, $12 door, $7 seniors and children. Info
(203) 772-0639. See flyer.
SAT, APR 26 Another Octave, the Connecticut Women's Chorus presents Music in My Mother's House,
Church of St Paul & St James, New Haven, 8 pm, (203) 772-0639.
WED, APR 30 "Ellen Morgan" comes out, at long last, ABC-TV.
FRI, MAY 2

Another Octave, the Connecticut Women's Chorus presents Music in My Mother's House,
Unitarian Society of New Haven, Hamden, 8pm.

SAT, MAY 3 Another Octave, the Connecticut Women's Chorus presents Music in My Mothers House,
Community Center, Hartford, 8pm.
SUN, MAY 4 Sunday at the Center, 4-6 pm. Salad Potluck.
SAT, MAY 31 CT Gay Men's Chorus reprises The Hat Ball, the "Prom Night of your Dreams ... with fifty
fabulous men and their eighty-three dancing feet." 8:30, Oakdale Theatre, Wallingford. Info
1-800-644-CGMC.
SAT, JUNE 21 TCC Pride Friendraiser and Back-yard Barbecue-at Meg & Justine's home in Stratford,
3-6 pm. Save the date!

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CASINO

Bus

SAT, JUNE 21 Connecticut Pride in Hartford. Watch for more info.

TRIP

VISIT THE MOHEGAN
SUN APRIL

SUN, JUNE 29Annual New York City Pride Parade. Watch for more info.

For the latest update on What's Happening in the area check our TCC home page on the internet.

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Oh no! Tax time again! Don't you wish you had 'found'
money to pay those taxes? Do you feel lucky? Well, maybe
we have the answer - a bus trip on April 13 to the
Mohegan Sun Casino Resort in Uncasville, CT.
Triangle Community Center Fund Raising Committee is
sponsoring this trip on a Fitzgerald Coach chartered
exclusively for the TCC and the New Haven Community
Center.
The coach will leave from TCC, 25 Van Zant Street in
Norwalk at 10 am headed for the Mohegan Sun. We will
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provide a light snack and sodas and show an appropriately
themed video! Alcoholic beverages are permitted on the
bus if you bring your own, but no glass bottles are allowed.
Once at the casino, there are over 10 restaurants to choose
from, live entertainment, bingo, and six hours of gambling! We will depart from the casino around 6 pm.
The price is $25 for members and $30 for non-members.
There is limited seating for 47 people, so book early. Call
(203) 261-4661 for reservations or further information.
The cutoff date for reservations is April 5, 1997. - RB
Pagel

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LETTERS AND E-MAIL

WE SHOULD TREAT EACH OTHER

GAY ADVICE FROM DEAR OLD AUNTIE EM!
Hello! Come in dear. Come and visit with your dear sweet old Auntie Em. Come
tell me what's on your mind. I've seen a lot in my time, and I've got some good advice
for you. Believe me, this old gal has seen it all. So why don't you pull up a chair while
I pour myself a brandy. There now, just tell me what's on your mind, and don't be
shy. I love to dish the dirt with you boyz, it adds a bit of spice to an old lady's life.
I've only been on-line a short time, but I already consider myself the cyber advice
queen like, now what was that Abby girl's advice column? Please stop by and visit
my web site, Ask Auntie Em, at the address http://members.aol.com/ecbbsl/auntem
- and drop me an e-mail. I'll be looking forward to hearing from you! [ (Editor's note:
"Auntie Em"'s website is maintained by the Emerald City Bulletin Board Service.]

LIKE GOLD
by Mike Collins

We should treat each other like gold.
We homosexuals should treat each other like gold.
I have mentioned this to many friends in the gay and lesbian
community.
I am flattered that John Allen, founding president of the
New Haven Gay and Lesbian Community Center, regularly quotes me on this, and that Roger Hooverman, N&V
editor, asked that a piece be done. Chris Bull, author of
Perfect Enemies (the fight between the Christian Coalition
and gays) also strongly agrees.
As Andrew Stone, former member ofTCC's OutSpoken
and now a student at NYU, once told me - and he
articulated it well - members of every other minority
group who are persecuted by the bullies can at least find
peace and support at home.
If you are a member of a religious group or ethnic group,
at least your parents and family will hug you and give you
affection when you get home.
But not gays, in some cases.
In some cases, the parents and family will torment you even
worse than the schoolyard bullies.
So, I ask, why is it a good idea for some in our community
to not treat others "like gold", and, be what one gay
acquaintance from Tennessee termed them, "attitude
queens"?
Sometimes you'll even see it in newspaper personal ads: "no
fems."
Or at a social gathering, the atmosphere will be ice cold.
I have found so many wonderful and loving people in the
gay community over the past quarter century, and I love the
gay community and lesbian community.
But it seems some in the gay community buy into the rightwing agenda ofstupidity, arrogance, negative competitiveness, and attitude, along with selfishness.
Why is it a good idea to impose this on members of our own
community, who are already being persecuted by society in
general, and in some cases, by their own families?
We should treat each other like gold.
We should recall the attitude of the "counter-culture" days
as Newt Gingrich calls them, when the ethic was
"Everybody's your brother/sister" and Stephen Stills sang,
"Love the one you're with."
We should reject the superiority and attitude values that
flooded back into society with the Reagan Revolution,
along with the Reaganite attitude of total selfishness.
The right's so-called "family values" ethic is: "My family,
and screw the rest ofthe world." These so-called Christians
might refer to scripture, and to Jesus, who never says
anything about homosexuals, but does say the GREATEST commandment is to love God and to love your
neighbor as yourself. Not just your family.
No one is perfect and certainly I have many faults and have
disappointed many people over the years.
But it should at least be our ethic, or "agenda," to drive to
reject the mean-spiritedness and total selfishness and negative competitiveness of the extreme right.
We should treat each other like gold.
April 1997

READER IS NOT THINKING IRRATIONALLY AFTER ALL
I just thought I would let you know that as I read through all the editorial responses
and messages to those, you say all that I would. This is having a calming effect as it
proves that I am not thinking irrationally. Politics can upset me ...
-Stianna
RESEARCH ON DOMESTIC PARTNER BENEFITS
I am researching the issue of Domestic Partner benefits and I was wondering if you
could put a question out to all those on your distribution list. I would like to know
of all companies with employees in Connecticut that offer Domestic Partner benefits
to their employees. I would also like to know what Domestic Partner benefits are
offered by each of these companies'. Anyone with information related to these 2
questions can E-Mail me at: mmelanso@bcbsct.com
Thank You, Mark Melanson
RESEARCH ON GAY ADOPTIVE COUPLES
I am conducting my dissertation research on gay male adoptive couples. I'm
comparing this group with other gay male couples who choose not to become
parents. I'm contacting your center in hopes of using it as a source for volunteers for
my study. Would it be possible to post a flyer in your facility or perhaps insert an ad
in your newsletter asking for participants? I can provide you with whatever references
you might need to validate who I am and my study including the name and phone
number of my commitee chairperson. Thanks for considering my request.
- Daniel Scott Angel, CIIS ILL Department, 9 Peter Yorke Way, San Francisco,
Caifornia, 94109; 7374l.3205@compuserve.com.
INVITATION TO INTERNET NEWSGROUPS
If you want, you can remind readers that I put out regular e-mail mailings of news
items of interest to CTgays and lesbians. You can invite readers of your newsletter
to e-mail me if they would like to be added to the: (a) marriage list; (b) religion list;
&/or (c) youth issues list.
All I ask is they send their name and which list(s) they are interested in by e-mail to
ctfreedom@aol.com.
Thank you, Thomas Jackson (tcjackson@snet.net)

TRIVIA
by Seggerman

ANSWER TO MARCH

Sorry, Liz, but that crack about Congressman Bob Barr's multitudinous marriages was written by Margaret Carlson in a Time
Magazine essay of September 16. There she acknowledged a
queasiness about same-sex marriage but still was able to comprehend the hypocrisy of one of DOMA's chief sponsors.
OUESTION FOR APRIL

What openly gay commentator on the Jim Lehrer News Hour
recently joked that he should have a bumper sticker reading,
"Assimilation Happens"?

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STONE, DELVECCHIO NEW N&VEDITORS
Michele Stone and John DelVecchio will be the new co-editors of our
newsletter, TCC News & v'iews, beginning with the May, 1997 issue.
They replace Roger Hooverman, who is retiring as editor after three years.
Michele Stone, senior editor, has already been ori the News & Views staff
for over a year as advertising manager, a position which she will continue.
Earlier, she had been an editor of Talking Triangles, the now-defunct
newsletter of the CT Coalition for Gay & Lesbian Civil Rights.
John DelVecchio, assistant editor, who recently joined the TCC Board of
Dirctors, also has significant newsletter experience. He is Editor (Direttore
Responsabile) of Attenzione, the monthly newsletter of the greater Bridgeport area's Italian-American community. John's principal responsibility
will be garnering information from outside sources and overall coordination of the TCC communications effort. Michele, the computer maven of
the team, will be in charge of compiling and editing materials into the
finished newsletter.

Contributions to the N&Vmay be now be sent to

Michele Stone, Editor
PO Box 8185
Stamford CT 06905
Voice Phone (203) 316-0333
Fax (203) 964-1133
e-mail NewsViews2@aol.com.
HIV CouNSELINGITEsTING CONTINUES AT TCC
The Norwalk Health Department, in partnership with the TCC, is offering
a program of counseling and HIV testing at the Center. The counselor,
Karen Gorman, will be available at the Center, 25 Van Zant St., every
Tuesday from 3:30 to 6:30 pm for walk-in counseling. HIV testing will
also be available by appointment. For more information, or to make an
appointment for testing, please call 854-7979 or 854-7779.
SUNDAY AT THE CENTER SWINGS IN TO SPRING
On the first Sunday in April we'll do "Spring Cleaning'' and get the office
cleaned up. There is so much stuff under the table that the typewriter can't
be used to type up membership cards and the fax machine is blocked. If you
can't make it but think you may have stuff that you want to save, please call
Marianne at 222-8294 prior to April 5. Work will begin at 2 and go on until
5 or so.
On the first Sunday in May, "Salad Days Are Here Again." Sunday at the
Center is holding a Salad Potluck on May 4 at 4 pm. Bring a flower or two
for a communal decoration. A vase and sodas will be provided.
THE OA1<s ON You
For its May6 meeting, the Lesbian Literature Group has chosen ''Trees Call
for What They Need," by Melissa Kwasny. Thanks to Justine Michaud for
supplying the following synopsis of the book.
"Trees Call for What They Need," published by Spinsters Ink, is a beautiful
new novel with a warm regional flavor. It is the story of three women born
at the turn of the century and their lives in the Town of Pines: Nettie, a
woolen mill worker and tenant farmer; Aunt Till, a Spiritualist medium and
lesbian; and Marie, a Polish immigrant who owns the Poletown bar. It is
the story of their friendship and their exchange of pain and remedies as the
novel chronicles the changing of their lives with the changing of their land
near the Big Lakes. It is a lyrical remembrance oflife, both past and present,
narrated to us in Nettie's own inimitable voice. It is a novel about family and
belonging, farming and caring for the land, the roots you put down and
leave behind you. It's about love, caring, healing, and friendship. It is the
story of one woman's life, and how she made a difference without even
trying.
The group meets at the Center the first Tuesday ofevery month at 7: 30 pm.
Copies of"T rees" can be found in your local library or bookstore, or ordered
from Bloodroot (203) 576-9168. For more information please call Gwen
(203) 316-0333.

April 1997

WHooP-DEE-Doo! FoLLOWUP
WHooP-DEE•Doo:

THE Mov1E!

Watch your local Resource Room for the new addition of a video
copy of our Whoop-Dee-Dool show. Relive the music, fun and
costumes of your favorite musical. Watch this video of the final
performance ofTCC's production ofWhoop-Dee-Doo!
WHooP-DEE-Doo:

THE PERPETUAL PARTY!

Following up several cast parties and a recent screening of the new
Whoop-Dee-Dool video, there is to be yet another associated getAll Whoop-Dee-Doo! volunteers are invited to an
together.
appreciation brunch Sunday, April 6, "noonish". Peter and Russ are
graciously hosting the event at their Trumbull home. Call 203-2614661 to RSVP and obtain directions.
WHOOP-DEE-Doo:

THE FINANCIAL UPDATE!

Last, but not least, is a report of the finances for the Whoop-DeeDool theater fund raiser held in January. TCC's Finance Committee
has reported a net income from the project of $17,703.90. These
proceeds include income from all sources: corporate and individual
underwriting, ticket sales, raffle, t-shirt and soda sales, and the ad
book/playbill revenue.
Expenses of just over $14,000 were just over budget, due to printing
costs which we had hoped would be donated.
All 1n all, this was an extremely successful project, financially and
otherwise. Profits are being shared with Bread & Roses, Stamford
CARES and Mid-Fairfield AIDS Project.
TCC's share, over $7000, will be used to establish a new TCC
scholarship program. This program was proposed by the Fund
Raising Committee and is now being developed by a special committee organized by the TCC Board of Directors. More information
about the scholarship fund will be announced later.
POLITICAL ACTION GROUP ON A NEW
NIGHT
The Political Action Group has announced a change in its meeting
time from the third Wednesday to the Second Tuesday of each
month, 7:30 at the Center. The group's principal activity is to
generate letters expressing lesbigay viewspoints to political figures.
For information, call Michele, 438-4465 .
TCC GETS A NEW COMPUTER
Thanks to Bread & Roses, the TCC office now has a new - well, a
newer- computer. Now we can perform important recordkeeping
functions, like maintaining our mailing lists and financial records, on
a close-to-state-of-the-art machine.
If you have expertise in MS Access, we could use your help in revising
and upgrading our membership database. Call membership database manager Marianne Seggerman at 222-8294.

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SPLINTERS FROM THE BOARD
[This month 's "Splinters" is shared by the three retiring members of
the TCC Board of Directors}

THANKS TO ALL THE VOLUNTEERS
One thing I can definitely say about this past year is that being President
of TCC's Board of Directors was an exrerience I will never forget!
Many things - the good things - I don t want to forget. I very much
appreciate the fact that you trusted me enough to be the official "voice"
of the Triangle Community Center, and I am grateful to have had a
chance to serve, in a small way, Connecticut's gay/lesbian/bisexual
population in general and the Fairfield County community in particular.
Mostly what I won't forget are PEOPLE: people I've spoken with by
phone; people I've met; people I've worked with; friends I've made. But
first and foremost, PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEERED - who gave
of their time and talents and energy to keep the Center ("Our Center'')
going for six years and will, I hope, for sixty more. The phenomenally
successful "Whoop-De-Doo" benefit demonstrates better than anything what our community can do when lots of volunteers work
together. We need that "Whoop-Dee-Doo" spirit to continue all year,
year after year, not just for-"BIG EVENTS" but also in the hundreds of
"little things" that are necessary for the Center's day-to-day existence.
The Center, in short, needs YOU! ALL OF YOU!!! Young and NotSo-Young; Rich and Not-At-All-Rich; Single and No-Longer-Single;
People of Any and Every Color; Bisexual, Transgendered, Gay and
Lesbian (especially lesbian, for the Center to reach its stated goal of
"gender parity'' -e.qualmembership, e.qual participation, e.qual leadership).
By the time you read this, my term as Board President will have ended.
I want onelast time to thank ALL OF YOU for ALL YOU'VE DONE,
and for giving me the chance to be a part of it.
Respectfully and Sincerely, Tom Mariconda

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FAREWELL TO THE BOARD
When I joined the Board of Directors, the 1993 March on Washington
was fresh in the minds of those of us who attended. Gays and lesbians
had taken a grip on the nation's attention in the unlikely conduit of a
struggle over their presence and visibility in the military. There were
over 400 paid memberships at the Triangle Community Center, and ten
or eleven board members. There was less than two weeks of operating
funds . A move to cheaper space was in order. The present location is
the result of that effort.
I had promised myself, way back in 1989, that when there was an openly
gay Republican in Congress (my equivalent of"when pigs fly''), then I
would put aside gay activism and concentrate on my career, like I'm
supposed to. Well, by the end of 1996 there were two openly gay
Republicans in Congress, and I was still on the Board. As much an
indicator of progress - a mainstay of the local bike club brought her
companion to the annual brunch for the first time last year.
The Center's move back to financial health was started by a summer of
reduced energy bills - the air conditioning broke down, remember?
Unfortunately, as the financial picture improved, the equally necessary
people capital declined, stemmed somewhat last year by a huge mailing.
The energy and numbers of the women is quite high but then as now
fewer women go from being active in the rap group to Center leadership
than do men from the men's rap. Groups have come"(the Bi rap) and
groups have gone (the Mixed rap). The constant is the Resource Room,
and space to use in any way ones imagination takes one.
There is one thing I have not done in the past almost 4 years of
maintaining the Center's membership database: I have not been
constantly making updates to account for members and former members who have died - because hardly any have. Am I callous to be
grateful that in the time when the AIDS epidemic has so hit hard in so
many places, our membership roster counts only two casualties over
those four years, and those happened to be women who died from other
causes.
So what has changed in the past four years, and what is to come?
Certainly there is a lot more public visibility ofCenter and ofthelesbigay
community. A number of our past presidents have been in the closet at
work (to some degree). That is no longer possible. The days when we
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had less than one month's operating expenses in the bank seem to be over,
but so are the days wh~n 35 people could be counted on to show up at
any event.
Looking forward, I foresee that there will be a shift towards a more
working-class sensibility, judging solely from the current make-up of the
Board. Perhaps the crowds will come back (or come to Center for the
first time) when the State of Hawaii starts issuing marriage licenses to
same-sex couples. Ifl have learned anything about the demographics of
the lesbigay community in this area, I have learned it is an overwhelmingly coupled community. Even many of our "Contributing" members
are in fact one half of a poor, cheap or closeted pair. I predict that many
of these couples (those that have never been in the Center) already know
the Triangle Community Center exists and will turn to it for advice and
support when they try to get their marriages recognized. I'll probably
still be doing membership then.
- Ma~ianne G. C. Seggerman
LIFE GOES ON
Long ago, ina universe faraway, when it finally dawned onme that I was
gay, one of the first things I did (after sex) was seek out the local Gay
Community Center. That was in Albany, New York, over 20 years ago,
so long ago that the name of the organization did not have the word
"lesbian" in it yet. I owe a lot to that Center - because through it I
learned that being gay was more than sex; it was being part of a
community of oppressed, liberated, foolish, brave, dysfunctional, lifegiving, crazy, wonderful women and men who from that time on were
my family.
I was a part of that Center in Albany for ten years before I moved to
Connecticut, and during that time I saw it go through one crisis after
another. There wasn't enough money to pay the bills. There weren't
enough volunteers to operate the organization. Yet, every time that
Center was about to close its doors, new people would show up out of
nowhere; with the enthusiasm and involvement to make the old Center
climb out of the grave and hum again. They are still going strong today.
That's why I am not worried about the future of our Triangle Community Center either. I know from experience that crisis is what makes our
Community, and our Centers, strong. A few years ago the TCC had a
financial crisis, and people who needed the Center and wanted it to
survive came forward, and today we operate with a comfortable reserve
in the bank. Two months ago, I was afraid that no one would be here
to continue News & Views after I left; and now we have not one but two
able editors to carry on and, yes, improve on what has gone before.
At present, the TCC in general and the Board of Directors in particular
are feeling a severe crisis because there are too few people willing and able
to take on the job of running the Center. Our new Board is starting out
with only five members - four men and one woman, barely enough to
maintain the legal requirement of four officers of the corporation.
Yet our membership numbers remain healthy, and scores ofpeople come
through the Center every week for rap groups and other events.
There are a lot of you members out there who take the Center for granted
- not to mention others who make regulasr use of the Center, but refuse
to support it with a membership. You use it, you need it, your lives would
be poorer without it. Or, even if you don't need it for yourselves, you
realize how valuable it is as a positive presence in the community, as a safe
place for our youth, and a source ofsupport for those just coming out and
for their families. I trust that any day now it will dawn on a number of
you that the Triangle Community Center is about to disappear out from
under you because there is no one left to run it.
Then we will see volunteers coming out of the woodwork, with a rebirth
of enthusiasm and dedication that will fill the board room with new faces,
new ideas, and a new life for our community. That's the nature of a
volunteer organization like ours. It's cyclic. It lives from one crisis to
another. But as long as there is a need for places like the Triangle
Community Center in Norwalk, like the Centers. _in New Haven and
Hartford and White Plains and Albany and scores of other cities, those
Centers will not, can not be allowed to die.
Let the last word from the retiring Board be this above all: Your Center
Needs YOU, NOW! VOLUNTEER!!
- Roger Hooverman

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ELEMENTARY

The Connecticut chapter of the Gay, Lesbian Strait Teacher's
Network (GLSTN) invites you to see and discuss "It's Elementary," a film for educators and parents talking about gay issues
at school.
This 78-minute documentary makes a compelling case that
children should be taught to respect all people, including
lesbians and gay men, as part of their early education. At its heart
is incredibly inspiring footage of elementary and middle school
classrooms where teachers are finding age-appropriate, creative
ways to confront anti-gay prejudice and counter gay invisibility.
"It's Elementary'' demystifies what it means to incorporate
information about gay people into early education, and inspires
teachers and administrators to take the next steps at their own
schools.
Rather than focusing on the political debate or the impediments
to dealing with gay issues in the classroom, the fillm is am
inspiring look at what can be done.
Faith Middleton, author of The Goodness ofOrdinary People
and Co1mecticut Public Radio and Television interviewer, will
be hosting the event and moderating a discussion following the
film .
Connecticut premiere of "It's Elementary'' will be Saturday,
April 12, 1: 30 pm at Cinestudio, Trinity College, Hartford CT.
It is sponsored by the Trinity College Women's Center, Children from the Shadows, the CT Education Association, Safe
and Affirming Network ofEducators, Metroline. And PFLAG.
A reception for sponsors will follow.
For information or tickets, call (860) 289-4576.

A GUIDELINE REMINDER
The Gay and Lesbian GuideLine offers information, referrals
and support. If you want to find a gay-friendly doctor, lawyer
or therapist in your town, we have the latest listings. If you're
new to Connecticut and where to know where to meet people,
give us a call. Or if you just need to talk to someone who
understands, we are here for you. Call us most weeknights at
(203) 366-3734.

NEW HAVEN "COURSE IN MIRACLES"
STUDY GROUP
Miracles Mondays, A Course In Miracles® study group, is
changing its' start time to 8 pm beginning in April 7th, 1997.
The group meets at the New Haven Gay&Lesbian Community
Center, One Long Wharf Plaza. The change in time will help the
New Haven Gay & Lesbian Community Center to provide even
more programs and services to the New Haven Community.
Anyone interested in joining the group should contact Casey
Roberts at (203) 230-2050 or Rev. Alexander R. Garbera at
(203 ) 937-8085 . The group is open to all persons. There are
no dues or fees for membership for the Miracles Mondays
group. Donations will help support use of the space.
A long time student of A Course In Miracles, Rev. Alexander
Garbera stated that "even though I have been through the text
and workbook several times, there is always something new to
learn and experience through it. It is an unfolding process, and
has been an instrumental part of my own healing journey." Rev.
Garbera is an Interfaith Minister and graduated from The New
Seminary.
Rev. Garbera also went on to say that "from the very first
meeting in February, the group was positively electric! When
leaving by the elevator, some other individuals came from a
different part of the building, noticed our enthusiasm, and asked
'where did you people just come from?' to which we replied .. 'we
were just exploring the mysteries of the Universe.' The onlookers, tired from working late, smiled and said 'that explains it."'
April 1997

GERSHWIN FUNDRAISER IN HARTFORD
On Friday, April 18, Hartford's Goodwin Hotel will be transformed into an Art
Deco paradise for "Gerschwin at the Goodwin," a fundraiser for the many
educational programs of the Hartford Stage Companay. A raffle-type auction 1s
planned, along with lots of live entertainment. There willbe performances by
panist Paul Biscaccia, jazz singer Dianne Mower, guitarist Norman Johnson, and
the Connecticut Gay Men's Chorus, accompanied by special ~uest Harvey
Fierstein. Tickets for the program, which runs from 8 pm to midnight at the
Goodwin Hotel. Prices are $75 for atrium tickets and $100 for salon tickets . For
tickets or more info call Anne Dyjak, (860) 525-5601.

SCHOLARSHIP AVAILABLE FoR GAY, LESBIAN,
BISEXUAL, TRANSGENDERED YouTH
As part of its on-going support for Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual an_d Transgendered
Youth, the Gay Lesbian Student Teacher Network/ConnectICut (GLSTN) 1s
offering a $500 scholarship to recognize such students, support continuing
education and foster a positive image of GLBT students in the school and
community.
The $500 award will go to a student who is a self-identified gay, lesbian, bisexual
youth who is between the ages ofl6 and 21 as of May 1, 1997 and planning to
attend a post-secondary education institution during the next year. Applicants
must be residents of Connecticut, and prior recipients are not eligible. All
application materials must be received by April 15, 1997.
This is the second year GLSTN Connecticut has offered such a scholarship. Last
year's winner was Carl Sciortinq, Jr. of Milford, who attends Tufts U111vers1ty.
Applications have been sent to guidances offices in all of the state's public and
private high schools. Applications are also available by mail. Write to: Ronnie
Kim, Robertson School, 227 Cross St., Coventry, CT 06238.
SHAYS AGREES TO BE PRINCIPAL ENDA SPONSOR
U .S. Rep. Christopher Shays (R-Conn.) has agreed to become the principal
Republican co-sponsor of the Employment Non-Discrimination Act (ENDA),
marking the first time a House Republican has taken the lead in sponsoring the
measure.
Shays's office disclosed his new role in backing ENDA less than a week after Sen.
Alfonse D'Amato (R-N .Y.) told leaders of the Human Rights Campaign, a
national Gay political group, that he will become a co-sponsor of ENDA in the
Senate.
ENDA calls for amending the U .S. civil rights code to prohibit employment
discrimination based solely on a person's sexual orientation. The bill covers both
private sector and civilian government employment.
Shays's spokesperson Seth Amgott said Shays will join openly Gay Rep . Barney
Frank (D-Mass.), ENDA's chief Democratic sponsor in the House, and HRC
in recruiting other House members to sign on as ENDA co-sponsors. HRC
Legislative Director Wi1mie Stachelberg said HRC expects "considerably more"
House members to sign on as ENDA co-sponsors in this year's 105th Congress
than the 139 who became co-sponsors in last year's 104th Congress. Amgott said
Shays and Frank are expected to reintroduce ENDA sometime next month.
"ENDA is based on a fundamental American idea," Shays said in a statement
released by his office. "Americans should be judged at work based on their
performance at work. I am proud to belead Republican sponsor of this common
sense legislation."
- Lou Chibbaro Jr., Washington Blade, via the internet.

P-FLAG SCHEDULE OF MEETINGS AT

TCC

"Big" Monthly Meeting: Every 1st Wednesday, 7:45
Spouses and Ex Spouses group: Every 3rd Thursday, 7 :30

Deadline for the May News & Views is Saturday,
April 12. Material received after this date will not be
included in the May newsletter.

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EDITOR's DESK

WORTH REPEATING

••• AND MAKE OUR GARDEN GROW
It is with great joy and satisfaction that, after three years as editor, I put
this, my last issue of News & ½ews, to bed and turn the newsletter over
to our new Editors: Michele Stone and John DelVecchio.
I am confident that this team will continue to maintain the TCC News
& ½ewsat the high level of excellence that Connie Cash, Martin Ulmer
and I have striven for since its first issue, over seven years ago. In fact,
I expect they will make it even better.
For one last time, I would like to express my heartfelt thanks to the many
people who have helped me produce News & ½ews over the past three
years: To our many regular contributors, especially Marianne Seggerman
and Michael Collins, who have provided news and opinion with
dedication and wit. To David Dey, whose artistic talents have given the
' layout of our newsletter a professional appearance worthy of a commercial magazine. To Damian Kane and Len Horey and their crew of
stuffers, who have committed themselves to getting the finished product
into the mail and to your doorstep on time month after month, and the
many volunteers who have helped deliver stacks of newsletters to gay
establishments, bookstores and libraries about the community. And, of
course, to my partner, Greg Weingardt, who has faithfully proofread
each and every newsletter before it went to press, and helped bring our
product as close to perfection as possible.
As for myself, I now breathe a great sigh of relief and look forward at last
to a summer where every sunny weekend is mine to enjoy, with no
deadlines and no commitments. I might even get around to some of
those housekeeping chores that have been piling up for the last three
years, like cleaning out the closet...
I'll keep my hand in to a limited amount, of course, maintaining the TCC
web page and contributing occasionally to the local papers and lesbigay
news groups on the net. And I've promised Michelle I will continue to
provide occasional articles for N& V, though I won't commit myself to
contributing something every issue.
After twenty years of on-and-off gay activism, I feel I am ready for a
period of relative rest and retirement - at least for a while. The image
that comes to my mind is the closing chorus of Leonard Bernstein's
Candide. There the principals, after trying and failing in one adventure
after another to make this the best ofall possible worlds, finally step back
and decide they will be satisfied simply to do the best they know -to
"build our house, and chop our wood, and make our garden grow."
See you on the beach.
- Roger Hooverman.
OTHER AREA GROUPS AND
ORGANIZATIONS
Bare & Gay (B&G) gay nudists
Bisexually Curious Support Group Bpt
Chiltern Mountain Club
Connecticut Kids and Families
Connecticut Freedom to Marry Coalition
40-Up Club.(Social Grp.-call Dale before 10pm)
Gay Fathers Group
Gay Mens Association of Danbury
GEMS (Mature GLBT)
Guideline (gay/lesbian phone info)
Hartford Community Center
Married Men's Bisexual Suppt Grp Htfd
Metropolitan Community Church
The Loft, White Plains NY,
Triangle Bowling League
Triangle Kids
Western Connecticut Gay Men's Group

Lush green forests everywhere
And really, really incredible hair
That's Gay Heaven
Judy Garland at the Emerald Gate
and whoop-dee-doo
It's ten percent straight
That's· Gay Heaven
Endless beaches where turquoise waters
Kiss the cool pink sand
Soft sea breezes and rock hard bodies
Perfectly, evenly, perpetually tanned
Laughing at earthly mediocrities
Brunching with Tchaikovsky
Dancing with Socrates
That's Gay Heaven
Jesse Helms all butch and sweaty
And Pat Buchanan's nicknamed "Betty"
That's ( Frederick's of Hollywood) Gay Heaven
Hunky waiters and flirty bellmen
Look! in the strapless It's Cardinal Spellman
That's (Eleanor Roosevelt) Gay Heaven
Sexy slow tunes and swanky show tunes
Swing for ever more
One part leather and one part feather
Two parts Eva and Zsa Zsa Gabor
Noel Coward at the eighty-eights
In fact, it's just like Provincetown
without the straights
In James Dean, Jodie Foster
Rock Hudson, Hillary Clinton
Heaven, Heaven, Heaven
Gay Heaven!

Contributors to this issue:
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644-4305
264-5605
899-0270
256-8414
791-9553
261-4019
866- 7051
778- 7016
688-1881
366-3734
724 5542
262-1555
389-6750
948-4922
931-8789
255-6229
323-6278
773-9947

We're glad to list your non-profit ·gay/lesbian/bi/cg group free of
charge. Call (203) 849-1508. Please keep us informed of changes.

April 1997

GAY HEAVEN
· From the CT Gay Men's Chorus' World Premiere of "Out! - The
Whole Story," first performed in New Haven March, 1997. Lyrics
b Win.ston Clark Music Director.

Russ Bain. CT Gay Men's Chorus, Mike Collins, Thomas
Jackson. Tom Mariconda. Peter McKnight. Justine
Michaud. Micharl Pavlicin, Bob Scrofani, Marianne
Seggerman. Stianna. Michele Stone. Michele Tesbir.

Horticultural Botanist
Gardener & House I Pet Sitter
Donald J. Comes
(203) 866-2823

30 7lerney Street
Norwal,k, CT 06851

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Effective April 7, 1 997,

Nicholas Lang, MS, NCC
is delighted to announce
his ability to provide

Counseling
and
Psychotherapy Services
at 387 Danbury Road (Route 7), Wilton.
His practice includes specializations in
sexual orientation, loss,
relationship, and HIV-related issues.

Telephone: 761-8825
This new location is in addition
to his New Haven office.

TRIANGLE COMMUNITY CENTER, INC.
P.O.BOX 4062, East Norwalk, CT 06855
Tel/Fax: (203) 853-0600
e-mail TCCenter@aol.com
EXECUTIVE COMMITTEE
TOM MARI CONDA ....................... President
MARIANNE SEGGERMAN .......... Vice-President
BARB SCHADE ................... .. ... ...... Treasurer
DON BUXTON .......... ....... ........ ..... . Corresponding Secretary
DAVE CARROLL ........................... Acting Recording Sec'y
BOARD OF DIRECTORS
LEN HOREY
DON BUXTON
TOM MARICONDA
DAYID CARROLL
BARB SCHADE
JOHN DEL VECCHIO
MARIANNE SEGGERMAN
ROGER HOOVERMAN
STANDING COMMITTEES
AIDS Liaison
Tom M
Board Development
Tom M
Communications
Roger H
-Public Relations
Mike C
Finance
Doug N
Fundraising/Sp Events
Michael P
Membership
Vacant
-Member Database
Marianne S
Operations
Cindy M
(and to schedule events at the Center)
Program
Dave C
-Resource Room
Walter D
--Center Forums
Dave C
Volunteer
Meg B & Justine M

374-6934
374-6934
849-1508
375-3567
838-2367
866-6993
222-8294
595-9799
838-1881
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April 1997

Is published monthly by
Triangle Community Center, Inc.
P.O. Box 4062, East Norwalk, CT 06855.
NEWS & VIEWS encourages its readers to submit materials of interest
to our community, including short articles, letters to the editor, etc. We
cannot respond to, or publish, anonymous letters. We reserve the right
to edit or condense as appropriate to meet space requirements. Authors
will be contacted if major revisions are necessary. Please submit to :

NEWS&VIEWS
Michele Stone: Editor
P.O. Box 8185
Stamford, CT 06905
Phone 316-0333 Fax 964-1133
e-mail: NewsViews2@aol.com

John Delvecchio: Asst Editor
Phone: 203-334-3822
Mike Collins: Publicity
Phone: 203-375-3567

FOR ADVERTISING RATES CONTACT MICHELE STONE:
Ads must be camera-ready. If your ad is not camera
ready or you need help with its layout or design,
contact Michele Stone BEFORE submission. Inserts
and special sizes upon prior agreement. All ads are
placed on a space available basis.
The publication of the name of any person or organization in articles or
advertisements in NEWS & VIEWS is not to be construed as any indication of
the sexual orientation of such persons or members of such organizations.
The appearance of advertisements in NEWS & VIEWS does not imply nor
constitute endorsement by TCC,Inc.
The views expressed in "Point of View" and "Gaily Forward" are not necessarily those ofTCC, Inc.
Copyright 1997 by Triangle Community Center, Inc. All rights reserved. This
work, or any parts thereof, may not beused or reproduced in any manner without
written permission.

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The Norwalk Health Department
In cooperation with

~nnouncement

Triangle Community Center
Proudly Announces
HIV Counseling & Testing Services
Commencing:
February 11, 1997

STAMFORD RELIGIOUS SCIENCE CENTER
FOR DYNAMIC LIVING
Sunday Experience 1st and 3rd Sundays, 11 :00 am Tara
Stamford Hotel, 2701 Summer St., Stamford. For information call Linda A. Bardes, Director, (203) 975-5267.
Information pack available

From 3 :30 - 6:30 p.m.
25 Van Zant Street
For Information and an Appointment
Please ca/1855-7979 or 854-7779

NO WALK-INS
(to ensure anonymity and confidentiality)
Counselor Karen Gorman, MSW
(Family Therapist)

Massage Uonnection

PAUL D. SCHNEIDER
Attorney at Law
PO Box 451
Souhtport, CT 06490-0451
203/255-5520
Adoption
Child Custody Divorce
Partnership Agreements

Our Families Matter

THRESHOLD
MORTGAGE COMPANY

• Specializing in professional Swedish
massage
• By appointment only - Day or evening
• Student discounts available
• Home visits available

1-800-611-0641
Office located in the New Haven area

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PATRICK WINTERS
LOAN OFFICER
THRESHOLD MORTGAGE
COMPANY
THRESHOLD COMMON
59 W!LTON ROAD
WESTPORT, CT 06880
OFFICE (203) 454-0525
TOLL FREE {800) 562-5577
FAX (203) 454-0069
HOME (203) 256-5951
EMAIL pkw@thresholdmtg .com

• Specializing in residential home mortgages in Fairfield County
• Capable or handling all loan scenario's from a$60,000 condo in
Stamford to a$1,000,000 home in Greenwich
• Consistent top producing loan officer for over ten years with a
w1ialth of knowledgti and experience
In /,9.95, 1'bresboldJfol'l!fa!fe ff'iJS cited /JS the top produdn!fmorlj/il!Jl1
companJbarin!f dosed orer JI15, ODO, ODO in loans in f?ail'lif1fdf!oun(y
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DEROSA AGENCY
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(203j 256-4565
(203) 256-1122
(800) 628-7209
FAX: (203) 256-1759

362 NORTH STREET
MILFORD, CT 06460
PH.: 878-1779 HM.: 874-1918

JOANN ATTWOOD NEMIS

FAX: 878-2204

VICE PRESIDENT INVESTMENTS

INSURANCE:
LIFE - HEALTH - HOME - AUTO - BUSINESS

REALTOR:
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MEMBERS NEW YORK STOCK EXCHANGE ANO OTHER PRINCIPAL EXCHANGES

2150 POST ROAD, FAIRFIELD, CT 06430

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Specializing in:

Weddings • Comittment Celeb11.ations
and "Coming-Out" Pa11.ties
76 Lake Avenue • Danbury, CT 06810

Tel : 730-1400 • Fax: 798-9611

MARYY.LENNEY,MSW,CADC
Individual / Couples / Group
Turning Points
387 Danbury Rd.
Wilton, CT 06897

(203) 834-2846

LEADING
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MICHAEL

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EllCWSIVE BUYER AGENT

BROKER

SOUTHPORT, CONNECTICUT 06490

FAX1255-3705 HOME/866-6993

203/255-2278

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VICTORIA

Laura L Gates, MSW, LCSW
Individuals, Couples, and Families
7-11 South Broadway, Suite 400
White Plains, NY 10601
(203) 372-9799
(203)31~

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1169 Sylvan Avenue
Bridgeport, CT 06606
(203) 372-9799
(203)Z11141VM

T.

FERRARA

ATTORNEY AT LAW

(203) 227-9585

WESTPORT, CT
ADMITTED IN CT AND NY

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Maria C. Castillo, MSW, LCSW

GAY MEN'S GROUP
NOW FORMING

Individual, Couples, and Family Therapy
Recovery from Abuse

Bilingual

• Self Esteem
• Coming Out

(203) 261-3492
Monroe, CT

(203) 336-2708
Bridgeport, CT

• Dating and Relationships
• Building Community

ALDIS

KURT SPERLING, L.c.s.w.

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(203)778•9399

SAUGATUCK COUNSELING CENTER
225 MAIN STREET, LL-1
WESTPORT, CT 06880

FAX (203)744• 1139

PHONE

203/454-1549

Three detades of GAY travel expertise
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Diane Hyatt, MSW, CISW
T Solution~riented short or longer term
psychotherapy for Adults and Adolescents,
specializing in, but not limited to:

JOANNE M. MARINO, C.C.M.H.C., N.C.C.
PSYCHOTHERAPIST

49 Coolidge Avenue

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Stamford, CT 06906
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Anxiety

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1305 POST ROAD, FAIRFIELD
203/256-3839

Tax Planning, Preparation & Appeals;
Estates & Trusts, Probate Matters,

Individual, Couple, Family & Group Therapy

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225 MAIN SnrnET. LL! • WES11'<JRT, CT 06880 • 203.454.1549

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Michelle C. Loris, Ph.D., Psy.D.
Individual, Couple and Group Therapy

P.O. Box 118
Bethlehem, NH 03574
(603) 869-3978

(203) 255-2767
By Appointment

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Real Estate Transactions
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Attorney-at-Law

Tax Strategy & Preparation • Real Estate
Estate Planning & Wills • Business Consulting
270Alden Avenue, New Haven, CT06515-2114

Fax 20J / 387-9899

Voice 20J I 389-8614

WHERE ARE WE? The Triangle Community Center Inc. is located at 25 Van Zant Street in Norwalk.
From 1-95, take Exit 16 and go south (from Stamford, turn right; from New Haven, turn left). Continue
south under the railroad bridge and turn right on Van Zant St. (Route 136). 25 Van Zant is a large
condominium office building on the right. TCC is in Suite 7-C on the ground floor, Tel. (203) 853-0600.
April 1997

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Calendar

April, 1997

Sun
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Tues

Mon
.'1

Easter
Women's Rap 7:30
M9-10am
OutSpoken 4-6
Bloodroot beer, wine, juice
etc 5-7:30
16
17
M 9-10 am
Women's Rap 7:30
Whoop brunch
OutSpoken 4-6
Sunday at Center
Business expo NYC
IJ
14
M 9-10 am
Women's Rap 7:30
OutSpoken 4-6
Casino Bus Trip to
Mohegan Sun leaves TCC
10:30
ILV
121
M9-10am
Women's Rap 7:30
OutSpoken 4-6

127
M9-10am
OutSpoken 4-6

Ila

14
M9-IO am
OutSpoken 4-6
Sunday at Center

15
Women's Rap 7:30

Wed

Fri

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Sat

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40+ Women 7-9
Bowling 8:30
Circle Lanes

Men's Rap 7:30

P-FLAG7:45

Oral History 7:30

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HIV couns 3:30-6:30

Bi Rap Grp 7:30
TCC Board 7:30

Men's Rap 7:30

15
HIV couns 3:30-6:30
Fundraisin!ifSpec Events
Comm 7:30

Business expo NYC
Deadline for casino trip
reservations

ILL

HIV couns 3:30-6:30
Passover begins

HIV couns 3:30-6:30
Passover ends

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mv couns 3:30-6:30

16

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Out & About 6:30-8
Bowling 8:30
Circle Lanes

117
Mens' Rap 7:30
P-FLAG Spouses & Exspouses 7:30

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40+ Women 7-9
Bowling 8:30
Circle Lanes

123
Bi Rap Grp 7:30
TCC Board 7:30

124
Men's Rap 7:30

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Men's Rap 7:30

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Men's Rap 7:30
Oral History 7 :30

Lesbian Lit Grp 7 :30

DIRECTORY

GROUPS MEETING AT OR SPONSORED BY TCC
A.A. - Don 762-9964
Bi Rap Group - Peter 838-2806;Robin 358-8391
Connecticut Business Guild - 225-6464
40+ Womens Group - Judy 227-5566
Free Association of Fairfield County - John 268-8858 x304
Gay Men's Rap Group - Dave 838-1881; John 926-8971
Gmosaic (People of Color) - not currently active call TCC 853-0600
Lesbian Literature Reading Group - Michele, 316-0333
Out & About (Gen.X Group) - Jen 736-6417 or Dan 838-2367
Outspoken (Youth) - Barb 259-8171; Dan 227-1755;
Doug 838-2367
Political Action Group - Michele, 438-4465; Charlie, 226-8652
P-FLAG (Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians & Gays) Joan 544-8724; Lester 322-5380; Belinda 855-1203
P-FLAG Spouses & Ex Spouses Group - Joan 544-8724
Triangle Bowling League (Circle Lanes, Fairfield) - Lisa 3333113; Roseann 931-8789
Women's Rap Group - Linda 866-4598; Charlie 226-8652
All meetings are held at the Center and in the evening unless
otherwise noted. A $3 donation per person is appreciated with
your participation in activities to help support the Center.

April 1997

Thu

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Women's Rap 7:30

TELEPHONE

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HIV couns 3:30-6:30
Lesbian Lit Grp 7:30

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Bowling 8:30
Circle Lanes
Women's Chorus,
Southport 8pm

4o+ Women 7-9
Bowling 8:30
Circle Lanes
Women's Chorus, New
Haven8pm

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It's Elementary, Hartford
N&V deadline

19
TCC Friendraiser, Bob's in
Norwalk

126
Women's Chorus, New
Haven 8pm

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Women's Chorus, Hartford
8pm

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Out & About 6:30-8
Bowling 8:30
Circle Lanes

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