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© 1999 Makaw Press

Forgive, and Remember
No matter what your religious preferences, the
December holiday season is generally a time of peace
and giving, and reflection and gratitude. It is a time to
spend with family and friends, a time to renew faith
and practice forgiveness, a time of celebration and joy.
And if you have no religious preferences at all, then
hopefully this time of the year still reflects those
feelings (the same as any other time of the year).
There are many stories we have come to know
that tell us about the true meaning of the Christmas
season. This year, I think I'll add to my own repertoire
the Shepard family's story of tragedy and forgiveness.
Matthew Shepard, as you no doubt remember,
was a Wyoming University student who was savagely
beaten and hung on a fence to die a little over a year
ago. He <liu1t'l die ilte1e, out he never regained consciousness and he did die a few days later in a Fort
Collins, Colorado hospital.
One of his murderers, Aaron McKinney, was
recently on trial for the crime. The prosecutors proved
their case and sought the death penalty. I thought that
sounded like a pretty good idea, except that I thought a
thrashing (a slow and tortured death) would be a more
appropriate consequence for the murderer than a
sterile and quick state execution.
You see, the older I get, the more I tend to think in
an Old Testament, eye-for-an-eye kind of way. For
what he did to Matthew Shepard, I don't think any
form of punishment would be too harsh for Aaron
McKinney (I felt the same way about the murderers of
James Byrd). Sometimes in these days of horrific crimes
against human beings I think the harsher the punishment, the better. I am beginning to feel my own kind of
hate.
But Matt Shepard's parents didn't see it that way.
After the guilty verdict, they talked with prosecutors of
forgiveness and moving on, and ultimately accepted a
life sentence instead of demanding another young
man's death.
I am trying to learn from that act of forgiveness.
And it's hard.

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The Shepards, particularly Judy, Matthew's
mother, have also been speaking out publicly about
hate crimes, and what this past year has meant to them
and their family and friends. And Judy isn't just
talking to try to change the minds of the McKinneys
and Hendersons (the other murderer) of the world, she
is trying to reach the people who remain silent whenever hate raises its head. From that I am trying to
remember what I already know.
I know we won't necessarily change the world by
trying to change the Ku Klux Clan or the Aryan nation,
or the white supremacists or the religious f~atics I've known that for a long time. The way to change the
world is one person at a time, starting with your own
family, your own neighbors, your own friends.
The way to stop the groups who hate is for everyday people (including Christians who believe we are
all God's children) to say Enough! We will no longer
toleratethe hate and the killing!
The people who can make the difference are the
people who know hate is wrong, but who don't think
it's their problem - the people who empower haters
through their very silence, the people who turn and
look away when someone goes berserk and kills or
maims an innocent human being. We are all in this
together, and we need to start taking care of one
another.
Judy Shepard has found a way and a strength to
lead, to forgive her son's murderers and to try to turn
her pain into something positive in the world. She has
forgiven the men who killed her son, but she remembers what they have done, and she is seeing that others
remember also.
That's a lesson we've learned from history, whenever we care to remember it. It is good to forgive, but it
is by remembering that we can ensure it never happens
again.
Judy Shepard is my shining Christmas star this
season, as I learn from her about forgiveness and
remembering, and· turning to positive action instead of
toward my own feelings of hate.
- Mel Wltite

Small steps, making progress ...

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For Lucky Lesbians born under the sign of

SAGITTARIUS
(Nqvember 22- December 21)
Archery by court, is not your sport.
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Thy name lives evermore,
as well as legends before.
All of your adventures
become enchanting folklore.*

At the end of last month, Denver City Council
approved a registry for committed, unmarried couples.
The vote was unanimous, and witnessed and celebrated by a number of same-sex couples (who gave the
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where there was none, for crossing the gender lines as
if they weren't there, for a wonderful television movie,
and eventually for a full length film in 1975.
He was indeed regal, and in fact he played the
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Orlando. And he played her well! He used to say of this
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would say to activists and foundations 11USE ME.11
That we did, on AIDS benefits, television documentaries, parades, and interviews. Crisp wrote a
number of other books but is perhaps best known for
his one-man show 11An Evening With Quentin Crisp, 11
in which he was, at age 90, still touring. Born in 1908,
he was an out and cross-dressing gay in London's
19201s and 30s, a feat in those days nothing short of
suicidal. Although the lesbigay community will
remember him as a humorist and raconteur, perhaps •
his single greatest legacy is that he lived to die a
natural death.
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wear. She looks terrific in bed, but we're still two
grand in the hole. How can I get her to give up
these money sucking schemes?
Signed, Shirtless

Dear Shirtless,
Before she unloads her new money making
adventure, sit her down with a pen and paper and
calculator to see if and how this idea is going to add
up. If it looks good, you'll have to go and get 100
pounds of chinchilla chow and 400 pounds of
shredded newspaper. If it doesn't add up, send her
back to the salesperson who talked her into this
scheme.
-SS
Dear Savvy Sappho,
I want to be non-traditional for the holidays this
year, because Scrooge has bitten me in the butt.
Will bolts of lightening get me if I try this?
Signed, Rebel

Dear Rebel,
I hope not! Breaking with tradition gives you
more of a feeling of control over your life at this
time. You'll be surprised that with just a little effort
(no TV, no paper, no phone, no relatives) you can
completely overlook any holiday season you
choose.
-SS

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savory on fry-bread,
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from adobe walls,
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Smokescent lingering
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old women nod in passing.
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Christmas Carols (for the Psychiatrically Challenged)

(no this is not a Letterman spoof)
Press Pass Q a professional
newsletter for people who work
in the gay and lesbian press, re. cently asked readers to vote on
the top 10 gay-related news
stories of 1999. Here are the
results:

SCHIZOPHRENIA: Do you Hear What I Hear?
MULTIPLE PERSONALITY DISORDER: We Three Kings
Disoriented Are
DEMENTIA: I Think I'll Be Home for Christmas
NARCISSISTIC: Hark the Herald Angels Sing About Me
MANIC: Deck the Halls and Walls and House and Lawn and Streets
and Stores and Office and Town and Cars and Russes and Trucks
and Trees and Fire Hydrants with boughs of holly
PARANOID: Santa Claus is Coming to Get Me.
PERSONALITY DISORDER: You Better Watch Out, I'm Gonna Cry,
I'm Gonna Pout, Maybe I'll tell you Why ...
OBSESSIVE-COMPULSIVE DISORDER: Jingle Bell, Jingle Bell,
Jingle Bell Rock, Jingle Bell, Jingle Bell, Jingle Bell Rock, Jingle Bell,
Jingle Bell, Jingle Bell Rock, Jingle Bell, Jingle Bell, Jingle Bell Rock,
Jtngle Bell, Jingle Bell, Jingle Bell Rock, Jingle Bell, Jingle Bell, Jingle
Bell_Rock, Jingle·Bell, Jingle Bell, jingle Bell Rock, Jingle Bell, Jingle
Bell, Jingle Bell Rock, Jingle Bell, Jingle Bell, Jingle Bell Rock, Jingle
Bell, Jingle Bell, Jingle Bell Rock, Jingle Bell, Jingle Bell, Jingle Bell
Rock, Jingle Bell, Jingle Bell, Jingle Bell Rock ............(better start
again)
PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE PERSONALITY: On the First Day of
Christmas My True Love Gave to Me (and then took it all away).
BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER: Thoughts of Roasting
on an Open Fire. •

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1. Matthew Shepard's murderers
trial and conviction
2. New Jersey Supreme Court
strikes down Boy Scout's (antigay) policy
• 3. Canadian Supreme Court
strikes down the heterosexual
definition of" spouse"
4. Openly gay Jim Hormell
becomes Ambassador to
Luxemborg
5. Britairtends ban on gays in
military
6. California passes domestic
partnership bill
7. Gay issues are prominent in the
2000 presidential campaign
8. Falwell meets with Mel White
(the gay guy, not the editor of this
newsletter) and activists, and
agrees to tone down rhetoric
9. Congress fails to pass hate
crimes legislation

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10. United Airlines surrenders in
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Volume IV, Issue #12 (of 12) - (48) December 1999
'---------------------(1-,.

© 1999 Makaw Press

Forgive, and Remember
No matter what your religious preferences, the
December holiday season is generally a time of peace
and giving, and reflection and gratitude. It is a time to
spend with family and friends, a time to renew faith
and practice forgiveness, a time of celebration and joy.
And if you have no religious preferences at all, then
hopefully this time of the year still reflects those
feelings (the same as any other time of the year).
There are many stories we have come to know
that tell us about the true meaning of the Christmas
season. This year, I think I'll add to my own repertoire
the Shepard family's story of tragedy and forgiveness.
Matthew Shepard, as you no doubt remember,
was a Wyoming University student who was savagely
beaten and hung on a fence to die a little over a year
ago. He <liu1t'l die ilte1e, out he never regained consciousness and he did die a few days later in a Fort
Collins, Colorado hospital.
One of his murderers, Aaron McKinney, was
recently on trial for the crime. The prosecutors proved
their case and sought the death penalty. I thought that
sounded like a pretty good idea, except that I thought a
thrashing (a slow and tortured death) would be a more
appropriate consequence for the murderer than a
sterile and quick state execution.
You see, the older I get, the more I tend to think in
an Old Testament, eye-for-an-eye kind of way. For
what he did to Matthew Shepard, I don't think any
form of punishment would be too harsh for Aaron
McKinney (I felt the same way about the murderers of
James Byrd). Sometimes in these days of horrific crimes
against human beings I think the harsher the punishment, the better. I am beginning to feel my own kind of
hate.
But Matt Shepard's parents didn't see it that way.
After the guilty verdict, they talked with prosecutors of
forgiveness and moving on, and ultimately accepted a
life sentence instead of demanding another young
man's death.
I am trying to learn from that act of forgiveness.
And it's hard.

A-:

..
,.

, '

The Shepards, particularly Judy, Matthew's
mother, have also been speaking out publicly about
hate crimes, and what this past year has meant to them
and their family and friends. And Judy isn't just
talking to try to change the minds of the McKinneys
and Hendersons (the other murderer) of the world, she
is trying to reach the people who remain silent whenever hate raises its head. From that I am trying to
remember what I already know.
I know we won't necessarily change the world by
trying to change the Ku Klux Clan or the Aryan nation,
or the white supremacists or the religious f~atics I've known that for a long time. The way to change the
world is one person at a time, starting with your own
family, your own neighbors, your own friends.
The way to stop the groups who hate is for everyday people (including Christians who believe we are
all God's children) to say Enough! We will no longer
toleratethe hate and the killing!
The people who can make the difference are the
people who know hate is wrong, but who don't think
it's their problem - the people who empower haters
through their very silence, the people who turn and
look away when someone goes berserk and kills or
maims an innocent human being. We are all in this
together, and we need to start taking care of one
another.
Judy Shepard has found a way and a strength to
lead, to forgive her son's murderers and to try to turn
her pain into something positive in the world. She has
forgiven the men who killed her son, but she remembers what they have done, and she is seeing that others
remember also.
That's a lesson we've learned from history, whenever we care to remember it. It is good to forgive, but it
is by remembering that we can ensure it never happens
again.
Judy Shepard is my shining Christmas star this
season, as I learn from her about forgiveness and
remembering, and· turning to positive action instead of
toward my own feelings of hate.
- Mel Wltite

Small steps, making progress ...

DENVER APPROVES A REGISTRY

A TROLOGY
by Stacy Chandler

For Lucky Lesbians born under the sign of

SAGITTARIUS
(Nqvember 22- December 21)
Archery by court, is not your sport.
Acclaims you abhor; medals you adore!
Thy name lives evermore,
as well as legends before.
All of your adventures
become enchanting folklore.*

At the end of last month, Denver City Council
approved a registry for committed, unmarried couples.
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I want to be non-traditional for the holidays this
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Will bolts of lightening get me if I try this?
Signed, Rebel

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I hope not! Breaking with tradition gives you
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time. You'll be surprised that with just a little effort
(no TV, no paper, no phone, no relatives) you can
completely overlook any holiday season you
choose.
-SS

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old women nod in passing.
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(no this is not a Letterman spoof)
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results:

SCHIZOPHRENIA: Do you Hear What I Hear?
MULTIPLE PERSONALITY DISORDER: We Three Kings
Disoriented Are
DEMENTIA: I Think I'll Be Home for Christmas
NARCISSISTIC: Hark the Herald Angels Sing About Me
MANIC: Deck the Halls and Walls and House and Lawn and Streets
and Stores and Office and Town and Cars and Russes and Trucks
and Trees and Fire Hydrants with boughs of holly
PARANOID: Santa Claus is Coming to Get Me.
PERSONALITY DISORDER: You Better Watch Out, I'm Gonna Cry,
I'm Gonna Pout, Maybe I'll tell you Why ...
OBSESSIVE-COMPULSIVE DISORDER: Jingle Bell, Jingle Bell,
Jingle Bell Rock, Jingle Bell, Jingle Bell, Jingle Bell Rock, Jingle Bell,
Jingle Bell, Jingle Bell Rock, Jingle Bell, Jingle Bell, Jingle Bell Rock,
Jtngle Bell, Jingle Bell, Jingle Bell Rock, Jingle Bell, Jingle Bell, Jingle
Bell_Rock, Jingle·Bell, Jingle Bell, jingle Bell Rock, Jingle Bell, Jingle
Bell, Jingle Bell Rock, Jingle Bell, Jingle Bell, Jingle Bell Rock, Jingle
Bell, Jingle Bell, Jingle Bell Rock, Jingle Bell, Jingle Bell, Jingle Bell
Rock, Jingle Bell, Jingle Bell, Jingle Bell Rock ............(better start
again)
PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE PERSONALITY: On the First Day of
Christmas My True Love Gave to Me (and then took it all away).
BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER: Thoughts of Roasting
on an Open Fire. •

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strikes down Boy Scout's (antigay) policy
• 3. Canadian Supreme Court
strikes down the heterosexual
definition of" spouse"
4. Openly gay Jim Hormell
becomes Ambassador to
Luxemborg
5. Britairtends ban on gays in
military
6. California passes domestic
partnership bill
7. Gay issues are prominent in the
2000 presidential campaign
8. Falwell meets with Mel White
(the gay guy, not the editor of this
newsletter) and activists, and
agrees to tone down rhetoric
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Forgive, and Remember
No matter what your religious preferences, the
December holiday season is generally a time of peace
and giving, and reflection and gratitude. It is a time to
spend with family and friends, a time to renew faith
and practice forgiveness, a time of celebration and joy.
And if you have no religious preferences at all, then
hopefully this time of the year still reflects those
feelings (the same as any other time of the year).
There are many stories we have come to know
that tell us about the true meaning of the Christmas
season. This year, I think I'll add to my own repertoire
the Shepard family's story of tragedy and forgiveness.
Matthew Shepard, as you no doubt remember,
was a Wyoming University student who was savagely
beaten and hung on a fence to die a little over a year
ago. He <liu1t'l die ilte1e, out he never regained consciousness and he did die a few days later in a Fort
Collins, Colorado hospital.
One of his murderers, Aaron McKinney, was
recently on trial for the crime. The prosecutors proved
their case and sought the death penalty. I thought that
sounded like a pretty good idea, except that I thought a
thrashing (a slow and tortured death) would be a more
appropriate consequence for the murderer than a
sterile and quick state execution.
You see, the older I get, the more I tend to think in
an Old Testament, eye-for-an-eye kind of way. For
what he did to Matthew Shepard, I don't think any
form of punishment would be too harsh for Aaron
McKinney (I felt the same way about the murderers of
James Byrd). Sometimes in these days of horrific crimes
against human beings I think the harsher the punishment, the better. I am beginning to feel my own kind of
hate.
But Matt Shepard's parents didn't see it that way.
After the guilty verdict, they talked with prosecutors of
forgiveness and moving on, and ultimately accepted a
life sentence instead of demanding another young
man's death.
I am trying to learn from that act of forgiveness.
And it's hard.

A-:

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The Shepards, particularly Judy, Matthew's
mother, have also been speaking out publicly about
hate crimes, and what this past year has meant to them
and their family and friends. And Judy isn't just
talking to try to change the minds of the McKinneys
and Hendersons (the other murderer) of the world, she
is trying to reach the people who remain silent whenever hate raises its head. From that I am trying to
remember what I already know.
I know we won't necessarily change the world by
trying to change the Ku Klux Clan or the Aryan nation,
or the white supremacists or the religious f~atics I've known that for a long time. The way to change the
world is one person at a time, starting with your own
family, your own neighbors, your own friends.
The way to stop the groups who hate is for everyday people (including Christians who believe we are
all God's children) to say Enough! We will no longer
toleratethe hate and the killing!
The people who can make the difference are the
people who know hate is wrong, but who don't think
it's their problem - the people who empower haters
through their very silence, the people who turn and
look away when someone goes berserk and kills or
maims an innocent human being. We are all in this
together, and we need to start taking care of one
another.
Judy Shepard has found a way and a strength to
lead, to forgive her son's murderers and to try to turn
her pain into something positive in the world. She has
forgiven the men who killed her son, but she remembers what they have done, and she is seeing that others
remember also.
That's a lesson we've learned from history, whenever we care to remember it. It is good to forgive, but it
is by remembering that we can ensure it never happens
again.
Judy Shepard is my shining Christmas star this
season, as I learn from her about forgiveness and
remembering, and· turning to positive action instead of
toward my own feelings of hate.
- Mel Wltite

Small steps, making progress ...

DENVER APPROVES A REGISTRY

A TROLOGY
by Stacy Chandler

For Lucky Lesbians born under the sign of

SAGITTARIUS
(Nqvember 22- December 21)
Archery by court, is not your sport.
Acclaims you abhor; medals you adore!
Thy name lives evermore,
as well as legends before.
All of your adventures
become enchanting folklore.*

At the end of last month, Denver City Council
approved a registry for committed, unmarried couples.
The vote was unanimous, and witnessed and celebrated by a number of same-sex couples (who gave the
Council a standing ovation).
Filing with the registry is not the same as being
married, nor will it affect inheritance rights, but it is a
step in the right direction to protect the rights of
committed couples (whether they are gay or straight).
Denver's new registry is the second one in
Colorado (Boulder did it first). The state of California
also has a registry, as do 35 cities and 25 states nationwide.

Get your free autographed copy!

HAPPil..Y EVER AFTER
by

Stacy Chandler

,. Be warned: The views expressed above do not
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$12 ppd.
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P.O. Box 99038
Troy, MI 48099
ISBN 0-9639185--0-8

Award winning Lesbian poet

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Beloved Muse
$7 each (signed copies, includes postage/handling)
Rainfever Productions
% Wilson, 390 W University #26
San Diego, CA 92103

Change of Fonnat
Partly because it's the new Millennium and I feel I
ought to do something different, there will be a change
in format for this newsletter starting next month
(mostly, though, it's because it will be much easier for
me). Instead of printing on 11X17 paper and folding it,
I'll be printing on 8.5Xll and folding that. The newsletter will arrive in your mailboxes the same size as
now, but when you open it the pages will be smaller.
You'll still get the same amount of stuff, and I'll also
continue to put tape on the end and leave off any
mention of the word lesbian or gay on the covers. - Mel

Jr

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Reliable reputation, established 1974.
Free, prompt information. Women
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Send us your favorite affirmations and we'll share them with everyone.

I am a gift-giver to the universe.
Holidays and giving don't have to be equated with commercialism. Thinking
about the tradition of offering presents, I reflect on giving the intangible. I give a
gift of myself to those I love whenever I share my time, my energy, my thoughts,
my feelings. When granted without reservation, these gifts are truly priceless.
In my same-sex orientation, I deal with a world that often discounts what I
have to offer. Today I affirm the special talents and wisdom I bring to the benefit
of all around me. Moving beyond the desire for acknowledgment of my gifts, I go
about my living .without apology; My reward is the satisfaction of being able to
contribute. I off er the gift that is me to the universe. -_
•
- Eleanor Ruth Wagner in Lavender Reflections

Reminder:
Measuring yourself by anyone else's process,
achievements or life circumstances
is a violation of your own veiy tender, delicate being.
Remember, always, each of us has:
different lessons we're learning, different learning styles
and different inner timetables for our own unfolding.
Robin Posin from Rememberings and Celebrations,
a 64-card deck of
Loving Reminders of the Great Mother's Voice

Our Je/r lov~ and our lov~for our IJ(ilj/ J,4ft"er;,,and brother;,, ar~ the, car~ of
our rev~~
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The Queen Of England
Quentin Crisp, who died November 21, 1999,was
Gay History itself. His early 1968 coming-out autobiography, The Naked Civil Servant, made for a role model
where there was none, for crossing the gender lines as
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in which he was, at age 90, still touring. Born in 1908,
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19201s and 30s, a feat in those days nothing short of
suicidal. Although the lesbigay community will
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grand in the hole. How can I get her to give up
these money sucking schemes?
Signed, Shirtless

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calculator to see if and how this idea is going to add
up. If it looks good, you'll have to go and get 100
pounds of chinchilla chow and 400 pounds of
shredded newspaper. If it doesn't add up, send her
back to the salesperson who talked her into this
scheme.
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I want to be non-traditional for the holidays this
year, because Scrooge has bitten me in the butt.
Will bolts of lightening get me if I try this?
Signed, Rebel

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I hope not! Breaking with tradition gives you
more of a feeling of control over your life at this
time. You'll be surprised that with just a little effort
(no TV, no paper, no phone, no relatives) you can
completely overlook any holiday season you
choose.
-SS

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(no this is not a Letterman spoof)
Press Pass Q a professional
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the top 10 gay-related news
stories of 1999. Here are the
results:

SCHIZOPHRENIA: Do you Hear What I Hear?
MULTIPLE PERSONALITY DISORDER: We Three Kings
Disoriented Are
DEMENTIA: I Think I'll Be Home for Christmas
NARCISSISTIC: Hark the Herald Angels Sing About Me
MANIC: Deck the Halls and Walls and House and Lawn and Streets
and Stores and Office and Town and Cars and Russes and Trucks
and Trees and Fire Hydrants with boughs of holly
PARANOID: Santa Claus is Coming to Get Me.
PERSONALITY DISORDER: You Better Watch Out, I'm Gonna Cry,
I'm Gonna Pout, Maybe I'll tell you Why ...
OBSESSIVE-COMPULSIVE DISORDER: Jingle Bell, Jingle Bell,
Jingle Bell Rock, Jingle Bell, Jingle Bell, Jingle Bell Rock, Jingle Bell,
Jingle Bell, Jingle Bell Rock, Jingle Bell, Jingle Bell, Jingle Bell Rock,
Jtngle Bell, Jingle Bell, Jingle Bell Rock, Jingle Bell, Jingle Bell, Jingle
Bell_Rock, Jingle·Bell, Jingle Bell, jingle Bell Rock, Jingle Bell, Jingle
Bell, Jingle Bell Rock, Jingle Bell, Jingle Bell, Jingle Bell Rock, Jingle
Bell, Jingle Bell, Jingle Bell Rock, Jingle Bell, Jingle Bell, Jingle Bell
Rock, Jingle Bell, Jingle Bell, Jingle Bell Rock ............(better start
again)
PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE PERSONALITY: On the First Day of
Christmas My True Love Gave to Me (and then took it all away).
BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER: Thoughts of Roasting
on an Open Fire. •

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1. Matthew Shepard's murderers
trial and conviction
2. New Jersey Supreme Court
strikes down Boy Scout's (antigay) policy
• 3. Canadian Supreme Court
strikes down the heterosexual
definition of" spouse"
4. Openly gay Jim Hormell
becomes Ambassador to
Luxemborg
5. Britairtends ban on gays in
military
6. California passes domestic
partnership bill
7. Gay issues are prominent in the
2000 presidential campaign
8. Falwell meets with Mel White
(the gay guy, not the editor of this
newsletter) and activists, and
agrees to tone down rhetoric
9. Congress fails to pass hate
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10. United Airlines surrenders in
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