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THE OTHER SIDE: ANOTHER LOOK AT PARENTHOOD 1 7
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Lesbians In The Arts • Books, Music, Movies, Etc. 25
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The ISTews
From Around the Region,the Country & the World
ofage,"said Rochelle."It is absolutely
Lesbian Health Care
critical that all women,including lesbi
Focus ofTask Force
ans,and regardless of age,have acces
Coalition
sibility to screening coverage."
Gay and Lesbian Task Force(NGLTF)
hasjoined the Breast Cancer Coalition,
American Cancer Society statistics
show that more than 25 percent of all
women who get breast cancer are be
a national advocacy group, to increase
tween 40 and 49.
WASHINGTON,D.C. - The National
awareness of and response to lesbian
breast cancer and other health issues.
Created in February 1991, the Breast
Cancer Coalition is comprised of can
cer, women's health and grassroots
Dallas To Host 5th
Annual TLC
women's groups to advocate for health
DALLAS - The Fifth Annual Texas
improvements in the area of breastcan
cer. Among other initiatives, Belinda
Lesbian Conference(TLC)will be held
in Dallas in the spring of 1992.The first
TLC was held in Dallas in May, 1988,
Rochelle,NGLTF health issues lobby
ist, is advocating for greater education
and awareness of lesbian breast cancer
followed in succeeding years by con
ferences in Houston, San Antonio and
and a broadening of mammogram re
Austin.
imbursement guidelines.
The conference will feature nationally
Rochelle points out that many lesbians
known lesbian speakers, workshops,
exhibits, dances, entertainment, film
do not routinely cwisider breast cancer
exams and thatinsurance policies often
are not broad enough to cover them.
festivals and other events of interest to
"Most women only visit a physician
All women are invited to help plan the
1992 TLC. If you would like to help,
because of reproductive health needs,"
says Rochelle."For some lesbians that
is not a concern and therefore they do
notvisitadoctoras often as they should.
the lesbian community of Texas.
please contact Rose Podilla at (214)
621-3202 or Elizabeth Harvey at(214)
823-7672.
Some lesbians may only go to a doctor
when they are sick, and unfortunately
that might be too late."
2nd Annual Lone Star
The Coalition is currendy pressuring
Women's Music
Blue Cross/Blue Shield to reexamine
its decision to limit mammogram and
Festival Coming In
screening coverage reimbursement to
October
asymptomatic women ofa certain age.
"BlueCross/Blue Shield should notlimit
coverage only to women over 50 years
AUSTIN - The 2nd Annual Lone Star
Women's Music Festival (LSWMF)
will be held near Canyon Lake on the
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Guadalupe River(mi October 11,12&
13. The festival will offo'a variety of
music to suit every taste, including;
country, blues,jazz,and rock and roll.
Prices, including camping, are $58.71
(tax included)for tickets purchased af
ter September 1st or $65.00 plus tax at
the door. An optional meal ticket will
also be offered for $21.35 iiKluding
tax. Meal tickets are available only in
advaiKe and will cover Friday supper,
three meals on Saturday and breakfast
and luiKh on Sunday. A vegetarian
menu will be available upon request
Tickets can be purchased from your
local bookstore or by mail from
For moreinformation the puUicis urged
to attend the dedication or call the new
SALSAlineat(512)733-1225.Lambda
Student's Alliance can also be reached
by writing P.O.Box 12715,San Anto
nio,TX 78212.
Foundation For
Human
Understanding
Scholarsbips
Available
LSWMF,P.O. Box 2650, Austin, TX
DALLAS - Organizations in Dallas are
joining together to develop the Dallas
78768.
Gay and Lesl^ Community Scholarsliip Fund, also called the "Lambda
Scholarship".
Lambda Student
Center Dedication
Created in 1990,the Lambda Scholar
Slated
ever,due tolackofapplicantstheschol
arships will probably be rewarded dur
ships are to be awarded during Gay
Pride Week in June ofeach year. How
San Antonio-TheSan AntonioLambda
Students Alliance(SALSA)will dedi
cate it's new Lambda Students Center
at 1140 West Woodlawn Avenue («i
Sunday,September 1st at 1pm.
The center islocated in aformer garage
^lartmenton the grounds ofthe Metro
politan Community Church and will
(Hovide office and meeting space for
student programs.
ThisfallSALSA willinstitutea weekly
schedule at the new center. Monday
nights will be devoted to litoary activ
ism with readings,reviews,discussions
and writing projects. Friday evenings
are designated for screening lesbian
and gay progiamson VHSfonnaL Other
days the Center will be available for
special events and reservation by cam
pus and student into'est groups.
ing the Texas Freedom Parade festivi
ties in September in Dallas.
The goal ofthe Dallas Gay and Lesbian
Community Scholarsh^ Fund is to
award scholarships to in^viduals who
reflect the diversity oiour community.
Students are eligible when they have
completed 60 hours of college study.
Students in all fields of study are eli
gible.
Applications may be requested from
sponsoring CHganizations and by writ
ing to Lesbian Visionaries, P.O. Box
191443, Dallas,TX 75219. Donations
to the scholarship fund may be sent to
FHU Lambda Scholarship,Dallas Gay
Alliance Credit Union, P.O. Box
190712, Dallas,TX 75219.
September 1991 • Dimensions•Page 9
Conference attendees willalso hearfrom
Linda Morales To
Laurie Eiserloh, Executive Director of
Address Conference
theLesbian/Gay RightsLobby ofTexas.
DALLAS - The Coalition of Lesbian/
The conference will be held at the First
Gay Student Groups, an organization
of lesbians, gays and bisexuals at col
Unitarian Church at 4015 Normandy
on Saturday, September 21st in Dallas
from 9am to 6pm. Conference atten
leges and universities in the Southwest
will hold its second conference in Dal
dees will march in the Texas Freedom
Parade on Sunday.
The conference is open to everyone.
las. The conference, titled "Beyond
Tolerance: Diversity in Our Communi
ties", will bring together 100 people
Registration fees are: $10 for students
and youth under 21,$15 for all others.
from Oklahoma, Arkansas, Louisiana,
New Mexico and Texas for a one day
For information, call(214)621-6705.
educational and inspirational event.
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HoustOT activist and Texas Sodcwny
Law co-challenger,Linda Mcxales,will
give the cqjening address.
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meetings will feature topics of interest
to the Lesbian community and will be
held monthly.The September program
is titled "Making It Last", and will
feature three Lesbian couples who have
HOUSTON -PLANETEARTHPRO
DUCTIONS is bringing Olivia Rec
ords recording artist Deidre McCalla
to the University ofStThomas Jones
Hall on Saturday, Sept 14th at 8pm.
Houston guitaiisl/singer Edna Garcia
been together for atleast ten years talk
ing, and answering questions, about
their relationships.
will also ^jpear. Tickets are priced on
a sliding scale firom $10-$20 and are
availableatINKLINGS and atthe door.
NEW MEXICO -Women On The
DALLAS -LmUEFEATHER PRO
DUCTIONS willpresentHunter Davis
in concertat the Metropolitan Commu
nity Church-Dallas at 5353 Maple on
Saturday,Sept 21, at8pm.Tickets are
$10 in advance ($12 at the door) and
Water(WOW),a weekend offun,con
certs, workshops and friends, will be
held at Elephant Butte Lake, Sept. 13-
15. The First Annual Semi-I^ofessional Scramble Golf.Tournament,
will be held in conjunction with WOW.
available at CURIOUS TIMES and
CROSSROADS MARKET.
Fcb"mweinfo,call505-744-5431.Don't
SAN ANTONIO - The Annual Gay
HOUSTON - The Women's Group
Fiesta will be held in San Antcmio on
Sunday, October 13th in the Villita
A^mbly Hall located at Presa and
Villita Streets, firom noon to 8pm. AdmissicMi is $5. The event will feature a
raffle, fashion show as well as lots of
entCTtainment For moreinformation or
to volumes to help out,please contact
Eva Pope at(512)225-4715.
b®W ORLEIANS - The First Annual
pnUT FEST will be held north of
New Chleans November 14-17. The
women's spirituality festival will fea
ture workshops,arts and crafts and en-
tertmnment 180 beds (indoors) are
available at the campsite. For more
infOTTiation,call(601)896-3196.
DALLAS-LESBIAN VISIONARIES
will host it's first"Share The Vision"
meeting on September 20th. These
put it off!— space is limited!
will presertt Carla Bradley, a lesbian
ther^ist,talking aboutcurrent psycho
logic^ thought in the area of sexual
orientation on September 8th at the
First Unitarian Church, Sojoumer
Truth room.For more information,call
Iris at (713) 529-8571 or Laura at
(713)529-1886.
DALLAS - Women's Activities of
MCC Dallas will hold its second an
nual Women's Arts and Crafts Festi
val to be held on Saturday,Nov 9th. If
you are interested in selling your arts
and crafts at the festival, please call
MCC at(214)526-6221.
NEW ORLEANS - The Vieux Carre'
MCC will host an Evening of Music
on Friday,SepL 13th at7pm.A variety
of musical t^ent from the Church's
musical department as well as from the
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New Orleans community will be pre
sented. Funds raised will go to buy air
conditionersfor the Church's new build
ing.
a dance bar, will open on Sept 14th.
This month atthe PLAZA,you can also
enjoy The Hoedown at the PLAZA on
Sept. 6th, Live Entertainment every
Thursday at MS.B'S and Happy Hour
FT. WORTH - Theresa Trull will be
in concert on Sept. 14th at Orchestra
all night long on Tuesday thru Thurs
day and Sunday at the RANCH!
Hall (4401 Trail Lake Dr.) at 8pm.
Tickets are $12 in advance($15 at the
door)and available atCONNECTIONS
and CROSSWORDS bookstoresin Fort
Worth and at CURIOUS TIMES in
Dallas.
ARLINGTON - You've been waiting
DALLAS - Be sure to check out the
faceliftatDESERT MOON!They have
new pool tables, dart games and lots
more fun — all this to help the celebra
tion as they enter their 3rd year! Be
sure to say Hello to Jeanene and David
while you're there.
for it! Farron will be in concert at
Fatsos Burgers and Blues (428 E.
Lamar Blvd.) on Weds., Oct. 30th at
9pm.Tickets are $10 and are available
by calling (817) 461-3287. Seating is
very limited and many tickets have al
ready been sold,so call for reservations
ARLINGTON - If you are looking for
some great coimtry music don't miss
Country & Western Newcomer of
The Year 1991, Shelby Lynne, at
ROPERS on Fri., Sept. 13th. Tickets
and tickets now!
are $24.50 and are available at the bar.
The show is to celebrate ROPERS first
DALLAS - The Oak Lawn Band will
anniversary and will start at 10pm.
Doors open at 8:30 for general admis
begin its eleventh concert season with
sion ticket holders.
An Afternoon at the Pops! on Sun.,
Sept. 15th at 3:15pm at MCC Dallas.
popular motion picture soundtracks,
AUSTIN/SAN ANTONIO - The girls
at NEXUS have been busy for the last
month. In addition to the original
Broadway favorites,etc. — no Mozart
NEXUS-Austin, they now bring you
orBach this time!Tickets are$5and are
available atCURIOUS TIMES or atthe
NEXUS-San Antonio & PHAZEII in
Austin! NEXUS S A is located at 8021
MCC Dallas Bookstore. Future con
Pinebrook(formerly"The Circle")and
will be opening in mid September.
The concert will feature tunes from
certs include:A Christmas Fantasy on
Sat, Dec. 7th, and A Celebration of
Our Heritage on Sat,April 28th. The
band will also participate in the Les
bian and Gay Bands of America
(LOBA)conventioninHouston on Sept
28-29. For more info, call (214) 826-
PHAZE II, Austin's newest dance club
is open now at 117 San Jacinto. Spe
cials atPHAZE II include Steak Night
withMargie on Wednesdaysfrom 7pm9pm, Latina Night on Thiusdays and
After Hours on Saturdays.
8608.
HOUSTON - The PLAZA has yet an
other bar opening in September. XTC,
September 1991 • Dimensions• Page 13
ROPERS
5000 Sq. ft. for
Fun & Dancing
with the Best in
DJ Music with
Toni&J.C. <
Professional C&W Donoe Lessons
Every Sunday & Tuesday Night With Jay
Ropers is Proud To Present
Country & Western
Newcomer Of Ttie Year 1991
SHELBY
LYNNE
In Honor of Ropers First Anniversary
Friday • September 13tti • 10pm
Doors Open At 8:30pm
General Admission Tickets — $24.50
Available At The Bar
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Dear
Answers to your questions about love,
RELATIONSHIIPS & PERSONAL PROBLEMS
Dear Agnes,
I am an old(er) lesbian. Why does it
matter ifI'm old or older? Why is there
such a fear of touching, talking, or ac
cepting older people in the Gay World?
community is no exception. This is
partly because we haven't had very
many olderrole models to identify with.
This attitude will hq)efully change as
the members of our community who
I am attractive, professional, etc. I am
have been "out" all their adult lives
also a Christian and fun to be with. I
lesbians. We are here and we want to be
grow older.I don't see people crawling
back in their closets and slamming the
door just because they have reached a
out there.
certain age.
I honesUy prefer someone my age(five
One place you mightlook for supportis
an organization called Old Lesbians
Organizing Committee (OLOC). This
organization is designed to help you
fmd and organize older lesbians in your
area. They will provide you with ideas
as well as support. For more informa
don't see any clubs or groups for older
yearseither way).Most younger women
think when I talk to them, I am "after
them".Ijust wantto be a part of the gay
world, and feel accepted when I walk
down the street or go in the bars.
Is there a place for lesbians like me? I
honestly feel I have a disease because
I'm older. I could have cosmetic sur
tion you can write to: OLOC,P.O.Box
14816,Chicago,IL60614.Good Luck!
gery just so I would be accepted, but I
don'treally want to do that.I can dolots
Dear Agnes,
of things financially, but all I want is to
be accepted.
Should I just not give a damn? Should
Igetoutthere,wrinkles,age and all,and
hold my head up high?
OLD(ER)LESBIAN
North Texas
I just saw Thelma & Louise — for the
third time. What a great movie!
I can assure you that the criticism this
movie has received is directly related to
the light in which men are portrayed(a
true picture in my estimation). I don't
guess it has occurred to these critics that
women are almost alwavs portrayed as
victims and/or sex objects. I guess it
Dear Old(er),
isn't pleasant to have the shoe on the
You already have the answer... Get
out there, "vmnkles,age and all", and
hold your head up.Don't have cosmetic
surgery unless it is really something
you want to do for yourself.
American society, in general,is preju
diced when it comes to aging, and our
other foot
The reason I am writing is because the
Hollywood community has already de
clared that Thelma & Louise is not a
"hit" because it has only made $50
million. In my view,it is a hit, and will
probably be a cult film.
September 1991 • Dimensions• Page 15
My point is that we, in the women's
the box-office is what counts. A movie
community,should supportthis kind of
that becomes a "hit" on videotape
film. Women are consistently paid less
in Hollywood and women over45 years
ofage have hell getting any work at all.
Couldn't we start a boycott of male-
doesn't have the same impact as a box
dominated films? Just imtil the salaries
for actresses are increased and studios
see fit to produce more "women's"
films.
What do you think?
Sign Me A'Thelma"
office hit
Just like everywhere else, money talks
in Hollywood. The only way more of
these kinds of films will be made is to
pay up and see the movies we like more
than once,and to keepour money in our
pockets when it comes to male-domi
nated films that portray women only as
sex-objects and targets of violence.
In The Making
Austin,TX
Dear Thelma,
My money andsocialconscience are on
your side.
Thelma & Louise is an excellent ex
ample of the"Wg budget", genial re
lease films we need to support I have
seen it twice and can't wait to see it
again. After all, the money received at
Write To "Agnes"
WITH Your
Problems At:
P.O. Box 856
Lubbock, TX 79408
Second Annual
Lone Star Women's Music Festival
a women's retreat
October11-13,1991
Celebrate Amazon Nation with us under the stars. Centrally located on the
Guadalupe River near Canyon Lake. Three days and nights of camping
under the stars and music featuring:
Girls In The Nose/Diana Jones/Steph Pappas/Betty Elders/
Susan Cotton/Nancy Scott/Laura Love/Emily Kaltz/
The Therapy Sisters/Lara LInette/Beth Freeman
Tickets $45 before 9-1, $55 after 9-1, $65 at the gate
Further Information and tickets available at
AUSTIN
Book Woman
HOUSTON
Inklings
Celebradonl
DALLAS
Curious Tbnes
Crossroads Maiket
Chicago House
Or
LUBBOCK
Ellle's Garden
NEW ORLEANS
Faubourg
Marlgny
Bookstore
by mail from LSWMF•PC Box 2650• Austin, TX 78768
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THE OTHER SIDE
Another Look At LesbianParenthood From The
Perspective Of The Non-Biological Parent.
Editor's Note: This Article Was Written In Response To The Article "Baby Boom"In
Our July 1991 Issue. The Author Wishes To Remain Anonymous.
For the past 3 1/2 years,I have been in
a very troubled,but untilrecently,seem
ingly determined, lesbian relationship
with an incestsurvivor. Approximately
two years ago, in spite of all the prob
lems in our relationship, we decided to
have a child through artificial insemi
nation. Approximately one month ago
(one month before our daughter
rights to custody of Nancy. And even
this will wouldprobably not protect my
rights if it were challenged in court by
Carol's family.
Moreover,Iam powerless to stop Carol
from changingher willif she chooses to
doso.Infact,Ihaveno legalrights even
to visitation.If Carol, or possibly later,
her family, were to decide not to allow
♦Nancy's firstbirthday and two months
after we had begun therapy to help our
relationship) my partner *Carol, the
biological Mother, packed all our
daughter's furniture, all her toys, and
even all her food one morning whileI
me to see Nancy at all.
was at work and moved back "home"
with Carol's mother.
Now that Carol and I are "divcffced"
However, many straight families begin
this way — with one partner desper
(Carol wrote, "IfIcan no longer justify
a lesbian lifestyle to myself, how canI
justify it to Nancy in a healthy way?")
not only is Carol resisting my seeing
Nancy frequently ("How will you ex
plain that to her? It's not 'normaliz
ing.'") but she is also seriously consid
ering changing her will to replace me as
Nancy's legal guardian in the event of
Carol's death by naming her sister's
family as legal guardian to Nancy if
something were to happen to Carol.
Before we hadNancy, Carol andIwent
to a lawyer to set up wills that would
give each other power of attorney, pro
tect our rights to each other's property,
and that would protect my rights as a
parent, so that if anything happened to
Carol,I would become Nancy's legal
guardian.
Except for this will, I have no legal
Carol defends her recent actions con
cerning Nancy and me by saying that
having a baby was something she had
always wanted to do but something I
had never even considered before.
ately wanting children and the other
partner ambiguous yet supportive —
and no one would think of limiting
visitation or denying custody to a
straightparent, even a "non-biological"
straight parent on these grounds.
I fear that Nancy's lesbian ties, espe
cially her ties to me, may be phased out
of her life, andIampowerless to change
this if it is the case.
Ihave been a good Assistant Mom to
Nancy.Ilove her as my own.Ican think
of no legitimate or healthy reason for
our visitations to be restricted or for me
to be phasedout of her life or her phased
out of mine. She has bonded with me as
her secondary caretaker,and theknowl
edge that she andImust lose this bond
and the fear that we might lose each
other forever is the greatest painIhave
ever known.
Right now,Iam allowed absolutely no
September 1991 • Dimensions • Page 17
tions; she took me to the Gay and
say anymore in Nancy's life and how
she is raised. I mustask permission for
the time I spend with Nancy,for evoything I do with her, and I must accept
Carol's decisions gracefully. I have
learned that ifI try to"have a say" or if
I press for more time with Nancy, my
time with heris restricted even more.In
spite of all this, Carol has said that she
would never stop Nancy and me from
seeing each othCT. I desperately hope
Lesbian Rights March on Austin; and
she is even mostly "out" at work.
Not to mention that when we first had
Nancy,Carol was so sure,so strong,so
detoreined to be honest with Nancy
right from the start about our lesbian
ism that1 had toface my own homopho
bic fears aboutjob security. Neverthe
less, 1 had to agree that total honesty
form the start was best for Nancy.
this is true.
However,last May Carol told me that
YetI can't help but be afraid Mother
hood has changed us both. Motherhood
she was having second thoughts about
being honest with Nancy. Carol had
been,and stUl is,getting much closer to
her family since Nancy's birth,and she
feared that her family's silence, their
unwillingness to be open about our les
bianism,would confuse and negatively
has changed Carol in such a way that
neither she nw I know who she is. The
homophobia that has crept into her,in
between us, and it ^^pears inevitably
will creep into Nancy, is something
neither of us expected to happen from
within our relationship, firom within
our own family.
When we first talked about having
Nancy,we tried to discuss every angle,
every obstacle,every possibility. What
Ifeared most(and to alarge extent what
I feel has happened,especially considCTing our histories ofemotional incest)
was that Carol would become so en
meshed with our child that she would
have no room left for me.1 expressed
thisfear to Carol,but usually we would
both become so defensive about it that
we never truly explored it(Thatshould
have been a signal to us both,1 guess.)
Butone thing we nevCT even discussed
—one thing we never feared would be
an issue — was the possibility that
motherhood would tap into hidden
homophobic fears that we didn't even
5"°w existed within us. Neither of us
had any idea that homophobia would be
an issue, especially for Carol.
For the past fifteen years of her life,
Carol h^ been very strong about her
lesbian identity,and fw the past five to
ten years,she has been a lesbian activ
ist She has given"coming out"talks to
college classes and to feminist conven
affect Nancy,and it would be better for
Nancy if we were also silent, at least
until Nancy was old enough to ask and
understand the social implications. 1
was shocked and greatly frightened by
this change in Carol, yet my own
homophobia led me to agree with this
new plan.
(Carol'sfamily was always very nice to
me, and although all was known but
unspoken by the adults and substantial
efforts were made to conceal the truth
from the children, I'm not sure that
Carol's family wouldn't have tried to
be more "open" — fw Nancy's sake,
for Carol's sake,for our sake—ifwe'd
ever been brave enough to actually ask
them to do so.)
So far, Carol has allowed me to see
Nancyasa"friend",1guess.Shedoesn't
know yetwhatsheisgoing to tell Nancy
aboutme.She says atleast I'll be repre
sented as the person who helped Carol
find the courage and strength to have
Nancy.Thatis only a small consolation
to me right now.1 wanted to help raise
Nancy in an environment that truly nur
tures the female spirit, respects female
rights, and values female strengths.
The only place 1 have truly experienced
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this is within the beauty, power, and
wisdom ofthefeministlesbian commu
nity.
Yet Carol is right; if she can no longer
justify a lesbian lifestyle to herself,she
will not be able tojustify it to Nancy in
a healthy way.
She nee^ time to sort things out.Carol
is a good perscsi and a good Mother.
visit the child and on what conditions
he or she may visit. After the child is
three years old, typical visiting privi
leges include the following: one full
week at Christmas;every other year for
each holiday other than Christmas;and
every first, third,and fifth weekends of
each month.)
Mostimportantly,if you are the lesbian
She is a stitMig, moral woman with
partner of someone who wants to have
amazing powers to survive and to heal
herself. I am praying that she will pull
through for Nancy and me — that she
will stand upfw Nancy's and my rights
a child, please beware that parenthood
will test and continuously stress your
to be important in each other's lives.
Meanwhile, however, I must wait and
live in fear that Carol may allow herself
and Nancy to be sucked under by the
potently homophobic and sexist values
relationship, p'obably ch^ge you and
definitely clmge your partner. I was
told by many people that it is suppos
edly normal,or,atleast,extremely com
mon, for new mothers to become so
obsessed with their babies that they are
of the patriarchy, and that Nancy and I
imable to give love or energy to anyone
else for awhile, especially their part
might even lose each other forever.
ners.
If you are the lesbian partner of some
one who wants to have a baby, my
advice to you is to go to a lawyer and
draw up more than a will—both of you
draw up and sign acontract—an agree
ment to co-parent with specific stipula
tions for visiting rights and child sup
portin case of"divwce"as well as legal
guardianship custody rights in case of
death.
However,please be aware that neither
the will nor the contract will be legally
binding if the biological mother, or
maybe even her family, choose not to
honor them.
My own Mother told me to "hang in
there" with Carol until Nancy was at
least eighteen months old. But I didn't
get the chance. After Nancy's birth
Carol began pushing me farther and
farther away and continued pushing me
away until now she views her"family"
as herselfand Nancy,with meexcluded.
Although I feared this from the start,
and although Ihad neverbefwedreamed
of becoming a parent, I couldn't help
but continue to love Nancy mwe and
more every single day.
Finally, please beware that even if you
have never thought about having kids
(By the way,though some states allow
lesbian or gay couples to adopt some
one else's child,no state so far allows a
gay or lesbian to adopt her or his part
ner's biological child Also, fw your
before,even if,in your wildest dreams,
you never saw yourself as a parent,
more than likely, you will become a
parent, maybe even a Mother, in your
heart, in your mind, and in your soul;
information,typical child support pay
ments make up twenty percent of the
net income of the estranged straight
parent. And typical visiting privileges
do not begin until the child is three
and you will love your child more than
life — more than you have ever loved
before — and you will have no legal
rights,even to visitation,if the biologi
years old. Before three years the courts
away.
cal mother wants to taike your child
^
and the parents get together to decide
how often the estranged parent may
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What A Woru>,
What A Worijd!
ELVIS LIVES!
BY NANCY FORD
Let me begin by saying thatI am not an
Elvis Freak. Admittedly, past expoi-
ously been refrigerated. You know me.
I opened the box. Carefully placed in
ence might categorize me as having
side were individual microwave serv
been a Beatles Freak(how I loved the
Fab Four), a Chocolate Freak (how I
hated those pussey little bumps on my
forehead),and even a SpeedFreak(how
I value my radar detector), but never,
ings of White Castle hamburgers,Ore-
NEVER and Elvis Freak.
I was raised to believe that Elvis Freaks
collectaluminum cans tosave money to
vacation in Graceland with dozens of
cousins,all of whom have"Joe"or"Jo"
as a middle name.Elvis Freaks all have
hair-dos that emulate Nancy Sinatra's
coiffure when she recorded "These
Boots are Made For Walkin'" — and
sometimes not just the women. Elvis
Freaks live in mobile homes balanced
precariously on cinder blocks not be
cause they have to, but because they
want to.
I am NOT an Elvis Freak.
But I do believe The King ain't dead.
It all started on my birthday, which
incidentally is August 7th for those of
you who like to complete your shop
ping early. Among my gifts were a pair
ofsocks that sing"H^py Birthday To
You" when you slap the ankle. Perfect
fora doggeror an Ocktobafestdancer.
Among other assorted loot was a color
fully-wrapped package that piqued my
curiosity to the max in that it had obvi
Ida Tater Tots, and a box of bite-sized
Baby Ruths. At the bottom of the gift
box was a copy of Gail Brewer-Giorgio's best-selling paperback book and
cassette entitled "Is Elvis Alive?" The
accompanying birthday card rea±
"Dear Nancy—Happy Birthday!Now
that you're all grown up, it's time we
tell you the truth: ELVIS IS ALIVE!
We know whatyou're thinking—we've
heard it all before—but the plainfacts
are that The King lives! We're hoping
you're old enough to understand; with
age comes a wisdom and a special
peace from within that enables us to
believe damn near anything.Some have
referred to this as senility; we like to
think ofit as selective reasoning.
"We've gathered together most ofThe
King sfavorite foods; please enjoy a
snack while you read this fact-filled
handbook and listen to the tape.Asyour
blood sugar rises and your arteries
clog thefacts will become clearer. Of
course, we can't guarantee this, but
somefollowers have actually seen The
King while reading thisdocument.Their
secret:a loop tape of"Viva Las Vegas"
andfourpercodans.Butgo at your own
pace—eat,read,listen,eatsome more.
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call everyone "Sonny Red" ifyou like
— that's the way Elvis would want you
to learn thefacts. Enjoy!"
WeU.
I played the cassette. It sounded like
The King, especially if he had been
taped while making a long,LONG dis
tance phone call without the benefit of
fiber optic technology, possibly speak
ing into the receiver through an empty
paper towel tube.
I took a bit of burger,popped aTot,and
thing about this, neither will I. Please
ma'am,don't be cruel.I need thisjob."
Instinctively he placed the box on the
coffee table, picking up a $10 bill, but
leaving the coupon.
"Keep the coupon," he said, winking.
"This one's on me."
Yes,Isaw hisface.Now I'm a believer.
Shaken,I collapsed on the couch. As I
often do when in need ofspiritual guid
ance,I flipped through my Bible to the
passage that was hopefully Divinely
breezed through the Babies Ruth.
intended to calm me. The pages ran
My friend was right. As my glucose
domly opened to the Book of Revela
level rose the living room took on a
tion, chapter 17, verse 8:
ethereal quality. One more Tater Tot
"And the people ofthe earth... will be
pushed me over the edge.I believe The
dumbfounded at his reappearance c^-
King lives.
There wasa knock.I opened my door to
find The King standing there.
He came.I saw. He conquered.
I was aghast, to say the least
Entering the room,but first wiping his
feet on the welcome mat, he spoke.
ter being dead."
You figure it out.
<S
"Nice place you got here, ma'am.Nice
ethereal quality."
Just like Elvis — so polite.
"Thanks," I replied, still aghast I felt
his eyes bore a hole through me, as
though somehow he knew that the LPengorged orange crate in the comer
contained not one Elvis album — not
even "Aloha From Hawaii."
"Sorry aboutthe delay,ma'am.I would
have been here in thirty minutes or less,
but or the way I noticed a stray dog
thatlooked kinda lostand scared,but he
had tags on his collar, so I picked him
up and took him to the pound.He ain't
nothin' but a hound dog,but his family
is iH-obably happy to have him back.
Anyway, here's that large pepperoni
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Only then did I notice the flat, white
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This Month, Tasha Sumner Reviews:
by Judith Aiguire
Second Chance
Jacfqc CaOioun
The sun is dying.This is the premise of
Base by Judith Aiguire, the latest
instruments to arrive at h^conclusions
cause doubts about the accuracy of her
in a growing listofgreatlesbian science
prediction.
fiction.
Into the fray step Antiquity's three pro
Several hundred years in the future,
after the schemes of humankind have
almostobliterated the earthand severely
weakened the sun. Antiquity, Earth's
teges: Morgan, Jaffey and Deirdre.
science-philosopher makesthe startling
announcement that the sun is taking the
last steps towards death. However,
Antiquity's age and her use ofoutdated
Morgan is an artist and daredevil, Jaf
fey is a brilliantengineer now living on
Zeta Base, a planet fashioned in the
pattern of the Earth of times past, and
Dierdre is a biologist determined to
save the animals of Earth. The three
women are involved in a love triangle
September 1991 • Dimensions • Page 25
that dates back to their days as students
of Antiquity.
ZetaBase is a truly imaginative story.
The picture Ms. Alguire paints of an
Earth without trees and a lack of bright
sunlight is frightening and very realis
tic. The only thing I would wish for is
that the book be longer and the charac
ters more defined. The stay itself is
good, but with the ending leading so
obviously towards a sequel, 1 can cmly
hope that it comes soon.
clude Deb fiom family gatherings.
Then Amy finds out aboutDeb's indis
cretion and all hell breaks loose.
Second Chanceis a novelaboutchoices.
Choices we all have to face in one form
or another. The characters here don't
have perfectjobs,perfect lovers or per
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Next, we'll look at .Sernnd Chance by
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Jackie Calhoun. Amy Netzger has re
cently separated from her husband to
live with her lover Deb. Although her
husband has been very understanding
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In addition to the problems with her
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Deb is a teacher,and is left to entotain
herself during summer vacation. The
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Are You
TOO
%
Competitive?
Competition is something that invades
3.A friend invites you to play t^nis
just about every area of our lives. We
with her. She is a much better player
compete for jobs, love and even apart
ments.Ofcourse,some people are much
more competitive than others, seeing
every situation as a chance to compete.
Others would rather avoid competition
all together. Which are you? Answer
than you. You:
a. say no. You don't have a chance of
winning.
b. tell her you'll go only if she'll go
easy on you.
the following questions to find out!
c. go. It'll give you some exercise,
even though you'll get beat.
1. When you find out that a friend has
4.A big social occasion is coming up
received a promotion and is now
making more money than you are,
and you need a new outfit. You:
you:
can't afford it and it doesn't suit you.
b. buy something stylish that you can
wear again.
a. Say nothing and start the big push
for a promotion for yourself.
b. Congratulate her and ask her to
take you to dinner since she's making
so much money now!
c. Congratulate her and offer to take
her to dinner.
2.When your ex-lover starts seeing
a. buy the latest style, even if you
c. wear the same thing you've worn
to every occasion for years. It's fme
and you can't afford anything new.
5. When you are playing any team
sport you like to:
a. be the star player on a winning
someone else, you:
team.
a. develop a sudden new interest in
b. contribute to the team work of a
her.
winning team.
b. could care less one way or the
c. have fiin. Whether you win or lose
other.
isn't important.
c. Are glad that she is happy.
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mind that you don't always have to be
6.You are head over heels for a
woman you just met She is also
outfront.Your friends,lovo^ and fam
take her to the fanciest restaurants
ily will apineciate you more when you
quit trying so hard to be always better
arxi brighter.Letthose around you have
the limelight every once in awhile and
figuring you'll win out cvenuially.
you will all be h^pier.
casually dating a friend of yours.
You:
a. try to always give the best gifts and
b. be yourself and hope for the best
c. give up. You don't stand a chance
anyway.
You know when cutthroat competidon
is called for and when to back ofr. You
7.You believe that what others think
are smart enough to know that the cost
of you is:
a. more important than what you
of winning does not always justify the
reward.Stepping on the toes(and egos)
offriends and co-workersjust to be the
bestis not your style. You would rather
compete on your own merits and if you
lose,you pick yourselfup and try again.
think of yourself.
b.important, but not as important as
your harness.
c. not at all important.
SCORING
3442
Give yourself points as follows:
You have a tendency to give in When
2 point for every"A" answer
4 point for every"B"answer
the going" gets rough. As a result you
often end up settling for the dregs in
6 point for every "C^'answer
stead of dririking some wine.You need
to learn to ask for what you want,and
fightfor it when necessary.You need to
leam to push for recogniticxi at work
If You Scored:
|4-23
Your competitive spirit can be an asset
or a liability. It works great for you
when you are woridng toward some
thing as an individual, but when team
and at home. Your imwillingness to
jumpin and competefor what you want
may be costing you more than you
work is required it can cause you prob
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What's in ih€ stars for you this month?
ARIES
CANCER
Don't blow your money trying to im
press someone during the first week of
Hang on to your pocketbook during the
first partofSeptember.You could be in
fora big shock when major car or home
repairs hit your budget where it hurts.
September. Not only will it ruin your
budget, it won't help the relationship.
After the 16th changes on thejob could
Financial matters smooth out after the
be happening too fast to suit you.Take
yourtime to sortthings outor you could
getbehind."Vacationitis''couldhit you
17th, but then you'll have to deal with
problems on the romantic front Actu
hard towards month's end. A weetend
getaway could get you back on track.
thing to do with you. Outside influ
ences may be harming your relation
ally, the problem may not have any
ship. Find out what is going on and try
TAURUS
to resolve the problem.Take the advice
Love is in the air during the first part of
of a friend toward month's end.
September. This could be the "real
thing" if you play your cards right.
AftCT the 14th try your best to be gentle
UEO
when dealing with a sensitive issue that
has clouded a friendship. Around the
24th you may be forced to choose be
tween woiir and play. See if you can
reach a compromise.Towards month's
gear during the first part ofSeptember.
end an excess of money may allow you
to go on that shopping spree you've
been wishing for all month.Enjoy!
Your career ambitions move into high
Your dedication to moving up the lad-
do* could king.you a raise or promo
tion by the 17th. Your "careo-first"
attitude could be playing havoc with an
important relationship. Try to take her
feelings into account when filling your
socialcalendar for the lasttwo weeks of
the month. You may be able to arrange
an extra day off woric over Labor Day
After an upset on the first, your per
for the two of you to get away together.
sonal affairs will experience a definite
upturn during September.Untilthe 14th
your social obligations will keep you
close to home. After the 14th your ca
reer or business will take up much of
your time and may bring some stress.
You 11 be able to get away and relax
around the 23rd,but the race is back on
toward's month's end. You'll score a
breakthrough on the job on the 30th.
Get out and celebrate with friends.
VIRGO
Opportiuiity will be knocking during
the first partofSeptember,but you may
not be ready to open the door. Take a
good look at what you really want be
fore you take on a project that's not
suited to you. The focus shifts from
work to home after the 14th. A new
"home-improvement" project could be
in the works. Avoid impulsive deci-
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Pi'OpertY of the Cetite.r
sions and consider your choices care
fully before making a major purchase.
UBRA
Take care not to come on too strong
with someone in authority during the
first week of September. Use charm
and politeness to get your point across.
A new romance could be budding after
the 12th. Trust your instincts about
another's motives, they may not be as
noble as they first appear. Avoid burn
ing the candle at both ends after the
20th. You may need to back off a little
beforea relationship gets outofcontrol.
CAPRICORIV
Although yourfinances mightbesome
what limited, your love life is on a roll
during the first week of September.
Business travel will offerpersonal pleas
ure around the 7th, you may make new
firiends or meet up with old ones wher
ever you go. After the 18th you attract
attention wherever you go. Don't let
your popularity go to your head. A
relationship could be on shaky ground
towards month's end. You may have to
compromise to make your partner
happy.
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Money concerns are finally behind yoi>»
during the first part of September. You
have the time(and money)now to con
You'll have to be careful what you say
if you want your private affairs to re
main private during the first part of
September. Work and career matters
centrate on goals you set in the past
After the 17th your career could take
will be the focus after the 15th. An idea
off when you find a new direction for a
you came up with could get off the
stalled p-ojecL Don't get cocky! There
are still plenty of pitfalls to trip you up.
ground and bring you favorable atten
tion from higher ups.However,a prob
lem could arise after the 24th that just
won't seem to go away. Stay positive
and don't lose your cool. Things will
work out for the best by month's end.
promise to suit all parties.
WSOES
A relationship that has been on shaky
SAGrrTARIUS
You'll need to support, not criticize, a
close friend during the first week of
September. After the 9th you'll be able
to mix business and pleasure with ease.
Promoting your social image on thejob
will help you get noticed. A weekend
getaway over the 14th could be just
what you need to recharge your batter
ies. Try to be tactful when dealing with
a problem in your relationship after the
24th. Your tendency to be outspoken
could land you in hot water if you aren't
careful.
A work vs. home conflict could arise
after the 27th. Try to work out a com
ground takes a tum in a positive direc
tion during the first part of September.
After the 8th you may not be feeling
very enthused about your job. But,fa
vorable influences are at work and you
could be in line for a raise or promotion
if you keep your nose to the grindstone.
After the 18th you could be caught off
guard by someone from your past. Be
careful, their intentions are not good.
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PoirmY
From Our Readb?s
MY MOMENTS OF MOMENTS
After the hugs
gentle laughter and tears
after the welconie home meaJ
here in the house of my birVi
I sit cross-legged on the parlor floor
tremt)ling
unwarmed by the fireplace
For now is my moment of moments;
telling my parents about her
my heart pourxfing out the words
with a brazen sleel mill
can't-hear-myself-think sound
They only stare
at my cropped auburn hair
torn faded jeans
young womanhood
lost
in an oversized shirt.
I want to flee their confusion
and hostile fear-brightened eyes
mother's nervous rocking
father's shocked surprise
But now is my moment of moments
rehearsed and rehearsed
brave little confession
that shatters their world
and robs them of long-dreamed wedding plans
carefully wrapped In wfvie lace.
I reach out
imploring
to every memory shared
only to feel my family withdraw
unravelling th^r love from around me
disowning
their only child
in this my moment of moments
here in the house of my birth.
-Maria Veronica Bakkum
Sioux FaHs,SO
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The DmEcroRT
A bsriNG OF Service Organizations, Businesses & Clubs
Clubs
ALBUQUERQUE, NM (area code 505)
organizations
SIfttf Soure* Coop*nrtlv« & Ltsblan RMourc* Lin*
144 Harvard SE-268-2116
Desert Moon - 5039 Wiis - 8294471
Sue Ellen's - 3903 Cedar Springs - 5590707
organizations
AHIrmation - PO Bo* 225831 75222 - 9491546
ARLINGTON,TX (area code 817)
AIDS Resource Cantar - P.O. Bo* 190712 75219
Asians k Friends - PO Box 9142 75209 -392-3339
Congregation Bath El Binah
clubs
P.O. Bo* 64460 752206 - 987-5138
Ropars•3031 S. Cooper St.•467-5628
DaUas Gay Allianca - P.O. Bo* 190712 75219 - 5290144
Dalas Gay/Lssbian Historic Archives
organizations
P.O. Bo* 190712 75219 - 821-1653
Gay/Lesbian Association of UTA
Dallas Gay Youth Group
P.O. Bo* 19348-77. UTA St. 76019•794-5140
300 Turtle Creek Ptaza >116 - 307-7203
DaHas Outdoors - P.O. Bo* 35474 75235 - 2795270
Dallas Tavern Guild • 3900 Lemmon Ave. >220 - 5295292
AUSTIN,TX (area code 512)
clubs
DIgntty/Dallas - PO Bo* 190133 75219 - 2294101
Foundation for Human Understanding - 528-4233
Nt*us-305W.5lh •472-5288
GLAADrtiallas - P.O. Bo* 190712 75219•526-GLAD
organizations
Grace Fellowship in Christ Jesus
Afllmiatlon (Methodist)•7403 Shoal Creek •451-2329
Austin latino/a Lasbian/Gay Organization
P.O. Box 1350 78787•28(«107
Austin Lasbian/Gay PoHtiea)Caucus
P.O. Bo* 822 78767 - 462-9888
Bound By Daslta (Woman's S/M Support Gtoiii)
P.O. Bo* 26683 78755 - 473-7104
2727 Oak Lawn 75219-5292811
Lesbian Infonnatlon Line(UL)
P.O. Bo* 191443 75219 - 528-2426
Lesbian/Gay PoiHical Coalition
P.O. Bo* 224424 75222 - 828-9882 .
Lesbian Resource Center -1315 Skiles - 821-3999
Lesbian Yisleruvies-P.O. Bo* 191443 75219-5284087
Canlaf(or Battarad Woman - Lesbian Group
Metroplex ReputrlicsiB.
385-5181 Of 928-9070(hotftie)
P.O. Bo* 191033 75219 - 941-8114
Gay/Lesbian Studant As«>cialion at UT Austin
Oak Lawn Community Services
458-3971 -Bo*275Te*asUnion 78712-7338
Lasbtan/Oay Rights Lobby - 601 W. 18th St - 474-5475
Lwbian Mothars - Karen - 339-8508
Ltva Wira Productions - PO Bo* 141202 78714
Matropoiitan Community Church
1100 Springdaie Rd.•929-3660
Oasis Ministry - 5555 N. Lamar Blvd. HI01 - 441 -9191
P-Fiag (Parents/Friends Lesbians/Gays)- 328-3830
Sapphlra! - Lesbian Social Groip -1600 S. Lamar
P.O. Bo* 191094 75219-520-8108
Oak Lawn Symphonic Band
P.O.BOX190973 75219-9891751
SDA Kinship(Gay & Lesbian Adventists)
PO Bo* 38454 75238 - 373-8484
WANT(Women In The Arts)289929/ 8293105
Womyn Together - 3920 Cedar Springs -528-4233
DENTON,TX (area code 817)
Watarioo Counseling Cantar
507 Powell 78703 - 322-9654
businesses
Texas Human Rights Foundation
Athena's Attic - books,jewelry, art, etc.
601 W.iethSL-4798473
106 N. Austin St.-5699755
AIDS Legal Assistance 1-800-8296417
The Traahousa (Lesbian Mothers Support Group)
orgahlzations
607 NuecesSt. 78701 - 477-5822
P.O.&*5067 76203 - 382-3813
DALLAS,TX (area code 214)
5900 South Stemmons 76205 - 1-800497-HMCC
COURAGE,Lesbian Gay Student Org.
Harvest MetropoMan Community Church
businesses
Advanced Electrolysis - 3209 Premier Or. >124
Piano, TX 75075 - 424-7147
Business Delivery Systems
14902 Preston Hd. 75240 - 733-1108
Curious Times - Women's Books etc.
FT. WORTH (area code 817)
organizations
Affirmation (Methodist) - 4797837
RESPECT - Gay/Lesbian /Lssociation
828 Hardwood Rd.• HursL TX 76054
4008D Cedar Springs - 528-4087
September 1991 • Dimensions•Page 33
HOUSTON,TX (area cod« 713)
businesses
Inklngt•an ahamativa bookshop
1846 Rich(nond-S21-3369
Clubs
RmkIi•Sei8 Buffalo Spd«fy.•688-3464
Ih.n ■ 9208 Buffalo Spdivy.•666-3356
Washing D.C. 20009 * 2023323483
Tha Fund for Human Dignity
666 Broadway 4th Floor * NY, NY 10012
NORMAN,OK (area code 405)
organizations
Woman's Rtsourco Cantor
P.O. Box 5069 73070
organizations
AIDS FbunUlon •3927 Essax Lana•6236796
AIDSHOnJNE •c/o Swilchboanj•5233211
Gay/Laabian Studants Unhranty d Hauden
OKLAHOMA CITY, OK (area code 405)
organizations
4800 Caffnun-5293211
Oasis tha Community Cantor
Gay A Laafakn Safftchboard
2135NW39lh 73112*528AIDS
RQ 80X66591 77266 *5293211
Norland Siatar Btaourcos,Inc.
Houston Gay Political Caucus
2312 NW 39th 73112 * 5213696
P.a 80X66664 77266•521-1000
Kingdom Community Church•614 E 19th•862-7533
Lambda ALANCN* Lambda Cottar lor Alchoholics
SAN ANGELO,TX (area code 915)
1214Joonna*521-9772
LaabianlGay Studonts^Mlv. Houston Ctoor Lako
2700 Bay Aioa 77058
MatrepoWan Communly Church Of Tha Raaurraetlon
businesses
Books Be.,Inc. * UsbianOay/Altenialiw Bocks
2410W. Avon 76904*942-1544
1919 Oacaluf 8613149
Montroaa CounaaHng Cantor
900 Lovall 1203 77006*5290037
Montroaa PoolLaagua/Billarda*PJ 8638482
PWACoaWon - Houston * 1475 W.Gray 1163 * 522-5428
SAN ANTONIO,TX (area code 512)
Clubs
Naxut San Antonio * 8021 Pin8brook*341-2818
Womynapoeo * P.a Box 980601 770980601
Woman's Sottball Laaguo * 6431 Pinaahada * 8686256
organizations
LUBBOCK,TX (area code 806)
P.O.BOX150006 78212*6844920
businesses
202Holand 78212 * 822-1121
Bla's Gordon * 2812 34th a * 7980680
organizations
Lubbock LaobianXiay Aaisnca
P.O. Box 64746 79464* 7982403
Namaa Projact/lubbock * 7981800 or 744-1957
DIgnity/Smi Antonk)* 202 N.a Mary's * 3493632
Intagdty/San Antonio
RIvar Cly Living HatropoHan Community Church
Lambda Studants Cantor * 1140 W. Woodlawn Ave.
LBA (lasbimi Information SA)* 828-USA (5472)
SALGIA•San Antonio Lesbian & Gay Asserrtily * 733-7300
SALSA-San Amorio Lambda Students Alianca
P.O. Box12715 78212* SALSA Una 7381225
WMWHa Watt Productions - lhaattaco.
San Antonto ADS Foundation
P.O. Box 120113 78212-9313
P.O. Box 504 79408 * 7963880
San ArOonls Tavsm GuiM * 822-2823
NATIONAL ORGANIZATIONS
Atflnnstlon; Unltad Matlwdlats tor LaaWanlGoy
Concoms * P.O. Box 1021 * Evanslon, 160204
AIDS Action Council * 729 Eigllh a S.E. Suio 200
Washington, DC 20003 *(202)5473101
AIDS 900 *1308221-7044
Conforanco For CathoNc Loobiait
Only $30 per
QUARTER WILL LIST
P.O. Box 436. Planetarium Station * Now York, NY 10024
GLAADrtlSA * 80 Varick a #3E * NY, NY 10013
Hats Crimo Lino • 1308347-HATE
Natbnsl Gay Alilanco for Young AduMs, Inc.
P.O. Box 190426
Dallas, TX 75219-0428 *(214)307-7203
National Gay/Lasbkin Clwl^houaa
666 Broathray 4lh Floor * NY, NY 10012
National Gay/Usbian CrWallno
1308SOS-GAYS
National Gay/Lasitian Task Fores
1517 U Street NW
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