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Good News for Domestic Partners
News Media Companies Embracing Benefits
Airlines Take Historic Steps
Washington, DC-The number of news media
companies and associated unions offering domestic
partner (DP) benefits has more than doubled (from 26 to
57) since 1997, according to the National Lesbian and
Gay Journalists Association (NLGJA). Nearly six times
as many media employers offer DP benefits as did in
1994, when NLGJA first researched the scope of
domestic partner benefits in the industry.
These were the key findings announced recently,
and contained in a new directory produced by the
NLGJA v.h.ich tracks the immense growth in the number
of news media employers that offer benefits to the
domestic partners of employees - comparable to those
offered to legally married spouses.
Since 1997, for example, the NLGJA has applauded
the decisions by such leaders as the Times Mirror
Company, the Washington Post Company and most
recently by Cox Enterprises, which publishes the
Atlanta Journal-Constitution, for their decisions to treat
lesbian and gay journalists equally with other employees. The new report also reveals that, in nearly every
instance when companies were asked about the cost
impact of DP benefits, NLGJA was informed the costs
were negligible or that the company did not find it
necessary to track the number - suggesting minimal
financial impact.
"Equal pay for equal work - that's the principle
behind domestic partner benefits. Offering these
benefits is a smart, competitive business decision, and
recognition for all gay and lesbian employees that they
are fully and equally valued in their workplaces. Companies that don't yet offer DP benefits are quickly falling
behind," said NLGJA national board member and San
Francisco reporter for the International Medical News
Group Sherry Boschert, author of the directory. "The
good yet ironic news is that our directory will soon be
out-of-date."
- NLGJA
Fort Lauderdale, FL- Gay travel industry leacers are
cheering the trail-blazing announcements made recently
by United Airlines, American Airlinfs and US _!...i:rways.
All three airlines have decided to offer domestic partner
benefits to their gay and lesbian employees wor:dwide.
By the way, all three carriers are menbers of th:=respected International Gay and Lesbian Travel
Association (IGLTA).
Examples of the employee benerits that wiJ. be
available to same-sex couples thatv,·-ereprevioi:.sly
available only to married couples include healfr. and
dental COVPrazP_.r~11sjo11 su.:rvivor ri-f-'lts,:md !;;:;cl
benefits, among others.
"United Airlines and American ...\irlines, <L!.Jng
with US Airways, together send a pcwerful mec...sage
to
our entire industry," said Aaron Kampfe, Presic2nt of
IGLTA. "They have voted to recognize all their
employees with full respect and equal benefits. :iGLTA
has always championed tearing down the walls of
discrimination while creating a safe, welcoming and
pleasurable travel experience for all ~ys and le;bians.
We are proud to work with these companies an.i to use
their example to encourage others. Ti.ere' s no li:nit to
what we can achieve together."
The three carriers are responsiHe for over :S0,000
airline employees worldwide who v,ill be cover:::dby
the improved benefits program nexi year when :hey are
fully implemented. All three airlines join a stror~ trend
in corporate America where employtrs are incrtasingly
offering domestic partner benefits t0 gay and le;bian
employees. Over all, more than 2,80CUS emplo:,ers
currently offer domestic partner ~fits,
accorc.i:ngto
observers.
- JGLTA
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Write and tell us, and let us shareIfrr.atever
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A Call from the Sappho Project
TROLOGY
by Stacy Chandler
For Lucky Lesbians born under the sign of
LIBRA
(September 23 - October 22)
.Loving more than one for you,
is never the right thing to do!
You try to be fair and balance their pleas.
It's hard being deceitful,
this you will concede.
You must query your wants,
not only your needs.
Now that your heart is full,
you should give up this greed.
,. Be warned: The views expressed above do not
necessarily reflect the aura of the cosmos!
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The Sappho Project is comprised of a group of
professional lesbian artists and academic specialists
whose mission is to build exhibits honoring the ancient
Greek poet, Sappho of Lesbos.
Lesbians! Sappho is the beginning of our heritage.
She is the first great woman artist, and her marvelous
work has survived for over 2,000 years.
To date, our group has built two traveling exhibits
- a small one, shown in women's galleries and bookstores, and a much larger one that has been displayed
in the new Main San Francisco Library to much
acclaim. The exhibits are accompanied by events such
as poetry readings, lectures, slide shows, and workshops. We are continually looking for new venues and
talent for both exhibits. If you would like to help us,
please get in touch. We need your support in a variety
of ways.
In addition, the Sappho Project is sponsoring a
travel event that has never been done before. We are
calling it ComeHome to Lesbos!This tour is designed for
lesbians to stay at Sappho's birthplace on a magical
island in the Mediterranean. The focus of the tour is to
give us a sense of our historical roots and to have loads
of holiday fun. It includes boarding at a lesbian-owned
hotel, a full-moon banquet and exciting excursions on
sea and land with two experienced guides.
Send for a brochure: The Sappho Project, PO Box
20351, El Sobrante, CA 94820. Or call 510-222-4552. Or:
www .lesbian.org/ sappho-project
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I heal myself as I forgive others
Making a response to the injustice I have experienced demands great
strength from within my being. If those who hurt me asked for my forgiveness
and admitted how they have wronged me, it might be easier, but such
repentance is rare. Whether my pain is related to my same-sex loving or some
other aspect of my life, I have been deeply hurt.
Today I look at those in my life I am being called upon to forgive.
Forgiveness is what I need to do for myself, not the offender. The offender is
not absolved of responsibility for what was done, whether or not I forgive,
and my forgiveness does not imply that what happened was acceptable. When
I forgive, I let go of the hate in my heart, and that process cleanses my soul,
allowing me to get on with my life. The chains of the off ender's power over me
are broken, and new health and purity grow within me.
I am ready to embark on a challenging and long journey. I love myself
enough to do it. Let my self-healing forgiveness begin!
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Reminders:
You are entitled to Jove yourself
just exactly as you are ... right now!
When it gets hard,
remember to remind yourself that
it's okay to be different!
To be openly vulnerable
is an act of power ...
to be openly empowered
is an act of vulnerability!
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and Celebrations,
a 64-card deck of
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Dear Savvy Sappho,
I fancy myself to be an outdoors woman. My
sweetie is not. What can I do to get her to love the
great outdoors?
Signed, Paulette Bunyon
Dear Paulette,
You must remember that not all women are
fans of flora and fauna. What may be wonderful for
you may be boring for her. You could try taking her
for short hikes in the woods to see if she will come
to appreciate nature in all its glory, but if you are
extolling the virtues of fresh air and she is asking
you where the nearest mall is, you may have a
problem you can't overcome. Every now and then
you might want to compromise with tickets to the
theater and a stay at a local hotel if camping under
the stars is not her cup of tea.
- SS
Dear Savvy Sappho,
Our bowling league carpools. As luck would
have it, the team captain owns a van. She is a .
rotten driver. There are six posterior imprints in th·e
bench seats from harrowing traffic experiences.
What can we do and not hurt her feelings?
Signed, Back Seat Survivor
Dear Survivor,
Take separate cars. Do not put your safety in
jeopardy to save a few bucks in gas. The team
could chip in and get her driving lessons for
Christmas, or ask her if everyone could take turns
driving her van. If you confront her openly, do not
do it while you are in the van and she is driving.
-SS
This month's Sawy Sapphic Suggestions
by Stacy Chandler © 1999 Stacy Chandler
If you have questions
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moon-map of mountains,
dazzling sun
on scattered villages
reflects, like sprinkled
broken glass
and lakes,
like flattened puddles,
appear to have
a thin,
silver skin-like membrane~
This is how it looks to me
20,000feet
up in the sky.
Later, I thought to myself
while descending toward clouds
spun into think, gauzy
cotton-candy mists,
I can only take
this aerial perspective
for a limited time
before
wanting to plummet
down into your embrace
like a bird
dropped suddenly from sky.
Into your furred, feathered warmth
where the pungent taste
of earth's magnetic resonance
deep within you
chases my dream images
into sleep.
I bring you this,
my aerial vision,
like a twig
of winter's raging green,
like a broken-off piece
of clear blue sky.
© Anne Wilson, 1997
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B lou.;ing Bubbles
by Marilda Mel White
My various businesses take me all over the
Denver metro area these days, and somehow I often
seem to find myself far away from home in rush
hour traffic. And if I had to pick my least favorite
part of any business, having to drive all over
everywhere in traffic would be it.
Shortly after moving to Denver in 1986, I was
riding with a new friend one day on I-25 around five
o'clock near downtown, and she was grousing about
us being in rush hour traffic. I laughed out loud.
True, we had had to slow to 40 miles an hour but to
me, based on my former experiences, that meant we
weren't in any kind of significant traffic at all. You
see, where I had come from - Marin County north of
San Francisco - rush hour traffic meant long and
frequent stops on the freeway, interrupted only by
sporadically making headway measured in inches at
a time.
Back there, I lived about 30 miles from my
work, which was considered a· short commute for
Californians. Fortunately I had an odd work week (I
worked some late hours and often on weekends),
and I could pretty much come and go as I pleased,
which meant I could usually miss rush hour traffic.
If there was some reason I couldn't avoid rush hour,
either in the morning or the afternoon, it meant my
usual 35-minute trip could take up to an hour and a
half. If it hadn't been such pretty country, and lf I
hadn't been on a motorcycle most of the time, I
would have hated that commute much sooner than I
did.
So when I moved to Colorado, I knew what real
rush hour traffic was, and what I experienced in
Denver in the late 80' s was nothin' compared to that.
Now, however, all that has changed since a good
portion of the California population has moved to
Denver to clog up the roads. Nowadays, those of us
who drive anywhere in the metro area know what
real rush hour traffic is too (and no, I still don't
know why they call it "rush" hour when it's the
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slowest drive of the day).
I was glad to move out of central Denver five
years ago to the 'burbs, where I also worked and
where I could drive to almost everywhere I needed
to go without having to bother with stop· lights. I've
been spoiled the last few years by living and working in a town where traffic is hardly ever a problem.
But my life has changed now and I'm back in
traffic - and I know some of you are still in it much
more often than I am. If you' re looking for a way to
make it better, let me share with you the following:
I was in one of the trains at DIA one day when I
heard a woman talking about someone who lives in
the Bay Area. From what she said, traffic is even
worse back there now than it used to be (even
though I thought most of those drivers were here by
now!), and her friend found a perfect solution. This
friend, a woman l'd like to meet some day because I
like the way she thinks, keeps a bottle of children's
bubbles in her car, artd when traffic gets tight and
other drivers get tense and crabby, she blows
bubbles out her car window.
I thought that was such a wonderful idea that I
recently bought myself a bottle of bubbles for traffic
situations. It works! If you don't believe me, try it for
yourself. Next time you're in traffic, instead of fuming and honking and making gestures to other drivers, just send those pretty, frail, colorful, floating
bubbles out through your window and watch for
smiles.
Thanks to a chance meeting in the airport
with the woman who told the story, I got another
valuable reminder that even though there are some
things in life we can't change - like traffic - how we
choose to handle those things is up to us. I've
decided to choose blowing bubbles over shouting
curses or beating on my steering wheel, and I'm
passing the idea on to you in hopes that I see more
bubbles coming from other cars in the future.
Lcw,veru:e,
Photography by Mel White
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