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The newsletter of FRIENDS NORTH OF MICHIGAN, INC., an association of lesbians, gays, bisexuals, transgendered, and their friends
NETWDRKJNQ lf S0 NORTH
VOLUME 14, ISSUE 1
We invite you to the
Third Annual
Friends North
Chili Cook-off
and
Sledding Party
Sunday, February 13, 2000
at Bahle's Wanning Hut in Suttons Bay
from 1:00 to 5:00
Bring warm clothes, sleds, skis, snowshoes, board games,
cards, a Valentine's Day dessert to pass, and friends who
like to play in the snow.
All board members will bring a kettle of chili and the crowd
will vote on the best; the infamous chili crown will then be
passed from last years winner to this years Chili Cook-Off
Queen
Here We Go Again
by Sheila McRae
As some of you may know by now, the TC Human
Rights Commission is lobbying the Traverse City
Commissioners to pass the long awaited resolution to
introduce "sexual orientation" into the discrimination code.
It's a measure that has been long overdue. Many of the
other cities in Michigan have adopted this language into
their discrimination codes, making it safer for gays and
lesbians to work without fear of repercussion if they
venture out of the closet, either intentionally or accidentally.
This is not the first time this measure has been
brought before the commission. It has failed two times
previously, which some believe (myself included) that it
sent a message to the people that it's OK to discriminate
based on the gender they choose as a partner.
Since that time, there has been turnover in city
commissioners. The majority of them have either indicated
or promised that they will support this measure, making this
a "slam dunk" right? well, maybe ...
FEBRUARY 2000
Commissioner Margaret Dodd has been an
outspok~ advocate of this resolution. She stated that "gays
and lesbians are the second most discriminated group in the
country. It has been shown that there are groups who need
to be singled out because history has shown instances of
repeated discrimination." She also suggested (tongue in
cheek) that Traverse City's new slogan should be: "Drive
Slowly and Be Nice."
Commissioner Phill Orth, on the other hand wasn't
so supportive (surprise!). He stated that he never dreamed
he'd be debating this issue when he originally ran for city
commission. He feels that an issue such as this is as
volatile as abortion and euthanasia. (I remind you that these
are issues based on life vs. death arguments!) Again he
reaffirmed his position: he's against this resolution even
though there are enough votes to pass it.
Commissioner Tom Gilbert had no comment.
(Former Friends North attorney by default after Madeline
Thomas passed away.)
The room was packed with people, tensions were
high, and many heroes ventured to the microphone to
identify themselves and speak to the commissioners about
why they support this resolution.
One such hero was an elementary school teacher
named Bonnie who said that she was very afraid to say her
name into the microphone because she could lose her job.
Nervously, she said she would feel safer if her job was
protected and not based on who she loves and she would
feel safer in this community if there were a resolution that
said it's not acceptable to discriminate. Her fear of being
fired because she loves a woman propelled her to speak
about why this resolution is so important to citizens. (Note:
this resolution is just that, a resolution. Thus, unfortunately,
it has no power of law.)
There were many others who spoke about what it's
like to be gay in Traverse City and conveyed many
instances of discrimination that they've encountered.... just
because they have a bumper sticker on their car, have a
different haircut, or just decided to openly state that they are
gay during a job interview.
(continued on page
)
Words from the President
Tom Kincaid
The mission of Friends North of Michigan, Inc. is to provide social,
educational, and support activities and opportunities for the gay, lesbian,
bisexual, and transgendered communities in northern Michigan.
Networking 45° North is the newsletter of Friends North of Michigan, Inc.
For information, write to Friends North, PO Box 562, Traverse City, Ml
49685-0562.
Northern Michigan Help Une 231-946-1804
Web site http://welcome.to/friends.north
E-mail friendsnorth@hotmail.com
Viewpoints expressed in Networking do not necessarily represent those of
the Board of Trustees or the general membership.
Friends North of Michigan, Inc. is an association of gay men, lesbians,
bisexuals, transgendered, and their friends from northwestern lower
Michigan, centered in Traverse City. Friends North provides social
activities, a newsletter, an information line, workshops, a web site, and a
scholarship fund for financial assistance.
Friends North's Board of Trustees is elected each December. Regular
Board meetings are held at Grace Episcopal Church, at the comer of
Washington and Boardman in Traverse City, at 6:30 PM on· the first
Tuesday of every month except July. Everyone is welcome to attend.
Please contact Friends North in writing ahead of time if you have an item
for the agenda. Current members of the Board include:
Tom Kincaid (President): 231-929-2919
Joe C McQuarrie (Vice President): 231-946-2934 JMKokopeli@aol.com
Kirk Mallow: 231-833-5250
Lissa Napora: LissaCMT1@aol.com
The Friends North Newsletter Committee is responsible for the
publication of Networking 45• North.
Newsletter Committee Chair/Editor
Lissa Napora (LissaCMT1@aol.com)
Advertising Chair
Sheryl Layton (trufalogal@aol.com)
Classified advertising and notices are run without charge.
submit your ads in writing.
Please
Display advertising in Networl<ing is available in business card sized
displays at a rate of $25 per space per issue or an annual rate of $125.
Inserts and larger sized ads are available; please contact the Advertising
Chair for more information.
Contributions to Networl<ing are welcome. Letters, essays, features,
reflections, poetry, original artwork, etc. should be sent to Networl<ing 45•
North, PO
Box 562,
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City Ml 49685-0562
(or
friendsnorth@hotmail.com). Networking will not accept material that is
sexist, discriminatory, or sexually explicit. Contributors are responsible for
obtaining permission from those whose names they submit for publication.
Please include your name, address, and a phone number where you can
be reached. If you would like your contribution to be printed anonymously,
please let us know.
When it came time to put pen to paper for this
column I had no idea what to write about ... and then I
went to the TC Commission study session to add
"sexual orientation" to the discrimination code - again.
I am amazed that some of the Traverse City
Commissioners still have their heads in the sand.
Some view the resolution as special rights for
homosexuals. After all, if we are given equal rights,
well, gee, everyone will want them ...maybe even
women and African-Americans. If the City
Commission does not pass the sexual orientation
resolution into the discrimination code, are they
saying, "Yes, it is okay-you can continue to judge
people based on the partner's gender rather on their job
performance or ability?" Doesn't this seem absolutely
ridiculous? I mean, after all these years we still have
quite a struggle on our hands - and speaking of
"struggles," we have a BIG one within the Friends
North organization. A great split is running between
our members.
After 14 years of existence we are in real
trouble - organizationally and financially. And we are
in need: in need of healing the splits that have
occurred and in need of putting our differences behind
us. We need this organization to pull together. We are
in need of volunteers to help with projects such as the
newsletter, the High Tea, the Bike Tour. If you don't
belong to Friends North, please consider joining or if
you do then call me and I will give you something to
do. We are planning a great year with many
fundraisers, with your help and talents we can get back
on track financially.
We've worked too hard and too long to allow
this organization to falter. You, as a membership, have
elected a great board this year that consist of some
very energetic people, but we cannot do it alone.
Please help where you can.
More later .... Tom Kincaid 231/929-2919
Address Changes should be sent in advance to the above address.
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On the Headboard and Beside My Bed
communicates with horses and is daring and
tomboyish. Her father who is sympathetic and
"knows" dies when she is a teenager. Thus Stephen is
left with her unaccepting, cold, unresponsive mother.
There lies one conflict: mother vs. lesbian daughter
(wow, that's a new one). Another conflict is Stephen' s
inner conflict: knowing that she feels extreme joy
loving another woman vs. society's unacceptance
which propels her own question. As Stephen gets
ready to write in her journal, "she could no longer
keep it at bay, this great love, this great pain, that was
Mary."
Well of Loneliness was banned outright in
1928. Hall condemned homophobia and it almost
ruined her career as a writer. Seventy-eight years have
passed, but unfortunately homophobia in families and
in society has not.
Finally, if you are looking for a gift for your
favorite lesbian, My Lover is a Woman is a great
collection of contemporary love poems. Edited by
Lesl' ea Newman (author of Heather Has Two
Mommies and In Every Laugh a Tear), a favorite
writer, this collection includes stories (in poetry) that
span issues of life to death, young love to seasoned
love, health to illness, childful to childless. It
encompasses all that it means to be a lesbian. Even if I
were straight, I would try to find a lady after reading
this collection.
Dianna Johnson
What to write for the Friends North
Newsletter? I thought, books. What better subject,
and who better than someone (like me) who can't
leave her job, as a Border's bookselJer, without taking
something home. My boss has me figured out too, and
has assigned me as a "floater" which means that I
shelve books wherever they need to be shelved rather
than giving me a particular section to maintain. This is
dangerous to my budget! Because I get to see
children's books that my son NEEDS. or fiction that I
need, there's lesbian fiction, erotica, art, books on how
to write and how to hang dry wall and how to build
shelves. Heck, I've even considered taking up
photography because there are so many interesting
instructional manuals on the subject.
So I think that it may be fun to review some
books that I have opened, and are right now face down
on the headboard and beside my bed.
Michael, my nine year-old, came home with a
Scholastic book order that had a set of four My Name
is America books. Currently, we are reading The
Journal of Sean Sullivan: A Transcontinental Railroad
Worker. It is a historical piece of fiction "written by"
a young man who starts working for the Union Pacific
in Omaha, NE as a water carrier. He shares "his
experiences" and the different jobs he has; the battles
with a dish boss to the killing of rattlesnakes with a six
shooter. Michael enjoys it as he learns that things such
as the railroad didn't just appear, or go together as easy
as his Lego train. And I enjoy it because though I
know that it is fiction, it hits me with a lot of history I
know I was supposed to learn as a kid, especially a kid
who grew up near Omaha.
Another book on the headboard is Well of
Loneliness by Radclyffe Hall. This is one of those
books that I am not finishing on purpose because I
don't want it to be over. All I can say is that your
gay/lesbian library is not complete without this 1920's
piece of classic fiction. Yes, it was published almost
eighty years ago, yes the language can be a bit poetic
and flowery, but this writing touches so many issues
that still poke at us (sometimes hard) today.
The main character is a woman, Stephen, who
grows up knowing that she is different. She
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members. It has strict qualifications for membership
including formal education and work experience. Contact
your local chapter of A.S.I.D. for any information
that they may have on file regarding the designer that you
are interviewing.
Working with a designer should be a relaxing and
comfortable experience. Most designers will want to set up
an initial meeting. The designer will want to know the
scope of the project, your lifestyle, your likes and dislikes,
and preferences on style and color. Don't be intimidated. It
is the designer's job to ask questions, so be prepared. The
more the designer knows about you the better they can
create a design that achieves your needs and satisfaction.
Be sure to discuss design fees and a budget. Many
designers will charge a fee based on an hourly rate or they
may offer you a contract. Whether your project is large or
small an interior designer can be a valuable tool and asset.
All too often people think of interior designers as a
large and unnecessary expense. In fact, designers can save
you money, time and frustration. Plus, they can provide
you with endless resources for products and services. The
discounts that many interior designers offer will often offset
the price difference
for a higher quality product. In addition, their endless hours
of experience and knowledge are a valuable resource that
can help you avoid costly mistakes.
Don't be afraid to contact an interior designer early
on in your project as you would an architect. Their insight
is a key in helping to guide and develop your dream.
Interior designers are willing to work closely with you and
your architect, builder and sub-contractors to achieve the
impressive results that you expect.
The overall goal of the interior designer is to have a
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environment. Designers interpret your dreams with talent,
knowledge and expertise and tum them into reality. The
next time you need help to complete your interior goals,
hire a professional interior designer and be prepared for a
fun and exciting partnership.
Why Hire an Interior Designer?
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If you need legal advice you consult an attorney. If
you need health advice you consult a doctor. When you
need help with furnishings and treatments inside your home
or business, consult a professional interior designer. You
may have a mental picture of your dream home or you may
be unsure of the direction. In either situation, consulting
an interior designer can help you achieve your dream. It
can be fun and exciting when you know where to go and
what questions to ask.
It is important to understand the difference between
an interior designer and an interior decorator. Both are used
rather loosely and it is important to know when to use each
term. An interior designer is a professional that has
extensive training. This includes a degree or certification
from an accredited university or technical school. Interior
designers must study architecture which includes but is not
limited to: building codes, wiring, plumbing, building
materials, drafting, and rendering. Designers must also
possess a strong knowledge of blueprints, space planning
and technical symbols. Interior design includes in-depth
study of
textiles, color, furnishings, the history of architecture and
interior design, lighting, business management, and
psychology. The designer is educated in architecture and
building and also has a strong "flair" for
creating quality and visually appealing designs.
The interior decorator, however, does not possess a
degree or certificate for formal
study and has little knowledge of architecture or technical
requirements. Decorators often get their title by working at
furniture, wallpaper, flooring, accessory stores or other
firms which allow them to make interior treatment
decisions because of their work experience. While the
decorator can bring together appealing decor they are
generally not educated about many important details of the
total design concept.
It is very important to interview the interior
designer to determine whether
they are an interior designer. Currently, there is no
legislation in Michigan which prohibits a "interior
decorator" from using the title "interior designer" which
often leads to a mislead client. It is always wise to ask your
designer about their education, experience and background
to get a firm grasp on their abilities.
Another way to be sure that he/she is qualified is to
look for the letters A.S.I.D. after their title. The American
Society of Interior Designers is a professional organization
which keeps records and information regarding its
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2000
PE~SPEQ11VES
Life As Domestic Partners ... Part III
going to ruin my first Christmas with the man of my
dreams!
By: Joe C. MacQuarrie
We went ahead and planned Christmas Eve and
Christmas morning festivities at our house. We had
Kirk's brother and his wife, one of my sisters, and one
of my brothers and his wife, plus a multitude of
friends. I stood back and looked around and realized
that this was my true family! We all had a sense of
unconditional love and friendship together ... and that
is what I now believe a family really is! We then got
to spend Christmas night downstate at Kirk's mothers.
His mother is so wonderful, and she has shown her
unconditional love for me, trying to make up for my
own parents. Although my parents can never be
replaced, it certainly makes a lot of sense to me to
stop, take a minute and look around at what I truly
have! I may not have the "storybook family" ... but
who does, anyway ... besides, I have one that is better!
This past holiday season was truly memorable! Kirk
and I stood out in the neighborhood with our tasteful
and bright holiday cheer! (as if we don't any other
time of year!) I have to begin with the fact that for
most of the decorating in and out I merely supervised
while Kirk put his talents to work!
We lit up the outside of our house with colored
spotlights, a very tall totally red tree, and a 6-foot wide
lit wreath on the side of our house! The inside
consisted of two truly gorgeous trees. We decorated
one in the pride theme of all brightly colored bulbs in
the whole color spectrum. This one was a lot of fun.
We filled it with candy canes and all kinds of fun
things .... It made us feel like kids! The second tree
was a work of art ... Kirk's masterpiece! It was
decorated with grapes, grapevines and purple and
white lights.
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This year I learned what the true meaning of family is
to me, and would like to share it with you. My parents
decided this past summer, after my being out now for
over 5 years, that they couldn't accept my being gay,
and especially now that I am in a loving caring
relationship. This was very hard for me, as I have
always worked hard to hold the family together and
have had the family Christmas gatherings at my house
for several years. I decided early on that this was not
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Here We Go Again
(continued from page 1)
Friends North Gender Society
Expanding Meetings
These testimonies raised awareness that gays and lesbians
have encountered discrimination in it's ugliest form in THIS
city. Thus, passing this resolution would not be considered
whimsical and superfluous.
Yes, there were those who spoke against the
resolution citing that it goes against God's laws ... such as
pedophilia (it seems to be a favorite, but tiring tactic of the
right wing to link homosexuality with pedophilia) and that
it's imposing the lifestyle of the few ungodly people onto
the majority of law-abiding citizens.
With more people everyday coming to the
awakening that their true self lies somewhere on a
continuum between male and female, and with more media
coverage of crossdressing and transgender roles in our
society, the Friends North Gender Society is considering
expanding their monthly meetings.
A recent article has stated that 8% of men in
England cross dress weekly. In many of the far eastern
countries it is even more acceptable. However, in the US,
society has still to allow an individual a comfortable choice
in gender expression. The Internet is helping many men
and women realize they are not alone. There are sites with
thousands of personal web pages dedicated to the "coming
out" of men and women. Most of them have biographies
that help others who have been "in the closet" know that
they are not alone.
Of course former city commissioner Jasper Weese
couldn't let the evening go by without spouting his words of
"wisdom" stating that ''they [gays and lesbians] will do
anything to get recognized and get approval of their
lifestyle." Then he went into the reverse discrimination
argument and wrapped it up by saying that "they don't have
to force their lifestyle on me."
The Traverse City Commissioners will bring this
issue to a vote on February 7th. I would like to encourage
everyone to write the Commissioners individually and
express your support for the passing of this long awaited
resolution.
In the US, polls show that 5% of the population,
whether male or female, regularly expresses the desire to
show the other side of their birth gender. Most transitions
are male to female, but there are growing numbers of
female to male. It is not looked upon as unusual in any way
for a woman to wear work coveralls and boots, but let a
man put on a dress and pumps to express the same feelings
in the opposite direction and people seem to have a
problem.
The above comments are the opinion of the author and not
ofFriends North ...
And Another Opinion ...
Because the desire to cross dress is one that does
not seem to go away, and because there is no cure (it is not a
disease), men and women need someplace to go for support.
The Friends North Gender Society has been meeting once
each month in a comfortable location, but is seeking to
reach out to others in the area who feel they are alone.
Traverse City might be below the national average, but for
every 20,000 males around, 1,000 think about or have the
urge to let their feminine side come out. Of those, if only
one in ten really feels the need to meet with others to
express themselves and/or get support, then we expect to
accommodate 100 people. We welcome them to join us.
In January of this year the Traverse City Board of
Commissioners and the Traverse City Human Rights Board
met jointly for a study session on a resolution that
condemns discrimination based on sexual orientation,
among other forms of discrimination. The meeting was
quite uplifting for a number of reasons. The majority of the
public in attendance was supportive of the resolution. The
majority of the public in attendance was lesbigay or
transgender or the parents of same. A pleasantly surprising
number of those in attendance were youth. Those who
opposed the resolution were appropriately ashamed of their
opposition, even though they half-heartedly offered up their
weak arguments. The majority of the Commissioners were
supportive of the resolution with several being somewhat
gamy about it.
The Friends North Gender Society is self-funded
and publishes a monthly newsletter for members to keep
abreast of local and national gender news and events. We
can be reached at (231) 946-1804 (Help Line), or email
GwenChrist@aol.com.
Thank You, Gwen
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Did You Know ...
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... that the six striped rainbow flag is recognized by the
International Congress of Flag Makers
The word pedophile was only uttered three times and that
was all by the same person. And yes the tawdry argument
of gays and lesbians being an "already privileged class" was
tentatively dragged out for another airing. It all combined to
further convince this newcomer to the area that the people
of this area are indeed the most civilized people I have ever
lived among. It was also evidence of the progress sexual
minorities have made towards more fully participating in
our society. But the job remains incomplete.
... the first rainbow flag was designed in 1978 by Gilbert
Baker, a San Franciscan artist, in a response to a call for a
community symbol
... Baker hand-dyed the colors for the original flag
... the original flag had eight stripes-bright pink, red,
orange, yellow, green, blue, indigo and pwple; the one we
know today has six
On several occasions a member of the board observed there
was little evidence offered of actual discrimination based on
sexual orientation. I believe the lack of people willing to
step forth and offer,testimony regarding discrimination is
more a testament to the dominating effectiveness of the
homophobic abuse we have suffered than the lack of it
having been suffered. Who among us has not heard a
homophobic slur in the last 24 hours. And when we heard it
were we not swept by a wave of icy chill. I urge each of you
readers to prepare an account of the times you have been
punched, kicked, spat upon, robbed, had your life
threatened, had a brick thrown at you, had your property
damaged or were otherwise abused because someone else
perceived you to be a member of our scapegoated minority
and prepare yourself to present the account at the
Commission meeting on February 7th when they are
scheduled to vote on the resolution. I think you can
legitimately include those times when internalized
homophobia kept you from seeking police assistance or
medical assistance because you feared it would only lead to
further abuse as further testament to the brutal effectiveness
of homophobic discrimination.
(continued on page 11 )
.. . the color "hot pink" was not commercially
available, so was deleted from the original
design
... after the assassination of Harvey Milk, San Francisco's
first openly gay supervisor, the 1979 Pride Committee
decided to use Baker's flag, but eliminated the indigo stripe
for sake of balance
... when hanging the flag horizontally the red stripe should
be on top; when hanging vertically it should be on the
left(as you look at it)
... the rainbow flag symbolizes that we, in the gay
community as in society, are a diverse group and for this we
should be proud
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growing up, there is much more to find and fit into
place. There are a lot of things that I did as a
youngster that I wish I hadn't done, and finding the
feelings will help ifl can figure out why I did them. I
am beginning to understand that I was not a very
happy kid to say the least.
Gwen Sanford
Recently, I started reading "True Selves"
Understanding Transsexualism for Families, Friends,
Co-Workers and Helping Professionals, by Mildred L.
Brown and Chloe Ann Rounsley. International
Foundation for Gender Education calls it the "first
official best seller for the TG Community." And so
far, in my opinion, it should be considered as a "must
read" for every transgendered person.
Was that unhappiness due to gender dysphoria,
or was it just a product of the general dysfunctional
family syndrome that we all seem to have? It seems
that I was far more eager to please my father than deal
with gender dysfunction. But then, I had never heard
of such a thing. Scouting, High School sports, macho
type career, I've done all of it and none of it really
well. I was picked on and beat up more often than I
would like also. Maybe that's part of ihe reason I had
extremely low self-esteem.
In an effort to better understand where I came
from, and why I'm at this point in my life now, this
book is jogging my memory back as far as age five.
Memories of standing in my mom's closet among her
clothes, trying them on and feeling the comfort they
gave me came to life. I remember getting caught by
my father when he came home unexpectedly. He
called me a sissy-pan, whatever that is. I don't
remember ever getting caught after that, but dressing
in mom's clothes continued until I outgrew them.
After that, I had to make do with her nylons, panties
and bras (if held together with safety pins in the back).
Her bathing suit worked too. I wore them every
chance I could get. The feeling of comfort in those
clothes is a predominant memory, but I was always
nervous about getting caught.
Obviously, there is a lot more to discover about
my feelings. As a transsexual, I have found the book
"True Selves" to be thought provoking. Having been
in the crossdressing stage too, I believe the book will
be very helpful with self-understanding. And, our
families, friends and co-workers will find it very
enlightening - if they're interested enough to take the
time.
Lesbian Incest Survivor Group
The more difficult part of memory tracing is
recalling how I felt inside. I had always been pretty
good at not dealing with feelings and unpleasant
memories. It was far easier to stuff them into some
inaccessible part of my brain. Although I'm starting to
recall some of those feelings from various times while
LISA, Lesbian Incest Survivors Anonymous
meets on Monday 7pm at Grace Episcopal
Church in the Library. Contact Sheryl 9389865
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SNIPPETS ...
We need your input too. Talk to your Board members.
Write a letter, or send an e-mail if that enables you to get your
ideas across more effectively. Whatever tool works best for you;
please use it to help out here. Your individual thoughts are
important to all of us, and we welcome them. In fact, I believe
that we require them.
What Will It Take
Gwen Sanford
During the past few weeks I have been thinlcing about
how we can come together more as a community. Everyone I talk
with agrees that we need unification, but wonders what will be
the catalyst to bring it about? Would it help ifwe had a monthly
get-together beyond the Board Meeting? Do we need more
dances, sledding parties or potlucks with nothing particular in
mind other than getting to know each other? Perhaps a general
meeting that occurs more frequently than December of each year
would serve us better?
What would it take for us to bury the hatchet we tend to
carry around? Many of us feel wronged by something that has
happened in the past, and perhaps rightly so. Usually, these
issues rise out of misunderstanding, but unless resolved
immediately, will grow to huge proportions and ultimately
transform into intense dislike, and even hatred. And to what end?
Divisiveness only serves those who wish to see us overcome and
conquered. In my opinion, we have too many people out there
against us already, without being against each other. In fact, I
don't see how we would even have the right to criticize other
countries that are at continual war with each other, when we as a
community of lesbians, gays, bisexuals and transgendered are
unable to unite when it is in our unquestionable best interest.
So, what is it going to take Friends? Do we come
together for the common cause of making our life and status as
decent, loving and caring citizens on this planet a little better? Or
do we hide away like vermin, and only come out when we can
take a bite out of someone, and spread the disease of hate and
apathy beyond imagination.
I will understand if you think I'm being a bit dramatic
here, but in my opinion, we need to begin to fill the chasm in our
community ifwe are to move forward. I consider this issue to be
the most important one for the coming year, and as a newly
elected Friends North Board member, join with the other Board
members in some serious soul searching to find ways that will
help draw us together as a community.
Another Opinion ...
(continued from page 8)
While this resolution is not a law with teeth that would
permit legal redress of wrongs perpetrated against us, it is a
forward step in that it is a public condemnation by a
governmental body of discrimination based on sexual
orientation. It removes the perception of governmental
approval from those who would discriminate against us.
As I attended the Pride celebration last summer on the lawn
in front of the State Hospital the irony that as little as 30
years before all of us could have been arrested, stripped of
our civil liberties, committed to that same institution as
mental defectives and subjected horrific tortures based
solely on our sexual orientation was not lost on me. Many
times that day I looked up at those windows and wondered
how many people like us looked out from those windows
and wanted to be free. I wondered what became of them
and how their lives would have been different if they were
living now. When those who oppose the resolution ask why
it is necessary to pass legislation to protect us from
discrimination perhaps the simple answer is because such
legislation is necessary to redress the years of government
sponsored discrimination against us.
Should you choose to keep to yourself during the February
meeting you will be missing an opportunity to help our
allies help us to be a little bit freer. You will be passing up
an opportunity to make history. No part is too small in the
struggle to be free.
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UPQOHING EVENTS
Sledding Party
High Tea
The Lesbian Coffeehouse has changed its name to
Sisters' North. If you are interested in being on the email list contact Sheila at Sheilaintc@yahoo.com. If
you are interested in volunteering, contact Alissa at
. Volunteers are desperately needed to resurrect a
chem-free evening of socializing and entertainment for
area lesbians.
Sunday April 9 at the Traverse City Opera House. Watch
for more info .. .
E-Mail Announcement List
Sunday February 13 at 1pm at the Bahle Warming Hut in
Suttons Bay. See page 1 for more information.
Upcoming Events at SideTraxx
We' d like to remind those of you who have internet
access that Friends North now has an e-mail
announcement list on Onelist.com. This is not a chatty
list, in fact, only the moderator may post messages.
The purpose is to be able to get out last minute
information to those who may be interested. Messages
will be sporadic, only sent when needed, so you need
not fear an overflowing inbox.
Val's Movie Night· Sundays at 7:30 PM
Euchre League-Tuesdays at 7:30 PM
Pool League-Mondays at 7:30 PM
For more info, contact Val at 231-935-1666
If you're interested, please email us at
friendsnorth@hotmail.com. If you are already a
Onelist subscriber, we can subscribe you to the list
directly ... otherwise you will be sent an informational
letter, telling you how to authorize your subscription.
Are you interested in getting something
published in Networking North. Got
something to say? Write to: Friends North at
PO Box 562, Traverse City, MI 49685 or
contact Dianna at huntgoddess@aol.com. Use
your voice.
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made plans for our commitment ceremony and enjoyed
the luxurious bathtub. We decided to pass on hiking
nearby trails, because it was deer season and instead
went to Petoskey to get a jump on Christmas shopping.
David supplied us with maps of the area and
suggestions of plac~s to go and things to do.
A Hidden Treasure In Our Own Backyard
Sheila McRae
Last November, Dianna and I celebrated our
one-year anniversary. Neither of us could afford to
take time off from our jobs to vacation out of state, so
we consulted our Friends North newsletter and saw an
ad for The Bellaire Bed and Breakfast. We have good
friends who've stayed there and recommended it
highly. That week we made the reservations for our
long weekend away.
I was really unprepared for the beauty of this
place. The bed and breakfast is a big yellow Victorian
home with beautiful grounds and a driveway through a
tunnel of hundred year old trees. The innkeepers (our
gracious hosts) were David Shulz and Jim Walker
(partners of 15 years). Their place used to be a
residential home and was converted to a B&B by the
previous owners to make ends meet. Three years ago,
David and Jim purchased the home. Since then they've
been very busy redecorating and renovating while both
working full time jobs.
When we arrived, David had a warm and cozy
fire crackling in the fireplace of the living
room/library. We signed the guest book and then
David gave us the grand tour of the house. Because
we were the only guests there that weekend (it was off
season), we were given our choice of any room in the
house.
We saw the Eastlake Room with a sleigh bed
and access to the second story porch, the Empire Room
decorated in British Colonial touches with a masculine
color scheme. David showed us the yellow and green
Garden Room, the Homespun Room with the pencil
poster bed and homemade quilts. The room that we
chose however, was the Vintage Room.
That weekend, not only did David and Jim
open up their home, but shared some of their past with
us. They were wed in 1985 before being gay was
really "acceptable" and it was more difficult to arrange
a same-sex wedding. They shared their wedding photo
album, told us stories about "their big day", read their
vows to us, teadsed each other about how young they
once were, and really gave us some great ideas about
our own ceremony.
That Sunday we checked out of the bed and
breakfast. In retrospect, we feel that we got more than
our money's worth for the stay, also we made two new
friends.
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The Vintage Room has a private bathroom with
a beautiful trillium stained glass window, a charming
clawfoot bathtub, wooden floors and spacious sink
area. David and Jim provided the bubble bath and
candles. Dianna was thrilled because the bathtub was
long enough for even her.
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On Saturday, we speint the morning
accomplishing the goals we had set for our retreat. We
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Throughout the weekend, I was continually
amazed with the amenities that were furnished. For
example, when we returned from dinner on Saturday
night, a complimentary bottle of (nonalcoholic)
champagne was waiting for us with a Happy
Anniversary card attached. There were fresh baked
cookies tempting us from the night stand-chocolate
chip and macadamia white chocolate chip. We knew
that breakfast was part of the weekend package, but we
did not expect a European Continental breakfast. The
gourmet dishes were bountiful. We enjoyed Cherry
Iced Scones and Peach French Toast w/ Peach Syrup,
sliced meats & cheeses and Cherry Orange Muffins.
Whatever we couldn't eat, David would wrap for us to
take along on our outings. He was also gracious
enough to give us a copy of his secret recipes.
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All classified advertisements and announcements are run free of charge.
Please submit your ads and announcements in writing to Networking by
either postal mail (PO Box 562, Traverse City Ml 49685-0562) or e-mail
(friendsnorth@hotmail.com).
Ongoing Announcements
QUESTIONS ABOUT HIV AND AIDS?
Call locally (231 -94 7-1110) 24 hours a day. This program is sponsored by the
HIV/AIDS Wellness Networks-Grand Traverse Area and is staffed by Third
Level Crisis Center.
REPORT HATE CRIMES!!
HANDS-PETOSKEY
HANDS is an HIV/AIDS Network located north of Traverse City. They are
currently seeking volunteers in the northern lower peninsula and eastern
upper peninsula of Michigan. HANDS is a non-profit organization that has
committed itself to helping and supporting the needs of HIV-infected persons.
HANDS offers a number of services, including support groups, education,
public awareness, and one-on-one friendship support. Volunteers are
urgently needed in the Alpena, Gaylord, and Rogers City areas. If you would
be interested in the program, please call 231-526-9213.
NORTHERN MICHIGAN WOMYN'S CHOIR
The Womyn's Choir is always looking for new voices. To obtain more
information or for a performance schedule, contact Deb at 231-276-9357.
Call the Triangle Foundation at 1-888-442-9287.
P-FLAG
GRAND TRAVERSE COUNTY HEALTH DEPARTMENT
The GTCHD's Reproductive Health Clinic is open to women and men of all
ages. Confidential services provided are physical exams, HIV counseling
and testing, pregnancy testing, sexually transmitted disease testing and
treatment, all methods of birth control available, free Norplants, DepoProvera, IUDs, and condoms. For more information about these and other
methods, which are charged on a sliding fee scale, call 922-4630. Services
are by appointment only.
Groups
COMMON VOICES: THE FRIENDS NORTH RAP GROUP
Common Voices is a group of men and women who get together monthly for
informal discussion, often on a particular topic. Common Voices meets on
the second Wednesday of every month at Grace Episcopal Church, 349
Washington, Traverse City, at 7:30 PM. For more information, call Tom at
231-275-6127.
This is a network of parents, friends, and families of lesbians and gays who
meet monthly to offer information, support, and a place to talk with others
about the issues concerning them. Gays and lesbians are also welcome and
encouraged to attend P-FLAG meetings. Meet at Grace Episcopal Church
every third Wednesday of the month, at 7:00 PM. For more information, call
Patrice Stewart at 231-933-6628.
TRAVERSE CITY FRONTRUNNERS
If you are interested in running, call Kirk or Jim at 933-5250 and leave your
name, number, and a message indicating that you are interested in
Frontrunners. You will receive a return call with meeting times and places.
All ages and abilities are welcome.
TRIANGLES AND RAINBOWS
A group of lesbian, gay, straight, and bisexual students at NMC who believe
that celebrating diversity is fundamental to a healthy community and future .
To help or participate, call T&R at 231-922-1673 or send e-mail
(t_and_r_group@hotmail.com).
FRIENDS LIKE US
UNITARIAN UNIVERSALIST CONGREGATION-PETOSKEY
This Alpena-based group reaches out to lesbians, gays, and bisexuals in the
northeast Michigan area. Informal potluck-type gatherings are generally held
monthly in Alpena. In addition, interested participants sometimes plan
occasional field trips. Call Brad Vauter at 517-354-0841 for more information.
Meets at the Concord Academy, 2230 E . Mitchell St. Services are held on
the first and third Sundays of the month at 11 :00 AM. Call 231-347-8916 for
details or write to PO Box 873, Petoskey Ml 49770-0873
FRIENDS NORTH BOARD OF TRUSTEES
For people with HIV or AIDS, and they welcome you to attend . Please drop
in Monday evenings from 6:00 to 7:30 PM at Grace Episcopal Church. Every
fourth Monday of the month, the Significant Other Support Group meets at
3301 Veterans Drive, Suite 221, just north of South Airport Road. For more
information, call 231-933-0279.
The Friends North Board meets on the first Tuesday of each month (except
July) at 6:30 PM at Grace Episcopal Church, on the corner of Washington
and Boardman. All are welcome.
FRIENDS NORTH GENDER SOCIETY
This support group includes cross-dressers, transsexuals, transgendered,
and those somewhere in between. Meetings are held on the third Saturday
of each month. Spouses, friends, and SOs are also invited to attend this
smoke- and alcohol-free environment. Call 231 -946-1804 for more
information.
WELLNESS NETWORKS SUPPORT GROUP
WINDFIRE
This is a local youth support group for teens and others under the age of 25,
which meets on a weekly basis in an atmosphere that is comfortable and
friendly. Please contact Third Level at 231-922-4800 or 1-800-442-7315 for
location, date, and time.
Lesbian Incest Survivors Anonymous
GAY ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS
Meetings for gays and lesbians are held each Wednesday at 5 :30 PM and
Saturday at 11 :00 AM at Grace Episcopal Church. For further information,
call John at 231-922-0746 or Hilda at 231-938-9294.
LISA, Lesbian Incest Survivors Anonymous meets on Monday 7pm at Grace
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Sheryl
938-9865
GLSEN
The Gay, Lesbian, and Straight Education Network is meeting monthly in
Traverse City. They welcome all interested educators. For more information,
call M'Lynn at 231-943-5050.
THE PETOSK EY GROUP
A social group for lesbian, gay, and bisexual persons is meeting weekly in
Petoskey. The group meets at 6:30 PM on Wednesdays in the Noggin Room
of the Perry Hotel. For information, contact nm at 231-348-8151.
222 E. Front Street
Traverse City, Ml 49684
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STATE AND NATIONAL HOTLINES
LOCAL SPIRITUAL
Department of Justice Hotline ............................................................ ...............800-347-4283
Gay/lesbian National Youth Hottine ................ ....................................800-347-TEEN (8336)
Michigan Wellness Networks ............................. ...................................800-872-AIDS (2437)
Triangle Hate Crime Reporting ............................ .............877-7-TRIANGLE (877-787-4264)
Circle of the Sacred Earth: Rev. Nancy Hayward ............................................. 231-223-7999
Journey in Light Ministries: Rev. Linda L. Wilson .............. ............................... 231-271-2529
Unity Church: Rev. Geraldine Colvin ................................................................ 231-938-9587
3600 Five Mile Rd., Traverse City Ml 49686
Unitarian Universalist Congregation of Petoskey ............................ .. ............... 231-347-8916
PO Box 873, Petoskey Ml 49770
Unitarian Universalist Fellowship of Grand Traverse: Rev. Emmy Lou Belcher
Home............................ 231-938-9078
Office .................................. 231-947-3117
6726 Center Rd., Traverse City Ml 49686
STATEWIDE SERVICES
ACLU of Michigan ....................... ........ 1249 Washington Blvd., Suite 209, Detroit Ml 48220
Office ........................ 248-398-7105 Help Line ........................................ 800-398-4297
E-mail ..............michiaclu@aol.com WWW ............................. http://michigan.aclu.org/
Affirmations Lesbian/Gay Community Center ......195 W. Nine Mile Rd., Ferndale Ml 48220
Phone ............................................................................................... ...........810-398-7105
E-mail .. Affirmalionsglbt@juno.com WWW ........ httpJ/www.pridenetcom/affirmations/
Between The Lines .. .................... 20793 Farmington Road, Suite 25, Farmington Ml 48336
Phone .......................248-615-7003 Fax ............................................... 248-615-7018
E-mail ............. Pridepblis@aol.com WWW ...... httpJ/www.betweenthelinesnews.com/
Kalamazoo Gay/lesbian Resource Center ..........629 Pioneer Street, Kalamazoo Ml 49008
Phone .......................................................................................................... 616-349-4234
E-mail ...... ......kglrc@geocities.com WWW .................... ............... httpJ/www.kglrc.org
LOCAL COUNSELING
Bay Area Counseling (Petoskey/Harbor Springs)
Margalo Bley, MSW, ACSW ................................... ..................................... 231-348-3161
CDRS (free substance abuse referral) ........ 808-A S. Garfield Ave., Treverse City Ml 49686
Phone ......... .............. 231-929-1315 Toll-Free ......... .......................... ...... 800-686-0749
Third Level ......................................... .................. 1022 E. Front St., Traverse City Ml 49686
Phone ....................... 231-922-4800 Toll-Free ......................................... 800-442-7315
Women's Resource Center ...............................................................................231-941-1210
Susan Breuer, PhD (Banzoniaffraverse City) .................................................. 231-882-4455
Amy Elena Cook, MSW, CSW ......................................................................... 231-932-8699
Daniel C. Doran, PhD, CSW (Upper Peninsula) ........................... ................... 906-635-9263
William D. Gould, MA (Gladwin) ................................ ....................................... 517-426-2351
Rodger Landovy, PhD ..................................................................................... 231-929-1711
Joanna T. Lauber, MA, OTR, CHl... .................................................................. 231-947-8842
Margo Million, ACSW ........................................................................................ 231-947-0511
Elizabeth Most, MSW, ACSW (Petoskey) .................................. .... .................. 231-439-0656
David Rushlow, ACSW, Munson Medical Center ............................................. 231-935-6385
Rod C. Shoemaker, PhD .................................................................................. 517-790-3179
Barbara Jones Smith, PhD ............................................................................... 231-947-1444
Lansing Association for Human Rights .............. ............... PO Box 18062, Lansing Ml 48826
Phone ........... .. ........ .. 517-332-3200 WWW ...... .......... http://www.macatawa.org/-lahr/
Lavender Morning .................................. .-.................... PO Box 50792, Kalamazoo Ml 49005
Phone ..........................................................................................................616-685-6061
Lesbian Connection .................................. .. .................. PO Box 811, East Lansing Ml 48826
Phone ..........................................................................................................517-371-5257
MBS Nexus: Gay Connections in Midland, Bay City, Saginaw, & Surrounding Areas
WWW ........................................................... ........... httpJ/members.aol.com/MBSNexus/
Michigan Pride, Inc. (statewide Pride March organization)
P.O. Box 16191, Lansing Ml 46901 .......................................... .................. 517-371-8466
E-mail ..... pride@michiganpride.org WWW .................. .. http://www.michiganpride.org/
The Network: Lesbian and Gay Community Network of Western Michigan
909 Cherry St SE, Grand Rapids Ml 49506 ......................... . ........ ......... 616-458-3511
Third Coast... .............................................................PO Box 7296, Grand Rapids Ml 49510
Phone ..........................................................................................................616-248-9967
Triangle Foundation
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19641 W. Seven Mile Rd, Detroit Ml 48219 ............ ...................................313-537-3323
Fax ........................... 313-537-3379 WWW ....................................... httpJ/www.tri.org/
LOCAL SERVICE/SOCIALiPOLITICAL
Common Voices: The Friends North Rap Group............................call Tom at 231-275-6127
Friends North ... ................ .. .................................PO Box 562, Treverse City Ml 49685-0562
Northern Michigan Help Line .. 231-946-1804 Toil-Free ............................800-579-8769
E-mail .................. friendsnorth@hotrnail.com WWW ...... http://Welcome.to'friends.north
Friends North Gander Society ........... .. ............................................................. 231-946-1804
GLSEN Traverse City .. ..................................... ............... PO Box 9, Traverse City Ml 49685
Phone ............................................................ .. ............................................ 231-943-5050
Gay Alcoholics Anonymous ............................... ....... Grace Episoopal Church, Traverse City
Call John .................. 231-922-0746 or Hilda ........................................... 231-938-9294
PFLAG Traverse City ............................................................. PO Box 1705, Acme Ml 49610
Patrice Stewart............................................................................................ 231-933-6628
Side Traxx (nightclub) .......................................................................................231-935-1666
Traverse City Human Rights Cornmission ........................................................231-922-4700
Triangles & Rainbows ................................................................................ NMC GLBT group
Phone ....................... 231-922-1673 E-mail ..................... t_and_r__group@hotrnail.com
Windfire Gay & Lesbian Youth Support Group ............. call Third Level for location and time
Phone ....................... 231-922-4800 Toll-Free ......................................... 800-442-7315
NATIONAL SERVICES
ACLU Lesbian and Gay Rights Project
125 Broad Street, New York NY 10004 ...................................................... 415-621-0674
WWW ...............................................................httpJ/www.aclu.org/issues/gay/hmgl.htrnl
Gay and Lesbian Victory Fund
1012 14th Street NW, Suite 1000, Washington DC 20005
Phone .............................................................................. 202-842-8679 or 202-289-3863
E-mail ................ VictoryF@aol.com WWW .........................http://www.victoryfund.org/
GLAAD (Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation)
1875 Connecticut Ave. NW, #aOO, Washington DC 20009 ........... ........ 800-GAY-MEDIA
E-mail ................ .. glaad@glaad.org WWW ............... ............. ..... http://www.glaad.org/
GLSEN (Gay, Lesbian, & Straight Education Network)
121 W. 27th St, Suite 804, New York NY 10001
Phone ...................... 212- 727-0135 Fax ...... ............................ .............. 212- 727-0254
E-mail .................. glsen@glsen.org WWW ..................................httpJ/www.glsen.org/
HRC (Human Rights Campaign; organizers of National Coming Out Day)
91918th Street NW, Washington DC 20006
Phone ....................... 202-628-4160 Fax ................................................. 202-347-5323
E-mail ........... ...............hrc@hrc.org WWW .....................................http://www.hrc.org/
Lambda Legal Defense & Education Fund
120 Wall St, Suite 1500, New York NY 10005
Phone ....................... 212-809-6585 Fax ........................................ ......... 212-809-0055
WWW .......................................... .............. http://www.thebody.com/1ambda/lambda.htrnl
NGLTF (National Gay & Lesbian Task Force)
2320 Seventeenth Street NW, Wsshington DC 20009-2702
Phone ............... ........ 202-332-6483 Fax ................................................ 202-332-0207
WWW ......................................................... ....................................... httpJ/www.ngltf.org/
PFLAG (Parents, FamiHes and Friends of Lesbians and Gays)
110114th St NW, Suite 1030, Washington DC 20005 .............................. 202-638-4200
E-mail ........... ........... info@pflag.org WWW .................................. http://www.pflag.org/
LOCAL HIV/AIDS HEALTH COUNSELING
Community Health Clinic (anonymous HIV testing/counseling, same-day results, no fee)
Phone ................................................................ .......................................... 231-929-1844
Emmet County Health Department (anonymous HIV testing) ......................... 231-347-6014
Grand Traverse County Health Department (anonymous HN testing) ............ 231-922-4831
HANDS (HN/AIDS Support, Petoskey) ............................................................ 800-248-6777
HIV/AIDS Wellness Networks-Grand Traverse Area, Inc.
PO Box 1632, Traverse City Ml 49685
Phone ...... 231-947-1110 Bus. Office.......933-0279
Toll-Free ........ 800-494-1160
Northern Michigan Planned Parenthood (anonymous HIV testing/counseling)
Phone ..........................................................................................................231-929-1844
Thomas Judd Care Center ..... ............................. 1211 W. Front St, Traverse City Ml 49684
Mary Dillinger, RN, Clinical Nurse Specialist... ........................................... 231-935-8140
David Rushlow, ACSW, Social Worker ....................................................... 231-935-6385
Gay? Lesbian? Bisexual? Transgendered?
Have Questions? Need Help?
Call the Northern Michigan Help Line!
231-946-1804 • 800-579-8769
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