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HERLAND SISTER RESOURCES, INC .
1630 NW 19, OKC, OK 73106
VOLUME 4, NUMBER 10
OCTOBER, 1987
Uerland to Uave
A New Uome?
OKLAHOMA CITY - On Monday,
September 21, 1987, Herland
Sister Resources made an offer to the owners of a property in northwest Oklahoma
City. The offer was accepted
and Herland is now under contract to purchase the property located at 2312 NW 39th
Street . Many of you may recogn i ze the address as being
in a part of town the gay
community ca 11 s "The Stri p11 •
There are two build i ngs on
the property wh i ch measures
50 1 by 140 '. With 1062 square
feet in the main structu re and
an additional 360 square feet
in the brick garage, the property contains considerably
more usabl e space than Herland ' s present home at 1630
NW 19th Street .
Collective members are enthusiastic about the prospective new home. Because of its
convenient location, there is
the potential for increased
business . With its proximity
to popular gay gathering places , Herland will be better
able to serve the needs of our
community and engage in outreach activities. Increased
space will bring an increase
in the amount and variety of
store inventory. The commercial zoning and environment
will allow our new home to be
identified with a business
sign on the front of the
building; Something Herland
has been unable to have because of its location in a
residential neighborhood.
HSR, Inc. will b~ able to offer one or two of the rooms
in the main building for rent
as office space . This will
help defray some of the expenses of owning our own property, as well as assist the
local wimmin ' s community by
offering additional wimmin's
services in a convenient location.
As this newsletter goes to
press, it is not decided j us t
what use the brick ga rage area will serve , but i ts potentia l i s enticing, because
i t l ends i tsel f to a multi tude of exciting possib i lities.
The back yard is l arge and
secluded and promises to be
the scene of many outdoor
functions , including our fouder's i nfamous barbcue gatherings.
Ordinarily, commercial
property would be hopelessly
beyond Herland's financial
resources. However, this
commerc i al property, with its
pr ice tag of $35,000 is within Herland ' s grasp due to the
fact that it is in need of
lots of TLC. A Handywimmin's
Special, so to speak, it offers the kind of challenge
Herland volunteers have risen
to in the past . Requiring
the skills of an electrician,
a plumber, carpenters, carpenter's helpers, painters,
and go-fers, this one-o'.-a
kind project vows to bring
us together with an immediate
sense of purpose, a common
goa 1 •• • and e1i cit the many
talents inherent in our mµ l tifarious community .
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A CALL FOR HELP
After several offers and
counter offers on the property at 2312 NW 39th, the
final contract specifies a
10% down payment - $3,500 .
November 30 is our dead1ine . On that date, closing
takes place and HSR t takes
posession of the property •••
pro vided Herl and can · ra i se
the necessary $3,500 .
If you have ever thought
about a donation to Herland
Sister Resources , but have
been holding off, wait i ng
for just the right time to
make it, there will be no
better time than right now.
WHY MOVE?
The reasons for moving
from Herland's present loca tion are many . Two of the
more pressing reasons are
licensing and safety.
cont' on oage 2
To answer Herland's call for
help with your unique skills
and/or financial support,
please turn to page 12.
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Licensing technicalities which have recently developed necessitate Herland's moving
to a commercially-zoned property from its existing residentially-zoned building . The
Grandfather Clause the Bookstore has been
protected under in the past is no longer val; d.
The wellbeing of our volunteers is threatened by floors that are rotting and sinking.
There is an ever-present danger of someone
falling through.
Other less menacing problems include inadequate air conditioning, heating and plumbing.
Customers complain about its inconvenient or
obscure location, and it is questionable how
much longer the immediate owners of the building will rent it to us.
Due to these impending problems, Herland
Collective members have been searching for a
new space for well over a year. With the availability of a commercially-zoned building
with a reasonable pricetag in a convenient
location and Herland's need for a new home,
NOW is the time to make a move • •• •• toward the
collective future.
Will you help?
CHANGE OF ADDRESS?
at HERLAND
OCTOBER 3 and 4
Saturday 8 a.m. to 6 p.m.
Sunday 8 a.m. to 4 p.m.
NEXT COLLECTIVE MEETING
OCTOBER 18
4:30 PM
at
HERLAND
HERLAND'S
FALL RETREAT
(wimmin only!)
OCTOBER 23-25
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at Robber's Cave State Park
So you don't miss out on the fun, sign
up now using the retreat registration
form in this issue of HSR Newsletter.
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PHONE NUMBER (WEEKENDS): 524-7108
GENERAL INFO: 495-4390
794-7464
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list when the Post Office lets us know you
have movedo To insure receipt of the Newsletter when your address changes, please let
us know your new address by filling out and
mailing us the attached change of address
form. This form may also be used to add a
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DEADLINE on all advertising and submissions
is the 15th of each month.
SUBSCRIPTIONS to this Newsletter are free
by calling any number above.
Nancy Day
SATURDAY NIGHT
at the
HERLAND FALL RETREAT
7:30 PM
ROBBER'S CAVE
Nancy Day , composer, performer, writer
of songs that " touch the very depths of
woman - soul, " will be featured in concert at the Herland Fall Retreat.
Opening the concert will be Donna DeSalvo
of Oklahoma City, who delights audiences
with funny stories and original compositions .
The Nancy Day performance is included
with your retreat registration .
If
you only wish to come to the concert
you may purchase a $5 ticket at the
door.
Donna DeSalvo
PSA
cont' from page 4
(Id., p. 20). Thus, Bork would deny first
amendment protection to "scientific, educational, commercial or literary expressions as such." As he put it, "A novel may
have impact upon attitudes that affect po1itics, but it would not for that reason
receive judicial protection."
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To express your op1n1on on Bork's nomination call or write to your U.S. Senators.
In Oklahoma, call Senator Boren's office at
231-4381 and Senator Nickles 1 s office at
231-4941. Or write to the senators at:
U.S. Senate, Washington, DC 20010
From Press Release by NGLTF
NGLTF Executive Director Jeffrey Levi announced that the Task Force will strenuously
fight the nomination as part of a broadbased coalition of civil rights groups.
"Judge Bork has proven himself to be a
biased ideologue, 11 said Levi. 11 His nomination for this position of great power and
trust betrays the American tradition of
fundamental fairness and equal protection
under the law for diverse minorities."
Levi announced a five-part NGLTF strategy to work for the defeat of Bork's nomination. 11 We will lobby the Senate against
the nomination in coalition with the Alliance for Justice and the Leadership Conference for Civil Rights. We plan to testify
at the confirmation hearings. We will work
ha~d to ?uil? constituent pressure against
this nom1nat1on. We'll be educating media
about the homophobia of Bork's decisions.
And, perhaps most importantly, we will be
strenghening our community organizing efforts at the state level, where many of the
legal and legislative battles will be ~ -
Around the Country
MOMENTUM BUILDS FOR
LESBIAN AND GAY RIGHTS MARCH
WASHINGTON - Activists in over 200 cities are organizing to bring thousands of
l~sbians, gays, People with AIDS, and civil
rights supporters to Washington, DC on October 11 for the second National March on
Washington for Lesbian and Gay Rights.
According to Pam David, one of twelve
'.ull-ti~e national staff members, support
1s growing around the country. 11 The march
has already been endorsed by over 450 student groups, labor officials, women's organizations, solidarity groups, AIDS service organizations, lesbian and gay groups
and elected officials, 11 David said.
Early reports indicate a massive turnout
for the March. According to Arthur Scott
"New York City is sending 500 busses, tho~
s~nds of people are flying in from California, and planes have been chartered from
both Columbus, Ohio and Minneapolis, Minnesota.11
Marchers will gather at 9 AM on October
11 at the Ellipse, located at 15th and Con~titution, NW, where a morning rally is being planned. According to Gisele Mills
another full-time staff member, "The Pe~ple
of Color Caucus is coordinating a multicultural event that will involve speakers
as well as music, theatre and poetry 11
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Between the volume of phone call; and
the number of information requests, office
volunteers are being kept very busy, 11 said
Steven Dwyer, a member of the March staff
"We already have 2,000 free and altern:
ative housing.s~a~es for ~eople coming to
the march act1v1t1es, 11 said Michael Resendez, another full-time staff member.
Other key areas being organized out of
the March Office include national logistics
volunteers, housing, media, fundraising, and
the October 13 civil disobeqience action at
the Supreme Court.
For more information on the March contact Karen at 794-7464, or the March headquarters at (202) 783-1828.
From Press Release --March on Washington
fought~ II
NATIONAL TASK FORCE OPPOSES BORK
The National Gay & Lesbian Task Force
(NGLTF) is actively opposing the nomination
of Robert H. Bork to the U.S. Supreme Court.
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. Bork w~s the author of a decision upholding the discharge of a gay Naval officer,
D~o~enberg ~ Zech.
In an opinion that ant1c1pated the Supreme Court's reasoning in
Bowe~s ~Hardwick, Bork held that the right
topr1vacy does not encompass private consensual homosexual conduct.
~ ~ubsc~iber to the far-right doctrine of
11 original
intent", Bork believes that the
Constitution.must be interpreted strictly in
accordance with what the 11 founder.s 11 intended
In addition, Bork's views on the ~irst amend:
ment would dramatically change the kind of
'.reedom of speech we now enjoy under exist, ng Supreme Court deci s fons. For one Bork
believes that 11 The First Amendment 1ike the
rest of the Bill of Rights, appear~ to have
been a hastily drafted document upon which
little thought was expended ". (47 Indiana Law
Journal 1, p. 22, Fall, 1971).
Bork disagrees with the existing test
for political speech which protects people's right to express opinions that are
hostile to the government unless there
is a "clear and present danger" shown
from such speech. Bork believes that
decisions denying the free speech rights
of political dissenters (such as Gitlow
Y...!_ New York or Whitney Y...!_ Californi-a) are
correct because such speech "has no political value within a republican system of
government 11 • (Id., at 33).
Further, Borl< believes that "Constitutional protection should be accorded only
to speech that is explicitly political."
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LESBIAN BATTERING:
SOCIAL CHANGE URGED
Despite its long existence, lesbian battering has only
recently becoae a public concern of the battered voien's 1ove1ent
and of lesbian co11unities. A 1903 NCAOV conference on lesbian
battering and the . subsequent publication of an anthology of
writings on the issue has begun to break the silence on this
painful subject. Woten both within the battered women's 1ove1ent
and lesbi1n co11unities are beginning to tell stories of lesbian
battering and to develop strategies for providing services and
ending the vi•llence. But we are at the very beginning.
We are as 1uch at the beginning as the battered wo111en's
1Jve11ent was in the early '71}' s: analysis and theory and
strategies are still tentative; the need is great; there is fear
and hesitancy; there is little popular support or understanding;
and yet a few courageous vo111en are struggHng along to do
soaething to save lives, even if it isn't the perfect thing.
Despite the difficulties, there is reason for great hope in this
beginning •)f 01Jr ~·Jrk 1 for we have the p•Jssi bi Ii ty of learning
from the successes and errors of the past 15 years of the
bat. tered \11011en ' s move!'.lent ..
It see~s a second chance. It is for this reason that I want
to stri!:e a note of aiar1 here, a \Ila ming about some of the
things I see be1~inning to happen acriJss the country a!!l•Jng people
\ilho work \Iii th battered lesbians.
I ieel the greatest thing the bat.tered woMen's movement has
done is to provide support for the e111power1ent •lf battered wo;en
and con·;e·~uently for all i!l•Jmen. The vay it provi•jed this support
has been simple: the first llas to bring' 1:1•:i11en together in
sheiters \I/here they C•JtJld talk t1Jgether in groups and to realize
for the firs~ ti1e that they were not alone, that the violence
was not their fault, and that their batterers had 1uch in co11on.
It was radicalizing for woaen to learn that there is a syste1 of
belief in our society that supports battering. Fro1 this
recognition , battered wo1en rn11e to understanding that battering
was about pm1er and control, and not ab•Jut sickness, stress,
alcoh Jlis1, co-dependency, or the failures •Jf wo11en.
The sernnd thing the aovement did was to recognize that
battered woaen are the pri!!lary source of all we can ever know
ab•Jut battering. Their stories are the truth of the 1ove111ent. !Je
recognized that not only do battered W•J11en hold the truth of
their lives but they also hold the answers to what they want and
need. The 1ove1ent, at its best, took a clear position that it
was not shelter workers' role (or that of anyone else) to give
battered women answers or to tell the• what they should do. The
result, of course, was deeply empowering.
And finally, the 1ove1ent rn1e to understand that the way to
end violence. was to create a world that did not per11i t it. It
reco9nized all the ways that violence is fostered through systeas
of sexis1, racis1, ho1ophobia, anti-Se1itis1, classis1, etc., how
those syste1s support a batterer's sense of orivileae. and how
those syste11s converge in a battered woaa~'s life : lie saw
i11ediately that we could not work on--battering as an isolated
pheno11enon between two people. To bring about an end to violence
against vo11en, we had to seek a societal solution.
But n•l'f we see the M'~e1ent divided in the pursuit of these
goals. !!any people have aliowed battered W•)len's programs to be
defined by funders and consequently have 1oved away f ro1
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i ndi vi dual e1power1ent Uirougfi group participahon and organizing
and ~ave turned instead toward the deli very of services that
assufle battering is an individual proble1 (or a faaily systea
problem) and offer 'treataent' for the vich1 and cqunseling for
the abuser. It is a 1ental health approach that views ba\tering
as a disease that can be cure9 by professional counselors.
It is here that I want to strike 1y note of alar1. As we
now begin providing services to battered lesbians and seeki 1g
ways to prevent lesbian battering, we are finding that the fit ~'
people to aove in to 1eet the needs of lesbians are 1ental health
professionals. (Let us be clear here that the issue is not that
someone is a 1ental health professional but that she uses a
mental health approach to lesbian battering -- an individualiz~d
approach that does not lead to group analysis and action about
the larger issues •Jf violence that k,eep battering supported in
our society.) The 1ajority of services we hear about are
. one-on- Jne therapy •Jr support groups led by therapists and both
services require that the victi1s pay which of course prevent ~
many wo1en fro1 getting help.
There are several reasons that 1ental health professionals
are 1oving first to fill the need for dealing with lesbian
battering. A 1aj•Jr reason is that battered woaen's shelters,
because of ho1ophobia and fear, are not willing to take on the
issue. If shelters are unwillin·~ to consider battered .lesb,ians
as battered lfOll!en, then the 10st appropriate place for lqatterel:!
lesbia~ to receive services is within the lesbian co11unity. · I ~
is here that. battered lesbians should for!I · support groups (for
free, facilitated by the1selves); it is here that all lesbians
should take •Jn the issue of lesbian battering and develop
analysis, do public educati•ln, and develop strategies to
eliminate battering in our co111unity. However, due to the strong
denial in the lesbian co11unity, ie have been slow to take this
issue on and consequently it has not felt safe for battered
lesbians to be public.
Therefore the need is being aet by therapists who have
private practices and enough safety to provide individual
services in the privacy of their offices. They are the people
!!lost readily available to 1eet the needs of wo1en experiencing
violence at the hands of their foved ones. But because th:e
violence is seen as a disease, in 1any instances the batterers
are receiving 1ore attention and services that the victias. We
are facing here what we are facing in the battered vo1en's 1ove1ent as a whole: we can offer counseling to individuals foreve•
(and probably sustain a good inco1e frot it) but we will do
little to change the systet of belief and behavior that continues
fo provide us abusers and victims.
But with lesbian battering we are at the beginning and have
a se(l)nd chance . We don't have to repeat the 1istakes of the
battered wo11en's 1ove1ent. Our plea is for lesbian rn11unities
to end denial about lesbian battering, to learn about H directl·1
froa battered lesbians, to begin offering safe places fo1
battered lesbians.to 1eet in support groups, and to organize to
end this violence atong us . As part of this, we ask those
therapists MW involved with lesbian battering to beco1e
p•Jli ti cal, to organize with the co111uni ty, t•J seek gro1Jp and
societal solutions, to take a social change as well as individual
approach . And finally we call on battered wo11en's programs to
work to eli!!iinate ho1ophobia and t.•J make shelters safe places for
battered lesbians where lesbians can be both safe fMm their
abusers and safe fro1 the abuse of ho1ophobia.
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THE METROPOLITAN OKLAHOMA CITY CHAPTER OF THE NATIONAL ORGANIZATION FOR WOMEN
IS BACK AT WORK - AND NEEDS YOUR HELP!!!
NOW's purpose is to take action to bring women into full participation
in the mainstream of American society now, exercising all privileges and responsibilities
thereof in truly equal partnership with men.
The members of NOW have recharged
their batteries and are ready to move
ahead in their campaign for the equal~
;ity of women in Oklahoma. OKC NOW is
involved in the following projects:
The Oklahoma Equity Fund - Dedicated
to helping women in Oklahoma fight
discrimination. Seeded with $500 from
the state NOW, $1200 has been sent
to help Martha Steger with a lawsuit
against the Ada school system.
Steger, one of three applicants
for the post of assistant vice principal, was denied even an interview.
Lawyer Referral Service - Designed
to put women in touch with feminist
lawyers, often at reduced rates, especially to pursue child support, divorce and othe·r legal action where
The next meeting of the OKC NOW
will be at 12:30 p.m. Saturday, Oct.
10 at the YWCA at 415 N.W. 5th.
women are at a disadvantage . .
Town Meeting on Domestic Violence Still in the planning stages is an OKC
NOW-sponsored exchange on ways to combat domestic violence through the legal system, involving representatives
from the District Attorney's office,
Victim's Assistance and Judge
Wallace (who is responsible for protective orders). This meeting will
let women exchange views, air grievances and learn how to use the ~ sys
tem. A time and place for the m~~t 7
ing have not yet been decided.
OCTOBER IS DOMESTIC VIOLENCE NATIONAL AWARENESS MONTH
lightirig the problems of domestic
A coalition of groups will observe
the National Day of Unity Against Doviolerfoe.
mestic Violence starting at 6:30 p.m.
Monday, Oct. 5 at McFarland YWCA on
A bean.dinner to aid Donna Bechtel
N.E. 16th and Martin Luther King.
will be from 5:30 to 7 p.m. Thursday
Speakers will include murder def enOct. 15 at MetroChurch, 4500 E. 2nd,
dent Donna Bechtel and State RepreEdmond. Tickets are $3 from Herland's
sentative Linda Larason. Also tentaor Margaret Cox at 528-0400.
tively planned is a performance by
the Prison Theater Group from Mable
A Plea for Help - If you would like
to help us with these or other pro~
Bassett Correctional Center . Activities will break for a 9 p.m. showing
jects with your time or money, or
for more information, call 528-0400.
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If by some chance she does say "no",
have her watch you while you tie a knot in
a cherry stem with your tongue. (you should
practice this for at least three hours a day
for five days prior to attempting it in pub1ic.) This should impress the waitress beyond belief. Ask her out again. If she
still says "no", repeat the cherry stem
trick over and over and over again. Keep in
mind that the more you do this trick, the
faster you will get.
Before you know it, you will have gained
so much attention from other women that you
will forget all about your 'cute waitress'.
She should have said "yes" when she had the
chance.
Go For It!
Ima
Dear Readers,
My name is Ima. It is my pleasure to
announce an addition to the HSR Newsletter:
My column entitled Just Ask Ima. I hope to
create an enjoyable reading experience for
a 11.
I will be including categories such as:
Advice to the Lovelorn, Ima's Personals,
and Helpful Hints, to name a few.
Do you have a question that you wouldn't
even ask your therapist? Would you like to
let that special or not-so-special person
know you are thinking of them? How about
that new recipe that you were dying to make
for the last potluck, but just couldn't
find the time? Send it in. Someone else
might bring your special dish to the next
potluck. Thereby giving you the opportunity to finally taste it.
Send your questions, messages, helpful
hints, recipes or anything else that tickles
your fancy to: Just Ask Ima, c/o Herland
Sister Resources, 1630 NW 19, OKC, OK 73106.
Friends, this column is for you to have
fun with. I hope to hear from you soon. I
will do my best to answer as many letters
as po.ssi bl e.
Sincerely,
Ima Dyque
P.S. Please include only first names or initials for personals/messages.
!MA'S PERSONALS
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*To the cute waitress at D.J.'s: You'a.f
better be nice to Mso Desperate. Sounds
1i ke she could be quite a woman.
* Rumor has it that someone is going to try
organizing a Gay & Lesbian marching band.
It's time to get out those old instruments and polish them up. No details yet,
but watch this space and Ima will let you
know how to get involved.
cont' from page 5
JUST ASK IMA
It is not popiJlar or easy to do •)rganizing for sacial
change. In fact, there seems an organized effort to disc redH
it . Instead of lasting social change, our society seeks efforts
of charity to help i ndi vi duals that suffer. We appease our
consciences by paying $i0 and holding hands for 30 11inutes across
A~rica t•) raise money to feed the hungry -- and we do not
eliminate one singl~ cause of hunger or poverty . We play $15 and
g•) to a concert for farmers or the hoaeless -- and we do not
change anything except a few ·individual circu1stances. And we
can then go back tQ oJJr rn1fortable ho1es and feel righteous in·
our effort to help those who experience hardship. These efforts
are on the level of Christ1as baskets for the poor. Th~y 1a~e a
fe~ peQple feel better for a day or two but they do not change
the conditions that produce the poverty or distri1ination or
violence.
When ~e give wo1an after woman individuai counseling, we
help her learn to rnpe with or improve her own circuastances, but
11e d•) not. change the ca•Jses of vi•llence in our society . In"this
battered wo1en's f!love11ent that includes heterosexuals, lesbians,
women of color, •lld and young wo1en, we 1ust renew our co11i t1ent
to change t.he society that creates and supports violence in our
lives.
Dear Ima,
For the last few week-ends, I've been
hanging out at a local dyke hot-spot. See,
there's this really cute waitress working
there, and I'd like to ask her out. The
problem is that I'm really shy, and I don't
know how to get her to even notice me. Any
suggestions?
Desperate at D.J.'s
Dear Desperate,
Get over the shy bit. I can't think of
one good reason why anyone should be shy.
There are many ways to overcome this widespread problem. The most effective way I
know of is to simply pretend you are not
shy.
First of all, before you approach her,
say this to yourself one hundred times:
"The worst that she can say is 'no'. If
she does, it wi 11 be her 1ass!
This wi 11
prepare you for any rejection that may occur.
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- Suzanne Pharr
Reprinted fro11 NCIJOV VOICE
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OOPS!
Local News
August's issue of HSR Newsletter carried an article titled "Smarter Than l~e
Thought?", which discussed research that
showed more women· were turning to women
and away from men for sex, because of fear
of AIDS. Due to the article's unusual
content, there were a number of comments
made by various Newsletter readers
that indicated they believed this 11 news 11 to be a
bit far-fetched. And, indeed, it was.
Lesbian Connection, our source for this
article, admitted in their September/October 1987, issue that this information was
just a little practical joke originating
with May's issue of Off Our Backs. Apparently, LC's editor failed to notice the
author's---rlame beneath the OOB article:
A. Prilfool! A little untimely, perhaps;
Nevertheless, a smashing success!
PIECEWORK BEGINS SECOND YEAR
OKLAHOMA CITY - With the publication of
Piecework #5, a magazine of poetry by women,
Red Dirt Press marks the quarterly journal's
second year. This issue features poet Jane
Marie Leucke, professor of English at Oklahoma State University, and a wide variety of
new poets from across the state.
Red Dirt Press' annual Halloween Bash
will celebrate the upcoming issue and provide an opportunity to meet the authors.
Come costumed Saturday, October 31, at the
witching hour of 8:00 o'clock, to 2544 NW
25th Street, OKC. Receive a copy of the
magazine hot off the press, and an evening
of merrymaking and conjuring. Your $10 admission furthers the written record of Oklahoma women's lives through the efforts of
the press.
For information, call 525-6000 or
946-5395, or write Red Dirt Press, 1nc.,
P.O. Box 60693, Oklahoma City, OK 73146.
LESBIAN POLITICAL CAUCUS
ANNOUNCES MEETING
The Oklahoma Women's Political Caucus
exists to increase women's participation in
the political process, to increase the number of feminist women in elected and appointed positions, to win equality for women
and to support candidates who support OKWPC
goals. OKWPC is dedicated to the eradication of sexism, racism, anti-s~mitism, ageism, violence, poverty, discrimination against the disabled and discrimination on
the basis of religion, and to ensuring reproductive freedom and freedom of sexual orientation.
To meet one of their goals, the OKWPC is
forming a Lesbian Caucus. The Lesbian Caucus is adknowledged by the OKWPC as an affirmative action caucus, and will be represented on the state steering committee to
ensure that all women are represented.
OKWPC invites all interested women to
attend the Lesbian Caucus meeting on November 15, 2 PM at Herland Bookstore.
NATIONAL DAY OF UNITY OBSERVED
OKLAHOMA CITY - On Monday, October 5,
1987, National Day of Unity Against Domestic Violence will be observed at 6:30 PM
at the McFarland YWCA, 1701 Martin Luther
King Blvd. This event will launch Domestic Violence Awareness Month when, across
the country, former battered women, shelters, and supporters draw attention to the
reality of violence in the home and to the
work that is being done to end violence against women.
State Representative Linda Larasen and
former battered woman Donna Bechtel will
headline the event. The Mabel Bassett
Correctional Center Women's Resource Group
will begin a speak-out and the Mabel Bassett Drama Group wi 11 perform. Oklahoma
City songwriter Peggy Johnson will entertain
and a candlelight ceremony will be held to
remember women who have suffered from domestic violence and to celebrate those who
have survived and made new lives for themse 11es.
The YWCA Crisis Intervention Services,
Passage Way Women's Shelter is sponsoring
this event, along with a town meeting later
in the month. Call 232-7681 for additional
information.
Press Release --- YWCA
EXPRESS IONS
Heartfelt condolenses go out from the
Herland Collective to Laura whose mother
died unexpectedly on September 12th, and
to Kathy whose 3-year-old niece died
recently in an automobile accident.
Our thoughts are with you.
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RETREAT WEEKEND RAPIDLY APPROACHING
FALL RETREAT FOR WOMEN
Before we know it that semiannual gathering that so many of us anxiously await
NAME(S) _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ __
will be upon us. Have you mailed in your
registration, yet?
Herland's retreats are for all wimmin.
Those of you who have not yet partaken of
ADDRESS_ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ __
this enjoyment are encouraged to join us at
our Fall Retreat.
CITY_ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ __
October 23, 24, and 25 are the dates to
set aside to leave all your worries behind
STATE
ZIP
and take to the hills for some outstanding
~------------R & R at Robbers Cave State Park. Along aPHONE
bout 4 pm Friday, October 23, wimmin from
Oklahoma and surrounding states will begin
arriving at the Park, nestled in the SansI would 1i ke to help at the Retreat
bois Mountains of eastern Oklahoma, for a
weekend filled with a variety of events and
I can provide
entertainment.
Whether you come for the workshops
I would 1i ke to provide a scholarship
(education), the Open Mic (performing), the
Pot Luck Dinner (fabulous food), the wonI would 1i ke a scholarship
"vf
derful music of Nancy Day (extraordinary
entertainment), the campfire sing-alongs
Deadline for pre-registration is .Oct. l~. 1987,
(burned marshmellows), the chance to meet
Pre-registration
is $17-20; Please pay in
new folks {opportunity!), the elation of
this
range
based
on
your ability. Upon recommunity (sisterhood), the games (exercise),j ceipt of your registration
form, a map to
the camping (bunkbeds & slumber parties),
the
campsite
and
a
reminder
of what to
1
the swimming/boating/fishing (water sports),
bring
with
you
will
be
mailed
to you.
the hiking/horseback riding (more exercise), I
the Cave (Oklahoma history), the Park (the
Deadline for pre-registration is Oct. 18,
great outdoors), or the scenic drive (see
1987. Mail this completed form and your
Oklahoma first), we are certain of one
check to:
thing ••• •you wi 11 enjoy the weekend.
Bring with you: food and beverages (exHerland Sister Resources
cept tea and coffee) for yourself, your
c/o Laura, Camp Director
special dish for Saturday's Pot Luck Dinner,
4924 S. Kathy Drive
toiletries, a flashlight, sleeping bag, and I
Oklahoma City, OK 73135
pillow. Plus any extra goodies you wish to I
bring like sporting equipment, musical in~o~ f:ther ~nfo ~11-(405)-672-4~41struments, games, etc.
Herland would like to thank those of-you
who have already volunteered to help out
with various retreat duties. Your assisWe encourage the exchange of information,
tance at the retreat is very much appreciapersonal opinions on issues of concern to
ted. Anyone else who would like to be a
the Oklahoma wimmin's community, and your
part of this essential and much appreciated
stories and experiences.
group of wimmin may call Laura at 672-4141.
The editor reserves the right to edit and
Pre-registration is $17-20, based upon
condense letters accordin0 to space limitayour ability to pay. On-site registration
tions. Letters should be typed, double.will be $25. Persons wishing to attend the
spaced and signed by the author(s). Include
concert only, may pay $5 at the door on Sat- your address and phone number. If you wish
urday evening. Scholarships are available
to be published anonymously, so indicate,
for those with financial need. Please, let
but include your name, etc., for our inforus know if the cost would prevent you from
mation, in case the editor has questions.
coming to the Retreat, and we will work
Mail or deliver your letters to HSR, Inc.,
something out with you.
1630 NW 19, Oklahoma City, OK 73106. DeadSee you there!
line is the 15th of each month.
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OKLAHOMA CITY
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1987 'Fall Peace 'Fest
LET'S DANCE ! ! !
If you have yet to attend a dynamic
evening of fun, dancing aAd wonderful
music, then WAIT NO LONGER!!!
(Teamsters Local
Rainbow Produetions will present another evening of great entertainment
Union 886)
on Friday, October 30th, from 9 pm - ?
at 600 NW 13th (13th and Dewey) at the
1st Unitarian Churcho You'll find a
3528 W. Reno, OKC
place to be with friends, meet new wimmin and have a relaxing evening dancing to some hot music or just sitting
back and taking it all in-- perhaps
Friday Evening, Nov. 13, 7:30- 9:30 PM
even some intimate conversations.
Music and Comedy by Okla. City's Finest. $5/person
It's Halloween time, so dress as
your favorite character! Prizes will
Saturday, Nov.14, 10 AM - SPM
be given for Most Original Costume,
Best Dressed Couple, Wild and Craziest
Festival to Celebrate and Nurture life on Earth
Outfit, Best Makeup Job and Most BizBooths and information Tables - Entertainment arre and Scary Costume.
Children's Activities - Workshops - Clowns - Foods Whatever your pleasure, October 30
Handicrafts - Drama - Jugglers - Dance - Balloons (Booth space still available for your group - call 524-5577)
wi 11 be the night to "come on out 11 and
have a good time at "the Dance~ Ask
Saturday, Nov. 14, 8PM-Midnight
womeone who's been there; or if they
haven't, bring them along with you for
"Give Peace A Dance" -$5/person
PSA a great night on the town. We'll be
Sponsored by the Benedictine Peace House and Unitarian Universalist Service
10 looking for you.
Committee. c~ntral Oklahoma Action Unit. For mor(' information: 524-5577
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Athletic Club at Memorial and Western.
Pool, Nautalis equipment, indoor tracks,
classes in aerobics, martial arts, scuba
diving; exercise rooms. $125 value - asking $85. For more information call Nancy
at 525-5691.
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A non-profit corporation composed of a
collective of wimmin - open to any womyn who
wants to be a part of it - which works to
maintain a feminist library and bookstore,
sponsors workshops, retreats, concerts and
other events for YOU. Herland 1 s reason for
being is to provide a framework for a variety
of projects for the support and enjoyment of
the area wimmin's community. It is a place
to learn and grow, to meet other wi mmin, develop lasting friendships, r eceive support
and nurture the pos itive self-image that societal attitudes sometimes make illusive to
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Now, moving to a safer building has become a necessity (see story page 1).
Please ••• your donation today ensures a
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