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Recognizing 8c Overcoming JEALOUSY 17
The CofEEE Ceeb
Lesbian Literature, Music, Movies & More 25
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What A Wortd, What A Wortd
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The News
From Around the Region, the Country & the World
TVS TIME ...
For The March On
Washington!
WASHINGTON,D.C.- The March on
Washington for Lesbian, Gay and Bi
registration information. March orga
nizers are encouraging all participants
to register. This will allow for better
event planning and coordination, as
well as giving March organizers a more
accurate count to provide to the media.
Equal Rights and Liberation happens
on Sunday,April 25th.The March plat
form is in the box on page 9.
There has been some controversy sur
Travel at 8(X)-872-7252. Accommoda
rounding the platform and theinclusion
ofitemslike aboiticm rightsand univer
tions can also be found through Wash
ington D.C. Accommodations
sal health care. The Federation of Log
Cabin Clubs,the national gay Republi
800-554-2220.
can organization has decided not to
allow it's chapters to participate in the
March because of the "non-gay" parts
of the agenda.
Events surrounding the March will in
clude:
•"Lobby Days" — office visits to rep
resentatives on April 22& 23 and 26&
27.
• Various dances, parties and shows
including a concert with Romanovsky
& Phillips, Margie Adam and Karen
Williams on Saturday, April 24th.
• "The Wedding," an interfaith cer
emony of commitment with Reverend
Troy Perry on the 24th.
•"The Texas2-Step Party"on the 24th
for Texans and friends.
More than cme million people are ex
pected to attend the March on Washing
ton.If you would like moreinformaiton
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up to and following it, please contact
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For travel and accommodations for the
March, contact Destination Tours in
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Back With Media
Campaign
WASHINGTON,D.C. - A new group
to fight anti-gay hate crusades has
formed and has kicked off its media
campaign with the premier of "Hate,
Lies and Videotape," a new tape that
exposes the propaganda tactics of the
religious Right.
The Gay and Lesbian Emergency Me
dia Campaign(GLEMC)announcedits
formation at a recent press conference
at the National Gay and Lesbian Task
Force offices in Washington, D.C.
GLEMC will produce and distribute
media that exposes the agenda of the
religious rights and promotes lesbian
and gay visibility. GLEMC is a project
of "Testing the Limits," an
award-winning filmmaking group based
in New York City.
March On Washington Hatfomi
1. We demand passage of a Lesbian, Gay and Bisexual, and Transgender civil rights bill and
an end to discrimination by state and federal governments including the military; repeal of all
sodomy laws and other laws that criminalize private sexual expression between consenting
adults.
2. We demand massive increase in funding for AIDS education, research, and patient care;
universal access to health care including alternative therapies; and an end to sexism in medical
research and health care.
3. We demand legislation to prevent discrimination against Lesbians, Gays, Bisexuals and
Transgendered people in areas of family diversity, custody, adoption and foster care and that
the definition of family includes the full diversity of all family structures.
4.We demand full and equal inclusionofLesbians,Gays,Bisexuals andTransgenderedpeople
in the educational system, and inclusion of Lesbian, Gay,Bisexual and Transgender studies
in multicultural curricula.
5. We demand the right to reproductive freedom and choice, to control our own bodies, and
an end to sexist discrimination.
6. We demand an end to racial and ethnic discrimination in all forms.
7. We demand an end to discrimination and violent oppression based on actual or perceived
sexual orientation/identification,race,religion,identity,sex and genderexpression,disability,
age, class, AIDS/HIV infection.
in New York City.
One of GLEMC's first projects was the
Carl Mundy Jr., Commandant of the
premiere of a new video,"Hate, Lies
and Videotape."The video,screened at
Joint Chiefs.
the press conference,vividly compares
"TheGay Agenda"—aslick,19-minute
documentary-style video that feeds on
lesbian and gay stereotypes — with
other hate propaganda such as the 1940
Nazi film,"The Eternal Jew."
Marines, had provided copies to the
"The Gay Agenda"includes sensation
alistimagesfrom gay pride eventstaken
outofcontextand combined with state
ments from "medical authorities" and
other pseudo-officials.The videoisone
ofthe major weapons in the Far Right's
declared "Holy War" against lesbians
GLEMC charged that Congressional
and gays.
and Pentagon resistance to lifting the
The video was produced by the Springs
of Life,a charismatic Christian church
ban against gays in the military is being
fueled by"The Gay Agenda."The"Vid
eotape of hate" has been distributed to
U.S. Senators, Representatives and to
the Joint Chiefs of Staff, and is being
shown in military establishments around
the country and abroad. Gay activists
were outraged to hear recently that Gen.
in Lancaster,California.It wasreleased
last October, with thousands of copies
delivered to Oregon and Colorado in
time for those states' anti-gay initia
tives. The tape is endorsed and pro
moted by Pat Robertson's Christian
Coalition, and is sold for $13.95 over
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Robertson's "700 Club" cable show.
GLEMC produced"Hate,Liesand Vid
eotape" to expose and counter the
fear-mongering tactics ofthe Far Right.
Copies of this tape were distributed to
the Joint Chiefs of Staff and the major
television networks, with more copies
slated for distribution to the U.S. Con
gress.
Bomb Threat Against
GIAAD Billboard
OAKLAND,CA - The Patrick Media
Group,an Oakland,CA based outdoor
advertising firm, was informed that a
bomb threat was received concerning a
public service billboard donated for the
Gayand Lesbian Alliance AgainstDefamation (GLAAD). According to Cass
under the billboard.The property owner
called the police.
Citing public safety concerns, Partick
Media made the decision to cover up
the billboard. This billboard, part of the
Billboard Project sponsored by
GLAAD/Los Angelesand GLAAD/San
Francisco Bay Area, was the last of a
twenty-two billboard campaign
throughout California. It depicts and
interracial lesbian couple,one of whom
is pregnant, with the tag "Another Tra
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The couple, San Francisco residents
and a family for more than nine years,
are now the proud parents of a six
month baby boy.
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What's Goia' Oa
A Monthly Usting Of Special Events All Around The Area
TEXAS - The fifth annual Texas Les
bian Conference(TLC)happens in at
the Stouffer Presidente Hotel in Hous
ton, May 21-23. Featured speakers in
clude: Phyllis Lyon and Del Martin,
Kristan Aspen. The two will be per
forming at the Mucky Duck (2425
Norfolk) on Thursday, April 8th at
8:30pm.Tickets are $5 at the door. For
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authors ofIxsbianAVoman and foiuid-
ing members ofthe Daughters ofBilitis
(the first lesbian organization,founded
ALL OVER - Interested in having chil
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in 1953);"Sexpert"Susie Bright;poet
formed for lesbian mothers and lesbi
and author Akasha (Gloria) Hull; and
Dr.Nancy Lee Josie, minister at MCC
Cathedral of Hope in Dallas. The film
"A Place of Rage" will be shown sev
ans who want children. The group is
called MOM AZONS and will provide
information on bearing,adopting,rais
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MOMAZONS promotes itselfas"Sup
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eral times.The film features June Jor
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recounting theirexperiences in the civil
rights movement Entertainment will
be provided by Denice Franke, Girls
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For registration information,call(713)
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P.O. Box 66748, Houston,TX 742666798. For hotel reservations, call the
Box 02069, Columbus, OH 43202 or
call(614)267-0193.
NEW ORLEANS - The 5th Annual
Gulf Coast Womyn's Music Festival
will be held April 7-11,30 miles north
of New Orleans. Performers include
Stouffer Presidente at l-8(X)-468-3571
Sisterbeat, Lynn Thomas,Pam Hall
and mention TLC.Room rates for par
and Sue Fink. Activities include
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"Gyrlfest" a program for 3-16 yearolds,"Health Fair "Womyn ofColor
Rates are good through May 7th,so call
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HOUSTON - Although women have
been composing classical music for
generations, it doesn't get much air
time on your favorite classical station.
To make up for it,you can catch Musica
Celebration,""Over 40s and friends,"
"Crafts-Womyn,"and more.For more
information call(601)896-3196.
DALLAS - Oak Lawn Community
Services offers an 8-week series for
Feniina,aconcert"informance"ofclas
sical women's music, with Flute/Gui
lesbian and gay men entitled "Rela
tionships in Recovery: How to Have
a Healthy Relationship." This series
tar Duo, Janna MacAuslan and
is held each Wednesday from 6-7:15pm.
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info.
South Plains AIDS Resource Center
DALLAS - The
Oak Lawn Arts
Festival will be
FREE, CONFIDENTIAL HIV TESTING
held from 12-6pm,
Sunday, May 23rd
David L. Grader
Executive Director
4204 B 50th Street
(806) 796-7068 Office
1-800-627-7079
Lubbock, Texas 79413
(806) 796-0920 FAX
on Cedar Springs
Road
between
Reagan
and
Throckmorton.
The festival is
The cost is $5 per individual and $10
per couple. It is held at OLCS, 3434
Fairmont. A Women's Generallssues
sponsored by Razzle Dazzle Dallas. If
you would like to have your art in
Group is held at OLCS on Tuesdays,
from 7-8:30pm. OLCS also offers an
cluded, you must have your apphcation
in by April 10. All arts media are wel
come. For application info, call(214)
Incest Survivors Series. For more
606-3236.
information on any of these programs,
call OLCS at(214) 520-8108.
If you have
LUBBOCK - If you can't attend the
March on Washington,be suretosend
your bandana! EUie's Garden is sell
ing pink,"March For Me Too",ban
danas so that you can send your mes
sage to the March. You purchase a
bandana, write your message on it and
information for the
"What's Goin' On"
column, please
send it to us!
Deadline for submissions is
the 20th of each month.
send it to the March where it will be
worn or carried by marchers from
West Texas. The
bandana will be
returned to you af
ter the March. All
proceeds will go
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Dear Agaes
Answers to your questions about love,
RELATIONSHIIPS & PERSONAL PROBLEMS
Dear Agnes,
My problem is a little unustial for your
column. It concerns my work.I work in
a large department store in the Houston
area. My boss is a woman, she knows
I'm gay and she doesn't have a problem
with it.
r m at a total loss.I can't go on like this,
but 1 know if I speak up I'll Just be
causing myself even more problems.
If you have any suggestions, I would
truly appreciate your help.
Harassed
Houston,TX
There are really two problems.The first
concerns the men that work in my de-
partmenL They also know I'm gay and
are constantly harassing me about it.
They make lewd comments and are
always asking me if lesbians have a
"secret" way of satisfying women that
they don't know about
I don't know what to do. 1 know that
their comments constitute sexual ha
rassment and that 1 could report them,
but that would only make me and them
even more miserable. My boss's boss
doesn'tknow anything about me(that 1
know of) and I'm afraid if I filed a
complaint it would go all over the com
pany and really cause problems.
I love my job and don't want to lose it,
butI am very uncomfortable with these
Dear Harassed,
Harassment is harassment is harass
ment.
You have two choices. You can either
blow the whistle on these guys or learn
to ignore their sly and nasty remarks.
Companies take sexual harassment
charges very seriously,but,as you have
already pointed out, it won't do a
damned thing for your career.
You might try talking to them on an
individual basis(no witnesses)and tell
ing them in no uncertain terms to cut the
crap. However, you should only take
this course of action if you know these
men well enough to be sure it won't
make things worse than they already
are.
men.
The second (related) problem is that I
recently saw one of the wives of the
men I work with at a women's bar. She
recognized me and wanted to talk to me
about her "blossoming lesbian sexual
awareness." I was flabbergasted. I had
no idea what to do. 1 don't want to be
This is a tough call, but if you Just can't
take it anymore, don't leave
empty-handed — get a lawyer.
As for the wife,if you see her in the bar
again, tell her politely that you do not
socialize with co-workersor their wives
and leave it at that
involved in any way with this woman.
1 know if she comes out and her hus
band finds out that she even saw me in
Dear Agnes,
My lover and 1 met two years ago at a
that setting, he would probably blame
Softball game for our daughters.I have
me for "corrupting" her. Then, once
again my Job would be at risk.
been out of the closet for almost 17
years, but she was Just coming out. 1
April '93• Dimensions • Page 15
was the first woman she ever slept with.
Dear Loss,
We've had a great relationship until
recently. It seems that she is getting
You can't make anyone love you or
stay with you.The only real option you
have is to let her go and wait for her
return. Just don't wait too long. You
can'tputyourlifeonhold for someone
who doesn't want you.
I'm sorry to be so blunt, but that's just
the way things are sometimes.
curious about sex with other women.
We have talked about this many times.
I even told her before we moved in
together that his would happen.
1 love her more than 1 can say and 1 don't
want to let her go,butshe is getting very
restless.
<S
1 don'tthink she's sleeping with anyone
else—yeL B utit's only a matter oftime
I'm sure.
Do you have any suggestions? 1 don't
want to lose her,but it seems the harder
Write To "Agnes"
WITH Your Problems At:
P.O. Box 856
1 try to hold on, the further away she
gets.
AT A LOSS
Lubbock, TX 79408
Austin,TX
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Recognizing & Overcoming
JEMDUSY
by D. Winkler, MS, PFC
I was out the other night at a local club
to have a good time, and although my
does your lover usually respond to lov
interest was to socialize, I could not
1 would think. Now,how do they usu
help but overhear a conversation that I
feel is important to this thing called
jealousy.
A young woman named Mary was tak
ing a break from dancing and fun when
I heard her tell a friend, "I'm having
such asuper time tonight.I can't waitto
get home and call Sue (her lover) and
ally actin response tojealous behavior?
In a loving way? I think not. Behavior
tell her how much fim I've had.She will
be so jealous!"
"Super!"I thought. Mary is going to try
and get Sue's goat. And how will Sue
feel and what will she more than likely
say? More than likely Sue will getupset
and let Mary know where she was that
evening andjust how much fun she had
without Mary.
The fighting will go on and on. The
relationship will get worse and worse.
Tomorrow they can go out again to
prove who can have the better time
without the other. Who wins in these
situations? Nobody!
There are many myths out there about
jealousy.It has been defended and even
glamorized. A large number of people
believe it shows how much they care
for the other person. They will even
say,"If 1 did not care so much for you,
1 would not get jealous." Think about
that statement for just a second. How
ing,caring behavior? In a positive way
that is the result ofjealousy is not lov
ing, so let's not put a good name on it
and say it is "showing how much you
care."
The jealous person will try and blame
their jealousy on their lover. They will
say that if she would just stc^/start
doing thisAhat, then they would not be
jealous.Thejealous person is claiming
that you are responsible for their jeal
ousy.Don't buy into this. Thejealousy
is their problem,don't make it yours.If
you do, stand by to have no outside
friends or activities. Actually, the per
son who feels irrationally jealous cre
ates their own feelings.
Mostofus believe in the A-C Theory of
emotions.
A - Activating event or experience
(something happens,or is about to hap
pen or we think it is or will happen).
C - Consequences(your emotions and
behavioral reaction).
Most of us are convinced that the "A"
causes the "C". My lover rejected me
(A) and that made me angry and de
pressed(C).
Dr. Albert Ellis, a noted psychologist,
April '93 • Dimensions • Page 17
Rational Thinking in counseling and
just displeases us, but last week when
the same thing took place, we were
has presented us with the A-B-C Theory
angry. While the results of physical
of emotions. The "B" stands for our
tratima cause a degree of pain for al
most all of us, this is not the case with
emotional trauma. For example, if 1
were to hit any five people over the
was the first to use the principles of
Belief system (your beliefs, thoughts,
attitudes, or expectations). In Rational
Thinking, we teach that"A" does not
cause "C". Our Belief (B) about the
event(A) causes our emotional reac
tion(Q.
say they would all have some pain. But
An activating event(A)can produce a
Not everyone gets upset or depressed
variety ofemotional consequences(Q,
when things happen.
We seem to be very good at justifying
ranging from pleasure to acute distress
or anger.However,the kind ofreaction
we have to any activating event(A)is
head with a hammer,it would be safe to
this is not so with emotional trauma.
why we act in the counterproductive
ways we do. As often as we do
dependent upon the way one views the
self-destructive things(sometimes the
situation—i.e.,their beliefsystem(B).
same ones over and over),onecould get
Dr. Ellis believes these principles are
based on the fact that we humans have
the unique capacity and ability to think
and reason. And because we have this
capacity,our feelings AreProduced Rv
Our TlUnloilg- While our background
and environment may well have been
(and may stiU be) negative, that does
notexplain why we continue to indulge
in self-destructive behavior. The A-B-
C Thewy does explain why and how.It
places the responsibihty for how we
feel squarely U^.
People express their "upsetness" in
many different ways. The loss of a
loved one (through divorce or death),
being rejected or being fired does not
alwaysaffecteveryonein thesame way.
Some arejustconcerned,dis^ipointed,
or sad, while others get hurt, mad or
depressed. There are a large number of
people who have experienced some of
theseevents,and the degree ofupsetness
ranges from mere concern to depres
sion, from calm displeasure to anger.
And this is not wily true from person to
the impression that we enjoy pain. But
this is not the case. We do work very
hard for the emotional pain,butthen we
blame our upsetness on everything and
everyone in the world except the one
person whois responsible-OURSELF.
So how do we cause our upsetness?
Let's use the situation with Mary and
Sue and present the sequence of jeal
ousy. Ask yourself if this is what takes
place in your life.
(1)Mary sees Sue talking with another
pCTSon and tells herself something like
this:"Ifthey are intimate,I'm probably
beingcompared;and I may not measure
up; and that would be terrible." How
does Mary feel? Anxious,ofcourse.
(2) Mary now tells herself something
like this:"She could leave meor embar
rass me and others may find out I'd
look stupid and lose someone I want to
keep.I would not be able to stand that."
Now how does Mary feel? Yes, even
more anxious than before.
person, it is true within each of us.
(3) Now Mary thinks something like
this: 'That lousy, no good bitch. She
shouldn't do this to me!" Now anger
Something can take place today that
has entered the picture.
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Mary may then decide thatall this proves
pid and lose someone I want to keep.
that she is an unlovable person, a fail
(5)I would not be able to stand losing
ure, and even get depressed. Or, Mary
Sue.
may get even by name calling or physi
(6)That lousy, no good bitch.
cal violence. Or, Mary could leave her
lover Sue so that her fragile integrity is
(7)She shouldn't do this to me.
maintained.
Where does Sue'stalking(having lunch,
dancing, drinking, or working) prove
Let's go back and take a very close look
at this sequence of events. I stated be
fore that people create their own jeal
ousy. It is not caused by what other
that Mary is being compared? Even if
she were, what proves she would not
measure up? Even if she were being
Just what was Sue doing in this situa
compared,and did not measure up,what
proves Sue will leave Mary? Sue could
tion? Talking with someone.Let's take
leave Mary even if all the above were
people do,or don't do,say or don't say.
it a little further and say that Sue was
not true.
dancing,drinking, having lunch,or at a
Further, where is the proof that even if
Sue left Mary she would then be stupid
party. Can these things cause Mary to
feel jealous? No way. She may end up
feeling jealous, but the events that are
taking place are not the cause of her
and unable to stand losing Sue. And
how does Sue's comparison of Mary
continued on paged 1
jealousy. So where does Mary get her
jealousfeelings?
From whatshe is
telling herself
about the events
that are taking
place (or may
takeplace).Let's
takeacloserlook
atwhatMary has
said:
(1) If they are
intimate, I'm
probably being
compared.
(2) 1 may not
measure up and
thatwouldbeterrible.
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On The Road To Washington
BY NANCY FORD
So.whatare you doing April25? Hope
fully, you'll be joining the millions of
gays, lesbians, bi's, straights, and
none-of-the-above's for the big March
on Washington.Organizers are describ
ing the event as the historic equivalent
to the 1963 civil rights march lead by
Dr. Martin Luther King. More than 1
million of us are expected to hit DC
Town, participating not only in the
march itself, but attending the various
conferences,lobbying efforts,and dem
onstrations. What a party.
"Passage of fedoal laws that would
protect gay people against housing and
job discrimination and lift the ban on
homosexuals in the military are the key
demands of the marchers," according
to a recent article in The Washington
Post Demands? 1 prefer to think of
them as Suggestions for Civilized Liv
ing. Outrageous, huh?
The good news is that the march is
ington Mall is off limits. Kind of el
evates the idea of Keeping Off The
Grass to a whole new level, doesn't it?
So be sure to step around the new seed
lings, not on them, as we protest the
inequities, violence and hatred that has
oppressed us for generations.
To make your trip as uncomplicated as
possible,I've pulled together a few tips
thatr ve acquired through years of hard
on-the-road experience. Clip them and
sew them into your underwear.
T Pack sensibly. Unless you are preg
nant or a female impersonator, try to
remember that you need only pack for
one.
TTraveling is always exciting,whether
it be via plane, automobile, ship, little
seat in the grocery store shopping cart,
whatever. I do,however,draw the line
Union ofAmerican Hebrew Congrega
at buses. Not metropolitan-masstransit-get-you-from-one-block-tothe-next buses — I'm talking about the
buses on which you and your jostled
kidneys travel cross-country,sharing a
tions,the Evangelical Luth^an Church
set with a scarved person of unknown
being endorsed not just by us crazy
queers,butalso by the National Organi
zation for Women, the NAACP, the
in America and the United Church of
origin (species, not geography) who is
Christ. The bad news is the National
often toting pieces of luggage bearing
Park Service anticipates there will not
be enough room in the federal down
the sticker,"honk if you love cheese." 1
can only assume that my aversion to
this kind oftransportation resulted from
my mother having been frightened by a
town parksfor the hoardsofdemonstra
tors, because the just-reseeded Wash
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greyhound while pregnant with me. If
traveling by bus is your only alterna
tive, consider mastering the ancient
meditative practice of lowering your
heart and breathing rate to a state of
near-death. Like I always say,the best
bus trip is an unconscious bus trip.
T Three words to remember when vis
iting public restrooms: Hover, hover,
hover.
T If ever there was a time that the
words "lesbian" and "sensible shoes"
should be used in the same breath,it is
now. Whether you're a Nike Dyke,
Boot Scooter or a Pappagallo Princess,
remember that you will be on your feet
for long,long periods of time without
benefit of bar or dance partner to lean
on. WEAR SENSIBLE SHOES. You
can't fight for equal rights with a blis
ter, sister.
T If driving,there's nothing more dan
gerous than battling highway fatigue
unless it's trying to fold a road map.
Remember to schedule frequent stops.
One ofthe mostentertaining ways to do
this is to follow one of those gay/les
bian travel atlases which point the way
to "friendlier neighborhoods." These
breaks not only afford the traveller a
little roadside rest, but you might even
meet a politically like-minded new
friend to tag along and share the driv
ing. Maybe too, your car radio will
blow out, forcing the two of you into
hour after hourofincreasingly intimate
conversation.Maybe,even further,in a
burst of cosmic spmitaneity your eyes
will meet at the mass wedding to be
conducted on the steps of the CapitoL
Suddenly youfind yourselvesexchang
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loveand devotion.Or maybe you should
simply buy a box of No-Doze and just
go for it
T There will be lots ofcameras,lots of
press,lots of media. The whole wwld
will be watching our questfw equality
and protecticMi. Please remember that
almost no one looks good in plaid.
T If carrying banners or placards bearconvictions and
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Lesbians In The Arts • Books, Music, Movies, Etc.
This Month, Tas-ia Summer Introduces:
Bastard Out
Of Carolina
by Dorothy Allison
Dorothy Allison, author of Trash, a
collecticm ofshort stories for which she
won two Lambda Literary Awards in
1989 has just written her first novel.
Bastard Out Of CaroUna was a 1992
National Book Award finalist.
his family position, and his jealousy of
the love Anney has for Bone,lead him
to physically and sexually abuse Bone.
Surrounding the story of abuse are the
membersofBone'sextended family—
uncles who drink,fight and work hard,
The story is narrated by "certified bas
tard,"Ruth Anne Boatwright,known as
aunts who are old before their time, and
Bone to her odd assortment of fnends
and never keeps her opinion to herself.
a gritty grandmother who dips snuff
and relatives. Bone's birth certificate
Allison has strung together a series of
has "ILLEGITIMATE" stamped in
large red letters across the bottom.
Bone's mother, Anney,returns to City
Hall once a year to try,withoutsuccess,
to get the word removed from the cer
family stories and made them into a
novel. As a result, the book tends to
wander at times,but instead of leading
you away from the main story, her
wandering only intensifies the effect.
tificate.
Allison says,"1 hate most of the books
Bone's step-father. Daddy Glen, is the
ne'er-do-well, youngest son of a pros
perous family. His insecurities about
on incest — the whole literature of
victimology — hate most of all that so
much of it is pseudo-pom,that it trades
April '93 • Dimensiorrs •Page 25
on this culture's eroticization of child
abuse ... I did not want to give more
than a bare sketch of what Daddy Glen
does to Bone,and in every case I wanted
of a local bookstore put it,"This is not
a "feel good" kind of book, but it is
definitely one everyone should read."
Allison ranks right up there with Alice
it to be presented from her point of
Walker and Tennessee Williams and
view,not his or anyone else's. I wanted
ahead of Fanny Flagg. This is a novel
that doesn't fit comfortably into any
genre. It simply falls into the category
not simply to empower Bone, but to
vindicate her, to make her real in the
world, forever altered by her experi
ence of abuse, but not defined by it."
This is the only area where Allison sets
of"great literature."
her gritty realism aside — we know
what happens without having to be told
in explicit detail.I appreciate the sensi
tivity for myself as well as for victims
available at bookstores nationwide(in
cluding women's bookstores and major
Bastard Out Of Carolina is published
by Plume Contemporary Fiction and is
chains) and has been selected for the
Quality Paperback Book Club.
of such abuse.
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On writing the book, Allison states,
"There are many books a writer can
choose to write,only one ortwoa writer
has to write. Bastard Out Of Carolina is
the book I had to write.Itis nota lesbian
coming-of-age story, not a charming
portrait ofgrowing up poor in the South
of the fifties and sixties. Rather it is a
frankly harrowing account of family
violence and incest"
Allison's work is powerful. Her char
acters are mUdly eccentric with a hard
for the lesbian, gay and
edge of realism. She manages to make
feminist communities.
Books, music and more
the reader feel sympathy for the charac
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and failures.
Her descriptive powers are alsoimpres
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From the dusty,treeless yards ofdownand-out housing developments to the
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make you feel you are there. You can
smell the stale beer, see the polluted
river moving by and feel the gristle in
the chicken-fried steak between your
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with the other woman and departure
from the relationship make Sue a no
plain. If you don't think much of your
self, you are not going to believe you
good bitch? In fact, Mary has no proof
that any of this is taking place. If Mary
were nottelling herselfthese lies, would
she feeljealous? Nota chance.So where
does Mary'sjealousy come from? From
what she is telling herself. Who is the
cause of her jealousy? She is.
Ifyou have a problem with jealousy and
are worth much either. And you sure are
don't want to continue to feel jealous,
then begin to challenge the things you
tell yourself. Lx)ok for what proves you
are a less worthy person because of
another's action. Would life be terrible
if you were to be unfavorably com
pared? Stop whining about how things
should be because you don't like the
way things actually are. Why should
things be the way you think they should
be. What proof is there that you are
unlovable or will never find love again
just because your lover may (or has)
decided to be with someone else? Face
it, the only way you will ever know if
you are completely unlovable is to try
repeatedly with everyone else. Only
then can you support your conclusion
that you will never find love again.
The problem with the jealous person is
not that they distrust their partner, but
that they distrust themselves. I'll ex
not going to believe you have holding
power over your lover. If another per
son talks (dances, eats, works, associ
ates) with your partner, you will imme
diately think that you don'thave enough
appeal to win over the other person. In
other words,you won't trust yourselfto
beat out what you see as the competi
tion. You will believe every other per
son can snatch her away from you.
Because ofthisfeeling ofnotbeing able
to win over others, you become smoth
ering, controlling, demanding, restric
tive and very possessive, all of which
drive away the very person you desire
most. START CHALLENGING
YOURSELF TALK.
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San Antonio, TX. His book. Stop
Pretending and Start Practicing, a
guide to achieving the kind of rela
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Are ycu Capable
cf tiaving
An
Some ofus arejustfaithful by nature—
others have to work at it Would you
have an affair if the opportunity pre
3. Alone on a business trip, you spend
sented itself? Answer the questions
prospects.
below to find out Remember this is a
current status of your love life. Even if
b. trying to drum up business in the
hotel lounge.
c.alone in your room with a good book
the score indicates that you are prone to
and CNN.
personality quiz,not an indicator ofthe
your evenings:
a. at the local nightspot scouting the
have an affair doesn't mean you can't
control yourself. We aren't giving you
pomission tofool around and we aren't
4. When an ex-lover calls you up after
a long period of silence, you:
trying to run your girlfriend off. Now
a.ask to meet her for dinner and drinks.
that we've got the disclaimer out of the
way — on with the quiz!
current flame.
b. tell her how happy you are with your
c. ask her not to call again.
I When the cute new bartender starts
flirting with your honey, you:
5.When your love life gets boring, you
a. make a move on the woman at the
and your lover:
a. take separate vacations.
next table over.
b. grab your lover's arm and lead her
from the bar.
b. head to the bar for a night out.
c. hit the lingerie section of your favor
c. go and dance with a friend.
ite store.
2. Long distance relationships are:
6. Do you agree or disagree with the
a. great — more freedom for you.
b. all right if it's absolutely necessary.
c. the pits.
following statements?
a. A meaningless night of sex never
hurt anybody.
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b. Too much togetherness breeds bore
dom.
c. Lesbians don't have sex after two
years in a relationship.
d. Women don't like sex as much as
men.
scmne
Give yourself points as follows:
Questions 1 thru 5:
6 points for every "a" answer.
4 points for every "b" answer.
2 points for every "c" answer.
42-^4 peints
Is all this hiding and sneaking around
really fun for you? Maybe so,but hope
fully you have an "open" relationship
that can stand up to your philandering
ways. If it's a constant struggle to be
faithful, maybe you shouldn't be in a
full-time relationship.Try tothink about
how your partner would feel if she
found out about your extra-curricular
activities. Is that really the way to treat
someone you love?
<S
Question 6:
6 points for every "agree"
2 points for every "disagree"
II you Scored:
18-29 points
You probably won't besneaking outfor
an affair anytime soon. You are very
committed to your relationship and
probably wouldn't even give in if Ma
donna knocked on your door. Although
you are faithful, your single-minded
devotion can lead to trouble if you don't
leave your lover room to breath. And
you may have tend to keep to yourself
and not make new friends—lighten up
— you can trust yourself,can't you?
30-41 pcints
You have the perfect balance.Youknow
you don't have to lock yourself away
every time your lover is out of town.
You know how to enjoy yourself and
how to set limits. You are comfortable
enough to flirt without letting it go too
far. You are faithful without being bor
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Amorous Eyes
What speak, your wayward eyes, when meet
they falter brief, but flee too sweet
to discard, or not but wonder?
How measure, then, a smile so faint
direct intent, or social grace
sadness, depth, or private place?
How feel a body's stance, so near
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P:-;
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Center
Horoscope
What's in the stars for you this month?
ARIES
Don't let impatience get in the way of your
goals during the first part of April. After the
16th your charisma could attract people
who can greatly enhance your career. But
don't take your work home with you or you
could upset your lover. After the 23rd you
may react unreasonably to a difference of
opinion at home. Take time out to think
before you get emotional, otherwise you'll
just be running on nervous energy.
TAURUS
You'll have to work hard during the first
part of April or you won't have time to play
later!Be sure and budget wellso you'll have
some "mad money" toward mid-month.
After the 16th your financial picture islook
ing up because ofsome long-distance news.
Keep a low profile and keep your attention
focused on work.It may be hard to do, but
it win pay off in the long run. Travel could
be on the agenda toward month's end.
GEMDia
You may have to postpone social plans due
to financial considerations during the first
part of April. After the 18th you'll have to
get down to work to get your career back on
track. A loved one wiU be willing to help
you out if you'U ask. Toward month's end
you may uncover a secret someone has been
keeping from you - let some time pass
before you confront them, you'll be much
better able to come up with a solution.
16th. Be careful. Your emotions have a
tendency to run away with you right now.
You get back on track at work toward
month's end. Catch up on bills and rework
your budget to keep up with your changing
situation.
lEO
Don't let a change of plans upset you dtiring
the first part of April.The change will work
to your advantage in the long nm. A rela
tionship you thought was perfect may turn
out to have some major flaws after the 18th.
Consider your situation carefully before you
decide what to do. A party or social occa
sion toward mont's end will present you
with the opportunity to show your best side
to the boss.
VIRGO
Take your time making any financial deci
sions during the first part of April.Someone
may be trying to sell you a bill of goods.
After the 14th a change in the guard at work
could give you the opportunity to move up
the ladder,but you'11 have to be on yottr toes
to make sure you get what you want. To
ward month's end you may be feeling the
effects of"Spring Fever"but you'll have to
buckle down and work hard if you want to
get out and play.
UBRA
A loved one may not be retummg your
affection during the first part of April. Give
it time — she'll come around. Emotions
CAACER
may be running high on the job after the
You may have some difficulties at work
during the first part of April. A co-worker
could be trying to put the blame for his/her
mistake on you. Stick to your gtms. A spe
cial person may appear on the scene after the
13th.Stand up foryourself andyourpointof
view. Avoiding making major decisions
toward month's end. Anything involving
lawyers or contracts on the 28th and 29th
can only cause problems down the road.
April '93 • Dimensions • Page 31
You may be feeling the urge to escape all
with a co-worker or family member toward
month's end.Try to focus on the end results
responsibility during the first part of April,
as opposed the means used to reach them.
SCORPIO
but you'll have to knuckle down and get to
work.A look at your bank balance might get
you going. After the 15th you could miss out
on a great career opportunity if you insist on
taking your love life frustrations out on co-
workers. Your parmer could be angry with
you for spending so much time away from
home tow ard month's end.A weekend away
will patch things up just fine.
SAorrciiRnjs
Social plans could be changed because of
financial problems during the first part of
April. Hard work for the rest of the month
will help you catch up. An ongoing casual
PIJSCESJ
Be generous with your advice during the
first part of April,but hold on to your money
or you'll lose it. A wonderful woman could
be on her way into your life after the 16th.
Don't get so carried away that you neglect
your responsibilities. Toward month's end
you'll be ready to relax after a roundof work
and social engagements. A weekend get
away may be just the ticket to help improve
your mood.
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relationship could suddenly turn seriotis after
the 16th. A little vacation with this new love
could bejust whatthe doctorordered to cure
your restlessness. You'll have to get back
down to business toward month's end when
yotir work load increases.
CAPRICORIV
Step back and take an honest look at a
troubling situation dtiring the first part of
April. Stay calm and don't make any deci
sions imtil after the 8th.Things settle down
after the 17th when you are can getaway for
a weekend. An ongoing relationship is do
ing great, but your friends can't seem to get
it together.Stay outofit and letthem handle
their own problems.Creativity is on the rise
and it wiU put you in center stage toward
month's end.
AQUARIUS
Don't get overly anxious to start a new
project during the first part of April. Unexjtected delays and odd circumstances can
disrupt your plans. After the 13th domestic
problems could make you miss a fun social
engagement.Getoutofthe house for awhile
to relieve your boredom. Keep your opin
ions to yourself when discussing a problem
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Catriedral of Hope MCC - 5910 Cedar Springs Rd.- 351-1901
Sister Source CooperalVe& Lesbian Resource Line
CorminiTy Criuroh & Cdiege of Divine Metaphysics
144 Harvard SE•268-2116
4001 IJve0ak#401 -826-7110.Exi 401
AIDS ResourceCentef -P.O.Box 19071275219
Asians & Friends•PO Box 914275209-392-3339
Congregation Beth El BInah
AMARILLO,TX (area code 806)
organizations
P.O. Bo* 64460 752206-497-1591
LesbiaiVGayAllance-POBox9361 79105- 35&4219
P.O.Box 19071275219 - 821-1653
MCC 0)Afnartb•PO Box 1276•372-4557
300 Turtle Creek Pbza#116•307-7203
Dates Gay Altence - P.O. Bo* 190712 75219•5280144
Dates Gay/lesbian Historic AtohMes
Dates Gay Youth Group
Dates Outdoors• P.O.Box 35474 75235•276-5270
Dates Tavern Guid•3900 Lemrran Ave.#220 - 526-5292
ARLINGTON,TX (area code 817)
organizations
Gay/Leebian Assodation of UTA
P.O. Box 19348-77,LTTA St 78019•794-5140
Dignlty/Oates•PO Box 19013375219-2254101
Founddion for HurrBn Understandrng ■ 5254233
GLAADOafee-P.O. Box 190712 75219-SS&OLAD
Grace FelcMsh^ In Christ Jeeus
27270akLawn 75219-528-2811
Leebian Informakxi Una(UL)
P.O. Box 191443 75219•528-2426
AUSTM,TX (area code 512)
LeebiarVG^ Poilbcaj CoaNon
dubs
P.O. Box 224424 75222-829-9882
Nexus*306W.5«h •472-«8e
organizations
Affltrnatlon (MeOxxllst)•7403 Shoal OeeK* 451-2329
Leebian Resource Center -1315 SMee - 821-3999
Leebian Visionaries-P.O. Box 191443 75219-5284087
Metioptex Republcans
P.O.Box 191033 75219 - 941-8114
Oak Lawn Corrmjr^ Services
Austti Ladnoi'a LeaUanTGay Organizalicn
P.O.Box 191094 7S219>52&8108
P.O. Box 1360 78787•2006107
Oak Lawn Syrrphoric Band
Austin LeebianA^ Poltical CaLxxB
P.O. Box 190973 75219-906-1751
P.O. Box 822 78767•462-9888
PFLAGOaias-55&«640
Center Icr Bdteied Women• (Leebian Group)
385-5181 or 3289070(hodne)
Irrperiai ScMereign Royal Court of Dates
P.O.Box 45662 75245•904-9520
Gay/Leebian Studert Assodatbn st UT Austin
SDAKtesNp-POBox38454 75238-707-1791
4583071 *80X275X6X36 Union 78712-7338
WANT(Women In The Arts)288-92^823-3105
LeebtenTG^ Rights Lobby *601 W. lath St * 474-5475
Leebian Mothers - Karen * 3388508
Lire Wre Productions * PO Box 14120278714
Wcmyn Together - 3S20 Cedar Springs-5284233
MetropoHan Corttnunlly Church
1100 Spilngdale Rd.* 9283680
Oasis Minlstiy * 5566 N. Lamar Blvd.4L101 *4419191
DENTON, TX (area code 817)
P-Flag (ParentsiPiiende LeebUns/Qays)* 3289830
Sapphflrel * Leebian Social Group
Meeting Addrees * 1700S Lamar
Mating Addrses* 201 W.Staeaney,Ste.*321 787459156
Alhenafx Atfc- books, jeveky. art etc.
Waedoo Counseiing Canter
507 Powel 78703* 3229654
Texae Human Highls Foundation
P.O. Box 49740 78765 * 479-8473
ADS Legal Assistance 1-8088286417
businesses
106 N.Austin SL *5659755
organizations
COURAGE.Leebian Gay Studert Org.
P.O.Box 5067 762D3• 382-3813
Harveet Melrapollan Cormrunlty Church
seooSouthStemmons 76205* 1-8064S7-HMCC
The Treehouse(Leebian Mothers Support Group)
607Nuec86SL 78701 *477-5822
DALLAS,TX (area code 214)
FT.WORTH(*ea code 817)
oiganizatfons
Agape MCC *4615 SE Loop 820* 535-50(32
businesses
Afflrmalkxi(Methodist)* 4757837
Advanced Boctrolysis * 3209 Premier Dr.#124
RESPECT - Gay/Leebian Asscddion
Piano, TX 75075* 424-7147
828 Hardiivood Rd.• HursL TX 76054
Bushees OelVBty SystefTB
Tarrant County Lesbian/Gay Allarx»
14902 Preston Rd. 75240 * 7381108
3327 Wnthrop,Suite 24376116 * 7B55544
Croesfoads Market * 3930 Cedar Springs•521-8919
dubs
Sue EBerTs•3903Cedar Springs•559-07Cf7
HOUSTON,TX (area code 713)
businesses
AdavnaceDamron Travel
organizations
Houston 682-2002• Statewide 800292-0500
Alfirmattion'PO Box 225831 75222- 948-1546
Croesroads Market•610 W. Alabante * 942-0147
April '93• Dimensions • Page 33
Inklings Bookshop•1846 Rchmond•521-3369
NalionaJ Gay/Lesbian Task Force
Kahy Hubban)• Incoms Tax Service •522-9000
Unique Boutique• 1631 W.Alabama•526-5266
1517 U Street NW
Viage Wctnerts Clinic • 5925 Kirby. Ste. 201 • 528-6161
Clubs
Ranch•921 a Buttalo Spdwy.•666-3464
Ms. B's •9206 Buffalo Spdwy.•666-3356
XTC ■ 9212 Buffalo Spdwy.•666-3356
organizations
AIDS Foundation •3927 Essex Lane•623-6796
AIDS HOTLME •c/o Swilchboad• 529-3211
Washington D.C. 20009• 202-332-6483
Parents & Friends of Lesbians and Gays (P-FIag)
1-800-4-FAMILY
The Fund lor Human Dignity
666 Broadway 4lh Floor- NY. NY 10012
NORMAN,OK (area code 405)
organizations
Women's Resource Center
P.O. Box 5089 73070
Gay/Lesbian Students University o( Houston
4800 Calhoun-529-3211
GayAesbianSwitchboart-PO Box 66591 77266 - 529-3211
Houston Gay & Lesbian Parents Group•6668256
Houston Gay PoHical Caucus
P.O. Box 66664 77266 - 521-1000
Integrity - worship & lelowship lor Episcopalans &friends
OKLAHOMA CITY, OK
(area code 405)
organizations
P.O.box 66008 772668008 - 432-0414
Oasis the Community Center
Kingdom Community Churdi - 614 E. 19lh - 862-7533
2135 NW 39th 73112• 525-AlDS
Herland Sister Resources. Inc.
Lantida ALANCN - Lantxia Center for Aichohofics
2312 NW 39th 73112• 521-9696
1214Joarne-521-9772
Lesbian/tSay Students-Univ. l-louston Clear Late
2700BayArea 77058
SAN ANTONIO,TX (area code 210)
Lesbian Teaclieis fvlelwcrk(LTN)
clubs
10222 Hammerfy, Box 88 77043 - 9398329
Nexus San Antonio •8021 Plnebrook • 341-2818
Me<jbpciian Cormiunity rCfiurch Of Tlie Resurrection
l9l9Decdur-a618148
organizations
Dignity/San Antonio •202 N. St. Mary's ■ 349-3632
integrfty/San Antonio
lAortrose Counseing Center
900 Lovelt #203 77006- 529-0037
PO Box 150006 78212 • 684-4920
Mortrose Pool Le^uerBiiards - PJ 863-8482
PWA Coaldon - Houston -1475 W.Gray#163 - 522-5428
River City Living MetropolKan Community Church
SORA (Sex or Relalionships Addlds Anonymous)
202HollarxJ 78212 -822-1121
support group for lesbians - 6668256 or 5291827
WomynspacB - P.O. Box 980601 770988601
Lambda Students Center -1140 W. Woodlawn Ave.
Woments Soltbal League - 6431 Pinesharle - 8668256
LISA (Lesbian Information SA)• 828-LISA (5472)
SALGA • San Antonio Lesbian/Gay Asserrtly • 733-7300
SALSA - San Antonio Lambda Students Alliance
PO Box 12715 78212-SALSA Line 733-1225
LUBBOCK,TX (area code 806)
San Antonio AIDS Foundation
businesses
San Antonio Tavern Guild - 822-2823
PO Box 120113 78212-9313
Ella's Garden - 2812 34th St-7960880
organizations
Lubbock LesbiarvGay AJiance & WM WiUe West Prod.
P.O. Box 64746 79464•791-4499
Corrmjnity Outreach Center & Outreach AA
&Thurs.
@0pm) • 102 N. Ave.S• 762-1019
South Plains AIDS Resource Center(SPARC)
4204-B 50th SL 79413• 1-809627-7079•796-7068
NATIONAL ORGANIZATIONS
Aflirmaiion: Linked Methodists for LesbianGay Concerns
PO Bck 1021 • Evanstoa IL 6Q2D4
AIDS Action Council•729 Eighth SL S.E. Suite 200
Washington. DC 20003'(202) 547-3101
AIDS 800 • 1-800-221-7044
Conference For Catholic Lesbians
PO Box 436, Planetarium Station • New York, NY 10024
GLAAD/USA • 80 Varick St. #3E • NY. NY 10013
Halo Crime Line • 1-800-347-HATE
Gay & Lesbian Parents Coalition International (GLPCI)
PO Box 50360. Washington. DC 20091 •(202) 583-8029
Lesbian Teachers Netwrok(LTN)
PO Box 638 • Solon, lA 52333
Natlonal Gay Alliance for Young Adults. Inc.
PO Box 190426 • Dallas, TX 75219 •(214) 307-7203
National Gay/l.esbian Clearinghouse
666 Broadway 4th Floor • NY. NY 10012
National Gay/Lesbian Crisisline
1-809SOS-GAYS
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A FE9fi]!iiiiST Perspective
By Laurie Eiserloh, Executive Director of the Lesbian/Gay Rights Lobby
One of the most important bills for the lesbian community that was filed during this session of the
Texas Legislature is State Representative Debra Danburg's HB 1775 that deals with the issue of
child custody.Currently,courts mustalways determine whatis in the best interestofthe child when
determining issues of custody.In considering the qualifications of each parent,the courts may not
take the sex of the parent into consideration. But, courts can, and often do, take the sexual
orientation of the parent into consideration. Representative Danburg's HB 1775 would put a stop
to this practice.
Another important biU is the same-sex marriage biU, HB 615, co-sponsored by Representative
Glen Maxey and Representative Debra Danburg.This legislation is important because it would
allow persons of the same sex to be legally married. Although many feminists are highly opposed
to the concept of marriage,the same sex marriage bill is very educational and has broadened the
scope of the discussion at the state capitol concerning lesbian and gay rights. Some of you may
have seen LGRL's Valentine's Day jjress conference concerning lesbian and gay marriage. At the
press conference, Dana DeBeauvoir,the Travis County Clerk,spoke in favor of lesbian and gay
marriages. Undeniably, a marriage certificate is a powerful legal instrument that allows married
individuals to share benefits such as health insurance, death benefits, car insurance, etc. It is
blatantly discriminatory to disallow lesbian and gay people these rights.
Both the child custody bill and the same sex mamage bill will be heard in the Judicial Affairs
Committee.Please call the committee at(512)463-0790 and tell them you support these bills. A
simple phone callin enough. Ask to speak to Patrick if possible.Leave a message on the answering
machine if necessary.
Another important bill for our community is the lesbian/gay civil rights bill, HB 1915.If this bill
passes,it would disallow discrimination against lesbian and gay pieople in housing, employment
and public accommodation.Currently the bill has thirty co-sponsors,but was originally sjxinsored
by Representative Maxey.The bill will be heard by the State Affairs Committee.You may contact
that committee at(512)463-0814.
Finally, the most important issue for our community is the repeal of section 21.06 of the Texas
Penal Code—thestate'santi-homosexualconductstatute.ThebillwhichwiU repealsection 21.06
is HB 652. Although individuals are rarely prosecuted under this statute, 21.06 is often used to
daiy lesbian and gay people jobs, education and insurance. There is a court repeal of 21.06
sponsored by the Texas Human Rights Foundation and a legislative repeal of21.06 sponsored by
the Lesbian^ay Rights Lobby ofTexas.Please contact the Criminal Jurisprudence Committee at
(512)463-0768 and teU them that you support HB 652,the repeal of section 21.06.The members
of this committee are; Allen Place, Will Hartnett, Ray AUen, Susan Combs, Eddie De La Garza,
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